redditactuallysux Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
9	I can't help but feel lied to by Red Pillers. Help me understand? It sounds like you feel like your first bf "taught you" what men want. Is that right? Because if so, he was really just teaching you what HE wanted. Men, even ones who want marriage and kids, like all kinds of women. They're not a monolith, just like women aren't a monolith. You can't check off all the boxes and expect every man to want you. Love isn't a video game. I'm engaged and my partner doesn't mind when I show skin (in fact, his favorite dress of mine has a LOT of cleavage!), he doesn't c…	/r/RedPillWomen	03/04/24 09:05 PM
1	why romantic and sexual attraction are two opposing poles for me? It's ok, I'm in this subreddit purely bc I'm in a BDSM relationship lol. He is just a good person and naturally a care taker which is really important for a dom (aftercare, looking out for you in a scene, etc). Honestly I DON'T think he is naturally "dominant" but it doesn't really matter. He's confident, likes trying new things, is creative, and most of all respects me. As submissives I think we put way too much importance on finding "dominant" men and instead should just be finding someone coo…	/r/RedPillWomen	03/04/24 06:56 PM
2	why romantic and sexual attraction are two opposing poles for me? Good luck!! :) I was a lot like you so I understand totally. I ended up meeting the sweetest kindest guy who also happens to be my Dom. It's not something he has done before in a serious way, but he is great at it and loves it. We have a super fun kinky relationship. But on our first date I was soooo sure he was vanilla lol. How wrong I was. You just don't know sometimes! Personally I didn't lead with BDSM on dating sites (other than really subtle things like how I dress) and didn't talk about s…	/r/RedPillWomen	31/03/24 11:40 AM
3	why romantic and sexual attraction are two opposing poles for me? I would look into the Ask A Sub podcast. It's one of my favorite references for BDSM. It might show you that maybe what you see as BDSM is actually... not? Like you might be into BDSM, AND you might be attracted to toxic people. Listening to this podcast and/or joining the Discord could help you figure out how to integrate BDSM into your life in a healthy way, rather than using it as an excuse for your attraction to toxicity :)	/r/RedPillWomen	29/03/24 10:15 PM
8	Just broke up… why does this keep happening? Girl, I'm engaged and live with my partner and I would not have given him money before we got engaged. And I've known him in person for almost a decade! Please please never give a man money again. That is the answer to your problems.	/r/RedPillWomen	15/03/24 01:49 AM
7	Just broke up… why does this keep happening? Oof. Even if he wasn't a 100% financial scammer, it sounds like your money was a big part of the relationship for him. Btw, 4 days in person doesn't make a real relationship... Especially one involving your money. As soon as someone you're not married to asks you for money, that's your sign to cut it off.	/r/RedPillWomen	15/03/24 01:46 AM
5	Just broke up… why does this keep happening? Did you ever meet this man...?	/r/RedPillWomen	15/03/24 01:20 AM
1	Thoughts on this? When I was just 18 (I'm soon 19) after my breakup, I made a post about it & someone messaged to help etc & we seemed to have a connection but he was 30.. He treated me nicely & would of been able to take care of me but of course idk... This man read your story and saw a young woman he could take advantage of. He knew exactly what he was doing. I'm sorry this happened to you. But, you are so young, and can move on! In a few years, you won't remember him at all.	/r/RedPillWomen	29/02/24 12:02 PM
1	Boyfriend defended domestic abuse (but has not been violent). Where to go from here? This is not a man you can trust. He's hit a woman, but he would never do it to you? How does he know? You've only been together 3 months. If you do something "wrong enough", you'll be just like them. Please find someone who respects women and other human beings enough to not have these beliefs. There are so many of them!	/r/RedPillWomen	01/02/24 01:48 PM
11	Relationship advice Everyone used to be in a relationship. The only time I mentioned exes while dating is if I was still thinking about them. Red flag on my part!	/r/RedPillWomen	30/11/23 05:14 PM
1	Attempting reconciliation while keeping traditional gender roles Oh my gosh. None of that would be true. At all. If you left, you would be standing up for what you deserve as a HUMAN BEING. He has said all of this stuff so you won't leave. If your purpose in life is to submit to a man, that's your decision. But you also get to decide WHO that man is. Is it someone who treats you like shit, doesn't respect your humanity, and makes you feel like this, when you are 100% no matter what a human who is good at heart, like all of us? Or is it someone who will lift y…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/11/23 03:20 AM
2	How do you embrace your femininity? Sure. My point is there are many ways to be feminine.	/r/RedPillWomen	19/10/23 08:54 PM
3	How do you embrace your femininity? That's funny because many, many people would say that being outgoing and "fun" isn't feminine or submissive enough. I've had men tell me that-- That I am too much, too outgoing, not quiet enough lol. But my fiancé is introverted and has social anxiety, and loves that I can hold my own at a party or help him integrate into a social situation. He tells me I make him feel confident every day. I just do what feels inherently natural to me. I like super feminine clothing, I get my nails done, I keep …	/r/RedPillWomen	19/10/23 02:39 PM
1	I have a hard time feeling womanly in my own body It's definitely your attitude, critical view of yourself and your habits, and lack of confidence. No one wants to be with someone who is perfectly average but constantly thinks about how flat their butt is or whatever. It's exhausting	/r/RedPillWomen	03/07/23 12:17 PM
1	What made you come to redpill lifestyle? I'm the same! I agree with everything you said here. I'm also in a dom/sub relationship, and this subreddit & its advice helps me lean into my submission as a woman who was raised to be more dominant/masculine 😊	/r/RedPillWomen	10/06/23 11:22 PM
3	Helping BF become more of a captain- he has never had to "lead" I agree with this. What would he do if you weren't around to lead him? He would lead his own life. So he certainly can lead your life together. If you want to see if he can lead you, STEP BACK. Let go. See what happens.	/r/RedPillWomen	09/06/23 05:38 PM
26	How to get more comfortable with being naked? I started doing yoga naked with a mirror around. Lol. Sounds super weird, but it helped me see my body as just another body, the same as anyone else's 😊	/r/RedPillWomen	15/05/23 06:50 PM
–	Do HVM actually care if a girl used to party etc? If a man I was dating asked me "Did you ever do porn?" I'd fucking leave right then and there lol. The percentage of people who make porn is so small, and you're here suspicious that I once was a secret porn star????? GTFOH with your paranoid porn addict ass.	/r/RedPillWomen	12/05/23 02:20 PM
2	why ghost then Right, and I don't see it as ghosting if you've never met in person...	/r/RedPillWomen	13/04/23 02:11 PM
12	Curious what everyone here's stand is on the porn/OF industry You know that women were seen that way by men before internet porn, right? Unfortunately, cat calling didn't start when OF became popular. My stance is similar to u/ratchedangle's, and reflects most of my feelings about things that I don't like: I mind my own business, and give my energy to the people who believe what I believe.	/r/RedPillWomen	01/04/23 08:19 PM
0	Why are some women obsessed with independence? But you said this lifestyle works for her... Why does it bother you if she lives differently than you? Live and let live	/r/RedPillWomen	22/01/23 02:05 PM