re_Claire Archive

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4	do you think reading literature for women might help boys stuck in red pill? Yeah I think boys/men who read nothing but anime could do with reading some proper literature. It doesn't have to be the classic literary fiction, there are plenty of modern fun books that treat women as people.	/r/ExRedPill	03/03/26 08:00 PM
4	How to desconstruct the toxic idea of "She's settling for you but really wants the "hotter/alpha" guy who didn't commit to her" There are so many issues with collecting empirical data from any study like this I wouldn't even know where to start. It's not remotely reliable due to so many confounding variables, issues surrounding participant selection and statistical analysis in general that they're basically scientifically meaningless.	/r/ExRedPill	03/03/26 12:59 AM
2	Red Pill Women is so stupid Unfortunately there will always be women who get sucked into it. It's like they think (possibly subconsciously) that by being part of that they elevate themselves above other women. As if it means they wouldn't then be fucked over by it. It's depressing and sad.	/r/ExRedPill	01/03/26 02:46 PM
7	“Men love unconditionally, women love opportunistically” Thank you! I've had a lot of therapy. And thank you so much for the kind thoughtful conversation. I've had some really great discussions on this subreddit weirdly. Despite some of the commenters still struggling with really misogynistic views, I also find people here are trying to be more vulnerable and introspective as well as trying to unpack the cage that the "traditional" gender roles can place us all in.	/r/ExRedPill	01/03/26 02:44 PM
11	“Men love unconditionally, women love opportunistically” Exactly. And men AND women are capable of being shitty. It's a part of being human. Deconstructing the red pill (and adjacent mindsets) is about understanding that if you're a guy who grew up with parents where your dad didn't treat your mum like a whole person (which is obviously more common in much older generations) it doesn't mean you're automatically an irredeemable shitbag. We could all stand to be better partners and part of that is unlearning the shitty examples our parents set us. Like …	/r/ExRedPill	01/03/26 12:47 PM
27	“Men love unconditionally, women love opportunistically” Your 2 cents are correct. What the red pill chooses to ignore is that both sides need to be invested in a relationship to make it work, and both put effort in. So they see posts where guys say "my wife is leaving me and taking the kids and house" and don't realise that some men are brought up to not even realise that they should put that same effort in because that's what their fathers or grandfathers did. They ignore that the world has changed and women no longer have to stay at home, and have …	/r/ExRedPill	01/03/26 10:28 AM
5	Why do you think relationships don't last as long as they used to? My dude this isn't healthy for you. Genuinely. It's like every day. It seems to be obsessive behaviour.	/r/ExRedPill	14/02/26 11:10 PM
10	Do you think the number of sexual partners matters? Please remember that people aren't saying this out of a desire to be mean but as a concern for your mental health. This red pill stuff is so toxic to mental health. It seeks to make you more depressed and distrustful. Remember this - these influencers are making money. They know they make more money if people never escape the red pill ideology. The best way to do this is by keeping you miserable and angry. Give yourself a break from it all for a while. A day or a week, or even an hour if that's …	/r/ExRedPill	10/02/26 11:20 PM
8	How do I move on without getting angry at women everyday ? It's not your appearance or height or anything. There's something you are projecting. Women can feel your anger my dude. We're humans too. You say you get the cold treatment and dirty looks but I promise you we can feel it just as much. People in black pill/red pill communities will scream all they want about women wanting a bad boy, an arsehole who will treat us badly over a nice guy. But it's just objectively fucking false. The vast majority.of women want someone who at least seems to like us.…	/r/ExRedPill	08/09/25 08:01 AM
7	So what if no girl fucks with you at all? I genuinely don't understand. Did you just assume you'd magically be gifted a girlfriend by the sex fairy if you got some hobbies and groomed yourself? Human connection is a two way street my guy, but you have to actually be on the street in the first place.	/r/ExRedPill	07/08/25 03:41 PM
8	biggest issue with red pill is lack of alternatives I'm so pleased to hear this. I honestly think that if some of these red pill types had a male therapist who was an example of positive masculinity, it would help them break out of some of the chokehold that toxic masculinity has on them. Unfortunately the influencers who prey on these kinds of men know that the kind of fear and self loathing they promote keeps them locked into the toxic mindset. They really do need positive male role models they can talk to and be challenged by in a therapeutic …	/r/ExRedPill	08/06/25 12:11 AM
7	biggest issue with red pill is lack of alternatives Yep. Therapy is the best alternative. I don't mean this in a snarky manner. Therapy is genuinely one of the best things anyone can do for themselves.	/r/ExRedPill	07/06/25 10:24 PM
4	No, 80% of women are not sleeping with 20% of men Exactly this. I couldn't have put it better myself.	/r/ExRedPill	27/05/25 12:14 AM
24	Message to Struggling Men! Jesus Christ that book sounds like a huge redpill red flag to me. The idea that men should be out there fighting MMA to signal athleticism and masculinity sounds super toxic and weird. Just get a hobby that you love. Don’t worry about it being “masculine”. Women aren’t all out there wanting super masculine dudes. So many of us love men who are not remotely masculine. We don’t all need our men to be athletic but if you want to be athletic for its own sake (which is the best reason to do it - for …	/r/ExRedPill	01/01/25 01:33 AM
8	I need help This. Also think about the word partner. It’s a relationship with another human being where you both give and take. What do you have to offer her? What shared experiences do you want to enjoy? It’s not just getting a girlfriend/wife for sex. It’s looking after each other when you’re sick or having a rough time. It’s companionship and commitment. Women don’t want men who say they want all this but when it comes down to it just want someone they can have sex with	/r/ExRedPill	25/12/24 01:05 AM
2	Red pill guys telling men to avoid women with daddy issues is unrealistic. Yep as someone with “daddy issues” this is the answer sadly.	/r/ExRedPill	23/12/24 03:37 PM
1	Why whenever i have an argument with a woman or a feminist online and she realizes she can’t change my mind about a topic they either block you on social media or blindly and falsely assume stuff about you and insult you? Ok but you’re posting here in r/exredpill so it leads me to wonder if there’s something you’re putting across that screams “I don’t respect women as people” to these people you’re talking to online?	/r/ExRedPill	28/11/24 09:54 PM
4	What do you think about the phenomenon of "high value" redpillers? Andrew Tate is not a “chad” or a “high value” male. None of them are.	/r/ExRedPill	13/11/24 12:53 PM
2	Dating harder more now then ever Oh yeah definitely. I just meant like - so many guys wonder why they don’t get matches on the apps from women but that’s why. Women just aren’t on there as much. So many of the female profiles are bots.	/r/ExRedPill	27/10/24 10:31 PM
2	What would you have liked to have been told when you were inside the red pill Number 3 is so real. Omg the amount of people who have a glow up between high school and adulthood or between their 20’s and 30’s. Although I honestly believe that everyone is capable of being attractive as long as you find the right haircut, and clothing style, and look after yourself. So many glow ups are as a result of people learning how to style themselves and getting confidence. But yeah some peoples faces just look better as they age!	/r/ExRedPill	27/10/24 09:55 AM
3	What would you have liked to have been told when you were inside the red pill This is one of the best comments I’ve seen on here. I wish all guys coming here would be linked to it. As a woman I come here to try and offer friendly advice from a female perspective and I genuinely feel like this little subreddit is a spark of hope. It’s so refreshing to see guys come in and say honestly that you need to learn to love yourself. To know you’re worthy of love. To feel emotions, good or bad.	/r/ExRedPill	27/10/24 09:50 AM
3	What would you have liked to have been told when you were inside the red pill Oh man I see so many guys in the red pill arena say things about women that aren’t even close to accurate but all the sources they cite are other red pill/PUA influencers. Or people like Andrew Tate. No matter how much we tell them we aren’t like that and only a majority is they won’t listen. It makes me so sad and angry that these influencers manipulate their audience in such a horrible way. By keeping their audience angry and distrustful of women, they keep them hooked on their content. It’s s…	/r/ExRedPill	27/10/24 09:44 AM
3	Dating harder more now then ever As a woman, I feel like the majority of women I know won’t even use the apps because of how depressing and toxic it is.	/r/ExRedPill	27/10/24 09:21 AM
2	I ruined my life by being horrible to women. Where do I go from here? As a woman who has experienced SA I’m very glad to see the comments on this. The only way people who have been abusive can change is if they really want to. OP I agree with the person saying to get involved with organisations that work with men in prevention of violence against women. I think surrounding yourself with positive influences will go a long way to help see a path forward. There will be men in these organisations who will understand and support you in this. I wish you all the luck.	/r/ExRedPill	27/10/24 09:19 AM
2	Question about Matt cross So many PUAs and “dating Gurus” hire actresses to be in their videos. Possibly most of them.	/r/ExRedPill	27/10/24 09:13 AM
1	I realized that Andrew Tate is a weak man He’s bald because of genetics.	/r/ExRedPill	27/10/24 09:12 AM
16	I fell for the redpill and let it control me again. Story time What is driving you spend your time doing this? As in what do you get out of it? It might be worth examining your motivations for spending your time on threads getting into these arguments. I wonder if there’s a part of you deep down that wants women to respond and be angry so that you have a reason to be angry at them? Anger can sometimes be easier to deal with emotionally than the feeling of rejection. Sometimes anger is a lie we tell ourselves to cope with our true feelings about the world.	/r/ExRedPill	27/10/24 09:10 AM
5	How do you deal with your insane envy of promiscuous people? As someone with herpes, I occasionally go to r/herpes and it’s full of people like me who got it from a long term relationship. So many of us were lied to by ex-partners who didn’t make any efforts to not pass it on. The stigma around it is so ridiculous as well. For eg you can transmit oral herpes to genitals and vice versa. Both type 1 and type 2, even though people will tell you it’s not possible. It happens. So people have the oral version on their genitals or genital version on their lips. …	/r/ExRedPill	21/10/24 03:41 PM
11	Why is there always so much pushback to young men who claim that the reason they can’t get a date is 100% the way they look? That’s just not true. Just because you’ve seen a “study” online doesn’t mean that’s a study that is remotely accurate or statistically significant	/r/ExRedPill	05/08/24 04:33 PM
21	Why is there always so much pushback to young men who claim that the reason they can’t get a date is 100% the way they look? I have seen guys who say they’re ugly and post on red pill/incel subreddits then post a face reveal and they’re legitimately attractive. But because they don’t look like Channing Tatum or whatever they’re convinced they’re hideous and their face is the problem. But they also spend all their time complaining about how much they hate women so I really don’t think their face is the problem.	/r/ExRedPill	04/08/24 06:47 PM
3	Why women don't have sex on day one I’m glad you’re engaging in the discussion rather than taking this as an outright criticism and attack. I genuinely don’t think it was. I read your original post and I don’t think it came across that badly, more poorly worded.	/r/ExRedPill	30/07/24 02:46 PM
15	Why women don't have sex on day one I’m so glad there are some really insightful discussions on here. I joined because I wanted to offer a female perspective, and perhaps give support to people coming out of the red pill; show them that women aren’t the enemy. Obviously there are a lot of times on here what that doesn’t work but I hope that some ex redpillers see posts like this and it gives them pause to think and learn.	/r/ExRedPill	30/07/24 02:39 PM
22	Why women don't have sex on day one As a woman with a lot of platonic male friends I’ve heard this very sentiment from them. That they don’t just want to have sex straight away and when they were younger they felt so much pressure into thinking they had to be that way to be masculine. This is why smashing down the gender roles is so important. The current system teaches us all that women have to be one way and men another, but it hurts men just as much as it hurts women. That’s why I get so sad seeing men get sucked into the red p…	/r/ExRedPill	30/07/24 02:33 PM
8	Is it ethical to lie about my height on dating apps? No it’s weird. I’m a woman and I prefer short men. Like 5’5 - 5’9. But I’d go out with a guy who was shorter than me (I’m 5’5) if I liked him and same for a guy taller than 5’9. I’ve had boyfriends that were over 6’ although that’s not my preference, because I liked them as people. But you know what would actually bother me? Someone saying they were one height and then I turned up and they were another height. I see it in the profile and don’t pay attention to it but the second I realise it’s a …	/r/ExRedPill	23/07/24 01:08 PM
5	Do most liberal women have sex outside relationships? Ahh yes good point!	/r/ExRedPill	20/07/24 02:59 PM
13	Do most liberal women have sex outside relationships? Or it just doesn’t appeal to them at all.	/r/ExRedPill	20/07/24 02:28 PM
5	Is there a way to not see every woman I meet as a potential partner Im the same as u/panicpersonified - ADHD (possibly autism too) and had childhood neglect/trauma. Just to add my 2 cents on top of the excellent point they’ve made… What helps me is stepping back and thinking, okay but would I even want to date this person? And be objective about it. Literally ask myself - do I like them or have they just been kind to me and I’ve had that weird latching on thing that my brain does. Most of the time I don’t even really know them! And when I’m really objective abou…	/r/ExRedPill	03/07/24 09:42 PM
9	Questions about 2 dating coaches who are women ? The problem with ALL dating coaches is that they treat women like a complicated slot machine. “Women like these things and if you do them correctly you’ll get sex out of them” sort of narrative. And it’s just not true. We’re not all the same. We all like completely different things, and hate completely different things. We’re just human beings.	/r/ExRedPill	03/07/24 05:23 PM
11	If women hate the patriarchy, why do they make conforming to it a requirement for mates? Oh damn, that’s awful. Yeah he absolutely does. Abusive parents like that will fuck you up. He needs intensive therapy.	/r/ExRedPill	20/06/24 08:05 PM
11	If women hate the patriarchy, why do they make conforming to it a requirement for mates? I try to give a lot of these guys the benefit of the doubt and be kind to them because they’ve been sucked into this mad cult like ideology, and it seems like it’s really hard to escape. But then there’s guys like OP who just fucking hate us lol	/r/ExRedPill	20/06/24 07:25 PM
4	How do I not internalize "all men are trash" content online? Please remember - the vast majority of the vents of women saying “men are trash” are complete hyperbole. Kind of like a sarcastic joke. Know that the vast majority of the women saying that have men in their lives that they love and respect. They are just railing against a lot of the (ironically) red pill type behaviour they’re seeing and that upsets them (us). I’ve definitely said things like this online when I’m at my most upset at something I’ve seen where men have treated us poorly. But I hav…	/r/ExRedPill	20/06/24 05:21 PM
2	How do I not internalize "all men are trash" content online? Exactly. Most the vast majority) of these vents are complete hyperbole.	/r/ExRedPill	20/06/24 05:17 PM
3	CMV: Why would a woman even care? Have you ever even spoken to a woman other than your mother???	/r/ExRedPill	20/06/24 05:12 PM
13	If women hate the patriarchy, why do they make conforming to it a requirement for mates? I feel like OP is just waiting for some woman to jump in and agree with him so he can say “I knew it! I knew they were all vapid whores who use men for money and sex!”	/r/ExRedPill	20/06/24 05:09 PM
10	If women hate the patriarchy, why do they make conforming to it a requirement for mates? Not the person you replied to but • the relationship might not automatically be over if I lose respect but it would depend on what I lose respect for. Tbh I’d lose more for a guy who refused to show emotions and bought into red pill stuff. The only reason I’ll lose respect is if the guy was a horrible person. I actively want my partners to show emotion. I don’t like it when they are emotionless. • I’m not in a relationship at the moment but I’ve been in relationships in the past where objectivel…	/r/ExRedPill	20/06/24 05:06 PM
12	If women hate the patriarchy, why do they make conforming to it a requirement for mates? We don’t view you like that. We dislike the guys who hate us and think we’re all the same though.	/r/ExRedPill	20/06/24 04:52 PM
17	If women hate the patriarchy, why do they make conforming to it a requirement for mates? Yeah I’m a woman and I don’t know any women like the type OP describes.	/r/ExRedPill	20/06/24 04:50 PM
1	How do people date people they aren’t physically attracted to? I mean it as in - you don’t have to find them attractive, but it’s a good exercise in getting out of the mindset of people being chads and staceys (if you were into that,) hypergamy, rating people out of ten etc. realising that there is beauty in everyone if you look for it. Just try and look for it in everyone. It’s not about you personally wanting to sleep with someone. It’s about realising that it’s all way more complicated than “only the top 10% of men get all the women” and thinking only th…	/r/ExRedPill	20/06/24 04:46 PM
1	How do people date people they aren’t physically attracted to? They will. You just have to keep looking. Sometimes you have to check your standards though. I see a lot of red pill guys and incels who are stuck on that mindset of thinking only the top echelon of actresses and models are attractive and honestly I don’t know how to advise if you’ve gotten into that. See the beauty in every day people. Watch the way their face lights up when they smile, the way their eyes sparkle, the little things that make them them. Look at couples you don’t find attractive …	/r/ExRedPill	19/06/24 12:06 PM
3	How do people date people they aren’t physically attracted to? One thing I wonder if you’re confused by is because you’ve seen other people date someone that you aren’t attracted to. For example seeing a very attractive woman with a less attractive man (or vice versa). But that’s basing it off your own personal preferences. To that attractive person, they find their partner incredibly attractive even if other people would say they aren’t. It’s all subjective. They’re not dating them in spite of their looks. To them it’s all part of the package. So just date…	/r/ExRedPill	18/06/24 08:38 AM