rainingout Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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2	Albert Ellis explaining the principles of inner game and approaches back in 1965... still very relevant Fair enough! Albert Ellis was one of two founders of what we now call Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (the other was the more academic Aaron Beck). AE called it REBT for Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy. The idea behind REBT was that people have irrational beliefs and that specifically our beliefs about events lead to our emotional consequences. By disputing our irrational beliefs, we can become more sane. He was one of the founders and influencers of the "self help" movement. In turn, he was in…	/r/seduction	20/10/12 07:03 PM
1	Albert Ellis explaining the principles of inner game and approaches back in 1965... still very relevant If you are into working on yourself, you should find out about Albert Ellis!	/r/seduction	20/10/12 02:33 PM
1	Girl starts to talk about another guy, what do I do in this type of situation? What would you do with an average or less attractive woman?	/r/seduction	03/10/12 01:18 PM
3	I'm not looking to pick up tons of girls, but simply to improve my social interactions in general (i.e. get people to like me more). Is this the right place? OP will surely...	/r/seduction	20/06/12 06:43 PM
1	My dad was beta and I am scared I will be just like him. I can't judge your situation, but I doubt prison dad was a better role model. At least your dad slogged it out to work every day to keep the family fed. Something to be said for that. Not every dad can be Steve McQueen.	/r/seduction	11/05/12 09:37 AM
1	My dad was beta and I am scared I will be just like him. Kudos to you for recognizing what you don't want to be like. There are resources that others have alluded to that can help. But, I want to point out that your Dad stayed married, made you, had some part in getting you to college. Have a little respect for the man and what he has gone through in his life to get what he has, and to get you where you are. I don't know you or your situation, and I know not all people, and not all families are perfect or even good. To me, though, respecting my family…	/r/seduction	11/05/12 01:03 AM
2	How to make the most out of life This is a big question, and one that I am surprised doesn't get asked more often on Reddit. To borrow a line from Freud, a psychologically healthy person is able "to love and to work." I think if you are lurking in Seddit, you have a head start in the love department. Despite the standard PUA/MRA concerns about marriage, if you find the right person, starting a family and having a traditional married lifestyle might be very appealing. As far as work, start thinking now, while you can do somethin…	/r/seduction	08/01/12 10:25 PM
1	do you guys know any good books that aren't "game" related, but after reading the book your game improved These threads have a tendency to turn into "interesting books I have read" lists. I don't think any non-game book really helped, it's such a new development. That being said, Robert Wright's The Moral Animal (1994) was my gateway into evolutionary psychology, way back when, and that opened my mind to game, which is the practical outgrowth.	/r/seduction	28/12/11 12:26 PM
3	To Medical Staff everywhere... one shift stand? You might need a time machine back to the 70's. Does happen but not terribly common these days.	/r/seduction	29/11/11 09:01 PM
1	Theory on Why Most Girls Don't Seem Interested in Hooking Up at Bars and Clubs Easier to display status out in public with a group than at home.	/r/seduction	27/11/11 01:32 AM
2	Seddit, advice when out at a loud bar ...if only I could dance...at all...	/r/seduction	26/11/11 10:21 PM
6	Theory on Why Most Girls Don't Seem Interested in Hooking Up at Bars and Clubs I think most women go out to bars to be social with their friends. Socializing and status seeking are drivers of female behavior. Maybe you can help them by being fun and outgoing, and displaying high status. If you can do those things, maybe one of them would want to meet up for some fun afterwards.	/r/seduction	26/11/11 10:19 PM
2	Introvert Game For me (INTJ) whatever small success I have had has come from compensating for my introversion, and faking extroversion to some degree. If looking for a LTR, I wouldn't try to act too differently from my habitual personality, or I could attract the wrong person. The only benefit of introversion with regard to my game has been introspection in to my past behaviors. Also, willingness to read and study to learn what other people think about the game. You can certainly get laid despite being an intr…	/r/seduction	19/10/11 09:35 AM
1	Introvert Game no such thing	/r/seduction	18/10/11 03:35 PM
1	Seddit, I know you guys are the only people who can make me feel better One of the basic tenants of seduction, is to avoid oneitis. Granted, this is difficult to practice sometimes. But, I feel >50% of the posts revolve around this. Good suggestions in here on how to do this in the real world.	/r/seduction	24/09/11 01:33 PM
2	How can I be more of a leader, because I'm tired of being reserved and quiet. Not sure this is a problem, or shows a lack of leadership or alpha traits. You need to be able to escalate when needed, but a leader shows reserve and uses that as one tactic out of many. You will learn a lot in the military if you pay attention to what goes on around you.	/r/seduction	24/09/11 01:25 PM
3	I have hairy arms...how can I be cool when girls start shit testing me about it? Agree and amplify on the arm hair, and tease back. You may need to groom your eyebrows. For goodness sake, don't shave your arm hair unless you are into other dudes.	/r/seduction	19/09/11 11:59 AM
1	Winging for a lesbian friend? First thing that comes to mind, is that straight males are usually not popular at lesbian bars. Where do you think you are going to open sets for her? Maybe she is into straight girls? Will be tough for her to close I imagine.	/r/seduction	13/09/11 06:29 PM
2	[FR] HB lesbo. . . wtf? (k close and # close) I have dated lesbians before. Generally they have identified that way as sort of an advanced attention whore strategy. Also may mean the psych disorders are strong with this one... Have fun!	/r/seduction	10/09/11 11:54 AM
1	[FR] Super cute girl, aggressive successful K-Close, aggressive fail further escalation, a small little bonus cherry on top There will be many others, don't have regrets.	/r/seduction	26/08/11 11:55 PM
1	How do you improve game/seduction skills if you're in a monogamous relationship? I think the game is now more than approaches and closing. Game is learning about human nature and applying it to social situations. Keep learning and growing your knowledge. Learning how to converse with people, grow their interest, and influence their behavior. As mentioned below: inner game, fitness, and style are game-related and don't depend on approaching. Also, you can work to keep your gf's interest using what you have learned.	/r/seduction	26/08/11 12:50 AM
14	I'm an 18 Year Old College Guy Who Needs Advice on Talking to Girls Hi. Wow. I wish I was 18 again, starting college. There is so much I found out later that I wish I had known then. Anyway, to answer your question, I would suggest the following: Read "Bang" by Roosh which will get you up to speed on the game concepts. If at all possible join a fraternity, which was one of the most worthwhile things I did in terms of college experience and social opportunities Study abroad if you can, nothing like being in a foreign country with your horny classmates. exercise e…	/r/seduction	20/08/11 04:12 PM