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Yeah another one was asking if you’d ever tried to have sex with a stranger. Hell yeah I have, that doesn’t mean I wouldn’t take no for the answer Another was asking if you’d ever had a female friend try to help talk you up. What’s the problem with a wing woman?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/07/26 05:11 PM
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What would you define as “constantly” here? Because as someone with ADHD and OCD, setting boundaries on frequency of a behavior can be difficult to me (I tend to get really obsessed with stuff and repeat the ever living shit out of it)
/r/ExRedPill31/03/26 11:28 PM
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Yeah, I was just thinking I could refine the behavior. Get better at reading whether someone wants to be approached or not. Selecting better locations for it. Only approaching women I genuinely have a high level of intrigue about, not just because I'm bored and need dopamine. Basically shift from this spamming approach strategy to just picking good spots for it.
/r/ExRedPill31/03/26 04:02 PM
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I feel awkward bringing it up, but I’m definitely considering it
/r/ExRedPill31/03/26 02:38 AM
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Appreciate the response! Yeah it fucking sucks. Thankfully I am on a stimulant for my adhd and in therapy. I’m also seeing an OCD specialist outside of therapy and treated with an SSRI. I’m seeing a dietician and using a GLP-1 and considering adding in a personal trainer if I can afford it. I use a CPAP machine that has really turned my life around from apnea. I think part of my issue rn is I’m not feeling very motivated to change, because I genuinely enjoy my life (all my friends, my concerts, …
/r/ExRedPill31/03/26 12:38 AM
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I get so much mixed feedback on this style of meeting women. Some people think it’s impressive and brave. Others think it’s a little creepy and desperate. I feel like maybe there’s so middle ground I could find where I do this on occasion, but focus on selecting spots where it seems the most appropriate and likely to work?? Heard on the weight loss point. I think I finally understand that after a half decade of being mad at the scale. I know that will impact all other areas of my life positively…
/r/ExRedPill31/03/26 12:34 AM
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Definitely more on the long-term relationship/life partner hunt than just trying to hookup, but I understand how my manor of approach could give off the latter. I’m also open to casual things, but would definitely prefer a relationship. I do feel like I’m a really emotionally vulnerable person who thrives on depth in conversation, and that even in short initial interactions with girls I think I get to that place and don’t feign bravado.
/r/ExRedPill31/03/26 12:32 AM
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Dating outcomes are just extremely random because they involve 2 people and millions of little circumstances that are unpredictable.
/r/ExRedPill24/03/26 10:40 AM
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I don’t know because it’s such an inconsequential part of the interaction that I don’t remember it. I can remember lots of times people have taken their headphones off to talk to me, then put them back in moments after responding to me, and I took the hint. Point I’m trying to make is that you shouldn’t just assume because someone is doing XYZ activity that they’re completely closed off from interaction. I’m sure in some extreme cases there will be things like this, but in the vast majority of c…
/r/ExRedPill08/03/26 06:39 AM
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I’m good enough at social skills to not make an assumption that just because someone is wearing headphones means they are closed off to the outside world. I personally have headphones on 90% of the time in public… because I love music and want to listen to it every chance I get. If someone… anyone really… said something to me, I’d take them off and engage.
/r/ExRedPill08/03/26 04:54 AM
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We’re both in line for carry out, we’re both reading a book at a public park, we’re studying next to each other in the conversational section of a library, etc…
/r/ExRedPill08/03/26 03:49 AM
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If you don’t start speaking… how do they know you wanted to talk to them in the first place? I’m just saying don’t self reject yourself because someone has headphones. I’ve talked to plenty of people with headphones on, and it’s always incredibly easy to gauge if they want to continue talking to you. The ones who do keep the headphones off, the ones who don’t put them back on quickly after your initial conversation starter.
/r/ExRedPill08/03/26 03:47 AM
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Ok, that’s your opinion. My perspective is I’m wearing headphones 95% of the time because I love music and want to be listening to it. If an interesting convo presented itself to me, I’d gladly take them off for it. There are a million other ways you can read whether someone is interested in continuing to converse with you other than if they have headphones in.
/r/ExRedPill08/03/26 03:46 AM
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I’d disagree on not approaching people with headphones on. Most people are just with headphones on because they enjoy listening to music/podcasts, not because they want to shut themselves completely off to interaction.
/r/ExRedPill07/03/26 09:16 PM
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That is why I put it in quotes. Idea of the post was to try to attack the root of the risk aversion.
/r/ExRedPill30/12/25 09:51 PM
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Who said it’s about sex and casual encounters? I’m looking for a long-term relationship ideally, though I wouldn’t necessarily say no to something more casual if that’s the vibe.
/r/ExRedPill29/12/25 05:07 PM
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More like "a broke clock is right twice a day"
/r/ExRedPill27/12/25 03:38 PM
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Generally just very normal conversations that started out with a small compliment like “I like your dress.” Doesn’t really matter that much what you’re saying
/r/ExRedPill27/12/25 03:57 AM
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starting a GLP-1 medication this week and trying to pair it with 3x in the gym weekly i have a fairly large friend group - most of them are partnered though. I try online dating and get about 1 date every 6 months from it. I do find I have my best results at concerts, which I go to a lot. Need to work on that confidence, though it has been increasing lately. I am very funny and easygoing once people get to know me, but that first impression can be a struggle. I do this 9 times out of 10. Am in t…
/r/ExRedPill25/12/25 07:13 PM
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FWIW it’s not my only dating strategy. I’m on apps, attending social events, and hanging out with my friend group that’s pretty large.
/r/ExRedPill25/12/25 05:43 PM
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I mean this is essentially the same point I'm trying to make phrased better. My point was just because bad sources (the red pill) suggest & rebrand a behavior (cold approach) and fuse a bunch of toxic ideas into it, doesn't mean the underlying idea (going up to women in real life in a respectful manor) is something that should be avoided. I feel like I see a lot of men (on Reddit especially), especially those who are attempting to find empathy after walking a path of hate, avoiding this behavior…
/r/ExRedPill25/12/25 05:17 PM
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The reason is I made this post is I find that lot of men on a journey towards empathy (the type who'd be "ex-red pill") overcorrect when it comes to dating. They become afraid that it's inappropriate to ever talk to women in public and rely only on dating apps for dating. Just trying to offer a counterpoint that this type of "cold approach" idea that exists in manosphere spaces isn't inherently bad.
/r/ExRedPill25/12/25 05:11 PM
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Regarding your first point: there are definitely people, especially on Reddit, that say never go up and talk to women you don't know in public. I feel like I'm at least giving myself a chance this way. Sitting around and complaining about being single does nothing to move the needle. At least I am out here trying and getting some dates rather than wallowing in singleness. And landed a relationship isn't the only goal. I've made several platonic friends, built stronger social skills, learned how …
/r/ExRedPill25/12/25 05:07 PM
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I just gave several tangible examples of how I got dates from this.
/r/ExRedPill25/12/25 05:06 PM
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Depends on the creator. All the mystery method, “negging”, and “demonstrating value” bullshit I see is trash now. But there are some creators out there that focus on encouraging guys to put themselves out there with women by going up and starting a conversation with them and being authentic, and those ones I still take value from. I think a lot of guys on this sub may overcorrect from their days in the RP and stop considering “approaching women” entirely, and I think that’s a mistake. Learning t…
/r/ExRedPill24/11/25 01:40 AM
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A lot of the ones who frown on it are minorities who feel entitled to women of their own culture and are upset that they’re dating white dudes instead.
/r/ExRedPill28/07/25 09:07 PM
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Years and years of getting no dating success despite feeling like you’re trying extremely hard really does a lot of bad things to the brain. Red pill preaches a lot of easy to swallow copes as to why people are failing, which is an easy outlet for that frustration.
/r/ExRedPill05/07/25 01:58 AM
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I think it’s a false premise that all men who struggle with dating are vile bigots with far right wing views. Generalizations like this only serve to make it easier to radicalize people who are struggling. I’m on the left, aim to be respectful to all, and haven’t had a girlfriend since 2019, despite trying. So on paper, I’m an incel. the reason finding a relationship is of utmost importance to men in these situations varies. For many I think it’s because they’ve been conditioned by society to on…
/r/ExRedPill20/04/25 08:30 PM
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"Let’s say that they are right and most women only want to date tall, rich men who look like gym rats (see the “666 rule”). So what? Who cares? Assuming you want a relationship, you don’t have to attract the majority of women. You only have to attract one. So why not ignore the picky women, and focus your energy on the ones who can look past your height and looks?" Because if this WAS true, then there simply wouldn't be enough remaining women to get into relationships with the 95%+ of men who ar…
/r/ExRedPill08/04/25 02:44 PM
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I think you're taking the expression "make her feel" too literally. What I mean is that's the sort of feeling you want to be inspiring through your actions, not forcing someone to feel an emotion.
/r/ExRedPill17/03/25 04:28 PM
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Basically I just mean have a life outside of the relationship. Rather than trying to convince a woman to date you, instead try to figure out if you even want to date her to in the first place. Make her feel like you’re not just dating her because you desperate and she’s the first person who said yes, rather because you genuinely like certain traits about her beyond her looks that make you want to commit to her. Set boundaries, have some alone time, and don’t get complacent. Be emotionally availa…
/r/ExRedPill14/03/25 11:11 AM
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In general, it’s not that they like bad boys. They like guys who don’t make it too easy for them to earn their commitment. The guy who is a bit aloof and not hitting her up everyday tends to be more attractive than the guy who caters to her every whim.
/r/ExRedPill14/03/25 03:24 AM
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I don’t think all of them are like. It doesn’t take a sexist pig to have issues with life in some Western countries. If we take a look at at America, a prime country these guys are coming from, it’s pretty reasonable for people to be burnt out on the way society is falling apart. To deal with all the problems of having poor access to healthcare, runaway inflation, declining social freedom, etc… and on top of that being faced with what most agree is an extremely difficult dating environment… it m…
/r/ExRedPill03/03/25 03:44 AM
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Very anecdotal from my experiences, but I’ve found that I often get less interest from a overweight women than I do fit women (and that’s as an overweight guy). I think my chubbiness reminds them of their own. I’d say just keep shooting your shot with women you’re genuinely attracted to, because overweight women aren’t so desperate for options (honestly a shitload of dudes prefer thick women) that they’d want a pity fuck from someone not attracted to them.
/r/ExRedPill01/03/25 04:07 PM
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Oh there are absolutely ways the average male’s expectations need to adjust to modern standards.
/r/ExRedPill17/02/25 02:09 AM
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I don't think it's necessarily wrong on the individual level. I do think as a society, with the exception of outlier successes like CEOs, young women are by far more successful than young men, and if having someone making more income than you is a dealbreaker, a lot of people (men & women) are going to wind up single.
/r/ExRedPill16/02/25 06:56 PM
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I think it’s quite hyperbolized. However, there is some grain of truth to the sentiment that on average women’s relative expectations for men haven’t adjusted downwards to reflect their newfound higher status in society. More women graduate college than men these days, yet the expectation that the male partner will make more money is still very prevalent. Besides exaggerating it, the issue with the red pill’s take is that it tries to cast women as a monolith where 100% of them act the same way. …
/r/ExRedPill16/02/25 01:49 PM
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Nah OP, don’t go down the slippery slope of tying your self worth too much into accomplishments. Work on valuing yourself more and seeing the positive in the small things. It’s a bit counterintuitive, but it leads to more long term success than just using negative feelings about yourself as your only fuel for growth.
/r/ExRedPill04/09/24 09:14 PM
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Journaling on a daily basis, with prompts such as: “What 3 things am I proud of myself for?” “What 3 small things coming up in life am I excited about?” “Say some things positive about yourself:” “What’s the best decision I made today?” Does wonders for how you see yourself and doesn’t really take that long to have an impact
/r/ExRedPill04/09/24 09:11 PM
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