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LVM LOGICrainynightslight/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 09:53 PM
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💀💀💀 GIRL… I can’t lmao. This is so tragically cringey (and even worse, relatable to my past self) that it is giving me way too many screenplay ideas for a full length LV relationship parody movie 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 04:19 AM
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Messing with or disrespecting your sleep schedule. This may not seem subtle at all to everyone here, but for me, it was hard to see it as the huge red flag it is for a long time. I thought it was sweet and fun at first, like “aw he doesn’t want me to go to bed early or sleep in today, he just wants to spend more time with me.” And then after I stopped thinking it was sweet, I started thinking it was at least warranted, since maybe I do sleep a bit more than average. Maybe I should be waking up e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 06:44 PM
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I love that idea from your therapist. And totally agree about the counters! I’ve been setting a new goal every month instead of trying to change everything about my life at once 😂 and it’s been working well! My goal for May is to do meal prep every week so I always have healthy food ready!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 09:31 PM
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Totally agree - this post is one of the best things I’ve read in a long time (and I read a ton lol). I would love to see this published somewhere with an even bigger audience, OP!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 05:45 AM
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🤮🤢😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 04:30 AM
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Holy fuck. My heart is shattered for this woman. Like, the amount of trauma and gaslighting she must have endured over the course of her entire life to reach this point is immense. Society literally encourages us to gaslight ourselves. I hope she gets the fuck out of this situation immediately. Whatever she is holding onto is pitiful compared to what single life can be when you have enough space and safety to literally just take care of yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 07:47 PM
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100%. Celebrities aren’t immune to societal conditioning AND (/or) abusive behaviors just because they’re extra beautiful, talented, rich or whatever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 01:33 AM
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I totally agree. But, there’s a lot of societal encouragement that basically pushes women towards putting our hands on the fire. The whole “a good woman can lift any man out of hell” trope and similar BS is very widespread. Many of us are trained to only see the good in people, and always prioritize others over ourselves, starting from birth. It just runs so deep, into the subconscious and unconscious. FDS is the only full fledged community I’ve found where that stuff isn’t subtly encouraged at …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 07:16 PM
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Aw this makes me so happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:39 PM
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🙌👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 01:29 AM
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“Hi guys, I get all of my ideas about life, love, self worth, and what my goals should be from the imaginary worlds of movies, tv, and porn. My wife in real life is nice to me and has been an effective mommy replacement for the past 8 years, but I don’t respect her humanity and I wonder if 1 or 10 or 20 shallow one night relationships with other, different, ~better (looking) (but I can’t say that)~ women might make me feel like more of a man than the past 8 years of love and support my wife has …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 06:11 PM
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This is super beautiful & inspiring!!! SO FUCKING HAPPY FOR YOU:) P.S. love the ring design!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 05:49 AM
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💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 05:31 PM
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Many people are saying you can’t, but I think there are clearly some major potential benefits for your children/family as a whole if you can make it work, and it’s doable if you maintain separate bank accounts. Like another commenter mentioned - it is possible for your partner to understand your need for security and support you through a separate/individual account. Ideally you would have at least 6 months living expenses in savings, and $ for home and personal expenses coming into the account …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 04:20 PM
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Exactly!!! Thank you. I don’t know how many times I’ve been told to “just ask” after having already asked multiple times. If he’s an HVM and he’s into you, you don’t have to ask for him to treat you lovingly, let alone decently. Right? I may have been an extreme doormat in many ways over the years, but that was always so obvious to me to the entire time. Why should I ever have to ask to be treated with respect by a man I’m in a relationship with and giving my all to?! Oh right, no good partner s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 11:00 PM
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I guess so. Him: “I hear you, but I don’t know what I can do to be better.” Me: “I’ve told you what I need from you in a hundred different ways, a thousand different times.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 08:25 PM
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Lmao, I bet Valentine’s is the one day a year this guy gives any thought to corporate America. Why not take any excuse to celebrate your partner and run with it? Not to mention, men don’t even have to spend $ on anything “corporate” to create a great v day. Book an AirBnB, buy her pretty things off etsy, buy some ingredients at a local market and cook up a fancy 3 course meal, etc. etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:54 PM
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Nah, I’d rather spend time with someone who values me more fully. I get what you’re thinking and I’ve been in the exact same situation myself... but at this point in my life, I would look towards female friends for support. I tend to feel overly exposed after I’ve slept with someone and we attempt friendship. It’s just not as comfortable as being friends with someone I have never and will never sleep with. Lol. I also tend to assume a level of intimacy that may or may not still be there for the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:41 PM
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Daily from age 12. Peak creepiness from 12 to 15/16ish. I swear it died down noticeably as soon as I began to look like more of an adult, and less of a teen. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 10:23 PM
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“Am I overreacting or do I have a right to be upset?” Holy shit. I can’t believe I used to think some variation of this... literally every time I felt upset or unsatisfied with ANYTHING in my relationships. And what do you know... it turns out I’m truly not deeply unbalanced or out of touch with reality or “crazy” or “dramatic” or “always overreacting” about small things. I have always been pretty well emotionally balanced. I’m a super calm person. I literally rarely if ever overreact. My feelin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 12:58 AM
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“And, it appears you have no qualities that people like.” 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 03:13 AM
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Also, connecting to the mother archetype / crawling back to the womb. Many men go their whole lives accepting present cultural norms that they are somehow meant to be cut off from any semblance of comfort, spirituality, etc. Frida Khalo’s Painting “The Love Embrace of the Universe” is a good visual representation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 03:09 PM
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God damn. Yeah, you’ve absolutely got this. You’ve been through an unreal amount of shit but also, you’re 19/20 and that’s still literally the starting line in life! There’s so much LIFE ahead of you that in a few years, all of this BS will feel like another lifetime. So glad you found your way here. All my love to you!❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 02:40 AM
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Wow, this is exactly what I needed to hear to help me properly frame everything I’ve learned on this sub. This distinction is super helpful when evaluating past relationships. As women, we don’t deserve the burden of full responsibility for the health of our relationships. It’s always a 2 way street so even if you’ve been a pickmeisha in the past, your ex would’ve still treated you properly if he had actually been an HVM who truly loved you. Thanks to this sub I am finally accepting these facts …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 08:13 PM
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Oh yes, absolutely. ! We needed WAY more of Cheryl’s point of view. In the HONY story, her experience is made small and packaged up neatly, in a way that perfectly fits with our stupid cultural ideals. It’s not okay. She deserves better like the OP said. The problem with the story is really that simple. No matter how much stress a man is dealing with, he ALWAYS has the option to deal with his shit like a mature adult and treat women - and especially the amazing woman he “loves” - with complete r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 03:10 AM
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Lol yes, it’s SO inconsiderate and uncool, I want an option to only see comments from unverified accounts. ! So transparent when they comment on just about every post with their low effort attempts to be insightful. Some of the worst offenders (besides him😂) are all of the street photographers with similar pages. It wouldn’t be so bad if they actually put in the time to engage with the content and come up with something helpful/meaningful/even just plain nice to say that added even .01% value to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 05:30 PM
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Yes. Thank you. How is it some incredible love story when Cheryl literally states that she was “walking on eggshells” for decades? I’ve been scrolling through all the “omg this is romance, this is love, this deserves a Pulitzer” comments on the last post in the series like... what the fuck? I guess our cultural ideal of “love” has a lot do with women graciously accepting deep neglect and pushing through misery at home (& at work) for their entire lives. 🤮 Side note... I hate when people seem to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 04:53 PM
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Omg. 🙄 Pretty reliable red flag when any man writes/mentions “drama” in the context of relationships.🚫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 01:52 AM
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Thanks for the cathartic read.❤️ Saved for inspiration to always demand 100%.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 04:33 PM
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The projection on that guy’s part is blinding 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:56 AM
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“Well, I feel like the asshole here. But I swear I’m not TRYING to be an asshole. I’m sorry.” The underlying message: “please make me feel better about my terrible behavior and lack of applied self-awareness, Mom” 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 03:24 PM
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So delusional. Every point he attempts to make is so shallow and unexamined it’s absurd. This almost feels like an Onion article lol. I can’t imagine this guy’s glaring lack of humanity leading to anything but an unhappy and unfulfilling life. Be careful out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 04:09 PM
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Omg. The “Np” after something as simple as a birthday text was the first red flag. 🙄😂🤯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 06:19 PM
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Wow... yet another double standard I somehow never considered even though I went through this exact situation. The conditioning runs deeper than I could ever completely understand on my own, without communities like this. So inspired by you all 🌟🌟🌟
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 06:41 AM
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Damn. I can’t wait to share this with women in my life. Thank you so much for laying this out so clearly. 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 02:57 AM
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I love this, thank you!! This idea doesn’t have to be spiritual in the slightest. At the most basic level, it’s factual. Amongst many other forces, western materialism obscures these facts. But, you don’t have to subscribe to any type of spirituality to understand that we are literally inviting men into the space of our creative, life-building power when we have sex. For me, this way of thinking can be very helpful when it comes to vetting a man, and it does not have to relate to purity culture.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 11:07 PM
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Wow, surprised I have never heard of this anywhere before. I’ve never been that into journaling but I’m really inspired to adopt this strategy right away, and I can see so many reasons for encouraging others in my life to do the same, when the subject comes up. :) And your story is amazing! “Let me take some time to think about that”... goals!! Maybe you could turn this into an article and get it published so even more women can benefit. I did a quick search and didn’t really find anything onlin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 10:03 PM
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Lmao. This is so perfect. Saving for future use and I can’t wait. I am regularly approached by LVM at work, and less often in random public places. They’re usually SO unbelievably far away from the type of man I would ever consider. It’s to the point where they’re just so physically and energetically off my radar as a “prospect” that until they say or do something super direct, I don’t even realize they’re flirting with me 9 times out of 10. A recent example that comes to mind is a dusty middle …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 03:16 AM
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Yes to everything. Thank you!! I actually started saving money for breast implants as a teenager, but after seeing family members go through complications and learning more about the potential risks... it’s absolutely not worth it for me. For anyone considering implant surgery, make sure you look at a wide range of sources for info on the procedure and risks. Not just plastic surgery sites. I’d also recommend looking up breast implant illness and reading individual stories. I’m super grateful th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 02:45 AM
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Picky Bitch Checklist !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 09:28 PM
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If it hurts on a regular basis, you communicate your needs and explain what’s hurting you, and he makes no effort to change in order to improve your comfort — is it really worth it? Be brutally honest with yourself and evaluate the effects of this hurt in your life. IMO, it’s easier to level up when you’re not constantly exposing yourself to being hurt (even if you are still getting a lot out of positive value out of the arrangement). For me, those little nagging feelings of confusion and hurt c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 10:07 PM
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