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Guy perspective... Porn provides a number of ideas and possibilities that he probably has never thought about. Don't think men have wisdom about sexiness. Boys started out as ignorant as Girls did. When porn provides ideas, you and he can give you new things. Your boyfriend is always trying to learn how to be better for you and he will watch porn and have many other conversations to learn those things that you might like. Because he loves you and wants you to be happy.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/24 03:56 AM
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As an old dude I have always said to my lady employees -- boyfriends have jobs and cars. It is not important what his job is, but if it is enough to pay for a car, then it is good enough to consider as a partner. But more importantly, if he doesn't have a job that pays for a car, he is not boyfriend material, yet.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/24 04:42 AM
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Just say, "I like you. Kiss me now."
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/23 06:22 AM
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Look at yourself. Either say no. Or go for it. It is your decision. What you describe is kind of gross for me; so I would probably say no, but Debbie Harry had sex in the CBGB bathroom stall, which would be way more gross for me. So I guess things are relative. We all have to draw lines. Look at yourself. Where is your line right now? I know this, if you respect yourself today then tomorrow will work itself out.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/23 02:18 AM
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Ok, you are where you are. Own it. You are experienced enough to know that your current boy is the best. Tell him he is the best. Tell him he is better then all of them. You know, and and can make it real.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/23 06:43 AM
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A wife would support her husband in hard times as best as she could, but a boyfriend has a job and a car. Only you know where this relationship is.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/23 01:04 AM
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Ask your LTR partner to take your daughter out with you to dinner, birthdays, and her special events. Expect him to be the Captain and lead the event. Practice with him in advance if needed. Then when your daughter "happens" to be out with a boy she likes, she will know what to expect as appropriate behavior, and what is just poor. This is knowledge that we all need to learn, and it is better for her to learn it with you than with whoever she might bump into.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/23 02:45 AM
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Shouldn't be an issue, but if it comes up say something like "Enough to know better, which is you." But never lie about it. If he freaks out, then he is weird not you. Focus on your relationship not your (or his) history.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/23 02:23 AM
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If it all was 10 years ago and he accepts it, then just move on. If it happens again, then dump him immediately.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/22 04:49 AM
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Run. Just start out walking. Plan to run at least a half mile a couple times a week. You don't need to over do it. You only need to do it every few days. You will start out losing inches not pounds, but eventually the pounds will come off. Best wishes.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/22 11:35 PM
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Say hello, start a conversation, sit at a nearby table, listen to their stories, share your stories, remember their names. Take a girl friend with you if can.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/22 10:05 PM
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Age isn't the problem. It is attitude. Try poking around the STEM men at your school. Many of them are focused on their discipline more than their relationships, but if you can be there for them, they will respond.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/22 12:04 AM
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These people are your parents. Respect them for that. But, you did not choose them. This is how they choose to behave. If you don't like it, then aspire to be better. Their behavior is not your responsibility. Meddling in other peoples affairs is almost always unwise, because exactly no one wants someone to tell them they are a hot mess. So, I would stay out of it. But do learn from it. You know now a bunch of things to not be involved in as your life unfolds.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/22 12:11 AM
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He has you, but wants an open marriage. With who is he going to spend time with other than you? Why does he think this is a good idea? Why would you allow him to split his attention between you and some other women? He is married to you, that is the end of his play time. So, no. Just no.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/22 03:28 AM
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I'm an old married guy, and you are right to not look for the male perspective on vulnerability, because there will never be anything there. This is because no man will express vulnerability to anyone. I know that if I ever did, then the men around me would attack me and also steal anything they could from me while I was weak. There have been some public times that were hard and emotional, but not vulnerable. I did cry at my father's funeral where men and women could see, but that was actual str…
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/22 05:22 AM
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I dated a lady who was 4'11" and bounced around 105-110 lbs for a few years. She got a fair amount of attention. So I think you at 5'2" and 125 lbs would get attention. The key though is to be sporty at that weight, so your weight loss plan should focus on exercise instead of dieting. Try walking/running, cycling, and/or yoga. And your goals should focus on losing inches not losing weight, because the inches will start to change before the weight starts to drop. Have a plan for your clothes as y…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/22 08:21 PM
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Congrats! Hints. Let your partner have some agency. I as the dad had a birthday party for my third son with my other two sons on his literal birthday. It was a blast. We had cupcakes and blue juice. When you are super tired ask your partner to take over until you get a nap. When your partner is wreaked, take charge. Don't forget to keep yourself up. Makeup is not necessary, but showers/baths need to happen. best wishes.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/22 12:39 AM
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He seems like an ok guy. Just be honest. Tell him you want him and want him to take better care of himself. You respect him, so also hope he would respect himself a little more than he has in the past. If he exercises not a lot, but regularly, he'll be more healthy and have a better appearance, even if still the same size. I wouldn't make a big deal about this, but would be clear that you have a preference. He will try and when he does, support and accompany him. He will need you to be there for…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/22 01:54 AM
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I am an old guy who has been married for decades. Women have hit on me over that time. Not every day, but several times a year. I have had to affirmatively reject their advances. During COVID I grew a messy beard. That really decreased unwanted interest. My wife finally put down the law and made me trim it up. Immediately I am being hit on again. I am happy with my wife and our relationship. I do not need extra women in my life. So, if your guy can't keep it in his pants now when y'all are about…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/22 02:07 AM
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I think there is a nuance here. If a couple act as if they are FWB that leaves the future undetermined; I think that could be ok for the future relationship. If, however, they say they are FWB that curtails the future to be nothing more, because at least one of the partners is specifically asserting an unwillingness to commit; that is not good for the future relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 01:22 AM
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My nephew died from a congenital heart defect 30 days from his birth. That your son has challenges makes me sad, but you and your husband can do this.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/22 02:03 AM
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My wife and I started later, and then had 3 in 5 years. Were we challenged sometimes, sure, but it does get easier with more children. And each of them is a unique individual and we are so grateful for each one. We did choose to live near our parents, so we could fall back on them from time to time. I think that was a good choice for us, but don't know if that would work for you. Best wishes to you and your family.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/22 08:42 PM
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That is what I thought too. Turn the question into an opportunity for a flirty joke, like 'I hadn't met you yet.'
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/22 02:21 PM
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At the end of every day ask him how you can help him more. You are already doing a lot, so this question will both reinforce his appreciation of your current support and help you plan for what he needs in the future.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/22 02:10 AM
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I am not sure how you might bring this up, but adding a whole body exercise like running or dead-lifts into his routine will balance his muscle development. Maybe you and he can go on a joint jog/run for a mile once a week. It really will help.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/22 12:22 AM
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Just be kind and invite him into your workouts. Ignore his vaping and reluctance to go to the gym. He wants to be with you and will be where you are eventually. He might not really understand your workouts. I am a guy and into lifting now, but was more into rowing earlier, and my friend wants me to do yoga, which is weird for me now. Maybe I'll learn better. Repeating myself, just be kind and continously invite him into your world.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/22 06:30 AM
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He is a single guy with a job and a car. He works at a company that one of your girlfriends works at also. He wants kids but won't tell anyone that he does. He doesn't like his mother and wants to make a new family that will be better but will keep that quiet too. Ask your girlfriends to set you up.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/22 02:24 AM
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You have been clear about your needs and he is not willing to meet them. Are you willing to change your needs? Is he willing to change what he gives? Both probably not. Move along.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/22 12:51 AM
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Just dump him. He is crap. There are 100,000 guys who want to be your man. Honestly if I were not in a relationship I would be hitting on you. Find any one of them instead.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/21 03:58 AM
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Why is some girl important in your dating experience. This is not a competition. Ignore her and find the men you love. Best wishes.
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/21 06:00 AM
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Wow you are really focused on yourself. Stop that. Talk to other people every day. Everything will improve immediately.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/21 02:27 PM
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Guy. Married. 30 years. So my body count is on one hand. Your premise is weird. There are a lot of girls I have had a chance with but did not sleep with that I do not regret having avoided. I know what I like and discovered most of these things with my wife during the last 30 years, and can say that me previously banging other girls wouldn't have made my wife happier. Not having a bunch of failed relationships also makes me happy. Not only because I avoided the heart ache, but that the ladies I …
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/21 04:11 AM
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Yah, you are right. If my sons are having problems finding decent women, I am sure that decent women are having trouble finding decent men. Maybe someone here could start a post about thoughts on where successful relationships begin.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 10:43 PM
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It is pretty sad these days. I am an old guy with three sons. Each of them have jobs, one or more cars, and stable housing and no issues. None have a girlfriend. One tried, but she was so crazy that she wouldn't let him go to his grandmother's funeral, because it upset her plans, so he had to dump her to attend. Believe me, his brothers noticed. Women are the problem today. My boys can just make some money now and wait until the current crop of crazy girls age out. And I don't blame them for the…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 05:22 AM
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I have a degree in Math and completely understand your husband's career challenges. They are very hard and often challenge his confidence that he can continue to succeed in our field. People and colleagues in this field are also mostly extremely structured and inconsiderate. So, you have a challenge to create a welcoming home, because at work he is constantly looking out for the next attack from people who are extremely dangerous to your livelihood. I suggest that every day that you have the ene…
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/21 02:43 AM
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It sounds like you are doing your best. The first three months with a child are really demanding for both parents. He is probably also overloaded now and your attention was how he is accustomed to recharging. Let him know you are tired too and ask him to help you get an additional hour of sleep, so you can help him recharge as well.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/21 01:17 AM
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Wow. Ok, this is a weird problem. I am a guy. Here are my thoughts. He is sending this extremely personal stuff to you, so you are definitely the most important person he knows. Stand on that. Why does he have time to find this stuff? He should be busy making money and catering to your needs. Could you be more demanding of his time? I think, but am not sure, that he is doing this to demand your attention. Perhaps he is concerned that you are not paying him enough attention or are playing the fie…
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/21 02:41 AM
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I understand your concern. It is something I worried about at your age. You have inspired me to share my experience. I have learned it is not about your past, it is about your future. Just to be clear, I am a guy, and have been married to a woman for 30 years. This is one potential future cast from my experience. My number is small. My wife's number is less. And we are happy with that. So, over the years we only could experience new things together and we sorted out what we liked and didn't. Bec…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/21 02:04 AM
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Ok, your concerns are reasonable, but don't obsess about it. I will include a graphic from the NY Times from a few years ago (https://i.imgur.com/3JQsmNl.jpg) that says a 34 year old woman could on average have between 3 and 6 children by age 45. Everyone is different, so no guarantees, but you have every reason to believe that you can be the mom you want to be when you find the partner that works for you.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/21 04:27 AM
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I don't know if this will work for you and yours, but when you are about to take control, rather than making a decision, instead describe the problem to him; tell him why it is a problem for you; ask him his opinion. He almost certainly doesn't know about your concerns on that topic, but once you raise it as a problem, I bet he would try to address it, and if not you can keep doing what you are doing. His outcomes will probably not be the solutions you would have tried, but if he is actively wor…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/21 12:33 AM
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Look, some day you will be asking some guy to trust you to be his one and only. But you both know you gave it away for $$. So how much trust equals $$? He doesn't know, and that will move him to another girl he can trust. You will never win this argument with him. Please walk away from these thoughts.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/20 04:05 AM
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Yah, I agree with this. But given where you are, just tell him that cash is gross, and instead he should make it up by buying you a thoughtful gift.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/20 02:27 AM
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This is just my rules, your significant other should never be physically alone with an ex. In person group events are not a big deal. Social media in public forums is also not a big deal. Direct messages and private email, ought not be encouraged, but also not terrible if infrequent and linked to life events such as births, deaths, and changes in jobs or locations. This whole topic is fraught with risk, I would suggest that you clearly set some boundaries that make sense to you, and then be as g…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/20 01:41 AM
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If you want your guy to last longer in bed, then simply do it more frequently. Cut the time between events in half until he lasts as long as you need. Then maintain that interval between cuddles for long enough that he internalizes how to do what you want. A guy in his twentys can easily perform once or twice a day if that is what it takes. He might get some muscle soreness from the workout, but it won't hurt him.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/20 11:45 PM
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Easy chicken noodle soup. Bring two quarts of chicken stock to a boil, dump in half a pound of egg noodles, open a can of chicken breast and chop it before dumping it in the pot. Add garlic, parsley, celery seed, salt, and pepper to taste. When the noodles are cooked in about 8-10 minutes, you are done. Let sit for 5-10 minutes to cool. Super easy and quick.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/20 04:27 AM
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Opinionated people are annoying. It has no relationship to being man or woman. Just stop talking and listen. This change works for everyone of all genders.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/20 02:42 AM
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No man would watch porn if a woman was catching his attention. Just be attentive and available and this is not a problem. If being attentive and available is not possible, then the relationship is over, move on.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/19 06:04 AM
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Just pick out new places to eat and have events. Be proactive and avoid the things that bother you. He probably doesn't even know about your concern. Gently push your relationship into your comfort zone.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/19 04:00 AM
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Yes. You are your best therapist. Talk to yourself. If that is working then you are good. If not, ask for help.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/19 01:17 AM
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Your English is great. Relax about that. You are almost done with your career stuff, just power through that. It will last you a lifetime. Next, with your newfound career power, go snag you a man, who makes a good wage and settle down. Having a steady job is a good distraction when you are wrangling a bunch of kids. Just relax and be honest with yourself and your partner about the plan.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 04:42 AM
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I think this is a really bad idea. Over the course of many games, lots of women will lose to men. They will feel terrible knowing they lost even when given a step up. Similarly, the many women players who win will have their achievement tarnished by knowing their male opponents were playing at a disadvantage. When we make games to compete with one one other, we need to avoid creating advantages that are not skill based. That is why we don't allow performance enhancing drugs in the Olympics. And …
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/19 01:20 AM
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I don't understand why your question seems to have stirred up so much angst in the comment section. I do think you are pointing out a real problem today, which we need to try to sort out. As you indicate, never underestimate how important listening is in every relationship. With that you can frame your opinion in the context of the conversation, which respects not just your opinion but also your partner's. Finally, every relationship that endures benefits both partners. So, ensure that to the ex…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/19 02:54 AM
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Your use of the word disrespect is not appropriate here. When my wife crashed her car into her other car for failing to set a parking brake, she made a mistake. Neither she nor I disrespected each other. We laughed and paid the deductible. So, lighten up Frances.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/19 05:23 AM
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The easiest way to lose weight is to run. Work your way up to a couple miles twice a week, which is less than an hour a week of exercise including time for changing clothes. The unwanted weight will disappear in a few months. Don’t worry about diet. That should sort itself out if you keep with the program.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/19 01:27 AM
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From my man perspective, birth control is condoms, condoms, condoms. Expect to spend some time experimenting with different brands and features to find the ones that work best. Pretty much any other approach is hard to make work, from my perspective.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/19 02:40 AM
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I'm glad you shared your story. Lots of readers share your experience. I don't know what you should do. What I would do is to look into the mirror in the morning and forgive myself for all my yesterdays, think kind thoughts about those who I might have hurt, and proceed into the gift of this new day with confidence and kindness.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/19 03:20 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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