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Someone told me the secret to doing this and it was true: You have to be the kind of person who would never do this. Your inner game is so broken being in this mindset any success you have is going to be fleeting and temporary if this person or anybody else.
/r/seduction29/07/26 01:21 PM
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It is, but the context is important of when you use it and why you’re using it. I think the most important thing is just to recognize these patterns of why you can’t close or things fizzle out, and then having the bravery to address it rather than go along with it because you’re afraid the conversation will end,.
/r/seduction22/07/26 12:27 PM
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This is a great example. It can be basically anything but it can’t feel try hard. It’s not exactly non-sequitur either. A simple one I have canned is, “Hang on, let me get your phone number or all this small talk will be for nothing.” My canned response at loud venues, “I didn’t hear anything you said, I’m distracted by how bad I want you inside me.” I know some people try to break the pattern, but they don’t relax to playfully make the conversation more sexually charged so you’re just gonna end…
/r/seduction22/07/26 04:32 AM
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The women who Owen seems to light up over lol
/r/seduction21/07/26 11:50 PM
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RSDMax was easily the best and had developed the most natural game. He had game before he had his glow up. His Hot Seat breakdowns were as good as Owen’s, less woo-woo than Julien. I don’t hate on Luke, I don’t think it was trying to show that fat guys can get laid, but that you can get really far with a social circle. Luke didn’t go out and get a lot of girls looking at him, his cold approach wasn’t great,but he didn’t need to because his social circle, but you can’t really film that without ge…
/r/seduction21/07/26 11:17 PM
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To be fair, you have a good point because game has become so meta that the basics are skipped over and leave out context or people speaking past each other on the topic. GAME IS: Learning and using social dynamics to increase your charisma and attractiveness to others. There are many styles and philosophies. Like martial arts, it’s on you to study and practice techniques you learn about - and you learn about them from a variety of resources. You already threw out terms that are important. There …
/r/seduction19/07/26 03:42 PM
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For anyone saying oh yeah sure that’s so easy to say, but how the heck are you supposed to do that? There are countless ways to do it, even when considering each individual is different. Everyone has countless ways to do it. But something very important no matter how you approach improving self-esteem, as you have to have goals and objectives written down that are achievable so you can measure your progress or else you’re always gonna be in that mental funk and never appreciate or have gratitude…
/r/seduction12/07/26 01:31 PM
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Just like making yourself fall asleep, there are tricks and techniques and things to avoid that make it possible to do it anywhere. They take time and practice to learn and you get worse when you stop doing it.
/r/seduction12/07/26 01:26 PM
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Approach groups. Being socially approved by the group - their friends both women and men- removes any social stigma about being short. Everyone likes you well enough, they have the go ahead to talk to you one on one
/r/seduction06/07/26 02:57 AM
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Sorry, man, but the best place for day game has always been Las Vegas and it still is even though there’s not many people there nowadays. Still, the people that are there to have fun and are interested in talking to you. Also, there’s always new people coming into town, but the only thing it really has over New York beyond people be more amenable to having you approach them, it’s not so big. New York for me is almost too big, while Las Vegas has the strip and old Vegas, then all the attractions …
/r/seduction01/07/26 09:38 PM
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Nope, just because you’re short doesn’t mean you have to act like it. I am 5’5” and all my interactions usually are going to involve some taller guy in the vicinity somewhere. There’s lots of great advice in this thread, already about the inner game, but I think it’s as simple as “yes and” If I was with an attractive woman, and an even more attractive woman came by, if the first woman walked off in a huff or quietly slink away then maybe I would just move on from her and focus on the new person.…
/r/seduction30/06/26 02:15 PM
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Any job you can get on a college campus that doesn’t require you to wear a uniform
/r/seduction06/04/26 04:43 PM
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Nothing in seduction is absolute. Seduction advice has to be spoken in hyperbole because no matter how many times you tell someone not to have one-itis, be self entertaining, non-validation seeking, men have some excuse for why they can do it just a little bit and go back to old behaviors entirely. You don’t need to go no contact, but don’t think your long text message conversations are doing you huge favors.
/r/seduction10/02/26 05:30 PM
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These aren't even baseline. I've been fat, broke, unfashionable, and a short guy and still had great success with pick up. It is about the inner game. The mindset of doing any of these things is equally, if not more, important. If your mindset is, "I do it so I look good to other people, so I can outcompete other people, so I can help other people", you're off the mark with all those thoughts. Those are codependent thoughts, neediness, and external validation that are empty calories. That will n…
/r/seduction05/02/26 03:33 PM
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I love Owen Cook however I want to point out that there’s a nuance in this approach compared to maybe something closer to Mark Mason. In my experience, this is great for being really social and charming with women and you can always use the skills that come from just cultivating a mindset of enjoying life and pursuing things so you seem engaged and worth someone’s time because you’re legitimately happy with yourself. However, you run the risk of women putting you on the pedestal and eventually t…
/r/seduction03/02/26 02:16 AM
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I know exactly what you’re talking about and you can go over all the process of logistics in order to cater to GenZ women which do show different sizes of communication and engagement than millennials. However, the most advanced you can beat is to not cater to their style of communication, but instead to be very practical and pragmatic in your own organization in your life and then just add the fun when you set up times and dates. You shouldn’t be going to women asking “hey you know we have this…
/r/seduction19/01/26 06:21 PM
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You only lower your ego if you’re being a try hard and beating yourself up about it. No problem at all with just chatting to enjoy life and curious and interested in the world and people in it. That’s why you get the advanced techniques where it doesn’t matter what you say but how you carry and love yourself.
/r/seduction05/08/25 05:12 PM
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Avoidant attachment is what people are referring to, and they will still show interest in people. It’s just their behavior when dealing with negative emotions.
/r/seduction25/07/25 04:31 PM
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Except for David Deangelo, who did get married and has a “normal” life, the rest got into self-help styled approach. I’ve met a couple of these guys and the two that stand out are Owen (Tyler) and Jeffy from RSD. Neil was kinda inauthentic and smarmy. Mystery felt like talking to a stage magician, it’s a character they’ve embodied so much it’s who they are yet you still feel like a character. David Deangelo was a pro at what he did and wish he stuck around, he wrangles in these personalities. Ow…
/r/seduction23/07/25 03:02 PM
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I think it’s consistent. Owen has a point in that guys will imitate method, to the point where they can even get a girlfriend. But he is correct that they lose their girlfriends and show up depressed later because they didn’t prioritize self growth and that inner congruent feeling of waking up with purpose in your life. So you’ll learn “game” and you get laid but you’re still sad and depressed (like Neil Strauss). Flip side is, if you go to these workshops he does, once it’s “finished” it goes o…
/r/seduction23/07/25 02:39 PM
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Did Strauss say MM models style would be unable to form genuine connections? I could be wrong here, but Manson’s approach of authentic vulnerability seems a healthier approach than anything Strauss ever came up with. Strauss is essentially a branch of Mystery method in my opinion.
/r/seduction15/07/25 09:15 PM
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One, but I was told women with BPD will distort your idea of relationships as they morph into a perfect compatibility partner before inevitably having a split and trying to burn down your entire life.
/r/seduction13/06/25 08:57 PM
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People suck at negging because once they figure out WHY it works, they become sociopaths about it. “You’re not as hot as your friend” is manipulation. “I like your bike, but it’s just so… blue..!” is just banter. Both work for the same reason, but if you’re doing the former then you have some inner issues to work on that will manifest themselves if left unaddressed.
/r/seduction24/05/25 02:14 AM
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I would proceed as if it didn’t affect me but it’s a slight yellow flag.
/r/seduction15/05/25 09:20 PM
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I don’t think you have the right to tell someone to cut ties with an ex if they’re not your girlfriend. If you don’t want to proceed, that’s on you. The right thing to do is make it known how you’re going to proceed with yourself, which is that you think it’s not okay to talk with your exes when you have a partner and you’d want someone who’d reciprocate that.
/r/seduction15/05/25 08:28 PM
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It’s about context. You can be friends with an ex, but there’s plenty of friends you don’t hang out with or make time to see. Making time to see them or hang out with them (even in groups) is a red flag. Being friendly if they happen to run into each other is OK. If they don’t understand that then that’s another red flag showing immaturity.
/r/seduction15/05/25 08:15 PM
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I love models, the best thing it did was show people that in game is more important than a technique and I think that’s healthy for people’s overall life. The bad thing is everyone’s technique took a huge nose dive over the years. Combine that with the Internet, not allowing anything to remain underground, technique changes quickly with the zeitgeist. Some stuff stays timeless, but the newbies can’t find it anymore
/r/seduction15/05/25 06:11 PM
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It’s just a question of how unique you think this girl is in comparison to how OK you are being a POS that tries to wreck other people’s relationships.
/r/seduction14/05/25 05:08 PM
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If you are that ugly, it’s actually better than being average. That level of ugliness stands out and can be leaned into. How many Steve Buscemis of the world got noticed because they had potato shaped faces? It’s about presentation and not trying to hide, but to care for that ugly mug of yours so others value it too.
/r/seduction24/04/25 04:16 PM
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There’s another post on Reddit today, speaking about women being attracted to their spouses. You’ll notice the comments will say that they’re still attracted to their spouses, even after they’ve been married for a long time because it was never really about the physical appearance. After a nasty break up, I recently got into a lot better shape, but I’ve had a lot less attention from women because I’m simply less interested in being “on” for them. So unlike women, unattractiveness isn’t a deal br…
/r/seduction23/04/25 11:51 PM
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Your wife is going to be disappointed to learn you can’t pick up women on demand with a ring on. These arrangements are always a powder keg so just temper those expectations. You can’t just pick someone up for you and your wife. You’ll come off as unhinged if you do the same game whilst married. I’m not saying it can’t happen, but you’ll spend your time better in lifestyle communities specifically looking for these hookups.
/r/seduction23/04/25 06:54 PM
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Yes, you can. Just like guys, some women are gonna have weight be a dealbreaker for them. But as a fat guy who has worried about my weight was never a problem, except for when someone saw in the long-term that it was toxic behavior on my part. Being thinner today, things are MUCH easier, but I’ll say my most active years and most successful years I was at my heaviest. Bless em, but women will hook up with a big dude for reasons I cannot comprehend
/r/seduction27/03/25 02:02 AM
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27 was the age for me, but fellas, you can immediately fall off at any point if you allow it. I became a useless goon at 32, it took a rough year to shake it off.
/r/seduction03/03/25 07:46 PM
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Yes, I dated a few models in my 20s and I'm (still) short and was pretty overweight back then. The thing about models is, they kinda are the woman version of a bunch guys living in a house trying to be twitch streamers. They usually live with a bunch of other models and get interesting travel/food/networking not on the cash they make but the opportunities that come their way. Not a lot of agency. They are around hot people through work (and can introduce you to more models!) so what they value i…
/r/seduction16/02/25 05:39 PM
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I made something like this in college, and this is amazing. I’m having so much fun playing lol
/r/seduction12/02/25 12:45 AM
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Well, if there is no intentionality behind it then sure. I would say cuddling is escalation but depending on context this is an argument of semantics. I agree with your definition and that not all contact is kino inherently.
/r/seduction12/02/25 12:10 AM
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Kino is any physical escalation that familiarizes your physical contact with your date. If that’s building attraction enough to cuddle, that’s just your style of game, but kino is at play regardless.
/r/seduction11/02/25 06:17 PM
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That’s kino
/r/seduction11/02/25 05:19 PM
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Either these guys don’t know what kino is or they are underestimating the amount of contact they are having. Very unlikely the first time you touch a women is with your dick 🙄 While being in close proximity isn’t technically touching, it’s still kino. Yeah, you can build attraction without it but I can’t take serious, “my frame is strong that’s what’s doing the kino” “we don’t touch until we hit the sheets” Okay bro
/r/seduction10/02/25 06:31 PM
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What are you doing that the first time you have physical contact is to have sex?
/r/seduction10/02/25 06:28 PM
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This is really on a case by case basis. Personally, it bugs me enough that is a dealbreaker. Maybe if you have a small dating pool like you’re in a small town or your high school teenager. Neither of those things apply to me, so it really feels regressive and gross. Anyone who’s telling you you should just get over it or not care about it is naïve. There’s no problem with doing it, but you absolutely should consider that there’s something going on with your social dynamics and social circles and…
/r/seduction06/02/25 12:56 AM
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Male porn stars making bank is usually not the case.
/r/seduction03/02/25 06:28 PM
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I’ve read interviews where porn stars say that’s not the case. Most of them are able to get into the industry because they had someone who at the time got them into the industry such as a partner or a friend. Also, what they look for is much different. They’re not trying to get laid when they go out as much or they can get laid from their industry connections, so it’s an entirely different field they’re working with. But if they’re going out looking for someone to build a relationship with or a …
/r/seduction03/02/25 06:26 PM
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Your answer isn’t the issue, it’s that you have self doubt and all this stuff going on it your head about it. Literally, you could have said your second paragraph verbatim with the right delivery and body language. You need to accept you’ll be seen as cringy. If being cringy here or there was a death sentence, nobody would ever be successful. You just have to be authentic and keep rolling to stay in frame.
/r/seduction27/01/25 06:08 PM
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The other answers offered here are already great, but let me also toss in that you need to be comfortable with silence. Not every moment needs to be filled with someone talking. You should still keep your frame and be confident and self amuse. But if it’s never silent, the other person can’t really interject or feels like they cant hold the conversation without passing it back to you soon after
/r/seduction24/01/25 02:26 AM
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I think it’s incredibly cringe, but I found out that women generally love this, but some women absolutely hate it. I don’t do it, but majority of women I know like it or came to like it.
/r/seduction24/01/25 02:20 AM
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Accents hold you behind because people with accents sound unconfident. However, if you have an accent, but that doesn’t change your confidence and you still present with good body language, humor, and self amusement, your accent can be a benefit to you. I two major computer science and have plenty of Indian friends who were successful with women. Sam had no success at all. The difference was who was taking care of themselves and who presented confidently.
/r/seduction24/01/25 12:30 AM
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This is a weird question, most people are a bundle of different motivations and systems going on, including social, emotional, material, physiological and self actualizing. Even if one of these motivation sticks in your mind, predominantly, they are constantly jostling for position. The Takeaway is not just that people are complex, but to acknowledge that you also have baser motivations, no matter who you are. Likewise, you have healthy and positive motivations at all times. Your job is to get y…
/r/seduction23/01/25 11:14 PM
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Someone already said mini golf, but I also like going to museums. Some museums, especially art museums will have conversation starters and events going on. I was recently in Dallas and the Perot museum did a food truck and adults only night. There’s no one place you can go that is going to be a home run. I prefer to actually hit many spots during the date because it makes the date feel like it was more packed in the same timeframe. You should really be concerned with logistics. Time of day, wher…
/r/seduction22/01/25 07:58 PM
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I would go First, what’s the harm in going? Secondly, nitpicking is a form of self sabotage. Unless you plan a date to last the whole day or go away for the weekend, it’s just a little bit of your time and it could always lead to meeting new and interesting people. Plus, it helps with your abundance mindset.
/r/seduction22/01/25 04:31 PM
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I’ve had a very successful night with some women taller than me. I’ve been on plenty on dates with women taller than me. It is a disadvantage for sure, especially OLD so I literally don’t even bother with that space. However, women will reluctantly like you anyways even if they wish you were taller. I had a girl once tell me after hearing her dismiss a guy for his height that, hey, I was shorter than him. She told me, “yeah but you feel taller”
/r/seduction02/01/25 03:49 AM
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This is a great beginner list, love it
/r/seduction03/12/24 12:12 AM
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I’ve dated women who have never stepped foot in a club. Most women I’ve dated have never been to a club and some not even a real bar beyond a restaurant. There is a strata of people who don’t drink and don’t like partying nightlife scene, especially younger women today who seem to loathe being in bars and clubs to meet people.
/r/seduction17/11/24 03:56 PM
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If it’s a preference but tattoos are trauma flags a lot of the time. Not always, but A LOT of the time.
/r/seduction17/11/24 03:51 PM
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The way a woman does. Social Proof - who are they with and why? Demonstration of values - what are they okay with and their values on display. Mind virtue signaling, actions only (“I really shouldn’t drink this, but it’s a special occasion” vs “No thank you, I’ve already hit my limit for tonight”) Interest in life - what conversation topics do they engage with, do they challenge your POV, can they engage with your friends or just you. Use of social media - you can only get so much info that nigh…
/r/seduction16/11/24 11:53 PM
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Right? Then Adam blames her and God is like, “bro are you a child?”
/r/seduction14/11/24 06:40 PM
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I see this and people saying, “I don’t have time for these games” She likes lots of people, more than there are hours in the day.
/r/seduction13/11/24 02:20 PM
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You’re fine. Don’t ask her details or talk about it, that does nothing for you. She didn’t want to have the discussion of still seeing other people, tried to keep it light in her eyes, whatever her mental gymnastics are for telling you about other guys in a joking manner. It’s not a discussion to have unless you are trying to ask her to be exclusive.
/r/seduction11/11/24 10:40 PM
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You say, “I trust your intuition on this, you sound like you figured out the next steps or are in the process of that. I want to go ahead and start moving forward with other parts of my life.” Literally, the more you try to stop or act like you are open to getting together later, the less likely it will be it happens. You’re correct, it sounds needy. The irony here is that you have to mean it, because when I suggest to my buddies to do this, often the girl does come back and then leaves again si…
/r/seduction11/11/24 10:18 PM
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You have it right and basically reply similarly in tone as you did last time (“aww, cute, I love that for you” / “Yeah, I might have matched with him too last night”). Or just quickly move to the next topic and completely ignore it, which will read as neutral because it can seem like you’re hiding being upset but also that they get zero response for such words. Your frame, attitude, and congruent behavior with thoughts/actions matter way more. It is a bit of a culture shock as you get more advan…
/r/seduction11/11/24 09:59 PM
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All these responses ITT are defensive. Who cares? It’s a shit test and you just gotta keep frame and have fun. “yeah I also still live with my parents, my only friend is a squirrel, my favorite word is moist, i own several new balance shoes, and I believe every conspiracy on the internet. So I really thought you looked like someone I could connect with.”
/r/seduction09/11/24 08:43 PM
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Advanced technique: flirt via text as soon as you get the number and are right in front of her.
/r/seduction08/11/24 05:55 PM
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It means you can make someone attracted to you whether or not they want to be.
/r/seduction27/10/24 02:26 PM
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The one he simps for is his continuously estranged wife.
/r/seduction22/10/24 03:27 PM
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Great response
/r/seduction17/10/24 11:00 PM
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Why is it a dick move? She is an adult who made choices and is trying to come back later. I WISH I could ask for repayment for all the money I’ve spent. Sorry, but the time to negotiate is over. OP owes her nothing. Anything he gives her at this point is from the kindness of his heart.
/r/seduction25/09/24 01:13 PM
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I had a conversation with a group of pickup artist after a seminar and they agreed, “the grossest thing you can identify as is a pickup artist.” The reasoning is you are identifying as someone whose top value in life is convincing women to sleep with you. That is pretty basic and vapid, probably on par with wanting to get high all day. A job people can respect. You broadcasting, “this is how I get my dick wet!” is pretty gross unless you are talking to another guy who is saying, “Tell me more 👀”…
/r/seduction24/09/24 10:57 PM
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If you are diagnosed with BPD, your job is to manage that and have your life in order and most importantly, learn about setting and respecting boundaries without conflict All that other stuff is going be viewed and used as manipulation tactics which is how you are already framing it in your language. Understanding your attachment style and theirs can help with empathy and communication, but ultimately you can't "copy" a style of attachment. All attachments besides secure attachments are unhealth…
/r/seduction24/09/24 04:18 PM
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This is kind of complex but the answer is yes (if by turned on you mean interested in) and it is unhealthy for not just women, but anyone. So can you use this? Yeah, but again its unhealthy for people. Essentially, you are looking at is *social proof*. Social proof specifically with a gender (women, men, even non-binary proof), her subculture (goth vs country), and attractiveness level. Also consider the **negative** social proof (you hang out with lazy drug users, "sluts", or even "conservative…
/r/seduction24/09/24 03:52 PM
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Based on your other comments, maybe you are giving simping vibes to your girlfriend and are begging for attention/sex. You definitely should not go around trying to hook up with others, but you should have a mindset that she isn’t the only sex resource. Go out and get sexually charged and validated other ways. You’re putting a lot on your girlfriend and it’s making sex a chore and not a turn on.
/r/seduction23/09/24 07:55 PM
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Based on the nice guy vibes you are projecting, I would say consider the idea that emotionally you seem to be giving conventional romantic boyfriend energy. Don’t try to be a boyfriend day 1, really you should be having fun and keeping it casual. Never should they say, “not really looking for anything right now” because this assumes you were going to give them a second date and they want to cut it off before it happens.These are younger women and rightfully, most aren’t sure what they want in li…
/r/seduction23/09/24 07:48 PM
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How comprehensive of a plan are you looking for? You identified some stats that you are aware are important (town size, job status, physical appearance, hobbies). What do you think is holding you back or want to change? Better, what are you willing to change? Job, weight, location?
/r/seduction23/09/24 05:49 PM
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You are not building sexual tension. You said, “never a silence always good” No silences sounds like maybe you are a fun hang but no space for that nervous and anticipatory excitement. She wants to feel butterflies from you. That’s created by showing you are comfortable and confident in your persona. Silence is still nonverbal communication. Let the tension build for her by not speaking, let her feel the need to speak. Suddenly thinking of something to say feels pressure and she wants you to lik…
/r/seduction22/09/24 02:52 PM
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Both things happen. perfect example is I knew one woman who was early 20s and called me a creep when I took the relationship from platonic to sexual. She also told her friends about me and they said she was exhibiting unhealthy signs even talking to an older man. When I heard that I ended up laughing and told her that it’s such a good roast for someone to say that hooking up with me is a sign that you’re mentally unwell. That weekend we ended up hooking up. I don’t talk to her at all anymore or …
/r/seduction19/09/24 05:17 PM
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In my experience, attractive people can be entitled assholes.
/r/seduction17/09/24 02:16 PM
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Mid 30s, I have a ton of attention from women in early 20s which is not the demographic I’m into. My issue is more that when you are both around 30, dating feels more serious because you feel that biological clock and yet you don’t want to be an “old” by not staying casual and fun.
/r/seduction16/09/24 11:51 PM
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I did. I even had a girlfriend while having multiple side partners. Sex became repulsive to me. I would get to place when I knew sex was going to happen then lose all motivation and want the woman to leave or chill out. I think it’s important to have values defined enough that you are motivated in life to get up and find the days fulfilling. Sex only has this value when it’s scarce or very vulnerable, otherwise you will feel like you spent all day playing video games, realizing your time was spe…
/r/seduction16/09/24 05:10 PM
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Especially if you spurn someone who then goes on to use your name in their hot gossip stories. It isn’t the end of the world, but you can get in your head about it if you aren’t confident in yourself. Big city, it’s more like, “so you HAVE heard of me?”
/r/seduction05/09/24 04:28 PM
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It really depends on the episode and the dude. Mr. Big sometimes - he usually keeps frame but when he gets emotional it’s embarrassing. Steve when he gives no fucks about Miranda’s bullshit while still being vulnerable is good. Steve being a simp is not. Be Aiden. He has his priorities and his shit together, including not letting Carrie abuse him. He takes everything in stride and doesn’t fail her shit test. He also has his boundaries (refuses to return to old apartment he renovated for her year…
/r/seduction08/08/24 04:48 PM
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I don’t want to be reductive, but this is what social circle is for. Otherwise, you’ll be going to bars until you’re 90.
/r/seduction08/08/24 12:14 PM
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You can hold both ideas in your head. You’re not wrong in the scenario you created, but technique is something that can help you. Everyone is at a different place as well - some guys don’t have the confidence yet so techniques are tools they can use to help build it as they go out and get better. Still valid points in that ideally you aren’t stressing out over this. So many other dynamics more important but this is still a real thing at play in social dynamics. It’s better to know the dance even…
/r/seduction03/08/24 12:58 AM
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When I was a teen, I was told it was if she had a lot of tattoos. Then I tried to learn communication and dating and how you can tune into body language, eye contact, subtle hints in conversation to know who was most interested in sex that night It was always the person with the most tattoos.
/r/seduction18/07/24 08:40 AM
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I think maybe you **could** go your whole life having a cycle of NRE>bonding>next prospect until the end of your days. But if you are successful with seduction, you are probably also successful at other things. You will have new experiences and your values will evolve, what you pursue does as well.
/r/seduction18/07/24 01:20 AM
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You need to escalate properly and take the initiative when doing so just so you can be comfortable with the pace. This is bad for the girl as well, you are giving her mixed signals. Common tactic is opening with a hug. Just right off the bat you go for a hug so you are both used to touching. When you start the contact, it isn’t so weird to keep it going. Then escalate kino naturally.
/r/seduction16/07/24 10:12 PM
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These comments are wild You literally are doing nothing wrong, it’s just logistics at this point. You need a circumstance where hooking up can happen and you’re good!
/r/seduction16/07/24 07:26 PM
11

It is about effort and competency. For example, you don’t need to speed money for a good haircut, but it can save you time and effort if you pay for it instead of learning to cut it yourself. Don’t need a gym membership, but you need to put effort in maintaining your body. Effort into being interesting and educated, effort into providing yourself unique experiences.
/r/seduction15/07/24 05:09 PM
1

Both are bad. Stow the questions, you don’t want to be an interrogator. You can flatten the question (You seem like the kind of person who likes wine) Doing the mystery suspense is great if it’s appropriate. I don’t think it’s as good texting that cold because you’ll get a reputation as someone who does these bailing out gags and therefore an unserious person. Also, women might be game to these setups if they are into you, but they will quickly run out of patience for further setups if it wasn’t…
/r/seduction10/07/24 05:00 PM
0

Assume they are single, but it’s up to you to act accordingly to your values and morals once you find out otherwise. I personally don’t destroy families and ruin lives just to stick my pee pee in some hoe’s fishy hole. Yes, she has responsibility too - but her mistake isn’t changing that you are a human solely responsible for your actions in this life. Have self respect.
/r/seduction10/06/24 01:27 PM
0

Do you want to die?
/r/seduction10/06/24 01:23 PM
1

It can be anything, as long as it’s authentic I’ll enjoy it.
/r/seduction07/06/24 10:37 PM
2

I’ve been to one and it was not slimy at all. It was about trauma healing, being congruent with how you portray yourself as to women and how you actually are in real life, and how to take care of yourself to build confidence in order to approach women in a win-win manner that does not creep them out. The emphasis was on, “this isn’t women’s fault, you just have to learn how to empower yourself.”
/r/seduction06/06/24 06:16 PM
57

Never chase.
/r/seduction04/06/24 06:04 PM
0

You shouldn’t do either. Who says you are supposed to end your activities so late? It isn’t an all the time thing either - okay it’s late stay over. You see it’s a pattern? What are you doing dude?
/r/seduction01/06/24 04:20 AM
1

Lots of good info here but essentially lack of confidence signals a lack of something in a person. Emotional or physical needs have not been met. Confidence signals abundance and will attract those who have less confidence as they try to move into a more pleasing state of being with you, the abundant one.
/r/seduction31/05/24 08:18 PM
1

Short and long of it: Go to expensive places and conferences, but since you aren’t already wealthy yourself, recognize them by the clothes they wear. It isn’t going to be obvious all the time. One pair of jordans maybe $300, but would you be able to tell if it was a $2000 pair? The difference between a Rolex and Rolex look alike. Nerdy mall merch versus limited collector/custom items? Dress shoes from Men’s warehouse vs designer shoes? I would say you should go to places that take some disciplin…
/r/seduction31/05/24 08:03 PM
14

Before you know it, she is decorating and leaving her stuff over. I have two friends who were in this predicament. At 22 the women became attached, staked out their claim over the guys apartment/house with buying decor and leaving stuff over, became engaged, and then 3-5 years later grew up and left. There are exceptions to the rule, but 22 yo doesn’t have the same life experience, values, or goals as they will at 26 in a way that is much more stark than going from 32-36. The burden of proof is …
/r/seduction31/05/24 04:05 PM
1

I think your first point should not be underestimated. I would focus on making friends for now just make everything easier with social proof.
/r/seduction30/05/24 01:45 PM
28

I don’t know any guy in a FWB dynamic or who would like one that wouldn’t consider more than one partner. So why wouldn’t the woman they are seeing? Especially when you consider they are already in a FWB dynamic with you. Not judging on men who don’t want to hook up with women that are also hooking up with other guys, just that if that’s your jam that’s likely what you are going to find in a partner. I’ve had a friend say his “hoes” don’t do that, but that’s such a naive thing to say or think. I…
/r/seduction22/05/24 05:13 PM
1

I’m not sure if you are purposefully doing a straw man argument and accidentally victimizing yourself or if we are talking past each other. There is no hate or discrimination in saying men who cannot provide a healthy relationship to a partner do not deserve to be in one themselves until they learn those minimum skills required for making a healthy and lasting relationship.
/r/seduction14/05/24 09:06 PM
0

Not everyone deserves a stable loving relationship. Everyone would be better served by one, but not everyone is capable of providing that in return to another person. That is why it is more important to prioritize things in life over a partnership if for no other reason than hopefully the option of of partnership becomes available to you. Maybe another way to think of it is that if you think partners ARE that vital to life, remember all the things that relationships need in place to flourish: yo…
/r/seduction14/05/24 12:56 AM
0

Its common for men to destroy the ecosystem that enabled them to have a partner in the first place. Over emphasising your partner is jeopardizing that entire ecosystem and will lead to more than the loss of a partner.
/r/seduction13/05/24 11:44 PM
4

Cold approaching is great, its fun, there isn't a single problem with it. Unless you're bad at it, and to be fair, lots of guys are going to be bad at it until they get experience. So I would say gentlemen, please make sure your cold approach involves win-win scenarios where you are approaching with a healthy mindset especially concerning rejection. Then the girl will just make herself look like a stuck up jerk on tiktok. Cause come on, this video is self explanatory.
/r/seduction11/05/24 12:15 AM
2

Night game is an extension of day game if your goal is to find a woman you would like to be in a more mature and serious relationship with. Not that you can't meet your future wife in a club or bar, but the odds she is in that place in her life at that point is smaller. If she's down, you'd still need to day game her because you don't date at clubs.
/r/seduction10/05/24 11:22 PM
1

Maybe homie, she is busy and isn’t thinking all that seriously about it. So I would say, you shouldn’t either. Play out the scenario. Say she was busy/forgot/legit issue. Answer? Don’t take it so serious, put a tiny note she can be flakey, don’t over invest in such a person until she gives more. Let’s say she was playing games or with another guy(!) Answer: Don’t take it so serious, put a tiny note she can be flakey, don’t over invest in such a person until she gives more. In both scenarios, you…
/r/seduction10/05/24 08:55 PM
43

“She’s not too drunk” So the thing about being drunk for women isn’t that they need to black out and forget what’s going on. She needs an excuse to engage in her behavior, plausible deniability. She didn’t give you her number because she didn’t want to. It would be weird if she did off the bat - she doesn’t even know you. If we gender bend this, it’s not to hard to see. She wanted to use you physically and not see you again. If you don’t like that, avoid these type of women and situations. Don’t…
/r/seduction10/05/24 05:00 PM
1

Let me rephrase - don’t beat yourself up or think you didn’t do well in this set. You just had a logistical problem and as long as that is your main focus, this issue will solve itself in time.
/r/seduction08/05/24 08:18 PM
2

You need to work on actual logistics. If you are living at home with mom or dad, just cut yourself some slack and focus on moving out first
/r/seduction08/05/24 01:22 PM
2

I think men are told to be unfazed because what you communicate in that moment with your body language is highly revealing. If you are being highly reactive to rejection it puts an additional burden of awkwardness for you both. That wouldn't be so bad, but more importantly it shows you may not be participating in the healthiest of mindsets. Very insecure, scarcity mindset, validation seeking, etc.. It shouldn't be phrased as, "pretend to be unbothered" but, "be comfortable and confident enough w…
/r/seduction06/05/24 03:44 AM
5

"Not caring" should not mean don't feel emotions and your emotions are bad. Your emotions are fine, it totally makes sense to be upset when an upsetting thing happens. As you gained experience with that upsetting trigger, you knew not to bottle it up. So you can adjust your response and even have faith that its going to be okay in the midst of your emotional state. So in the same sense, you can learn that when you feel upset that someone may have blown you off or you felt embarrassed after an in…
/r/seduction05/05/24 08:49 PM
2

Genuinely trying to answer here: Why do you care in the first place? What are you stressing about exactly?
/r/seduction05/05/24 04:45 PM
1

It is not healthy to put yourself second to other people’s emotions. That’s the idea of not pretending your feelings don’t matter. The question is why are you allowing this to bother you?
/r/seduction05/05/24 04:41 PM
22

So many guys saying “I don’t do social media” This is an okay response as long as you don’t have the tonality that you are somehow above the rabble because you don’t share photos of your life on a site designed for that.
/r/seduction03/05/24 08:18 PM
4

I once left an approach and overheard the girls friend tell her, “who approaches random strangers at bar?” They were both probably under 25
/r/seduction03/05/24 04:50 PM
6

Where would a woman find the kind of man you are proudly presenting yourself as? Your match is likely in that same place.
/r/seduction30/04/24 10:15 PM
1

Depends on the energy of the 1st. Sometimes it’s just the scenario and you guys got beat by logistics or bad luck. Otherwise, if you had fun go again but if not then you may be acting needy
/r/seduction30/04/24 03:46 PM
6

Models is good. I tell friends Models will help you get a girlfriend, but The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck will help you keep them
/r/seduction29/04/24 11:52 PM
2

I can’t control MYSELF and it’s all YOUR fault!
/r/seduction26/04/24 07:00 PM
1

What do you mean by having your radar up for disrespect?
/r/seduction24/04/24 06:53 PM
1

Sex is risky behavior when it isn’t with a committed partner, so once the moment passes you are only left with the risk. This is why men with abundance don’t chase women - the risk needs to be worth the chase. If you also do not care about the social pressure to have sex as a sign of worth and masculinity, you again lose neediness and increase your own attractiveness.
/r/seduction22/04/24 07:13 PM
3

Well then it isn’t worth it. Feelings are not enough to justify such drastic changes in your life to lose a friend that is a pillar in your world. Partners are not so vital you should wreck your life for one
/r/seduction19/04/24 01:23 AM
1

Easy: are you having fun with your friends being there?
/r/seduction18/04/24 06:47 PM
1

Be excited and motivated at the possibility. If you go out with a goal oriented mindset to hook up, I don’t know how you are going to avoid giving off needy body language.
/r/seduction15/04/24 08:09 PM
3

Don’t love bomb her. She definitely probably feels like there is now pressure to provide sex or that her value is lower now that she has given sex so early in your relationship. Assure her you still value her and that you’re into her. You just don’t need to over correct. Her only regret is she feels like she is more into you than you are into her now,
/r/seduction01/04/24 10:02 PM
3

Clubs and bars and festivals are where “women” are at in bulk. However, the reality is the respect I have for most of the women I’ve met at bars and clubs disappeared eventually. They were just as much of degenerates as I was at the time, fucking for validation. Go to the places where the kind of people you like will be at. Some of the people there are likely going to be women.
/r/seduction01/04/24 02:18 PM
4

This mindset is also a great one for being successful with women ironically.
/r/seduction24/03/24 03:28 AM
54

What do you even get out of this?
/r/seduction23/03/24 10:53 PM
1

Take care of your business son and start networking. I assume you aren’t a freshman- once college is over cross discipline networking become so much more of a challenge. This is only a problem if you let it be one or let her take up all your time.
/r/seduction23/03/24 08:48 PM
2

I’ve been taken up on several Lego build dates
/r/seduction31/01/24 04:22 AM
1

"Yourself" might just be codependent, in which case you should make some changes. You said a lot of "I like [this][and][that]" which is fine, but it's external happiness outside yourself, which is likely showing codependency. ​ If you're not busy, you better have already accomplished and helped out with the things that line up with your values, otherwise, you are being clingy and justifying it by saying you naturally feel clingy and someone will like that about you. ​ They won't. It is draining …
/r/seduction26/01/24 10:58 PM
1

Love this post. If you don't get better with talking to guys, old ladies, the postal worker, you probably aren't growing much in talking to women either.
/r/seduction03/07/23 08:35 PM
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I don't have time to completely breakdown technique, but let me give examples. Look into general conversational techniques to start. For example, many guys interrogate women. "Do you like this? How was that? Whats your opinion on this?" An older person may suggest simple techniques such as open ended questions. You want to go a step past that in conversational techniques, such as flattening those questions. Bad: "How was your trip?" "Do you like sushi? Good: "I bet your trip was a ton of fun!" "…
/r/seduction26/10/22 09:35 PM
9

With all due respect,, I think you learned the wrong lesson here. She tongued down EVEN THO she said there wasn't that physical attraction (assuming that is what she meant). That means your looks weren't holding you back. You didn't get uglier after the kiss. Why did she ghost? A ton of factors. She could have an idealized form of a relationship, was only looking to have fun and fool around, or like you said, have the hots for someone else (who could be ugly AF). I think the rest of your mindset…
/r/seduction26/10/22 04:10 PM
0

Being in shape helps a lot, but its not going to get you laid. Plenty of in shape virgins out there. I used to incredibly overweight, but I could still F close incredibly attractive women. I'm also only 5'5" but that didn't stop me either. Now that I'm in better shape, its a little easier but not tons. However, I don't attribute that to being in shape. I'm more fit now because I worked on the issues that caused me to stress eat, such as depression, insecurity, being validation seeking, fearing r…
/r/seduction23/10/22 03:33 PM
3

40% is pretty good nowadays
/r/seduction18/10/22 08:31 PM
2

Only if you are interested in Church, otherwise being disingenuous is exhausting. However, clubs always have events and if you just want an opportunity to meet other people, ask if they need any volunteers for these events. You don't need to join the club or the church to volunteer. Volunteering in college usually gives you some social proof as well. The problem with church girls isn't prudishness. Some churches may be very conservative, and others will have people open to casual dating. The rea…
/r/seduction19/09/22 04:41 AM
1

Because despite your best efforts, incongruity in who you are and how you act will show through to people. Subtext is everything, and unless you are some high level actor or a sociopath, your attitudes are detectable and change how your actions are precieved by others (even in text). Someone who does or doesn't message back but is not stressing about the situation will be ok. Someone who is stressing will only succeed in spite of themselves no matter their choice, because people notice when you …
/r/seduction25/12/21 12:01 AM
3

The larger point is why you make your decision. Nothing inherently wrong with messaging back or not, its where your priorities are. If you are validation seeking, or forgetting an abundance mindset, you'll be doomed with either choice. OP could still message back, but they are doing it with self respect and their priorities correct.
/r/seduction24/12/21 09:49 PM
1

Some advice in this thread is good, some is very bad. So here is simple tip to make the evening easier: Start with casual kino early so you don't struggle later. Get it out of the way with a hug when you first meet or whatever is the appropriate comfort level. Whatever you decide afterwards will he easier for both of you once you have kino established.
/r/seduction07/07/21 07:49 PM
6

Depends on the delivery tbh
/r/seduction14/08/20 12:17 AM
5

This is the way.
/r/seduction14/08/20 12:16 AM
2

No, this makes it awkward for everyone. It calls yourself out as well and makes you look insecure.
/r/seduction14/08/20 12:16 AM
1

Most important thing is to not freak out. If you get jealous, become frantic or emotional over it, you need work on your inner game. A lot of times these boil down to a game of hot potato. I've been on both sides of a girl talking to person A and going home with person B just because they were there at the right time. Let that guy do his thing, you can come by later and swoop in. If you're keeping your frame you won't chase. If it's an obnoxious guy trying to swoop in, you don't engage or respon…
/r/seduction08/07/20 11:22 PM
1

I don't disagree with what you are saying. It changes nothing about what I said though. You're not wrong but you're not making any points here.
/r/seduction27/03/20 02:45 PM
15

First off, always assume attraction with the caveat that it only works if you also remember not to be a douche about it. She is going to be attracted on some level, because she isn't going to keep a convo going with you out of pity. The question is what level of attraction are you at - does she want to jump your bones, or does she maybe just think you're a nice guy and she thinks you're cool? If you don't know, just assume it is the latter and work your way up from there. You need to escalate an…
/r/seduction26/03/20 12:09 AM
4

You don't have to, but if you aren't self sufficient and have an appropriate amount of confidence then yes, women will not want you. The ones that do will treat you poorly or are more likely are just feeling bad for you which a lot of guy misinterpret as interest. Yes, you will see men who don't have confidence in relationships - but how happy are they? What is the quality of the partner they have? Are they in a codependent relationship? So, no you don't need a ton of confidence to get a woman t…
/r/seduction26/03/20 12:09 AM
1

Great analogy.
/r/seduction15/03/20 07:13 PM
10

True, but if you don't understand OPs point then you are already lost
/r/seduction05/03/20 06:33 AM
1

Miscommunication, my bad. It's also pretty anachronistic to say that Valentine didn't fit into their new model and that's why they moved apart when it was entirely Valentine's idea to leave RSD and Owen did a number of things to try to stop that. I don't see how it is. He doesn't fit, and I think he knows that. New RSD doesn't even talk about game. They are about charisma and personal development. They don't use PUA terms or focus on women. Its about personal growth for them now. ​ Todd is def s…
/r/seduction13/02/20 03:10 PM
1

My point is that RSD and big names like Mason have made PUA mainstream enough that people started to learn what a neg was and terms like push/pull. Its not just girls identifying "peacocking" as that thing "pick up artist do". I've had a girl know that I was trying to up kino and she literally knew the term kino. More to the point, when everyone starts using the same tactics it becomes obvious you're trying "techniques" and people see through you because dozens of other guys have done the same t…
/r/seduction13/02/20 01:32 PM
1

They own his stuff, he agreed to the contract so I don't fault them for that. From what I heard, it wasn't amicable but the main problem was philosphy. Todd was always and outer game first, technique focused dude. That is why Owen originally wanted him. Eventually Owen and his partner said personal development is where it is at and Todd did not fit into that. You can't find their stuff online anymore though. Old content is being removed and edited down to exclude pick up. If that isn't the case,…
/r/seduction13/02/20 01:24 PM
2

Idk about that. RSD has left the PUA community and is entering the mainstream. Before that they were already setup to allow their instructors autonomy, they just preferred to keep a cohesive brand. Valentine left because they moved away from his brand of PUA as they transitioned to the mainstream and away from outer game even before that. PUAs have youtube and social media. They could start their own proven techniques and theory if they wanted. I just don't think anyone has anything that good or…
/r/seduction13/02/20 09:45 AM
1

RSD has tried to transcend PUA and honestly I think that is where PUA is headed in general. PUA has an issue with the public conciousness catching on to what a PUA are doing and it is like an arms race. Ultimately, being authentic and congruent with who you are and who you aspire to be is what causes attraction on a basic level during interactions. Even if you knew every technique and trick you'd get dropped as soon as your partner found out what a needy insecure leech you are. 90% of most peopl…
/r/seduction13/02/20 09:39 AM
6

I think this very need of not being ghosted goes back to the desire of seeking validation of others. How dare you ghost me, what did I do? I didn't do anything wrong! I'm interesting, so must be rude and mean! That in turn shows a bit of one-itis. Someone didn't want to continue with you - so what? They don't like you, if they did, they would contact you back. Move forward, you're life is bigger than this.
/r/seduction21/11/19 10:36 AM
32

First off, don't pander me. You didn't like me and were not sexually attracted, you don't have to lie about it. Secondly, I get that it is "polite" and will make it "softer" getting rejected but honestly, women just don't have that kind of experience with most men and there is no reason for them to assume you'd be any different. They get into debates (but Jenny, I thought we had so much fun together), get insulted (jenny you're a whore, why even give out your number...), are stalked (I know we'r…
/r/seduction21/11/19 10:24 AM
1

These are the broad strokes. You still are going to have a huge amount of variation, different personalities, and circumstances. They are just check points that you can aim towards but you don't have to stick to the script. You should be having fun doing this, and if things go off script you can go with it.
/r/seduction10/05/19 05:04 AM
1

You need to acknowledge the friends. You need to approach the whole group basically. ​ RSDMax had a video on this where he basically showed working his way the social ladder to the "hot" friend in the group. He actually just ignored her, was funny and charming to the rest of the group, waited for her to chime in when he was putting out a good vibe with her other friends. ​ Also, because you don't really want anything or have any expectations from the friends, you should be less anxious if you st…
/r/seduction10/05/19 05:00 AM
0

You intention is almost always clear in how you approach. What is creepy or gets you friend zoned is if you are hiding you intention. Being sweet and kind isn't anything someone can hate you for, but they aren't going to be attracted to you if you are hiding you intentions behind a veneer of politeness, an attempt to not offend, and demonstrating a need to be liked. ​ If your problem is that even though you are trying to be open, feel like you made the intention clear, and didn't hide anything, …
/r/seduction10/05/19 03:49 AM
2

Protip for when you don't live close enough to a gathering spot that you can actually get to your place when you say, "lets go for a walk": Tell them you live 5 - 10 minutes away by uber (don't lie, you need to actually live 5 - 10 minutes away you creep). If you seed the pull properly, when you actually say out loud "We can call an uber and stop by my place, it is like 5 minutes away." That is much less off putting than saying "Lets go back to my place." ​ They have no idea how far you live, wh…
/r/seduction10/05/19 03:42 AM
4

Doesn't have to be a bar. It can be a coffee shop or any gathering place. I always used this garden area that had street vendors nearby. After opening, we'd check out the vendors and look at their stuff. I got to know some of them a little bit and could act knowledgeable about some of the stuff they sold. ​ The real key here is: Logistics Social Proof Seed the pull Logistics Give them the excuse to be one on one without them slut shaming themselves. Logistics Physically escalate throughout the p…
/r/seduction10/05/19 03:34 AM
1

It is okay to have feelings for them, but you need to go get feelings for other people. She isn't available to the degree you want, enjoy what you have. People will tell you to cut her loose, but that won't remove the feelings. You need to grow your abundance so you are less invested emotionally and mentally in this person. It isn't about going out and hooking up with lots of women, it is about the realization and reality that she is not a huge part of your life. If they currently are, you need …
/r/seduction10/05/19 03:16 AM
5

Hey dude, sounds like she isn't feeling it. Not to say she won't come over, but you need to turn up the emotions, tension, and make the prospect of hanging out at your place sound more appealing. First, try to qualify her. Google it if you need examples, but essentially dont just be tossing out jokes. That is obviously and attempt by you to hook up with her and she knows it. Instead, go with, "Hey, doing this thing at my place. You can come over but only if you...[whatever funny ridiculous deman…
/r/seduction04/05/19 02:56 PM
1

When I see these kinds of post, the OP usually is spot on (such as in this case) but the way people take it is off. Comments like, "This is whats holding me back", "Step 1: Be attractive", "You need good game if you don't have looks", "Being out of shape is hard mode". Meh. Plenty of guys out there, PUA and non PUA alike, who are rocking a gut and are overweight yet can pull. The issue isn't that you need to get fit, or that you need nice clothes. It just boils down to: Does it look like you car…
/r/seduction04/05/19 10:01 AM
1

Hey dude this is great! Make sure to be careful about getting a reputation though. Universities can be a great place to meet girls but also you need to be aware that if you are going to use the line, "I thought you were cute..." you may very well end up getting known as that guy. ​ Mix it up, use different openers, try not to have expectations implied in your sets. ​ Don't want you to think you're not doing good though - you can build a great social circle from this. Having a network of people w…
/r/seduction04/05/19 09:35 AM
1

Exactly, be the buyer not the seller.
/r/seduction04/05/19 09:28 AM
1

Hey dude, I'm sorry you're feeling like this. I've felt this way before too. Dealing with suicidal thoughts is a dark awful place. You worrying about girls? That's nothing man - don't even fret over hooking up or anything of that nature. You need to focus on you first. Don't worry about them right now. ​ I can tell you what worked for me. First, there was a subreddit that got me on to a path that got my mind right. I think it was nonzeroday or something like that - but that was just a stepping s…
/r/seduction04/05/19 09:21 AM
1

Wow, these comments. ​ So, you talk to this guy already. You need to get him attracted by emotionally spiking him, framing your interactions like he is the one pursuing you, and then getting him to feel comfortable with broaching the topic of sex with you. So an easy way for this to happen is just to tease him. Guys have egos, and if you do it playfully, he will bite back. The idea is if you pull at him, want him, and make that known then the other person will also pull. Except they will pull aw…
/r/seduction04/05/19 09:04 AM
1

There are a few caveats with dating in college when you are an "older" guy. Logistics. Parents can be a factor. Unless you are at a large university, these girls will possibly live at home and be dependent on mom and dad. That could mean curfews, check-ins, having to - ugh - meet them when you pick them up from "their place". Just be aware for the sake of logistics and plan accordingly. Reputation. Don't be the guy hitting on all the girls in your department. Universities can get a fishbowl effe…
/r/seduction04/05/19 08:48 AM
1

Its lame if you're being a fake friend. Don't be fake. It isn't about this particular woman though. It is about the overall mindset of not only responding to results. If you are thinking about, "only talk to women who are completely single, no commitments , zero drama possiblity, that are interested in tonight because I need them to be clear right now if I can hook up with them." You are being totally results oriented and that is detrimental to your mindset and actual success. My advice in a nut…
/r/seduction04/05/19 01:29 AM
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It isn't a binary response. There is absolutely room to be considerate and give that space to not be that guy that won't stop. However, there is also space to still keep this person in your circle. In fact, the reason so many guys struggle is because they blow off the importance of building a strong social circle and having not just the mentality of abundance but actual abundance. If you just blow off every girl who gives you a, "but I kinda have a bf" response then you are going to have to have…
/r/seduction03/05/19 08:39 PM
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I think all these comments telling you to move on are missing a lot of the necessary subtly that would go with proper inner game. Obviously don't get hung up on this person. However, just keep going with a mindset you should of had in the first place: no expectations and not being result oriented. ​ So, what do you do next? Say this: "That's cool! Anyways... " Then continue your previous conversation, in jokes, and being generally interesting and adding value to their life. That's it. ​ The argu…
/r/seduction03/05/19 08:18 AM
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Coffee is fine but like you even said, dinner and a movie is formulaic. That is not at all what you want from a date. I would only ever do it with a girl who just wanted to be around my presence. Never with someone I'm trying to connect with on a deeper level emotionally or physically.
/r/seduction25/08/18 05:25 PM
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Although this isn't an answer to the inner game side of helping alleviate approach anxiety, a technique I use is to gain energy and take action before even running into that beautiful woman. My game starts with the first person I see in the morning. I try to bring positive energy and be friendly and authentic, making an effort to connect even briefly with small talk or a joke. I try to talk to as many people as I can, even if it is only briefly. It is important I'm being authentic and myself and…
/r/seduction20/07/18 10:11 PM
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Everyone saying to just move on, with is valid. However, it sounds like she is THINKING you might be cool and that she is interested in you, but she doesn't FEEL it. Are you spiking her emotions when she gets a message from you? Does she feel challenged by you or that she needs to qualify herself to you? She answered back, so she didn't blow you off entirely. But you gotta lite a fire and show your value, that you are living an awesome life and she is has an opportunity here to be a part of it, …
/r/seduction16/07/18 07:00 PM
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This is the right answer. If you walk away because, " Fuck this, how dare you." then you aren't having the right mindset. If you are just bored and want to do something else or start a different set, then there is no problem walking away. Her asking you where you went could have been her really saying, "Did you get jealous? Are you being possessive?" She isn't dumb, she knows you left because she danced with someone else. She can tell if you left because you came from a place of abundance and do…
/r/seduction16/07/18 06:27 PM
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The easiest way to make friends in high school is to join a club. I know that sounds like some lame advice, but it seriously is a great way to meet other people. You don't have to come up with some BS conversation or make a ton of small talk because you will usually have some sort of common goal. Don't join something too niche or that doesn't have a diverse group of people - you don't want to be in chess club if there are only like 6 other guys in there. Doing something like art or drama works o…
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