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| 16 | Why do so many women still want to get married?I personally plan on having children, which is the reason I value marriage. I believe having a solid foundation is really important to build a family on. Honestly if I didn't want kids, I'm not sure if I would want to get married. I think maybe for the legal benefits if I found an amazing man and was with him long-term. But would I date FOR marriage and plan for it and see it as a goal? Probably not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 08:26 PM |
| 5 | He still keeps sex vids of him and his ex but going through his phone is the bigger violation of trust... 🤡That's a whole lot more than a relic lol. There's a difference between a picture of him and his ex and a SEX TAPE, which she may not even know he still has. It's not something kept for memory's sake. That's material he uses to get off and it's WEIRD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 04:48 PM |
| 5 | Women choose to reduce their quality of life to let a man go raw and I‘m tired of itMy BF and I use condoms but I’m still on birth control because I’m a college student and REALLY don’t want to get pregnant. I have not experienced any side effects though. My heart goes out to the women that do. It’s honestly so incredibly unfair how it is simply an “expectation” men have. Your health comes secondary to their pleasure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 10:30 PM |
| 34 | Misogyny in leftist spheres. A Young Turks video becomes a witch hunt over a woman's TikTok video about dating standards. As a leftist and feminist this seriously annoys me."RUTHLESS dating rules": wants to be taken out to dinner and observe her date | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 04:59 AM |
| 19 | Tired of people trying to sell this idea that posting half naked pics on instagram is empowering to us girls and womenI'm 22 and the amount of girls I know in college that have something like a 70% male following because all they post is provocative pics is INSANE. Listen, I post bikini photos but they're dwarfed by content of my actual life and things I'm passionate about. That being said, I have a lot of friends who have a large following from those sexy pictures. Do you know what ends up happening? They feel like they can't post anything but bikini pics because when they post shit they actually like, they lo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 06:01 PM |
| 51 | If men are so driven by their "biology" and "instinct" then paying for everything for a woman should be no problem at all.Exactly! It's not about biology. It's about getting the most out of women while doing the least they possibly can. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 09:17 PM |
| 5 | I’m pissed. Had to scroll a long way down to find some sanity in this thread. “MeN gEt AbUsEd ToO!” Newsflash, women don’t get taken seriously, either.It's another act of violence that happens to women everyday at much higher rates but these reddit men don't care until it happens to another men 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 08:20 PM |
| 90 | REMINDER: “The wall” is a patriarchal myth 🙌🏼Absolutely! I'm 22 and I never realized how women older than me were treated by society until I joined FDS. I have always looked up to them and seen them as beautiful and powerful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 07:31 PM |
| 3 | WHICH ONE OF YOU QUEENS DIVORCED THIS LVM LMAOPlease don't tell me his daughter cleaned that for him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 05:17 AM |
| 67 | Guys want a strong independent woman until...Men think being an "independent woman" means you don't ask anything of them. When in reality, it means prioritizing yourself, doing your own thing, and not needing external validation from others. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 05:56 PM |
| 41 | LADIES WTF: Homeless Millennial Man Survives By Picking Up Women Every Night. Every woman who fell for this dirty unwashed misogynist deserves to be in the Pickmeisha Hall of Shame.It's funny how men claim that if you don't want to go 50/50 on dates, you're using them for free food. And then they turn around and PRAISE men like this ?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 05:52 PM |
| 86 | Yes, the economy is bad. That doesn't mean you have to be a free prostitute.I cannot say this enough: wanting to be with a man who is financially stable and has a good job is NOT classist. Especially if you yourself have money and are successful in your career. Also, having kids is so expensive these days and if that's something you want, you have every right to look for someone who will be able to afford that. We cannot let people make us feel guilty for wanting stability and security. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 05:16 PM |
| 13 | Why is no one talking about the type of rape where a partner pesters you into having sex?Coercion is not consent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 07:48 PM |
| 35 | Just in case anyone still thinks video game addiction is “not that bad”...Studies have proven that video games increase aggression. I'm in college and I have yet to meet a guy who games a lot that doesn't yell, gets mad easily, or just has a temper overall. It makes them violent. RIP to the babygirl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 10:48 PM |
| 38 | Tiktok is grooming young girls into thinking they trick grown wealthy men It’s absolutely terrifying because some of these women are even being *sponsored* by sites to advertise on TikTok and get people to sign up as soon as they’re 18As they say: never underestimate your oppressor. If you're a young 21 year old woman and think you're finessing a 50 year old man who was capable enough to become wealthy and has a lot more life experience than you, chances are you're not the one winning here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 10:44 PM |
| 53 | And they say marriage is bad for men. Who tf think washing dishes is a suprise??Growing up, my mom was a stay-at-home mom and my dad paid 100% of the bills, but he also cooked dinner for us and washed the dishes at least 3 nights a week. He was also a bit of a clean freak and I could not leave a bowl in the sink for 30 seconds without him finding it and washing it before I got the chance to. I'm lucky I had that modelled for me because I cannot imagine a world where I would be with a partner who thinks completing an everyday chore is "a surprise." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 11:09 PM |
| 11 | Guess I'm Strange AF ThenOf course this "journalist" has previously written pro-porn and pro-poly articles 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 06:48 AM |
| 56 | HOW IS SHE NOT EMBARRASSED?!?OMGGGGGShe seems so sweet. I feel so bad for her! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 03:30 AM |
| 12 | Seriously?This can't be real, but if it is it's the Madonna-whore complex in full display. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 10:13 PM |
| 28 | Almost half a million likes - this ain’t cute 🤢How can you physically push your baby away from you... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 08:14 PM |
| 3 | How to be emotionally abusive 101I posted his original video to FDS months ago and I’m so glad more women are becoming aware of it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 03:18 AM |
| 2 | For the love of god please stop having their children. Twitch streamer threatens to break child’s neck for being in his roomDog or child, he's an abusive piece of crap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 06:27 AM |
| 6 | I always faked my orgasmsAs a 15 year old, you cannot consent to a 23 year old. That is assault and abuse. I'm 21 and I wouldn't even think about coming close to an 18 year old guy, let alone a 15 year old child. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 04:16 AM |
| 7 | COSMO wants y’all to know that Armie Hammer’s Cannibalism Fetish isn’t the problem here and people are “distorting” it. Because nothing screams “safe and sane” like Cannibalism Play.By libfem logic, everything Armie did is perfectly fine because it was all consensual. This is why the idea that "if something is consensual, it can't be abuse" is so flawed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 12:24 AM |
| 75 | I’m happy to see women on social media (mainly TikTok) speaking out about the dangerous glorification of sex work. She’s speaking facts!What's scary is that these girls straight out of high school (or even still in hs!) have NO idea the true impact of what they are doing. I'm in college and I know 18 year olds with OFs. They think that it's easy money and that they can keep it a secret if they don't show their faces. They're playing with fire. Once your body is out there, it's out there. No take backs. They do not have the maturity or cognitive ability to think through the real-life consequences of their actions. They are innoce… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 11:08 PM |
| 52 | I don’t even have anything to say but I am disgustedOfficially asking every man I date what they'd do if they won a million dollars. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/21 05:52 AM |
| 28 | ALWAYS GIVE MEN LESS THAN WHAT THEY ASKED FOR AND THEY WILL WORK TWICE AS HARD TO GET ITThis is great advice. I think people are forgetting that this sub is called FemaleDatingSTRATEGY. Saying things like "simply don't date men" or "don't do anything" isn't very helpful. While that may be the right choice for you, it is not for all of us. This is a sub dedicated to dating strategies for women... it's what the literal existence of FDS is dedicated to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 03:04 AM |
| 25 | NVM abuses baby and breaks controller because of video game"All dads aren't dads. There are sperm donors, and then there are dads" 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 08:40 PM |
| 8 | Poor woman, is that what she tells you?? 💀💀💀💀💀💀 Queen holding his ego together by a threadGod, I wish women needed to have a vaginal orgasm in order to become pregnant. There would be no need for birth control. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 08:15 PM |
| 21 | Hate to see it. Note that the only happy employee is a man who doesn't have to witness or experience the sexual harassment first handI hope the men that attend these kind of restaurants to gawk at women see this and realize how creepy and disgusted these women are by them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 05:33 PM |
| 30 | Creepy male teachersI've had many creepy male teacher experiences. I went to a private school growing up where we had to wear uniforms and had a pretty strict dress code. In 8th grade, I had one male teacher (probably in his late 30s early 40s) who would let the boys in first into the classroom and have the girls wait single file outside the corridor. Then he would have us all turn and face the wall and lean against it. He would get this big ruler and measure whether or not our skirts were too short. They could onl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 09:33 PM |
| 60 | Naya Rivera's 🚩Ridden Experience with a NVM PedophileI don't know if this video has already been posted, but here's the backstory: This is an excerpt from Naya Rivera's book that details her experience dating her co-star Mark Salling who was later outed as a pedophile when the police found child porn on his computer in 2015. He pled guilty, but he, the coward he was, took his own life in 2018 before he could be sentenced. I wanted to share because damn... all the red flags that he was a LVM and trash human were there right from the beginning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 11:10 PM |
| 53 | At this point they could rename themselves as r/ThoughtPolice and I will see no difference"Men ain't shit" is a statement of hate? HAHAHAHA | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 03:35 PM |
| 8 | Men never fail to disappoint...The note at the end really is the cherry on top. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 12:23 AM |
| 5 | This made me sad and angryHe is hurting you. He gets off on hurting you. Do you need anymore reason to leave? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 12:21 AM |
| 1 | You know you’re privileged when you ask your hinge matches “how many times have you been arrested” just so you can share your experience getting slapped on the wrist. Unmatched!That makes me so angry. He could have killed someone! If you express anything other than profound regret for the mistakes you've made in life, you're a shitty person and will most likely make them again. Glad you won't be there for the next DUI, sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 03:20 PM |
| 5 | 5 years of having her in his life and he has no scruples lying and withholding the state of his sexual health from her, possibly twice. what the fuck.If a man is willing to put your sexual health at risk, he has NO respect for you whatsoever and is a scummy human being. "How would you guys approach him about it?" Um, LEAVE. Fucking ghost him. Block, delete, move on with your life. No explanation needed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 05:12 PM |
| 7 | NAH sis 🤢🤢🤢Lmaoo, I know this because I used to ask for their birth time :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 07:20 PM |
| 1 | Got the proposal just shy of our 1 year anniversary! Cheers to never settling 🥂Congrats, sis! 🥰 That is such a beautiful ring, wow. I wish you two so much happiness and love. ♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 02:57 PM |
| 19 | Is this a joke??? 1,500+ likes (and counting!) on this comment that’s only a few hours hold. Every. Single. Comment. is praising her 😭Pickmeishas love bragging about their low standards and how little they are willing to accept from men. It's embarrassing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 01:17 PM |
| 9 | The Rule Of Reciprocity & How Men Exploit ItWow, this honestly explains so much. I'm a business student so I've been meaning to read this book for ages, but I'll definitely be picking it up now! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 05:49 PM |
| 2 | What women want..."Your hoodie" ?? I think he made that TikTok for teenage girls... and that makes it even more disturbing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 05:27 PM |
| 13 | How to safeguard against future faking: Ask "When?"Love this! Thank you so much for sharing. This is the reason I joined this sub in the first place. FemaleDatingStrategy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 05:13 PM |
| 27 | Just another day on r/dating 😳😳Felt this. Last year, I agreed to go on a date with a nerdy compsci student at my college. I wasn't that attracted to him tbh but I told myself it was fine. I had just broken up with my ex who was the "Brad and Chad" frat boy type, so I thought "It won't hurt if I give him a chance, he might surprise me, he probably has redeeming qualities, etc." On the date, he said, "I didn't expect you to be this smart" because I was pretty and a business student (I'm a finance major?). Kind of a neg, but I i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 01:35 PM |
| 28 | Imagine if he'd spent all that time and energy on any other hobby or even cultivating relationships with other humans... what a wasteGreat, now I know to check men's bookmarks 👍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 03:58 AM |
| 3 | Are we following this story? vile, disgusting old man reporter who exposed an young, female EMT out of spite?The New York Post is utter trash in general. Complete trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 02:09 PM |
| 7 | Pickme wants more "consensual non-consent" porn"Consensual non-consent" First of all, wtf? Make that make sense. Secondly, let me get this straight. She is saying that "ethical" rape fantasy porn can't be produced, so they should be able to watch REAL rape? Because that is what the guy is talking about, videos of REAL victims of child trafficking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 02:06 PM |
| 8 | What a QUEEN 👑💕I probably would have moved in with my boyfriend had I not found FDS. I now know to not move in with a man until I have a ring on my finger and I've vetted him extensively! I'm 21 so this is going to save me a lot of headache and heartache. Cannot be anymore grateful to this sub. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 10:41 PM |
| 6 | Need to rant about NVM and therapyHoly shit, this was awful. I'm sorry you had to go through this. I have gone to a few therapists (most just once) and I can say there are some TRASH therapists out there. A lot that don't listen, are unhelpful, and lack empathy. However, there are some gems out there that you'll really mesh with. I'm glad I didn't give up looking for a therapist because I got really lucky with my current one. She guided me out of my last toxic relationship. She constantly reminded me I wasn't crazy, that I didn'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 06:22 AM |
| 40 | Woah... just watching Gail Dines exposing PornHub on Fox news(how sad that it had to be fox new instead of every libfem media).I'm so down for a left-right coalition to get rid of this website. Unfortunately, libfems will never get onboard. They are saying that it is "a witch hunt because there are barely any videos of minors", that taking action against PH "only hurts sex workers during a pandemic and holidays" and that "Facebook and Instagram are much worse." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 11:39 PM |
| 57 | WHAT?! This is such BS.This is NOT TRUE. I don't know what is going through this lady's head and what would possess a woman to say such a thing. The worst part is the men agreeing and justifying their own cheating in the comments. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 02:35 AM |
| 12 | While the obvious red flag here is the age difference, can we take a moment to observe the massive red flag that are 'mommy's boys'?Total asshole. The mom asking if she's "pure"... 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 09:31 AM |
| 1 | Don’t be a forever GF 🗣If it has been years and he’s still unsure about you and there is no sign of a ring, sis, he doesn’t want you. Men will know if they want to marry you within a short period of knowing you. Do not audition and play wifey in hopes of convincing him. His mind is already made up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 05:30 AM |
| 39 | Confronted my (27F) husband (34M) about his porn use today... This is how it went.So many things wrong with this short text exchange. 1) He said LMAO and used the laughing emoji when you're speaking about something serious. 2) He called you a bitch. 3) He is 34 and said you "belong to the streets"? That is what I see 14 year old boys say on TikTok. 4) He literally said he doesn't value you. Clearly, he doesn't respect you as a wife, a mother, or even as a woman. Sis, this man is a joke. He doesn't care about you and clearly doesn't care about your baby girl either. I don't kn… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 10:44 PM |
| 14 | Don’t you DARE kink shame him 🤡"He was quite angry at me today and I told him to take it out in the bedroom" Why?! Why would you say that... "Of course i said that i love him and it will be ok" What... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 10:31 PM |
| 5 | In response to the post about whether or not LVM cause monthly cycle disturbances. Explanation in description 😖If I have a rich friend with a cool pool that I avoid every winter and only want to see when it's warm out and we get to swim... it's obvious I'm using that friend for the pool. This boils my blood. He literally made it a requirement to have sex every time you see him. Clearly, he was using you for. He is so gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 10:23 PM |
| 15 | A lot of TV completely unwatchable after FDSDon't get me started on The Vampire Diaries. I was obsessed with that show when I was a teenager. It didn't even strike me that these hundred year old men were into a seventeen year old girl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 11:58 PM |
| 50 | Yeah, we’re always to blame. Your Peter Pan complex is totally our fault. Shut the fuck up and buy some furniture and eat with utensils, you Neanderthal.Place looks lifeless. Men take no pride in their home. They don't bother to create an environment that is warm, inviting, and comfortable. I wonder if they genuinely don't mind living in a dead place like this or if they're just lazy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 05:59 AM |
| 5 | FaceTime date with seemingly HVM reveals his repulsive apartment. This is why you FaceTime first, imagine arriving here in person. Needless to say, that was our last conversation.I don't understand how men can live in these conditions. It's clear they were socialized differently than us because they are shameless. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 05:53 AM |
| 5 | Clueless scrote in the dating over forty whining about how his "date" wasn't an "adult" because she didn't want to talk about his dick after only 1 "date". Then has the NERVE to advise the rest of us that he did HER a favor and DOING US a favor by putting PSA in the subject line.He met her for three hours at a park and thought it was completely fine to ask her about her sexual desires and preferences... what the actual FUCK? Total creep. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 05:49 AM |
| 2 | “Love yourself first, because that’s who you’ll spend the rest of your life with”I honestly wish I had the guts to do this! The only place I go alone are cafes because people understand I'm studying so I don't feel weird. I went to the movies by myself once and felt like people were staring at me with pity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 05:02 AM |
| 17 | The tradcon guide for the modern womanOh god, this hurts. Don't remind me. I used to do this my freshman year after parties at my boyfriend's frat. In my defense, I cleaned up mainly littering but yes, I was the girl going around with the trash bag picking up random beer cans and solo cups in the backyard. Aghhh. I don't know what was wrong with me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 04:22 AM |
| 20 | The comments on this are so sad...It works for me too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 12:01 PM |
| 232 | The comments on this are so sad...So many girls (and I say girls because most are teens) are in the comments saying they found out their BF goes on OF. Thankfully, some are saying they are ending things. Sad that it has come to this. Some of the comments: "My stomach hurts and i havent even looked yet" "i'm literally crying and shaking." "just found it. when he lied. more proof. thanks. i'm done" "just broke up w my bf of 4 years bc I did this bye imma die now" "Thanks😄now I'm not gonna eat for two weeks" "He said he got hard to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 07:16 AM |
| 10 | Mgtow spoils sex doll with fancy Jewelleries. He is literally talking to the doll like it can respond. Alot of mgtows have mental health issues and I don't mean it in a way to make fun of or stigmatise mental health. These men are deeply unhappy with their lives and need to use women as scape goat.So pathetic that it's sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 06:00 AM |
| 2 | It’s a pandemic of LVM men everywhere!! Another story of an LVM man taking a woman out on a date. PandemicPicking up the check on a date is the bare minimum a man could do. This man sounds like a total asshole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 09:48 PM |
| 2 | People who say their partner is HV before 6 month in, and people in here supporting it?I feel like we could use a term to describe the type of man that appears to be HV so far but you’re not sure yet. Like possible high value man, PHVM? Or something like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 09:12 PM |
| 7 | Reminder why kinkmishas are a thingListen, I understand the reasoning behind it. I personally could never imagine being into that, but I'm not going to shame those women. HOWEVER, why would you EVER want to be with a man who gets off from pretending to assault you? That is deeply disturbing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 06:12 AM |
| 25 | Don’t forget the sh*t men say about us behind closed doors. Except...this is from Facebook. A public forum where men have their families added for all to see their commentary."Any leaked nudes???" Ugh. He doesn't want her nudes because he finds her attractive, he wants them so he can reduce her to an object and feel like he has power over her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 04:46 AM |
| 24 | Notice how it only benefits the man (unless they get married)Her face tells me that triggered her. If he has 60k in the bank, then he can definitely afford to take her out and buy her flowers... yet he doesn't. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 11:11 AM |
| 1 | The few times I heard about crazy ex bfs stories, the victims were brutally assaulted after they got stalked, their faces were burnt with acid or they were just murdered and their bodies left to rot in a ditch. But scrotes don't ever raise voices against such violence, they think she wanted it.I just don't like to relive the trauma :) There's also nothing funny about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 10:47 AM |
| 212 | Pick me calls not wanting to have sex with your partner “abuse” 🤮"Women withhold sex when they're mad and that's abuse." How? There's nothing manipulative, intentional, or malicious about it. We just don't want to have sex with you! Why would we want to be intimate with someone we're mad at? Just because we are with you, it does not mean we're obliged to have sex whenever you feel like it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 05:00 AM |
| 40 | /r/againstdegeneratesubs made a change petition to ban fds lol scrotes madThat's rich. Entitlement? Meanwhile there are thousands of subs that teach men how to get inside a woman's body within 0.3 seconds of meeting her. Talk about entitlement! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 06:20 AM |
| 7 | I'm new here and I kept seeing TheRedPill and MGTOW mentioned, so I went to check it out, completely unaware what they were... Jesus Christ, now I'm considering staying celibate foreverPure projection there, buddy. Every man I know just repeats whatever bullshit they hear from Joe Rogan, Ben Shapiro, Jordan Peterson, and other online personalities. They get off of playing devil's advocate and being a contrarian so they call feel eDgY. I've gotten into political debates where they oppose literally everything I say because logic™ and fAcTs oVeR fEeLiNgS. Opposing everything does not make you an "independent thinker." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 12:27 AM |
| 14 | Dirty Nails 😡THIS! Last year I interned at an investment banking company and developed the habit of glancing at men's watches. Now I always notice this! It's repulsive. Bad hygiene is an automatic turn off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 11:46 PM |
| 7 | I feel sickYou did good! You showed courage and self-respect. You set a boundary and laid out the consequences for crossing that boundary. Even with that knowledge, he chose to cross it again and now he is facing the consequences of his actions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 01:24 AM |
| 9 | DON'T close convo's with a X or ❤️🥰👄💋🌹😘I never thought about it like this, but you're right. If a guy isn't my boyfriend, why would I send him heart or kiss emojis? It is kinda weird when you think about it. I also like how you said it retains it's power when you seldom use it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 11:00 PM |
| 114 | When your values and self worth are the same price as a Chanel bag...I went to TikTok to see who this girl was. It has 1.8M likes.... on an app... made for kids. I reported it for promotion of illegal activities lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 07:02 AM |
| 37 | I'm speechlessLast Halloween, I saw that my (now ex) boyfriend liked a girl's IG photo. I followed her because we go to the same college, so I literally saw he liked her post when I was scrolling down my feed. Over our relationship of a year and a half, that was the ONE sexy photo I ever saw him like (again, it was on my feed, I can only wonder how many he liked that I didn't see). I noticed it, asked him about it, and he told me he "thought her costume was cool." She was dressed as Lara Croft. I thought "fai… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 12:41 AM |
| 9 | 30 something BUYS A HOUSE with 18 year old then "Pushes her out"Where were her parents?! Buying a house at 18 with a boyfriend? A 30 year old boyfriend at that? Don't buy a house with a man you're not married to, period. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 05:21 AM |
| 24 | The absolute state of this thread😂 I never brought it up again because I thought maybe he had anxiety or some kind of disorder. He turned out to be a huge liar though, so there’s a chance he just made up a bs story to get his way. Although I do recall that he never pooped in public and when he needed to, he always rushed home (to the lamp, I presume?). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 08:45 AM |
| 36 | The absolute state of this threadThis is kind of a weird story, but the thread reminded me of my ex. My bf of a year at the time (now ex) had a lamp in his bathroom. While he was out once, I moved the lamp out of the bathroom and next to his bed so I could study and see my textbook. He came back and I asked if I could keep the light there. He said no. I asked him why since his room was kind of dark and the bathroom had bright lights. He freaked out and said the lamp had to be in the bathroom. I started laughing out of awkwardne… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 08:19 AM |
| 47 | You deserve to be cherished! If he wanted to, be would.Good for her. My ex would say things like "those couples are being fake" and made me feel extremely shallow for wanting him to post me on his IG. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 04:56 AM |
| 84 | "I love your cooking" is NOT a real complimentI don't think people realize how sexist it really is. Now that I think of it, I've had really bad experiences with men and "my cooking." Last summer, I had an internship at a major bank. During my lunch break, I was eating leftovers from the night before and an analyst came up to me and said it smelled really good. I thanked him and continued eating, but he just stood there and then said he didn't remember the last time he ate a home-cooked meal. Keep in mind I was a 20 y/o intern and this guy w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 04:46 AM |
| 4 | Day in the life of dating a D1 football player - OH MY GODYoung women are practically becoming mothers to their boyfriends and it's really sad. If you're cooking for him, cleaning for him, doing his homework etc. you're his mother. This is a failure on the part of the parents. Stop spoiling your sons please! It's always the first girlfriends that have to take care of them before they grow tf up and it's pathetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 10:22 PM |
| 5 | People in the comments are calling her a pick me for this. Do you think this is pick me behavior?There is a difference between sexualizing and objectifying. They're sexualizing themselves. I personally don't think it's appropriate for teen girls to do, but does it make them objects? No. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 10:03 PM |
| 12 | It was the music choice that got meThe last one... I- this has to be a joke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 07:56 PM |
| 7 | A man "tried" making a birthday cake for his girlfriend. Pickmeishas in the notes going crazy over the "effort". 🙁That is a child's cake. I would only find it endearing if my husband made that for our four year old kid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 05:09 AM |
| 6 | A pick me at my university replying to someone saying they're not comfortable with their partner watching pornSuper freaking feminist to say to another woman that it is "outrageous" and "extremely weird and damaging" to be uncomfortable that their partner watches porn. And then saying that it's wrong and that you shouldn't be together?!? Wtf... next level gaslighting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 05:25 AM |
| 6 | It's not even mainstream it's literally only in porn. Men are constantly being devalued? Then what are women? Sheesh im doneIsn't cuckholding the thing where the man jerks off in the corner while his partner sleeps with another man? That sounds like it's for the male pleasure to me. I have never heard of women enjoying humiliating their partners like that. I mean, I'm sure there are some out there, but I've always heard that it's the men who enjoy it and seek it out. After all, they're the ones getting off from it. Either way, it's far from mainstream! I barely know what it is. This man seems to be stuck in his littl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 05:16 AM |
| 8 | Scrote only has sex if it means his wife is pegging him while watching the kind of porn he likes. She does so begrudgingly. And he refuses to clean up the poop afterward.Disturbing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 11:41 PM |
| 158 | THIS!! I see women on here sometimes arguing with men and posting their “sassy” or “savage” clapbacks, he doesn’t care he just enjoys getting a rise out of you. Bad attention for men is still attention. Block them and pay them no mind.I've learned to be stoic when it comes to men, especially toxic men that I barely know. They cannot decipher between positive or negative attention. To them, it's just attention. Even if you have every right to react emotionally, if you do, you are showing him how much power he has over you. Men know if you didn’t care about them, you wouldn’t be upset and waste time arguing, reprimanding him, or clapping back. A lot of men enjoy getting under your skin and going back and forth. Their egos feed … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 07:36 PM |
| 8 | Please beware of men who treat us like experimental projects... this is so extremeIt’s a reminder that men can be with women for YEARS, yet know that they’ll eventually leave them. They feel no guilt about wasting our time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 10:03 AM |
| 6 | So... This got me thinking lolYes, but only to a HVM that would add value to my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 09:58 AM |
| 29 | Even Lauren Southern’s boyfriend expected her to pay for him. Goes to show that libfem logic is pushed onto women from all sides of the political spectrum. Yes, she was stalked and harassed like the rest of us. But she had been a 🤡 from the beginningTurns out during her peak years on youtube, she was hooking up with a bunch of people behind the scenes while putting on this conservative woman facade. These people masquerading as "traditionalists" don't even believe the own bullshit they spout. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 09:16 AM |
| 1 | The issue isn't buying things for your girl. The issue is that you feel ENTITLED that I buy YOU things BECAUSE you're my girl.My notes from FDS: "One of the most important traits a man wants in a woman is ability to expresses gratitude. Since they are providers and want to build for you, feeling that appreciation is important. Think of gratitude as their love language. Thank him for opening the door for you, for grabbing you lunch, for doing little things. Men need and desire this. If he is adding value to your life, let him know and make him feel that. Make him feel needed and cherished. The most important thing is to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/20 06:43 AM |
| 18 | If it comes to “policing porn” he’s already gone, but “mind control”? The scrotedacity is at an all time highYou see, my boyfriend loves to snort cocaine and gamble. I don't try to control his cocaine use because that would be immature of me. Who am I to determine how he gets his dopamine release? And his gambling problem? It would insecure of me to control what he can and can't experience. I trust him when he says he doesn't have an addiction, even though he can't stop and his behaviours are harming his life, his health, and our relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 01:22 PM |
| 8 | What is the worst suggestion for a date you have ever had?I mean, it was a big house so nice roof but not comfortable. My ass felt like a rock afterwards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 11:54 PM |
| 11 | Hope she drops this pathetic scrote, rooting for the FDS-minded mom"we have great sex" Why? Why do they always insist in adding that in? That's not even related to cleaning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 11:06 PM |
| 236 | What is the worst suggestion for a date you have ever had?Last year, I (21F) had a 24 year old guy ask me to go on a date on his roof. Like... he wanted me to go through his backyard and climb onto his roof because his parents were sleeping and wouldn't let him have any girls over. He also had the audacity to ask me to bring snacks. Yes, I did end up going. And I brought the snacks too, don't ask about it 😔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 05:07 AM |
| 18 | Does following FDS leave you a little guarded in relationships? Or are you open and all in, but still “ready to walk” at a moment’s notice (if he acts up)? Does the balance come naturally with time?To be honest, I’m always ready to walk away in every relationship, even with friends and family. The vetting never stops, in my mind. It’s not like I’m walking around suspicious and not trusting people though. To me, being on your toes just means that when you do spot a red flag or someone gives you a reason to walk away, that you’re willing and prepared to do so. Mentally and emotionally, my bags are always packed. The way I do that is by getting my happiness from a lot of different sources, so… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 02:48 AM |
| 15 | The 2020 pickme hall of shame award goes to you, Nichol Kessinger 😡I knew something was off about her by how she reacted to Chris’ arrest. She was like “I didn’t know this was going to happen” and shrugged. Hello, where are the tears? Where is the shame? Where is the disgust that she was with a married man who literally murdered his family? I expected her to be shocked and physically sick. She seemed fine. I don’t want to blame a woman for a man’s actions though. Society does enough of that. Always making excuses for men. Don’t get me wrong, there’s something w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 02:32 AM |
| 12 | Excuse me, what the actual f*ck?So, in other words, she is living like most men? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 01:58 AM |
| 37 | Your weekly reminder not to ever ask a man outI learned not to chase men in high school, when I told a guy I knew that I thought he was really cute. He told me I was cute too but he just wasn't interested so I thought that was the end of that. We had mutual friends and a couple classes together though, so I continued speaking to him, liking his IG pics, hanging out with our friend group like usual. Months later, I realized he blocked me on social media. I asked one of our mutual friends what was up and she said he told her and our other fri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 09:56 PM |
| 15 | "If she hits you, you better fucking hit her back"This is embarrassing but a guy I had a crush on in high school posted a video on his Instagram story of women hitting men and then getting hit back but 10x harder, with the caption "They want equality until it's time to fight." I was a libfem then, but something in me just felt like that wasn't right. No form of violence is ever okay. However, physically, there is already a power imbalance between men and women. Men have more upper body strength than women. If an average sized woman punches a ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 07:18 PM |
| 35 | FDS Responds to Media Accusations of “Pick Up Artistry”RPW are the ones getting pregnant and doing this and that to try and trick men into marriage. They buy into the same beliefs as red-pill guys and pick up artists, and use tactics to force men into relationships. FDS philosophy is against forcing, tricking, or manipulating men into doing things they don't want to do! What we are about is finding men that want to meet our standards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 07:01 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else not finding a home first date with Mac and cheese fish crackers that cute or HV?If my boyfriend of over a year invited me over for dinner and made this because he saw it online and wanted to try it, I would think it's cute. But that is only because I'm 21 and half the guys I know can barely fry an egg lol. Still though, for one of the first dates, this is a huge no. You shouldn't even be at his place. In economics, macaroni and cheese is considered an inferior good. Inferior goods are goods that when income goes up, their demand goes down. They are primarily consumed by peo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 04:15 PM |
| 30 | Being a pick-me and pandering to men is dangerous.Protecting yourself and others is so gay. Real men catch COVID, spread it to their family members, and die. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 07:33 PM |
| 140 | When men mean when they “tease” you about being “boring” and not “adventurous” enough: car sexI recognize the technique he used, so I'm just going to leave some knowledge here in case it is helpful to you ladies. What this man did is called pre-framing. The way you "frame" (set up) what you say can color someone's emotional understanding and response to it. So pre-framing is essentially a frame you present before (or with) information, so that the information itself is interpreted in relationship to it. This technique is used a lot in sales. For example, say you are wedding dress shoppin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 01:32 PM |
| 58 | How and Where Did You Meet Your HVM?My cousin met her HVM (now they're happily married) at a charity dinner. She actually wasn't feeling well that night and only went because it was a charity thing and the tickets were expensive. It's crazy to think if she stayed home, she wouldn't have met her now-husband. They had mutual acquaintances who introduced them to each other at the dinner. When I look around at the women in my life who are with HVM, they almost always met them through mutual friends, school or university, cocktail or d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 08:01 PM |
| 8 | 7 Warning Signs of LVM TrickeryThank you for sharing! Incredibly insightful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 04:39 PM |
| 12 | Stories like this serve as a harsh reminder of why sticking to FDS is so important. She’s put out already and he’s pretty much already ghosting her, or at the very least slow fading. Unless he’s died, there’s NOT reason for a man to take four days to text you back.Making excuses for a man who can't even be bothered to make excuses for himself is not "rationalizing." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 04:33 PM |
| 6 | RUN RUN RUN RUN RUN 🏃🏼♀️I don't have children, but if I did and they had a crazy psycho father, I would never leave our kids with him and not be present in their lives. The last thing I would do is abandon them. If the mother is sooo "crazy" then why isn't he fighting like hell to see his daughters? Why is he okay leaving them with her? Because she probably isn't that crazy and he just doesn't care. Obvs I think men have the right to know if they have a child, but she probably knew his trash ass wouldn't want to be inv… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 04:22 PM |
| 11 | She’s right, you can’t teach someone to love you or make you a priority. When someone genuinely cares for you, they’ll want to make you a priority and act like itThank you for all the feedback ♡ It is incredibly helpful since I'm still new to FDS. I should probably have mentioned that I'm 21 and the guys I date have had maybe two real girlfriends. So in my mind, I'm always like "Well, how are they supposed to know how to do x?" I suppose it's in my nature to give them the benefit of the doubt, but sometimes they don't deserve it. I definitely appreciate the advice and I'll keep it in mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 09:35 PM |
| 23 | She’s right, you can’t teach someone to love you or make you a priority. When someone genuinely cares for you, they’ll want to make you a priority and act like itVery true that you shoudn't have to train someone and beg them to treat you a certain way. Although I have a question for you ladies about something I've been thinking about a lot lately. What do you think about telling a man or asking him once? And if he is unwilling to do it after you've expressed your standard or set a boundary, then move on? One thing I have noticed is that there are men who are willing to treat women a certain way, but they're just not used to it because there are so many p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 05:47 PM |
| 53 | Siri show me a perfect example of narcissistic gaslightingI don't know anything about Demi Lovato or this guy, but that was so freaking fake and he is clearly basking in all the attention he is getting. So gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 02:45 PM |
| 66 | Another cautionary tale of the dangers of choosing a LVM: they will not hesitate to hurt you to sexually please themselves, even when you might be literally dyingWatch how these LVM present the story and phrase things in a way that makes them look like the victim. The fact that he wants her to get plastic put in her when she is having a mastectomy (!!) just so he can look at bigger breasts is already fucked up. And then he humiliated his wife in front of family?! Fuck this guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 02:40 PM |
| 17 | Watch out for those yogabros ladies ;pI'm pretty spiritual so I've dated a couple of guys like this. My issue with some of them is that they have this idea that you need to accept them the way they are. They think love is acceptance and should be unconditional. If you put conditions and restrictions in place, then you are not honoring them and supporting them on their journey. Basically some of them think you should let them roam free and that it is harmful to have expectations of your partner. They act like they're above labels and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 11:43 AM |
| 36 | I literally got downvoted and told not to kinkshame because i said i never had rape fantasies. (:(:I’m sorry but I just checked out the sub and there are men commenting “you got me really hard” on a post where a woman was sharing a sad story about how she was repeatedly raped by her husband. I sympathize with the women (and the men) who were victims of abuse and have these fantasies, but this is not a legitimate kink. It’s one thing for rape fantasies to be a manifestation of trauma or oppression, and another for it to be normalized and accepted as a kink where men fulfill their desire of rap… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 11:25 AM |
| 95 | HVM Noam Chomsky 👌🏻Whoa, I’m pleasantly surprised that this is his stance on porn... so many leftists that idolize Chomsky are pro-porn so it’s very interesting. I’m shocked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 11:09 AM |
| 15 | The Misogynistic Core of the Anti-Karen SentimentI realized it was rooted in misogyny after seeing men comment "karen" on TikToks of teenage girls speaking about sexual assault. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 07:02 PM |
| 9 | In an ask men post, I came across hundreds of comments in a thread talking shit about FDS, saying no one here has a boyfriend or has ever been near a man, and that women here have only baby daddies and have no jobs. What the heck?Reddit is home to the manosphere. Many of the men who hate on FDS are part of The Red Pill community and see nothing wrong with TRP. TRP is fine and changes mens lives, but FDS is evil and toxic. It just goes to show you how delusional they are. They don't care about reality. They have convinced themselves we're all over 30, overweight, and black (nothing wrong w being those things btw) because they are misogynistic and racist and have determined those things give you a low "sexual market value"… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 05:47 PM |
| 13 | While this advice is well intentioned, it misses how women have to vet men ruthlessly because they are users and abusers. This is what pickmes think when they are chasing a man and being “equal” in the relationship. Don’t fall for it ladies.I am coming from love. I am coming from self-love and protecting my heart which is my responsibility to do since no one else can do that for me. Her advice sounds rational, until you think about how irrational humans beings are. You have to make decisions based off how things actually are in reality, not how you want them to be in your perfect world. In this world, not every man has pure intentions. In fact, most don't, so you can't go on about your life like they do. Also, you're not supposed t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 03:28 PM |
| 7 | Such a cringe-worthy "joke", it's not even funnySo degrading wtf... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 03:15 PM |
| 9 | Of course they only want this (and a bangmaid) 🙄Nope. Men who live like this just come across as lazy and like they can't be bothered to put any effort in decorating their place (or making it liveable lbr). They don't give af about the environment they live in, and have no care for their home in which they reside in and spend so much of their time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 03:13 PM |
| 33 | nothing says traditional more than rocking her box for 10+ years with no ring or kids or a marriage. Sure I'll commit after getting the milk for free for 10 years and then "Maybe" we can get married and start a family. Sooo tradition you people!He plays video games for a living... soo traditional. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 03:06 PM |
| 11 | It's confirmed. Some men are demons.I'm finally understanding what the women here on FDS mean when they say there are men who want to break us. They get off on the process of turning regular women into... that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 06:36 PM |
| 15 | Stay awareA "HVM" can prove himself to be a LVM in seconds. This is why you need to maintain the same full life you had when you were single and be ready to walk away at any moment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 11:31 PM |
| 1 | MANS GOT ME DECEASED🤣🤣🤣Why would we need strategies to weed out LVM if we were "femcels"...? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 02:57 PM |
| 4 | Girl this is not it.If I ever have a son, I'm not going to let his girlfriend do that for him. He is cleaning his own damn room. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 10:03 AM |
| 8 | 😒 Damn, I hope you get pickedI don't want anything from a dude who would ask me for a PS5 except for him to stay the hell away from me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 09:46 AM |
| 31 | 'THIS IS PARIS' Paris Hilton documentary on YouTube...shows how she was manipulated and pressured into filming sex by an older man at 18The way the media reacted and the late night hosts... gross, that was so gross. How can you brag about watching a teenager's sex tape that was leaked without her consent?! Paris was right that it would be a completely different story had the same thing happened today. I'm glad we've come far, but we still have a long way to go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 09:40 AM |
| 2 | God forbid the man has to *gasp* keep a conversation going. Give me a break.Yeah, I'm not taking time out of my day to impress you when there are fifty other men trying to message me. But good luck with that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 05:17 PM |
| 93 | Jesus Christ men are SICK. I know that the op is a sex worker but its still terrifying! What those men are even thinking? Shes literally getting assaulted"nO, bUt guYssee, sEx woRk is eMpOweRing!1!1" Please tell me how working a job that is centered around male pleasure and becoming their fucktoy helps you "connect to your divine feminine." They CLEARLY do not give a fuck about you. Or your comfort. Or your safety. Or your trauma. How have we gotten to the point in our culture where it's super fucking feminist to be disrespected, humiliated, and used for the sexual gratification of men? I want to give this woman a hug. This is just so sad. We nee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 10:50 AM |
| 5 | This girl’s boyfriend is clearly so generous! Is even worried about how much toilet paper she uses 🙄In frat houses at my college, the brothers have designated bathrooms for parties but let their gfs and friends use their own bathrooms upstairs that are a lot cleaner. My ex and his brothers joked that they were going to ban us (the gfs) from the upstairs bathrooms because we used too much toilet paper. One of them said we could only use four squares each time. Seriously. I wish I was joking. What is up with men and toilet paper?? I'm convinced none of them wipe their ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 11:46 AM |
| 13 | Saw this post.....how about you don’t do that?I've had two friends this summer go on "stargazing" dates where the guy got fast food at a drivethru, parked somewhere on a hill, and then they ate in the trunk to watch the stars. Men are getting really creative with these "date ideas" and making it sound all romantic and shit like "let's have dinner under the stars." Hell no. I know there's not many options because of COVID, but that's just a car date with a pretty name. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 04:08 PM |
| 4 | Do you notice a higher concentration of HMV/LMV in certain cities/places?I've lived in a couple of different cities, mainly in the East coast, but I haven't seen a difference. One thing that I have seen though is that there tends to be more HVM in affluent areas. There are plenty of LVM, don't get me wrong, but I think there's probably less per capita. I went to private schools growing up so I know that there are a lot of wealthy people who are intelligent, educated, sensible, and good-natured. I went to school with a lot of gentlemen who were raised well. They were … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 06:39 PM |
| 5 | Saw this on my fb feed this morning. Had a good laugh and thought I’d share.Unlike women who don't obey their man, I don't care about fancy dates. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 06:07 PM |
| 4 | 😒😒😒🙃Utterly delusional. Most of these are just basic things you'd expect in any partner, regardless of gender... being sympathetic, honest, hygienic, a good listener, not forgetting important dates, etc. Maybe, just maybe, if you aren't or don't do these things, you're just a shitty person. Changing a lightbulb once in a while does not make you an electrician. Catching a bug a couple times a year doesn't make you an exterminator. And some of these things... a master? a gynaecologist? a psychiatrist?… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 02:45 PM |
| 86 | this one’s been making the rounds on facebook... 🤦♀️Looked up the book. It's red pill garbage. The first sentence on google is "American society has become anti-male." Yeah, nope. No. This anti-feminist Helen Smith woman even has a "What Gamers Are Saying About Marriage" section in her book. Like who wants to know??? 😂It is about men who are both video gamers and PUAs and rant about hypergamy and being alphas. Stay away from anyone who shares this on FB. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 10:36 PM |
| 34 | TRP TACTICS: "Destroy Her Ego." Watch out for these 🚩s! 🗣️I had a feeling that the guy I'm talking to was using red pill tactics on me, so I decided to do a little digging. I fell down the rabbit hole and came across this gem. I apologize if it raises your blood pressure like it did mine. I debated sharing because I don't want more men to find out about this guy, but I figured it is important for more women to know if these tactics are being used on them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 05:16 PM |
| 19 | Strategy UpgradeSo grateful I found this sub at 21. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 02:29 PM |
| 2 | Pickmeshia Tomi Lauren being called out. Thoughts?I do not like Tomi at all, but putting politics aside, I understand her frustration here. I feel like most of us have been there. I don't agree with the two guys. They are excusing men's behavior with their "women do it just as much" and "you're just focusing on bad experiences." However, what they said did affirm FDS principles: If a man isn't pursuing you, he doesn't like you. If he doesn't plan a date, he doesn't like you. If he's not consistent, he doesn't like you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 03:27 PM |
| 2 | Ladies, stop devaluing yourselves and shying away from proper dinner dates! A nice restaurant is not intimidating, a dinner date is not too much pressure, and if you really feel you don't want to eat a meal with someone, you shouldn't be accepting a date with him in the first place!To the other newbies, don't forget that if you've never met someone in person before, you should talk to them on the phone and facetime them. This way you can hear his voice, see what it's like to be face-to-face, and gage the chemistry between you two. If you don't know whether you're interested or comfortable going on a proper date with this guy after calling and facetiming him, it's best to not go out with him at all. Talking to someone over the phone is a much safer and faster way to vet the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 02:22 PM |
| 10 | Hurt Lockers (Why we get fixated on certain men)Yep, I 100% agree with her analysis on that. It's scary accurate. My hurt locker sounds just like yours. The guy I had a crush on all throughout high school was my hurt locker. We hung out with the same crowd. I was a cheerleader, he was a football player, but he was so much better than me in every way. He was the quarterback, I was a random base in the back. He was an honor student, I got As and Bs. He was the most popular guy in school, I was in the "in" crowd but not hot shit. He got into to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 01:19 PM |
| 10 | This is a great argument against BDSM, rape fantasies, and other kinks. It’s the same reason why we shouldn’t be okay with pedos saying “it’s just a fantasy, I don’t mean any harm”I disagree with the "reddit loves hating on pedophiles" portion, but I do agree that there is a comparison to be made between BDSM, rape, and pedophilia. Any fantasy that is violent and harms another human being is dangerous and should not be normalized. The more you normalize having this desire or act it out with another "consenting" adult, the more you will be addicted and obsessed. The more you will be consumed by it and tempted to give in. It will slowly progress into wanting to try "the rea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 11:35 AM |
| 23 | Thoughts?I don't necessarily disagree with anything he said, but the way he communicates things is quite harsh. "To him, you're Pussy." I can already imagine men going, "Pussy is coming over" and "Pussy is mad at me" like my name is actually Pussy. I don't know if it's the language he uses, or just the reminder that a lot of men simply do see us as walking vaginas. I mean... it's sobering, but it's hard to hear. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 09:26 PM |
| 15 | My ex collage!"anything above cheap diners/sports bar is snobby" Oh my god. Yes. My ex boyfriend would tell me I was stuck-up, pretentious, a snob etc. if I wanted to go anywhere that didn't have a kid's menu or a television. He made me feel really ashamed. Dude was in a fraternity, studied business, spent hundreds of dollars on booze every week and wanted to play the "that is so bourgeois" card with me. And I fell for it. 🤦🏼♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 08:49 PM |
| 4 | OLD strategy for unacceptable datesIs there a list anywhere of acceptable dates other than dinner? I think most of us know not to go on coffee, drinks, car dates etc at this point, so it would be really useful if we we had a list of date ideas that are acceptable and FDS-approved. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 07:06 PM |
| 15 | Broke PickMe proves to her multi-millionaire boyfriend that "she's not like other girls" by spoiling him with gifts and not asking him for anything. Then when she ask for help with her $1000 rent he says NO.There is a big difference between $20,000 and $1,000. He is going to use that "ex gf" excuse forever to be selfish and stingy with women. Don't buy a man expensive gifts. I don't care if it's Christmas. Get him a thoughtful, homemade gift. Don't spend money on things you don't have to please men, especially one who can buy what he wants for himself anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 11:56 AM |
| 9 | Meredith Grey, the OG PickMe 😂Wow, that was embarrassing. Women declaring their love and begging to be picked should not be romanticized. They almost always end up with the guy in the end of the story, but that's not how it works in real life! We're teaching young girls to give their heart to men who don't care about them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 11:44 AM |
| 36 | Ladies don’t ever support a man through med school/law school, etc. Came across this Reel and you should see all the pickmes in the comments. I wonder if she will be making these same reels in 10 years when he leaves her for a younger woman ☹️What I would like to know is how many men today are willing to financially support their partners for seven years.... not many. Sis is not crushing gender stereotypes, she was finessed. 😴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 12:58 PM |
| 10 | It workedA few tips... 1) He should check in with you to see you if the date is still happening, not the other way around. 2) Don't cancel plans for him, and definitely do not tell him if you do. You just let him know that he is pretty high on your priority list. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 12:45 PM |
| 6 | Woman has reasonably solution, comments are full of "NoOoOo! It'S nOt NoRmAl FoR a WoMaN tO hAvE hEr OwN rOoM iN a ReLaTiOnShIp!!!1!1!!11 That'S nOt HeAlThY!1!!!“Pretty interesting to see the difference of opinion here. Growing up, my dad worked as a consultant and used to travel a lot for work. He would wake up around 3-4 AM once or twice a week, or arrive home at those hours. He tried to be as quiet as possible and never turned on the lights, but I'm pretty sure my mom would wake up sometimes. My bedroom was next to the kitchen, so if I was still awake, I'd often hear him heat up food and make coffee. Never bothered me. Never complained. Never even tho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 07:33 PM |
| 12 | "Am I am asshole for wanting a big beautiful ring, being promised it, expecting it and being disappointed when he backs out on it?" when he backs outNow we're going 50/50 on engagement rings?? 🤦🏼♀️ It's one thing if a man can't afford a very expensive ring (2k is not even THAT expensive), it's a different thing if he CAN but just doesn't want to. He sounds selfish and stingy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 09:46 AM |
| 6 | Q4All: What are men responsible for that women aren't?Not much. Men have like five struggles they nonstop complain about. Don't get me wrong, they are terrible when they happen but they don't affect most men. It's the same thing over and over: false accusations, domestic abuse, child custody, woman serve less time in jail, men go to war... Literally almost every single thing listed here can be trace back to misogyny: 1) False accusations. They are extremely rare, most abusers don't even see the inside of a court, much less a prison cell. The minori… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/20 07:35 PM |
| 3 | Im fed up of my mom asking me to wear a bra at home!!You're not alone. A lot of moms are like that. I felt ashamed and embarrassed of my own body whenever my mom would tell me to put on a bra. Now that I'm not living there anymore, I feel so free because I can do whatever I want. Unfortunately, I have no other advice than moving out as soon as you can. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 01:03 PM |
| 104 | With one hand they will type "rape accusations destroy men's lives" and with the other they will be jacking off to revenge porn.My friends laugh when I tell them I'll never take a picture that I wouldn't mind posting myself on Instagram, or having it in a billboard on Times Square for the entire world to see. They send nudes like they're "good morning" texts and I'm afraid for them. Obviously if a man leaks your photos, it is not your fault, but once they're out there... they're out there. You're going to have to suffer the consequences of that regardless of who's fault it is. It is much better to just be safe and avoid … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 10:52 AM |
| 5 | This thread made me realize how much I have been groomed. I remember this man called «Batmanforever» that wanted to meet me when I was 13 years old. He told me he was 25. Its heartbreaking to read.I was 12 in 2010-11 when Omegle was just becoming a thing and it was a weekly activity for my friends and I. We would have a sleepover nearly every weekend and go on there. Back then about 90% of people were fully-clothed, normal human beings. But the other 10% were creepy old men or guys jacking off. We would flip them off and make fun of them. We would lie and say we were 14, and not ONE man (probably out of like a hundred) stopped talking to us. In fact, they liked that we were so young. None… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 07:00 PM |
| 21 | For a 37 year old scrote who claims to be having the time of his life sexually, he sure devotes a lot of time to writing about us on his blog. 🧐 (6 total screenshots)"Pretty women don't need strategies." Oh, sweetie. Tell that to my sorority sisters. Half of them keep getting into situationships with guys who waste their time and don't give af about them. The other half are in relationships with toxic guys who cheat on them and drive them crazy. There are maybe 6 girls in my chapter of over 100 that are in happy and healthy LTRs. It does not matter how "beautiful, feminine, and young" you are. Men will use you, abuse you, and dump you if you don't know what … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 02:40 PM |
| 7 | Anyone tried this?I get what you're saying. I use contacts but I do have glasses and wear a retainer to bed. I don't think it makes me unattractive. It's just the way she phrased it made it sound odd. I've seen some women saying you should purposefully make yourself uglier and I just personally think that can backfire. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 10:40 AM |
| 29 | Anyone tried this?Don't know how I feel about this. Only because I've seen men who have high-paying jobs say they lie about where they work to weed out gold-diggers. There was even someone on reddit who said his friend (who got rich off tech) says he works at Starbucks to women he meets. It just... doesn't make sense to me. Just because you'd like your partner to be attractive or have a good job doesn't mean it's the only reason you're with them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 08:26 AM |
| 7 | Any ladies that dont drink, smoke or do drugs?Drinking and smoking are vices. No HVM would complain about a woman not drinking or smoking. So many of them would commend you and respect you even more. I'll have wine if I'm at a fancy dinner or a cocktail with my girlfriends on a night out, but I do subscribe to the belief that people who drink and smoke regularly are trying to numb themselves. They're looking for an escape and a distraction, which leads me to believe they're unhappy with their lives. Who would purposefully go out of their wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 04:56 PM |
| 97 | #NoTtaLlmEn!! #YesALLMen #RECEIPTS 🤷🏿♀️It's like if 1 out of 5 berries are poisonous. It does not matter if a lot, or even the majority, of berries are safe to eat. If you pick the wrong berry, you die. We have to assume all berries are poisonous for our own safety. You have to generalize, inspect it closely, and then consume it. It is a tool of survival. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 03:22 PM |
| 45 | Guys avoid the “date” word to avoid accountability for their intentions. Pay attention to these clues.What do you do when he uses one of those terms? I’m 21 so that’s the lingo these days. Should I straight up say, “Are you asking me out on a date?” Edit: Or maybe saying “as friends? Or like a date?” 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 08:44 PM |
| 129 | "how to talk to a woman who is wearing headphones" - don't[ Most likely laughing, smiling and enjoying the interaction]. 😐 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 11:08 AM |
| 22 | Why do we get SO much hate for not wanting to move in with a man??One month? Get out of here. I 100% support only moving in when you're engaged. That way you can still live with them for a bit before marriage if you want to so you can really vet this person and make sure you're compatible, but are not trapped into "playing wifey" forever. I think a lot of us have seen how damaging it is to live with someone before any sort of real long-term commitment and future wedding plans. It may be seen as "traditional" point of view, but I think that if you're living tog… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 07:43 PM |
| 3 | Notice the Way His Dog BehavesMy sister's LV ex had four dogs, these huge mixed-breed dogs, and they were very aggressive. Dude turned out to be a total psychopath. I'm pretty sure he beat his dogs. Obviously dogs need discipline, but anyone who hits or yells at their dog for doing little things is an automatic red flag for me. It's a sign they have zero patience. If he takes his anger out on his dog, why wouldn't he eventually take it out on you? If he hits his dog, why wouldn't he eventually hit you? I also met a guy once … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 03:01 PM |
| 14 | OBESE PRE DIABETIC SCROTE WITH ED DEMANDS QWEEN GET BUTT LIFT SURGERYReminds me of something that happened to one of my best friends. She told me that her bf (who also happened to be slightly chubby, funny enough) kept "joking" about her boobs. Saying things like, "I don't mind when you don't go out without a bra because you can't see anything. If you had boobs, then it'd bother me" and joked that she was "representing the itty bitty titty committee." It made her so insecure, she went and got a breast augmentation. A year or so after that, she told me that they w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 09:36 AM |
| 3 | Ladies, for the love of God, please don’t move far away from your loved ones just to be closer to your husband’s family.This is so interesting, and I feel like it's good advice. My cousin is married to a HVM who didn't leave his city because he worked a high-paying job and she lived in a smaller town. He has no family in his city either, but he offered to relocate her retired parents. He offered to let them stay at one of the houses he owned just outside the city. I remember thinking... I don't know. They're going to be living under HIS roof? In a house HE paid for? 🤔My aunt and uncle declined, but my cousin did … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 07:18 AM |
| 16 | Woman wonders why FWB doesn’t care about foreplay. She’s so close to getting it, as well. 🤦🏾♀️I don't think lube should be used at all unless you're with your partner and that's what you choose to do. The fact that he doesn't even try at all is the most frustrating part. If a woman is not aroused, you shouldn't just put lube and jam it up in there with no attempt to turn her on. That is not pleasurable. If a man is not aroused, you wouldn't try to stick it in and make him have sex anyway, right? For a FWB situation, why would anyone tolerate a man who does not even care if they're turned… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 04:57 PM |
| 1 | Should lying to get sex be illegal? Which gender would get in trouble more?Just because something is unethical, it doesn't mean it should be illegal. Maybe if a serious STD was involved and was knowingly given to someone. Both genders lie about silly things involving sex. I'd say men probably lie more, but I don't sleep with women so I don't know what kind of lies they'd be telling. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/20 03:17 PM |
| 0 | Are we on the verge of a Thot Market Crash?It will absolutely crash eventually.... the question is how many women will become millionaires until then. The only reason I don't mind OF is because I think free online porn should seize to exist. It hurts everyone. Children have access to it. Young people are developing porn addictions. The workers are not being properly compensated and at times are abused. It should absolutely be 18+ and behind a paywall. Even if it like $1 a month, no kid is going to put their parents' credit card info in O… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/20 06:45 AM |
| 3 | Roommate “lost a date” when she offered to split the check and he agreedI'm not going to argue with a man about the check. If he doesn't pay for me on the first date, I'm simply never seeing him again. We are just different people looking for different things. I should be with a man who's views align with mine and he should be with a woman who's views align with his. I always offer because it's the polite thing to do, but I expect him to pay on the first date. I heard someone say once (Matthew Hussey I think?) "If she doesn't offer to pay, she wasn't raised right. I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/20 08:07 AM |
| 3 | Do you ever feel like no one understands your standards?In my personal opinion (I tend to be a private person), your family and friends shouldn't know what your standards are in the first place. My family, love, and social life are in separate, neat little corners and seldom intersect. I don't tell my friends and family anything about the guy I'm dating until we're official, but even then I only talk about him freely with my three best friends. They're pretty understanding after I explain the logic behind my thinking. Aside from them, I don't want pe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 01:02 PM |
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