raisedonthemoon Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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–	Straight women are alpha-sexual Every day on here there's a post that amounts to "women only want to fuck men they're attracted to" as if that's a major revelation or something to get fired up about or debate about. I don't get it. What is there to debate.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 10:47 AM
–	Statements are the same thing as asking and neither are a display of dominance I mean first of all, I think the idea that women want dominance only extends to men they know/in the context of dating or a relationship. Most women don't want to be dominated by strangers(???) In any case, saying "give me your phone number" is a statement, not a question, and it isn't "dominant" behavior, it's "socially bizarre". Making demands of any kind toward people you don't know, whether it's "give me your phone number" or "move your head, you're blocking my view" is socially bizarre, but…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/24 05:21 PM
1	Hypergamy is just the quality of men having to add something to a woman's life. I'm not saying it was liberating in any way, I am saying that it's fascinating that going to a bar alone as a woman was considered unacceptable for a long time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/24 01:49 AM
1	Hypergamy is just the quality of men having to add something to a woman's life. Here's a kind of odd anecdote - did you know that TGI Fridays was invented so single women would have a place to go to the bar as single women, because it was considered inappropriate for single women to go to single bars alone? That's how odd the social position was for unmarried women up until at least the 1960s. I'm not saying things have completely changed, there's still shaming that happens especially in more conservative communities, but yes, unmarried women are able to participate in main…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/24 09:29 PM
4	Hypergamy is just the quality of men having to add something to a woman's life. "Spinster" was not a desirable role for a woman to play in society and you know it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/24 03:05 PM
2	Which one are you choosing to see again and which one gets the boot? I'm convinced these posts are fetish fodder or something at this point.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/24 02:11 PM
8	Hypergamy is just the quality of men having to add something to a woman's life. "Women never had to marry out of necessity" - this is not true on any level.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/24 12:19 PM
–	If women were as horny as men they wouldn’t have the delusional standards and pickiness they have In any transaction (since you're framing sex that way) the most desperate party is always at a disadvantage, yes. It's the idea of "beggars can't be choosers" and that's true in literally every realm of interaction, not just in dating or relationships and not specifically in terms of gender. Be less desperate, that's the only "solution" to this "problem"	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/24 08:38 PM
–	Do you agree that the bar is on the floor? I think it's on the floor in some ways and not in others. On an emotional level, the level of emotional involvement women expect from men is actually not that absurd. It's pretty reasonable (although somewhat novel) to expect your husband to be faithful, to emotionally connect, and empathize with you in general, and to treat you like a human being. Not cheating, not being abusive, that's not an insanely high bar to clear either. I do think, though, that the material bar is higher than it has eve…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/24 03:33 PM
9	Your own attractiveness is static, so raising your standards only makes you less likely to find your partner OP didn't say the hypothetical women were trying to date someone out of their league, just that they were raising their standards; there's no description of how attractive the hypothetical single mom in question is. You can also raise your standards in some ways and not others. I just don't think raising your standards universally means you're going to get cheated on (???)	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/24 12:16 AM
13	Your own attractiveness is static, so raising your standards only makes you less likely to find your partner You're assuming everybody wants a partner an equal amount. Some people are raising their standards knowing full well they may end up single as a result, or that finding a partner may take more time, and are willing to make that trade. A single mom has a lot of incentive to raise their standards, honestly - it makes sense that they wouldn't want a bad partner around their kids.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/07/24 11:05 PM
–	Why legalizing prostitution is good for society Then why would that even out the dating market? If the men in question are still dating outside of prostitution?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/24 11:25 PM
–	Why legalizing prostitution is good for society It wouldn't, because prostitutes don't cook or clean or raise kids for you, which is what a lot of men want/need a wife for. Also, there are countries where prostitution is legal where the dating market hasn't been "balanced" because at the end of the day a lot of people (as has been discussed ad nauseum on this subreddit) want an actual intimate connection with another person.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/24 10:36 PM
2	Can a below average man live a bachelor life style? Yeah, if you have a "cool" job. I know some artsy photographer/musician-types who are exactly what you describe who can effectively pull women because they've constructed a pretty effective "sensitive but broke starving artist" image for themselves.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/24 12:53 PM
1	American Men have Normalized dating multiple women to speed up the process of finding ‘the One’ but instead they use this as an excuse to waste time dating multiple (and perhaps getting laid by) women that aren’t even their type "Dating multiple people has only been around for about a decade." I'm going to need a source on that? Gen X-ers were absolutely dating around in college, if my parents' stories are to be believed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/24 01:59 PM
69	Why are adult Anglospherian females obsessed with a man's income? The idea that anglosphere women are uniquely materialistic seems to not be true. I've heard people argue that countries like Korea and India are pretty brutal when it comes to requiring men to have high incomes to compete in the dating market.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/24 05:21 PM
2	Why do people say Tinder doesn’t work? It’s just an interface that mirrors real life dating preferences Looking at a few pictures of a person and 20 words is not the same as meeting a person and seeing if you have chemistry with a person, in person. It's incredibly hard to get the kind of read on a person that lets you know "yes, I could see a potential relationship with that person," with that little information.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/07/24 09:23 PM
6	Women hate the manosphere because the manosphere teaches men to protect themselves from women, which makes it harder for women to exploit us I don't think the average woman knows what the manosphere is at all, because women aren't as obsessed with dating strategy as men, because at the end of the day you guys are more horrified of being alone and/or not having sex or a romantic partner than women are.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/07/24 01:01 PM
–	"you are not entitled to sex. It is not a necessity" is a bad argument Whether or not you agree is arguably meaningless here. It's not an "argument" that you are not entitled to sex, it's "the law." You cannot force someone to have sex with you whether you feel like you deserve it or need it or not. You can unionize, I guess? You guys are welcome to do that with sex if you want to.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/24 12:44 PM
2	Is using economic allegories to human relationships inherently dehumanizing? Yes, and it also mischaracterizes how human interactions work and how subjective and random things like love, attraction, and sex can be.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/24 01:28 AM
18	Feminists who say, "I support women's wrongs" ... what do you mean? I think you might be overthinking it. It's literally just a play on words of "X's rights" vs "X's wrongs"	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/24 11:08 PM
2	What makes a woman pathetic? Being too obsessed with or desperate for external validation will always seem pathetic. (How much is too much? I guess it's debatable/subjective). Passive aggressiveness or cry-bullying is pathetic to see in women too.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/24 06:53 PM
1	Women look better in minimal makeup, and they look even better with no makeup. If you're looking at celebrity women without makeup and calling them 7s I think your standards may be a little high.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/24 05:07 PM
4	Women look better in minimal makeup, and they look even better with no makeup. Watch a "get ready with me" makeup tutorial or the "go to bed with me" series from harper's bazaar on youtube (with the caveat that those women are not only seeing estheticians regularly but have probably had various procedures done to make them look better than most)	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/07/24 11:43 PM
64	Women look better in minimal makeup, and they look even better with no makeup. The issue here, I think, isn't that men are outright lying, it's that they don't know how much makeup the average woman is wearing. I think when men say "minimal makeup" what they actually are referring to, without realizing it, is often foundation, concealer, lip gloss, eyeshadow, mascara, and blush, on top of a skincare routine. But because there's no colorful eyeshadow or dark lipstick they think the woman isn't wearing much. Women don't often talk to men about how much effort they put into t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/07/24 01:14 PM
12	Attractiveness matters to men so there’s no reason for them to be upset when attractiveness matters to women. Women have famously never dieted, you're right.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/07/24 07:58 PM
73	Attractiveness matters to men so there’s no reason for them to be upset when attractiveness matters to women. For a long time a woman's attraction to her husband was considered a non-issue; the idea that a woman deserves/would prefer to be attracted to (much less like) the man she marries or dates is a relatively new priority in terms of dating, I think we're just in a growing period/difficult transition right now. I hope and expect that in a few generations things will settle, men will begrudgingly accept having to prioritize "looks-maxxing" (the way women have done for centuries) a little more, and mo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/07/24 03:07 PM
1	Why do so many guys have a seething hatred for single moms? Do you think that most men who have kids in general are wealthy and attractive? Again, is there anything that exists to back that up? Don't poor people have more kids than rich people?	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/24 08:23 PM
-2	Why do so many guys have a seething hatred for single moms? I think to a lot of those guys it's "proof" that women's standards are nonsensical (i.e. exclude them) because the relationships didn't go the way the single mom wanted. They think that if those women just settled for an uglier, more boring man instead of going for "chad" that they wouldn't have ended up single moms, even though I don't think there's any statistics that back up the idea that most single moms were impregnated by "chads". Some of them also seem mad because some of those women are …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/24 12:25 PM
25	Why are women allowed to have needs but men are always not entitled to a relationship? You're talking about two very different situations. A person is never entitled to a relationship with someone who does not want to be in a relationship with them. Once two people consensually enter into a relationship, there are usually parameters that both parties agree on - "needs" or whatever you want to call them. If one party doesn't want to uphold them or is unhappy, one or both parties can decide to end the relationship. Nobody in either situation is being made to do something against the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/24 09:34 PM
3	Do Childfree HVM exist? Yes (it's rare for a HVM to be childfree) because most high value men begin to prioritize some concept of longevity/legacy after a certain age, even if they put it off for longer than some. To take an extreme example, if you come from a high powered family (say a family with a name - a Getty, a Kennedy, a Morgan, etc.) you'll almost definitely have kids not only because you personally want to but because that's an expectation of anyone with any kind of social standing. After all, who are you goi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/24 09:31 PM
–	It’s 2024. “Go to the gym” and “be confident and maintain frame” is the new “buy her flowers and hold open doors” You should do things because you want to do them. You should work out because it's good for you. You should be confident because it's a good way to move through life and a good place from which to make decisions. You should get women flowers for whom you want to get flowers. Improving yourself is never bad advice because it's good to grow as a person, but the idea that there's one dating strategy that will work 100% of the time, in exactly the same way, for 100% of people, is absurd. Very few th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/24 06:02 PM
4	Is it possible for men to be attracted to women who are 40 plus? Is the idea that men who are less attractive are more inclined to be monogamous or more likely to be attracted to their wives as they age backed up statistically anywhere?	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/24 05:04 PM
–	Once you reach a certain level of attractiveness is there any incentive in working ? Looks fade for everyone. It's a massive risk to bank on your looks lasting long enough for you to create enough of a financial/social cushion to live the rest of your life on after you turn 40, and it's difficult to return to the work force after being out of it for more than a few years. It's absolutely in beautiful women's best interest to have something else to fall back on.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/24 02:08 PM
4	Women making the first move would solve a lot of the issues with modern dating. I'm generalizing here, I acknowledge that, but men aren't generally selecting for assertiveness in women when they date, they're (again, generally) selecting for some manner of nice-ness/agreeable-ness.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/24 02:23 PM
17	Women making the first move would solve a lot of the issues with modern dating. I see this take constantly on here and I think the thing that you guys aren't understanding is that you are selecting for certain personality traits (extroversion, bravery to an extent, confidence, charisma, etc.) when you create a system where men are expected to make the first move. Of course it's frustrating, but it's not accidental. If you're too afraid to approach a woman, people can (almost definitely) make the assumption that you're probably not assertive in other arenas either, which is …	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/24 07:09 PM
2	What is creepy? Not being able to "read a room" or being unwilling to read a room, is creepy. If you're hitting on a woman in a situation that's clearly making her uncomfortable, or pushing too hard in any social situation, romantic or otherwise, and giving off the vibe that you're unable to read the response of the other person, you will come off as creepy. It's not that one behavior is universally creepy necessarily, because other people's reactions to your behavior might not be universal. It's more about not…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/24 02:22 PM
37	Why do men care if older single women are lonely? My opinion: For a long time in Western society, the fear of being an old maid motivated a lot of young women to put up with a lot in terms of relationships in order to avoid that fate. It was treated like an inevitability that your life as an unmarried woman (an "old maid", a "spinster", etc.) would be an unpleasant one in comparison to your life as a married woman, and on some level that was true. You don't want to be a single mother in an era where women couldn't truly live independent, upward…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/24 08:28 PM
2	Getting hobbies is useless advice for dating. Why wouldn't you try to go after girls who you know are into the hobby you're into? Not every single girl is attracted to the same hobbies just like you're not into every single girl who has any hobby. If a girl told you her hobby was embroidery would that automatically make you attracted to her? Why did you think that would work the other way?	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/24 05:23 PM
0	Potential consequences of men being unable to desire casual sex I looked at your post history, just on a hunch, and I think you're maybe focused on the wrong issue here as far as women/dating/sex is concerned, buddy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/24 05:46 PM
–	If it's true that 30 is the new 20, then why do a lot of women still feel like they are competing with younger women? They aren't worried about competing with women in their 20s because they're not dating men in their 20s, and most people date and marry within their own age range. I believe the vast majority of marriages are between people within 2-4 years of age. Women in their 30s are dating and marrying men in their 30s, women in their 20s are dating and marrying men in their 20s.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/24 02:14 PM