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INSIGHTFULraspberryjam1/r/RedPillWives18/08/19 06:30 PM
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ADVICEraspberryjam1/r/RedPillWives18/07/18 08:28 PM
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Should i , 19 , lose it to a guy i like i met on dating app ​ don’t plan on losing it anytime soon ​ i am open to him fucking other women Could you explain your goal? So far I'm seeing: You enjoy giving/receiving online (written only?) attention and don't mind if the men you do it with are doing it (or more) with other women because you want to save sex until marriage and you don't plan on marrying "anytime soon." If so, have you actually already achieved your goal? :) I think sex with this man …
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/22 06:34 PM
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I apologize for breaking both Rule 2 and Rule 10. Thank you for correcting me and removing my comment. It was genuinely meant in good faith. I should have been much softer. That's something I'm working on. I didn't mean to imply that he was one of them (TRP men that have goals that don't line up with RPW and use amoral tactics to get them--- thank you). I meant to say that suggesting RPW start in a pool where those men (TRP men that have goals that don't line up with RPW and use amoral tactics t…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 12:24 AM
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I agree. OP has specifics in mind, but she's entertaining people who don't check those boxes. How would she stop going on first dates that are doomed from the start? By exclusively dating pre-vetted friends of friends and online?
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/22 10:40 PM
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Without any other information, I think you've been relegated to plate. With that in mind, consider how a lady would end this connection. Be direct, be kind, keep it impersonal, release him, and stay focused on your goal. Keep vetting the others. Thank him (in your head) for showing you he isn't the one. You are ever closer to your goal!!
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/22 10:00 PM
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Wanted to add that the pool of men declaring they're serious about wanting to marry and fully provide is sliiiiimmm. Let women know that's what you really want and your stock will increase significantly without any other changes. Then make the other changes. I believe in both you and OP! Just stay as far away from bitterness as you can. Potential romantic partners tend to hate that.
/r/RedPillWives11/07/22 08:56 PM
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As a self-proclaimed world traveler, why does it sound like you've never left your house and only read about developed countries on men's rights forums? There are loads of cis-gendered heterosexual women wishing for cis-gendered heterosexual men to provide for them and their children in the developed world. Don't blame you striking out on submissive men or domme trans women. Instead (OP and u/thepowerelite): The smartest thing you can do is assess (or reassess) what you're offering as sole bread…
/r/RedPillWives11/07/22 08:45 PM
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This is a physically dangerous situation. Leave and do not try to repair your relationship with this man. Go nun mode. Work out why you would consider going back to a man who broke your glasses and has said he will kill you. Remember that he could have removed himself from the situation and he didn't. Imagine that escalating in the future. Imagine him being like that with your children.
/r/RedPillWives06/10/21 06:05 PM
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Interesting! My experience has been the opposite.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/21 11:52 PM
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Right?? Where are the mods? This isn't female sexual/relationship strategy. It's bonkers made up anti-Semitic regurgitation. Some Jewish people have done well financially in the world, oh no! They must rule all business and commerce. eyeroll
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/21 03:20 AM
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both can be enslaved by people that still keep very traditional and rigid family and sex stereotypes, such as the rothschild family. That escalated quickly. Anti-Semitic conspiracy theories? Why is this getting upvoted???
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/21 02:57 AM
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You do not need to be a full-time homemaker if that's what works best for you and your family, but mental stimulation, learning, and growth can happen inside the home as well as outside and having children isn't possible for all or required.
/r/RedPillWives22/08/21 05:56 AM
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A couple weeks, I was invited a couple days ago If I wanted my husband to be able to go camping with me, my cousin, and a friend, I would plan dates with him or give as much notice as I could, not invite him last minute. Especially if there was a child involved I knew he'd need to organize for. ​ when I told him I would be bringing my child he told me that wouldn’t work because they would be drinking all weekend and that would be inappropriate around them Children can be around some alcohol. Dri…
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/21 12:14 AM
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Long distance with a man 6 years younger than you? Are you okay with no family for 10 to 15 years? Next.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/21 11:45 PM
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Were you invited? It seems like this would have been the perfect time to have introduced the two of you seeing as how they're such close opposite sex solo camping buddies.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/21 07:21 PM
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Hard nope, men who need side plates aren't high value and he's likely to leave wifey for a younger hotter side plate eventually, especially after the kids hit 18. Plus, I don't think there's any way to not take resources from the wife or children. Time is a resource. I assume more resources would be involved too: money, libido, energy. And he could bring home an STI/STD. This is essentially willingly giving up her spot as wife IMO.
/r/RedPillWives03/08/21 11:29 PM
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Also, dessert has the added bonus of being dessert, haha, so he'll be more likely to ooh and ahh over it thus giving you what you're looking for in that moment. There's intelligence, not shame, in easy wins. I agree with other commenters. Ask him to tell you when the friend will be bringing food since it's on a regular fairly frequent basis (if he can...) and then don't make dinner that night that way your dishes aren't "competing." You're not an inferior woman and you don't need to compete with…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/20 05:30 PM
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Also, fabric content. 100% cotton is going to look better than a shiny poly blend. Also, elastane holds up better and longer than spandex.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/20 05:56 PM
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I had heard of RP and MGTOW and wanted to understand the anger these men seemed to have towards women, so I started there. It was too toxic to read much of though. It felt like unhealed and unhealthy trauma victims sharing short term tips on how to stay unhealed and unhealthy in their relationships with the opposite sex. Then I found RP Women and RP Wives which IMO seemed to be more positive for both sexes. Probably RP theory doesn't agree with me there, but I still think it's more fulfilling fo…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/20 05:45 PM
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I have a friend who did something similar when we were teenagers, but with a guy with a girlfriend. She longed for someone, he was pursuing her, and she felt like he was all/the best she could do. It wasn't true, of course, and being the other woman really did hurt her psyche and took her a long time to get over. Hurting other women hurts us and being less than we want to be in relationships hurts us. I'm proud of you. Being with a married man is wrong and you can't take it back but you can move…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/20 08:54 PM
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Your friend is inexperienced and it shows. Her mindset isn't healthy and she's making you doubt your relationship for no reason. Keep on keepin' on and don't listen to any relationship advice she gives you.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/20 04:28 AM
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Hi back, lovely! ​ I just don’t know what’s normal anymore. That's okay. Listen to me. This is not normal and this is not RP. ​ Like, you see the part where I’m an asshole too, right?? 100%. And still full-heartedly I say this: I know a man IRL who is currently in prison for beating a man to death because "He fucking lost it." I went to the movies with this man once. I would not have said he was capable of taking a life, but he was and he did. Your physical safety is the number one most importan…
/r/RedPillWives20/09/20 11:01 PM
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Woah, he's attacking your breasts like it's adding a loaf of bread to the cart. You need to talk to him seriously about how his behavior is affecting you. Does he really think this is okay?
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/20 03:39 PM
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Right? He basically said "I pictured myself with someone like Angelina Jolie." You and a million other guys who can't get her. And I'm sure OP sees herself more with someone like Brad Pitt. *eye roll* I guess he's dealing with an identity shift in his head in a very poor way? "I saw myself more with the top 0.0002541% of women and I needed that to feel like I'm in the top 0.0002541% of men. What do I do now?" or is it just hitting him that he'll never sleep with another women? Both? Idk.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/20 03:18 PM
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Calia shampoos and conditioners (but the Balancing ones in particular) have been a godsend. I swear. I am re-buying for life unless I someday find something even more amazing. They're a little pricy, but natural and have made my good hair days go up so much. I air dry and use a 100% silk pillowcase. Jojoba oil and rose hip seed oil are also great. I have a wooden hair brush, but mostly finger brush pre-shower w/ a tiny bit of oil or in the shower with the conditioner. It has good slip. In terms …
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/20 03:15 AM
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Oh yum, plum jelly sounds incredible. I would eat a whole jar too.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/20 03:00 PM
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I don't find it rude at all, but I'm also 29 and an open person. To me it's only rude when the intention is to be ageist and I feel like it's pretty easy to tell if someone's asking because they're interested vs. asking because they only date <25.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/20 11:55 PM
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IMO her cheeriness and confidence might be an "act" but her sentiments seem genuine and the info is quite good! This is exactly how I feel and why I watch her.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/20 02:38 PM
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AlexandrasGirlyTalk Oh wow! Thank you for this. First video I clicked on is incredible.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/20 02:36 PM
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He knows where you're coming from. Who has a drunken coed party in an airbnb for their 22nd birthday that their significant other is not allowed to attend? IMO he's gas lighting you. I'm so sorry. Big hugs.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/20 06:30 AM
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I second pilates at home! I like this one by Mari Winsor, Miley's trainer when she was IMO in her best shape) : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0XBicA9rBpE This one's also good by POP pilates/Blogilates/Cassey Ho: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lCg_gh_fppI
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/20 03:49 AM
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Hubby & I are moving into a new apartment with a bath tub soon and I'm so grateful. It's not fancy or anything, but I've been without a tub for 5+ years and I can't wait for all the face masks, hair masks, good book, and epsom salt soaks.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/20 03:24 AM
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I thought withholding sex and using sex as a weapon in marriage went against RP philosophy? Wouldn't a proper Captain step up his diet/exercise, model not gaining 10 lbs himself, and make love to his wife while they both work on it separately/together?
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/20 04:43 PM
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I find porn difficult emotionally as well, but definitely draw the line at mutual masturbation. Being "not in person together" negates very little for me. My husband had a virtual work meeting this morning. It was still a meeting. I talked to my dad online on Thursday. Our conversation was a conversation. In a few hours, I'm having an online therapy session. Best believe it's considered a billable psychiatric appointment by my insurance company. The internet isn't a magic lawless wild west where…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/20 04:18 PM
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Ask around your family and friends if anyone knows anyone who’s looking. That gives you a character reference. Take a certified infant/child CPR class (bonus points if it’s also a basic child care class). The Red Cross is good. It’ll cost a chunk but it will ONLY help you. Some families will also require it, so you’ll have it done and come across as more serious/smart/capable/prepared. You only need one family. If you’re good, word of mouth will get you more jobs. I got four other jobs from my o…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/20 04:19 PM
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This is smart if you want to hold onto your job. I purposefully wore high cut tops and minimal to no makeup as a nanny. It seems more respectful of the wife. I don’t see this as men’s nature though, so much as human nature. Imagine if instead of you they hired a gorgeous tan muscular man with a sly smile and the ripple of youth. Airplane-ing the kids. It wouldn’t be dad keeping himself in check.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/20 03:13 PM
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How to Marry a Millionaire (1953, Marilyn Monroe, Betty Grable, Lauren Bacall)
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/20 03:18 AM
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Good recommendation re: teaching them not to share makeup. Especially eye makeup. I'll always remember my childhood babysitter getting a terrible stye from using a friend's mascara.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/20 01:52 AM
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I'm so sorry you had to witness that. Your mom deserved better. You deserved better.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/20 05:39 PM
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100%. It's not ok when women do it either. I would never joke with my husband about sleeping on the couch and would not kick him out of bed. If the situation was dire enough that I would want to, it would be dire enough that I would leave the house, stay at a friends house, stay with family, get a hotel room, etc. We're talking serious offenses only though. None of which have happened in our nearly 7 years together. And, no, it wouldn't include him not giving me head when he was too tired from w…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/20 05:31 PM
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a good number of the guys there are used to letting connections and money carry them through life so they lack goals and work ethic which are 2 attractive traits to me. I would explore this thought more. Are you letting your status as a scholarship student (aka merit based acceptance, working hard) cloud your judgement of the men in class next to you? I mostly went to these types of schools. Yes, there are people that get in (high percentage) or are able to coast (low percentage) because of dona…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 07:24 PM
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He was horny when he sent it and now he's not. He's not interested in you beyond that and he wants it to go away. Any other reasons don't really matter. Move on to someone who cares about starting something up with you enough to not risk sending a dick pic.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 06:58 PM
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The World Health Organization (WHO) moved being transgendered from the mental health category to the sexual health category 1.5+ years ago based on the latest most up-to-date scientific research. Genetic influences and prenatal hormone levels are believed to be part of the equation. So, nature and not just nurture. We have to remember that scientific fact is always evolving as we find new information. Just FYI since RP is about swallowing the hard facts.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 06:07 PM
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Oooh. Thank you so much. I didn't know this existed.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/19 05:28 PM
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Great comment even if it wasn't the focus!! Thank you!!
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/19 04:47 AM
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Thank you! I appreciate your responses. Interesting discussion. :)
/r/RedPillWives20/08/19 06:47 PM
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Also, I feel like it's important to state because I'm not sure if everyone is aware: He's been sober for 15 years and their whole relationship (dating and marriage) is only 12 years old. So, he was far into recovery before they even got together. This might close the gap a little. ????
/r/RedPillWives19/08/19 11:33 PM
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I agree. Picking one is easier and more black and white, but that wouldn't be accurate to his experience. I'm someone with co-morbid doctor diagnosed anxiety/depression disorders and I can just state from my experience that it is fully possible to have very low self-esteem and simultaneously have high confidence in certain areas.
/r/RedPillWives19/08/19 11:22 PM
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I think they're viewed this way because so many people are flawed, with flawed pasts and flawed coping mechanisms, in flawed relationships, with flawed partners... It can be refreshing to feel less alone and to hear what worked for someone else. A lot of people also relate to depression and substance abuse. They've either experienced one or both themselves or it's affected their lives in some way through family/friends/work/etc. I definitely don't think they're relationship goals though. People …
/r/RedPillWives19/08/19 11:13 PM
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Thank you for your perspective! I appreciate you taking the time! I understand why you find it tedious for people to talk about how hard marriage is without anything positive or constructive or learned, but I'm interested to know why you find it tedious when those things are present. I guess I read their talking about marriage being hard a little differently than you do. For instance, who said it was "that hard?" We're not in their relationship, right? Could this be projection? Maybe "hard" just…
/r/RedPillWives19/08/19 10:39 PM
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Great post! Would love another one. I’m relatively new still to the RPW community and think highly of it, but get turned off when I see things like “Shit Post Saturdays.” I know everyone needs an outlet to voice their frustrations when they feel like the minority, but when I see things like this I wonder— Is this practicing the best most ladylike behavior? Is this grace? I would be curious to know how many BP women come across these subs with interest only to be turned off by petty unnecessary b…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/19 04:46 PM
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I’m in therapy right now trying to correct decades of incorrectly using shame as a motivator. A necessary evil, yes, but healthy levels of shame should be low.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/19 04:05 PM
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I think you’re taking your experience (makes total sense) and trying to figure out the world (also makes total sense), but in doing so attempting to project your experience onto the whole of the industry and looking for examples to back up your projection. Similar to what the women in your office were doing just flipped. My husband works in tech/IT as well. His team is generally all male. I completely love my husband and respect the work he does, but their office culture is very lax. They play M…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/19 04:09 PM
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I’ve had a parent die. Is he only going for the weekend? Can he extend that? Is this a relationship you see progressing to marriage? If yes and it won’t hurt you financially, I would try to get time off work and go be with him (not for the weekend obviously, but if he’s able to stay longer). I don’t know your boyfriend, but that could mean a lot and people don’t forget those things. If that doesn’t make sense or isn’t possible, just keep doing what you’re doing. Be open to him. Grief has no time…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/19 03:35 PM
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I agree that it’s a bit weird. Even classy bars tend to be loud and dark and are meant for socializing sans book so you’ll look a little out of place which opens you up to negative/positive interpretation based on the viewer’s temperament and life experience. However, if I saw a man I thought was attractive reading a book in a bar I do think it would increase my chances of talking to him simply because it would give me an intro. I met my husband at a party. I was introduced to him by a mutual ac…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/19 04:11 PM
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I'm not sure if you'd think Rice-a-Roni has less of a stigma, but if so I recommend their Cheddar Broccoli with 1 lb ground beef and 1/2 16 oz. bag frozen broccoli. I like it better than Hamburger Helper. They use water and butter so no milk needed and everything is freezer and shelf stable so it's easy to always have around. I definitely lean on it from time to time.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/19 03:52 AM
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I would say no. If your goal is marriage, you’re going to have to date. Dating theory and RP theory is great, but not when it’s stopping you from giving your number to or going out with men who are interested in you. If you’re not interested in him, that’s different, but pull out to the larger picture. Why would a man who may never have even heard about these theories only approach you or ask you out during the day to get laid? Maybe he’s just confident and found you attractive or maybe he worke…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/19 03:36 PM
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Why does he think it's normal or just for men to get the "option" to sleep with other women (be it threesomes or sex on the side) inside of their marriage covenant? This is not being a good Captain. This is rocking the boat and nearly tipping it over because you find other women attractive. I would get into therapy quickly. Singles and couples. If you can afford to, do it sooner rather than later. Don't wait until the house is sold. Don't wait until he's got himself a bachelor pad and fixed it u…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/19 04:14 PM
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I like them a lot! Highly recommend. They're much softer than regular pads, better for the environment, and save my husband and I money. I tried them initially, couldn't figure out a sustainable-for-my-lifestyle washing system, and gave up. But thankfully, I gave it another go three years ago (wow) with a different approach and have used them ever since. I use, fold in half top-side in, snap shut, and store in my plastic basin under the bathroom sink until the end of my period. My husband knows …
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/19 01:44 AM
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I use a plastic basin as well. The only thing I really soak and scrub by hand these days are my cloth menstrual pads though or if something has a stain that needs to be treated and worked out. I use mesh lingerie bags and bra bags plus cold water and air dry on foldable mesh racks for all lingerie, lace, wool, cashmere, silk, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/19 11:43 PM
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Not only that, but silk is great for curly hair. Satiny smooth lowered friction + non-moisture absorbing + amino acids = less frizz. I just bought a silk pillow case and am kicking myself for not buying one earlier. They help fight wrinkles vs. cotton too! I'm definitely looking into getting a silk scrunchy soon (and a scarf or two as I can afford them, but I'll wait a bit longer on that). I also think brass hair pins can look very simple and elegant while keeping the beautiful ethereal wildness…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/19 04:41 AM
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Two— Clinique Black Honey and MAC Ruby Woo. ;) But, no, really I would have as many as you want that you can reasonably use up before they need to be thrown out. It’s more important to wear one lipstick than have thirty sitting on the shelf.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/19 06:02 PM
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Best wishes to the bride! Lovely classic ring and it fits your hand just beautifully.
/r/RedPillWives05/01/19 04:53 PM
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