ranchdaddo Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	Wife kicked me out, how long til I can see kids? Me neither but until he has a temporary custody order, his situation is likely getting worse by the day while he’s gone. If a woman left she would just take the kids with her and nobody would bat an eye.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/10/23 08:04 PM
2	My ex-wife is demanding half the proceeds from the sale of our house, even though she made no financial contributions to the purchase or maintenance of the property. Our marriage was nullified after less than three years. Do I have to give her half? You need to talk to a lawyer but if she was never legally your wife then I don’t see how she can force you to do anything. She’d have to sue you in civil court and try to prove that she’s entitled to it outside of marriage law.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/09/23 03:35 PM
44	You can really tell who the Walk-Away Wives are on r/divorce, can't you? There was one complaining today about how she had to pay child support to the guy who left her. So angry that she earned all the money and had to pay this guy. Welcome to the club, sister.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/09/23 02:07 AM
2	Do most good family law attorneys charge for the first consultation? A lawyer told me so, but I am not sure if it is true. The really good ones usually do because their time is pretty valuable. IMO if their reputation is good enough, that consultation fee is worth every penny.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/09/23 01:24 AM
3	Top 10 mistakes men make in divorce And then when they do find them, the judge rips you a new one.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/09/23 08:26 PM
2	Are divorces in Texas less brutal than the rest of America? It’s fairly uncommon though and generally only if the wife never/barely worked.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/09/23 12:22 PM
2	I got on Tinder You can get hookers in the US too, lol	/r/Divorce_Men	25/08/23 01:06 PM
5	Want a divorce but terrified of the unknown Just think about more decades of that and dying miserable, then divorce doesn’t seem so scary. Make an appointment with a lawyer just to get the lay of the land. It’s no commitment and it takes part of the unknown out of the equation.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/08/23 02:33 PM
6	You guys are the fucking problem The only reason women have a leg up in this game is because men accept a woman who brings nothing to the table except sex. If we judged them on the same criteria they judge us (money, status, career, provider), only a small fraction would be suitable for consideration in a long term relationship.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/05/23 11:49 PM
3	I live in California and have been married for 20 years and my wife has been having another affair. This is the second time she’s done this and will be the third time she’s moved out, assuming she’s serious again. You’re the primary caregiver, she’s making the money, she’s having an affair. Seems like open and shut “go to a lawyer, get primary custody, and demand your child support (and maybe alimony)” type of situation to me.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/04/23 04:49 PM
4	Promising the world in the face of divorce. Some people hit rock bottom and change. Some people are afraid to lose their situation/control and start manipulating their partner to stay. How likely it is really depends on the person and their history.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/04/23 04:03 PM
4	Scheduled consultation to start divorce, what questions to ask? Sorry for your hard times brother. But you are in a unique situation for men. The house being in her name is irrelevant if purchased with joint assets and was for communal use. She may owe you spousal support for the huge disparity in income, too. Her savings are your savings unless you signed some sort of prenup. Your legal fees should be shared with her in the settlement. Don’t accept anything less than what you’re entitled to and make sure your attorney is willing to advocate for you.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/04/23 02:12 AM
1	How to deal with her having a boyfriend There is no research to confirm that it works. lol… well I guess at least it feels like it works	/r/Divorce_Men	22/04/23 12:48 AM
2	Dating as a divorced man - Googling/background checks and is there a double standard? 💯 Women actually value a man that’s not all over socials but it also drives the crazy ones crazy because they have no dirt or leverage. Also they have a complete double standard because they will post every stupid detail of their life for public consumption.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/04/23 12:28 AM
1	Dating as a divorced man - Googling/background checks and is there a double standard? If they have a problem with fair play, they are not the one. Dodge that bullet brother.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/04/23 12:24 AM
5	'Hit the gym'. Exercise is the most effective anti-depressant and it also happens to have lots of other good effects. Self-confidence that comes from it is powerful.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/04/23 12:06 AM
3	Can’t believe I’m here Definitely get some good legal advice. Now she’s establishing the status quo that she’s the more available parent (for custody) and that she needs spousal support (since she had no income).	/r/Divorce_Men	21/04/23 02:31 PM
2	When ex missed exchange time, advice 🎯	/r/Divorce_Men	21/04/23 02:59 AM
3	My wife’s OCD compulsions border on abusive. Should I divorce? Mine had OCPD, which is a little different, but it also destroyed the marriage because it interfered with everything and made life just suck and not worth living together. Either she commits to serious treatment or you need to go. It won’t get better by doing it one inch at a time. Also it sounds like you don’t share values anymore (eg religious stuff) so maybe it’s better you just go live your life in peace anyway. Now imagine what it would be like to have children with this woman… crank it up …	/r/Divorce_Men	20/04/23 03:20 PM
3	I messed up. She wants divorce. I don’t. Doubt you’ll find answers here. Sounds like a good topic for individual therapy	/r/Divorce_Men	16/04/23 10:44 PM
1	Can I Use my Ex’s Weed Dependency to Get Full Custody? Damn. Driving my kids around drunk, I think I’d be calling the cops on her every time I could. That’s crazy. I got hit by an intoxicated woman with a kid in the back. She didn’t buckle him up right and he flew into the windshield. He went to the children’s hospital with life-threatening brain and other injuries. She got sent to prison for 7 years.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/04/23 09:39 PM
2	What is this guys take? That’s sucks. Seems like parental alienation though and a judge wouldn’t take kindly to a mother pulling a fast one like this. Good luck, brother.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/04/23 03:12 PM
1	What is this guys take? Seems like you have enough evidence to get primary custody of your children based on her history in choosing men who are around your children. She is gonna lose that court battle trying to take your kids to Hawaii. You have the upper hand. Be cool and collected, fact-based. Get your kids.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/04/23 03:06 PM
1	How do you guys deal with the fact your ex-wives could pick anyone up in a week, but it might take you YEARS (or never)? Go to therapy brother. It helps and there is no shame in it.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/04/23 04:52 PM
8	How do you guys deal with the fact your ex-wives could pick anyone up in a week, but it might take you YEARS (or never)? Congrats on that W	/r/Divorce_Men	12/04/23 04:48 PM
1	She wants the house! True, and also if you have the paper trail. Once you mix it in a joint account or something, all bets are off.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/04/23 04:43 PM
1	She wants the house! Unfortunately this is not true unless you spelled it out in some prenup or other agreement.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/04/23 04:21 PM
4	Just got into an argument with my ex At least you can breathe a sigh of relief that you are not married to this woman anymore 😂	/r/Divorce_Men	12/04/23 01:28 PM
1	Pre-marital assets used to purchase property, how do we deal with buy out? Once you co-mingle separate assets or use them for joint purposes, you generally forfeit the right to consider it a separate asset. Expensive lesson. All you can hope for now is that she falls for this idea and agrees to subtract it. Good luck.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/23 03:27 AM
1	Equity sharing company to buy a STBX out of house? Seems like it would only make sense in a sentimental situation where you really want to keep the house. Financially you’d be better off taking your half of the equity from sale and buying your own house, or investing in the S&P 500 long term. To know for sure I’d have to understand how much of your future gains they’re taking. I’m guessing it’s a lot.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/23 12:47 AM
0	Outside of not getting married, is there anything I can plan for legally in advance like trusts, taking note of assets before marriage thoroughly, and prenups? I would actually bet a woman who keeps her name is more likely to be educated and accomplished, rather than a leech who wants a meal ticket. But these are all generalizations… marriage is dangerous for men anyway.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/04/23 02:09 AM
1	Any father here got sole legal or physical custody? Seem like in Texas it only matters if the mother is the one leaving. Dad can stay there during the divorce and the court will still give her primary custody and make him pay the child support even if he ultimately has them 50% of the time. Or am I wrong?	/r/Divorce_Men	04/04/23 07:38 PM
2	Wife wants a second child and I don’t. She threatened divorce over this. Brother I was in this situation and my wife was saying the same things. I chose to believe her, then had another, all that went out the window and life became just as hard as I imagined. Trust your instinct on this one and don’t budge. If she keeps pestering you then call her bluff and let her file for divorce.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/04/23 11:25 PM
3	Cordell & Cordell admitting to billing me when they shouldn't have and offering a 1% refund. 👍	/r/Divorce_Men	27/03/23 03:40 PM
6	Cordell & Cordell admitting to billing me when they shouldn't have and offering a 1% refund. As much as it’s satisfying to dream about, suing a law firm is likely just going to bury you in even more debt and consume your life.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/03/23 03:15 PM
14	Am I crazy to leave a “good man” because I’m unhappy at the lack of emotional connection? “We have a dead bedroom but it’s not because my vagina literally won’t open, it’s his fault” 🙃	/r/Divorce_Men	23/03/23 01:34 AM
4	Will an Attorney Ever Work Pro Bono? They aren’t going to work for free but that doesn’t mean they’ll drop the case. Lawyers always get paid first and once they get a handle on your assets, if there are any, they’ll work as hard as needed to get their fee from your assets.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/03/23 08:09 PM
2	If we can't agree on what to do with the house, what happens? Lol. Imagine if a man’s divorce attorney could just tell the wife to “get a job”. Get what you’re owed under the law.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/03/23 12:28 AM
4	Amicable Divorce Could get Ugly Over One Major Issue She’s trying to let you off easy so she can raise your kid with another man and cut you out for the most part. You’re not going to have 50/50 custody from 6 hours away, no matter what she’s telling you. And when this eventually goes to court as a custody battle, she’s gonna win cause you let her take your daughter 6 hours away. The time to fight is now. Might have to part with some of that money to keep your daughter around.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/03/23 11:34 PM
3	Officially filed, feeling bittersweet and conflicted Time to move on, brother. Your feelings are normal. You cared for her and it ended poorly. But you are feeling grief, not regret. You’ve done the right thing in this situation and time will heal.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/03/23 11:24 PM
2	Separation v. Divorce? Courts won’t care. She’s entitled to half the equity in it and you’re entitled to half the equity in hers, unless a judge decides differently.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/03/23 12:08 AM
1	Passive interest on premarital assets?????? ☝️ if genders were reversed this would be open and shut	/r/Divorce_Men	18/03/23 02:05 AM
3	Just started the process She figured out she’s at a disadvantage under the law and now wants to exploit your emotions to let her just skate away with your house and your equity. Don’t fall for it.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/03/23 01:44 AM
13	At my whits end, think divorce is only option I dunno man I’m just a guy on the internet but your situation with this person sounds insanely toxic and she’s gonna keep hiding things from you, putting you in further debt, and actively triangulating and estranging you from your children. Someone like this virtually never gets better - they lack the capability of insight and introspection. However bad it is now, it’s only going to get worse if you stay with her.	/r/Divorce_Men	17/03/23 11:18 PM
16	Would you consider cohabiting with men (platonically) for the rest of your lives opposed to marrying again? I’d definitely rather live alone after spending so much time having to consider someone else’s opinion about everything in my home…	/r/Divorce_Men	17/03/23 12:42 AM