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4	When females complain about double standards.... Seriously. Since when is being expected to orgasm quickly and with ease a good thing? Or being judged solely on your appearance, rather than your interests, personality, or ambition? Being expected to not "play sports or go to the gym"? Having your feelings dismissed as "your time of the month" or "women are just emotional"? I wouldn't consider any of these advantages. This is just so... complainy. It's all about how this guy is boring, unambitious, socially awkward, and physically weak, and is …	/r/MensRights	02/09/12 03:53 PM
3	When females complain about double standards.... A lot of these seem to assume that the woman in question is attractive. Oh, you're boring or unlikeable or have no career prospects? All you have to do is be attractive, and you're set. But if you're not attractive, you're fucked. You make it seem like an advantage that women are judged so much on how they look, but that's only an advantage if you look good. There are a lot of things on here that you count as positives for women that aren't. You create this narrative that guys don't care about a…	/r/MensRights	02/09/12 03:47 PM
1	Friendly Reminder: Social issues affect MEN too. Sure, there are other reasons, but I think it is important to address this one because it's important to recognize that some "women's issues" are more than just that. You shouldn't assume that, just because feminists are angry about something, you shouldn't be, too. Sometimes our interests align.	/r/MensRights	28/08/12 05:15 PM
1	Friendly Reminder: Social issues affect MEN too. That's not the answer for women who can't afford to hop states to go to an abortion clinic. What if she works many hours and already has kids to take care of? What if she doesn't have a car? A journey like that can take a long time and cost a lot of money for some people. Additionally, some states have weird time restrictions or counseling requirements that would make it hard or impossible to just travel, get an abortion on the same day, and return home. I recognize that going to a different sta…	/r/MensRights	28/08/12 05:06 PM
1	Obama: "What these comments do underscore is why we shouldn't have a bunch of politicians, a majority of whom are men, making health care decisions on behalf of women." you are right however in stopping as soon you hear no from a new partner because it opens the door to false rape accusations and being involved with someone who is crazy or extremely emotional immature to let themselves get into a sexual situation where they are being indecisive. Why is it about false accusations? If you don't stop when a girl says "no," you open yourself to real accusations of rape, because if you don't stop, then you really raped someone.	/r/MensRights	21/08/12 04:49 PM
2	Should birth control be covered by Medicare? First, free condoms are much easier to come by the free BC. You can get them at a lot of clinics, hospitals, schools, etc. already. Second, why should it be neither or both? Providing BC for women is, in addition to being a medical necessity for some, an immense public good. Providing free condoms would also be a public good, but either one on its own would do a lot of good for our system, so why deny one if you can't get the other? Even if you're just thinking of the effect on men, women having…	/r/MensRights	21/08/12 04:45 PM
2	Should birth control be covered by Medicare? The b.c. cost is, in my view, an unnecessary burden on the healthcare system and the resources could be used to a greater benefit in other areas. But isn't the cost of caring for and educating tons of extra, unplanned children a much bigger burden on the system? Unplanned pregnancies (especially in poorer families) cost the government way more than providing birth control to every woman would. If you're arguing just from the perspective of cost-effectiveness, providing easy and affordable access…	/r/MensRights	21/08/12 04:39 PM
2	Obama: "What these comments do underscore is why we shouldn't have a bunch of politicians, a majority of whom are men, making health care decisions on behalf of women." as a man if someone is attacking me i know that if i want them to stop sometimes i have to risk my own safety and attempt to get them to stop even if it will result in further harm to me. that's just a part of being responsible. So essentially, you're saying that women have to be willing to risk grievous injury or death to stop rape? You're telling women that they should value their purity above their lives. That if they decide that living or not being beaten up is more important than not being …	/r/MensRights	21/08/12 04:19 PM
0	Woman who debunks Assange as "Not a rapist, but probably a douche" has her opinion completely disregarded as male abuse. I guess I just worry about rape being defined by force because a lot of people have high standards for "force." A lot of people have this idea that a girl who is being raped can and will always fight back, that if she just lies there and allows it to happen, even if she's said no, it isn't really rape. People expect women to fight tooth and nail not to be raped, as if they should be willing to be beaten up or die rather than be raped. It's sort of an old doctrine--you see it come out in a lot of…	/r/MensRights	21/08/12 04:14 PM
1	Obama: "What these comments do underscore is why we shouldn't have a bunch of politicians, a majority of whom are men, making health care decisions on behalf of women." He said that women don't get pregnant from rape. People called that statement out as ridiculous. What is a lie about that? Do you find it that hard to believe that people could be mad at that statement without any ulterior motives? It's a pretty absurd statement, it's easy to get really mad about, I don't know why you think people must have another reason for hating on him. You could respond with an explanation, or I guess you could just continue to call me a liar.	/r/MensRights	21/08/12 03:54 PM
1	Woman who debunks Assange as "Not a rapist, but probably a douche" has her opinion completely disregarded as male abuse. It's great that you recognize it as rape, but most people would not call it forcible rape, because my example isn't forcible. If a guy continues to have sex with a girl even though she says no, even if she physically complies and he doesn't have to use any physical force or even threaten it, then it wasn't technically forcible, but it was still rape. If he just continues undressing her, touching her, initiating sex, and she just sits there saying "no," or eventually falls silent, it's rape, and …	/r/MensRights	21/08/12 04:45 AM
1	Obama: "What these comments do underscore is why we shouldn't have a bunch of politicians, a majority of whom are men, making health care decisions on behalf of women." most rape claims in america are date or acquaintance rape Which doesn't make them any less real as rapes. I was raped by an acquaintance. The fact that I considered him a friend didn't make it any less traumatic that he forced me to have sex despite my protestations and resistance. Most rapes are by acquaintances or dates because most people are more vulnerable to acquaintances and dates than to complete strangers. It's easier to rape someone in your apartment or their dorm room than it is to ra…	/r/MensRights	21/08/12 03:32 AM
3	Obama: "What these comments do underscore is why we shouldn't have a bunch of politicians, a majority of whom are men, making health care decisions on behalf of women." Um, no, he's being raked over the coals for saying that women who are raped don't become pregnant. Don't try to turn this into a MR issue or even a false rape accusation issue, because it's not. Akin is getting heat because he stated a medeival medical concept as fact. He's getting heat because he implied that if a woman becomes pregnant from rape, then it obviously wasn't rape. There are real, legitimate reasons why people are pissed as hell at Akin, don't pretend that it's just because people …	/r/MensRights	21/08/12 03:27 AM
3	Woman who debunks Assange as "Not a rapist, but probably a douche" has her opinion completely disregarded as male abuse. Seriously, I can't believe that the top post is "someone said something on a message board, and someone else responded dickishly."	/r/MensRights	21/08/12 03:14 AM
2	Woman who debunks Assange as "Not a rapist, but probably a douche" has her opinion completely disregarded as male abuse. There are a lot of cases of rape where no physical force is used against the victim because the force is implied. Many women, if pressured to have sex by a man significantly larger than them, may say "no" and "stop" but not put up any physical resistance, and might eventually just "give in," because they feel that fighting would be futile and would provoke more violence. A lot of people have an image in their head of what "rape" looks like. It involves overt physical force or violence on the par…	/r/MensRights	21/08/12 02:58 AM
2	Woman who debunks Assange as "Not a rapist, but probably a douche" has her opinion completely disregarded as male abuse. Let's try comparing someone raped in an alley with someone just tipsy enough to give consent to a guy she normally wouldn't have slept with. Let's not. A lot of people here don't seem to realize that there are examples besides "violent back-alley rape" and "tipsy girl, regretful sex" rape. Here are examples of assaults that would probably not be considered forcible, but that are more unquestionably rape than "tipsy girl regrets sex": a girl tells a man to stop, but doesn't physically fight back …	/r/MensRights	21/08/12 02:45 AM
1	How do you guys respond to a dodged kiss? I recognize there's a difference, but nothing about this thread makes it clear that we're talking about playful giggling. There's no context given, so I didn't just assume that we're talking about girls who want it.	/r/seduction	07/08/12 08:36 PM
5	How do you guys respond to a dodged kiss? You're lucky it worked for you, but I don't think it's generally good advice. It's generally better to respect someone's boundaries and decisions. I think seddit sometimes sends out really dangerous messages about boundaries, telling guys that they just need to be persistent and keep pushing through resistance, because it's just an "anti-slut defense." It's dangerous to assume that a girl wants you even though she's declining your advances. I don't deny that some men have examples of persistence…	/r/seduction	07/08/12 07:31 PM
5	MRAs, where do you stand on pregancy and maternity leave? Even if you never use it, you still benefit from other people's use of it. When people around you are healthier, they're less likely to infect you with something. I wish more people understood that part of living in a society is that if we all contribute for the "greater good," we still benefit as individuals.	/r/MensRights	26/06/12 10:40 PM
3	MRAs, where do you stand on pregancy and maternity leave? I don't know much about that. My point is, it isn't conditioned on whether or not you have kids, just like the rest of your taxes aren't calculated based on how often you call the police or use the public library. In theory, we are taxed to provide public goods and services that, either directly or indirectly, benefit everyone by helping society as a whole.	/r/MensRights	26/06/12 10:12 PM
1	Anyone else so afraid of false rape accusations that they are extra careful with interactions with women? This sounds just as paranoid as women who think of every man as a potential rapist. Interacting with other people will always incur some risk. In this case, the risk probably isn't really high enough to justify completely cutting yourself off from interaction with women forever. You're more likely to be in a car accident, but you probably don't avoid cars at all costs. If you're worried, get to know the girl well first (not in a "running background checks" way, but in a social and emotional way)…	/r/MensRights	26/06/12 09:33 PM
1	Anyone else so afraid of false rape accusations that they are extra careful with interactions with women? And simply being around men puts you at far greater risk of being murdered. Better avoid all men now. Oh, wait, I'm not batshit crazy.	/r/MensRights	26/06/12 09:20 PM
1	Anyone else so afraid of false rape accusations that they are extra careful with interactions with women? This is like telling women that, to avoid being raped, they should just avoid men. It's ridiculously paranoid.	/r/MensRights	26/06/12 09:13 PM
1	Why is this consideration left out of so many arguments, both MRA and feminist? Not everyone understands how consent works or knows the laws about rape. For example, many people don't know that, legally, someone who is drunk cannot consent. Many people don't know that rape can occur in a marriage. Many people don't recognize that women can rape men. Many people don't know that if your partner tells you to stop mid-sex and you continue, it's rape, or that consent to one sexual act is not consent to other acts. No one needs to be told that it's illegal to rape a stranger in a…	/r/MensRights	26/06/12 09:01 PM
5	MRAs, where do you stand on pregancy and maternity leave? And childfree people "subsidize" schools, and people without cars "subsidize" roads. It's part of living in a society. You don't get to opt out, because you still benefit indirectly from government services that promote a healthier or more stable society.	/r/MensRights	26/06/12 08:11 PM
1	TIL if women were in charge the world be more peaceful. Matrilineality does not mean that women are in decision-making roles. Perhaps you're thinking of matriarchy? Not that I doubt the existence of warlike female leaders.	/r/MensRights	26/06/12 07:47 PM
2	Free contraceptives for women vs free Viagra for men 1) I think you underestimate how often contraceptives are prescribed for medical reasons. For many women, "normal" periods can be absolutely debilitating, and birth control is a necessity if they want to be able to consistently go to work/class. 2) It's a stretch to say that men take Viagra for women. They take it for themselves, and also for their partners. It's not a completely selfless action. Which is okay. It's the same as birth control--women take it for themselves, and also for their part…	/r/MensRights	23/06/12 01:33 AM
9	This is getting out of hand The flip side of this is, most of my female friends who have traveled in Europe, particularly southern Europe, were appalled at the street harassment. They were constantly followed, grabbed, and yelled at by groups of men. Much as I recognize America has some problems regarding sexuality, I'm not exactly pining for Europe...	/r/MensRights	21/06/12 10:18 PM
2	Some questions on hypergamy That fact that a woman initiates a breakup or divorce doesn't mean that it's her fault. You're framing this as if the best person in the relationship is the one who's willing to hold out and stay together the longest, ignoring the fact that maybe the woman is breaking up because the problems don't seem fixable, or the effort isn't worth what she gets out of the relationship. You can't look at a relationship and say, "well, that person broke it off, so obviously they weren't investing as much eff…	/r/MensRights	07/06/12 11:03 PM
0	Well, I won't be buying this anymore I don't tend to read flowery, descriptive labels, so chances are I would go on buying this without ever knowing. That doesn't mean that I hate men or that I should be blamed for this. I see a lot of ads that are a bit offensive towards women (mostly of the "nagging wife" variety). But I don't blame men, I blame marketing people.	/r/MensRights	30/05/12 07:43 PM
3	Rebecca Watson didn't like having her white female privilege pointed out by Richard Dawkins. Obviously you shouldn't follow Watson's instructions for dealing with all women. But when she told the audience that she didn't appreciate being hit on at conferences, hitting on her at a conference was a dick move. All she wanted to do was express that people should think more about the appropriateness of the situation when they make a move. She didn't expect everyone to be up in arms or furious about it. Then everyone twists it around and pretends that she was crying attempted rape.	/r/MensRights	30/05/12 06:45 AM
2	Rebecca Watson didn't like having her white female privilege pointed out by Richard Dawkins. No, but coming on to a woman who has just finished giving a lecture about how she doesn't like people coming on to her at conferences is a dick move. What's terrible about Dawkins and the response to this incident is that Skepchick never called the man sexist. She never called it an injustice and never compared herself to women who deal with what Dawkins described. All she said was "men, don't do that," referring to coming on to a woman alone in an elevator late at night just after she said duri…	/r/MensRights	30/05/12 01:15 AM
2	72% of black children are raised by single parents (gender neutral language even though we know most of them are mothers). But MRM issues are always just about the interests of privileged white men, right? (x-post from TIL) Feminism ONLY cares about women. And MRAs only care about men. News flash: all movements are targeted and specific to some degree. No movement really fights for everyone. Even if you're fighting for equality, you're focused on bringing one group up to par. It's unfair to expect feminists to work on men's issues just as it's unrealistic to expect MRAs to work on women's issues. Hey, when's the last time MRAs stood up for my rights as a woman? Oh, wait, that's not their job. So why expect feminist…	/r/MensRights	30/05/12 01:03 AM
0	If circumcision is alright because the child won't remember it, then is date rape alright as well? I could see some feminists flaring up over this statement. I guess it isn't fair to blame someone who was date raped just because they went to the 'wrong' party. You guess? Some feminists? That statement was victim blaming at its most blatant--everyone should be offended by that.	/r/MensRights	30/05/12 12:29 AM
2	I just think it's strange that a feminist subreddit (/r/twoxchromosomes) votes rape fantasy to the top and then complains about rape culture the next day Having rape fantasies does not blur the lines of consent. If I want to act out a rape fantasy, it has to involve the prior consent of all parties involved, and reasonable safeguards. The only people who think it "blurs the lines of consent" are the thoughtless jackasses who, when a partner says "no," assume that they're playing a game without any prior discussion. No one has to curtail their own fantasies because some people are that stupid. I expect people to be smarter than that, and the ones …	/r/MensRights	29/05/12 11:53 PM
2	I just think it's strange that a feminist subreddit (/r/twoxchromosomes) votes rape fantasy to the top and then complains about rape culture the next day As someone who frequents TwoX, it would depend entirely on how you talked about rape fantasies. Mentioning that some women have them? Okay. What most of us take issue with is seeing people talk about it as if it's universal, or as if you can assume it about a woman without asking. I've heard people excuse not stopping when a girl says "no" because they think that she's just playing, because they've heard that a lot of girls are into that. That's when "rape fantasy" becomes an uncomfortable topic…	/r/MensRights	29/05/12 11:47 PM
3	"Ovulation goggles" explain why women choose bad boys This is a terrible study. It places men into the categories "sexy" or "reliable," as if men can't be both. It says that women love "sexy, rebellious and handsome men"--where does this indicate that these men are bad or unreliable? They just assume that sexy and rebellious means unreliable or bad. From what I can gather, all this study shows is that, if shown a man who is sexy and a man who is reliable, without knowing anything else about them, the woman will choose "sexy." All this really means …	/r/MensRights	26/05/12 12:03 AM
1	When I say I would prefer to stay single throughout my life, people react very dramatically... On the other hand, women who choose to stay single are sometimes glorified And sometimes they're seen as bitter old spinsters, or crazy cat ladies. While sometimes single men are seen as studs living the dream in cool bachelor pads. If you don't think women are often put down for remaining single, and men are often glorified for it, then you aren't paying attention. Both genders suffer both sides of this stereotyping, and I don't know why you're so set on the idea that men have it worse in this …	/r/MensRights	25/05/12 11:50 PM
6	When I say I would prefer to stay single throughout my life, people react very dramatically... Single women are considered strong and independent, single men are considered weak man-babies. Alternately, single women are often assumed to be single because they can't find someone to date them, while single men are assumed to be enjoying the freedom of the single lifestyle. Two can play at the unsubstantiated anecdote game.	/r/MensRights	25/05/12 11:45 PM
1	I told a girlfriend, "Women abuse men more in relationships." After showing her much evidence, she signed off and cursed at me. I was just curious, making sure you were doing it to educate and not just to be accusatory or something. MR tends to bring up a lot of interesting studies these days... and then react to them in really unhelpful ways. Study shows that women look at male genitalia a lot in porn, while men look at faces? Female sexuality is so disgusting compared to male sexuality! Women initiate divorce more often? Women are to blame for breaking up marriages! So I guess when MR clings to a new men vs. women stud…	/r/MensRights	23/05/12 10:02 PM
1	I told a girlfriend, "Women abuse men more in relationships." After showing her much evidence, she signed off and cursed at me. I don't find it particularly mind-boggling, considering the alternative: a world in which a man can either force a woman to carry a child to term, or legally compel her to have an abortion. The only time I could ever see that as an option is if it can be proven that the women engaged in reproductive fraud. Even then, the idea of someone being able to force a woman to have an abortion doesn't sit well with me. One of the issues with giving a man a say in abortion is that it's hard to give him any…	/r/MensRights	23/05/12 07:40 PM
1	I told a girlfriend, "Women abuse men more in relationships." After showing her much evidence, she signed off and cursed at me. May I ask why you want to broach the subject with your wife? Has she expressed the view that men are more abusive? Is it a reaction to anything she's said or done?	/r/MensRights	23/05/12 07:26 PM
7	TIL: Lesbians, like hetero women, are much more likely to initiate divorce. The fact that a woman initiates a divorce doesn't mean that the marriage falling apart is her fault.	/r/MensRights	15/05/12 07:08 PM
1	Feminist logic: Women who flaunt themselves and sell their bodies are not the problem. Blame the game of football instead (Topless Feminist grabs Euro 2012 trophy) So, do you disagree? Do you actually think that they would be directing as much publicity to the issue of sex trafficking if they didn't resort to tactics like this? Do you think this would be receiving the same amount of media attention otherwise? I would, by the way, appreciate a real response.	/r/MensRights	14/05/12 05:32 PM
1	Feminist logic: Women who flaunt themselves and sell their bodies are not the problem. Blame the game of football instead (Topless Feminist grabs Euro 2012 trophy) Would we even be talking about these issues if these women hadn't found such an attention-grabbing way to protest? It's unfortunate that it has to be this way, but she's bringing way more attention to her cause than she ever could with a shirt on.	/r/MensRights	14/05/12 03:10 PM
1	Feminist logic: Women who flaunt themselves and sell their bodies are not the problem. Blame the game of football instead (Topless Feminist grabs Euro 2012 trophy) They're using a sporting event because the male fans are more likely to use prostitutes (both free and coerced) than some other demographics. Of course they're going to take their protest to somewhere with a lot of male tourists if they're protesting about sex tourism.	/r/MensRights	14/05/12 03:08 PM
1	Are these types of magazines Misogynistic? While I agree that these magazines aren't inherently misogynistic, I definitely disagree that misogynists wouldn't enjoy looking at pictures of women. Misogynists don't necessarily avoid women. There are plenty of people who hate women, who think that they're inferior or evil or stupid, but who still enjoy looking at pictures of women or having sex with them. They just treat them terribly, or consider them only useful for sex. This is, of course, not to say that all men who enjoy women in a sexu…	/r/MensRights	08/05/12 03:50 PM
1	"Men objectify women" I go on TwoX frequently, I've never seen anyone actually demand or expect an apology from men in general, it's just that sometimes men come in and offer them. Which I don't really like, but that's besides the point. The same thing happens in men's subreddits (or, Reddit in general). Men complain about women/gold digging/friendzoning/feminism, and some girl comes in and talks about how she just de-friendzoned someone, or about how much she likes making her boyfriend sandwiches, or she loves givin…	/r/MensRights	03/05/12 07:31 AM
1	"Men objectify women" That isn't really a consensus. Whenever someone posts about objectification, you also get a lot of women posting about how they view the same picture as empowering, or they just don't see anything wrong with it.	/r/MensRights	03/05/12 07:24 AM
1	Girls and sport: Schools urged to make PE more attractive to girls What makes you think that things like Zumba will have lower standards than the usual "half-ass your way through softball or walk around the track" PE class? The point is to find something that girls will be interested in so that they'll become more active. I think it's a good idea. MR always talks about how we need to teach more to boys' strengths because they're under-performing, which is true; I would think this subreddit would appreciate this article a little more, because it's the same conce…	/r/MensRights	03/05/12 06:53 AM
1	On rape, crime, blame, and victims It's important to stress safe practices, but it's also important to increase awareness about consent. Whenever someone mentions "teaching people not to rape," everyone just laughs it off and says "we all know rape is bad." But we don't. We all know that back-alley stranger rape is bad, but a lot of people don't realize that it can still be rape even if the victim doesn't fight back. It can still be rape even if they just say no a few times, then stop and lie there. It's still rape even if you've…	/r/MensRights	03/05/12 06:43 AM
1	"It's called wooing" or "it's called I deserve free food because I have breasts"? (xpost from /r/okcupid) I am not questioning the fact that women are under the control of their husbands, but husbands have obligations to their wives that even this out. The same argument was made by many about slaves. Oh, yeah, I beat them brutally and keep them locked up, but I also provide for them. They can't be left to their own devices, they need us to provide structure for them. Structure in which they can be brutalized and have no say in the matter. This is not a fair trade. This system in its most extreme cas…	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 01:58 PM
1	"It's called wooing" or "it's called I deserve free food because I have breasts"? (xpost from /r/okcupid) Depends which country you're talking about. I live in Egypt. Are things equal? Far from it, but it's tolerable if you're in a city. Even still, terrible things happen here. Things like the police virginity tests are a direct result of how women are viewed and valued here. But not all of the Middle East is Egypt. Much if it is way worse. There's Saudi Arabia, where women are under the stewardship of male relatives. You should read about the Qatif rape case, in which a rape victim was given more l…	/r/MensRights	01/05/12 05:47 PM
1	"It's called wooing" or "it's called I deserve free food because I have breasts"? (xpost from /r/okcupid) So are you saying that women in the Middle East have it better than men?	/r/MensRights	01/05/12 08:38 AM
1	"It's called wooing" or "it's called I deserve free food because I have breasts"? (xpost from /r/okcupid) I never said "feminists believe," I specified "some." Reread my post. And while those who think that women shouldn't have the choice to stay at home are extreme, there are many feminists who do look down upon stay-at-home moms and see them as a betrayal of the feminist cause. I'm a feminist, and while I disagree with these people, I recognize that many of them do exist within the movement.	/r/MensRights	30/04/12 04:38 PM
1	X-post: "Walking wallet: wife cuts off sex after having children" She's probably not "cutting off" sex so much as she is suffering from a hormonal imbalance. Low sex drive is nobody's fault, and from what OP has said she seems willing to take steps to fix the problem. I don't understand why you have to turn this into a men's rights/greedy women issue, when it's pretty clearly a medical one. Let's try reversing the genders. Let's say a woman's husband can't get an erection. Would you consider him "cutting off" sex? No, because it's a medical issue out of his co…	/r/MensRights	30/04/12 01:15 PM
1	X-post: "Walking wallet: wife cuts off sex after having children" None of them are saying "let it be." Most of them are pointing out that it's very likely that there is a psychological or medical problem at play, that she is suffering from a decreased sex drive, and that he shouldn't necessarily assume that she's choosing to deny him sex. Most people are offering suggestions and solutions to deal with her problem.	/r/MensRights	30/04/12 01:09 PM
1	"It's called wooing" or "it's called I deserve free food because I have breasts"? (xpost from /r/okcupid) So, if his girlfriend can't pay equal rent, you think he should just kick her out? Should they break up? What if he just really wants to live with her and build a life with her, and that's worth a little extra money for him? You're perfectly within your rights to seek out a mate who can reliably bring home as much income as you can, but some people prioritize relationships and happiness above money.	/r/MensRights	30/04/12 12:43 PM
1	"It's called wooing" or "it's called I deserve free food because I have breasts"? (xpost from /r/okcupid) it is a mutually pleasurable activity It's supposed to be, but in a marriage so uneven that the man is considered "in control," you can't always expect it to be a mutually pleasurable activity.	/r/MensRights	30/04/12 12:34 PM
2	"It's called wooing" or "it's called I deserve free food because I have breasts"? (xpost from /r/okcupid) The "women give/allow sex" attitude is all to prevalent among both genders. You see it in women who act like sex is a chore, or who dole it out on special occasions, and you see it in guys who use the "master key/shitty lock" explanation, implying that men "win" and women "lose" from sex.	/r/MensRights	30/04/12 12:31 PM
3	"It's called wooing" or "it's called I deserve free food because I have breasts"? (xpost from /r/okcupid) Do you really think that girls "back in the good old days" felt any less entitled? The entitlement that "modern girls" feel is a holdover from older times. The idea that the man should ask, the man should pay, the man should support you forever and you should never have to work, that men are obligated to hold doors and give up their seats and carry things for women--none of these are new ideas. If anything, we need to become more modern, not less. At least nowadays, you have a much higher chance…	/r/MensRights	30/04/12 12:28 PM
1	"It's called wooing" or "it's called I deserve free food because I have breasts"? (xpost from /r/okcupid) No, I'm pretty sure that feminists are a rather diverse group. Some of them are very adamant that no woman should be a housewife and that woman not only have the right, but the obligation to work. Others believe that women should have the choice to stay at home.	/r/MensRights	30/04/12 12:14 PM
2	Why is it taboo to suggest that a woman could have done more to avoid rape? In this case, I'm talking about slut shaming as opposed to advice. If a girl is raped, and you want to give her advice on how to make herself safer, it had better be real advice. You can tell her about bad neighborhoods, about drinking responsibly and watching her drinks. But other things that people cite as "increasing your risk for rape," such as dressing provocatively, have been proven not to actually factor into rape risk, and so should not be cited. There are things that I think are accepta…	/r/MensRights	27/04/12 10:06 AM
1	Female genital tidying is racist and evil, no mention of the far more widespread male version To bad that these kind of things actually work. You're right, terrorism can work. This "plan," on the other hand, never will. Because you count on being able to re-legalize FGM, but you also count on people being so against it that they'll re-criminalize it, and will be so desperate to re-criminalize it that they'll allow the criminalization of MGM to piggy-back.	/r/MensRights	26/04/12 01:32 PM
1	Female genital tidying is racist and evil, no mention of the far more widespread male version We're not talking about budgeting, we're talking about human rights legislation, which isn't a zero-sum game. Unlike with budgeting, women don't (and shouldn't) have to lose basic human rights in order for men to gain them. Have fun telling millions of boys who have already been genitally mutilated that they were because we didn't make a political play. I would be just fine telling boys that I wasn't willing to subject girls to genital mutilation in order to save them. If I were a man, I certain…	/r/MensRights	26/04/12 01:29 PM
1	Female genital tidying is racist and evil, no mention of the far more widespread male version If people care so much about women, then how would you ever re-legalize FGM in the first place? This isn't really strategy, it's just bitterness. I recognize that some people may have it better than me, but I certainly wouldn't subject them to cruelty just because I think it would be easier for me to get ahead, when there are other avenues for change. This is the kind of mindset that makes people resort to terrorism, hurting innocents for force political change.	/r/MensRights	26/04/12 01:21 PM
1	Female genital tidying is racist and evil, no mention of the far more widespread male version Have fun telling the girls who will be genitally mutilated that they were just being used in a political play. I'm so glad that your plan is politically unfeasible, because it's disgusting. When one person is treated better than another, we should strive to bring the disadvantaged party up, not bring the advantaged party down, and we should never, ever move backwards on human rights.	/r/MensRights	26/04/12 01:13 PM
1	Female genital tidying is racist and evil, no mention of the far more widespread male version the only way to force changes is to make women suffer That isn't true. Men can make a difference on this issue through activism, it will just take time. Think about it: some far more politically marginalized groups (ethnic and religious minorities, women before the women's rights movement) have succeeded in effecting change, so I don't know why you think that making women suffer is the only way to get men's rights.	/r/MensRights	26/04/12 01:09 PM
2	Lane Garrison, former "Prison Break" star, arrested on suspicion of domestic violence. He's currently being held on $50,000 bail. Not just a DUI, a conviction for vehicular manslaughter. Please don't tell me we're going to start posting every incidence of a man getting arrested. This isn't necessarily a miscarriage of justice, it's very possible that he broke the law. This isn't a men's rights issue.	/r/MensRights	26/04/12 01:02 PM
0	Commentary on "Why do they hate us" article about Arab men hating Arab women. Thoughts? There is a sociological and political science definition of "patriarchy" that has little to do with feminist theory, and it is definitely something present in Saudi Arabia and other Arab and Muslim countries. Saudi Arabia's political, legal, and social systems are officially dominated by and limited to men, and women are heavily marginalized. It is a patriarchal society.	/r/MensRights	26/04/12 12:43 PM
3	Why is it taboo to suggest that a woman could have done more to avoid rape? But do you actually disagree that women (and men) should be able act irresponsibly without being raped? You may think that it's unlikely or that there exist consequences, but I sure hope you don't think that that's how things should be.	/r/MensRights	26/04/12 12:35 PM
4	Why is it taboo to suggest that a woman could have done more to avoid rape? You'd be perfectly right to teach your daughter to take care of herself (as long as it's real advice about things that actually increase risk of rape and not just slut-shaming). But if your daughter had already been raped, and was incredibly traumatized and was already beating herself up about how it's her own fault, would you rehash all of the things that she should have done differently?	/r/MensRights	26/04/12 12:32 PM
1	The Avengers director Whedon made it clear from "All-male Avengers team was unacceptable." Really, what about Sex and the city ??? All female team there. I'll agree there, I don't like Black Widow at all. There are many more truly badass and interesting female characters in comics. I also tend to highly dislike female "fighter" characters who lack either the muscle tone or the superpowers to back it up.	/r/MensRights	25/04/12 03:22 PM
1	This is something I found in /r/Mens_rights,a SRS troll subreddit, the supposed view of all MRAs by SRSers. This makes me sad. Studies have shown female teachers give females higher marks. Could you link these? What you've said doesn't actually prove that bias has anything to do with this.	/r/MensRights	25/04/12 01:41 PM
2	Have I been objectively sexist at any point in my essay? No matter how much something may seem "obvious" or "common sense" to you, you still need to do actual research and come up with actual proof, because things are not always as they seem, and there are often other issues at play. For instance, if you just looked at a history book, you could conclude that women and blacks are just less intelligent than white men, because most scientific advancements you read about were made by white men. But this ignores that there are other social factors at play.…	/r/MensRights	25/04/12 12:48 PM
2	Have I been objectively sexist at any point in my essay? First, it's just terribly written. Your writing style comes across as incredibly biased and condescending. Sarcasm is a risky thing to use in an academic essay, and you should only attempt it if you're an otherwise impeccable writer. You are not. Second, you make a lot of very stereotypical assertions without any basis. Women only use public transportation for shopping. Women don't have jobs. Women are all dependent on men for money. If you can't back these up with proof, they just hang out ther…	/r/MensRights	25/04/12 12:40 PM
2	Have I been objectively sexist at any point in my essay? That's not how burden of proof works. You want to make a claim, you back it up. If I claim that white people are superior to black people, I have to prove it, I can't just keep saying, "well, where's your proof that they're equal?" I will assume that you have no scientific citation until you can provide one.	/r/MensRights	25/04/12 12:23 PM
1	The Avengers director Whedon made it clear from "All-male Avengers team was unacceptable." Really, what about Sex and the city ??? All female team there. The addition of Black Widow isn't exactly done for women. She's just there to look pretty. I remember in Iron Man II part of her preparation for a fight, in addition to sliding into her skin-tight outfit, included letting her hair down. Letting her hair down, for a fight. Because she's not preparing for action, or for practicality. She's preparing to look good. Characters like this are insulting to both genders. They reduce female characters to eye candy, and they assume that men couldn't apprec…	/r/MensRights	25/04/12 11:57 AM
8	The Avengers director Whedon made it clear from "All-male Avengers team was unacceptable." Really, what about Sex and the city ??? All female team there. Contrary to popular belief, many women read and enjoy comics. Many women read and enjoy comics without a strong female presence in them. The Avengers movie isn't as obviously for men as SATC is for women--as in, including all of the existing female Avengers fans, Avengers has a chance of attracting a female audience, while SATC doesn't have a chance of attracting a male audience.	/r/MensRights	25/04/12 11:52 AM
2	The Avengers director Whedon made it clear from "All-male Avengers team was unacceptable." Really, what about Sex and the city ??? All female team there. I can see your point, but you've also managed to phrase it in the most misogynistic way possible. "I don't mind female characters, as long as they're very feminine and don't try to actually interact with the plot."	/r/MensRights	25/04/12 11:51 AM
2	The Nobility in Slut Shaming To be fair, part of the point is that women should be able to dress like sluts with no consequences to their safety or legal position. I should be able to wear a miniskirt without being assaulted or raped. Furthermore, if I am raped while wearing a miniskirt, the fact that I was wearing it should not factor into how I am treated or how seriously my case is taken. My dress should not be held up as proof that I had sexual intent or that I have loose sexual morals or that I was asking for it, or ev…	/r/MensRights	19/04/12 12:57 PM
1	Remember the victim of that rapist - oops, I mean "sex-mad woman"? Well, he gets to be publicly named. The rapist is anonymous of course. It is relevant because you're not just attempting to define a feminist as "someone who believes that women are oppressed," but as "someone who believes that women are oppressed, and are therefore incapable of rape." This is not a necessary extrapolation from the idea that women are oppressed. Defining feminists thus would be like defining black civil rights activists as people who believed that blacks were generally oppressed by society, and were therefore incapable of hurting white people. Whil…	/r/MensRights	18/04/12 05:26 PM
1	Remember the victim of that rapist - oops, I mean "sex-mad woman"? Well, he gets to be publicly named. The rapist is anonymous of course. The new FBI definition may have actually been kept purposefully vague to include rape by envelopment. It defines rape as non-consensual penetration, without really specifying whether the guilty party has to be the penetrator or the penetrated. At least, I hope that's how it will be used.	/r/MensRights	18/04/12 04:37 PM
1	Remember the victim of that rapist - oops, I mean "sex-mad woman"? Well, he gets to be publicly named. The rapist is anonymous of course. It is a generalization, and it isn't universally accurate. While it may be fair to define a feminist as one who believes that women are "oppressed," it is not fair to then assume that anyone who believes this also believes that women are always oppressed and are only oppressed and can never be held responsible for anything. Some people may believe that, but it is not a necessary or universal extrapolation, so it isn't fair to say that all feminists must, by definition, reject the idea that women…	/r/MensRights	18/04/12 04:34 PM
1	Is it wrong for me to ask my prom date to pay for her ticket? I never let a man pay for anything for me. I will continually insist on paying for my own dinner, to the point where it seems to annoy some men. I do it on principle--if I'm out with you, we're both benefiting from each other's company, and you shouldn't feel that you have to pay me to be there. I'm an adult, I'm there because I want to be. I know a lot of women who feel the same way (mostly from the west coast). Check out some of the threads on this topic over at TwoX and you'll see lots of wom…	/r/MensRights	12/04/12 03:44 PM
2	Guess who admits to being a Troll? Guy who claimed girlfriend tried to steal his sperm: linked to account not blog or their post. Still should give father visitation rights, though. I can understand and appreciate the concept of a financial abortion, but I disagree that a man who takes such an option should get visitation rights, just as I believe that a woman who abandons her child waives any right to a relationship with that child. Having a child is both a privilege and a responsibility, and I don't believe that one deserves the privilege without the responsibility.	/r/MensRights	06/04/12 04:49 PM
3	Does anybody else think it's unfair that we should have to pay for women's birth control? This is a Men's Rights issue because it's a large cost that is forced onto all men without any kind of reciprocation in funding. Unlike birth control, you can get condoms free at many locations.	/r/MensRights	02/03/12 08:07 AM
2	DAE believe that a false accusation of rape leading to incarceration is potentially as devastating as an actual rape? Can't we recognize the tragedy of false rape accusation without having to comparatively belittle rape?	/r/MensRights	27/02/12 11:16 AM
1	Five year old boy arrested and handcuffed at school for kicking police officer. Can we please go back to posting real examples of gender discrimination instead of hypothetical ones. Taking a story about something bad that happened to a boy and adding "And I think we all know what would have happened if it had been a girl" is useless and barely relevant.	/r/MensRights	03/12/11 11:38 PM
2	How one young woman on match.com managed to use men to score $1200 a month on fancy dinners. Women don't get punished for it. Do you want this woman punished for this? How? Under what justification? Men would get punished for it. A man wouldn't get punished for doing something like this. People would think he was a dick, just like they think this woman is terrible, but there would be no call to punish him, because it's all completely legal.	/r/MensRights	03/12/11 10:44 PM
2	Only men have to register for selective service ... Men are not more inherently valuable as individuals; they have just been made more valuable because they have throughout history been educated more, listened to more, and given more opportunities to succeed. If you have a son and a daughter, but send only your son to school, encourage only your son to think and express himself, give him money to establish himself, listen to and publish only his ideas, and make only your son eligible for important positions, then no shit your son is going to be m…	/r/MensRights	20/10/11 08:31 PM
1	Women in Colombia withhold sex for roads. Except men do not, in fact, have a biological need to have sex regularly. They just don't. You don't have a right to be guaranteed sex whenever you want it, and not having sex for awhile will not hurt you. Denying a man sex is in no way comparable to locking someone up and denying them a real basic, biological need. Regardless of marriage, a woman does not owe a man sex. Neither party owes the other sex. To suggest so is disgusting. Now, you can argue that, in a healthy marriage, the two members…	/r/MensRights	20/10/11 05:57 PM
1	The unacknowledged price of being a man in modern society. (xpost /pics) I think it's a bit of a stretch to call this a men's rights issue. This is a soldier's issue, a war issue. It's not a necessarily a men's issue, because there are many soldiers who aren't men and many men who aren't soldiers. Calling this the price of being male is about as fair as calling rape the price of being female.	/r/MensRights	20/10/11 05:42 PM
1	Is there any justification for women changing their name at marriage? I think I can understand the desire to share the same last name, but I don't understand the insistence that it be the man's last name.	/r/MensRights	20/10/11 05:04 PM
1	This new "Got Milk/Milk Helps PMS" advertisement is a good example how how our rights have suffered...[xpost from Reddit.com] I'm honestly curious, do you think there is only one feminist agenda or that all feminists are sinister/negative/anti-men?	/r/MensRights	16/07/11 07:57 PM
1	The case against Single Mothers and their liberal proponents, as made by Ann Coulter Why does she put the responsibility to get married before having children entirely on women? She calls on women to get married and repeatedly chastises single mothers, but never mentions the men who aren't sticking around to raise their kids. It takes two to make a single mother. Also, she mentions that adopted children are better off than those raised by single mothers, but what about those who don't get adopted? How well do they do? She jokes that there is a shortage of adoptable kids in the U…	/r/MensRights	16/07/11 07:56 PM
1	This new "Got Milk/Milk Helps PMS" advertisement is a good example how how our rights have suffered...[xpost from Reddit.com] I think the kind of "girl power" you're talking about is a kind that does no justice for either gender. It does emasculate men, but it also often portrays women as demanding, bitchy, or masculine. Some of this is the fault of women ("yeah, girl, you don't need no man!") and some the fault of men ("well, if they want a strong female character, we'll just make her a stereotypical man, but with boobs"). I wish MR would realize that a lot of the things they hate about the portrayal of women in the m…	/r/MensRights	16/07/11 07:23 PM
1	For every 100 girls... Why does it have to be either? Why does a higher male suicide rate have to be an issue of men vs. women, of men being oppressed? There are a lot of factors at play here (one of the biggest probably being the fact that men use more sure-fire methods of suicide), I don't think it just comes down to men feeling discriminated against. Do you think most women who kill themselves do so because they're women?	/r/MensRights	16/07/11 07:13 PM
2	This new "Got Milk/Milk Helps PMS" advertisement is a good example how how our rights have suffered...[xpost from Reddit.com] Wait, do you really think this ad is saying "go girl power"? It doesn't portray men very well, but it portrays women in an even worse light.	/r/MensRights	16/07/11 07:09 PM
1	Reddit white knight to the rescue... Yeah, apparently wanting to stop a man from beating up a woman (the way he saw it initially) is out of line now. It's giving women special treatment. If they want equality, then let's treat them as shittily as we treat men. It makes me sad that people see women being protected and think "you shouldn't help women" rather than "you should try to help anyone."	/r/MensRights	13/07/11 11:46 PM
1	Disney's double standard on rape, from an early age kids are taught women can do whatever they want. But that wasn't necessarily portrayed as the right way to handle the situation. When I was watching those scenes, I didn't get the feeling that Disney was saying, "look at this heroine, she's handling this in a very responsible manner." She seemed paranoid, her reactions seemed overboard and illogical. Her actions were meant to show how messed-up she is from being locked in a tower and fed lies about the world her whole life. There is a big difference between displaying a behavior and encouragin…	/r/MensRights	13/07/11 11:35 PM
1	Men Make Less When Their Bosses Are Women The article isn't about women punishing men any more than it is about "trailblazers." The study says nothing about how female bosses view their male employees, it's about how others (both men and women) view men who work for women.	/r/MensRights	13/07/11 11:22 PM
1	Men Make Less When Their Bosses Are Women Except that's not what the article says at all. The article says nothing about how much the female bosses value their male employees, but rather how outsiders view men who work for women. Btw, your boss/supervisor doesn't necessarily determine your salary.	/r/MensRights	13/07/11 11:20 PM