re_spirit Archive

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1	The hidden power of failure 🤫 Yes, in essence, it's powering through the rejections and failures that'll make you successful. However, I would like to add that you must do something different the next time if whatever you're doing is not working for you, or not getting you the results you want. If you keep doing the same thing that's not working, even trying harder at it, and expecting different results, that's borderline insanity. It will not lead you to success and hurt you a lot more than you think. It might be hard to tr…	/r/seduction	18/10/20 11:34 PM
1	How I Turned Myself Into A Social Butterfly What if my problem is that I don't have anything to say? Who are you referring to? Strangers, acquaintances, classmates, co-workers, friends, and/or family? The only true advice I can give you is to talk about something that interests you or is on your mind. See how others responds to it. If they continue the conversation, great and develop more with them. If not, try again later. Nothing funny, witty or interesting? I wouldn't focus on trying to impress people. I would focus on being fun and ha…	/r/seduction	14/10/20 01:05 PM
7	How I Turned Myself Into A Social Butterfly Another thing I would like to add is picking wisely who you go out with. A caring and nonjudgmental group of friends will do a lot for your confidence and self-esteem when you go out. Wingman, hypeman, planner, etc., you name it. When you go out, a lot of people will be out with their friends--that's just natural. Once so often, you will meet a lone wolf in highly sociable situations though. Of course, you can approach these groups of people by yourself, but I find it easier when I'm with my cir…	/r/seduction	14/10/20 05:24 AM
1	21F 23M Could she (21F) be testing me (23M) of what I said is actually true by not replying to me yet? or more of a fallout? How do you know she was trying to? It was never clarified in your post. Also, girls that age generally lack confidence, so she may just be unsure herself on how she feels. Maybe not towards you, but her own emotions and feelings. Immaturity is subjective as well. I wouldn't waste time with girls who feel the need to test me. If I stick in that mindset that she's testing me, it makes me bitter and more insecure in myself.	/r/seduction	19/02/20 03:55 AM
1	21F 23M Could she (21F) be testing me (23M) of what I said is actually true by not replying to me yet? or more of a fallout? I mean well for what I'm about to write out, not trying to antagonize you. I think she has no interest in dating you. Her behavior indicates that. If you were truly confident and secure, you wouldn't need to tell her that you deserve of such things. A bit needy, in my opinion. Move on and find another girl. Next time, just leave some things unsaid and let the girl make the choice to come to you.	/r/seduction	19/02/20 03:39 AM
3	What are some light physical activities for a date ? I like to take my dates on walks of my favorite parks. I bring them to ones that have something unique or decorated. My favorite one, by far, is a light show this park nearby me has every 7:00 PM. Just different arrays of colors set up in a lantern-style hanging from trees leading to a bridge that eclipses over a lake. edit: grammar	/r/seduction	19/02/20 03:29 AM
6	Guys I did it! 😁 Great to hear, man. You approached and that's what matters. You got something out of it too. Go out and be seen. Don't stop here, do more.	/r/seduction	19/02/20 03:24 AM
1	Are Korean Women Open to Dating Foreign Men? For the most part, yes. They're just like any girls. If you got no confidence and your appearance sucks, you'll find a hard time pulling them. The opposite will get you girls. Been in Korea for 2 and half years. Asian-American male. Dating apps suck (got lucky on MEEFF though), but going to events and LangEx got me some dates and by far the better choices.	/r/seduction	18/02/20 07:45 PM
1	Dont chase women You shouldn't have to chase a women if there's a mutual attraction. I just want to clarify that chasing makes you seem desperate. I believe in pursuing. Chasing is different from pursuing. The former is rejecting all other options, in lieu of a single lady. The latter is keeping your options open and going after the ones who reciprocates your effort, in hopes of finding the one. I disagree with OP on women magically appearing on your footsteps. If you're not rich, fucking good looking, or famous…	/r/seduction	18/02/20 07:22 PM
8	For what occupuations does the "don't flirt with the waiter" rule not apply? Be a photographer. Seriously. Landed a gig working for weddings and corporate events. My uncle met his wife when he was doing photo-shoots for one of his customer’s weddings (he owns his own business). I shadowed him for a bit, flirted with tons of girls at weddings and got hit on a few times. Not an easy job, but you meet so much people. Also, wedding-related jobs aren’t bad if you want some action. The romantic air and vibe gets a lot of girls emotional and more receptive from my observation. …	/r/seduction	21/10/18 01:38 PM
6	Nobody Owes You Anything Trust in yourself to be a pillar and self-sufficient, but that’s not to say we can’t trust others. Nobody goes through life on their own. I would know because I have trust issues of my own and had to find people that I could trust, albeit it took a lot of time and mistakes. It sucks but ultimately I made the choice to trust those people. I became more wiser in choosing the people I want to give my trust more carefully.	/r/seduction	10/09/18 10:26 PM
21	Nobody Owes You Anything Great post. It aligns with my principle of “if you’re doing something helpful for someone, do it because it’s the right thing to do and don’t expect anything in return.” Having this mindset freed me from a lot of disappointment and got me some great friendships that I didn’t expect. Of course, it’s different when it comes to lending out money and getting a return back. But even then, I learned that you only give money if you’re okay not getting it back. The amount is entirely up to you. If you’r…	/r/seduction	10/09/18 10:06 PM
7	How to stop caring about making people uncomfortable Unless you’re a creep who has no awareness of boundaries or get too close to people’s personal space, then I don’t think it’s a matter of making them uncomfortable. I think maybe you care a bit much of their perceptions of you. Are you REALLY comfortable in your own skin? If you’re not, people pick on that up and, in turn, makes them feel uncomfortable. In general, people react accordingly to what’s in front of them. I believe it’s okay to be awkward or have some awkward moments. It shows you’re…	/r/seduction	02/09/18 02:38 PM
7	a few months into my reboot and waking up, women are starting to notice me more Hey bro, I feel ya. I'm on the same journey as you. After breaking up with my first girlfriend and trying to get back into dating, I also realized that my game was terrible. I'm currently working on all facets of my life--everything from appearance, fitness, social, career, and interpersonal being, and will keep on learning until I die. However, I'm confident that I can say I've come a long way since my breakup. A couple of instances that were like "mini checkpoints" for me were: a group of high…	/r/seduction	26/08/18 02:44 PM
5	How do I deal with getting teased with women I have been talking to? Dude, play along with them. Throw one back at them. Don’t bring up anything too personal, but things like the way they talk, their looks (be playful and lighthearted on this one), or ridicule them for something they like. Personally, I like when women tease or play around with me. It tells me that they’re comfortable with me or they might be fun to be around.	/r/seduction	25/08/18 04:04 AM
6	How do you deal with women who act stuck up? Women who act or are stuck up aren’t worth dealing with. It’s like a loss cause from the get-go. They usually indicate some level of high maintenance or closed off socially, in my experience. Honestly, don’t waste your time. But if you have to deal with her, just be courteous and pleasant. Don’t look to impress and focus on doing your own thing. That’s just what I would do. I’m interested in what others have to say.	/r/seduction	24/08/18 02:27 PM
3	I've got the date, now what? My advice: don’t see it purely as a date. If you do, you’ll be putting yourself a lot of pressure. Have fun with her. Talk to her about non-relationship stuff (she might talk about her breakup, which lands you at the friend zone; redirect the convo if it leans that way), tease her, and do some kino and see how she reacts. Focus on having fun with yourself, but include her too. Also, if you are going to confess, always do it in person (phone is an exception if she’s not available physically a lot…	/r/seduction	23/08/18 12:14 PM
2	Are You About to Send a Big Text? Break it Up Into Two Texts Good shit, OP. I will be doing this next time when I talk to a girl.	/r/seduction	25/04/18 04:29 AM
9	Please do not do what I just did Amen. I'm in a different country where English is not the primary language, but there are so many beautiful girls here. Aside from language barrier and cultural differences, quite a few of them have been checking me out and vice versa. Some one-sided and some mutual when it comes to checking out. My approach anxiety gets to me and I let those opportunities pass by me, which keeps me up at night sometimes. I'm near the point where I'm just going to say "fuck it" to my doubts and insecurities, and…	/r/seduction	14/04/18 11:38 PM
2	This is gonna sound really pathetic, but I learned something about approach anxiety Insightful post. I'm glad you got a lot out from your experiences. Essentially, it's all in your head. Only way you can break from all the overthinking and anxiety is to actual do something. Then you realize that it wasn't such a big deal. Failing is ten times better than not trying. When you do things out of your comfort zone, you are growing and getting one step closer to the person that you want to be. To add onto your post: don't take rejection so personally, especially when you meet new peo…	/r/seduction	27/02/17 02:14 PM
2	[deleted by user] Kong from Simple Pickup. Aside from their (hilarious) pickup videos, they have great content and their videos elaborate on topics like confidence, social anxiety, and conversation strategies. I highly recommend watching their video on "how to reach true confidence" first. Here's their channel: Simple Pickup However, just a warning that they do advertise their products a lot in their videos. I do not know how legit their products are, but we already have tons of useful content here at Seddit that…	/r/seduction	26/01/17 05:18 AM
1	Is this normal for me to think like this? You're 19, a lot of guys your age have mainly one thing in mind, which is sex. It's quite normal and healthy to think so. Hell, I'm about to be 25 and thinking back, my desire for sex was pretty strong and even now. Don't mind what the people around you believe in. You do what you feel is right for you and it's commendable that you want to be safe and responsible about sex. I respect that. At your age, it is completely normal to "experiment" with different kinds of women. In doing so, you are fi…	/r/seduction	25/01/17 10:45 AM
44	[deleted by user] When it comes to others, it's really learning whose opinions you value and which ones matter to you. The concept of "not giving a fuck" is a tricky one. If we truly believe that we do not give a fuck about other's opinions and write them off as "lower value" or "dismissive", then we are ignoring the possibilities that the other person might have something valuable to say that could change our lives for the better. I think keeping an open and critical mind is an important skill to have, both pers…	/r/seduction	25/01/17 07:19 AM
2	Ready to learn. Do I just read all of this? Yes. However, not only do you have to read them, but actually apply the information into practice to get the most out of them. A common mistake a lot of people, myself included, make is they are doing readings, getting tons of epiphanies, becoming motivated, but never do anything afterwards. Basically, we get amped up thinking we can improve just from reading without actually applying all the knowledge. Do not fall into this trap hole, lower your expectations or have none when it comes to approa…	/r/seduction	20/01/17 02:49 PM
93	Simple first date do's and dont's? One rule of thumb I follow whenever I have dates is ask questions about her, then shut up. Let her do the talking and show her that you have interest in what she has to say, by looking at her eyes. I've seen people talk about themselves too much and the interaction is so one-sided, which causes the girl to lose interest. On the other side, I've seen people ask way too much questions like it's an interview and the girl feels overwhelmed. You want a good interaction with her, don't you? Well, be a…	/r/seduction	10/12/16 06:32 PM
7	[24M] Got this girls facebook. Don't know what to do know. You probably read too much "signs" and "signals" in your situation. Looks like you came across someone who's pretty approachable and got attracted to her pretty quickly. I don't know how you could like someone when you only just saw or met them. You did the right thing by having the balls to approach her and initiate a conversation. However, my advice to you is make your intentions clear when you talk to the next girl you're interested in, and say what you want to say. Also, don't wait too long …	/r/seduction	28/11/16 01:20 PM
2	I'm 22 and feel like a loser How do you know girls aren't interested in talking to you? How can you feel they have no intentions being friends with you? Unless they directly told you, you're overthinking things. Quit it. You said you have very low self-esteem because of your predetermined feelings that girls aren't interested isn't why. Stop beating yourself up with all this negativity, man. Poor social skills? Go out to social and formal events, clubs, the mall, or wherever with no expectations and intention of making frie…	/r/seduction	09/10/16 08:41 PM
10	ELI5: Why have men become so sexually repressed? [Discussion] Excellent summary. You make me want to read "No More Mr. Nice Guy," and I'll be sure to add this to my reading list.	/r/seduction	30/04/16 10:40 PM
2	Swag vs. Class - What's the difference and which one is less attractive? Interesting topic. People have different ideas on "class" and "swag." I share a similar view on class with you, but I disagree with your idea of swag. Swag has to do more with confidence and how one acts in social situations that garner admiration or respect. However, people tend use swag in the context of "YOLO SWAG" as a reason to do stupid things, or presenting themselves as hip or cool when they're obliviously not. So, I can see where you're coming from. To me, class and swag are comparable …	/r/seduction	29/04/16 02:43 AM
2	What is the best way (or fastest way) to achieve self amusement? What advice to you have to obtain self amusement? Learn to laugh at yourself. Too many people take themselves too serious. Find the humor in everything (watch stand up comedy, you'll see they take an issue and make fun of it). Be around people who are funny and you'll learn something because they usually have a lot of wit and are quite smart.	/r/seduction	28/03/16 08:37 PM
1	My girlfriend broke up with me and I'm just looking for validation on what I'm doing. Thank you for your post. I can somewhat relate to what you're going through and it's nice to know I'm not the only going through this process alone.	/r/seduction	28/03/16 07:57 AM
2	My girlfriend broke up with me and I'm just looking for validation on what I'm doing. I'm going through a similar process like you, OP. Let me impart some wisdom on ya. You can never truly forget a person as past relationships and what you learn from them make you the person you are today. There is nothing wrong with that. It is just a part of life. If you have not already heard this a million times, but the past is gone. Your ex-girlfriend is no longer a part of your life and seems like she does not want you to be a part of hers. You can't keep dwelling in the past thinking abou…	/r/seduction	28/03/16 05:02 AM
10	What do you find attractive in a girl? Exactly the answer I was thinking. Also, her smile.	/r/seduction	28/03/16 03:28 AM
10	Self worth vs. Success with woman. This impacts me too much... 1. You're basing your validation on whether women talk to you. 2. Happens to plenty of us. 3. By talking to more women. Don't give your attention and time to women who decide to cut you off like that. You'll find that a lot of women will lose interest or flake on you. It's to be expected. Accept that fact and you'll find it easier to let it go and move on. Keep trying until you find one who's interested in you, while working on your inner game. One way I get over a situation like yours is to hav…	/r/seduction	24/03/16 11:44 AM
3	How to stop myself from lieing? Be honest with yourself. Acknowledge all the shit that's in your head. Your insecurities, your worries, your doubts, and your fears. Accept them as problems that needs to be solved, rather than letting them define who you are. Own up to them fully. How can you be honest to others if you're not honest to yourself? If you're not feeling okay, then say you're not okay. If you didn't do something that you were supposed to, don't give bullshit excuses. A simple "I didnt want to" to just a "no, I didn…	/r/seduction	14/03/16 12:24 PM
20	I transformed my entire life in 7 months. Here's my story so far. Thanks for everything /r/seduction. I'm happy for you. Your story resonates well with me and is something I'm striving for now. About a few months ago, I confessed to my female best friend, got rejected, and things didn't end so well between us. Things got complicated where she felt unsure about her choice of rejecting me and expressed her desire to date me, but kept me as a friend. To make matters worse, a few days after I confessed, she entered into a LDR with some guy she met over Facebook. She told me multiple times that she d…	/r/seduction	13/03/16 02:31 AM
2	I'm unable to speak with girls Ah, high school. You still have plenty of time ahead of you, so don't sweat about it too much. I'm in my mid-twenties and have a better time with women now. Also, why are you just hoping that your situation with women can change? You have to make the changes to yourself and your situation, in order to see changes in any facet of your life. Otherwise, you're just going to plateau and be stuck in a rut that will be very hard to get out of. If you really are funny, likable, and strong-willed like y…	/r/seduction	11/03/16 05:07 AM
1	If you're struggling in college, calm down and don't act like this is about as good as it gets for guys, it really isn't and the ceiling is much higher as an adult! Your post is very insightful! Thank you for taking time to write it, I needed to see this. I feel slightly better and less pressured. Now, I can focus on the things that makes me happy and worry less about what girls think of me.	/r/seduction	07/03/16 11:41 AM
9	Can someone call me out on my bullshit? http://i.imgur.com/RB6jLio.png Got this from another Reddit thread on GetMotivated that's relevant to your post. You can stand there and tell me that you could do all these things, but your words are complete bullshit if you don't get off your ass and make something out of yourself. You're not an asshole, that word wouldn't fit what you're going through right now. You're complacent and believe in your own potential too much. Instead of complaining on Seddit, accomplish meaningful things and do t…	/r/seduction	06/03/16 08:24 AM
2	Guy rejected me but is acting awkward now? For most guys, being asked out first is something that they're not used to, so maybe he needs time to process the whole thing? But yeah, if he continues to act awkward just move on. There's other guys out there worth your time.	/r/seduction	04/03/16 09:54 AM
4	Have you ever been with a girl that rejected you before? I wish I knew this recently. Thanks, your post has given me a new perspective.	/r/seduction	03/03/16 07:00 AM
2	any tips on approaching conservative girls? In my experience, conservative girls like to start out as friends with guys. Some of them are not used to getting approached like you pointed out about girls in your country. Some are pretty uncomfortable with the idea of being approached. Develop some rapport with them, make them feel comfortable around you and be gentle with them (you can be assertive but make sure don't come off too strong). Being funny really helps (pretty obvious, but it gets them to be more open). Some of them were sweet a…	/r/seduction	29/02/16 02:14 PM