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Nope. 7 years.. then 1 year of marriage.. likely wont be any alimony.. if anything a few months worth and likely a set amount lump sum. In most states (assuming USA).. alimony is half the marriage if > 1 year. The time together prior usually wont matter other than assets.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/23 10:43 PM
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That's lame.. why? It will do nothing but cause problems. I get it.. revenge.. which is unfortunate so many think like this. People stop loving one another.. we're human.. it's OK. There is no reason to exact revenge on that. I know OP is hurting.. for sure it sucks to be the person in love/happy/content and have your heart ripped out.. but is she evil.. because she may not be in love? Does OP know for sure she is cheating.. and if so.. why? It's not always the one cheating fault.. its usually t…
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/23 10:42 PM
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How though.. like.. did she not work at all, you got kids.. so you own tons in alimony, child support, etc? What state you in.. or country? Sorry you got so screwed.. but details would be appreciated as someone gearing up to take the path.. and worried I am going to be paying half my take home for the rest of my life even if lose my job or make way less money!
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/23 10:31 PM
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Wait.. can I just ask.. you are paying 1700 a month to her in alimony? How long were you married.. and what was the pay difference between you and her? I am looking to file soon, and trying to figure out what my spousal support would be. My STBXW works part time also.. or used to.. fucked up her job and is no in a contract position that barely has any work. But she was working for years part time making 100K or so a year. Due to medical reasons.. she claims she cant work more than part time. Not…
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/23 05:43 AM
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Per my previous response to the thread.. were you forced in to paying.. or did you agree (in divorce) that you would pay some college? I live in Cali.. with one kid basically dropping out of JC a few times, and another about to potentially go to JC. I am wondering if somehow my wife can require through divorce that I have to pay so much to college.. especially my one kid who already dropped out of JC.. This should be 100% optional.. kids can get loans, jobs, do 1 class a semester if they have to…
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/23 05:02 AM
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This is mind boggling to me. Why.. how.. what? Why is it REQUIRED for a parent to pay..especially if they cant afford to? If mom is a doctor..and makes good money..and dad makes enough to live on.. maybe save a little.. why can mom now get some sort of required payment that he'll struggle to make but she can make easily (assuming even at part time she makes plenty of money)? College is not required.. it's optional.. and while I fully want my kids (and all kids) to go if they can and want to.. in…
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/23 05:00 AM
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Agreed.. unfortunately a lot LOT of people in management/etc positions feel otherwise.. and often only look at people with degrees even if its beyond stupid to assume only those with degrees are worthy.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/22 08:31 AM
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I am torn about this myself.. my STBXW has a expensive 3+ month recovery surgery planned in a few months. She also recently told me she will barely be working (contract, no hours available).. I am trying to get out.. and I am stuck because she wont have any money to survive on. Not entirely sure how alimony will work out.. but if she can barely make money in 2023 (when I plan to file).. does that go toward me having to pay more? Or will it be 2022, 2021, and 2020 W2s that are considered? In whic…
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/22 09:05 PM
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There is no way you should have to pay 2/3 of your take home to her.. no way. I don't care what state you live in. Does she work? You didn't mention if she is a stay home mom.. or works.. or CAN work? The reason I tell everyone now.. make sure if you plan on marriage.. you a) do a prenup.. and b) make sure you know what you're going to deal with if things dont work out.. is because of this bullshit. Alimony was supposed to allow the other person who made less.. or didn't work.. some semblance of…
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/22 08:30 PM
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Yah.. the college shit is bullshit. That's "extra" not a requirement. I can't even imagine ANY state imposing that on parents.. like.. who the fuck gave the power to states to tell parents they MUST save money for college. I want to know what state actually imposes this? That seems like a violation of many things. College is not a requirement.. I believe every kid SHOULD go to college and get at least a 2 year degree these days.. ideally 4 and depending on field masters. But holy shit.. requirin…
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/22 08:20 PM
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120K?? How long this been going..and why so much? Ya'll had a few mil in assets at least I guess.. I dont see how any divorce should cost anything close to that.. if you (and her) lay out all assets, all costs, salary, etc.. why would it take dozens and dozens of lawyer visits cosing 100K+ each.. to solve?
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/22 11:10 PM
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Man.. so happy you only have 1.5 years left! That is such bullshit. The way divorce works is so fucking broken. I advise every guy I can NEVER to get married. Until the divorce bit is fixed across the board everywhere.. it's almost always a win win for the woman AND the lawyers. It's utter crap. Granted there are some great wins for the guys from time to time.. but mostly it seems judges and lawyers are sympathetic to the woman.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/22 02:45 AM
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What? How.. what state was this? Man.. that would be so freaking awesome if I owed no alimony!
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/22 02:43 AM
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OMG.. your wife says that crap too? Mine constantly tells me how I am so fucked.. I'll be paying her 1000s and 1000s every month. We live in a no fault state.. everything 50/50, except child support and alimony. My daughter has 1.5 years of school (junior), and my STBXW can technically make more than me.. she works on a per hour contract basis.. I work salary. The past few years I have earned a bit over 2x she did.. but she also worked part time because of "stress" and such. She claims that I'll…
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/22 02:43 AM
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How much did it end up costing you.. and how long.. and how often did you have to talk to lawyer/etc? I am about to put a 10K retainer on a very highly sought after female lawyer (I am a dude) who knows the judges.. but she is like 450 an hour.. but apparently wins or does very well for her clients. I imagine I am looking at about 20K or so in fees over the next year.. hopefully less though.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/22 02:38 AM
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OMFG.. haha. That was awesome! I was reading the whole thing like "nooo.. don't do it". That's too funny! Also.. think of how the cat would feel when she gets a dog and cheats on the cat's love for the dog... fuck that. Take your cat!
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/21 03:24 AM
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Problem is.. my day job may disappear any time.. and this side job is a potential full time job should I lose my day job.. so I am risking a bit for sure.. making more money now.. but a good portion of the money I earn now will be to pay off debt we would have to split/pay anyway.. and some of it may go in savings which we would split later as well. But yah.. in terms of alimony.. that is the only area I think I could get fucked a bit.. making more.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/21 02:34 AM
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So..if you got fired.. or laid off.. what happens? I mean.. first.. do the courts somehow get to dig in to the employer.. ask them WHY you got fired.. and find out "he just didnt work any more so we fired him.."? I assume that is not an option. It seems impossible that you can prevent being fired if that is the path..e.g. sure you can fuck off and get fired.. but if the job changes, new management, etc.. in in a month or two you end up fired.. how is it possible for any court to just say "you pu…
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/21 06:37 PM
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Many will tell you not to hide money.. that it makes you look bad. I disagree in that.. as long as you know whatever money you hide.. half will go to her if/when the time comes.. and you are open/honest about the account soon as anything comes up about accounts, assets, etc.. you should be fine. I am personally trying to save some money on the side in case I need to move out.. right now we have joint accounts (don't do this if you can avoid it..keep your money separate) and anything I buy/need s…
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/21 06:19 PM
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For me.. I fell in love.. and felt this was the woman I wanted to grow old with. Honestly back then.. I never thought I would fall out of love. I never thought we would grow apart and be so different. Disagree on everything. Fight all the time over the stupidest shit. Literally never thought that would happen. Now.. with divorce > 50% and knowing how expensive it is for many..especially with kids.. I tell everyone I can that is young.. do NOT get married unless you are 100% sure it will last and…
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/21 06:15 PM
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This is honestly why I am trying to work more.. make more money..and put some aside.. I know she'll get half.. but my hope is I can save up 50K or more.. to cover fees.. because I am almost positive my STBXW will do the same fucking thing. She constantly does not care at all about wasting money on anything.. mainly to spite me for spending money on shit like tools and tech stuff. So she feels even though I made 3x her the past few years.. she is owed that much as well.. and that because I spend …
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/21 06:10 PM
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Yah.. honestly.. stay single.. date.. enjoy a GF.. marriage is just way the fuck too stressful especially if you end up getting a divorce. Double that if you are in a location that favors women greatly and you end up screwed.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/21 05:32 AM
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Question.. how is her taking half.. which is 100K.. going to ruin her? Do NOT walk away taking 8K only. This is communal property.. same with your retirement, hers, etc. Everything is 50/50. Period. The only two things negotiable are alimony and child support. The rest, split in half and be done. Problem I have read more times than not is the woman usually is so scorned they go after the man for everything they can and then some. Not always.. of course.. but it seems most of the time women are m…
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/21 05:28 AM
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That is just nuts. I am sorry you went (and/or going) through that.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/21 03:38 PM
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I find in my older age.. if I have a bit more money on hand.. I am much happier with freedom than being tied down. It's for sure greedy/selfish of me.. but now that the kids are almost gone.. having to get permission to spend on some hobbies when I work my ass off.. pisses me off. It is ALSO a lack of communication and how we structure our finances. Something I will never go back to if I get divorced.. I will have my own money, and a shared account for things like home and food costs.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/21 03:37 PM
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Honestly.. today.. with the way the world is, how divorce is a big business for lawyers, and how it is largely geared towards women winning, men screwed over.. I wouldn't ever get married again. If I end up divorced (and probably headed that way) I dont ever want to get married again. Their is just too much crap that comes with that bit of paper that just staying bf/gf is better.. with the one exception that if you are not married.. it is easier for either to just leave. Marriage does have that …
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/21 06:56 PM
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I actually do this.. say I did it so others cant say I didnt try. Sadly.. it's a thing.. if you do couples therapy.. and try a few things..then divorce.. you can largely (but not always) say you tried and others will be like "Ok..they did therapy.. it just wasnt meant to be". But if you do NOT do that.. and you just give up.. women especially will crucify you for not trying, but your friends (couples especially.. who are in good marriages) will keep telling you to just work through it, you are g…
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/21 06:52 PM
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Man.. never heard it said like this.. so true.. love these words. This really can be used to sum up a lot of marriages.. are lack there of.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/21 06:50 PM
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That seems insane to me that it would be that much.. That would mean I am paying her the equivalent of 60K a year. Fawk that.. that's such BS.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/21 09:07 PM
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Stupid question maybe. but WHY would his own lawyer NOT fight for that situation..e.g. account for taxes first.. that seems like something any lawyer would do. IT should lower what he pays right?
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/21 05:22 PM
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What state is this? I am in California.. I am hoping it's not California!! My understanding at least in this state is that they roughly assume about 1/3 of difference.. in my case that would be about 2K a month..though she works part time and could easily work full time.. so I don't think based on her full time pay being same as mine..that I should pay anything. At least I am hoping that is how it turns out.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/21 05:21 PM
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I read a lot about "find the best lawyer you can". How do you know that who you got is the best? I have a referral from a friend..but his divorce is amicable.. and I suspect mine is going to be ugly. I want a shark, not a "give her everything and just accept it" sort of lawyer. Also want one that is going to truly look out for me..but not try to extend it and charge me 50K or more.. because I can't afford it.. and whatever we get in the end I certainly dont want half or more going to a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/21 06:13 AM
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What state are you in? Was your wife not making any money at the time? In my situation.. one kid wants to live with me.. she makes 1/2 of what I do.. but also has pension.. not even sure how pension works.. do I get half her pension when she retires for the life of the pension? What happens if she were to die before retiring.. do I still see any of that? Trying to determine if I can leverage that or not in our divorce proceedings. I also have no clue why.. or how.. alimony is not reconsidered if…
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/21 03:09 PM
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My understanding is that in most cases.. their is a period of time the one being paid alimony is given to "get on their feet" and then it stops. Is that not the case? I been > 20 years.. about to file.. my STBX has the potential to earn more than me.. but works part time.. our kids are almost all done (1 left < 18). While I have been making about 2x more than STBX, she has a nice retirement plan and a pension at current job as well. I would think.. hope.. it makes sense for me to pay little if a…
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/21 05:53 AM
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That is such bullshit.. how the hell can they just ignore covid, no job, etc.. I am so disgusted with marriage and court rulings. I will never.. ever get married again.. but it may not matter since this divorce when it starts is likely going to break me completely and I wont have any desire to do anything more.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/21 05:48 AM
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I just spoke to a friend whose lawyer told him to move out.. it didn't affect him at all in the divorce and he was able to avoid the insanity of his x.. Why do some say not to move out until divorce is final... that could take a year or longer.. and I may have to move for a job sooner. Some say stay until the divorce is served.. then move out (per lawyer/etc agreement) while divorce is on going. Some say move the fuck out now... what are the reasons for these disparities.. not saying you are wro…
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/21 05:24 AM
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I keep reading this..but I have a WFH job where I am on calls..and she continues to be a pain in the ass sometimes with being loud or fighting with me and causing me to not get my work done. I don't want to have her kicked out either.. but I am OK with leaving if their can be some sort of agreement that either she has to buy me out at the price our house would fetch (right now homes are going for 100K above asking price in our area.. I dont want her to buy me out on the valuation of the house..b…
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/21 12:38 AM
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I am trying to understand why it can't be required to sell a joint home... it should not be allowed that one person lives their and other moves out.. that's bullshit. If everything is 50/50 in most places.. then either you both live their or you sell and both find another place.. or one person buys the other out. That's it. Their shouldn't be you renting some place while she lives in the house you both own and lived. If that is the case, then even if she is paying the mortgage..she is holding yo…
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/21 12:34 AM
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Interesting.. in my younger youth, when I was pretty well built, and was told by many I was good looking.. I was in a similar situation. For me, as embarrassing as it is to say, it was purely penis size. I am average at best.. but felt I needed a solid 7 to 8 inches of penis to be worthy.. and it scared the shit out of me to ever date anyone, even attractive women with insane bodies who would have gone out with me (a few of which 20 years later thanks to Facebook, learning that they were all in …
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/21 09:42 PM
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What are your self esteem issues?
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/21 06:30 AM
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What if SHE wants the house.. even though I make 3x the salary as her.. and she wouldn't be able to afford the mortgage + other expenses alone. She keeps telling me to get out, she'll buy me out. I am thinking fuck that.. I make enough to afford it.. she does not. However.. I also wonder if with only 2 kids.. in a large home.. if the judge would award her more money in alimony or something saying I do NOT need as big a house. Honestly.. I would MUCH prefer we sell it and go our own ways. She how…
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/21 04:10 AM
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Probably get downvoted.. but honestly.. I am really starting to lean towards the stay single.. date.. but dont get married (or remarried). Seems the "marriage" thing locks us in to what more often than not results in divorce and its a huge pain in the ass, especially financially. The only thing I kinda like about the marriage is the "lock" that your GF isn't going to just up and leave you after a fight.. but even that isn't guaranteed that she wont up and cheat, divorce, etc. Same goes for men..…
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/21 05:01 PM
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Man.. I read all sorts of things about how Cali is a 50/50 state and very fair.. but then I read things like this and am so confused. As far as I know... if you own a house, its split in half. If you own stocks, split in half. Retirement, split in half. Only thing that men usually seem to get fucked on is alimony and kids. Technically my wife working full time could make more than me, but because she has medical issues, only works part time. So not sure how that will play out for me.. if the cou…
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/21 11:33 PM
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Trying to pay everything off now actually.. want to get to 0 balance on as much as possible.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/21 11:24 PM
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She actually holds on more than I do... but I think is also hanging on by a thread to see if we'll work things out or not. I don't know where she came up with that number either.. says she spoke to a lawyer, no clue how true that is.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/21 04:46 AM
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Is she serving you papers soon? Or just saying shit to piss you off?
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/20 09:34 PM
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I hear you.. and honestly I think it's hard to say unless it is happening to you. I don't know for sure what I would do to be honest.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/20 09:16 AM
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Good for you. In some ways I wish that it had worked out that way for my wife and I. I don't know that we can make that happen anymore. Too many issues/differences.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/20 06:56 AM
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I guess you assume I haven't? I have. That doesn't mean I want to be unhappy with a spouse the rest of my life. I still think I could find the right person for me out there..maybe.. who knows. But being stuck and angry all the time, pissed off.. sucks. If something happened and she became disabled, I mean I guess it depends on how severe.. it would suck to have been on the way out, to now have to pull back in for the rest of however she (or you) live.. and never find happiness. Maybe some can ma…
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/20 01:29 AM
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Because I have been told and read that that is something that happens, I now don't know what I am talking about? Well duh. That is why I am here.. learning, asking, talking. Sometimes people read/hear something, think it is what it is, and then find out it's not. Are you sure it's not true? Because I have a friend who is going through divorce and was told it is possible he may end up paying alimony for life because his soon to be ex didn't work, and he made alright money. Whether or not it happe…
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/20 01:26 AM
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I don't know which ones for sure..but likely the main ones with high tax, high cost of living, like NY, Washington, California, maybe NC? I read that it was up to the judge basically.. but anything 20+ years is up to mandatory perm alimony for life. It doesn't have to be.. but it could be.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/20 11:39 PM
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Why? You would stay being unhappy/miserable the rest of your life because of a situation that was out of your hands? That doesn't seem fair to you.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/20 11:38 PM
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See.. I would do this in a second if possible. If that was an option, pay her off with whatever I can, and owe nothing.. hopefully. That would be so much better. But how does that play out with stock and such.. e.g. you work at a company where you earn stock, get divorced, pay her off.. then the company goes public and you make some money.. you still end up having to give her half of that right?
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/20 11:37 PM
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Closer to 50.. but yah.. I would hope that while we can both still work that isn't the case!
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/20 07:43 PM
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Several states in USA have that "clause". I am not entirely sure how it pans out, and from what I have seen here and elsewhere..it is highly based on many factors, including spouse being able to support self, income differences, etc. So.. in the case of one of us becoming disabled.. we can no longer support ourselves..ever.. that would mean the other is stuck paying for the disabled for life? Not sure I fully grok the SSDI bit. If for example we're used to 10K a month combined.. me 6K, her 4K.. …
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/20 06:54 PM
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I hear you. To each their own. I am much like you.. I would have a hard time with that. I have often wondered if I could use an app like Tinder and frankly, I couldn't. I am just not one of those social butterflies that can meet up with a random hookup and just go at it. I would have too many personal expectations that would get in the way. But even casual dating.. seems like you have to commit to it and I don't know that I could do that on a semi casual basis.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/20 06:35 PM
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What about dating..but casual? Make it clear from the onset.. maybe you will find someone that is also like you, and will appreciate the once a week or so connection.. be it just to hang out, eat out, or more.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/20 06:20 PM
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<raises hand>.. happens all the time to me. My wife is always involving them, but to be fair.. we have always fought with them around.. and we are awful to each other too. My girls no longer respect either of us, and frankly, I don't blame them. I wish I could go back.. but it's too late. Best I can do now is try to talk to them about how awful wife and I are and hope they never allow that in their lives.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/20 06:18 PM
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I have heard that a lot of states have perm alimony for life.. but I also read it is dependent on a lot of things. My understanding is that if you make a pretty good paycheck.. and the spouse does not make much.. or is unable to make much.. it could be ruled in their favor since they largely did not work... very dependent on your finances. However, if your spouse is able to work, able to make enough to largely support him/herself, then the judge could rule in favor of alimony for a period of tim…
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/20 10:18 PM
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Question.. how do you get a great lawyer? I always wonder about this. Is there some GlassDoor like site on family lawyers online that indicate how well they did for men in a divorce or something? I have heard of men getting shit lawyers and getting screwed royally due to a shit lawyer.. obviously nobody wants to hire that person again.. but how do you avoid that.. and get yourself a good one that can argue on your behalf well enough so you are not screwed?
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/20 04:48 AM
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I don't understand why the whole alimony thing is all about making sure each person lives the life they were used to. It should simply be about each person has enough to take care of themselves. If Dr Dre is the guy doing all the work, making all the money, why she is entitled to half.. or 2 mil a month..etc is way way way beyond what she or anyone needs to survive. Granted. at 800mil, 24 mil a year isn't much..but in 10 years that is 240mil, and assuming they live for 20.. that's > 1/2. I would…
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/20 01:10 AM
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Wow.. I think I am in a bad spot and then I read something like this and think maybe I am not as bad off. I thought I had it about as bad as it could be.. but apparently not. My biggest problem is my wife plans on screwing me over as much as possible in every way if we get divorced. You didn't mention age of kids. First.. depending on where you live (USA? State?), I think the biggest issue you will have is that your wife does not work. Which means, she can't make it on her own.. which translates…
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/20 06:21 PM
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That was good info. Question on children.. if they are "of age" to say who they want to live with.. how does that play in to the whole 80/20, 50/50, full custody, etc fight? If for example my wife fights for 80/20, I want 50/50.. can I ask the mediator/court to ask my kid what they want.. and if that kid says to live with me instead of her.. do I now have 80/20? Also.. curious.. 80/20 vs full custody.. what's the diff? I think 80/20 is 20 gets kids every other weekend.. fri to sun. But full make…
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/20 05:43 PM
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I keep hearing/reading.. don't move out. What's this mean really? Is it about ownership of the home.. or don't move out so that you are present in the kids lives?
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/20 05:15 AM
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I would hope in my situation that wife makes about 1/2 as much as I do working part time.. that they would consider that she is capable of working full time, plus has benefits and a pension plan which I have neither.. that they would award little if any alimony, and hopefully not for a very long time.. maybe a few years. I guess time will tell.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/20 05:12 AM
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Wow..that makes no sense at all.. if you don't have the income to survive yourself.. how the hell you supposed to support someone else.. not to mention..if they already make enough money to support themselves. It is unreal.. and completely unfair that a single judge can dislike you for some reason and rule against you. I would hope there are options when that happens.
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/20 09:01 PM
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I mean.. from what I have been told, it is adjustable.. if you lose your job.. you no longer pay alimony.. until you land a job. It has to be based on your own living capability. If you make 200K a year, then lose your job and find another for 50K a year.. alimony has to be adjust based on what you are making. If not, it is an absolute never ending debt you will never be able to get out of. I think you can keep finding new lawyers, try new things, etc as well. If it's truly down to one single pe…
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/20 03:44 AM
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But even so, she makes enough to take care of herself. She has oddly voiced (when we fight and get into it about divorce) that she already knows I am screwed and going to pay a lot.. which baffles me. I don't know how one can know that .. likely bating me and/or making shit up.. but still. Also.. how the hell can anyone say you must pay so much per month for ever.. how the hell did that ever become a thing. I read that you should look at alimony as helping the other get on their feet and not pun…
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/20 09:20 PM
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Wow.. nice. So in California it sounds the same.. its not automatic, its determined based on some factors, and a judge ultimately rules. It says that it is based on the notion that alimony is temporary until one can support them self. If my SO makes enough, even part time, to afford an acceptable living arrangement (e.g. rents an apartment or small home), food, utility, etc.. I would hope that means I would not have to pay any alimony even if I make 2x as much. That said, we been married > 20 ye…
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/20 06:52 PM
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I am curious.. my SO keeps a journal.. and I am sure she wrote shit down, often probably fabricated/blown out... but can that be used against me in a divorce? If so.. how? Like.. I can't imagine it could..especially if its over years of time. It could be her just making up some bullshit all along.. so I don't see how any judge could ever use something like that against me.. but still cant help but worry shit like that CAN somehow make me look bad and a judge side with her on shit.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/20 07:27 AM
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Just weighing in on one thing.. alimony. I agree for the most part.. alimony is ridiculous. Just because a person works more or makes more doesn't make sense that they now have to pay some of that to the other person. However, I will say that I do think it is fair in some situations. If for example one person gave up working to stay home for kids, or be house wife.. and it was agreed (though doubt it would ever be done in writing).. it's quite harsh to suddenly not have worked for possibly years…
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/20 07:23 AM
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Each person will be different I suspect.. for me.. working out, and burrying myself in my work.. is likely what I'll do.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/20 07:06 AM
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I am wondering this too. I am "comfortable" knowing someone is in the other room and on occasion we might watch some TV or something. But all the other bullshit in the marriage is just not worth that... but I do think.. what's it going to be like back on my own being older, alone.. etc.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/20 07:04 AM
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Curious.. how did you manager 0 alimony if she was not working? I am in a situation where my SO works part time, had some medical issues.. and wondering if because I work full time and she works part time..but is capable of working full time... and she would actually make more than me if she worked full time.. if we divorce, if I am going to have to pay her alimony. We fight a lot and she claims (when we bring things up like alimony, etc) that I am going to owe her a lot of money in alimony. I t…
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/20 07:03 AM
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