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Yep this is 100% me. The autistic wannabe alpha. Though I had friends when I found TRP. I struggle hard to make new friends. I’ve tried reconnecting with friends from decades ago but our lives are too different now. The hamster wheel I find myself on is: I want to make friends with confident, strong ‘alpha’ type men so that I can immerse myself and learn their frame. > But who’s going to welcome me into their group when I’m obviously not like that?! > Then join a social group to just get started…
/r/TheRedPill14/09/24 12:20 AM
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Last week I had the biggest wake up call I could ever get. I received a call from my biggest client who was once my closest friend. We were each other's best man at our weddings. He called to tell me they're leaving me to seek services from another firm. I've previously shared how much resentment I have for my father and how much of a weak, dependent and incapable person he is and that I never, ever want my kids to look at me like this. Well yesterday I realised that I've become him in practical…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/20 11:36 PM
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Solid gold amongst these words!! Though what other Ultimate Transcendant purpose is there other than submitting to god? I’m not all that religious these days but having grown up on a religious household this is all that comes to mind. What are some other people’s views on this? I just can’t conceptualise anything that is greater above all else...
/r/TheRedPill09/01/20 10:47 AM
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OYS #3 After a couple of days to just cool off. I recalled reading that unless I'm looking at divorce papers, I still have a shot at turning things around. So after the a gym session on Saturday I texted my wife telling her I'm cooking dinner and to let me know what she can and can't eat at the moment. (this changes every week as she's doing an elimination diet) I actually got the idea to cook for the family after reading u/2gunsgetsome post about his 12 months progress. This probably sounds lik…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/19 02:11 AM
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Thank you for that link!! I 100% relate to that and explains so much. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 04:18 AM
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OYS #2 29/10/19 Stats 177cm 95kg (last OYS weight was from earlier in the month) 33yo | married (barely) 5 yrs kids 2 & 5 Reading Mainly sidebar content this week. Fitness I’ve been consistent with my lifting and I think it shows. Not about to ask my wife to confirm this though… Business I’ve pulled back a little here to get into the gym. I haven’t had the energy to work into the nights since I’ve started lifting. Goals: I need to refocus to prepare myself for what's around the corner. Family I …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 11:27 PM
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Ok thanks mate. The concept of internalizing something doesn't come naturally to me. I'm going to stop looking for new things to read and just focus on one thing at a time.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/19 05:27 AM
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Ok so in taking your comments onboard I went about interacting with her as I normally would (I.e. I ignored the discussion we had the night before about separating). She was in bed crying (MIL died in June) so I hugged her and gave her a shoulder to lean on. My thought process there was to treat the night before as a shit test and demonstrate that I'm capable of showing empathy and that I don't really care about our talk the night before. I'd say this worked because she called me this morning as…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/19 05:25 AM
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Maybe don't go too nazi with your budgeting. Budgeting effectively needs to be done at the household level and so you're wife needs to be onboard with it. You should have a goal to work towards to help keep you on track. Make sure you set a timeline/target date for your goal as well. The barefoot investor is a great book to help with this. It is Australian so you won't read anything about 401k's etc. But the principles and methods is where you'll find great value. (obviously budgeting is not hig…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/19 11:29 AM
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OYS #1 Stats 177cm 99kg BMI 24.2 33yo | married 5 yrs kids 2 & 5 Books Read: NMMNG, Way of the Superior Man & Preventive Medicine: The Rational Male Reading: WISNIFG @ 50% and Book of Pook. Fitness I’ve started going to the gym and lifting. Will be lifting 3x per week with cardio in between. Eating Lite n Easy and shedding the weight. Weighed 114kg in July and am down to 99kg. Though I expect this will slow down now that I’m more focused on lifting. False Beliefs A couple of weeks ago something …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/19 03:50 AM
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Dude thank you for your wise words! Very well written and expressed! You've given me a lot to think about along with things I'm now more confusion about. I know I'm not what she signed up for. In a number of ways she's not what I signed up for. But as for who's deviated the most, I'd say that'd be me. Hence why I'm here asking the stupid questions and just trying to learn how to live a fulfilling life. Thanks again brother!
/r/askMRP14/10/19 04:39 AM
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If you really think I’m going to fail why are you so invested in my questions? I’ve been reading a lot of the sidebar content and taking it all in. Making the connection between the sidebar and my specific circumstances is the hard part because this is just not how I’ve lived my life to date. Whether or not it’s your intention, your comments stand out the most and cut through to the core which is exactly what I need. So thank you.
/r/askMRP11/10/19 10:55 AM
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It’s been a rough and testing 12-18 months. The strain of building a business with my wife being a SAHM made for some tough times. We (she) were about to pull the pin on our marriage in July until she saw how it was going to impact the kids. In truth I can’t blame her for wanting to end things. So yeh I know I know I have major work to do on all fronts. Had it not been for all this I don’t think I would have come across TRP.
/r/askMRP11/10/19 05:51 AM
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Will do. I’m more focused on cardio and eating right at the moment. To clarify I meant to say no date, just sex. So it’s not transactional. Keep the dates for the weekend. Yes I’ve read NMMNG and am done with covert contracts! Ok so step one to any suggestion she makes that involves my time is to consider the alternative and decide on what’s best for me? Alternatively I make the plans when it suits. Right? As for always initiating for sex, how do I do that while maintaining frame? Maintain an un…
/r/askMRP11/10/19 05:16 AM
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On its own it is a reasonable request. However I’ve learned that I have to guard my work time because she has no problem taking and taking. This was an issue when I first started my business. She’s eased up a little on the denying of sex. But still not as often as I’d like. If were having sex at least once a week, that would be great compared to the every other month/quarter that it’s been. I’m still in her frame. My saying let’s go home to fuck then go out probably wouldn’t work.
/r/askMRP11/10/19 03:34 AM
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Things are going ok for the moment. I've really been focusing on owning my shit after spending the last year in anger. I've done a lot of reflecting of my marriage and home life and after taking MRP/TRP on board I can honestly say that it is foolish of me to think I can put in 10% and expect my wife to stick around and be happy. I'm just taking it day by day and making sure my current day is better than the last. I do keep finding myself in situations with my wife and I'll think to myself 'did I…
/r/askMRP26/09/19 03:47 AM
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Spend some time outdoors. Try to connect with people that have common interests. Like whatever you're watching on YouTube, see if there's any related meetups. A psychologist might be helpful but that can very much depends on the psychologist. They're not all the same so don't give up after seeing just one.
/r/askTRP14/09/19 04:26 AM
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I'm still learning what negotiating desire means for me. I.e reflecting on past behaviours that would be considered an attempt to negotiate desire. Yes I'm working on my SMV and working through the books. I'm in the process of rereading NMMNG and doing the activities. As for my values and vision... They differ greatly with those of my wife...
/r/askMRP09/09/19 10:52 PM
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Not initially no. It wasn't until she asked me if I heard what she said that I figured I should stop. I don't want to then have her blaming me for her feeling sick. I already get enough shit about causing her stress.
/r/askMRP09/09/19 10:44 PM
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I was as easy as I have been thus far for separation but then my boy didn't handle it very well. So I'm back at home and trying to keep it going a little longer. Pussy move I know. But I didn't do it for her. I did it for me and my kids. They don't deserve a broken family and I know for a fact my wife needs my help with the kids. She says she doesn't but who is there to take over when she's not feeling well and new help? Me! Who's there when the kids have been really hard work and have worn down…
/r/askMRP05/09/19 06:10 AM
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No just a noob
/r/askMRP02/09/19 07:55 PM
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Thanks everyone for the harsh wake up call. I definitely needed that! I have been reading the links in the side bar and will get the NMMNG book asap. I used to lift years ago and had actually developed some good muscle. But that was almost a decade ago. I got lazy after getting married and having kids. My wife would actually discourage me from bulking up. I see why now! Thanks again all!
/r/askMRP29/08/19 05:58 AM
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