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| 2 | Lets say you have rock solid proof that your wife cheated with a married man. Do you tell the wife of the AP or keep silent to maintain the peace for the sake of your kids?I wouldn't do it. Her being unemployed will not work out in his favor. The job market is fubar to boot. Revenge is great, I love it. But only if it's at no charge to me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/02/25 02:29 PM |
| 4 | Best version of yourselfI thought step 1 was buy a bed frame. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/01/25 01:15 PM |
| 1 | Considering divorce. ExhaustedThere was about a 4 month period where my ex-wife had moved ahead of me to a different state about 7 hours away. I had stayed behind to make repairs on the house, sell some stuff, and prepare it as a rental. Just me, this empty house, and a shitty air mattress. I was driving to see her at minimum every other weekend, and I'd just dread it. Not the drive, but having to deal with her in person. She accused me for years of dragging my feet on closing that place up, and I swore up and down she was w… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/01/25 02:26 AM |
| 3 | [US/IL] EX’s Notice of RelocationTalk to your lawyer about if hiring a GAL would benefit you here. I can't imagine a reasonable GAL would find this relocation in the best interests of your children. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 09:23 AM |
| 6 | LostFor starters, I wouldn't cancel that motion for contempt this time. Good luck, friend. I'd be livid. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/01/25 10:23 PM |
| 2 | Want to break stuff... What to break?Chop some wood. It's getting cold out anyway | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/11/24 12:36 AM |
| 5 | Lonely/ Desire companionship/ not sure the risk is worth itI can confirm. Drank beer on the sofa for 3 years. No women to be found there lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/11/24 07:59 PM |
| 6 | Found out the ex is pregnant with her new husbandI couldn't begin to imagine the suffering that is 44 and a new baby. Fuuuuuuck that | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/11/24 11:16 AM |
| 10 | It’s been over 2 years and I still can’t seem to move onBro, you're raw as fuck right now and I get it. She cheated. You're not alone. Pick yourself up, dust off, and carry on my man. There's more to YOU than this relationship. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/11/24 03:18 AM |
| 2 | Alcohol and shameDo you really think this is all about your drinking? | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/10/24 11:39 PM |
| 2 | Can’t sleepTry insight timer or one of the meditation apps. If you have an open mind to that kind of thing anyway. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/10/24 10:06 AM |
| 2 | Did coparenting get easier as time went on?Life's just too short to be having a week long fight over a missing lunch box lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/10/24 12:55 AM |
| 2 | Did coparenting get easier as time went on?3 years in, yes. She's got a whole new life now, and we don't give enough of a shit about each other to create drama over little bullshit. All of the conflict early on was emotionally amplified. I was just as guilty. Send the kids over without xyz and I was ready to throw the fuck down anytime and everytime. It's just the way it was meant to be. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/10/24 08:14 PM |
| 1 | Divorcing a depressed wifeDoes she have a psychiatrist? Is she medicated? | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/10/24 09:05 AM |
| 1 | Long old story, but am I in the wrong? And feel free to destroy me in the commentsI get that bro. Glad you're back and coherent lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/10/24 12:21 AM |
| 2 | Long old story, but am I in the wrong? And feel free to destroy me in the commentsYou really got a thing for commas. Is this some AI nonsense? | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/10/24 08:47 AM |
| 5 | Dating and sharing expensesWe don't want your perspective. Bye | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/10/24 03:08 AM |
| 0 | What did I do??Im going to get smacked for this one... But what do you deserve spousal support for? What were your contributions? How did you support her business? You're sure not her accountant. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/10/24 11:15 PM |
| 4 | Midlife crisis divorced men in here?...Please help me understandGo to r/divorce desperate wife | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/09/24 01:45 AM |
| 8 | What was the event that led to your divorce? Was it preventative?She's a bitch and no. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/09/24 07:25 PM |
| 7 | Finally I recently found an apartment but no furniture yet.Yes, and use the opportunity to extract their ideas. Where do you want your bed? What kind of desk do you want? Where do you want your Slipknot posters? | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/09/24 03:57 PM |
| 2 | I feel trapped after the divorce. hear me about!You'll adjust, and it'll get easier. They'll also get older, and it'll get increasingly easier. Mine are 10 and 13. I don't have 50/50 because I'm a loser who laid down with a bottle of vodka rather than fight for my rights to be a parent. I only mention that because if I did have 50/50, it would be no issue at all to run out to the gym with them in my custody. Hell, I could step out for the day if I needed to. I think it's just hard right now and overwhelming you. You won't get the genie back i… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/09/24 04:17 AM |
| 7 | Wife thinks I’m being ridiculousI understand what you mean about the blacking out part, and I understand why you said it. But logic does not apply here. You didn't blackout, and she's reaching for anything to blame you about. But I'd really advise you never to say anything like that again to her. Next thing you know, you'll be this monster blacking out in a rage and beating her up. And she'll have you just about admitting it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/09/24 06:50 AM |
| 3 | Soon to be Ex is sp mean when SadIf you don't have kids, then at least it'll be over soon. Once the house is gone, she won't have the opportunity to lash out at you since there's nothing left to discuss. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/09/24 02:10 AM |
| 8 | In the military and ex wife is at it againBro, that video probably has 5 views. 4 are from her pig friends, and the other one is from you. Stop wanting that shit. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/09/24 04:14 PM |
| 6 | I didn’t want the divorce even though she was abusiveMaybe I'm reaching here or interjecting too much of my own similar story. But.. The part where you make up and she's kind to you again. That's a very addictive feeling. She'll make you feel the worst you've ever felt and then make you feel the best you've ever felt. Sounds a bit like drugs, huh? You need to feel normal and stable, not high on her or in the bowels of depression. Either of which is completely up to how she's feeling that moment. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/08/24 02:23 PM |
| 3 | What did you wish you added to your detailed parenting plan with a toxic narcissist that does parental alienation? Advice pleaseGot burnt badly on this one. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/08/24 04:59 AM |
| 24 | Ex's love interest says he will beat me upThe fact your kid defended you and immediately came and told you about it is a silver lining. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/08/24 03:00 PM |
| 3 | Good credit score, being forced into bankruptcy by divorce judgeWell man, I hope your lawyer gets it sorted for you quickly. That's just insane | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/08/24 06:16 PM |
| 6 | Good credit score, being forced into bankruptcy by divorce judge$27k is likely more than 100% of your net monthly income. This judgment makes zero sense. What did your attorney say? | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/08/24 06:09 PM |
| 7 | Help to be able to cope and deal with your divorceI'd like to add one if I may. Stay the hell away from the booze! Weekend 6er? No problem. Pounding a 12 pack a night? You're on thin ice if not already broken through. It'll be vodka for breakfast before you know it. Signed: Guy who lost a few years to the bottle trying to "cope" | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/08/24 01:43 AM |
| 3 | Another thing I won’t miss from the ex….For real! And she'd have the audacity to complain the entire time about how much of a hassle it all was. 90% of her life's irritations we're self-imposed. Moron.. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/08/24 02:25 AM |
| 4 | Anyone else think about "switching teams"?You never forget your first cellie | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/08/24 10:09 PM |
| 4 | LonelinessThere's a lot of good advice in this thread. Working out is a great one and truly helped me a lot through the spot you're in now. But honestly, it sounds like you have too much weight on having a partner to make you happy. That's an observation from another guy who had too much need for being with someone to feel fulfilled. It defined my self-worth and had since I was a teen. No girlfriend? "You're a sad loser" was my thoughts.. I feel like getting past that need for validation balanced my life … | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/24 02:53 PM |
| 22 | Campsite ObservationsI often notice the glazed over eyes of men shopping with their spouses. Target is the worst.. The male misery in Target it palpable. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/24 02:20 AM |
| 2 | All a woman has to do is marry an engineer in college, wait 10 years and she’s retiredYou should gtfo before that "nuke" goes off then. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/08/24 01:38 AM |
| 3 | Divorcing an okay marriageAre you a drinker too? Are these clashes a result of both of you drinking? I really think that was a huge factor in my divorce. It was like either I was drinking, she was drinking, or we both were drinking. And in all three of those scenarios shit got ugly. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/24 07:04 PM |
| 16 | What did you learn the hard way from your marriage and divorce experience?When you're have a live in girlfriend who is staying in YOUR apartment, while you're deployed to a combat zone, and she makes an adultfriendfinder account, it's time to send her back to her mom. Not marry her... It is ill advised to believe the irrational excuses because you really wanted to believe those irrational excuses. To me, that is THE mistake that spawned all future mistakes. That was my opportunity to have a better life with a more committed and considerate partner. Someone who perhaps… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/24 02:03 AM |
| 1 | Ex wife is asking that I make my daughter the beneficiary of my life insurance, pension and annuity. What if I have more kids?I really don't like that rule. I had no idea. I guess there's another reason to not get remarried. Every penny I have will go to my kids and no one else. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/24 12:29 AM |
| 11 | The new guyThis is another one of those "worry about what you can control" answers. Other than sinking that fuckers boat, not much that can be done. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/24 01:02 AM |
| 1 | Questionable actions and safety of kids.Bro, I'd have lost my fucking shit. I'm sorry you and the kid had to go through that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/24 03:02 AM |
| 2 | Why does it still bother me?Honestly, if you want to avoid being like me, that's the attitude to have. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/07/24 01:04 PM |
| 8 | Why does it still bother me?I could have written this myself. It's been three years and I still feel it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/07/24 12:50 AM |
| 8 | My wife just threatened separating.Get out while you have nothing for her to take. Once she's gone go conquer the world brother. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/06/24 01:19 AM |
| 3 | Tomorrow I will go to court to defend myself against a ROSo you're saying don't throw a chair at your ex and flip off the bailiff? | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/06/24 08:52 PM |
| 2 | Wow! Told my wife I’m done last night…Oh god, you work at the same school?! How are you going to handle that? Find a new job or stay there? I wouldn't be able to do it man. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/06/24 11:06 AM |
| 5 | When people talk about working on themselves after divorce, or "doing the work" - what does that look like?Damn, that's a lot of work. Wish I could just be pretty and sit on my ass all day. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/06/24 10:56 AM |
| 3 | Back to court?I guess you have to, or it'll just keep happening. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/06/24 01:52 AM |
| 1 | Is this fair?Where did these numbers come from? | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/06/24 11:36 PM |
| 14 | SAH Wife wants Divorce and wants to move the kids out of stateShe doesn't get to "decide" if she claims child support. It's ordered by the court whether she wants it or not. You will pay regardless. I'd but a hundred bucks, there's an old fling back home she's got an eye on. Block this move however you can. She was dumb enough to give you forewarning about it. I had only days to try to prevent my kids from being relocated and was completely powerless to stop it. It took me over a year, thousands of dollars to move near them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/06/24 01:50 PM |
| 5 | 354 text messages over 10 days w/ some guy and she still denied cheatingHow specific was his threat to "get you"? Might be worth starting a paper trail on that one. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/05/24 03:05 PM |
| 6 | No one prepares you for the sheer volume of discovery in a high conflict divorce.What were some of the dumbest questions? I'm just curious. I didn't have to deal with that shit personally. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/05/24 12:08 AM |
| 4 | Why don’t men go on “healing journeys”?I got other people's bills to pay. I dont get to go anywhere. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/24 01:25 AM |
| 7 | 50/50 is changing to 86/14I say let her derail... | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/24 03:51 PM |
| 6 | Marriage insurance for menI can't imagine any underwriter would touch this. Unless the premiums were huge. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/05/24 01:10 PM |
| 5 | Trust women or bearBears don't tell everyone your business, so I guess bear. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/05/24 12:15 PM |
| 2 | Mother's dayYes, this is the fourth year I have. I refuse to do it myself, however. Either the kids participate or they know they'll have nothing to give mommy dearest. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/05/24 11:00 AM |
| 3 | Has anyone considered Legal Separation? Why did you choose divorce instead?Where are you located? Some states require a separation for x period of time. You might have to do it anyway. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/05/24 02:09 PM |
| 11 | Advice, but you’ll ignore it.Are we talking about that bitch jenny? | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/04/24 09:10 PM |
| 6 | 20 year+ marriage has become a prison cell. I can’t stay any longer, but I can’t seem to leave.If nothing else, it sure sounds like you did everything you could to salvage things. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/04/24 07:54 PM |
| 10 | The lack of accountability becomes laughableHow dare you. You drove her to drink, obviously! | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/04/24 11:33 PM |
| 1 | Increase Income From Here. How?That's probably a great place to get ideas. Those folks are professional ghosts | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/04/24 05:26 PM |
| 5 | Not divorced yet, but seems likelyI'm 42, self isolate, am divorced, and still alive. No divorce is going to kill you, friend. You stand the fuck up and power through it like I know you can. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/04/24 09:47 PM |
| 8 | Need Some AdviceThose are pretty critical ages, I would suggest you be there homie. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/04/24 01:03 AM |
| 9 | Anyone is staying single permanently?I honestly can not afford the risk of ending up with a repeat of the last one. It's just not worth the gamble. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/04/24 09:58 PM |
| 4 | What bad habits did you pick up during separation and divorce your trying to quitI turned into one of those bicycle people. I've never been a cyclist, but now I have too many bicycles. Theres worse problems to have though. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/04/24 12:49 PM |
| 7 | Meh…If you think she has BPD, then you probably know enough about BPD to know it's just going to get worse. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/04/24 01:40 PM |
| 6 | Wife not paying for college support for our sonThe decree says sell the house, so not doing that could be considered contempt. If this is just a bluff to get her to play along, then I say go for it. Just don't actually refuse to sign or somehow interrupt the sale. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/24 01:55 AM |
| 7 | Wife not paying for college support for our sonDoes your divorce decree say you'll sell the house and divide the equity? If so, interrupting that process by not signing until your demands are met might end up used against you in court. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/24 01:45 AM |
| 3 | Gym MotivationI take a bunch of pre workout, and then I don't have a choice but to burn it off. Maybe it's all in my head, but I'm going with it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/03/24 09:36 PM |
| 8 | I'm losing control of myself and she continues to lie to meI think he knows that man 😅 | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/03/24 11:24 PM |
| 18 | Did you sleep with your x-wife after the divorce?I'd rather fuck an ant hill. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/02/24 12:06 PM |
| 10 | How long do you keep a pissing match going?Has she found a new man yet? My ex chilled out a good bit once she found someone else to abuse. Shit deal for him but worked out great for me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/24 12:48 PM |
| 17 | Post divorce phasesHow do you guys party, run through women, hold down a job, handle kids, AND process a divorce like this? Some of you dudes are super human. I barely left my bed for months 😅 | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/24 03:05 AM |
| 13 | Hearing about AP from daughterThat's some ruthless bullshit right there. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/24 01:52 AM |
| 2 | [MI] Wife and I are splittingIt's a term for maintaining critical information and secrets. The military slogan "loose lips sink ships" speaks to maintaining good opsec. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/24 06:00 PM |
| 1 | I’m glad to be getting divorcedI didn't have the will to fight it when it all went down. At this point, I just tell myself that at least my kids are well provided for. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/02/24 09:59 PM |
| 3 | I’m glad to be getting divorcedI pay 40% as well. Only for ten years though. Sorry brother, that's rough. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/02/24 08:50 PM |
| 6 | Alimony 11 k/month 5 years 10 k /month 5 years !?I make 20 k/month after taxes is this as horrendous a deal as it appears???Good lord! I'd love to smack your judge | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/01/24 11:36 PM |
| 3 | I screw up, does it get better?It's not too late to become super dad. Invest in your children while the rest of you recovers from your divorce. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/01/24 04:06 PM |
| 1 | trying to get full custody from an narcissistOh OK, good luck 👍 | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/01/24 05:39 PM |
| 0 | trying to get full custody from an narcissistWhy does your ex deserve no custody? Maybe I'm overlooking something egregious here. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/01/24 05:14 PM |
| 3 | Letting the F#%$ GoDamn bro, that felt like a tough talk from my dad. Truth. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/24 01:50 AM |
| 3 | Just a ‘Friend’!How'd she take it? | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/24 12:26 AM |
| 15 | Just a ‘Friend’!She had "just a friend" once. Waved it in my face for months, almost inviting me to lose it. I bugged the bedroom and heard them being very good friends. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/24 12:25 AM |
| 3 | Hearing to set trial... Anyone else have this happen?I'd fucking disappear off the map | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/01/24 09:28 PM |
| 10 | Deck the halls with… yeah one of the worst weeks everI remember the days when I couldn't buy an Xbox with my own money. Noooo thank you | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/12/23 10:14 PM |
| 4 | Question on alimonyHow long were you married? That seems a major factor aside from employment, which you've described. Her not being a stay at home mom sure helps your situation. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/12/23 01:43 PM |
| 3 | Any men on here who are finally fully healed, but didn’t sufficiently heal for at least 2-3 years after separation / divorce?I hear ya man, it's been 2.5 years now, and I'm in limbo. I'm running out of things to try other than dating. But that doesn't seem a healthy solution, and I'd rather avoid the hassle anyway. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/12/23 05:33 AM |
| 16 | To sleep with your eXThat's bait for something | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/11/23 07:24 PM |
| 4 | Wives who had affairs, did their relationship last with their AP?That's sure a lot of money for no kids. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/11/23 11:55 AM |
| 4 | Will I regret deciding to never get married?The money you save not getting married can be used for some amazing end of life care. Go chill in a pimped out assisted living facility. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/11/23 11:52 PM |
| 4 | I GOT MARRIED TO PROCREATE... now I have a beautiful child but realize there's no connection (AT ALL) with my wife.I might have overlooked this part, but did you two ever have the connection you're looking for? | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/11/23 10:06 AM |
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