| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 5 | Doing my first cold approach tomorrow | Conversation | rattled_by_rush | /r/seduction | 03/08/21 09:47 AM |
| 5 | Mild blow outs in the club (noob) | Field Report | rattled_by_rush | /r/seduction | 26/07/22 05:49 AM |
| 3 | asking someone out during COVID | Logistics | rattled_by_rush | /r/seduction | 03/02/21 11:05 AM |
| 1 | Did my first cold approach today | Field Report | rattled_by_rush | /r/seduction | 08/06/22 06:50 AM |
| 0 | Asking out a friend of a friend | Logistics | rattled_by_rush | /r/seduction | 07/05/22 08:16 PM |
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| 2 | what makes a man seductive?This is a helpful answer, thank you. I'm finally beginning to address my life long issues with self-esteem and insecurity and its obvious to me now how much all of that has been holding me back with women for so long. Part of that means making real changes in my life, part of it means accepting where I am at now and owning those insecurities as you wrote here | /r/seduction | 27/10/22 10:27 PM |
| 2 | what makes a man seductive?One thing that confuses me is "not covering up your emotions" but at the same time having a "take it or leave it mentality." What if your real emotions are needy? Isn't it honest to express that and deal with the consequences? | /r/seduction | 27/10/22 09:22 PM |
| 6 | Was with a girl I managed to get for 2 weeks and it was the best time of my life but she left abruptlyGoing through something similar rn. Just got dumped by a girl I had been dating for a month. It hurts a lot but the fact is that I knew it wasn't going to work out one way or the other. Thankfully it was a short fling and I (mostly) kept my expectations in check. The cool thing is that she's the first girl I've ever actually picked up irl. So even though this situation didn't work out, the fact is that she is probably the best girl I've ever been with and I only got with her because of improveme… | /r/seduction | 27/10/22 12:05 AM |
| 3 | Are women overly picky from all the options they have with modern dating?The last girl I dated had just moved to our city a few months before I met her. She went on a bunch of Hinge dates for the first few months and basically said that none of them were long term dating material. When I met her she had just decided that she was done dating off the apps, and so when I asked her out in person she got really hyped. She later said that I was the first guy who asked her out in person for many years, and that she was really impressed by it. Also the fact that I took her o… | /r/seduction | 18/10/22 11:30 PM |
| 2 | im good in person but and really bad texterFwiw, I've found that while "texting for logistics only" is a little overboard, it's best to keep the banter to a minimum if you're the type of guy who struggles with it. The real action is on the date. And most girls in my experience, if they like and feel comfortable enough with you (as they should after a few good dates) will take the initiative when it comes to texting. Not saying you shouldn't try to improve but it's not always necessary | /r/seduction | 18/10/22 01:48 AM |
| 1 | Whatever you do never allow yourself to slowly drift into the frienzone catch yourself-Woman POVThis makes sense if you want to be a player. What if you want a relationship? I know some of this still applies but at what point does the game end | /r/seduction | 17/10/22 11:44 PM |
| 1 | After making plans to meetup with a woman, do you continue the conversation or not until the date?I've mostly let the conversation run it's natural course and then go silent besides a quick check in a day or so before. It's fine if you only have to wait a few days. On the other hand I tried the same thing with a girl where the date was a week out and she ended up not responding when checked in the day before. I don't blame her, I should have sent at least one or two texts in between. She seemed cool too. Oh well | /r/seduction | 17/10/22 11:40 PM |
| 5 | im good in person but and really bad texterLmk if you ever figure it out | /r/seduction | 17/10/22 11:32 PM |
| 1 | Is the "texting is for logistics only"-Mindset really still applicable these days?As someone who mostly texts for logistics, I find that it rarely tanks my odds but it does feel a little awkward sometimes to not make at least some small talk between dates. I'm still trying to figure out the most minimal amount I can text without hurting my chances and how exactly to do it. I think the move is probably check in every day or every other day with a light joke or reference to something we had mentioned before. Let that spark a conversation, then let it burn itself out as quickly … | /r/seduction | 21/09/22 04:43 PM |
| 3 | [REQUEST] Signs a girl likes you?This kind of attitude kept me from pursuing so many sure-things (and plenty of probably-things) over the years. Attraction is normal and healthy and you shouldn't be ashamed to want to date girls. At the very least she'll be flattered | /r/seduction | 15/09/22 07:28 PM |
| 1 | I Hate Parasite Chodes they are the lowest of the low.No you're right. Honestly I'm pretty sure my reaction tanked my chances with a girl who had been into me for a while up to that point. Oh well, live and learn. I'll be ready for the next dickhead | /r/seduction | 23/08/22 06:33 PM |
| 2 | I Hate Parasite Chodes they are the lowest of the low.This is good advice. I recently had a situation where I aggressively took on someone who was trying to AMOG me and I think I overplayed my hand and fucked up the vibe. | /r/seduction | 23/08/22 05:32 AM |
| 3 | How to cold approach during the daytime in parks?Dude I can't believe there are people who can do shit like this in the world. I've been on this sub for a while and have pulled out a couple agonizing and awkward cold approaches but cannot even comprehend the level of balls it would take to do that. One day.... | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 03:31 AM |
| 1 | Mild blow outs in the club (noob)Yeah you're probably right, but so much of my AA comes from not knowing what to say, so I intentionally keep it simple for now | /r/seduction | 29/07/22 07:29 PM |
| 1 | Mild blow outs in the club (noob)Great advice, thanks | /r/seduction | 29/07/22 07:29 PM |
| 2 | My first two Daygame cold approachesWhat surprised me so much is how happy most girls are when they get compliments. Idk if it's good game (I'll leave that to the more experienced daygamers) but it's always a great feeling to tell some random girl how cute she is and have her beaming with the biggest smile and thanking you. It really changed my perspective on how most women think, because my assumption for years was that they would spit and scream and mace you and call the cops if you so much as acknowledge their appearance. Also,… | /r/seduction | 26/07/22 05:16 AM |
| 2 | The Stylelife Challenge: Day 1Hey I did this recently too, stopped pretty early though, I think around day 7. Should pick it up again. Those small talk exercises were really useful to helping me get more comfortable talking to strangers, although I still have only done a couple proper cold approaches. Good luck man, I'll be following you | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 05:01 PM |
| 3 | Went clubbing on Friday, approached a couple girls, no real success, but it was a great experience overall!Excellent work bro | /r/seduction | 27/06/22 08:18 AM |
| 3 | 😎 My Standard Cold Approach Format (that I've used for 8000+ approaches)This is gold, will be referring to this in the future | /r/seduction | 24/06/22 06:04 AM |
| 2 | Why do so many girls say they love Trader Joe's in their dating profiles?It's only expensive if you buy a bunch of pre-made shit. Easily the cheapest grocery store of the three in my area | /r/seduction | 16/06/22 08:15 PM |
| 4 | I walked all day in the park and didn't approach a girl once today.Not sure what exactly your comfort level but I've found its best to take baby steps if you're just starting out. Break it down into a system. Here's an idea, from one day to the next: -look 5 people in the eyes and smile at them as they pass -say hi to 5 people as they pass -say hi to 5 people that are near you (sitting nearby, in line, etc) -try to start a conversation with 3 people near you -stop 3 people on the street and ask them where they got their shirt/coat/shoes whatever -tell 3 girls t… | /r/seduction | 16/06/22 04:04 AM |
| 11 | Are we as men working too hard to get women?You don't want intimacy or companionship? | /r/seduction | 15/06/22 05:57 PM |
| 1 | Cold approaching on the NYC subway. How aiming big can speed up your learning process.Great stuff. I'm taking notes | /r/seduction | 15/06/22 06:38 AM |
| 1 | What is the best book on approaching women?You might be interested in Alabaster Girl. It's very flowery, not nuts-and-bolts, won't straight up give you lines to use. But it's a good look into the mind of someone who pulls a lot. I don't know why this one isn't mentioned more, maybe because the writing is so cheesy. Still worth it | /r/seduction | 14/06/22 03:12 PM |
| 3 | I got a girl by ignoring herYes he ignored her during sex. He was looking out the window the entire time | /r/seduction | 13/06/22 07:33 PM |
| 1 | Is hiring a coach worth it?I did Skype coaching for a couple months. Really cheap, I think $10-20 each for 30min sessions twice a month. I'm still a huge rookie but it helped me build up to my first cold approach which I'm not sure I would have done otherwise. Plus he's a really chill guy and clearly does it for love of the game. This probably sounds like a fake promo but w/e! Dm if interested | /r/seduction | 10/06/22 05:54 PM |
| 2 | Is Learning To Pick Up Women Morally Sound?This is a good question, and it's something I've thought about a bit. Part of the reason cold approaching is so difficult for men at first is bc society pretty explicitly tells us not to. There's strong social pressure for most men (with cultural differences ofc) to let women do their own thing during the day, to not hit on them, to not even do anything that can be construed as hitting on them. It makes sense, women don't want to be harassed or even bothered just going about their day. I empathi… | /r/seduction | 09/06/22 09:09 PM |
| 1 | Kissed my date last night mid sentence.Yeah but first you have to say you like it when she spends 45 minutes recapping the entirety of Tiger King | /r/seduction | 09/06/22 06:07 AM |
| 2 | Did my first cold approach todayThanks for this. I can see how indirect makes sense in certain contexts, but if you're just approaching women off the street... At that point it's such a breach of social expectations you might as well be up front with it, no? Still figuring out how I feel about all this, hoping to get in a lot more practice soon. | /r/seduction | 09/06/22 04:10 AM |
| 5 | [deleted by user]With the caveat that I'm nowhere near where I want to be with women... I'll say that yes, I've learned a lot from this sub. But you have to be a critical consumer of the information here. 95% of it is either uselessly vague or just wrong. Biggest thing I've learned from the sub is very specific advice like physical escalation, strong eye contact, leading. This stuff has all been extremely useful and basically changed the way I interact with women, very much for the better. Everyone should get th… | /r/seduction | 08/02/22 07:04 PM |
| 2 | You can do everything seemingly correct, and still get rejected for whatever your end-goal may be.Can you explain this more? | /r/seduction | 02/02/22 12:32 AM |
| 4 | [FIELD REPORT] 3 girls wanted to run a train on me at a gay clubTo all the nonbelievers: some of you have never known anyone with good game and it shows. This story is obviously on the extreme end of the spectrum, but I used to hang with a few guys who could and (occasionally) did pull off shit like this. Sadly, I didn't absorb game from them because I was too much of a pussy... but I've seen them in action enough times to believe OP. And for what it's worth OP, I've been following your field reports since the beginning. You do good work. Honestly inspiring … | /r/seduction | 01/02/22 04:16 AM |
| 18 | [deleted by user]Tbh this is something I struggle with too, but what works for me (sometimes) is take some time to think of how you'll feel later that night, or tomorrow, or a year from now, if you don't approach. Actually imagine the feeling of sitting down and feeling regret about how you didn't take the shot. Then when you're in the moment, you'll be forced to acknowledge that what you're actually doing is making an exchange between your current discomfort (mild) and your future regret (probably much worse). | /r/seduction | 28/01/22 05:06 AM |
| 2 | You Reject Girls More Than You ThinkEveryone is skipping over the fact that he asked you out and you presumably rejected him. Speaking only for myself here, if I ask a girl out and she rejects me or doesn't seem interested in the prospect, then I immediately assume she's not interested and move on. And yes, even if you are genuinely busy and can't hang when he asks, if you don't make an effort to figure out another time then I consider that as good as a rejection. Not saying guys should do that (it's probably not doing me any favo… | /r/seduction | 20/10/21 11:22 PM |
| 2 | Too much energy or immaturity?I'm somewhat similar. It's probably better to be strategic about how you reveal that side to people. Especially those who don't know you well yet and are still forming their impression | /r/seduction | 06/08/21 10:44 AM |
| 7 | Is approaching a girl in the gym a good idea?I was at the gym with my very attractive female friend recently. At one point we separated so she could go off and do leg presses or something. When I looked over I saw her getting hit on by this guy (also very good looking) and I could tell that she was flattered and had a huge smile on her face. Later I asked her about it and I was like "I thought guys aren't supposed to hit on girls at the gym" and she was like "it can be awkward having to see them around after, but I've hooked up with guys f… | /r/seduction | 05/08/21 08:43 PM |
| 6 | Field Report of My Life Ages 18-25: The Story of a Man Who Took The Wrong Lessons From SedditGood shit. Even if you're in a tough spot now, you'll be back on your feet in no time. Life just goes through cycles. | /r/seduction | 04/08/21 01:26 AM |
| 1 | Why exactly are you here?I've been shy around women my whole life. There have definitely been many opportunities I could have taken advantage of if I didn't have so many hang ups. So I guess I'm here to get more motivation to approach women and hopefully learn some skills to keep me from burning out too bad when I do. Really need to start doing some cold approaches... | /r/seduction | 30/07/21 10:41 AM |
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