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Need Supportrdwrer_711/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 02:29 AM
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rdwrer_711/r/Divorce_Men22/04/26 12:12 AM
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Go to therapy, serious drown yourself in therapy for a while. It'll help you figure out what you want to do. It'll give you confidence and strength with time.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/26 02:00 AM
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Sign up for classes to learn something new. Go to you local community College. Take beginning painting, piano 1, social dance. Go to the gym and work out. Make friends by going to meetu.ps. Walking groups are good. I signed up for improv classes. It's been fun. Boardgame groups are good.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/26 05:06 AM
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I feel this too. I see my therapist weekly. I'm trying to build back my relationship with my sisters. I also go out most nights. I do an improv class, board game night, I've been working on organizing movies nights with some of the people I've met. I try to get numbers, Instagram, etc. I met another lonely guy and asked him to grab coffee. If you need someone to talk to shoot me a DM and we can setup a call. I do regret my divorce. I've brought up reconciliation, but I want it more than her so i…
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 01:18 PM
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I still have a hard time being alone. I don't have a solution for you, but I wanted to let you know I'm there also. I basically just make sure to leave the house regularly. 1 or 2 days a week at home to clean and reset, but go out to do something that involves other people all the other days. When I'm with my kids I'm focused on being with them.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/26 08:15 PM
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I agree it is a dangerous line of thinking. I think you also need to be a bit honest with yourself. There is likely a person that's a better fit for me, but how likely am I to find them. Also truly how bad was my ex verse the other fish in the seas. Also can I live a happy life if a few things were different? How likely is it I get those things? If it's likely then work on them and enjoy. If not and you think you could find a new partner that will provide them, without any new downsides. Go for …
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/26 07:55 PM
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I feel similar lately. My ex wife wasn't perfect but I'm realizing now there is no perfect. She had some issues but some were in response to how I behaved. I do feel like I did the right thing to divorce in the moment. I do wish I would have done some work on myself first. I do kind of have to accept that it's out of my hands to reconcile even if I hope we do. I need to prepare mentally to find someone else and I need to be ready to navigate someone with different issues.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/26 07:35 PM
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I was there also. I worked, cooked, cleaned, then went to bed. I did complained about her not helping and that just made her more angry. She will get half, you will get half. Kids are normally split. You have to go through an ugly year but you will be happier for it. Make sure you develop relationships you can talk to about this. Make sure you have a therapist. Do both of those before the divorce. Having people you can talk to was something I seriously wished I had. Also find a lawyer, I think t…
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 05:03 PM
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I love the child but the baby daddy or mom should be making the payment.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/26 03:59 PM
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I agree that's why its such a huge risk to get married. If one person just decide to not do anything they can and you're forced to be the one that ends the relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/26 10:38 PM
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I feel real dumb, just blinded by love I guess. More than anything I want my family, her family and "our" friends to know she's the one that was at fault. Some of them treat me as less than because they assume I did something wrong. It sucks!
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 03:53 PM
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We'll see, I've renewed my plan to get my son tested to see if he's mine. My daughter looks identical to me, so no need.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 06:19 AM
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The first two comments were while we were still living together the Olivia Rodrigo was related to the kids. I was asking to get her out of school for a day.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 05:30 AM
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Sadly most people die alone, even if married. If that really scares you focus on building deep friendships. If your worried about legacy adopt or mentor a kid. Be a big brother.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 05:09 AM
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Make new memories! Make friends, meet women, make memories your children will remember. Go for walks, watch the sun rise, swim in the ocean, hug a tree. Dance, sing, you will never forget her but you will remember happiness and you can offer happiness to others.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/26 03:30 PM
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Normally leaving is not something you have to do. Normally you get some of the assets. Hopefully it's enough to buy a used car and move to a town you want to be in.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/26 07:01 AM
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Just take it a day at a time. Go out and enjoy life the best you can. We've been there. It's gut wrenching but there is still joy to be had in life.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/26 08:40 PM
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Yeah the other poster provided that support. I was incorrect. Sounds like you're doing well. Sorry about the cheating/divorce look forward to the future.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/26 08:18 PM
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You don't need to be married to be with other people. Make friendships or have romantic partners. Build a life you enjoy and others around you might enjoy. The put yourself out there to find your people. Build a life with people you love and that love you.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/26 04:40 PM
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Yeah unfortunately my wife was not interested in cleaning, cooking, childcare, or getting a real job. Yet everyone assumes she did most of everything. Family therapy has really helped the most because I point out she did none of these things and the kids quietly agree with me. I don't care if the whole world doesn't believe me. Therapy is a place where I feel safe (even though the kids rightly don't) to say the truth. My ex can't treat me like crap anymore. It sucks that men are treated like vio…
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/26 12:32 PM
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Maybe a private investigator could help?
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/26 12:13 AM
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Thanks for looking it up, I was giving bad advice. Good luck to OP getting the evidence needed.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 10:19 PM
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Ask a lawyer if it matters I really don't think it does in Texas.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 09:31 PM
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Cheating normally has no basis in court. Sadly many women cheat, take the kids, take a little more than half the assets, child support, alimony and pension. Court doesn't care. You are entities to half of all assets/debt/net assets accumulated during the marriage. If she's helping pay the mortgage, that sounds like more than she has too, yay for you! No kids is even better no child support to worry about. Texas normally doesn't give alimony so don't worry about it. You can try to get more than h…
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 09:28 PM
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Cheating not against the law. Try to ignore the possibility the best you can. Get the house and Financials ironed out and get a formal agreement with a lawyer. Don't be vengeful just get something you can live with and move on. Sounds like she's feeling guilty so she'll agree to something that makes sense. Getting a women to agree something fair is hard don't kick a hornets nest. Keep as much as you can and count yourself lucky.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 08:31 PM
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It's so sweet to hear the words daddy. Keep enjoying life! Happy Fathers day!
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/26 03:52 PM
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Sorry to hear you're having such a hard time this father's day. The ups and downs are hard. Sounds like we were similar in how we treated the marriage. Continuous sacrifice. I do enjoy not having to do that anymore. My ex just didn't want to do shit. Now the time I do have, I get to focus on my kids and not having to manage another adults whole life. I wish you a hug on this father's day. Remember you have many years ahead with your daughter. Be a person she's proud of.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/26 01:29 PM
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Yeah that's hard also. I know it's hard but it may be best to let her go and try to get as much custody as your willing to take. Sounds like you baby will be okay but they'll want to see you in their time.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/26 03:42 PM
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I basically felt like I waited until my kids were old enough to take care of themselves mostly. They are teens now and I pulled the trigger last year. I knew we were likely to divorce 10 years ago. She's not abusive, just completely neligent. She didn't cook, didn't clean, she thought teaching out kids to read was a waist of time, she wouldn't get a job, she'd take the kids and go home a month or two during the summer. We had a deadbed room. She wouldn't work with them on brushing teeth. So I di…
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/26 03:29 PM
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Yeah emotions are wacky. My ex treated me bad, also I'm very sad we are divorced now. The good times flash back in waves then I remember the bad times and I settle again.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/26 05:01 AM
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I guess it would depend on when the education was obtained. Just like assets. Assets/education before marriage should be excluded. If the education was obtained during marriage I would think it should be additional. I agree it could be more than child support but feel fair to me. Child support with 50/50 custody just feels inherently unfair.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/26 05:02 PM
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Yeah it's goofy, working less hours and making lazy career choices is rewarded to the laziest in divorce. I am of the opinion 50/50 custody should result in no child support. Asset split should be 50/50. I do think of one person is college educated vs not. There should be education support granted to the non-educationed equal to tuition and books of an current equivalent education. To me that should be it. If the lower income spouse has less in the future that is a natural result of working less…
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/26 04:45 PM
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I pour myself into hobbies. Running, improv, stand up, salsa and social dancing in general. I do life at my home gym and clean the house. I work, but then I don't spenduch time at home.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 04:30 AM
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At least for me it's a time of rediscovery. What were the things that identified you before you were married? I used to love comedy and being silly. I used to enjoy dancing. I used to enjoy board games. I used to like driving around with friends and going to movies. I took an improv class, I took some dancing classes, and I attend boardgame nights. It's only been a few months and I am dad every other week. So the friendships aren't deep yet. However they are growing but by bit. I'm building my s…
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/26 10:47 PM
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Sorry man, gotta let it go. Sleep with someone. Lower your standards and don't commit to a relationship. Get it out of your head and try to move on the best you can.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/26 02:52 AM
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Yeah I got screwed by this also. My attorney and the mediator told me to come with a reasonable proposal I did. My wife started by asking for everything, we ended up between what I asked for and what my wife asked for. Don't do what I did, ask for everything and be a pain in the ass.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/26 12:31 AM
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Thanks, I hope I can get there with my kids as well.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/26 12:16 PM
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I'll be doing my first vacation as a single dad in two weeks. I'm pretty close with my son but my daughter favors my wife. I hope we can become closer and connect better. I'm nervous she won't want to and she stays in her room all week. I don't think it'll be all that bad, but I am nervous. I've never had this much time with them since the separation. We've had school and activities that haven't allowed for this much alone time so far in the separation, but this will probably be the longest stre…
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/26 04:48 AM
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I think you dealt with it fine. The kids recognize the unbalance in the schedule. They may perceive it as you not loving them. You made it clear holidays arent important to you and their happiness is your priority. That could be good enough. Kids may miss out on the experience of celebrating their father on father's day.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 02:42 PM
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Younger people generally feel stronger emotionally. Dont you remember a bad t-shirt or not being asked to the dance are big deals at certain point of life. Once you've got a few decades under your belt and some life experience, you realize good things and bad things are happening all the time.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 01:28 AM
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I understand why some may not say it. My ex and I aren't awful to each other, and I still care about her so I say it.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 08:54 PM
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Sorry to hear that, that really tough for your daughter. Just keep loving her, she'll be 18 soon enough and she'll remember who treated her well.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 01:02 PM
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My wife bought presents for my birthday. I will return the favor. Mother and father's day were built into our agreement. I think it's still important to treat my ex the way I want to be treated as long as she doesn't abuse it.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/26 11:51 PM
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Yeah, sorry you can't flee the country to avoid CS
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/26 10:33 PM
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I understand man, my wife treated me like crap, but I accept she'll never admit it. Her admitting it also won't change anything so not much to do about it. It sucks but it's a part of my life now. I just keep focus on my kids and our future. Sounds like you're doing good all things considered.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/26 07:50 PM
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Do what she's doing, but do it for you. Get in shape, join clubs /activities you like, get a therapist to talk about your feelings. Appreciate that you didn't have kids. Maybe try to find a new job. I know it sucks, I filed and the day my ex moved out was very hard, but it's getting better. I'm remembering who I was as a single person. I still wish for what could have been but accept it won't be. I can only move forward.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/26 04:05 PM
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Therapy (with your partner if they're willing)
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/26 12:26 AM
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My attorney gave me a range of what's reasonable for my state and the income difference. I started in the middle of that range. My ex asked for the max. I ended up with a little less than max child support. This is even though I have 50% custody. Give her the what's put in the agreement and buy things with/for your kids directly. Don't give more than that unless required by the court.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/26 06:57 PM
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I don't know about mine, but I would say when it's done let it be done. Let her date and try not to care. I don't see any way in which it could benefit you to know this information.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/26 12:50 PM
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I agree at this point I try to make super tiny changes and hope for the best. Thanks for the support.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/26 12:38 PM
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Yeah I figured things out in my early 20, some of my siblings never figured it out and their lives are in shambles. Makes me sad to see my kids learning that lying and laziness gets them what they want for now (it worked for mom) I just hope they figure out this doesn't work out for most people. I definitely take an I'm here if you need me approach now. It reduces the tension but bad grades and bad health persist. Good luck to you.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/26 12:37 PM
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It does feel like an argument with an audience but at least to me it does seem to be putting pressure on both of us to do better so this third party sees us doing better. It may not feel like much but I see the improvement.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/26 02:25 AM
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Rewards is a great suggestion. I'll put that in place. Yeah the healthy food option has been tough, they just want junk food and I get call a bad dad by mom and the kids when I don't offer junk food. I'm try to think of a reward system for that.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/26 12:52 AM
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It's very hard because they don't like brushing teeth and mom call me a bad guy for making them brush their teeth. She says they should do it on their own which has lead to major and expensive dental problems.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/26 12:50 AM
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I always miss them, but I've come to accept this is part of our life. I try to fill my time without them with things I enjoy. Playing boardgamed or watching movies with friends takes the edge off. Going for a run or lifting weight helps me feel good. I still cry at times when I'm without them. A memory will be jogged and I will miss it and be sad. It's a part of my life and I take peace knowing when their 18 we can spend as much time together as they want. I need to be a dad they want to spend t…
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/26 06:51 PM
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Once it starts parts of you will feel better, parts of you will feel worse. You will inherently do things better for yourself because you will have time, use it to do good things. Parts of you will feel worse, mourning the life you wish you had, and time with your child. Life is long, if you work through the set backs with an eye on improving yourself things will get better. If it takes years you'll likely have decades to enjoy the fruits of that decision.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/26 04:39 PM
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I think there's more selfish men then you appreciate. I really think it's a human problem more than a women problem. People are lazy, selfish and willing to throw others under the bus to get what they want. Finding a good person is challenging. Maybe keep searching for someone with green flags. Like a good job, a person willing to say good things about their ex, a good relationship with their father, willing to apologize when they make a mistake. I know it's hard because someone being nice to us…
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/26 01:11 PM
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Choosing the sacrifice is a career choice they made, therotical outcomes and what if scenario shouldn't be something the court spends time considering. What if the nonworking spouse was toxic, should that spouse be responsible for future therapy? Or lost wages or career progression due to mental health issues? If there is evidence they were prevented from working then I would agree. Most high expense areas have a less expensive area within 10 miles. They are getting 50% of the assets, they can w…
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/26 12:12 PM
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Yep, it's not fair unfortunately. Why one person has to live in poverty to prop up those that refuse to better themselves sucks. I wish politicians cared about this issue but they don't. Try to get promoted. I do wonder if quitting a job would get things reduced. Fighting harder in divorce is something I could have done better. I'm personally of the opinion 50/50 asset split is fair and nothing beyond that. Abuse or infidelity should be considered. Maybe some consideration if one spouse has a de…
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 07:59 PM
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I make a a healthy living and I only have 5 years until child support ends. I have two children. I pay $2000. My wife refused to work for ten years so the lawyers so she doesn't make much. Fortunately I live in a state that doesn't really do alimony. I've taken out a heloc to pay for things. I kept half of my retirement but I was ordered to pay a lot in cash. So I'm strained but I made a lot of good decisions financially for a long time despite my ex, and the loan while not great will make it so…
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 06:48 PM
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For sure, a party with family could be enough. But getting married, is just not a good move unless the other party is richer. Even then its probably not worth the hassle.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 06:11 PM
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Yep, I'd even offer a fake marriage. A big party for family, wear rings whatever. But we ain't signing no legal documents and our finances are staying separate. I also kind of think she should maintain housing for herself also even if it's a small apartment.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 04:55 PM
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Sorry man, go to therapy. It's her life, try to live you best life. It's sad when those we love don't love us the same, but it's life. Keep your head up. Be a good Dad and do things that make you happy.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 05:00 AM
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If all your money would get stuck in child support, go to college. Community College is cheap and federal aid will likely pay for it. Then you may need to pay for university, go to a cheap accredited state school. Increase the amount you'll get paid in the future. It'll avoid being put into cs now. Youre gonna be poor either way you may as well build a future where you'll be less poor. Seriously strive to be the person your kids want to be around when their 18. You will still have lots of years …
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 06:48 PM
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I've been of the opinion lately that if it's this bad accept that I won't be able to be with my kids until they are 18. I guess in my case I felt like my spouse wasn't allowed to move them away from where we lived. Where we lived was fine for me to stay. So we built into the agreement to be within 10 miles of their high school. I know there are varying laws and situations. But yeah if I'm being destroyed just to see my kids, I would just focus on building myself into the person they would want t…
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 05:02 PM
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Talk to a lawyer, but generally you split the assets you acquired during the marriage. So you may keep more than you think since it was so short. But yeah guys lose half of everything to cheating spouses all the time.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 08:09 PM
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Yeah the law is what needs to change. Some states are better than others. Male rights aren't a hot button issue so it's unlikely to get better.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 06:08 PM
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I'm really grateful to live in Texas where Alimony is tough to get. I recommend all to move here. Sadly most of Republicans platform is horrible, but they get a few things right. My wife also decided on her own to stop working for a decade. No one seemed to care when I brought, they just saw my income was higher and so she got a lot of child support and half the assets. In my opinion they should get half the assets and that should be it. At least once my kids are 18, I'll be able to throw tons o…
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 04:06 PM
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Yeah I remember my mom keeping my dad away. My dad was pretty good though. He would show up and sometimes get shooed away during his time. I know he didn't pay everything, but the dude lived in a 1 bedroom apartments at poverty levels and paid what he could. He did get his every other weekend most of the time, but my mom made it hard. I can see why others give up. After 18 our relationship improved. He always picked up the phone, but he didn't always call. He wanted to be a part of our lives but…
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 03:53 PM
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You can do you, but I guess I was like your wife. We divorced because built up resentment. I didn't see why we couldn't eat dinner together and make it through holidays doing what we normally do. It's like any other holiday family get together. We don't bring up controversial topics and discuss things with shared interest. I get that there is pain and mourning. I accepted that we weren't able to do what I wanted. I continued trying to keep things normal but my wife wouldn't participate and after…
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 01:17 PM
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Talk to an attorney and do what they say
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 03:58 AM
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When I googled it, it said theres about a 10% chance. I think it's pretty unlikely unless both of you are willing to change. You can ask him why he wants to leave, you can ask if he wants to reconcile, you can see if he's open to counseling. You'll have to ask yourself if the change is something you can live with, without resentment? Are you going to be okay that he's with other women during this time? It might be too hard for you also. I can't imagine going through this while pregnant. I'm real…
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 02:44 AM
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Yeah sounds like he's been unhappy a while.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 02:36 AM
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You do. She could file and if you no show, no response eventually a judge will decide with only knowing her side. You could wait for her to file to do anything and just live how you are as a married individual living separately. You are normally required to be served to start the process. Then you can work with an attorney. If I thought it's likely to happen. I would at least start interviewing attorneys so you have someone you like when it starts to go down.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 10:15 PM
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He wants to get with other women. It's not more complicated then that. He's done with your relationship romantically. Could be for lots of reasons. Do you have further questions? I'm cool answering. Edit: this doesn't mean it's easy to him. If he initiated the divorce he could have been unhappy a long time and already accepted the end of the marriage a long time ago. Maybe you guys have had issues for a while and he mentally accepted this outcome long ago. This could also be how he's coping with…
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 09:58 PM
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Interesting, thanks for the thought. We've only had a few minor costs so far so it's seemed fine so far.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 04:43 PM
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We agreed to one extra curricular that we are splitting costs related to. Everything else is by agreement and split costs with documentation. I can just not agree and the costs are up to my wife.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 04:30 PM
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I split all medical costs. I feel like its fine since my wife is also on the hook so it reduces abuse.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 04:24 PM
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If she won't go, go yourself, I didn't because I figured if she wouldn't go it didn't matter. But I think their communicate advice and help can help even if it's just for you.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 01:32 PM
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Yeah, as long as there is attraction, I really want someone that is kind and wants to do things that are fun together.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 12:50 PM
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Yep getting out of the house is important
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 11:34 PM
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Human have a strong ability to convince themselves that all their decisions are noble. Self reflection is difficult because it may lead me to learn I am bad and in need of change. Change is also difficult. I have found this trait to be very common characteristics of humans. Lots of people have convinced themselves their cheating is the fault of their partner. I also see this play out at work most of my life. It's very rare for people to take responsibility for their own actions.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 06:31 PM
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Yeah just send a message and don't think about it again. Treat people the way you would want to be treated is a good philosophy no matter what. If she doesn't fix it, that's on her.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/26 03:11 PM
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Talking down to someone doing something responsible, even if unoptimized is poor form.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/26 07:21 PM
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I've starting joining social groups and got on their discord and got a group of about 10 to grab Chinese and watch hail mary. Took some showing up and trying to be talk-a-tive to get to this point but it's definitely big for me I love movies.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/26 04:06 AM
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Make sure to focus on your future. As long as you're making progress on building the life you want. Getting and offering support from time to time from this forum is fine.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 06:51 PM
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You don't custody at all? You can have half time of you say you want it. Is the house a rental? If it's owned you should get 50% of the net value of the home in cash. Biggest thing to remember is a new normal will happen eventually try to envision how you'd like you life to be and work toward it
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/26 12:34 AM
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Sounds like you'll still be poor then, in some ways that makes it cleaner. Sorry to hear about the divorce and accident. Any specific advice you're looking for?
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/26 10:24 PM
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If you wife has money you will get half of assets and you can fight for alimony/child support. You will likely have to downscale and start making friends. Look at meet up for things to do. You can also volunteer to meet people. If you're religious you can go to church. Things will settle eventually, but it may take time. Be the best father you can be to your daughter.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/26 09:51 PM
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My wife and I had good times, but I realize if my wife doesn't care to work on the relationship it's not going to get better. I'm pretty recent I to my divorce as well. My ex and me get along in the moments we interact with each other, it makes me miss the good times. I remember the bad times though and realize of we got back together today nothing would really have changed and I'd be regretting it the minute we got back together. So unfortunately if I'm the only one that wants it to work then i…
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/26 02:14 AM
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Yeah years of unhappiness makes getting over divorce look fast from outsiders. I still get sad when thinking about the good times. Then I remind myself of the mostly bad times and it helps me realize how fortunate I am to get out and happy building the life I want for me and my kids, when I have them.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/26 03:01 PM
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I think I'm in the minority of men who left. I think people leave due to built up unhappiness and it can truly happen for an endless variation of reasons.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/26 01:44 PM
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Definitely a question for an attorney. I put this in a maybe category.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/26 04:00 PM
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I know it sucks but life's long, keep working through it. Find moments of happiness. Maybe you need to be and stay unmarried. I think being single kind of sucks, just don't get married. I'm even against moving in together. You need to protect yourself. Love the kids the best you can while keeping your distance from the ex. You can try harder once their 18.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/26 02:14 PM
7

Have you considered the red light district?
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/26 06:19 PM
2

Obviously she won't
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/26 01:06 AM
6

My wife also refused to get a job for 12 years, thank God I live in Texas the slavery will be over when my kids are 18. Edit: She got a lot in assets and child support because the income difference. We still have 50/50 custody. Definitely feels like a reward for not working.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/26 05:19 AM
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