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ragnar_114/r/askMRP08/06/20 07:39 AM
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OYS27 (previous) Me: mid-30s, height 6', weight 185 lbs, 13% bf STBXW: early-30s, married 3 years, together 8, no kids, divorcing Lifts: DL 360, SQ 325, BN 240 Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2, TRMx2, TWOTSMx2, 3%MANx2, MMSLP, MAP, POON, POOK, SGM, BLS, 48LOP, 12 Rules for Life, Manipulated Man, Tactical Guide to Women, Predatory Female, Way of Men, Meditations Purpose: 1) To take care of myself mentally, physically, spiritually 2) Find meaning in my life through developing competency, responsibility, a…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/22 03:14 AM
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What I mean by "status" is more like... fame in a way. It's the social proof, life style, whatever. And it isn't that most celebrities don't also earn money. And the money I suppose can be used to support an exciting lifestyle and such. But money/being a high earner in and of itself never, ever made a pussy wet. I have found this to be true too, money only gets you so far but if your lifestyle isn't interesting then it doesn't matter too much.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 02:58 AM
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Yeah I mostly agree with this. I actively try to avoid talking or bragging about it and even leave it intentionally vague. It's great when my friends end up telling the girl, usually ends up going well. Or if she presses me on it and I end up talking about it. In two recent cases: 1) The girl wasn't really asking about my job, she was already into me, and eventually I told her, it went well. 2) Another girl, was one of the first questions asked which I didn't really like. I kept it vague even wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 02:56 AM
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I think it's a bit of all the above. I do want the girl to like me without the status. I also have some shame associated with it partly because with certain people, it makes them uncomfortable and they react in an insecure way -I end up feeling guilty that I am better than them in this one specific area. E.g. if I ask what school you went to and then I tell you I went to Harvard. I should probably give less fucks but also I need to try to calibrate my conversations a bit more based on the situat…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 02:47 AM
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OYS26 (previous) Me: mid-30s, height 6', weight 185 lbs, 13% bf STBXW: early-30s, married 3 years, together 8, no kids, divorcing Lifts: (3RM lbs) DL 350, SQ 315, BN 235 Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2, TRMx2, TWOTSMx2, 3%MANx2, MMSLP, MAP, POON, POOK, SGM, BLS, 48LOP, 12 Rules for Life, Manipulated Man, Tactical Guide to Women, Predatory Female, Way of Men, Meditations Purpose: 1) To take care of myself mentally, physically, spiritually 2) Find meaning in my life through developing competency, respons…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/22 05:10 AM
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vet carefully Continuous vetting along with boundary enforcement is more effective.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 01:41 AM
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Sounds like you need to get your dick wet mate. Yeah that will usually do the trick. Not sure why I am holding myself back from potential opportunities but will keep going at it.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 01:36 AM
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OYS25 (previous) Me: mid-30s, height 6', weight 185 lbs, 13% bf STBXW: early-30s, married 3 years, together 8, no kids, divorcing Lifts: (3RM lbs) DL 335, SQ 310, BN 235 Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2, TRMx2, TWOTSMx2, 3%MANx2, MMSLP, MAP, POON, POOK, SGM, BLS, 48LOP, 12 Rules for Life, Manipulated Man, Tactical Guide to Women, Predatory Female, Way of Men, Meditations. Purpose: 1) To take care of myself mentally, physically, spiritually 2) Find meaning in my life through developing competency, respon…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/22 04:24 AM
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How to Win Friends, How to talk to Anyone, a bunch of sales books and stuff like that really helped. Since I found MRP, the best book on basic communication that helped me, was Models by Mark Manson (he also wrote, the Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, another really good one). Good points, I've read some of these books before, will need to do a refresh and try applying it more.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/22 04:33 PM
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Yeah got a lot to work on but it's a start. The managing up part is important, climbing that ladder, I've seen some guys in my network do it really well.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/22 04:32 PM
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use advanced techniques to hint at threesomes. It hasn't worked for me with my ex wife (long story) She probably didn't get the hint.
/r/askMRP11/03/22 02:12 AM
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She's partly interested in you and she's partly trying to sabotage your marriage. Don't let it tempt you too much though, it would just unnecessarily complicate your life. I would suggest you ignore and just play dumb. Don't even bring it up to your wife, it'll make things awkward and she'll just plausibly deny anyways, maybe even accuse you of hitting on her.
/r/askMRP11/03/22 02:05 AM
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OYS24 (previous) Me: mid-30s, height 6', weight 185 lbs, 13% bf STBXW: early-30s, married 3 years, together 8, no kids, divorcing Lifts: (3RM lbs) DL 325, SQ 300, BN 235 Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2, TRMx2, TWOTSMx2, 3%MANx2, MMSLP, MAP, POON, POOK, SGM, BLS, 48LOP, 12 Rules for Life, Manipulated Man, Tactical Guide to Women, Predatory Female, Way of Men, Meditations. Purpose: 1) To take care of myself mentally, physically, spiritually 2) Find meaning in my life through developing competency, respon…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/22 05:13 AM
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"healthy environment" for children doesn't mean cohabiting parents Fully agree, however, a lot of data indicates that children tend to do better in stable two parent households. Look at proto worm I'll take a look, perhaps there's some good insights for me there.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/22 05:01 PM
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So for now, fuck sex. It might not be the most important thing but it's still important, especially if you're not getting it. It's sounds like you're butthurt.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/22 04:48 AM
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I wonder what it is you want out of your woman life. Short term is sex, long term is children and healthy environment for them. It's all the stuff in-between that's tricky.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/22 04:41 AM
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OYS23 (previous) Me: mid-30s, height 6', weight 180 lbs, 13% bf STBXW: early-30s, married 3 years, together 8, no kids, divorcing Lifts: (3RM lbs) DL 325, SQ 300, BN 235 Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2, TRMx2, TWOTSMx2, 3%MANx2, MMSLP, MAP, POON, POOK, SGM, BLS, 48LOP, 12 Rules for Life, Manipulated Man, Tactical Guide to Women, Predatory Female, Way of Men, Meditations. Purpose: 1) To take care of myself mentally, physically, spiritually 2) Find meaning in my life through developing competency, respon…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 05:22 AM
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Yeah you might have, thanks for linking again. RP goals What do you mean by this? Is it your personal goals or general RP goals?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/22 04:10 PM
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I was rejected, and a few boundaries were broken Don't conflate rejection with broken boundaries. The result is butthurt.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/22 03:19 PM
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Good points, "using RP tools for BP goals" may be true to some degree but keep in mind this is MRP. Vetting doesn't work. Agree the one size fits all vetting checklist is naive and doesn't work long term. However, if she's consistently adding value and making you happy, I would continue to balance between quietly observing and setting/enforcing boundaries which I think was the main point. A long-term relationship CANNOT be your end goal. You can only be OPEN to the possibility of having one. Aga…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/22 08:43 PM
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If you want to be fucking multiple women at the same time then do that. If you want a steady girlfriend then do that. If you want something in between and see where things go, then have her earn it by consistently adding value and not drama to your life. Just keep your eyes and ears open and your mouth shut while you vet her for FWB/dating status.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/22 03:51 AM
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Probably my insecurities and ego. We were never official but I was vetting and this was a boundary for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/22 11:42 PM
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None. No, thus the vetting.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/22 05:17 PM
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OYS22 (previous) Me: mid-30s, height 6', weight 180 lbs, 13% bf STBXW: early-30s, married 3 years, together 8, no kids, divorcing Lifts: (3RM lbs) DL 320, SQ 295, BN 230 Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2, TRMx2, TWOTSMx2, 3%MANx2, MMSLP, MAP, POON, POOK, SGM, BLS, 48LOP, 12 Rules for Life, Manipulated Man, Tactical Guide to Women, Predatory Female, Way of Men, Meditations, Free Agent Lifestyle, Unplugged Alpha Purpose: 1) To take care of myself mentally, physically, spiritually 2) Find meaning in my life…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 04:54 AM
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I've got this Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde thing going on where two seemingly opposing things are true about me This will lead to incongruence which your wife will easily sniff out. Of course, (a) leads to (b) to prevent ego damage. Breaking down (b), are you attractive and can you actually pull? I get bad PE, and as I learn more about it, I realize it's all mental, and derived from performance anxiety. Has this always been the case or more recently? If you're healthy in most other areas (i.e. not stress…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/22 04:22 PM
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On one day, she was mad and decided to leave the house without asking permission. I texted her I'm punishing her for her behavior. I let her locked out of the house for a while. Anymore context to this? It seems a bit more extreme than the typical remove attention, etc. Also, any legal implications from this? It's recorded on text msg, you know, if it comes down to it.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/22 03:59 PM
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It's good, consistent, and I'm getting my needs met from this one chick at the moment. Applying some of the basic knowledge has helped a lot, passing tests (mostly comfort), her friends looking up to me, getting attention from others when I'm out with her. Separately, last few times I raged with the boys, got lots of IOIs from other women, some play, and a couple number/social close so if things don't work out, I'll be OK.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/22 04:13 AM
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The fucking is going pretty well so no complaints here. It's consistent and good quality. Also, I know I can pull if the situation changes. Fucking is important to me but it's not my focus right now. I prefer to put more energy into some or my other areas such a goals, purpose, mission, etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/22 03:52 AM
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This is a shitty mindset. It’s scarcity, it’s qualifying myself to others, it’s not being the prize. I tend to think like this too and it hasn't benefitted me much in this digital age. If you plan on expanding your network and/or dating through sites/apps, its a must. Ideally, the photos are congruent with who you are. Another way to think of it is if you are sharing something from abundance rather than looking for validation. The action is the same but your mindset is what determines if its con…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 05:12 AM
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So what am I learning now from loneliness? That I need to learn to be alone. Just because you are alone doesn't mean you have to feel lonely. And just because you can be alone doesn't mean you have to be alone. Healthy relationships with family, friends, and women are just icing on the cake.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 05:04 AM
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That is all the spirituality I need. Any more details or insights into connecting the activity to this?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 04:54 AM
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OYS21 (previous) Me: mid-30s, height 6', weight 180 lbs, 13% bf STBXW: early-30s, married 3 years, together 8, no kids, divorcing Lifts: (3RM lbs) DL 320, SQ 290, BN 225 Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2, TRMx2, TWOTSMx2, 3%MANx2, MMSLP, MAP, POON, POOK, SGM, BLS, 48LOP, 12 Rules for Life, Manipulated Man, Tactical Guide to Women, Predatory Female, Way of Men, Meditations, Free Agent Lifestyle, Unplugged Alpha Purpose: 1) To take care of myself mentally, physically, spiritually 2) Find meaning in my life…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 04:47 AM
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Discipline is freedom. If you were lifting and in great physical shape, then you can afford to spend some time gaming or on whatever activities you enjoy. For now, you should get your priorities right and gaming doesn't seem to be one of them.
/r/askMRP03/01/22 06:23 PM
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Not a good sign, especially if this is out of character. She could be looking around for other opportunities and perhaps even already has someone in mind. Or perhaps not. Some more important questions: What are your lifts? What would you lose if you were single right now? Would you even want to bring you to a party?
/r/askMRP09/12/21 05:07 PM
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So I was spot on, huh? No you weren't but I do get where you're coming from. It could be useful to borrow frame for a moment and see if and how it applies to my situation. I plan on doing some more self-reflection, appreciate the feedback.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 06:51 PM
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Yeah I see your point. There is nothing inherently wrong with empathy, caring, emotions, etc. Some empathy is good, very high levels of it could become a problem. I would still say it tends to lead to caring too much, putting others before yourself, people pleasing, feeling bad/guilty. These will keep chipping at your frame unless you have strong boundaries. I would also suggest looking into why you are this way instead of blaming it on genetics. Maybe check testosterone levels as well, high emp…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/21 06:54 PM
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I can see you projecting your experiences a bit, probably going through anger phase, and looking for validation through sex. That said, it is probably a little bit of both.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/21 04:15 AM
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Empathy: I would consider myself very high in empathy. I think part of this is my natural genetics and part was developed as a defence mechanism. Why do you care so much? Seems like nice guy tendencies? Single mother raised? Might be worth re-reading NMMNG.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/21 04:12 AM
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Yes, intentionally vague -I did fine with women before my past relationship and have been doing fine after that relationship didn't work out. I don't really feel the need to "fuck bitches" just for a higher n-count. My point here is more about vetting and perhaps about preventing oneitis.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 09:42 PM
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It's recent but relationship ended a while back. I've been with a few already but yeah it might be good to pump the brakes and slow things down. Never a good idea to get pressured into something.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 06:41 PM
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Powdered protein isn't really necessary unless your a semi/pro athlete. At this stage, I really doubt you need it. If you plan our your meals: eggs, cheese, meats, etc. it's pretty easy to hit 1lb to 0.75g protein.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 06:37 PM
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There's no need to switch or adjust anything when you've barely made any progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 06:31 PM
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Something is not congruent, you believe yourself to be a 5-6 yet you can easily pull 8-9s. Already gave you some pointers, maybe also read more of the sidebar.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 04:45 PM
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That’s a big fail on me. 60 DoD’21 booster : I’ve modified my lifting plan to be as follows : What are you modifying? Have you even been working out? What are your lifts?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 06:10 AM
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Stats: 5’9 ft, 200lbs, 20% BF (navy) SMV: likely 5-6? Your SMV rating is shit, maybe you have low self-esteem issues. What are you doing about it? Lifts are decent but you have 20% bf and you're still on a "dirty bulk". Slim down, dress better, and fix your face to max out your looks.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 06:06 AM
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I was aching to fuck. The only relief was to fuck or to lift. Lifting went from an exhausting, challenging experience to relief. All my lifts have emanated directly from my balls all week long. It seems like lifting, as pathetic as your numbers are, is still doing something for you, i.e. boosting your testosterone and sex drive -keep going.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 05:50 AM
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OYS20 (previous) Me: mid-30s, height 6', weight 175 lbs, 12.5% bf STBXW: early-30s, married 3 years, together 8, no kids, divorcing Lifts: (3RM lbs) SQ 290, DL 320, BN 210, RW 165, OP 145 Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2, TRMx2, TWOTSMx2, 3%MANx2, MMSLP, MAP, POON, POOK, SGM, BLS, 48LOP, 12 Rules for Life, Manipulated Man, Tactical Guide to Women, Predatory Female, Way of Men, Meditations, Free Agent Lifestyle, Unplugged Alpha Purpose: 1) Be the best version of myself. 2) Find meaning in my life. Week 2…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 05:41 AM
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I have no intention of touching her, and only did so this time becasue of her physically trying to remove my earplugs. However, who is to say she will not do something similar in future, so I do not feel I can promise this. I did commit that I would not be physical, if she is not, but she says that she is scared and needs an absolute promise. Any thoughts? If you have no history of actual physical abuse, then this comment is coming way out of left field, might be her testing the waters. I.e. if …
/r/askMRP17/11/21 08:44 PM
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Despite following the "don't damage your back" tips, I did manage to gain a nasty lower back pain. The good news that I might have a doctor's appointment next week. You're new to lifting. It's good that you started but getting "injured" at this stage sounds like a lousy excuse. I call bullshit. Hire a personal trainer or get a more experienced workout buddy to help you fix your form.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 04:45 PM
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OYS19 (previous) Me: mid-30s, height 6', weight 172.5 lbs, 12.0% bf STBXW: early-30s, married 3 years, together 8, no kids, divorcing Lifts: (3RM lbs) SQ 290, DL 320, BN 210, RW 165, OP 145 Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2, TRMx2, TWOTSMx2, 3%MANx2, MMSLP, MAP, POON, POOK, SGM, BLS, 48LOP, 12 Rules for Life, Manipulated Man, Tactical Guide to Women, Predatory Female, Way of Men, Meditations, Free Agent Lifestyle, Unplugged Alpha Purpose: 1) Be the best version of myself. 2) Find meaning in my life. My l…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 02:45 PM
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This is blue pill mentality. Meant more like I don't really share similar interests with women and don't invest too much unless I'm interested in something more than friends.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 04:47 AM
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When you’re in that friend approval zone it makes closing much harder. You need to kill the behaviour that’s getting you approval (nice guy friend) and take a risk of losing that approval by going for what you really want. I'm not the nice guy friend type to this girl but more about approval or appearances to others. I would focus more on yourself than analyzing random women. It can feel cool to be ‘in the know’ while watching others but there’s no real value there. I can see it coming from my r…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 04:23 AM
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OYS18 (previous) Me: mid-30s, height 6', weight 170 lbs, 12.0% bf STBXW: early-30s, married 3 years, together 8, no kids, divorcing Lifts: (3RM lbs) SQ 290, DL 320, BN 210, RW 165, OP 140 Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2, TRMx2, TWOTSMx2, 3%MANx2, MMSLP, MAP, POON, POOK, SGM, BLS, 48LOP, 12 Rules for Life, Manipulated Man, Tactical Guide to Women, Predatory Female, Way of Men, Meditations, Free Agent Lifestyle, Unplugged Alpha Purpose: 1) Be the best version of myself. 2) Find meaning in my life. Liftin…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/21 05:16 AM
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OYS17 (previous) Me: mid-30s, height 6', weight 170 lbs, 12.0% bf STBXW: early-30s, married 3 years, together 8, no kids, divorcing Lifts: (3RM lbs) SQ 290, DL 315, BN 205, RW 160, OP 140 Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2, TRMx2, TWOTSMx2, 3%MANx2, MMSLP, MAP, POON, POOK, SGM, BLS, 48LOP, 12 Rules for Life, Manipulated Man, Tactical Guide to Women, Predatory Female, Way of Men, Meditations, Free Agent Lifestyle, Unplugged Alpha Purpose: 1) Be the best version of myself. 2) Find meaning in my life. Been r…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/21 04:40 AM
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Glad to have a fellow ragnar here. Lifting and nutrition kinda just becoming regular lifestyle at this point. The drinking is always trying to creep back in and fuck things up. I was coming off a cutting cycle and got down to 165lb: daily tracking weight, calories, macros help a lot. Bigger, Stronger, Leaner was a good read on this area. But yeah this frees up time for me to work on other areas of my life that I have been slacking on. We all gonna make it.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 07:35 PM
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OYS16 (previous) Me: mid-30s, height 6', weight 170 lbs, 12.0% bf STBXW: early-30s, married 3 years, together 8, no kids, divorcing Lifts: (3RM lbs) SQ 285, DL 295, BN 205, RW 155, OP 140 Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2, TRMx2, TWOTSMx2, 3%MANx2, MMSLP, MAP, POON, POOK, SGM, BLS, 48LOP, 12RFL, Manipulated Man, Tactical Guide to Women, Predatory Female, Way of Men, Meditations Purpose: 1) Be the best version of myself. 2) Find meaning in my life. Update: It's been a few months since I posted OYS. I deci…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 02:15 PM
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Work on yourself, lift, read, finish your schooling, meet up with friends, locals, etc. I think phone sex is a waste of time. Keep flirting and passing comfort tests if you want to maintain but she should be doing most of the reaching out. You should be a busy guy so don't spend too much time. If it is truly temporary long distance, shouldn't you be figuring out the plan to get things back to where you want them? Longer you guys are separated, higher likelihood it ain't working out.
/r/askMRP28/07/21 05:14 AM
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Jordan Peterson is great in many ways including helping young men to take responsibility, find purpose, and get their life together. There are many shared concepts with RP but the area with a lot of gaps is experience with women. He's extremely successful in his field (satisfies hypergamy) and is also married with his childhood sweetheart; he has limited knowledge on this topic. Anyway, this post itself is too chaotic as well as esoteric. Try simplifying, what's your point/question? You'll proba…
/r/askMRP07/07/21 01:17 PM
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OYS15 (previous) Me: mid-30s, height 6', weight 175 lbs, 13.0% bf STBXW: early-30s, married 3 years, together 8, no kids, divorcing Lifts: (lbs) SQ 285, DL 325, BN 210, RW 185, OP 140 Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2, TRMx2, TWOTSMx2, MMSLP, MAP, POON, POOK, SGM, BLS, 48LOP, 3%MANx1.10, 12RFL, Manipulated Man, Tactical Guide to Women, Predatory Female, Way of Men, Meditations Purpose: 1) Be the best version of myself. 2) Find meaning in my life. Mental/Physical Broke through some plateaus by pushing my …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/21 04:07 AM
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Makes sense, I'm in a similar situation but being cautious about promoting anyone to LTR. Partly due to same reasons you mentioned but also wanted to make sure I wasn't just escaping loneliness and not doing the work on myself. Still working identifying/knowing what characteristic I want and then vetting properly, this is a big part that I overlooked many years back.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/21 05:29 PM
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Been hitting PRs recently, working on reaching proficient level on the main lifts. Only lifting 2x per week but looking to increase it to 3-4x per week. Let's get it.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/21 04:25 AM
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I am not leading my first officer to add value to my life How long from getting separated and entering into an LTR? Did you go through the phases: hookup -> plate -> fwb -> LTR? Why not wait until things are finalized? What is different about this first officer vs STBXW?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/21 05:04 AM
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It's shitty, but I have to start somewhere. Any pointers would be appreciated. Your OYS reflects how messy your life is. Slow everything down, start small by fixing your post, find a template you like, copy it, get organized. Next, forget all other workout programs and just begin with StrongLifts 2-3x per week, look up how to perform the workouts yourself or get a somebody to show you.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/21 04:50 AM
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OYS14 (previous) Me: mid-30s, height 6', weight 175 lbs, 13.0% bf STBXW: early-30s, married 3 years, together 8, no kids, separated Lifts: 5RM (lbs) SQ 240, DL 310, BN 195, RW 170, OP 125 Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2, TRMx2, TWOTSMx2, MMSLP, MAP, POON, POOK, SGM, BLS, 48LOP, Manipulated Man, 3%MAN, 12RFL, Tactical Guide to Women, Predatory Female, Way of Men, Meditations Purpose: 1) Be the best version of myself. 2) Find meaning in my life. Mental/Physical Watched an interesting RP video on youtube …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/21 04:07 AM
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Thanks I will take a look at it.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/21 03:58 AM
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OYS13 (previous) Me: mid-30s, height 6', weight 174 lbs, 12.7% bf STBXW: early-30s, married 3 years, together 8, no kids, separated Lifts: SL5x5 lbs SQ 235, DL 295, BN 195, RW 155, OP 115 Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2, MMSLP, TRMx2, TWOTSMx2, POON, POOK, BLS, MAP, Manipulated Man, 3%MAN, 12RFL, SGMx0.5, 48LOPx0.25 Purpose: 1) Be the best version of myself. 2) Find meaning in my life. Mental I came back from holidays feeling pretty refreshed but as soon things started to ramp up at work, I could feel …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/21 04:03 PM
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The points I listed were more of an introspection from my past when I had a lot of options prior to LTR/marriage. My current view is different and self-reflecting on things is what I need to do in order to internalize everything. Lack of experience Not quite, my point was that I had been with many women in the past but at the time I didn't know what I was doing in terms of plates, rotation, vetting. Most of these interactions were short-lived where I just ended things because of feelings of sham…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/21 07:29 AM
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The things I listed were more of a introspection from the past before my LTR/marriage when I did have many options but had no idea how to manage it optimally nor vet a woman properly. Clearly this mentality did not serve me very well and, in part, led me to where I am today. You make some good points and it's true that I haven't internalized all the RP material, it's still a work in progress. What it comes down to on this specific topic is "If I were the best version of myself, would I want to b…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/21 06:44 AM
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I walked out of my marriage in a red pill rage in July. I got sick of her being lazy around the house as a SAH mother and asked her to get a job. She hit the roof so I packed up and left. This doesn't make sense, just sounds like a bunch of excuses and rationalizations. Have you tried working on yourself first?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/20 06:16 AM
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OYS12 (previous) Me: mid-30s, height 6', weight 172 lbs, 12.5% bf STBXW: early-30s, married 3 years, together 8, no kids, separated Lifts: SL5x5 (lbs) SQ 230, DL 285, BN 195, RW 155, OP 115 Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2, MMSLP, TRMx2, TWOTSMx2, POON, POOK, BLS, MAP, Manipulated Man, 3%MAN, 12RFL, 48LOPx0.25, SGMx0.10 Purpose: 1) Be the best version of myself. 2) Find meaning in my life. Mental I haven't posted OYS in a while but decided now is a good chance to reflect on the past couple of months and…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/20 06:01 AM
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That's true, I am bullshitting myself if I think 1x per week is enough. Will see when I can fit in another session or 2.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/20 09:07 PM
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It's just a transition period, haven't lifted heavy in months and want to ease into it to prevent injury.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/20 07:42 PM
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OYS11 (previous) Me: Age 34, height 6', weight 176 lbs, 13.0% bf STBXW: Age 32, married 3 years, together 8, no kids, separated Lifts (pre-covid): SL5x5 lbs SQ 245, DL 300, BN 195, RW 155, OP 115 Read: NMMNGx1.3, WISNIFG, MMSLP, TRM, TWOTSM, POON, POOK, BLS, MAP, MM, 12RFLx0.5 Purpose: 1) Be the best version of myself. 2) Find meaning in my life. Mental Started up NMMNG again, now with a more refreshed state of mind. The last time I read this book was soon after d-day where my mental state was c…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/20 04:18 AM
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OYS10 (previous) Me: Age 34, height 6', weight 175 lbs, 12.9% bf STBXW: Age 32, married 3 years, together 8, no kids, separated Lifts (pre-covid): SL5x5 lbs SQ 245, DL 300, BN 195, RW 155, OP 115 Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, TRM, TWOTSM, POON, POOK, BLS, MAP, MM, 12RFL (50%) Purpose: 1) Be the best version of myself. 2) Find meaning in my life. Mental I've noted a couple things in the past few weeks. I need to work on controlling my emotions and not get triggered every time I observe an RP conce…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/20 03:35 PM
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OYS9 (previous) Me: Age 34, height 6', weight 175 lbs, 12.9% bf STBXW: Age 32, married 3 years, together 8, no kids, separated Lifts (pre-covid): SL5x5 lbs SQ 245, DL 300, BN 195, RW 155, OP 115 Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, TRM, TWOTSM, POON, POOK, BLS, MAP, MM, 12RFL (40%) Purpose: 1) Be the best version of myself. 2) Find meaning in my life. Mental As I mentioned last week, this is a good time to reassess my life. /u/johneyapocalypse commented that this can take a while and that it doesn't nee…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/20 01:51 AM
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OYS8 (previous) Me: Age 34, height 6', weight 177 lbs, 13.1% bf STBXW: Age 32, married 3 years, together 8, no kids, separated Lifts (pre-covid): SL5x5 lbs SQ 245, DL 300, BN 195, RW 155, OP 115 Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, TRM, TWOTSM, POON, POOK, BLS, MAP, MM, 12RFL (25%) Purpose: 1) Be the best version of myself. 2) Find meaning in my life. Mental I am struggling with finding purpose and meaning in my life. Before my life blew up, my goals were tied closely to my STBXW. This has left me feeli…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/20 03:33 AM
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A couple of weeks ago I finished cutting down to around 10% BF, probably now somethwere like 12%. What are your stats? What approach did you have to cut down to that level?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/20 04:45 AM
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I completely quit alcohol the night I confirmed the affair and it’s been 12 days without alcohol for me. Yeah this is deadly serious, hope you stick with it. It's a slippery and dangerous slope given your situation and will result in total loss of frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/20 04:04 AM
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The nail in the coffin came when I read this. This was a good read and I could relate. Loss of control. Lack of boundaries. Love them more, they love you less. Fighting when things are calm just to feeling something other than nothingness. Willingness to die for borderline. Worn down with constant brainwashing. Never wrong or ownership of their own flaws. Lack of empathy. Mainly, I see a major fear of abandonment in her - to the point where I've been told in the past that if I ever left, she wou…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/20 03:40 AM
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OYS7 (previous) Me: Age 34, height 6', weight 177 lbs, 13.0% bf STBXW: Age 32, married 3 years, together 8, no kids, separated Lifts (pre-covid): SL5x5 lbs SQ 245, DL 300, BN 195, RW 155, OP 115 Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, TRM, TWOTSM, POON, POOK, BLS, MAP, MM, 12RFL (25%) Purpose: 1) Be the best version of myself. 2) Find meaning in my life. Mental Had a moment or two where I looked back on our previous text messages and pictures. This is a terrible habit and just causes more pain. u/SorcererK…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 04:12 PM
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Good points on how to better respond. The truth is, it triggered me because my STBXW would do this all the time. Seems like a shit test but also disrespect since in front of people. I need to work on controlling my emotions better.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/20 01:45 AM
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I read it a few times, really good write up. Seems like I fall back into the anger/depression phase multiple times recently. I need to work on moving towards acceptance.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/20 04:50 AM
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OYS6 (previous) Me: Age 34, height 6', weight 179 lbs, 13.2% bf STBXW: Age 32, married 3 years, together 8, no kids, separated Lifts (pre-covid): SL5x5 lbs SQ 245, DL 300, BN 195, RW 155, OP 115 Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, TRM, TWOTSM, POON, POOK, BLS, MAP, MM, 12RFL (25%) Purpose: 1) Be the best version of myself. 2) Find meaning in my life. Mental Reached out to my cousin, we were brought up closely together, and reconnected about our childhood and how we're doing now. I shared some experienc…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/20 01:38 PM
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This was from my OYS. For context, the situation is where your bro's LTR (Jill) is complimenting and flirting with you in front of everyone while putting your bro (Jack) down. E.g in front of everyone, Jill says "ragnar_114, you are so tall, handsome, and muscles. Jack, why can't you be more like ragnar_114?". Thus my feeling of need to 'prop up my bro' and set some boundaries with Jill.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/20 08:24 PM
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Good points, I need to accept compliments without feeling bad or ashamed about it. Also, I can't control if my bros LTR decides to flirt with me but I can only control my response.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/20 09:40 PM
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OYS5 (previous) Me: Age 34, height 6', weight 179 lbs, 13.3% bf STBXW: Age 32, married 3 years, together 8, no kids, separated Lifts (pre-covid): SL5x5 lbs SQ 245, DL 300, BN 195, RW 155, OP 115 Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, TRM, TWOTSM, POON, POOK, BLS, MAP, MM, 12RFL (20%) Purpose: 1) Be the best version of myself. 2) Find meaning in my life. Mental I had a couple of moments this past week where I looked back on memories and thought about what the future could have been. This led to more feelin…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/20 02:28 PM
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Yeah that's probably true, I have a lot I need to work on and I don't want to just use my upbringing as an excuse. Meditations (stoicism) can help me manage and control my emotions. Jordan Peterson speaks about resentment and how it comes from feelings of weakness and powerless, the solution to that is to being more disagreeable and negotiate for what you want. There are some tools from WISNIFG that I need to review and implement into my life more consistently. There's a lot of content that I ne…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/20 06:08 PM
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OYS4 (previous) Me: Age 34, height 6', weight 181 lbs, 13.5% bf STBXW: Age 32, married 3 years, together 8, no kids, separated Lifts (pre-covid): SL5x5 lbs SQ 245, DL 300, BN 195, RW 155, OP 115 Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, TRM, TWOTSM, POON, POOK, BLS, MAP, MM, 12RFL (15%) Purpose: 1) Be the best version of myself. 2) Find meaning in my life. Mental/Physical I had a phone call with my father to catch-up this past week. I haven't told him the details of my marriage just that we had major issues …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/20 02:05 PM
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Any tips on getting to <10% bf? Was it just calorie deficit plus more protein than carbs and even less fat?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/20 07:01 PM
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A while ago someone mentioned to me that “anger + drinking = complete loss of frame.” Sadly, this is happened to me a couple times. Some things that have helped: Don't keep any alcohol in the house (or minimal). Only drink when you're in a positive mood like celebrating with friends. Drink the first, sip the second, and skip the third.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/20 04:28 AM
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expect to eventually need to kill the puppy. The first year of my marriage was pretty bad, looking back it was mostly my fault but there was also a big change in STBXW's attitude. Curious to know, what's your main reason for this?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/20 04:14 AM
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It's scary to walk away. However if you stay, your energy will be shared on both fixing yourself and avoiding past triggers. You may find these same triggers come up when you're involved in new future relationships, but acknowledging these triggers and working them out will be easier since they won't be obfuscated with the anger, history and relationship equity you have with your wife. I shared a lot of these thoughts in the past year and even now. I could feel massive amounts of my energy being…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/20 03:41 AM
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OYS3 (previous) Me: Age 34, height 6', weight 181 lbs, 13.4% bf STBXW: Age 32, married 3 years, together 8, no kids, separated Lifts (pre-covid): SL5x5 lbs SQ 245, DL 300, BN 195, RW 155, OP 115 Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, TRM, TWOTSM, POON, POOK, BLS, MAP, MM, 12RFL (10%) Purpose: 1) Be the best version of myself. 2) Find meaning in my life. Mental/Physical Feel myself slipping in the direction of being lazy, bad habits, vices and really need to double up on my effort, discipline, and motivati…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/20 03:17 PM
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she said it was a one time thing and she trickle truthed that it wasn't one time Sorry man, yeah I know the feeling.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/20 01:25 PM
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The first time this happened, after ten years together, I did try to destroy myself. The second time, 35 years later I had begun the re-creation process and did not. What situation were you in the first and second time? Seems like with same woman since you've been together 46 years. ​ I've tried to commit suicide a few times - car "accident", gun, CO2, but it has no appeal anymore. I give credit to Rollo Tomassi and the first volume of TRM. As painful as it was to see myself flayed alive in prin…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/20 05:51 PM
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OYS2 (previous) Me: Age 34, height 6', weight 180 lbs, 13.5% bf STBXW: Age 32, married 3 years, together 8, no kids, separated Lifts (pre-covid19): SL5x5 lbs SQ 245, DL 300, BN 195, RW 155, OP 115 Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, TRM, TWOTSM, POON, POOK, BLS, MAP, MM(50%), 12RFL (10%) Purpose: 1) Be the best version of myself. 2) Find meaning in my life. Mental/Physical Things are getting more stable as I work through unfucking my life. Still having some trouble sleeping at times, wake up in middle …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/20 05:25 PM
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I remember reading that a few months ago, pretty damn accurate. In fact, last year another buddy of mine got the same speech right after he and his wife bought a house together (she was cheating). He admitted this to me after I shared my current situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/20 04:35 AM
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Wrong. Just over a year ago when everything from the outside seemed to be going great for me, it hit me that things were not on point. I was bullshitting myself (AKA no mission). Can you elaborate, what actual event caused you realize this?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/20 05:22 PM
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Yeah, I eventually got it a few months after dday.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/20 05:20 AM
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OYS1 Me: Age 34, height 6', weight 180 lbs, 13.4% bf STBXW: Age 32, married 3 years, together 8, no kids, separated Lifts (pre-covid19): SL5x5 lbs SQ 245, DL 300, BN 195, RW 155, OP 115 Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, TRM, TWOTSM, POON, POOK, BLS, MAP, MM(25%), 12RFL (10%) Purpose: 1) Be the best version of myself. 2) Find meaning in my life. Mental First OYS. I wrote my victim puke last week and had been planning on starting OYS. Sharing my thoughts with others has always been a weakness of mine b…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/20 03:48 AM
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