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LIFESTYLEraspberry_rain/r/RedPillWomen21/07/21 01:18 AM
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LIFESTYLEraspberry_rain/r/RedPillWomen16/11/20 04:53 PM
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I will never understand this perspective. I’m 27 and jumped straight into my career at 22 as soon as I finished college. I have hair to the small of my back and dress very feminine. Lots of skirts and dresses, lots of pink, lots of headbands. It never stopped me from rising the ranks. I’ve almost always been the youngest person in every role I’ve held. But I’ve been good at what I do and I’ve risen the ranks accordingly. Oh, the feminine appearance did help land me an amazing man though…..my bos…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/21 02:23 PM
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You use more emojis than an MLM hun but I love this post! Thank you so much for it. Very heart warming reminder. I’m going to give my amazing man an extra bit of encouragement and appreciation today!
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/21 02:08 PM
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For me I think the key is you let him take the initiative to make it official BUT until he does…you’re dating other people and you’re not sleeping with him or anyone else. You do things that way you have nothing to lose.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/21 07:39 PM
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Cute cute cute! I love satin. Thank you 😊
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/21 01:54 AM
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Late to the party but I love this! My boyfriend bought me lunch today and a random guy on the street complimented me (non cat call esque) by telling me I had on a really pretty dress.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/21 01:20 AM
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I agree! Poor girl has a bunch of downvotes on a comment that literally says “yes!” In response to being asked if English is her first language. It’s really necessary to downvote someone for saying yes? OP is 19. 90 percent of us are older than her. Let’s be good role models and have grace and treat her with dignity regardless of specific opinions. That’s what this sub is about. Downvote spamming isn’t gracious at all. It’s just tacky.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/21 09:45 PM
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Jeeez I’m so sorry OP. I hear how hard this must be for you and your husband to be so excited and have everyone else saying such awful hurtful things. At the end of the day it’s your life and your baby. I’m sure you’ll be an amazing mom. Hopefully with time as your friends and family see that they will come around. I think there’s just a lot of stigma around being a parent so young but IMO there shouldn’t be.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/21 02:30 PM
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Going to second this! I used to have this issue with my boyfriend. I was always the initiator and pursuer. I was getting lots of sex but wasn’t getting what I really craved (feeling desired and chased) Due to some crazy circumstances we ended up long distance for two months. Let me tell ya, I got back and that man was ravenous and chasing as hard as when we were brand new! That flipped a switch for me. I’d previously had fears that he wasn’t attracted to me if he wasn’t at me 24/7, or that porn …
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/21 05:05 PM
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Neither would I. If they started dating at 21 or younger than okay, but older than that? Total waste of time. It doesn’t take five years for two stable adults to know if they’re compatible for marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/20 08:07 AM
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I’m not OP but good lord unless you started dating in high school or very early college (like OPs age at the oldest) it should not take five years of a relationship to get married. Talk about wheel spinning.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/20 05:09 AM
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I would steer clear of Tinder. I don’t think it’s impossible to find a guy who will wait for a relationship on tinder but for marriage? That’s gonna be a needle in a haystack. Hinge, OKC, match (I’ve never used match just a disclaimer) etc. you’ll probably have way more success on because those are generally more serious apps to begin with and you have a lot more room to write about yourself. As far as your bio, I would definitely recommend specifying that you’re waiting for marriage as opposed …
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/20 03:46 AM
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Same here!! Almost the exact same story. I “made the first move” with my captain. I had to. He was my boss. He’s a very ethical person and while I got strong vibes that he liked me, he never acted on it at all. I explicitly asked him if he’d ever date an employee. That was all I had to do. I didn’t chase. But I made it clear I’d be open to being chased and he did exactly that. Chased me and chased me hard. Been together for a year now.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/20 12:17 AM
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I want to drink 64 ounces of water daily and a cup of green tea daily every day this month. I got one of those cute 64 ounce motivational bottles from amazon.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/20 03:40 PM
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Frequent contributor to the birth control sub here, they may be able to help more as well. I like them. Yeah I think you’re probably safe if you use all three of those methods together for a single time until you can figure out something else. But I agree with the other commenter, long term it isn’t really sustainable if you’re that worried about pregnancy and there are lots of good ways to get birth control. The other commenter helped a lot with that.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/20 03:16 AM
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I hear you on that! Fortunately I don’t. My current SO is a wonderful and stable man. My three other exes besides that one are also good, stable men, we just didn’t work out. Two are happily married, the other is doing quite well for himself. That one ex was definitely an anomaly for me (and coincidentally the only one I met online)
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/20 07:15 PM
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I don’t think I have a lot of issues, aside from a definite tendency to be too nice, and unwilling to set good boundaries. Which again, is something that I’ve made a lot of progress in since finding Laura Doyle (can not recommend her books and podcasts nearly enough) I’m in my mid twenties, college educated, stable career in social work, high SMV I think (hate saying that about myself though because it’s so subjective), N count of 4 counting my current SO and they’ve all been relationships, no k…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/20 04:39 PM
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OLD in my case. And I don’t mean Tinder. This was a way more respectable LTR app. He presented very well. Sent a long and thoughtful message and really caught my attention in a sea of “hey”
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/20 01:03 AM
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Happened to me in my last relationship. He gave up on life completely. I tried to be a supportive girlfriend and cheer him on (disclaimer, I’ve since become more familiar with Laura Doyle’s methodology and there are a lot of things I would have done differently in hindsight, but I’m also kinda glad I didn’t because I’m with the man of my dreams now) He quit working, described himself as “not a full time job” sort of person (neither am I but I’m a pay the bills sort of person) wanted to use my mi…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/20 08:36 PM
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As soon as I read this I thought “this sounds like a vindicta participant” checked your post history and sure enough. I HATE that sub. One of the best things you can do for your SMV, RMV, and life in general is GTFO vindicta. I’m a recovered anorexic. I used to run a Xanga page (I’m old af) for pro ED content. I know the harm that stuff does to people. Vindicta is an absolute breeding ground for body dysmorphia and anger and how it hasn’t been banned I have no idea. It’s a combination of proED a…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 06:32 PM
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I think there’s a balance. There’s unconditional love and then there’s a one sided relationship. I speak from the perspective of an LTR, not yet married, so it’s a little different. I wouldn’t leave my man or lose respect or love over something out of his control, a job loss, an injury or illness that left him unable to work/function/have sex, inability to have kids, etc. I WOULD leave or lose respect/love over something within his control. Completely letting himself go, refusing to work when ca…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 06:06 PM
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Move on. You’re obviously not attracted. If you’re genuinely attracted to someone on everything else you’ll be able to overlook their height easily. My man is 5’8 ish. I’m 5’6 and was previously always a 6’1-6’3 kinda girl. But I’m wildly attracted to my SO and never even notice his height, let alone wish he was taller.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 03:21 PM
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Smooth and easy. All natural births, no c sections (which was starting to become rare even in the 90s) no IVF, no fertility treatments (in fact, I was a honeymoon baby)and we are all healthy. No autism, Down syndrome,or birth defects. She did have one miscarriage between me and my oldest brother but that’s not much of an age thing I don’t think, because I’ve known many younger women have that too sadly.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/20 12:42 AM
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Same. We never split. Going Dutch feels like being friends. He pays or I pay. I’ll pay for the whole date in a heartbeat before I’d ever go Dutch. He pays 90 percent of the time but I like to treat him as thanks from time to time.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/20 07:28 PM
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Ew
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/11/20 07:08 PM
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I don’t necessarily have advice but I’m so happy to see someone else feels this way. I too am caught on the fence regarding wanting kids and it feels like such a rare place to be. Everyone either dreams desperately of becoming a mother or is staunchly child free. Some of us really just.....don’t know.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/20 05:20 PM
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Absolutely I do! There are a number of women in that situation. The environment is extremely supportive. I was astonished by how kind everyone is.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/20 04:33 PM
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Girl you have so much time! My mom has 3 kids, I’m her oldest and she had me at 34! Had my brothers at 37 and 39. You’re 23. You have time.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/20 03:32 AM
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I was raised pretty conservative. Evangelical, no sex before marriage parents. I had a purity ring in high school. My family wasn’t as hardcore as some though. I went to school, wore pants, was allowed to date as a teen, and never read Joshua Harris. I think the biggest thing my upbringing did negatively for me was to give me an obsession with my looks. I was taught that men were basically raging hornballs who would irresistibly lust over any woman showing an inch of skin. Their goal in teaching…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/20 01:43 AM
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I agree with your sentiment, not saying OP married the wrong man though, everyone is different, but watching my man do any of those things definitely makes me horny because I love his thoughtfulness and it’s sexy to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/20 01:37 AM
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I think it’s all about boundaries. I have male friends and my man has female friends. We don’t hang out with these individuals one on one. If we hang out with them it’s in a mixed gender group setting and we inform the other person first. We trust each other. I don’t care if he texts female friends and he doesn’t care if I text male friends. I don’t feel threatened by it. I trust him not to get romantic or sexual with them. He trusts me the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/20 01:32 AM
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I hear you! I looooove hosting too! So much fun to play domestic goddess! That said, there’s no reason his gatherings should stop your whole night! You deserve fun and self care too. Maybe you can strike a balance by setting out whatever snacks/drinks/fun hostess things you want at the beginning and giving a warm greeting and then anything they want after that they have to fend for themselves or ask your H?
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/20 12:15 AM
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Update. I’m reading your post history and now I’m not so sure. But I’d rather err on the side of compassion. So in the off chance you’re legit, no this is not normal. This is extremely abusive and something you should never have to put up with. Please leave as soon as you safely can. I can DM you resources if you live in the US.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/20 03:13 AM
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I didn’t even have to read past your first sentence. I work with DV survivors. This ain’t it. This is a mockery.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/20 03:09 AM
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Try harder troll.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/20 02:31 AM
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That would definitely make sense.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/20 07:12 PM
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I think it definitely matters to an extent. Maybe my brain works weird but I have sort of a mental minimal attraction threshold. If I find you physically UNATTRACTIVE there’s no amount of personality that can overcome that. But if I find you average/above average but not necessarily smoking hot your personality can make all the difference in the world.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/20 06:19 PM
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I hear you! Thank you for clarifying that.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/20 11:32 PM
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Maybe I don’t fully understand black pill. I’ve always seen it as very similar to MGTOW. And I find that a lot of MGTOW are actually very decent men. I’m more than willing to grant that. I I’m not much of a debater and still have a lot to learn. Particularly about the dating game, I’m fortunate to have been off the market with a wonderful captain for a while now so my single and dating perspectives are definitely not fresh. I tend to play devil’s advocate on this sort of thing I guess (and yes, …
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/20 11:17 PM
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Agreed. I definitely wouldn’t want her to land a loser. But we don’t know this man. We have no idea whether he’s a loser. She’s the one who will have to be the judge of that. If she thinks he’s a high value man who treats her well and her only concern is “does the fact that he’s black pilled mean he hates all women?” I’m here to tell her that the answer is no. It may very well just mean he’s a good man who’s experienced some rough stuff and is a little jaded. If he’s treating her poorly or talki…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/20 10:23 PM
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Cause it’s her life and if she wants to she can. To clarify I didn’t say she should fix him. But the right woman can inspire a man to greatness. I’ve seen this for myself. I also said no one would blame her if she didn’t want to. I trust that OP is an adult and capable of deciding for herself what a healthy relationship looks like. She knows this man. We don’t. She knows how he acts, what he believes, how “broken” he is or isn’t much better than we do.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/20 09:35 PM
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Here’s the thing. Deep down, no man (that means you MGTOW/WAATGM/braincels lurkers) hates all women without exception (well maybe Ted Bundy) they hate their experience. They hate society, they hate the way they’ve been treated. They’re hurt and disappointed and that comes out as anger (wrongful anger definitely but that’s their choice) deep down, they’d love a woman to prove them wrong. If you’re up to the challenge, I say go for it. It’s an amazing feeling to activate a man’s hero gene. A man w…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/20 08:48 PM
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I adore it 😊
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/20 04:21 AM
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You get 7 group coaching calls a week, access to one on one coaching opportunities from time to time, a Facebook group to post in for support (the coaches respond to posts) a monthly in depth seminar with Laura, and an online printable curriculum that goes into way more detail about the skills. I’ve been in it since August and I’m loving it. Idk why I was downvoted. OP specifically referenced paid programs which is the only reason I brought it up.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/20 03:41 AM
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I’m not a shill for paid things but since you’re specifically asking, I’m in Laura Doyle’s Ridiculously Happy Wife program. It’s 300 dollars a month. You can cancel at any time. It’s CHANGED MY LIFE. The only caveat is you have to have a significant other, it isn’t for single women. But she has a podcast which I love! It’s totally free and speaks to relationships but even if you’re single it’s great info for the future.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/20 05:08 PM
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I guess this can be a cultural thing so I’m not here to disrespect anyone else’s culture but it’s a no from me. Not that it’s legal in the US where I live anyway.
/r/RedPillWives16/11/20 07:57 PM
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Thank you so much for this detailed response! I will definitely check these out :) and thank you for the point about portion control. I think this has definitely contributed to my weight gain. I try and eat on his level and I just can’t.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/20 07:33 PM
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Thank you so much! This sounds doable for me. I wish I was a veggie lover but I’m just not. I do love fruit though.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/20 07:32 PM
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I’m a pretty good cook, not professional by any means but I know my way around a kitchen and love to cook :) We both have pretty diverse taste. We love Italian (we are both Italian American) we love Mediterranean, Mexican, Thai, and classic American. I love spicy, he’s not a fan. He loves most vegetables, I only like certain veggies.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/20 06:56 PM
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Skirts, dresses, heels, jewelry, hair accessories, makeup, perfume, hairstyles, silk, velvet (forest green is BEAUTIFUL in velvet) lace, feminine cut tops and pants that enhance your curves, nail polish, bell sleeves, delicate/low necklines, soft cashmere, flowy romantic pieces, florals. Not one of those things is color specific. You can absolutely look beautiful and feminine in green and purple.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/20 04:51 PM
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I’m a younger woman in a relationship with an older man. I don’t think I’m “naive to my dissolving value and eventual disposal by him” and I think you’re painting with a broad brush stroke. I could say a lot about this but the obvious answer to your direct question is that I’ll get older but I’ll never be his age. A man in his forties may not like women in their forties but that same man in his sixties? Would be thrilled with a woman in her forties! In twenty years when I’m in my forties he will…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/20 07:22 PM
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