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Health Successful competition last week. Purposefully vague as to not dox myself. Several months of prep, put my body through hell. This has been a goal for the past 10 years. Now that its done, I want to find another challenge to work toward. Learned a lot about myself and did well. I'm proud of myself. My body is is pretty beat up right now. Need to take the time to recover a bit. Lifting is a non negotiable, so I'll keep doing that. Will work in more stretching and PT on off days. Business Lo…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/20 08:10 PM
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I listened to the discussion. I appreciate the discussion. Lots of fair point. Very valid input on the performance problem. Definitely looking to get validation. Good advice to do what I want. Appreciate the discussion on the COVID stuff. I'm going to digest it and move forward less fucks given and more of a boundary. Clarification on "plant medicine". Not weed. DMT or mushrooms. But beside the point of the larger advice to get over the childhood bullshit. Easier said than done, subconscious iss…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/20 03:39 AM
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Generally, one of her friends had her cell phone out on campus, they aren't supposed to use them during school. My daughter joined in making a harmless video. Teachers caught wind of it. All the girls who were in the video got detention. My daughter knew better. Her cell use has been restricted as a consequence. Thanks for the heads up on the video. I will check it out.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/20 05:36 AM
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Super busy week for me. Health BJJ and lifting hard last week. Hit a bit of a wall over the weekend. My body was sore and broken down. Made concious decision to recuperate a bit before my event the end of this week. Saw chiropractor yesterday. Did cryo and got a shot of toradol today. Will hit BJJ tonight, see how things feel. If soreness reduces, I think I'm ready physically and mentally. Also glad event will be over this weekend. The prep has been intense. Its taken a lot of time and a toll on…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/20 10:27 PM
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I posted in OYS religiously for at least 2 years probably 3. My last OYS was early March 2020. u/SBIII made a comment on that post that my flair ( 2 years and still can't figure out how to kick ass ) nailed it and followed up by pointing out that my weekly updates are like groundhog day. Same basic shit every week. It was a valid point, and my posts truly weren't inciting much growth and had become basic reports check a box off my weekly task list not to gain or share insights. I decided to take…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 05:10 PM
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Point taken. Might be more my poor writing skills or the fact that I've been writing an OYS weekly for a couple years now. I don't really have weekly issues to get feedback on. Maybe it's because I've hit a status quo. I need to commit to OYS submissions or skip them. They have been half ass lately.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/20 08:03 PM
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Can you expand on this for me? I'm sure it's accurate, but I'm not sure how or what to change.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/20 01:48 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge B+ this week in kicking ass. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 250 BF: 14% Hit gym, xfit, bjj and yoga. Lots of exercise. Body still sore. Seems like that is a constant. Trying to get in more yoga to help with this. Eating pretty healthy. Lost about 5 pounds over the past week. More a product of previous shitty eating than any great effort on my part. Finances -Goal: Year salary in relatively liquid cash and i…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 09:59 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge I kicked life in the ass last week. I went on a guys trip and did some really fun stuff. I did some map and goal planning and clarified my mission. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 250 BF: 14% My arm is jacked up. It has been a lingering issue since I didn't tap quick enough to an armbar a few months ago. I acerbated it this week. It will heal, but its currently painful. My diet was a bit off track while I wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/20 02:19 PM
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Good question. I'm sure I sound like a boring nob. For myself, I work out and do bjj for fun. In my relationship, I'm funny, I mess around, give my wife shit. For sure, my kids see me as the fun parent. However on our "date night" last weekend, I was boring. She scheduled bsitter. She planned dinner reservation, because of a charity event. We got done early and couldn't think of anything to do. I should have led, but wasn't in to it. We ended up going to a bar and having another drink, then goin…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/20 07:47 AM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge I'm not really enjoying life, so I don't believe I am kicking life in the ass. Seems like I'm surviving vs. making shit happen and having fun. There is some deeply rooted angst in me and I need to kill it. Not sure how. My life is objectively awesome. I want to enjoy it. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 240 BF: 14% Traveling again this week. Got in solid workouts while home for the past week. Diet was shit, b…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/20 02:22 PM
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Couple days late. Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge I'd give myself a B+ this past week. Had a lot of fun met some new people, led my family on an adventure. I'm finally feeling better. But I'm still in my wife's frame too much. Worried about her emotions. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 240 BF: 14% Was traveling. Ate like shit, drank way more than usual. But had a good time. Finally got rid of the cold and flu that I've been fighting for 1.…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/20 01:37 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge Health is better. Life keeps coming at me with curve balls. I haven't curled up in a ball yet... Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 240 BF: 14% Ate healthy this week and made it back to the gym. Down 15 pounds since 1/1. Traveling for the next week. Need to keep on top of food intake. Make sure to get excercise in. Not 100% yet, but much better than I was health wise last week. Finances -Goal: Year salary in re…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 06:56 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge I've been miserable this week. I can't get rid of this cold. Definitely didn't kick life in the ass. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 14% Last week, I thought I was feeling better. Went to BJJ and xfit. Got knocked back on my ass with the same or new flu. Right now, I'm trying to get heathly. Everything else is on hold. Finances -Goal: Year salary in relatively liquid cash and investments along with r…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 09:58 PM
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Good comment. You connected a couple things for me. I have a business mentor. He asked me last week if I could find an example of where I haven't showed up for a big meeting or project and crushed it. I can't. But yet I have constant negative talk in my head about these things. His advice, own it. I am that guy. Same thing here. I am a guy whose wife overtly initiates, and random women approach. Be that guy. Own it. Now to drill that in to my head. I've been faking it till I make it for too long…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/20 02:21 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge Came to realization that I need to be proactive. Basic stuff I know, but I get off track. Plan day, week, month ahead, as well as revisit quarterly, yearly 5 and 10 year goals. Actively pursue those goals. It isn't that hard to do, but its harder than ignoring things and sitting on my ass. ​ Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 14% Finally feeling better. That cold was a bitch. Working out hard again. Sle…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 11:21 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge I have been feeling like a victim. I don't like that. I'm going to revisit my map, and adjust work, life priorities to make that happen. Too much reaction, not enough proactive movement. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 14% Still not 100%, but fuck it. I'm sick of being sick. I'm going back to the gym. I can't be contagious at this point, so I'm going to hit BJJ. Can't wait. Been eating extra healthy …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 10:11 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge Curve balls keep coming, from one emergency to the next. I believe I am showing up well, but internally its a struggle to hold it together. If some pressure doesn't release soon, I my melt down. For now, I'm good. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 14% From hurt back, to the flu. Felt like shit for the past 4 days. I believe I'm on the upswing. I'm gonna skip bjj tonight cause I'm still sick. This is my…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 05:51 PM
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I had to digest this for a bit. You are absolutely correct. I've been passive aggressive in trying to get her to lead. The mind fuck was that I verbally told her what I need her to do multiple times. I wrongly believed that was not passive. It was. After analysis, I know she probably won't step up. If she does, I would have poked holes in what she did, then "saved" it and been resentful the whole time. Better option, lead and deligate specific tasks. Paint the vision. New kitchen will be great, …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/20 05:02 PM
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This is a definite possibility. She could end up painting the house Pink or some other shitty design decision that I won't be cool with. In the end, I'll set the budget and manage the contractors. Set expectations that she has decision authority in some places and others I'll shave final say. I am mainly trying to get her to invest in the project, not interact as an observer I'm trying to please. She needs to be doing some legwork to please me with the end result.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 09:45 PM
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I would like the remodel done. I'm just to busy to lead it right now. I don't see how I'm a beta faggot for trying to lead her to get it done. Maybe I'm crazy and awalt. Women can't lead a project. But she has an advanced degree, runs a business. I don't think it's impossible. I want her to invest some time. Not just dump ideas on me then complain. I've been up front about that.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 09:40 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge Good week. Couple curve balls came at me. I handled them in a way that I'm proud of. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 14% BJJ was closed this week. Did make it to Xfit 3 times. Put on a couple LBs over the holidays, but not too bad. I'm looking forward to the new year push. I need to get back on track diet wise and back in the dojo. I'm healthier now than I was a year ago, and I expect to be healthier…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 06:07 PM
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Late edition to this weeks OYS thread. I've probably missed one in the past 2.5 years. Merry Ho Ho. Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge Kicked life in the ass a bit this week. Multiple school xmas events for kids, busy week at work, company holiday party, Christmas logistics. Did it all. Less stress, minimal arguments, probably best Christmas ever. I was actually able to enjoy it. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 14% Missed last week of…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/19 05:07 AM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge Very busy. Kids, work, holidays. Trying to enjoy it, but will be glad when we are in the new year. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 14% Tweaked my neck bad last week. Probably in sparring, fighting a guillotine. No sudden anything, but the next day I couldn't look up or to the right. Its been painful and hard to sleep the last couple nights. I'm seeing my chiro tomorrow. I have not been able to lift o…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 10:51 PM
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The "I'll be up soon". In the moment she meant it. But then Instagram sucked her in and I was less important. My butt hurt is much less. In the past would have pouted or verbalized my frustration. At least I STFU, read and went to sleep. The day before, I initiated from my office, came home for a nooner, then went back to work. I can handle rejection much better when I get some threshold of desire met. But I haven't killed my validation needs yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/19 03:09 AM
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True.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/19 02:17 AM
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I wasn't subtle. I've picked up before. This wasn't the time for that. It was a rejection, and I'll be up in a few which turned in to an hour later.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/19 02:17 AM
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I'm busy today and at BJj tonight. So not Nick attention going her way in the near term. I think it's a combo of lack of dread and not having visible abs.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 09:06 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge Good to be back to normal schedule this week. The holidays a busy, and I don't like all the BS that goes on. I need to lead the family through them and minimize the stress and over commitments that tend to happen. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 14% I'm a bit frustrated with my health efforts. I'm ranting, and after I finish, I'm going to go to the gym and purge it from good with some heavy weights..…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 03:15 PM
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It's a nice guy issue, I have an internal struggle leading, as my decisions sometimes upset or inconvenience people. As a husband, father, business owner with 25 employees, decisions are a constant necessity. I make them, 90% of the time they are good. But it's a mental struggle for me. Be a badass. Do or do not.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/19 07:29 PM
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Fuck. Its actually been 3 years.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/19 05:13 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge Too much time with family. Lots of time at home with wife and kids over the long weekend. Good to chill out, but I like being back at work and getting shit done. I did get some projects done around the house, and spent time with the kids doing various activities. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 14% Ate too much over Thanksgiving. Worked out like a fiend. 4 days in a row at crossfit. BJJ twice. Glad t…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 12:11 AM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge Sometimes I feel like I'm stuck in the rat race. There is so much possiblitiy when I think outside the box, but I need to execute day to day stuff, and don't spend enough time thinking about where I want to go and how to get there. There will be some down time over the holidays and I'll spend some time on this. ​ Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 14% Health is good. Been sleeping better. I'll make sure…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/19 08:18 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge Writing this OYS, everything seems good. Which isn't good. My goal is to kick life in the ass. I need to identify better what that looks like and start making those things happen. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 14% Health is good. BJJ and lifting. Eating pretty healthy. Weight is down a couple pounds this week. Still need to lose 15 more. Finances -Goal: Year salary in relatively liquid cash and inv…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 11:16 PM
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I agree. See my next sentence. It's a total bitch move. I'm angry. At her and myself for being a bitch.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/19 03:19 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge I feel I've been reactive a bit over the past week not driving my life. There are some looming events, which I need to address vs. wait for impact. But overall, life is good. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 14% Health is good. My right elbow hurts, I think its from not tapping quick enough to an armbar. But I'm not positive, I don't remember a recent incident. Also lifting heavy, so that might contri…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 05:44 PM
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Well you answered the rent question.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/19 04:56 AM
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$500 is a speed bump to her. How much is your girlfriend going to pay in rent?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/19 02:18 AM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge Overall, life is pretty fucking good. I have a lot of interesting activities. Work is rewarding and I feel like we are on the verge of big things. Family is great. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 14% I've been 95% vegetarian/vegan for the past few weeks. I don't even know what the difference is, I've just been eating primarily plant based with some fish tacos about once a week. Not sure if this fits,…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 07:33 PM
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I flirt all day. If an opportunity arises I might initiate, but typically I'm at work or we are busy with kids activities on the weekend. Logistically, evening initiation feels like work. Kids get to sleep. I clean up/finish up what needs to get done. She is scrolling on the phone. At this point it's work to be more interesting than FB/IG. I guess I'm having a tantrum because I don't think I should have to battle social media to get wife's attention. I should be high value enough that she seeks …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 02:33 PM
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I totally agree with you. I can ignore the feeling, but I'd rather kill it so it doesn't come back. I haven't found a good way to kill it yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 12:34 AM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge Feeling back on track 75%. Having more fun day to day, but there are some big stressers still out there. All I can do is keep going. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 14% Ate healthy all week. Went camping with my daughters over the weekend. Didn't eat horrible, but not great. Back on track now. Good week of workouts. Health feels good. I slept for a solid 8 hours last night. This is very unusual for m…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 06:58 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge I feel like I'm living for other people. Not kicking life in the ass on my terms. I need to focus on what I want and go get it. I made the same point here last week, but here I am a week later feeling the same. Not sure how to get out of this loop. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 14% Ate well this week and had a very solid week of workouts. Down 5 pounds. I came to the realization that I'm not gettin…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 01:14 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge I need to re focus on some things. I've drifted to far off course. There are always emergencies I'm dealing with, and I feel like the big picture goals are always off in the distance to be worked on later. Some of the bullshit and curve balls have given me perspective that the larger goals are achievable, and the "obstacles" are mostly in my mind, I just need to do the work and make them happen. So I guess it is a good realization. I need to get …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/19 06:45 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge I feel energized this week. I was struggling with some work challenges/stress. I believe I have a path forward figured out and all that is left is hard work and some luck that is out of my hands. I'm not afraid of hard work, and everything else is out of my hands. I'm pumped to kick some ass. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 14% Tweaked my back again in BJJ. We were working clench to take downs. I fel…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 06:31 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge Overall hit my goals this week. I make too many excuses. Its not that hard. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 14% I ate pretty good this week and did 18/6 6/7 days. Weight held steady. I am going to kick exercise up a notch. I had thought I was over training, so was intentionally skipping my regular 2 a days. These are xfit and BJJ in the same day. Screw that. I'm going back at it hard. I'm not where I…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/19 11:20 PM
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Love ya Red. I'm responding because I don't get a lot of input on my OYS posts, and I know you have good insights. So I'll poke the bear and see what comes of it. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 14% You are fatter than 14% fattie. Probably accurate. I used the dexascan thing at Drs office. Been a couple months. I'm somewhere +/-2 on this. However, your point is accurate. I need to lose 15 to be where I want to be. My budget is still in process. I need to just "finish" it and share it with wife. Oh look fuc…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/19 11:56 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge Seems I am in a bit of a rut. Not making much progress on any front. I think I need to set some short term goals, like to hit by next OYS. Too much navel gazing over long term MAP not enough concrete actions. Ill set a goal in each area of my OYS to be reported on next Tuesday. ​ Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 14% Traveling and diet hasn't been great. When I go off the rails I really go off the rail…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 02:18 PM
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It was ASD. Her brain was saying he can't just pick me up and take me. I need dinner and a movie, AKA he should work for it. Hey body was telling her that this is hot. Thank God I have a man who can pick me up and do what he wants with me. I can tell the difference, between a "prosest" and a protest. so I continued and grunted and response.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/19 01:42 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge Semi-shitty week overall. Didn't make progress on many fronts. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 14% Ate poorly this week. I was traveling and didn't stay on plan. Overall, health feels pretty darn good, I just need to lose 15 pounds. Its not hard, I know how to do it. I'm complacent where I am. I'm in the best shape of my life since playing college football. I'm just not happy with where I am. Not sur…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 06:15 PM
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I'm not quite that big, but I was that guy for sure as a white belt. I spent the first 2 years trying to learn how to NOT use strength. Once I could do that I was able to actually learn technique. Spent most of blue and purple getting smooth and technichal. Prob about 6 years. Now as a brown belt, I realize I need to figure out when to use strength and add that back in. It's a mind fuck. I'm sure once I get the hang of that there will be another thing to figure out. Now, even as a big guy, white…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/19 03:02 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Stress is still kicking my ass. I can't shut my head off. More exercise and meditation needed. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 14% I'm down at least 5 pounds this week. Ate very clean and healthy. Made it to all my workouts the past week. Finances -Goal: Year salary in relatively liquid cash and investments along with retirement accounts and option to retire by 55. Money is the largest stresser for …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/19 09:39 PM
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Yes. Doing 5x5. This is partially why my weight is up. I put in muscle pretty easy. I'm thinking of switching to a higher rep) lighter weight program while I cut.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/19 02:44 AM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Stress is getting the better of me. I need to actively attack goals. When I don't feel proactive, my brain spins. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 14% Health is OK. I started a renewed effort to eat clean this morning. My goal is to cut out almost all carbs and stick to organic clean foods. I'll continue 18/6 IF and do at least a 24 hour fast each week. I'm taking starting measurements this evening. …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/19 09:11 PM
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Also, having a mission outside of her. Now, she isnt seeking me out out not receptive to my initiations, no prob, I have a ton of other stuff I'd really rather do. Unrelated but sorry of related.. I played a work VM on speaker in my home office this morning. I did this because I needed to make a note about the message while it played. Wife found a reason to come in to my office when she heard a female voice. She asked who that was. I ignored her. When I finished, I made some sexual comment. AA'd…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 08:09 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. I felt like I was just getting by this week. Not driving life, but reacting. Its OK every now and then, but I need to get out of that mindset. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 14% Completed second 24 hour fast yesterday. Monday is a good day for this, and I'll plan to do this once a week. I may go for 36 next week. 24 just feels like i skipped a meal, because I normally do 18/6. I don't think it is g…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 04:47 PM
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Agreed. Thanks for the solid input.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/19 04:15 AM
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Fair point. There is very little chance anything I do will have any affect on the BIl or SIL. My wife is affected emotionally by this, so I need to keep frame or be sucked in to drama. I am streaming thoughts. Not 100% sure what I'll do. What does this have to do with my mission? When I look back at my life I want to be able to say I lived up to my values. One of which is not allowing violence against women and children. If I completely ignore this I'll consider myself a bitch. Should I quit my …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/19 03:06 AM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Did an interesting exercise with a mentor. Basically, it was to envision laying on your deathbed and telling someone you care about what you regret. Then dig in to why each of these regrets are real and important to you. We did this 5 times. This brought out some fundamental values I have. Most of them were things I already knew, but it was an interesting way of getting down to them. I plan to take each of these and work backwards from the value…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 02:39 PM
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Thanks for this. Good video. I haven't done more than about 20 hours. I'll definitely do a 24 next week and give 48 a try in the near future. My biggest concern is athletic performance at the tail end of a 48 hour. I'm sure it's mostly mental. When I started 18/6 I was so in my head when I had an afternoon workout on an emotional stomach. Now it's totally normal and no issue.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/19 02:59 PM
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I agree. Been doing IF for 2 years now. 18/6. IF with keto is when I really dropped weight. Fell off keto and have been holding steady with IF. 15-20 less pounds is ideal and as low as I would ever want to get. Where you at? Did you level out with IF after doing it for a while?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/19 04:58 AM
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Back is about 95%. Still tight, but back to all activities. Full rolling at BJJ tonight, just a little sore. Going to do my best to make it to yoga more often, but done with PT at this point. Thanks for asking :-)
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/19 04:54 AM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Good and busy week. Business kept rolling while I was on vacation. Now at a conference and focused on my vision for my company making good contacts. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 14% Not much exercise this week so far. Really missing BJJ. I'll be back Thursday. I need to keep diet on point and get in a hotel workout today and tomorrow. Finances -Goal: Year salary in relatively liquid cash and inve…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 05:34 PM
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A day late, but I'm getting this in. Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. I made a large reaching decision business wise and put the word out to employees to move the direction that will lead to my vision. I agonized about this for months. In the end everyone was supportive of the change and jumped on it. I need to just do these types of things and skip the over analysis and agony. But in the end, I'd say I kicked life in the ass. This is another step toward my vision. Health - Goa…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/19 05:07 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Decent week. I'm moving toward my goals. I feel like there is so much to do, that I can't tackle anything. I spent a couple weeks intentionally cutting down on phone scrolling. My happiness and productivity went up. This past week I slipped up a bit. I can tell I feel less fulfilled. I need to be more aware when I do this. Its typically when I'm waiting in line, or waiting to pick up a kid from some activity or when I get home from work and need…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 01:57 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Busy week. I would say I'm at a 7/10 on the kick life in the ass goal. No major wins, but not much bad. My steady state is pretty awesome. So I need something really great to move the needle. ​ Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 14% I've been ignoring it, but my weight has crept up. I'm consistently hitting 245 in the morning. I was at 235 consistently a few months ago. I was blaming this on my injury,…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 02:30 PM
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Thanks. It's night and day from when I started. I feel like there is something missing still though. I have 15 lbs to loose and I still love with a lot of anxiety. Outwardly it doesn't show much, but I know there is work to be done. I appreciate your input and encouragement.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/19 05:40 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Decent week. In hindsight, I think stress is screwing with my kick life in the ass goal. A large part of my mission is to blow up my company. We have a unique opportunity to do something that will affect positively thousands of people's lives across the country. There are a lot of unknowns and speed bumps to get that done and some times the enormity of what we are tackling gets heavy. At heart I'm a fighter and on a lot of levels I like that and…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 02:25 PM
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Thanks Roger that. I agree on both points.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/19 12:06 AM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. I had a shitty week in this department. Don't know if my frame was weak or something else is going on, but I've been more concerned with other people and pleasing them than in the past few months. Its a backslide, but I'm not sure where it is coming from. Thinking about the past week it has been unconscious. Examples: Trying to coordinate activities and waiting for responses, rather than planning things I want to do and inviting family and frien…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 02:04 PM
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BJJ is a life changer. I second or third the input here about using strength. As a white belt, the hardest thing I did was learn to not use strength. I took a few beatings during that time and I had to swallow my ego. There really is no short cut. Doing that took me about 2 years. Once you have the basics down and able to tap people (large and small) without strength, then you can begin learning how to use your strength within the framework of jui jitsu. Its spooky when you see that in action. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/19 09:25 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Things are comfortable. I need to kick life in the ass a bit more. I'll think on that this week. ​ Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 235 BF: 14% My back is feeling much better. I went to PT 3 times since last OYS. It seems my back issue stem from tight hips, which is also tied to very tight ankles and calves. The good thing about the fall and jacking my back up, is that I'm now focused on fixing these underly…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/19 08:44 PM
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If you are sitting on your ass or doing something un important, do as you are asked, it's your punishment for being a lazy bitch. Be so busy that she doesn't dare ask you to stop what you are doing for a task she can do herself. Ha, as I was writing this my wife walked over and asked me to open the lid on a drink. I was sitting here like a bitch, so I did it... But I acted like I was struggling, making her laugh, then I grazed her tit not so subtly as she bent over to get the bottle back. Now I'…
/r/askMRP01/07/19 11:14 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. I lived up to that this past week. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 235 BF: 14% Health is improving. Saw chiropractor yesterday and he said my back doesn't have any structural damage, muscles and ligaments are aggravated, but I should be back to normal in the relatively near future. I'm going back for PT later this week. Finally done with the cold I had last week. Between those two things, I'm ready to get i…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/19 02:27 PM
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You are correct, it was a reflexive comment because I didn't have success. The typical response on here is I'm a fag and Chad would have gotten laid. I guess I was heading those off. As I was leaving for my trip Monday morning, wife was flirting, and I made a comment about how she dropped the ball the last couple days, when I could have given her what she needed. It wasn't butt hurt, but teasing, because she knows I tried. When I landed, I had a VM from her saying she was sorry she was occupied …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/19 02:27 PM
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I get what you are saying and agree, but not sure where to go with it. If I was Chris Hemsworth, she wouldn't have found an excuse not to fuck.... Maybe if she was married to him for 15 years she would find excuses. It's her issue not mine. Im objectively hot, I get enough interest from randos to see that. Maybe I need to up the dread. However, my goal in life is no longer centered around getting laid. So my self worth and happiness doesn't take a hit when these excuses are found. I'm not giving…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 08:57 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Health has been an issue. Between my back, and a head cold, I've been pretty miserable. I'm still leading my family and business, but it hasn't been as much fun this week feeling like shit. I'm eating healthy and getting in the best workouts I can. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 235 BF: 14% Back is still jacked up. I haven't been to BJJ is 2.5 weeks, which is the longest I've been away from it in 10 years.…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 02:00 PM
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What part of my OYS are you referring to?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 10:55 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. I was traveling most of the week. It was nice to not have to worry about day to day family stuff. But after 6 days, I really missed my family. Its nice to get to that point some times, so that I see how good I have things at home. ​ Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 235 BF: 14% I ate healthy on my trip. Didn't get in as much exercise as I should have, but overall it was better than most in terms of health. Ho…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 08:49 PM
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Thanks for the input. It is fun, especially when wife is there. I give her a ton of shit about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/19 03:43 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. I kicked life in the ass this week. Traveling for a boys trip, then a work conference. It is strange to be away from my family, so much of my identity is wrapped up in them, and I lived in my wife's frame for so long. The oddness of traveling is probably due to the fact that I still live in my wife's frame to some extent. I need to kill the last of that. Had a lot of fun, and kicking ass at my conference. ​ Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in B…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 11:48 AM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Man, its like the matrix. I really can live however I want. I took the pill years ago, but I keep having these moments of clarity. Hopefully they never stop. ​ Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 235 BF: 14% Weight is holding pretty steady. I'm traveling a bit for the next few weeks, so I need to keep on track. Overall, I feel great. I'm in the best shape of my life at 42 years old. It takes me a while to warm …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 04:05 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Still living with a lot of DGAF. I'm working to drive my life vs reacting. I need to revisit my map and set some specific goals. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 235 BF: 14% I'm in a good place physically. Weight is holding steady at the lowest I've been in 20 years. BF is probably ~12%. I need to lose another 10, but where I'm at is the new normal. Going to my 20 year college reunion next week. It will be g…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 10:27 PM
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Very valid point. I got rejected this week a couple times. I had a bunch of other things going on, so I went and did them. Truly without butthurt maybe for the first time ever. She then went out of her way to get attention. Funny how that works. But your point is valid. If I have no success, for a week or two, can I still be happy.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 09:01 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. I have turned a corner in my DGAF attitude. Not sure what clicked, but something did. I living life the way I want and not worrying about what other people think. Not 100% but from where I came, its night and day. Good stuff. ​ Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 235 BF: 14% Weight holding steady. I feel good overall. BJJ is good, had a couple ah ha moments last week. Which is rare at my level, but I passed gua…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 07:49 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. I'm back on track. I think a good portion of my semi depression last week, was due to the vacation the previous week. Too much relaxation. I like my work, I love the activities I engage in when home. Being away for 10 days made me feel lost. Good lesson to have learned. I like vacations, but I need to plan more stuff and find time for BJJ or some other physical activity outside of BS hotel weight rooms. I realize I sound bi-polar. Last week I wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 09:41 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. I've been a bit lost for the past week. I fucked up and lost frame. I thought I was past this point. Not sure where I want to go from here. I know it isn't the end of the world. Small speed bump. But I'm pissed I let it happen. ​ Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 235 BF: 14% Spent the past 10 days in a tropical location. Drank too many mai tias and ate a little too much. The relaxation was good, lots of my ph…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 05:06 PM
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Thanks I will run through this.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/19 04:29 PM
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I agree. When I get in the state I was yesterday, I don't want to choose it. Usually passes in a day or two. But I think there are some lessons to learn while I'm in that frame of mind so I can minimize it going forward.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/19 04:28 PM
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Good point. I haven't been as focused as I've made good progress on mission lately and let of the gas a little. Thx
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/19 04:25 PM
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This is a legit point. I've been traveling for the past week and haven't lifted heavy or gotten BJJ in. Thanks for making this connection for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 04:30 PM
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I'm at a crossroads. My OYSs have been pretty positive lately. I'm making progress in almost all areas of my life and MAP. However.. I'm unhappy. I don't know why. I think it has to do with being a dancing monkey and every day that becomes more clear. It isn't about sex. It isn't about monetary success. It isn't BF percent. I've made huge gains in those areas. I'm still a nice guy. I worry about other people and am afraid to make anyone upset. I do it, but I agonize over it and life is torturous…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 09:40 AM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Stress level has reduced. Cash flow is back to a sustainable level, and we have a plan moving forward. I'm in a good place right now. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 235 BF: 14% I weighed in at 228 last Friday. This was after an evening BJJ class, then a morning kickboxing class while fasting. So it isn't my true weight, but just to see the scale below 230 is unbelievable. My goal weight has always been aro…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 06:23 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Lots of stress going on with the launch of new business. I'm aware of it, and leaning in to what needs to be done. Overall pretty good. ​ Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 235 BF: 14% Injuries I mentioned last week are doing much better. Overall health is good. I want to finish strong nutrition wise as we leave for spring break next week. I plan to enjoy myself a bit while on vacation. ​ Finances -Goal: Year …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 06:24 PM
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I really want to go to BJJ tonight Competitive or recreational? Are you trying to peak right now? Or looking to continue BJJ long-term? Is your fragile ego worth a permanent injury? BJJ is recreational. It probably has to do with my ego. I also need the stress release, exercise and mental calm that comes from a hard class. But I can go lift and run a couple miles. Not quite the same. I'll contemplate why I feel like I need to go so much, knowing my body is hurt. ​ During the drive, my older daug…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 05:47 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. I get thrown in a loop so much internally. Exercise and being busy are really the only things that help. Outwardly, I'm an oak. The mental BS is almost crippling. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 235 BF: 14% I'm weighing consistently under 240. I skipped a couple BJJ classes and did yoga or HIIT instead. My body is pretty beat up and I need to heal. My rotator cuff is painful. Especially at night, it throbs …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 03:59 PM
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instead of ruling by dictate your going to have to rule by narrative (like with any other adult) This is gold. Thanks. And I like the idea of measuring the KPI like grades, health etc. vs. micro managing minutia. She is actually very responsible, straight As, cleans room, plans ahead and packs for activities without prompting. I'm worried about the slippery slope of, if I can get away with this, then I can get away with that. I know the shit I would have done at 11 with unlimited web access. But…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/19 03:48 PM
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Thanks for connecting this for me. At work, I treat employees like adults. If they make a mistake, I explain why what they did hurts the organization or violates our values. I let them know I'm here to help if they have questions and give them another shot. If this becomes a pattern, and it is clear they will make decisions or perform actions that don't align with the company mission, I let them go so they can move on to something they are a better fit for. Obviously, I can't fire my daughter, b…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/19 03:44 PM
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I don't see how I'm being a dick. And she didn't come to me I figured out what she did because I monitor online activities and then idiscussed consequences with her. Trying to understand what you suggest as an alternative.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/19 12:42 AM
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Here are the specifics. Daughter is 11. She has limited access to a phone. I let her use it when she goes places alone or when my wife and I are not home. There is an app which I let her install at one point (tik tok/music.ly). I decided it was not appropriate after I heard some stories about strangers communicating with kids through the app. I discussed with her and we uninstalled that app. I did not unapprove the app through the iTunes store. While home alone, she decided to reinstall it and p…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/19 08:13 PM
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Thanks for the comment thread. And yes, she is curious. I hid the phone on top of a shelf probably 8 feet high. She would have had to climb on my desk to even come close to seeing it. She is 11.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/19 08:01 PM
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Thanks for the reply. The thread between you and /u/rocknrollchuck is very good. In terms of her motivation, all her friends have a particular app, which has elements of social connection in it, and she wants to be part of the group. I get it, and totally empathize with her desire. However, this app very easily goes from a private mode to public and I don't want old dudes jacking off to my daughter. And I also don't want her programming to get used to the dopamine hit of people commenting on thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/19 08:00 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Good week. Lots of stress and negative talk in my head. But I have a plan for all the issues and we are on track for a very awesome launch of our new product. ​ Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 235 BF: 14% I hit 232 at one point over the past week. That is mind blowing to me. I don't know how to process myself as being someone in that type of shape. I have a lot of gas in my tank. I'm the guy at BJJ who does…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 03:47 PM
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Thanks for pointing it out. I try to step back and appreciate progress every so often. And big picture, there has been a huge amount. But I also know there is a lot left, and probably always will be.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/19 01:14 AM
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Thanks, I've been meaning to spend some time with stoicism. I've read a lot of philosophy, but not a lot in this area.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/19 05:38 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. I have a kick ass life. Lots of interests, company I am passionate about and enjoy. Family and friends. My goal here is more of a mental shift. I'm reading The Happiness Hypothesis by Jonathan Haidt. Its interesting. Nothing earth shattering yet, but confirmation that there is a process to shift my thinking. I need to be happy now, change some of my default thinking. ​ Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 235 BF…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/19 07:03 PM
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Life Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. B in this area this week. Consciously I do this. I'm working toward big goals, and making progress kicking life in the ass. I consciously focus on being my own judge. Most stress or upset in my life comes from worrying about what other people think. When I am in that frame of mind, I need to dig down and figure out where I am giving too many fucks about what others think. I can work my way out, but I end up there too much. Health - Goal: 10% BF.…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/19 01:21 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 241 BF: 16% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Weight continues to go down. Probably ~2lbs a week at the current rate. I got on the BF machine at the gym. This is one of those fancy ones where you take your shoes off and hold the handles. In the past it has told me ~17% when I was 245-250 range. This week, it showed 241 lbs and 12% BF. Not sure if I buy 12% but I like the way I'm looking in the mirror lately. ​ Fin…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 09:44 PM
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How did you confront it head on?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 04:01 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 241 BF: 16% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Weight was under 240 several times this week, which validates what I'm doing and shows a downward trend continuing, although slower than I'd like. I realize a weight on the scale is not the ultimate goal, but it is a good indicator for me. I'm tall and strong, I need to shed body fat to get where I want to be. I see LBs dropping, and I see results in the mirror. I also…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 10:00 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 241 BF: 16% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. I've been exercising A LOT, and eating healthy. IF and very low carb. I'm down 2 pounds from last week, but that is basically the timing of taking a shit. I could be flat or up a pound. Ultimate goal is to drop another 10 pounds. If I keep doing what I'm doing, I'll get there. Got a trip planned for spring break, and I plan to be down to 230 by then. My arm is still hu…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 05:37 PM
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Wish I could say I was baiting, but I wasn't. Just got caught.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/19 06:02 AM
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Sort of, fighting getting my arm straightened. Trying to muscle out of it. it's a defense that works some of the time. But not against a high level black belt.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/19 01:18 AM
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I tried to curl my way out of an armbar against a black belt. Not a good idea. I'm not new, not a giant ego maniac, but competitive and a bit stubborn. I'll heal. Kinda like the pain, I learn better that way some times.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 08:05 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 243 BF: 16% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. I'm hovering around 240. I need to push through, so that it is not my set point any more. I'm motivated and keeping on plan, so I'm confident it will happen. ​ Got my elbow popped at BJJ last week. Its sore, and my shoulder is also sore. Its been a long time since I got caught like that, on one hand, it hurts, but on the other, I learned a lot. ​ Lots of stress in my l…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 02:17 PM
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I had not, but now that you mentioned it, I searched the forum and found the original post and other related posts. The little fucker is exactly what is in my head, and I fit the description of needing mommy's approval to a T. I had a different name for it, but I've been aware of the voice and its negative affect on my life for years. I'm able to identify its comments and ignore them ~80% of the time currently. 15% of the time I hear the comments and I have to fight consciously to ignore them. O…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/19 09:33 PM
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The BJJ/MRP thing is an analogy. Been training BJJ for 10 got my brown belt about a year ago. .
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/19 08:08 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 243 BF: 16% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Good week. I ate healthy and exercised a lot. BJJ has been intense the last few weeks. We are working a lot of self defense scenarios. Live sparring with gloves and punches. Get to the clinch, take down, defend, submit. Lots of fun and I'm learning a lot and seeing holes in my game that I need to work on. Glad to see them so that I can make adjustments. I went off plan…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 07:12 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 243 BF: 16% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Doing will with nutrition. Hit a low of 240 after workout on Saturday. At 243 this morning. Keto and IF is solid and I anticipate keeping at it until I get to my goal of 230 and see where I am BF wise at that point. ​ Came to a realization that I want to teach BJJ. I lead classes when our instructor is out of town, and I enjoy it. I think it will not only help my BJJ b…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/19 08:52 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 243 BF: 16% ​ Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. I was down 15 pounds on Saturday. I slipped up a little Saturday evening with a couple beers, but have been back on track since. I feel good and am motivated to continue. ​ Finances -Goal: Year salary in relatively liquid cash and investments along with retirement accounts and option to retire by 55. Goals: Keep on top of budget Things are good. I met with bookkeeper…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 07:30 PM
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Astute. I can't argue with that. I'm working on abundance and internal validation. It's not going as quickly as I would like.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/19 11:59 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 243 BF: 16% ​ Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. I feel good. I've been working out like a madman, and I've been pretty strict IF and keto. Down to 243 this morning. Thats 13 pounds down in 2 weeks. Seeing the results is keeping me motivated. Going to BJJ tonight, going to eat healthy today and get a good night of sleep. ​ Finances -Goal: Year salary in relatively liquid cash and investments along with retirement a…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/19 08:24 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 16% --I'm out of my funk from last week. The key things that got me out of it: Eating healthy Working out hard Gratitude Journal Getting back to work on my business Getting laid All of these are related to goals I have, and being able to work toward those goals gave me some purpose. ​Thanks for the input mRP. It truly helped. ​ Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Worked out hard multiple times. Hit 3 BJJ cla…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/19 02:40 PM
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I totally agree with this and have been doing a lot of work on myself in this area over the past few years. My subconscious is so trained to think negative, it has been a real bitch to re train. Being unhappy is comfortable for me. I'll refocus on directing thoughts to the happy end of the spectrum. Since last week, the things that got me back on track, were a gratitude journal, eating healthy and exercise. I didn't want to be happy, until I had beat myself up in the gym a little. Thanks for you…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/19 02:21 PM
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I've done some work over the past few years. Bottom line, it is probably in me head. Wife is supportive and happy for me when I live my mission. I'm just so conditioned to be pissed and unhappy with the main female in my life from childhood that it defaults to wife now. Im not ignoring what you said, because I'm sure there is a good chance you are correct about my hamster finding ways to not challenge status quo. In terms of friends and social. I have lots of aquaintance s but no good friends ne…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/19 08:36 PM
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I can't argue with this. But I also can't imagine how or what to change. I could go Rambo and just start challenging things to show I have control or force a main event. But it seems silly to draw the line at low level issues. I think your point is I need to lead better in all areas. Work the levels of dread and eventually I will get what I want and be happy. I'm not happy. I'm not sure why I'm not happy. Would spinning plates make me happy? I don't know. I. Don't know if I can ever be happy. I'…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/19 07:34 AM
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Spot on. I'm better with her work at the moment. Separated finances of her business. It's self sustaining and even contributing a little at this point. I'll revisit levels of dread. I'm happy with our relationship. It could always be better, but my "depression" is my own and my own to work out of. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/19 09:13 PM
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Thanks for the reply. I read your post on validation the other day and just read it again. I check a lot of those boxes. I also re read the dancing monkey post. I think you have referred me to it several times now. (thanks) You are spot on with both points. However, I'm either totally missing something, or I'm too thick to connect the dots. I get it theoretically, but I can't figure out how to apply it in real life. The key point (for me) of the dancing post is: Attraction is necessary, but so i…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/19 09:06 PM
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You are correct. Been about a week since I lifted heavy. Will get back in there.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/19 06:23 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 250 BF: 16% ​ --I'm in a funk. I'm frustrated with my life. I have a great life. That depresses me even more. I can only seem to focus on the bad, the places I've failed or come up short. The fact that I'm frustrated with it, makes me even more frustrated and angry. I see all the bullshit, I can't believe I'm still this deep in it. All my issues are of my own creation. I take full ownership. I'm not a bitch, but I still see myself as one…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/19 04:21 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 250 BF: 16% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Diet has slipped over the holidays, but I'm enjoying it. Got in solid workouts last week. Will make sure I get there this week. ​ Finances -Goal: Year salary in relatively liquid cash and investments along with retirement accounts and option to retire by 55. Goals: Keep on top of budget Blew the budget on Xmas. I didn't plan for all the get togethers at restaurants. It…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/18 03:57 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 250 BF: 16% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Slow progress here. I have not been eating great, but been able to hold steady. Home made cookies are my kryptonite. I've got a few more sessions on my trainer package. I'm going to finish those out and then handle the lifting on my own. Ive got a plan. The biggest thing the trainer adds is the accountability. I'll either find someone to lift with, or see if I can keep…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/18 04:49 PM
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Like the story of the bulls on the hill
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/18 08:24 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 250 BF: 16% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Finally feeling close to 100%. Hit the gym and BJJ hard over the past week. Had a little too much fun over the weekend at a concert, then late night beers and some food. Getting back on track. Just had a good workout at they gym. I really don't recognize myself in the mirror at this point. ​ Finances -Goal: Year salary in relatively liquid cash and investments along wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/18 07:54 PM
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Tell her. It's for life basically, once you start. It will come up eventually. Mine got pulled out when going through customs one time with family for vacation. It would have turned in to a major shit show if wife didn't know about it prior to that. No issue with customs, it just looked suspicious on x-ray. Also, you may end up in the hospital some day. Your spouse should know what medications you are on. I told wife I was starting when I did. AA'd when she eventually shit tested. It doesn't com…
/r/askMRP07/12/18 07:03 PM
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Good thought. I've research profit sharing plans. These are good and would sure me to put more away pre tax as well. The ROI is good. I'm in tech and most of my employees are in demand. It's expensive to replace them between recruiter fees and lost productivity. We had our best year ever. My ass just tightens up when I see those numbers going out. Again, I'm focusing on the negative not the positive, which is solid profit personally. Thx
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/18 09:06 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 250 BF: 16% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. This cold has been brutal. Got sick the day before Thanksgiving and I'm still coughing and snotty. Usually, I power through and workout while sick. Sweat it out. I just couldn't this time. I even stayed home from work, which I never do. Keto went to shit. Drank lots of OJ and chicken noodle soup. Anyway, this morning 2 weeks later, I'm finally feeling good again. I'm g…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/18 04:57 PM
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First, nice work. Second, slow your roll. You ended a long term relationship a month ago and you are already in a new one. Your concern is that you are too awesome and won't be able to keep it up. You are looking for problems. You aren't there yet. You are jacked. Are you too jacked? Do you stop lifting. Or does that become the norm and you look for weaknesses and focus on improving them? Enjoy being awesome and jacked, there will always be work to do.
/r/askMRP30/11/18 02:13 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 14% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. I got sick Wed before Thanksgiving, just low grade head cold, but annoying. I didn't take care of myself and pushed things. Saturday, it turned in to a full blown miserable cold. So bad I can't sleep. I haven't been this miserable in a long time. I need to kick this, so I can get back in the gym and get some work done. That is it for the health update. I am taking most…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/18 05:54 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 14% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. The switch to keto worked a bit. I'm down a few pounds. I'll go off the plan on Thanksgiving, but get right back on. I'm making progress, but its slower than I'd like. I took a blood panel and the results came back last week. My cholesterol was around 180, which is way down from where I was about a year ago. I did an In Body scan at Dr. office. I've been doing these ev…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/18 03:18 PM
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I guess I could use either. My CPA does personal and the 3 business entities that I own. She has been with me through several audits and we came out of all of them clean. Maybe that means she isn't aggressive enough;)
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/18 06:24 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 252 BF: 14% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Posted last week that I felt fatter than normal. Discussed with my trainer, and decided to stop the IF and focus on keto. I think its a good plan, I've been IF for at least a year, and I think my body needs a change, even if I go back to it in a month or two. Since last Tues, have been pretty solid on the keto. Had a piece of cake at my daughters Bday party, but that i…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/18 04:44 PM
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Ive been proving that to be true.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/18 01:59 PM
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Got a good workout in with my trainer. Told him I'm feeling fat. Not trying to bulk, need to cut. He suggested I stop the IF and focus on keto. Then if that doesn't kick start weight loss, we go keto and IF. I think this makes sense. Keto worked well for me when I did it, stopped because my cholesterol spiked and doctor told me to knock it off. I had blood taken this morning for semi annual labs, so I'll have a good baseline going this route. Will keep processed meat to a minimum and keep an eye…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 09:48 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 252 BF: 14% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. I feel fat. Maybe I am, but I've felt really good until the past week or so. Belt feels tight, mirror doesn't look as good as it used to. Might be a bit of a back step, since I stopped taking creatine, muscles aren't as hydrated. Maybe diet has been more shit than I thought. Might be a lagging indicator from the week at the all inclusive catching up to me. Whatever, th…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 05:44 PM
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Thanks for the insights. There OYS threads have been a great tool door me over the past couple years to see progress I'm a grown man, so usually , even if HALT might apply, I don't think it is a valid excuse to lose frame, especially with my kids. I need to do better to not get in that situation in the first place.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/18 04:29 AM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 250 BF: 14% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. I crushed it in terms of lifting, crossfit and BJJ last week. I stuck to IF 18/6 and cut out sugar except for one cheat snack. Weight is the same. I feel good, but still my goal is to lose 20 lbs. Only a week back from vacation, so it might take some more time to see the needle move. I'll keep after it. I have a blood panel scheduled for next week. It will be interesti…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/18 10:46 PM
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I like the clip, but I also like to fight ;) just not verbally or with myself. BJJ has been so huge for me. It's similar. You dont see legit tough guys talking shit or starting fights. They know they are tough, nothing to prove, or reason to lose frame over some poser. I have no reason to argue with my wife or anyone, I am my own judge. I don't need to prove anything to her. I also don't need her for anything, I own my shit. Can't think of a good reason to argue.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/18 08:20 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 250 BF: 14% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Back from a week at a tropical all inclusive resort. Up a couple pounds. Overall not too bad and had a lot of fun. I stuck to IF and got in 2 solid lifts as well as jogged a couple miles. Just finished a session with my trainer and we came up with a nutrition plan. I'm going to stick with 18/6 IF, and go 3 days very low carbs higher fat, then 1 day with regular carb co…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/18 07:44 PM
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I'm on vacation with family this week. Laptop took a shit and I won't be at a computer till I get back so this OYS will be abbreviated. Health - sticking to IF at the resort. Got in a good jog and workout yesterday, will do at least another one before we head home. I've been sleeping ok, and got in a couple naps. First time in about 7 years I haven't felt tired. I need to get more sleep regularly. Finances - business is doing well. Team seems to be running well while I'm out of town. Parenting- …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/18 01:04 PM
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Good idea. We should have caught it earlier. And yes, I now completely see how my wife is a direct reflection of me. She knows I will no longer put up with her being ultra harsh and bitchy, so it doesn't happen, or sometimes there is a flash, but she now squashes it quicker than I can.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/18 02:40 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 14% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. I had a couple heavy lifting sessions. I haven't been that sore in a long time. It feels good. I'm really enjoying getting back in to weight lifting, and having a trainer has made a huge difference. We do 3 or 4 sets rotating through 3 exercises. We do 3 different groups of exercises in a session, them he stretches me out for about 15 minutes. I'd been lifting, but not…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/18 02:14 AM
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True, but I'm not ready for that at this point. Not because of her, but because of my own stuff. Not looking to burn it down... Yet. Thanks for the insights.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/18 09:12 PM
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Gotcha. Thanks. Valid points. I went back through the levels yesterday. I am at DL8. I remove time and attention, but I can't seem to do it without the stench of pouting. I am really busy and have spent very little time with her over the past couple weeks. When we are together it's been hard to be the fun guy. I have read models and day bang. I occasionally flirt in front of her, but my game is weak. When I do this well it turns her on. I'll do it more. Your point on the financials is true, I'll…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/18 02:02 PM
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Can you help me understand what you mean. I've learned the issue is always me. These are things I control and can change. What am I missing?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/18 04:37 AM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 14% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. OK week. Got in a bunch of BJJ, crossfit and lifts last week. Diet has been a bit off. I'm hitting my IF targets, even had a 22 hour fast on a busy day, but weight isn't dropping. My portions are probably just too big. I know, MFP track macros and calories. I'm just being a lazy bitch about it. We are going on vacation in a couple weeks. I'll get my ass in gear, I want…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/18 03:11 PM
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Good point. I've been removing attention this week. She told me I looked hot and might get lucky tonight while at a kids sporting event. I told her shes the one who might get lucky if she plays her cards right. I went to the late bjj class. She was asleep when I got home. I don't care. Lifted heavy and rolled for an hour today. I'm exhausted.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/18 05:04 AM
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Thanks, the difference is working with the trainer. I had a bit of fuckarounditis in the gym. Thought because I used to be a trainer, worked out in a college football weight program I could push myself. Apparently not to the level needed. He has me doing 3 or 4 exercises back to back working multiple muscle groups. It's a good lift routine, but also really gets my heart pumping. And the accountability of paying for it makes me show up. I just re upped with him for the next 2 months. Thinks we ca…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/18 08:41 PM
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Holy fuck I think I got a flair.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/18 06:50 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 (+5lbs) BF: 14% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. I updated my weight and BF above. down 5 lbs and I'm going to trust the 14% analysis from last week. My trainer said that machine is very reliable and he has multiple people do that scan and then do a float tank analysis and it has been spot on. I may test it again today when I go lift to see if it holds up from week to week. But the bottom line is, I see progr…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/18 03:00 PM
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Thanks for the insights. I'm sure I'm not totally OI, but at this point I don't know how else to respond. It was late, I needed to get up early. Said good night, rolled over. She engaged telling me I'm pouting. I could STFU and ignore, but that seems really butt hurt. I didn't want to leave, I needed to get some sleep had to get up in 5 hours. I probably could have given her some happy feelz or something with a joke, or a tickle fight, then rolled over. But that feels like rewarding her... And t…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/18 04:46 AM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 250 (+5lbs) BF: 17% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Gym gains are progressing. Trainer has me lifting lighter to get form down. Consistently getting in 2 solid lifts a week, plus BJJ and XFit a couple times each. I started stretching my hips at my stand up desk. Took a bar stool height chair and put let up in a modified pigeon pose. I can't do this on the ground yet. I do each leg for 5 minutes a few times a day…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 04:59 PM
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Fair point on BF. Another fair point on the caveman. Sometimes I DGAF. I read SGM. I spent 15 years worried about her, it didn't work out for either of us. She can up her game a little. Dread will help here.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 06:39 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 250 (+5lbs) BF: 17% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Still up 5lbs, but I feel good. Belt still on same hole. Spent some time at the beach with a group of other dads this weekend, and the dad bod is real. I'm certainly not where I want to be physically, but I'm in better shape than 99% of that group. These aren't losers, most are very successful smart guys, jut not putting in the work health wise. I was there a c…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 03:17 PM
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Thanks for the insights and the link. I had not seen that one. Good read.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/18 02:07 AM
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It's totally absurd. Rejection and the need for validation are things I struggle with. Logically I get it, but my sub conscience does not. I would much rather take a punch than harsh word from someone I care about... That's why I'm here. I've come a long way but it's still a daily battle to kill the bitch.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/18 11:43 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 250 (+5lbs) BF: 17% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. I'm up 5 pounds since a month ago. Not the direction I want to go. However, in that month, I got rid of fuckarounditis in the gym and have been really lifting again for the first time in 15 years. That combined with creatine, I think has led to some muscle gain. I'm also crazy hungry when I end my 18 hour fast, and have been inhaling food. I just signed up for …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/18 09:52 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 17% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Getting back to lifting weights more seriously has been a great thing. My trainer knows his shit and is pushing me pretty good. He suggested BCAAs should be taken because I am doing intermittent fasting. I also added some creatine. ​ I feel bigger. Might just be a pump, and I am dead tired after a workout. All good. I'm keeping up with BJJ 3x per week. My crossfit atte…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/18 08:59 PM
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Thanks for the insights.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/18 09:31 PM
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Good insight. I should have ignored her after she got pissy.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/18 01:17 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 17% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. A little bummed out that I'm not seeing results on the scale. I've been sticking to IF strict and eating about as healthy as I ever have. I'm tracking calories and macros and have been under my target every day for the past couple weeks. It doesn't make sense to me, but I feel good, so I'll keep at it. Working with a trainer has been a great boost for me. Its been a lo…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/18 07:54 PM
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:) Unfortunately I trained her well.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/18 10:33 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 17% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Traveling this week. So far, I have stuck to IF protocol and eaten healthy. I suspect if I Keep this up till I get back, I'll have dropped a couple pounds during the trip. Typically I go off the rails when traveling and eat whatever. This time I'm more committed, and I think it has to do with hiring the personal trainer last week and investing in making some gains over…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/18 06:07 PM
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Thanks, just subscribed
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/18 04:53 AM
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Thanks for the kick in the ass. Truly needed and deserved. Gonna hit jui jitsu tonight, get some sleep and grab life by the balls tomorrow.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/18 12:36 AM
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Fo sho. I guess if I want it, I'll push through. Your point is that pushing through will get easier as I get better.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/18 12:31 AM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 17% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Met with Dr and reviewed my bloodwork. Cholesterol is down and blood sugar is way down. Only real difference in my diet since the last panel has been the change to intermittent fasting. Dr. says this is a very good sign for me, and I should stick with the IF. Dr recommends more/better sleep and to try to reduce stress through exercise and meditation. He gave me some me…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/18 08:47 PM
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Funny... Or not. how my nice guy tendencies translate to multiple areas. I have a key employee review tomorrow. In the past I've caved to some salary demands. I know I/my company is the prize. We are a great place to work and I compensate above industry average. Abundance translates. It may suck in the short term to replace him, but I've been networking and have some options in the pipe line. I can come from a position of power and drive the review. My vision for the company is clear. We will be…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/18 01:59 AM
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I can't win, so why play. If you could expand this "I choose the bullshit I engage in" mindset to all aspects of your life, you will be fantastic. Thanks for this. That makes a couple things click. Not sure what you mean by "only 10 months". Been at MRP 2 years. Wondering if I'm missing your point or it's sarcasm, which would be appropriate. 20 years together. I think the 1 month per year has been pretty accurate.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/18 03:35 PM
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Just when I think I'm making progress i fuck it all up. I had planned a date night for last night. Not a big deal, but got a sitter and was going to grab dinner with her. I told her about it maybe Monday. I forgot about a commitment I had made to a meeting in the evening related to coaching kids in upcoming season. Pre season logistics meeting. When I realized i missed it, I let wife know date night wasnt happening. She was having a bad day and went off the rails, ie my priorities are screwed up…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/18 05:01 PM
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Just when I think I'm making progress i fuck it all up. I had planned a date night for last night. Not a big deal, but got a sitter and was going to grab dinner with her. I told her about it maybe Monday. I forgot about a commitment I had made to a meeting in the evening related to coaching kids in upcoming season. Pre season logistics meeting. When I realized i missed it, I let wife know date night wasnt happening. She was having a bad day and went off the rails, ie my priorities are screwed up…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/18 05:01 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 17% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Still +5 pounds from pre vacation weight. I've been pretty strict keto IF for the past week, but not losing lbs. Hitting heavier weights than I have in a while, hoping it is muscle gains not fat. Had blood drawn last week for a an annual panel. Should get results this week. Will be interesting to see how my levels are. Overall I feel good, still 20 pounds over my ideal…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/18 07:13 PM
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I got upset because both incidents made it clear she doesn't trust me. I was pissed mostly at myself, not her. I lost my cool in response to her, and it's disheartening that she lacks trust at this point. Thanks for the comment it made me analyze the events a little closer. In hindsight, I should have instructed her to take the kids out of the area before I intervened in the argument, just in case it needed to get physical, it would have protected all of them and be been better leadership on my …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/18 07:15 PM
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I agree. In this case she swore at me because she thought I put my truck in the path of an on coming ambulance. She was scared we were going to be hit. I'm fine with her screaming if she thinks we are in danger, but it was "Fuck Redpillonhard" then 30 seconds of lecture on how I drive. This pissed me off because I had just averted an altercation, protecting our family, and I was following good road safety and I was sober, she was not. That said I should have corrected her like the oldest kid she…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/18 02:41 PM
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For sure. I'm more worried about how I lost my frame. At this point I shouldn't be letting wife get to me that much. I think it was the two events back to back and my adrenaline flowing a bit.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/18 02:35 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 17% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Usually when I go on vacation, any weight I put on comes off pretty quickly when I get home and back on track. This past week, not so much. Still 5 pounds over where I was when I left. That said, I've been hitting the weights harder than I have in years. So maybe muscle is building and that accounts for some of the extra pounds. I'm going to keep going down this path (…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/18 11:39 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 240 BF: 17% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Back from vacation. Hitting the gym and nutrition hard. I lost a little ground, but I expect to be back on track by end of the week. It was great to take time off, mentally in a good place. Finances -Goal: Year salary in relatively liquid cash and investments along with retirement accounts and option to retire by 55. Goals: Keep on top of budget Forget if I mentioned t…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/18 06:58 PM
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Yeah. Thanks, will build some more tension today.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/18 08:13 PM
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I do a dexa(?) Scan at Dr office every couple months and I have a fit bit scale thing that I step I'm daily. When I started TRT 2 years ago, I was close to 25% on Dr scale thing. I'm pretty confident in the Dr. Measurement of 17% is accurate currently. Fit bit not so much. I've got a good history of lean muscle and bf amounts over the past 2 years and watched them as mirror changed. Lifts are not what they were when I played football, but I can BP and squat 315 x5. I don't squat heavy my form is…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/18 08:11 PM
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**A day late, but want to get this in. ** Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 240 BF: 17% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. We have been on a tropical island for the past 6 days. Mental health is getting a great breather. I've been keeping with the IF pretty good and getting in some exercise. I've had a few more drinks than I normally do but my weekly drink average is about 0 when I'm home. I feel good health wise. I'm definitely not the fat guy at …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/18 05:45 PM
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think about it. would you want a friend that was a complete asshat when you told him you were to busy to hangout on any give day? This makes a lot of sense. I get it. I'm the asshat. I see how unattractive that is. I'll stop it. But on the flip side after being too busy often enough I wouldn't blamed that friend for not asking to hang out any more. All that said, I have an issue seeking validation through sex. I've got some deep rooted issues. I need to address them. Not sure how. Part of the dr…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/18 07:22 AM
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Wow, that is next level. I think I get the concept, I just can't see myself doing it consistently. I can operate at that level when my baseline is met, but if it has been a few days it's harder and that's when I come off as vindictive and thirsty, which is unattractive and exacerbates the issue even more. Thanks for this. That book had been in my list. I'll get to it sooner than later.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/18 07:17 AM
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I got some good feedback on my OYS last week. It seems I'm missing something or I'm lying to myself about the current state of my life. Maybe my OYS's focus on problems and not successes. Not sure. When I found RP, I'd say I was at a 2 or 3. On the brink of divorce. Fat, whiny beta bitch. Everything in my life was pretty miserable. Now, 2 years later, I would say I'm at an 8 or 9. There is always room for improvement, but man, I am a lucky SOB. I wake up every day and get to do something I am pa…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 10:59 PM
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Thanks to you both for all the input. My OYSs may come off more dire than reality. I've been thinking about writing a post or OYS on the changes in my life over the past 2 years. It may be time to do that, so feedback has more reality to be based upon, and maybe others will find some value. I don't want it to come off as DEERing, so I won't do it here. This feedback is invaluable. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 09:40 PM
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It's sufficient for now. Will up the dread regardless, it will be fun for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 09:20 PM
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Thanks for this. A lot of Truth in what you write. Im not sure what is missing. The dancing monkey post would lead me to believe it is frame. Maybe... I can certainly improve. However, the family operates in my frame. I plan things and don't ask permission about anything. Wife and kids come to me for advice and guidance. I am following my mission and having great success. Sex life isn't terrible, but I don't have the covert contract any longer that if I do all these things it will improve. It ma…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 02:10 AM
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I started a gratitude journal last week. Not exactly validation, but a practice write down wins and reflect. Any other pointers on how to validate myself more?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 01:35 AM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 240 BF: 17% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Goals: BJJ 3X/week Yoga 2x/week IF (18/6) I've been on point. Eating well and exercising like a maniac. I was 240 this morning. I don't know if that is a mental or physical block, but getting under 240 has been a challenge. I've hit 238 a day or two over the past year, but not consistently. This next week is perfect timing to get under 240 for good. My calendar is clea…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/18 04:20 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 242 BF: 17% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Goals: BJJ 3X/week Yoga 2x/week IF (18/6) Hitting gym hard this week. Have a triple workout day lined up today. Crossfit @530 this morning. Yoga with wife this evening, then BJJ class after yoga. Will hit gym daily. Eating went sideways a bit. But focusing on adding keto to IF routine. We are going to tropical destination in 2 weeks. I plan to be down 10 lbs by then. F…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/18 06:02 PM
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Good point. My game is horrible. I've read models and other pickup books, but I am shit at talking to people. I'm a tall attractive guy. Wife relays comments her friends make about me. Happens pretty regularly "So and So said you look good". So and so said they want to find a man like me. But I don't do a good job of in your face dread. Wife made some comment about how she made me a father on father's day. I responded. I could have a kid with anyone. She agreed, "you could get anyone". Good inpu…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/18 05:43 PM
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There are some similarities there. However, her mission is not corporate. Her mission is love and light. Think being a mom and charities. She is in the kids classrooms, involved in after school activities, mom's groups, women's groups, yoga, pilates, charities... You get the idea. She has invites to multiple events every day of the week. When I remove time and attention, she attends more activities. Doesn't seem to miss me much. This was the main problem in our marriage and what led me to MRP. S…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/18 01:32 PM
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Thanks for the input. First guess is we have been together 20 years and isn't too worried about losing me. To have totally tightened yet. She is also very driven and focused on her mission. So keeps busy when I dis engage. I'll put some deeper thought in to it. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/18 08:11 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 242 BF: 17% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Goals: BJJ 3X/week Yoga 2x/week IF (18/6) Maintained weight while traveling. I've hit it hard since I got back, and don't have any more travel plans on the calendar until family vacation in July. I'm going to shoot to be down 10 pounds by then. To do that, I'm keeping up the IF and mixing in keto. I will hit the gym 4x per week in addition to BJJ and yoga. Its go time.…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/18 04:05 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 242 BF: 17% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Goals: BJJ 3X/week Yoga 2x/week IF (18/6) Keeping up IF. Traveling, but sticking to it. Still eating too much during the 6. Didn't make keto happen this week. Exercise was shot this week. Traveling. Its an excuse, but I'll own it. Will hit it hard when I get home. Finances -Goal: Year salary in relatively liquid cash and investments along with retirement accounts and o…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/18 01:57 PM
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I was successful on keto. My chlorestorol skyrocketed. I read all the info on how that isn't a big deal, but was in the process of securing a substantial life insurance policy and Dr. Said stop. So I did. Will go back to it with IF it should kick weight loss in to gear. I have a good trainer. He thinks there is hope at this point, but after seeing the aggression, I don't think I'll ever be 100% confident in her. We have his, friends with kids over all the time. Even if there is a 1% chance she b…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/18 05:58 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 242 BF: 17% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Goals: BJJ 3X/week Yoga 2x/week IF (18/6) I went on a fun trip last week. Played golf at 3 awesome courses over 4 days with a buddy. Ate some shit food, drank a few beers, had a couple cigars. It was good for my mental health. Not great for physical health. Overall, I'm right about where I was weight wise when I left. So stood still, no progress. However, IF is my new …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/18 07:23 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 242 BF: 17% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Goals: BJJ 3X/week Yoga 2x/week IF (18/6) I hit BJJ 3x, and nailed IF each day. I did not make it to yoga. Yoga is not my favorite, so when time is tight, that is what suffers. While I stuck to IF 18/6, I did not eat very good during feeding hours. Had a couple beers over the weekend. My weight this morning reflects that. I'm up 2 pounds from last week. I'm traveling t…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/18 07:19 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 240 BF: 17% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Goals: BJJ 3X/week Yoga 2x/week IF (18/6) I'm sticking to the IF 18/6 plan. Weight isn't coming off like I'd like, but did weight 240 this morning, which is 5lbs down since I started about 4 weeks ago. I'm using a scale that syncs to the web, so looking at my weekly average, I can see the trend of about a pound lost a week. Not great, but its sustainable. I didn't make…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/18 08:00 PM
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Thanks for the input and I agree. Not attractive enough. Losing a few more pounds will help. Also need to add some dread. I've made myself scarce the last couple days. I'm genuinely really busy. She called me today and asked if she could take me to lunch. I was busy but said if she drove to my office I could have a quick one. We had a fun lunch. Flirted. She even flashed her tits once. When she left, she told me she was really proud of what I'm doing work wise. Im not looking for validation, but…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/18 06:16 AM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 17% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Goals: BJJ 3X/week Yoga 2x/week IF (18/6) BJJ 2x last week. Taught a class. Felt good to lead a class. However, hit class this evening and felt like a white belt. Mental ass kicking. Its good for me, but sucks walking out of there feeling like I know nothing. Hit yoga 3x last week. Felt good. Lifted 3x. Health is good, IF is solid. Weight is coming off, but not as fast…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/18 05:08 AM
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Lots of MRPers will say you are in her frame, why do you care, ignore her feels. I look at it like the weather, I don't care if it's gonna be 65 or 70, but I do care if Katrina is predicted. The "feels alone" comment is so consistent and profound, I imagine the hormones causing it are no joke. Now that I don't engage, we usually end up have sex that day after it blows over. Period starts like clockwork the next day.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/18 01:24 PM
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--Not sure what happened to my OYS last week. There was a new Reddit UI, which was awesome. Now it is gone, and I don't see my comment in my history. -- Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 17% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Goals: BJJ 3X/week Yoga 2x/week IF (18/6) Only got to BJJ 2x. Have been nailing the IF. Weighed in at 240 mid week after a fasted workout. No huge win there, but it has been a few months since I hit a low of 240. I fee…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/18 11:38 PM
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I get that. I need sex, but there is something other than the desire to bust a nut that causes my but hurt when rejected. It's that I'm not good enough or worthy of her time. Worth the effort. Ties in to covert contracts. I provide, take care of kids, work my ass off in the gym. Whatever I did want enough to get my dick wet. Rejection hurts my ego. I need to kill that.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 04:02 AM
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You are prophetic,. OI was nowhere to be found later in the week. I changed goal for this week based on your input here. Goal is to have the option to retire by 55. I'm loving what I do, and would stop even if I didn't need the money. I expect that to get even better over the next 15 years.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 03:58 AM
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Hey man, I see a lot of myself in you. Turned 40 last year, been with my wife forever, long distance for a while. Gave up activities and friends when we had our first. Couple thoughts that were important in my journey Give RP a month for every year you have been together. Don't go rambo - Use the anger to get yourself to the gym. Looks like you already do, but use it to find another hobby I suggest BJJ. Commit to going and go, no matter what. Married Man Sex Life Primer - Was an important book f…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 08:09 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 17% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Goals: BJJ 3X/week Yoga 2x/week IF (18/6) I did not hit BJJ or Yoga goal this past week. I will hit both this week. I decided to try intermittent fasting. I stop eating at 7pm and don't eat until 1pm next day. I am on day 2. Day 1 was painless. Will keep sugar intake to a minimum when I eat. The danger is bunging, which won't help anything. I set up calendar notificati…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 07:52 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 17% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Goals: BJJ 3X/week Yoga 2x/week Keto Pretty good week. Hit BJJ 2x and yoga 2x as well as 3 lifting sessions. Had an intense BJJ class. Worked active attacker standing up. Basically on person put on gloves and tried to beat the shit out of the other. Goal was to keep distance, shoot to clinch, take down, then submit. We were all going about 80%. Adrenaline gets going, t…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/18 05:43 PM
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What do you do to exercise your hips? Other stuff I have done, just not consistently. Thanks for the push.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/18 02:19 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 17% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Goals: BJJ 3X Yoga 2x Keto Only 2x BJJ last week. But still hitting the private with instructor. Really dialing my stand up. Body feels good. Like joint pain is receding. Only been doing yoga for a couple weeks now, but I think it is helping. I totally needed to learn how to stretch. Finally figured out that I can't fight it, and have consciously let go and relax to ac…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/18 07:05 PM
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My interaction with her has been minimal since I left for college. I do want my kids to know her, but you are right, might have to put an extreme limit on that as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 10:45 PM
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I switched from everydollar to YNAB recently. I keep track of everything. Its very easy. How do you share info with your wife and keep her spending in line? Does she log in on her own, or do you question her when you see charges coming in that are out of line with the budget?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 05:15 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 17% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Goals: BJJ 3X Yoga 2x Keto Decent week. Made it to yoga twice. Traveled, and ate on point. Did not make it to BJJ because of travel schedule. I'm going to Yoga and BJJ today. Will keep up the nutrition. Overall I feel pretty good. Finances -Goal: Year salary in relatively liquid cash and investments along with retirement accounts and plan to retire by 55. Goals: Keep o…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 05:09 PM
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I have more and more joint pain. I'm 41 been working my ass of at my desk for 20 years. Hips are very tight. I'm active, lift, bball, bjj, CrossFit and adding yoga. Things just hurt. I take fish oils and glucosamine. I think yoga will help.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 11:25 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 17% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Goals: BJJ 3X Yoga 2x Keto I only made BJJ once last week. Had a conflict with a basketball league I'm in one night and another conflict the other. BBall ends this week, so I should get back after it there. I also figured out a way to rearrange wife's schedule, so I can consistently make evening class. I also blocked out 2 mornings a week on my calendar to go to Yoga. …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 09:16 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Ht: 6'4" Wt: 245 BF: 17% Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Goals: BJJ 3X Yoga 2x Keto Blood test results came back. Cholesterol is back down in low range. All good there. I've started serious keto again. Finances -Goal: Year salary in relatively liquid cash and investments along with retirement accounts and plan to retire by 55. Goals: Keep on top of budget Progress new office analysis (rent/buy) Parenting - Goal: Raise health…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 03:59 PM
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I was in a similar position a few years ago. Worked from home, new town. Highly recommend bjj studio. It attracts high quality people, provides excercise. Nothing bonds you with guys like pushing yourselves to your limits together.
/r/askMRP08/03/18 04:33 AM
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I understand and agree. Was applying for a life insurance policy and wanted to see if I could drop the number a little. I'll let you know if it worked.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 08:22 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Stats: 6'4 245Lb 17%BF I am honestly kicking ass in life. My problem is that I'm not enjoying it. *Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. After comment last week, I need to clarify the live pain free. I enjoy pushing myself in the gym or BJJ and those activities create soreness and sometimes pain. I don't mind that, in fact, I like it. The pain I want to be free of, is regular joint pain I have, or the pain I feel when picking some…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 07:22 PM
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;) I get what you are saying. I don't mind bruises or tweaks when I fight a sunbission too long. That's my error. I like the soreness after a hard workout. Live pain free refers to constant joint pain I have now and pain picking things up of the floor. I should quantify this better, so I know when ive achieved it. Thanks for the comment. Writing this out makes me realize yoga is going to be key to success.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/18 10:37 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Stats: 6'4 245Lb 17%BF I am honestly kicking ass in life. My problem is that I'm not enjoying it. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Last Week: lift 3x BJJ 2x Yoga 1x This Week: Hit 240 or less Was traveling. Did better than usual, but still slipped a bit. Finances -Goal: Year salary in relatively liquid cash and investments along with retirement accounts and plan to retire by 55. Last Week: Get YNAB totally set up and up to da…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/18 01:31 PM
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Thanks. BF was measured using an InBody machine at Drs office. 2 years ago I was close to 30%. According to InBody I have about 205 lbs of lean mass. I'm pretty muscular, bit of a belly. barely see some abs. Stronger/bigger than 99% of people I see day to day. Goal to lose the belly. Keto is the only thing that had worked for me. Sugar is my crack. When I stop eating it, cravings go away and I can stick to plan. I think you are right, up there workouts, and a run.... Need to find the time. Thank…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 10:02 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Stats: 6'4 245Lb 17%BF Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Last Week: lift 3x BJJ 2x Keto - Fail This Week: lift 3x BJJ 2x Yoga 1x Hit 240 or less Every week I re commit to keto and losing weight. I've been stuck between 240 and 250 for months. I'm much leaner now, but I think 230 is really my ideal weight. I'm off to a good start this week, and I'm going to add some extra exercise this week. I also went to yoga, which I haven't…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 05:09 PM
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Sad that this is a win, but it is one and I'll take it.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 04:29 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Stats: 6'4 245Lb 17%BF Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Last Week: lift 3x BJJ 2x - fail, traveled keto - Fail This Week: lift 3x BJJ 2x keto I have not been able to commit to fully doing keto. Not sure why, it was so easy before. I need to get through the first 3 days, then I have momentum and its easy to maintain. I'm committing to it starting today. Finances -Goal: Year salary in relatively liquid cash and investments alon…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 01:00 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Stats: 6'4 245Lb 17%BF Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Last Week: lift 3x BJJ 2x keto - Fail - Girl scout cookies This Week: lift 3x BJJ 2x keto I weighed in at 240 one day last week. It seems like a small weight difference, but I really feel better when I'm ~240. I'm sure hitting 225 would be 1,000 times better. I need to have the new goal as a set point. I've been hitting 240 which has been my goal for a long time, then ba…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 09:41 PM
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I agree. They are so foreign to me that I miss more than I see I'm sure. Basic girl drama. A weekend with Dad is good for it I'm sure. It's easy to be their rock.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/18 11:37 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Stats: 6'4 245Lb 17%BF Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Last Week: lift 3x BJJ 2x Track macros/keto - Fail This Week: lift 3x BJJ 2x keto I've run in to this several times. When I track macros, I get too focused on food and other parts of my life go to shit. I do best when I just focus on no sugar, only carbs from vegetables. I'm going to go back to that. I've been stuck at ~245 for a few months. Goal was always 240. I think …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 02:05 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Stats: 6'4 245Lb 17%BF Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Last Week: Keto - Tracking macros with MFP. - Other than one meal, I did well. I was at a kids bday party. I need to me more present. I have slight social anxiety, and go to eating to deal with it. I need to see these situations as opportunities and challenges rather than just go on auto pilot and stuff my face. 240 - Fail. Ate well overall, but still working toward it. …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/18 02:35 PM
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Thanks for the input. I tend to diminish what she does sometimes without thinking. She does some great things that I would never consider and as you point out I need to let her lead in her way in some areas, then step in when necessary.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/18 06:15 AM
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I've been in exactly this spot with the trip. It is easy to intellectually know you will be a better person, husband and dad if you take time to do the things you want, like a guys trip. It's harder to internalize it and deal with the shit tests. Shit tests are her way of checking if you are confident in what you are doing. Be confident. Own what you are doing and how much fun you will have. She may act like it bothers her, but hiding it or tip toeing around makes you look like a bitch and pisse…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 09:48 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Last Week: lift 3x Keto - I'll start tracking macros with MFP. - Fail, got sick ate off plan 240 - Fail see above Private BJJ lesson This Week: Keto - Tracking macros with MFP. 240 Finances -Goal: Year salary in relatively liquid cash and investments along with retirement accounts and plan to retire by 55. Last Week: Keep on top of expenses Define vision for family wealth Send wife weekly stat…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 06:39 PM
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The goal isn't to not do what she wants (she pushed me here so I need to fight it). That is living in her frame. The goal is to do what you want. That is your frame. Sometimes my wife wants me to unload the dishwasher.... And I do it. I do it because it needs to be done not because she wants it done. Hopefully our goals align most of the time. When they don't you better have a solid frame.
/r/askMRP15/01/18 03:21 PM
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Having our first was when I lost whatever alpha I had. Same reasons you are experiencing. What I have learned since finding the red pill is that you need to be confident that you are an awesome husband and soon to be Dad. Do it for yourself. Read some parenting books. Tell her what you learned, discuss how you as as a parental unit will handle situations. Lead. Get ahead of her on planning the baby room. Go to Dr. visits, ask questions. Follow through on info the Dr. Tells you. Make sure she tak…
/r/askMRP14/01/18 03:42 PM
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I'm 6'4. About 15% bf right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/18 10:31 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Last Week: lift 3x Keto - I'm half assing this. I need to stop kidding myself and get back on this hard core. 240 - I weighed 243 when I woke up this morning. I'm close, but I can't seem to break that barrier consistently. See previous point. Ultimate goal weight is 230. Private BJJ lesson - These have been great. I can see progress. Something switched in me when I got my brown belt. I feel co…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 10:30 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Be my own judge has stuck out at me over the past week. I have become aware of all the times I consider what other people will think when I want to do something. These aren't big things, its literally everything I do. If I get up to go to the bathroom, so and so might be annoyed. If I pick up the heavy weight, someone might think I'm showing off. It is fucking constant. (I just thought I might be typing too loud and annoying one of my employees in th…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/18 05:09 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Be my own judge has stuck out at me over the past week. I have become aware of all the times I consider what other people will think when I want to do something. These aren't big things, its literally everything I do. If I get up to go to the bathroom, so and so might be annoyed. If I pick up the heavy weight, someone might think I'm showing off. It is fucking constant. (I just thought I might be typing too loud and annoying one of my employees in th…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/18 05:08 PM
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I'd like them to care. I believe life will go better for them if they learn how to set goals and achieve them. Kids are old enough to start taking ownership. I think setting an example by doing it and guiding them is a good way to make it normal for them.
/r/askMRP31/12/17 04:03 PM
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Thanks for the comments. I'm good at setting goals and tracking progress for myself. My question is how to elicit similar thoughts and buy in from the rest of the family. I set vision and core values family wide, but FO and the crew have some lower level personal ideas that I can facilitate or may line up with the higher level ones that I'd like to be aware of so I can support and encourage. I have lots of conversations with kids about what they like, hopes and dreams, interests. Maybe I just ne…
/r/askMRP31/12/17 02:56 PM
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Thanks for the insights, I hadn't connected the dots to the healthcare decision. Seems to be a theme for me. I'm sure I get this from childhood where the only attention I got was negative feedback. I think I expect it and it's comfortable in a strange way when I end up in that emotional state. Yes, i belong to a couple great CEO/entrepreneur groups. Will make a point to bring this issue to them next time we meet. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 05:04 PM
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Thanks, I looked at YNAB a while back, but it didn't fit my needs for some reason. I'll look again. Using everydollar, which is good but not perfect. Tell me about how dumb a vegan wallet is. I think I need to grow a man bun and start wearing capris in order to carry it. My wife is vegan so it's her little protest. I just got my hunting licence. Planning my first trip. I'll make a wallet out of a kill. I was a PHI major, but never got in to stoicism. Things keep pointing me to stoic philosophy. …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 01:08 AM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Be my own judge. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Last Week: Keto - 80% Lift 3x BJJ 1x + 1 private weigh in under 240 - Fail here. Holidays got me. I'm back on program today. Shoot to be back to 240 by next OYS This Week: lift 3x Keto 240 BJJ studio is closed this week. Will focus on lifting and diet. Finances -Goal: Year salary in relatively liquid cash and investments along with retirement accounts and plan to retire by 55. Last Week: Keep …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/17 07:08 PM
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Probably. I'm happy and doing my thing. It didn't have a positive affect on sex life (this week). But that isn't the goal anyway. I initiated last night and got a lecture on how she needs my time and attention in order to want to be intimate. I AAd, and did my best impression of OI, but she wanted to cuddle and watch a lame Xmas movie. I went and did other things. She bitched about how I only want one thing. I'm sure I could have watched the movie, then pressed the issue and gotten half assed se…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/17 04:55 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Last Week: Keto -Sort of. No major slips, but wasn't perfect Lift 3x BJJ 2x + 1 private weigh in under 240 - I hit 240 but didn't get under it. This Week: Keto Lift 3x BJJ 1x + 1 private weigh in under 240 Will be tough to get everything in this week with Xmas, but I'm committed. Finances -Goal: Year salary in relatively liquid cash and investments along with retirement accounts and plan to retire by 55. Last …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/17 05:26 AM
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Appreciate the input. This was a win. I was walking out the door for work. Busy day, needed to get stuff done. I could have rescheduled some things, but it would have caused a ripple through the day and overall productivity of my team. In the past I was so thirsty I would have done it. Also, I don't think this was her needing a dick down, it was more her firing a shot to see if I had the frame to stick to my mission. I gave her what she needed later that day.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/17 04:00 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Last Week: Keto Lift 3x BJJ 2x + 1 private This Week: Keto Lift 3x BJJ 2x + 1 private weigh in under 240 I missed a couple workouts while traveling, but weight this morning was on the low end of where I've been after workouts. So I think I'm making progress. I'm going to hit the nutrition plan hard this week and get the workouts in should be under 240 by next Tuesday. Finances -Goal: Year salary in relatively …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 07:31 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and having lead people in my life to a great reality. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Last Week: * Keto * Lift 3x BJJ 2x + 1 private - Fail This Week: Keto Lift 3x BJJ 2x + 1 private Weight is stalled. I still have ~10 lbs to lose. I've cut out all sugar and only eat minimal carbs. I fast until noon most days. I'm sure my portions are too l…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/17 12:21 AM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and having lead people in my life to a great reality. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Last Week: Keto Lift 2x BJJ 2x + 1 private - didn't get it done instructor was out of town. This Week: Keto Lift 3x BJJ 2x + 1 private Finances -Goal: Year salary in relatively liquid cash and investments along with retirement accounts and plan to retire b…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/17 03:50 AM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and having lead people in my life to a great reality. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Last Week: Keto Lift 3x BJJ 3x - Only got 1x in. Tried to schedule a private, but instructor couldn't make it work. Got my neck jacked up in a sparring session. I can't look right. Getting better every day. This Week: Keto Lift 2x BJJ 2x + 1 private Going …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/17 06:08 PM
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Thanks for this input. Sounds like a similar situation, however you handled it in an Alpha way from the beginning. I was in full blue pill mode when I had kids. I've got 40 years worth of rope for my Mom to get past, and 20 years for the wife. Made huge progress over the past year, but I have minimal contact with my Mom because she doesn't fit in to my life. It isn't antagonistic, I just don't go out of my way to spend time with her. She does however fit in with my kids. She loves them and they …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/17 05:13 PM
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Thanks. Good advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/17 06:13 AM
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You have a good point, frame needs to be applied to wife and Mom. I will get wife to chill on over controlling. But issue is the opposite of grandma spoiling them. Think forced marches and sitting at dinner table for hours until plate is cleaned. No bedtime hugs they are used to. Maybe not scarred for life problems, but there have been some things in the past where kids no longer want to be around grandma. Interested in input on how to handle in an RP way.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/17 01:32 AM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and having lead people in my life to a great reality. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Last Week: Keto Lift 3x BJJ 3x This Week: Keto Lift 3x BJJ 3x + 1 private I'm back to where I was weight wise, before the week vacation. I'm not seeing much weight loss. My diet is night and day from prior to starting keto. I've cut out all sugar. I occasi…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/17 10:46 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and having lead people in my life to a great reality. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Last week: Keto Lift 3x BJJ 3x This Week: Keto Lift 3x BJJ 3x Decided to start taking private BJJ classes with instructor in addition to 3x week group classes. Diet is going well, not seeing weight loss. I'll keep at it. Finances - Goal: Year salary in rel…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/17 04:51 AM
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Both are good with it, but it took a couple days for them to realize it was required. Good thing about flashcards, I can quiz her anywhere. So we fit it in.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/17 06:06 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and having lead people in my life to a great reality. Delayed post this week. I have been about as busy as I have ever been. Overall a good thing. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Previous week goal: Last week goal: Modified keto - Back on track here. Done about 5 pounds from last week. I'm going to stick with keto and ignore the cholesterol…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/17 02:33 AM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and having lead people in my life to a great reality. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Previous week goal: Enjoy week off Get lots of sleep - Failed here. Got to sleep earlier than normal, but hotel bed was uncomfortable, and naturally woke up too early. This week goal: Modified keto Lift 3x BJJ 3x Had a Dr. visit yesterday. Did a body compo…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 01:36 PM
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I didn't discuss further with her. She assumes I'm butt hurt. I am to a much smaller extent than ever before. I went and did something else. I want/need to live my life for me. She can't be my focus. No more blaming her. I can do whatever I want, just about whenever I want. I have found a solid amount of guy friends between bjj, basketball league, business groups, and a handful of kids friends parents that I click with. Problem for me is finding time to hang out and planning far enough ahead to …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/17 09:54 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and having lead people in my life to a great reality. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Previous week goal: Jui Jitsu 3x Lift 2x This week goal: * Enjoy week off * Get lots of sleep I'm on vacation in a tropical local at an all inclusive. Keto has been put on hold. I'm going to focus on mental health this week. My sleep has always been bad. L…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 02:16 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and having lead people in my life to a great reality. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Previous week goal: Jui Jitsu 3x - hit it Lift 2x - hit it Under 240 for morning weigh multiple days. - hit it This week goal: Jui Jitsu 3x Lift 2x Solidly under 240 Traveling for work this week. Ate on point. Proud of myself. I have not got on keto for ov…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/17 04:49 AM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and having lead people in my life to a great reality. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Previous week goal: Jui Jitsu 3x - only hit 2x, traveling beginning of week. Missed class. Lift 2x - Fail. Let my injury get me off track. Not a valid excuse Under 240 every day this week - Fail. Injury didn't allow me normal excercise routine. I ate healt…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/17 03:33 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and having lead people in my life to a great reality. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Previous week goal: Jui Jitsu 3X Lifting 3x - Only made it twice. Under 240 when I wake up next Tuesday morning - I'm on the road today, and don't have a scale. I was 241 yesterday morning when I got up. Ate great yesterday. Not sure if I made it. Doesn't …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/17 03:11 PM
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Thanks for this. I need to be aware of the covert contract in my head
/r/askMRP25/09/17 03:06 PM
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Thanks. Good input. Will focus on support in the short term and steer her toward more therapy.
/r/askMRP24/09/17 09:54 PM
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Thanks for this reply. I like this tact. I can be supportive, but clear that she needs to work it out because I won't settle for shitty sex long term. I think a little active dread will also help her get out of her head on past issues and let the hamster work on current concerns.
/r/askMRP24/09/17 09:52 PM
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Consolation prize. It would have been sad for both of us at that point in the night.
/r/askMRP24/09/17 09:51 PM
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Update - I'm going to put more short term actionable goals in each section, so I can report whether I complete them or not each week. I find myself pushing these larger goals from week to week with no short term actions. Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and having lead people in my life to a great reality. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Short Term Goal *Jui Jitsu 3X *Lift…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/17 10:41 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and having lead people in my life to a great reality. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Did great diet wise this week. Was on 100% while camping over the weekend. No smores, cookies or anything off the plan. Proud of myself for that. Hitting the gym hard this week. I should break 240 by Friday. Out of town again this weekend. Will plan ahead …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 04:39 AM
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Agreed. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/17 01:09 PM
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Thanks for the input. I failed by going against my better judgement and agreeing to sit down dinner when I know the kids are tired. Agreed. Make decision and handle situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/17 03:30 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and having lead people in my life to a great reality. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Hit keto hard. Lost ~6 pounds. Really don't have cravings. My biggest dietary F'up was eating an apple with some peanut butter. Not bad for week 1. This week is going to be a little tricky, as I'm going camping this weekend. There is always smores and its …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/17 01:39 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and having lead people in my life to a great reality. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Started keto this past week. So far have been on target every day. I used MFP the first couple days, but it became too much overhead. My OCD or something, but the fact that it doesn't easily show net carbs on the phone app, gives me anxiety. I stopped usin…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/17 09:49 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and having lead people in my life to a great reality. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Back from trip. Ready to get after it. Starting Keto tomorrow. Have recipes and grocery list as well as MFP set up for keto macros. Finances - Goal: Year salary in relatively liquid cash and investments along with retirement accounts and plan to retire by …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/17 04:07 AM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and having lead people in my life to a great reality. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Researched keto. Lots of good resources on reddit and other places. Next week kids start school and this is a great pivot point to start meal planing/prepping and go all in on keto for myself. I'm motivated. On a trip this week, enjoying it, and things hav…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 02:39 PM
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Thanks. Good idea on tracking measurements. Will check BF at Dr soon. My real goal is sub 10%. Definitely need to work on abundance. Reading models. Really good book. will help with interactions with women besides my wife and increase abundance
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/17 09:44 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and having lead people in my life to a great reality. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Frustrating week. I ate pretty well, and exercised more than normal. Weight this morning was up 5lbs. I get that it fluctuates, but this was after my morning workout, and heavier than I have been in a couple months. I suspect it is from added muscle, becau…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/17 08:44 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and lead people in my life to a great reality. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Continuing with private BJJ classes. Went off the rails a bit while traveling in terms of diet. Will get back on plan this week. Pain and body soreness have been pretty low lately. Might be that I am not actively in a basketball league (starts back up in Septembe…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 09:02 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and lead people in my life to a great reality. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Down about 5 pounds this week. Getting back on track there. I started up again with private BJJ instruction in addition to regular classes. In the past 2 weeks, I can see improvement. Finances - Goal: Year salary in relatively liquid cash and investments along wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/17 07:05 PM
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thanks, this has bounced around in my head. "self made millionaire sleep in my own damn bed"
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/17 06:52 PM
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After some reflection, im clearly not attractive enough, but i think a big part of this is too much availability and no urgency for her. I have never turned down sex. In the past i would have waited for her to finish whatever she was doing hoping for any chance to get laid. Now im the prize, she just hasnt gotten the memo yet. The journey continues. Get better and more busy. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/17 02:33 PM
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Thanks for taking the time to respond. I'm half way through an online hunter safety course. Will research rifles. I have a couple friends who hunt, and my bro in law is an avid bow hunter. He invited me to tag along, a little worried that would be jumping in over my head. Good point on root motivation, will analyze my goals.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/17 02:15 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and lead people in my life to a great reality. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. To get to 10% BF, I need to lose 25 more pounds. I've hit a plateau lately and need to change something. I'm real happy with my workout and exercise routines. Maybe that means they are too easy, but I don't think that is the problem. I need to focus on diet. I've…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/17 02:12 PM
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Thanks for the input. I guess the RP thing to do is not change my frame initiate if i feel like it. That is a work in progress for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/17 11:01 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and lead people in my life to a great reality. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Was on vacation last week, and slid a bit on eating and exercise. But this was a conscious decision and I didn't go totally off the rails as I used to on vacation. Mostly indulged in drinks by the pool and a couple scoops of kids deserts. Overall a very good week…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 08:31 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and lead people in my life to a great reality. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Starting to heal from a couple relatively minor injuries. Pulled a calf. It hasn't really stopped activites, but it has been annoying to power through. Weight has remained +5lbs. Really focusing this week on eating healthy, we are on vacation next week and I want…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/17 02:02 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and lead people in my life to a great reality. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. If I'm owning my shit, I haven't progressed here. I've put on ~5lbs because I got complacent. Was getting lots of compliments on how good I look and I let my diet slip. I started this week off well. Eating healthy. Crossfit 2 mornings and one yoga class. I'll be …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/17 02:28 PM
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Thanks for the input. Im reading models now. I have always been bad even talking to women. This is an eye opener, and slight interest in front of her grom other women will change things. Wife gets turned on when i talk about things I've done with other women. Always seemed strange to me, but makes more sense now.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 12:26 AM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and lead people in my life to a great reality. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Slipped a bit this week. Was traveling for work and although I prepped to have healthy meals, I slipped a couple times in the mid afternoon with snacks. Will dial it back in. Also, body has been very achy. Typically I power through this and I don't think that has…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/17 04:35 AM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and lead people in my life to a great reality. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free. Got several compliments on how much weight I have lost. Belt is one notch tighter. Weight is holding steady. Not too worried about the number, I must be gaining muscle. I'm visiting Dr. this Thurs. will get a BF% done. I am toying with signing up for a half marat…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 08:05 PM
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Thanks for the input. You are correct. I max out 401K, and pay at least 1k extra on mortgage each month. Budget will be based on whatever is left after savings, retirement and college funds are payed. Need to just do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/17 09:26 PM
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I initiated, after a date night. Got a hard no. She was on her phone. I hate trying to sleep in bed while she is finger blasting facebook. So i got up to go downstairs. In the past this was a covert contract, with date night. She called out that i was only leaving because i didn't get what i wanted. I wasn't being butt hurt, but there is a long history of it in this type of situation. Ended up in a argument about how i didnt give a shit if she put out or not. Whole thing was a cluster.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/17 09:23 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and lead people in my life to a great reality. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free I give myself a B on excercise and nutrition this past week. No great gains, but holding steady. Was alerted that I will be tested for brown belt next week in BJJ. Part of my journey here is parallel to my blue pill bullshit. Need to not be passive, be confident i…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 06:35 PM
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Thanks for caring ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 09:13 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and lead people in my life to a great reality. Note - There was an comment on my OYS last week that my goal above isn't measurable. Good point. I'll add measurable goals in the sections below. Health - Goal: 10% BF. Black Belt in BJJ. Live pain free Had a school event over the weekend. Got many comments, more than I can remember specifically, on how good I look, how…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/17 08:50 PM
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Thanks for the insights. I need to draw a line then STFU. Leave if she escalates further. Let her hamster work.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/17 12:46 PM
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I do. Not close, but a handful locally that I hang out with occasionally. Couple guys from BJJ and a basketball league. Certainly could use a couple more. I haven't gotten close to many dudes since going beta bitch after marriage. Been working on it last couple years. Very busy outside of running business, kids activities and gym.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/17 05:02 AM
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I curious about "fight to win". I thought the goal was to not fight, there is no winning against feelz. I clearly lost here. My logic means nothing to her. Im afraid of conflict, I know, very beta. Just hate ongoing tension and drama, so I backslide to appeasing bitch.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/17 04:58 AM
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I handled this like shit. I realized when she pointed it out that I could have handled shit better. That, and I can't yet separate she is unhappy from I did something wrong. Prob related to childhood trauma, not a good excuse, I'm a grown ass man. Need to internalize OI. So what, she is pissed. Go on with my life. Clearly not there yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/17 04:54 AM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and lead people in my life to a great reality. Health - Valuable comment on my previous OYS about sleep apnea and losing more weight. I really don't want a machine, and will push even harder on weight loss. New goal of 230. I've started using my fitness pal, and I'm redirecting some of my workout time to more intense cardio (don't freak, I'm keeping the heavy liftin…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 05:14 PM
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Thanks. Just bought on kindle. Will read and apply.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 03:40 AM
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Thanks for this. I needed a kick in the ass. 240 has been the goal, but really should start shooting for 230. Will be close to 10% bf at that point. Might mitigate the issue. I have the sleep test scheduled and will go through with it. Will be a good baseline. Dr. Says it is a chicken/egg issue. Hard to lose weight without proper sleep, can't get proper sleep while a fat ass. Will update down the road. May post as a askMrp question. Did a search and didn't find any posts in the rp forums. Thanks…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 03:34 AM
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Thanks for this. Yes. Need to analyze. Maybe stressed out isnt the right term. It was uncomfortable for me. Too much nice guy, was never given/had nice things. Making myself the priority made me uncomfortable. She clearly sensed that and went fit the kill.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/17 11:57 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and lead people in my life to a great reality. Health - Back on track. Hit a new low of 240.0 on Saturday. Under 240 has always been a pipe dream. I tried to pee out another ounce, but couldn't get there. In it for the long haul keep chugging. Dr. recommended a sleep study a while back. I'm finally going to book it. Pretty sure I have sleep apnea, but don't want to …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/17 11:31 PM
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I would have passive aggressively told her I was frustrated that her phone was more important than me and talked about my feelings and other BS. So unattractive.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/17 11:13 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and lead people in my life to a great reality. Health - Traveling last week. Give myself a B. Didn't go off the rails, but didn't exercise like I planned. No trips planned for a while, so should be able to make some gains over the next month or so. Food wise, I have been thinking about starting to use myFitnessPal again (used it religiously for a while). I feel like…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/17 06:40 AM
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Thanks for the input. Im sure you are right. Funny thing is I had the urge to go tell her about it, but decided that so BP gay and in her frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/17 12:03 AM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and lead people in my life to a great reality. Health - Body is sore right now. Everything hurts. Good sign, I am pushing in to limits. I don't mind the pain, actually like it. Makes me feel like I am accomplishing something. Diet was a B- this week. I'm traveling the next few days. Always been a week spot for me. On the road, eat whatever you want, don't exercise. …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 06:16 AM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and lead people in my life to a great reality. Health - Slipped a little. Took the family out of town for the weekend. Had a great time, but ate out too much, and killed Easter brunch. Back at it this week. Pretty sure I can get back to where I was in a day or two. From there, will run a cleanse, hope to break through the 240 barrier. Still feel great. 2nd basketbal…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/17 12:30 AM
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Thought about this, and in hindsight, I believe it was a shit test. She wanted to see if I would compromise my schedule to accomodate her. I failed and did. At the time, I felt she needed to go see the therapist, so i made it work. She did, but she could have done it without affecting me. Thanks for pointing this out. I need to analyze better in real time.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/17 01:29 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and lead people in my life to a great reality. Health - Same as last week. Hitting my low point after workouts, but can't break the 240 barrier. I'll keep at it for another week. Good week of exercise, crossfit and BJJ. Feeling really good. Parenting - I definitely leading more as a parent. I've always been involved (maybe too available in a beta way) but that is di…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/17 07:52 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and lead people in my life to a great reality. Health - Slow and steady progress. I've hit my low of 243 several times after workouts. I have not broke that barrier yet. 240 is a huge milestone for me, and I just can't seem to break it. I feel really good. Last time I did the BF analysis, I had 205 pounds of good stuff and ~45 pounds of bad stuff. When I get to 240,…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/17 07:29 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and lead my family to a great life. Health - Made progress. Hit a new weight low, but still haven't hit my big milestone of 240. Since there is progress, I'm going to keep doing what I'm doing. Getting lots of comments from people that I look good, weight loss is noticeable. I joined a basketball league and played a game for the first time since kids were born ~9 ye…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/17 02:36 PM
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I agree. They get marked tardy. Older daughter ends up with more homework because she misses time at beginning of school. She is typically ready to go on time. It is the younger daughter in preschool who won't wake up and runs late making older daughter late, which is frustrating for older daughter and unfair. No real consequences for being late in preschool. Thanks for the input.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/17 04:44 AM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments having been the best man I can be and lead my family to a great life. (Added bold this week. The previous version didn't stress that I need to be a leader) Health - Good week. Got in consistent exercise. I really feel like I'm in the best shape since college athletics. Cardio is good, and my weight is at a 20 year low. I should set some lifting goals, but at the moment I'm using all my free time wit…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/17 05:34 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments. Health - Pretty good week. I missed my goal weight by 5 pounds, but I can tell I'm gaining muscle so I may have lost body fat, which is the real goal. I will stop by my Dr. office and get BF% test done next week. Several comments from people this week on how good I look. I really feel great. Don't recognize myself in the mirror at times. I was at the pool over the weekend and felt like I was in the…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/17 05:34 AM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments. Health - Was healthy last week and back to full exercise schedule. Still 5 pounds away from my goal of 240. Need to hit that by next Tuesday. Will focus on eating healthy this week. I tend to snack late afternoon. I need to cut that out. Parenting - Wife was out of town for 3 days at a conference. Kids and I had a great time. Hit all their after school activities Thurs/Friday. Took the dog to a dog…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/17 02:29 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Look back in 50 years and be proud of my actions and accomplishments. Health - Slipped a little this week. Finally started feeling healthy Monday, so so got back in the gym in the morning, but had to travel for a couple days. Traveling is not a valid excuse, but I didn't keep the diet on point. Not horrible, but not where it needed to be. 2 weeks until 40th. Need to drop the last 10 pounds to hit my goal. Will keep on track this week. Work - Traveled for work to a co…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/17 03:00 AM
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I can see that. Need to do what i want, focus on my mission. Thanks.
/r/askMRP27/02/17 02:29 PM
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This makes a lot of sense. Thanks
/r/askMRP26/02/17 02:47 PM
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Yes, it is reading and falling asleep. 6yo is almost reading herself, so won't need help much longer, but point taken, bedtime routine could be better.
/r/askMRP25/02/17 11:47 PM
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I did. It didn't work out. I realize i was having a tantrum this morning. Stomping my feet. Fortunately it was 90% internal today. Progress. Inner bitch is a bitch.
/r/askMRP25/02/17 09:11 PM
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Thanks for this. Good thoughts and i agree. Will do.
/r/askMRP25/02/17 09:07 PM
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Great idea. I do this 2 nights a week. Good on many levels.
/r/askMRP25/02/17 09:04 PM
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Thanks. Getting it out here was better than feeling barfing IRL.
/r/askMRP25/02/17 09:04 PM
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We have kids, can't be out in the evening at the same time without coordinating sitter, which i do once a week. I'm at office all day, come home for dinner and family time.
/r/askMRP25/02/17 06:11 PM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Live so that when I look back in 50 years I am proud of my actions and accomplishments. Health - Hit long time low the end of the week last week. Really feel great. The weekend wasn't good for the diet, as I was on a weekend get away with the wife. Enjoyed some good food, but did not eat a lot of shit like I normally would when I go off the plan. But I did eat more than I should have. Feeling a bit under the weather yesterday, but still got up for 5am workout and the…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/17 09:41 PM
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Health Good week this week. I weighed in this morning at 244, the lowest I have been since Jr. year of high school. It feels great. Lots of comments lately at BJJ about how much weight I've lost and how much stronger I am. I really feel good, and honestly a month away from turning 40 I feel better than ever. Work Way too much going on. I have some HR issues with a couple employees, this is an area I really don't like dealing with. BP me tends to try to please employees rather than giving them th…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/17 12:22 AM
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Goal - Kick life in the ass. Live so that when I look back in 50 years I am proud of my actions and accomplishments. Learning - Spent some time reading WISNIFG. I'm an avid reader, but this book is slow and hard to get through for me. Will keep at it. I have found some good concepts in it. Health - Traveling again, and a bit off track in nutrition. I had a Dr. appoint late last week, and BF down from 18.5% to 17.5% since end of December. Weight stayed the same, but put on 5 lbs of muscle. Still …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 05:06 AM
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Goal - Be the best man I can be. Be proud of my actions and accomplishments when I look back in 50 years. Learning - I went on a men's retreat for 4 days out of the country to a ski area. This was great timing after a couple large arguments with the wife the previous week. I read a lot, wrote out goals and took care of some logistical planning activities I could get done online while away. The group was not RP aware, but a lot of the principles we discussed mirrored RP thoughts. Health - Traveli…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/17 11:56 PM
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First OYS. I'm committing to doing this regularly to hold myself accountable and get feedback. I have always been a high achiever in my life, but never had the tools to build the awesome relationship I want. I don't have an excuse any longer. I found MRP ~4 months ago. I've probably spent way too much time reading the sidebar and books, and not enough time doing. Part of OYS is to get me to stop lurking and start doing. I'll add background here, but lose it in future posts. Be attractive I've co…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/17 07:18 PM
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Thanks for the input. We definitely have fun. Trying to get them to do tasks without my oversight and repetitive reminders. Also, empower them and create accountability so my expectations are clear.
/r/askMRP31/12/16 11:36 PM
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This is exactly what i was looking for. Thanks!
/r/askMRP31/12/16 11:31 PM
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Thanks for the specifics. Good stuff.
/r/askMRP31/12/16 11:30 PM
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Thanks for this input. I'm trying to be as honest as possible. The ILYBINILWY get a GF talk was a long time ago, over a year at least, and it honestly doesn't stand out in my memory as a serious discussion. It was more like a "tonight im just not in to it" kind of thing. I may have suggested getting a GF after getting the "no". There is a lot of context in a 20 year relationship that can't be expressed online easily. That said, I went through an ebb in my attraction/commitment to her around that…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/16 05:01 PM
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Thanks for these insights. I may be blind to the possibility of cheating, these posts have opened my eyes a little. I'll investigate. "Lead by giving her a compelling reason to follow" is what I'm looking for. I'm only a couple months in, so my compelling reason probably hasn't registered with her yet. But it will. And in any event, I'm committed to being the best man I can be. She will either follow or not. I need to keep moving forward. Thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/16 04:54 PM
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Thanks for this. This is useful. That is what I'm looking for. How to set those expectations. I guess a clear conversation about it is the way to go. Beta me has been avoiding it.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/16 04:51 PM
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Thanks for the input so far. Some good suggestions about sitters and unpredictable get aways. At this point I'm not worried about DNA tests, cheating, or even divorce. I'm not that big of a bitch. I'm pretty competent aware of life and I'm not that guy. I posted asking for input/ideas on how to handle the evenings after work. How do I pull her in to my frame? Those of you who are masters of Red Pill, what activities do you plan with your families in the evenings? How would you handle a wife with…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/16 08:11 AM
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No, she isn't that perfect. She hasn't cooked a meal in 6 months or more. She constantly asks me to do stuff she can easily do herself, like make her a tea, or throw something away, when she is standing right next to the garbage. I've started just ignoring those requests or saying no. Sex frequency isnt great. Maybe once a week. Semi starfish. A year ago she told me she loves me but isn't in love with me, I should find a girl friend etc. That type of stuff. I was negotiating attraction. She clea…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/16 05:34 AM
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Thanks for this. I appreciate and relate. Surprise weekend trips are a great idea, and I have not done that. Always some excuse about the kids. No more of that, I'm leading. Yes, American :) and yes, by the time I get the kids to sleep, I'm usually ready to pass out myself. When the wife is out at one of her events, I can't game her, so I send her a suggestive text saying wake me up when you get home, or just finish off some emails and pass out. I need to become the prize, (this is the advice I'…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/16 05:21 AM
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I see where you are coming from. Probably some BS I still need to work out of my system. She is a good Mom. She volunteers in their classes a couple days a week. She shuttles around to after school activities when I'm not around. When she is home in the evenings, she is very loving. I think the benefits of modeling love and happiness from both parents and a strong marriage is what the kids would miss out on. If it went down the divorce path. I'm not looking to nuke it. I guess I'm just not far e…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/16 03:59 AM
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Good input. 95% sure no cheating. But I can't rule it out. I'll trust but verify. I've certainly made it too comfortable. I used to DEER with all the stuff I do when she would bitch about the dishes not put away or the garbage not taken out. No more. Logic doesn't work. More DNGAF.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/16 03:53 AM
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I suspect she didn't want to be around me because I had become a whiny overweight bitch. Looking back through my new red lenses, I can't blame her. I need to keep improving, be fun and exciting, and she will either stop wanting to be out of the house, or I'll find someone who does actively want to be around me. In terms of a Chad. I can't rule it out 100%, but so far I haven't found any inconsistencies in her stories or communications with others that weren't above board. I've snooped around a l…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/16 03:50 AM
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This is good advice! Thank you. I have a couple sitters that fit this bill, but I need to make a regular schedule with them and find more activities for myself. Right now it is pretty much BJJ a night or two a week. I need to find a basketball league or networking group to attend at night.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/16 03:42 AM
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