ratsparadedarapstar Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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6	Who Does Negging Work On? I mean, sharp-tongued mutual teasing/banter is one thing- it’s fun for some people with a certain kind of cynical sense of humor- but I don’t really consider that negging. Negging tends to zero in on painful insecurities in an attempt to destabilize and manipulate the intended target. There’s nothing cute or playful about that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/19 09:45 PM
2	I got a question for the ladies red or blue it doesn’t matter to me Np. I’ve been with the same guy for 5+ yrs. I was his first LTR. I’ve only had LTRs. He was 30 when we got together. I didn’t think anything of his past of short-lived relationships. He’d try to have an LTR, and within a few months realize they weren’t compatible for one reason or another, and that’s okay. I don’t see those relationships as failures on his part in any way. I think it would’ve been a potential red flag if he villified every ex he had. Most people don’t have THAT consistently shit…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/19 09:40 PM
10	Who Does Negging Work On? Cheap attempts at undermining someone’s self esteem is only effective on those whose self esteem is fragile for one reason or another. In short, it works on the psychologically vulnerable.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/19 09:34 PM
2	I got a question for the ladies red or blue it doesn’t matter to me It’s not a “red flag,” but it may indicate that there may be more growing pains within the relationship in terms of learning to adapt and REALLY communicate. Some stuff is learned by doing. I think at most it indicates that your partner should have some reasonable amount of patience, as it’s your first go-around.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/19 09:31 PM
2	The effects of hormonal birth control on women I’ve always heard horror stories about hormonal bc. Never used it. Nonhormonal IUD (Paragard) is far more reliable in terms of contraception, and carries significantly less risk of health issues, overall. That said, some women have inherited hormonal imbalances that hormonal bc can correct. It all depends on the person. I think this stuff should be discussed more in-depth with doctors.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/19 09:26 PM
4	Q4W That have cheated or left their ex to be with another guy, why did you do it? Unless aliens abducted me in the night and gave me some hyper-advanced, minimally invasive, pain-free sexual reassignment surgery, I’m 100% female. You wouldn’t be the first to assume otherwise, though. I’ve gotten that (from both males and females) on sites that aren’t even remotely linked to sex politics or dating.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/19 08:55 PM
6	Q4W That have cheated or left their ex to be with another guy, why did you do it? I can’t speak for anyone else, but I never had a problem with directly approaching problems with my partner. I can’t fathom functioning any other way. Dragging shit out with mindgames would be draining and stressful as hell. Forcing your partner to play mind-reader doesn’t do anyone any favors. It’s unproductive and abusive. I’d rather just know what’s happening inside the mind of my loved one and get on the same page and figure shit out together.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/19 08:33 PM
17	Q4W That have cheated or left their ex to be with another guy, why did you do it? You pushed/manipulated your depressed husband in an attempt to make him fight for (take the reigns) in the relationship? What were you honestly expecting from him? People don’t commit suicide out of nowhere. I’m not blaming you for his decision to end his life, but it sounds like the guy might’ve had clinical depression leading up to it if he had blurry boundaries and was so complacent. Why didn’t you sit your husband down and directly express your concerns about the relationship instead of impo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/19 07:49 PM
2	Q4RP: Would you give up The Red Pill for your dream girl? Wouldn’t it be safe to assume a red pill guy’s ideal woman would also subscribe to trp?	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/19 07:36 PM
0	Q4Men: If women are the ones who are cruel and unsympathetic to men, why is the internet so chock full of men mocking women, but not the other way around? You may come across males being more overtly hostile toward women online quicker, but the hostility from females toward males is there if you know where to look. In the same amounts, ime. I say this as a female, myself. It’s more subtle a lot of the time than how males tend to communicate, but it’s definitely there. If you’re looking for echo chambers from either sex of any interest, the Internet has millions. Like I said, the spaces that males use tend to stick out more. Guys tend to say a lot …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/19 07:27 PM
1	Under what conditions, if any, would you share a partner? None.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/19 05:09 PM
2	Do women tend to prefer younger men after a certain age? Are Twilight moms (for example) just exceptions or more common but maybe some just don't say it out of fear of judgement? My preferences age with me. In my 20s, teenage males looked like children, in my 30s, the same applies to males in their 20s.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/18 04:07 AM
1	[CMV] We should stop over-politicizing the "bodyshaming" debate. Unsolicited, unqualified life advice is always annoying, sure. That said, you can’t really compare fat shaming with sleep deprivation. Everyone knows sleep deprivation is unhealthy. If anyone is actually flaunting their sleep deprivation, they’re either nuts (from sleep deprivation) or being ironic. Now, I’m not pro-shaming at all, but pointing out potentially self destructive behaviors that people perpetuate as healthy and beautiful (morbid obesity for instance), is concerning. It’s spreading m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/18 03:48 AM
1	Q4WOMEN: Fat girls, what was your reaction when you finally realized that looks matter? Did you ask her if she had a fucking soul? Her commentary seems needlessly belittling.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/11/18 06:44 AM
1	It is only "creepy" to eye up women if you are an ugly man CMV Anyone giving me the overt elevator eyes creeps me the hell out, conventionally attractive male or not. It’s just crass and invasive, to me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/18 11:24 PM
13	How common is freezing up during rape or sexual assaults? I was just 9 when it happened to me. My mom’s piece of shit boyfriend started off horsing around/playful tickling my armpits/under my knees/stomach, which gradually escalated to him grabbing at other areas and getting more overtly sexual about it. I stopped laughing but couldn’t push his hands away. I was kind of in shock he was even doing that to begin with and couldn’t think/kind of went outside my body. I think tonic immobility can and does happen in a traumatic situation when fight/flight ki…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/18 06:30 AM
1	What's something an attractive person could do that would make you not want to be with them? Be stupid.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/11/18 11:22 PM
3	How do you mate guard? Telling some conceited, trashy person who brags about being materialistic and emotionally abusive, “don’t touch me,” and saying they’re disgusting when they STILL ignore that request, (whining/asking why not?) is more than appropriate, imo. That’s called maintaining personal boundaries and responding to invasive, disrespectful behavior with brutal honesty. I think anyone who disregards another individual’s wishes not to be touched, or dumps a guy over the value of a sparkly rock then laughs abou…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/11/18 05:12 AM
3	How do you mate guard? If the latter were the case, he likely would’ve banged out a bunch of them during his single years. He had ample opportunities. At one point, this gorgeous redhead everyone was after tried to hang on him in a bar, after bragging to a mutual about how she’d dumped some older guy she was dating for not buying her a ring over ten grand. He told her in front of everyone not to touch him, and that he found her “completely repulsive.” She cried, which of course led to a bunch of needless social drama …	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/11/18 02:20 AM
3	How do you mate guard? My partner’s been telling hot girls with trashy personalities how disgusting they are [when they pull desperate stuff like that] since high school. He’ll be 35 next month. If he’s in the minority, I guess that sucks. World is full of weak, broken people.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/11/18 02:05 AM
3	How do you mate guard? When your partner finds that kind of obnoxious, desperate behavior from a female inherently repulsive, and tells her so to her face, you don’t really have to do anything but sit back and enjoy the show.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/11/18 01:51 AM
1	How do you mate guard? Uh.. I don’t mate-guard. I am highly sexually attracted to my partner. Much of that comes from the mutual trust and respect we’ve built. With that foundation, there isn’t really a drive to feel jealous of, intimidated by, or competitive toward other females. Neither of us give a shit about them. When a female attempts to disrespect the bonds of our relationship, my partner is the first person to stomp that out immediately. Same goes for me if a male tries to flirt with me, knowing darn well I’m …	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/11/18 01:49 AM
10	Common Arguments against the Impact of Sexbots Ffs, let people have their sex robots already.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/11/18 08:03 AM
1	Has anyone here ever heard a woman be told "you need to learn to respect men"? I’ve heard women IRL be told, “stop treating people like shit.” Sometimes in context those people were specifically males. Sometimes it was all encompassing/general.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/11/18 07:52 AM
3	Q4W: What was the longest unbroken period of time you went without having sex? Why? 3 years. Not interested in a relationship after a very draining one. Didn’t meet anyone I wanted a relationship with for a long time. I didn’t have physical contact with anyone but my cat, or to hug a friend or relative when warranted, and I was good with that. If the physical sexual drive arose, I was more than capable of giving myself a helping hand.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/11/18 07:10 AM
2	Women age like milk, men age like wine - what about MILFs? Name checks out.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/18 10:32 PM
-1	Women age like milk, men age like wine - what about MILFs? Milk and wine are both gross. These analogies are therefore accurate.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/18 10:23 PM
2	Q4w how do you avoid being pumped and dumped? I don’t do ONS. I don’t sleep with random strange men. Or random men of any kind. It’s not difficult or mysterious. Build trust first and know the human. And know yourself.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/18 04:55 AM
1	Women can be incels too You sweet summer child. Someone find this redditor a blackpill, stat.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/11/18 07:51 PM
1	Why Should Men Accept Women After Their "Change"? Misleading title. Thought this was a menopause post. Disappointed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/11/18 07:49 PM
1	Q4all Is it true that women are not "biologically hardwired for long term monogamy" ? https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/how-we-do-it/201804/monogamy-anchored-in-our-genes _ https://www.nytimes.com/2017/04/19/science/parenting-genes-study.html?_r=0	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/11/18 08:58 AM
1	Is it just me or tall women are often alone and dateless? My best friend is 6' and has her pick of men. She's happily dated taller and shorter men. She's more often had men shorter than her be intimidated or otherwise unattracted to the height difference than she's ever rejected anyone else over it. It all depends on the person. Different people are attracted to different things. I'm 5'9" with a 5'8" boyfriend. I've also dated shorter and taller. Generally "eye level" is my preference as it feels the most intimate. It should also be noted that while yo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/11/18 11:52 PM
1	If the father was adamant about not wanting a child would you still want it ? That's where abortion comes in.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/18 08:16 AM
1	Women have been left aimless I'm not a proficient enough reddit user to even know what that means, but, let's not derail your hilarious post too much. I realize a lot of effort went into it, and while my response likely isn't what you were looking for, take solace in that it was still very much an enjoyable read. Have a good night.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/18 02:29 AM
2	Q4Women: When you meet a commitment-worthy man (not talking about a beta-bux), do you play hard to get in order to make him understand that you're interested in a LTR with him? No, I don't play hard-to-get. I don't "play" anything. I'm an adult. I get to know someone very well before getting sexually involved with them, and they're well aware if I get that far with them it's because I see a future with them, and it's been discussed at length already. I can't have a ONS with anyone. The closest I ever got was kissing a cute, stupid man, who happened to be funny in our group of friends while everyone was interacting/contributing to the discussions, but in private obvious…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/18 02:26 AM
1	If the father was adamant about not wanting a child would you still want it ? I'd have that shit vacuumed out before he ever knew it happened to begin with, as I never want children. Copper IUD is great BC, and my longterm partner knows where I stand on this, so it's all good.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/18 02:21 AM
2	Is club dancing inherently sexual? I'm not a fan of clubs. Strobe lights and shitty excessive bass trigger migraines. The music does not ever appeal to me. I prefer small bars/show venues where bands I enjoy play. I am not a fan of "grinding" dance. It's obviously sexual, but that's not the part I have a problem with. Lots of dances that require dedication/talent/skill/passion are sensual in nature, and I appreciate artistic expression. There's just no art to dryhumping to the beat, imo. It looks sad and crass to me, but if peopl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/18 02:18 AM
2	Why do so many redditors outside this sub believe that the friend zone doesn't exist? "Friend Zone" exists to the people who believe themselves to be in it, while the other party may or may not be directly aware of 'placing' the other person in that 'zone.' Ie, Person A interprets the relationship dynamic inherently as a friendship without giving it a second thought. Person B recognizes they are friends with Person A but is interested in the friendship evolving into something romantic. When this topic is finally broached and it's established that Person B's hopes are unrequited, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/18 02:12 AM
1	Off Topic Thread: Halloween (27 October 2018) Late to this party. Was too busy prepping for Halloween. I love theatrical things like special fx makeup, gory macabre things of all kinds, and Halloween's a great time to exercise my skills and share them with people/get fun, grossed-out reactions. Was a disgusting decomposing zombie, went to see a band I liked in a far-off town with my best friend, meeting up with an old friend who lived in that area. Great night was had by all. I befriended a drunk Cookie Monster.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/18 02:04 AM
1	Women have been left aimless ....bahahaha	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/18 02:01 AM
4	The most unattractive trait in a male is the inability to validate himself The most unattractive trait in anyone is unchecked emotional baggage that leads to maladaptive coping mechanisms and behaviors. Having validation from your peers is not destructive or unattractive in of itself. It can be empowering in a healthy way. We are social animals. It's only when that need comes from an unhealthy place to begin with that it becomes problematic. Often the validation will be sought from an echo chamber of strangers nowadays, versus trusted and respected confidants, further …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/10/18 09:26 PM
7	Q4BP: What are the reasons that women cheat? For the same reasons some men do. Poor impulse control, stunted emotional development, low self insight, limited ability to identify/communicate needs to their partner, limited collaborative problem-solving skills, and general weakness of character and childlike selfishness/reduced self-accountability.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/10/18 09:18 PM
1	How much influence do your family and friends have on who you date? I could give fuck-all about what my family or friends think of who I date. Most if them are not exactly qualified to be dispensing relationship advice, for a variety of reasons. I'm always willing to take in the point of view of those I respect and care about, as we all have our blind spots, but ultimately who I decide to be involved with is going to be based on my own perspective and judgement. If friends or relatives can't accept/respect my decisions, then I don't really need them in my life. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/10/18 09:11 PM
1	CMV: So I guess women really are better parents after all. If you're judging by a reddit thread for such sweeping conclusions about the male gender, you're already gonna be way off. At least half the guys posting in Pill subs have little to no intercourse, for starters. With a limited range of experience can come a limited range of insight for certain longterm decisionmaking. Sure, we can all wax philosophical about what we'd do in a hypothetical scenario, but we never truly know until we're there. A handful of humans on one Internet post is hardly an a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/10/18 08:35 PM
2	Q4W: Besides sex, what do you personally bring to the table in a relationship? Besides sex, I offer: - emotional support (listening, offering advice if requested, cuddles) - someone to encourage self care (remind him to get some sleep I feel he’s got tunnel vision, or be a workout buddy so we can be healthy together for as long as possible) - friendship, sharing activities together (games, movies, drinks with friends, etc) - respect for autonomy: we need separate activities/lives in some ways in order to grow. - assistance in areas he’s not secure about or hates dealing wi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/10/18 11:11 AM
1	What is Something you Like/Admire in both Sexes? I don’t really think of admirable qualities in a person based on their gender at all. I hold everyone to the same standard when it comes to things I respect in another human.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/10/18 10:57 AM
1	CMV: After 35, it’s hard to find people who don’t have kids in the dating market. You’ll likely (if you end up in an LTR) end up becoming a step parent. It’s either be a step parent or deal with a woman who is desperate to have a baby before 40. PICK YOUR POISON. Other option: you can date someone who doesn’t expect you to be their kid‘s 3rd parent. You’re just the kid’s friend without being responsible for them, and everyone is cool with that. Works best if the couple doesn’t believe in marriage or completely merging assets. Less confusion overall. Probably a small demographic, but it can and does work. Example: my partner has a kid from a previous relationship. He doesn’t want any more. I never want children. He has weekend custody of his kid. When I’m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/18 01:36 AM
6	Q4women:Would you cheat on your normal/ugly looking SO with a much more attractive male than him?Also do you only fantasize about conventionally attractive men? I would not cheat on any s/o. When I’m in a relationship, they get all of me. I don’t have the energy for any other romantic prospects. When I’m single, I don’t really fantasize at all, even when I’m giving myself a helping hand. Usually just focusing on sensations since I’m too much in my own head 99% of my day, anyway. I’ve been told thats strange, but, it’s how I’m built. I have an active imagination in other (non sexual) contexts, though. When I’m with a partner, I absolutely fantasize about…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/10/18 03:18 AM
5	Q4ALL: If you are dissatisfied with your SO? I don’t seek out a new partner while I’m still in a relationship. I’m in it all the way— until I’m not. I do all I can to collaborate and make it work before I end up stepping away for good. And when I’m done, I’m pretty emptied out, emotionally. I don’t want another partner for awhile afterward, so I can recharge, and process. I like my alone time, and don’t need to fill that with “a someone” just because my last relationship didn’t pan out. A new relationship happens organically over time when…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/10/18 03:09 AM
2	Q4W How much does red/purple talk about "the wall" affect you emotionally, if at all. Haha. Long as he’s gentle during my migraine postdrome, he’s welcome to it. Oxytocin for all!	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/18 10:24 AM
1	Q4Women: Does the thought of a sex bot brothel sound disgusting to you? I’d love to see this portrayed in extreme detail on Futurama or classic/original Doctor Who. Concept only grosses me out if the bots aren’t properly sterilized between uses. If anything, sex robots are less offputting since you can clean them better, depending on the type of material they’re made of. I have no moral issues with promiscuity though I’m not into it myself. I require emotional connection before the urge to engage sexually is strong enough to act upon at all, so cock carousels were n…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/18 11:35 PM
1	Men do not age like wine. Can’t say I agree with this, but I can’t speak for anyone but myself. My attraction to men seems to age right along with me. They’re all somewhere around 3yrs younger or 3yrs older, and anything within that bracket. Even actors I see in older movies (20 somethings at the time when I was also that age when first viewing) just look like babies to me, now. The appeal just diminished. They’re still attractive by general standards, but they don’t rev my engine, anymore.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/18 11:17 PM
1	Q4All: Do you like it when servers flirt with you for tips? No, it’s a gross and painfully obvious manipulation tactic. If I wanted verbal foreplay with my food or drink, I’d be at home. Courteousness and competence earns tips.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/18 11:00 PM
1	My boyfriend lost his virginity to a sex worker, then lied about it We’re all opinionated bastards one way or another. Everyone has personal values, and sometimes, they won’t align with those around them. Having an opposing opinion based on your own morals or standards does not = shaming someone else. One is a feeling. The other is a behavior. It’s sad in this example that the chick’s partner felt the need to lie to her. I wouldn’t stand for that. Beyond that, though, as long as everything he did was consensual (not with an adult or child sex slave but a volunta…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/18 10:55 PM
1	Women, how often do you talk with your mother? Men, how often do you talk with your father? How often have you talked to her/him throughout your life? Female. I don’t volunteer much personal information to my mother at all, nor would I dream of going to her with advice. She has (diagnosed but untreated) Borderline Personality Disorder. I learned a long time ago that she is not capable of consistently loving or supporting me in a healthy way, so I stopped expecting it/seeking it out. I check in with her maybe once a week, and stop by to say hello if I pass through her area and have the time and energy. That’s a courtesy for her, as I feel bad f…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/18 10:38 PM
1	Why is calling a man "woman" an insult but telling a woman she's a "man" a compliment? It’s simply based on the antiquated perception that males are stronger or more powerful than women by default. That perception is based on a history of gender inequality (women having fewer rights back in the day for employment, voting, independence). In a society where your rights equal that of a child, it’s not surprising that the idea of “the weaker sex,” is perpetuated by their assigned caregivers. Hell, even ignorance about our own bodies perpetuated it. Women used to be told they’d rupture…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/18 10:18 PM
1	CMV: Solipsism is the basis of empathy Funny, and here I thought mirror neurons played at least some role.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/18 10:05 PM
1	Talking about Hypergamy So in short, things claimed by TRP are nonsense not based in reality. I can agree with that. I’m glad you touched upon terms like ‘demisexual’ and ‘sapiosexual.’ My partner just emailed me a screenshot of someone identifying as that, with the definition attached. He said, “the definition sounds like you.” While my sexual responses are built that way, I cringe at the label. I went on a short demi-rant about how I hate the term. It’s just another buzzword people can use to be pretentious or feel s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/18 09:54 PM
1	Can a relationship that ends be regarded as a successful relationship? I think an amicable breakup is not a relationship failure. Like most things in life, it’s not that black & white, pass/fail. If two emotionally developed adults acknowledge that they simply don’t fit well in a highly intimate capacity, and can do a controlled landing as opposed to stalling til crash n’burn, then that’s fantastic. That’s a success. You both grow & learn from the process. You learn more about yourself, and what you may need from a partner that you hadn’t recognized before. How to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/18 09:35 PM
1	CMV: There's nothing wrong with "riding the cock carousel" Nothing wrong with it as long as you’re safe and aren’t doing it because you don’t know how to have a long term intimate relationship, or are using promiscuity to avoid dealing with some sort of personal baggage. I’ve never gone on that carousel, personally. I’m simply not built to have any strong sexual desire for someone without actually having an intimate emotional bond first. I could never get past kissing someone I’d only found physically attractive but didn’t know terribly well. It was a r…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/18 02:15 PM
1	How influential are feminist blogs when it comes to how women view men? Crap random people spout on the internet doesn’t faze me, but I can’t speak for the rest of my gender. I’d prefer to observe human behavior on my own and draw conclusions from that, among other things, like brushing up on psychology, anthropology, history, and so forth. The opinions of random people with a personal agenda filling a blog with popular buzzwords and asserting opinions as facts, or potentially skewing facts does nothing to or for me. I say this last bit in reference to most politica…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/18 02:01 PM
1	What are the silent killers of relationships? Silence. As in, lack of consistent communication. Stagnation. Both partners should always be growth-oriented. It’s never done. Share that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/18 01:57 PM
1	Does social media tarnish the getting-to-know-you process? Social media is ruining a lot of stuff.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/18 01:43 PM
1	Strangers and flirting 1.) I’m not into clubs at all. Not big on parties, either. Bars with an area for live music, I’m into and specifically there to support local music that I enjoy. I don’t really talk with strangers there, but it’s a place where that could happen. I’m not there to seek out new people. Just there to take in the music and observe the crowd dynamics. Stuff like that makes me happy. 2.) Its neither inappropriate nor unexpected for people to flirt and gauge chemistry with prospective partners in a spac…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/18 01:34 PM
1	What are your top five movies? Ghostbusters. Psycho. The Shawshank Redemption. The People Under The Stairs. Sleepaway Camp.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/18 01:11 PM
1	On Saturday this garbage cat died, but damnit, she was my garbage cat. Press F to pay respect. F. Pretty tortie. My condolences. ~(8:><:3)~ [kissing mice as tribute]	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/18 12:42 PM
1	Would you marry a man who follows the law but drinks like a fish, or a man who ignores the law, and is clearly a pothead? Not interested in marriage or substance abuse of any kind. I’m okay with my long term partner enjoying a drink with me, or even some edibles on occasion, but nothing remotely in excess. Which is essentially the way it is now, sans the edibles, as they’re illegal and his boss does random drug testing, anyway. Addiction is a manifestation of deeper issues that haven’t been dealt with, a lot of the time. My partner faces all of his, head-on, and I’m right there with him.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/18 12:39 PM
1	[Q4ALL] Would you love your kids or your partner more? I’m not a parent, nor will I ever be, but I don’t see love as a hierarchy to begin with. Love simply is. It isn’t more or less, but the shape of it varies based on the type of bond, if that makes sense. Kids tend to thrive when their parents are a happy, healthy, cooperative team. I would assume in this scenario that time would be equally split for 1:1 partner time (kids do need time to themselves to engage their imagination, build confidence, and learn independence), mom to kid time, dad to kid…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/18 12:26 PM
1	Ladies, an acceptable or average looking guy you’ve been seeing tells you/admits he had plastic surgery? Personally, I wouldn’t care. If it was good enough for me not to notice it before, then I’d remark that his doctor was talented. I guess other people may have issues with it due to their own value systems. Some are just anti body modification at all, insisting it’s wrong, sick and shallow. Taken to an extreme, it’s unhealthy and can lead to health problems (collapsed nose or something), but if it’s well-done and not sought in excess, then let the person be happy. I guess some women may consider …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/18 12:21 PM
1	Q4Women: If your man had sex with you in your sleep (and effectively raped you) would you break up with him? Some people are weirdly into wake-up sex and make-up sex without even resolving the issue at all beforehand. That preference should be discussed at the start of a relationship, among other things. Guy sounds like an emotionally stunted ass. The sleep sex thing in this context does not sound like make-up sex, or intimate, playful wake-up sex. It sounds closer to sexual assault, or at the very least, using his partner as a personal fleshlight, which is kind of gross from my perspective, as I see s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/18 12:11 PM
9	Q4W How much does red/purple talk about "the wall" affect you emotionally, if at all. I don’t care. I’m not interested in marriage or children, neither is my partner. He loves me and finds me so attractive it’s ridiculous. If I’ve had a migraine for days on end and finally get out of bed after 4 hellish days, I’ll catch him looking at me in my rumpled pajamas and greasy hair with the most twitterpated look on his face. I’m like, “what?” And his response is just, “pretty lady.” I just tell him his glasses probably need replacing, but I’m grateful for the natural Instagram filter e…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/18 12:03 PM
1	How unattractive is insecurity to a woman? Insecurities are human. My partner is a human. As am I. I don’t mind insecurities in a guy. It’s how one chooses to deal with them that is either repellent or inspiring to me. For instance, if a guy had insecurities about being cheated on, felt intimidated by other men who talked to me in a casual setting (not flirting, just people from work saying hi or something if I run into them at the store). That’s fine. We all have baggage. I wouldn’t be put off if he voiced his discomfort. I’d want to re…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/18 11:24 AM