ratjoker Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
22	Dating world sucks and I'm tired of it (and myself)	support request	ratjoker	/r/MenSupportMen	05/03/22 10:24 AM
14	I cannot bear the loneliness	support request	ratjoker	/r/MenSupportMen	23/10/21 11:51 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	Mid-week check-in A woman I liked and fancied for the past few months is now dating some guy. I didn't confess or escalate things because of work time and distance. And I wanted to know her better and take it slow, differently from other times where I confessed/asked people out sooner rather than later. We hanged out only a couple of times before and honestly she's such a cool and interesting lady. A rejection or unrequited love/attraction wouldn't be that big of a deal for me if it wasn't the umpteenth time this…	/r/MenSupportMen	01/03/22 04:15 PM
2	I cannot bear the loneliness Healthy people don't need to use sex for validation because they have solved their insecurity Your comment would make sense if rejection and heartbreak (especially if repeated many times in one's life) wouldn't affect mental health at all in the history of humankind. And it's not just about sex. It's normal to have some level of "desperation" at this point to be honest. And people need to understand it. But they don't because fuck lonely people, I guess.	/r/MenSupportMen	06/12/21 08:34 AM
1	I cannot bear the loneliness No woman's love, ever, can fix anyone's problems. I never said it did. Never did I say anything about a woman solving my issues. Ever. I just said that it would be really nice to have something like intimacy with another person in my life. But it's incredibly frustrating not to have it while the world has it as easily as snapping their fingers, whenever they want. With whoever they want. As if it was the most normal thing in the world. I just got rejected by my crush some time ago and then found…	/r/MenSupportMen	06/12/21 08:04 AM
0	I cannot bear the loneliness You're acting like years of rejection and lack of intimacy don't affect mental health and confidence at all, therefore they cannot create frustration, loneliness and desperation. Or that a minimum of confidence and self-esteem isn't based on previous successes in the past. By being completely "stoic" you confirm what I said earlier in a another comment, that women expect us to be emotionless machines without a drop of vulnerability and emotional insecurity, in order be considered enough and attr…	/r/MenSupportMen	02/11/21 09:26 PM
1	I cannot bear the loneliness Women can tell when a man feels desperate and is looking for sex or validation Plus, isn't that what everybody is looking for normally?	/r/MenSupportMen	28/10/21 06:28 AM
1	I cannot bear the loneliness I mentioned it in another comment.	/r/MenSupportMen	28/10/21 05:59 AM
1	I cannot bear the loneliness Wish I had your same luck and optimism that came from that luck.	/r/MenSupportMen	26/10/21 11:18 AM
1	I cannot bear the loneliness Do you think that you've always struggled or was there some period in your life when things got worse? Always struggled.	/r/MenSupportMen	26/10/21 06:33 AM
1	I cannot bear the loneliness What about virginity and little (or no) experience with women at such an old age? You know many women find it unattractive as well right? Hell, some of them even consider it as a red flag.	/r/MenSupportMen	24/10/21 07:33 AM
1	I cannot bear the loneliness If I move my attention to something else, it would be even worse. Men are expected to be active and pursue women most of the time. And I can assure you that what you're saying didn't work for me. Sorry.	/r/MenSupportMen	24/10/21 06:47 AM
3	I cannot bear the loneliness What makes you think you have an inability to get into relationships? Have you identified what your personal hurdles are? Social awkwardness, lack of some social skills, insecurity in how I talk and express myself, opening up emotionally (which is unattractive to most women since they expect men to act 100% confident 24/7 without any emotional or social insecurity in order to be attractive). Not to mention the mere feeling of loneliness and despair is looked upon and seen as pathetic.	/r/MenSupportMen	23/10/21 07:06 PM