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| -6 | The most embarrassing confession: I've been beta orbitting my boss for a long time now. He remains professional and doesn't read into it, isn't even mean about it. This is exactly why I like him though. Boss aside, I have a tendency to beta orbit a lot- help me stop!Yeah I'm one of those one strange random girls who do it to men- I'm femcel ugly so that may play a part on it subconsciously | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/20 04:06 AM |
| 2 | I’m redpilled but the purity culture has harmed me a lotThere’s times it hurts so much that I feel like giving back the ring and saying that I cannot go through with it. Oh. my gosh. Girly please seek help, you aren't NEARLY as "bad" as you think you are. You are 28 and it seems like you've only slept with 2 people, am I correct? To feel to bad to marry somebody, that they are better off with somebody else, all because you've had sex with 2 people in your life is ALARMING and incredibly sad. I kind of get where you're coming from because I remember t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/20 03:41 PM |
| 1 | How to handle the temptation to beta orbit your crush and the temptation to make your usual standards and rules for both him and yourself not apply in situations with him?I am actually struggling with that right now, and was going to look for some threads in here for tips. I am at an embarrassing low and I'm not sure how I got here when I was doing good for a while! | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/20 01:03 AM |
| 1 | How to handle the temptation to beta orbit your crush and the temptation to make your usual standards and rules for both him and yourself not apply in situations with him?Question, for the sake of understanding and future reference because I respect you ladies' opinion: What would be the correct thing for a man to do if he notices he is being orbitted? What do you believe a true captain's response to this would be? I ask this because you mentioned it is not selfish to cut off someone who is willing to let you beta orbit them, and I was kind of already wondering to myself "what SHOULD a man do in this situation?" Because I can see how a man may notice it but not w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/20 01:02 AM |
| 1 | How to handle the temptation to beta orbit your crush and the temptation to make your usual standards and rules for both him and yourself not apply in situations with him?Yeah every time I've been tempted to do it, I reminded myself this beforehand but I still ended up being impulsive :/ then i beat myself up for it every time | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/20 12:49 AM |
| 1 | How to handle the temptation to beta orbit your crush and the temptation to make your usual standards and rules for both him and yourself not apply in situations with him?THIS is actually very helpful! | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/20 12:48 AM |
| -1 | How to handle the temptation to beta orbit your crush and the temptation to make your usual standards and rules for both him and yourself not apply in situations with him?I love your username btw | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/20 05:32 AM |
| 1 | How to handle the temptation to beta orbit your crush and the temptation to make your usual standards and rules for both him and yourself not apply in situations with him?I've tried the cold turkey with this guy before and failed after months. Caved and we talked and have had good conversation. It's hard for me to upkeep because I like his mind and spirit so much. The thing that I find to be a contradicting paradox is, if the chemistry is real then wouldn't it just be natural to fall back into the same exact temptation to beta orbit him (as with me in this situation)? It almost feels as though the cold turkey means nothing, and what's more important is strengthen… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/20 05:27 AM |
| 0 | How to handle the temptation to beta orbit your crush and the temptation to make your usual standards and rules for both him and yourself not apply in situations with him?Okay, I'll totally take the putting it off for a while part into consideration, but why I posted was merely tips for the latter of your comment :) So, advices and tips on the working up the strength and tolerance part. I know self respect and all of the obvious answers, but I was wondering if anyone else has any tips or little "hacks" that have helped them in the past with this very thing, aside from the things that go without saying such as constantly working on your mental and emotional state,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/20 05:10 AM |
| 1 | How to handle the temptation to beta orbit your crush and the temptation to make your usual standards and rules for both him and yourself not apply in situations with him?understanding the premise ≠ having all the answers, this is obviously a post for a reason | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/20 04:59 AM |
| -2 | How to handle the temptation to beta orbit your crush and the temptation to make your usual standards and rules for both him and yourself not apply in situations with him?I think this is a terrible idea. This is a cop-out that basically enables and coddles a lack of self trust that has NOTHING to do with the other person, which is incredibly selfish to that person. It’s selfish and childish to leave them wondering why you ghosted. Why would I or anybody burn bridges that have no reason to be burned other than the fact that our very natural chemistry is making us want to execute the very natural urge to give the world and pander around people whom we’re attracted … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/20 04:26 AM |
| 1 | Dealing with those who don’t understandUnrelated to the OP, but this exact reason is why I've been ignoring the christian parts of my agnostic faith, because i am terrified that if I DO convert that i will always be a bigot to everyone :/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/20 03:20 AM |
| 1 | What are the best books you've found for weeding out your own victim mentality and codependency from the root up?Who is it by ☺️☺️ | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/20 10:46 PM |
| 1 | What are the best books you've found for weeding out your own victim mentality and codependency from the root up?😵😵 Thank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/20 10:33 PM |
| 1 | What are the best books you've found for weeding out your own victim mentality and codependency from the root up?I’ve heard good things about Byron Katie! | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/20 05:22 AM |
| 1 | I tried wearing a nightgown to bed last night, and this is what happenedWhich eucalyptus+spearmint lotion did you use :') | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/20 08:38 PM |
| 1 | What book would you recommend to the most absolutely screwed women out there?Thanks so much! Noted <3 | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/20 12:50 AM |
| 1 | How to introduce him to the RP mindsetWell put! I went on this journey myself and will probably still consider myself on it until the day I die. It’s sometimes tempting to go binate in a non-binate world, so, sometimes, we go into that temptation, be a toxic piece of shit until it hurts US, then go, oh shit- this is why I was neutral, or why I was into the other side at one point lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/20 06:57 AM |
| 1 | What book would you recommend to the most absolutely screwed women out there?Thanks! | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/20 06:09 AM |
| 2 | What book would you recommend to the most absolutely screwed women out there?Thank you for your reply and help :) book is now on the list 😌 | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/20 06:09 AM |
| 1 | What book would you recommend to the most absolutely screwed women out there?Thank you for your reply and help :) book is now on my list :’) | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/20 06:09 AM |
| 2 | What book would you recommend to the most absolutely screwed women out there?Thank you for your reply and help :) I really appreciate the genuity and empathy, I thought for sure I would get hate comments ❤️ Edit: coincidentally, I’ve actually been considering bullet journaling lately, but between anehdonia, lack of self-trust, and other things, I was scared that it may just be me coming up with yet another pseudo-answer to my problems. Glad to hear validation from RPW because I know you ladies are more nuanced and know what you are talking about :’) I came here on a wim … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/20 06:09 AM |
| 6 | What book would you recommend to the most absolutely screwed women out there?Thank you for your reply and help :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/20 03:46 AM |
| 2 | Hi! How do I stop being naive?Okay, I'm completely on board with that! | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/20 02:57 AM |
| 2 | Hi! How do I stop being naive?"Find a man who is attracted to your innocence." Nooo, that can hugely backfire! I would be skeptical of a man who is attracted to a woman's innocence, because I would wonder if he's planning on manipulating her with that innocence. It also gives big trophy-wife vibes, which, there is a shadow and a light side of being a trophy wife imo. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/20 02:53 AM |
| 2 | Unaligning Political Views!Ah! Same here- I didn't know whether we were allowed on this board or not, so I just lurked quietly out of respect. I will say, though, that though I don't believe it is a dirty word, I DO have a LOAD of internal shame after realizing that I actually... am... one of..those Good to know I'm not alone in being a blue gal who is open to a redpill guy. I find I like redpill guys more because, it shows that they a) have respect for themselves b) can hold shit down and c) aren't using reverse psycholo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/19 02:48 AM |
| 1 | Do women have completely different standards of what's appropriate and what's not depending on how attractive a man is?HOLY FUCK THIS IS SAD | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/19 07:37 PM |
| 1 | Sex is and should be validating, but if it is the only or most important thing, you are in a state of scarcity and/or mental illness.Oopsie scoodles, I haven'tupdated my user-flaire yet.. and I.. III'm not doin' it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/19 07:04 AM |
| 0 | Sex is and should be validating, but if it is the only or most important thing, you are in a state of scarcity and/or mental illness.I totally agree | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/19 07:03 AM |
| 0 | What are some things good men do that are turn off for women?I meant starting slow and escalating in more of a timeline difference, not during the actual sexual interaction. For actual sexual interaction I like a huuuge variety, so that's one thing I DO like, however pure-lovemaking seshes are great too, pure animalistic romps are great too FUCK YES GIMME GIMME, i just really need a LOT of variety to be sexually satisfied in a relationship But let me be honest about my first comment... ok I actually totally lied. What I described is what I opt for as my "… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/19 09:28 AM |
| 2 | What are some things good men do that are turn off for women?Ideally I want a bf who’s incredibly sexually timid and works his way up to domming as we get to know each other over the months/years, and I will do the same with going from timid to subbing, but he still makes love to me often it’s just that as we’ve gotten to know each other we now have crazy rough animalistic sex often | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/19 07:38 AM |
| 1 | What are some things good men do that are turn off for women?I used to think the can I kiss you thing was hot, but now the feminist movement has ruined it because now guys are just gonna be fake feminists for power play 😒 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/19 07:27 AM |
| 6 | Can men open up to women without losing sexual attraction?I would prefer my man tell me all 4 of those. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/19 11:04 PM |
| 1 | Why are there more male Feminists than female MGTOW?I’m both TECHNICALLY, but they both act like goobers Don’t be a goober | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/19 07:19 PM |
| 1 | Is MGTOW just the male equivalent of ''I don't need no man!!!''?Yes. The way they’re using it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/19 08:58 AM |
| 1 | Mental health is always unaccounted for in TRPI completely agree! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/19 07:43 PM |
| 0 | I seriously don't get how men can be happy and validated in a relationship if their wife is more sexually attracted to other men.I understand that and that makes sense. Ik a lot of girls will switch depending on the guy rather than the timeframe. I'd rather both have and be a girl who actually makes a concrete decision like "okay my hoe phase is now, and after that I may take more time to myself to either be chaste and just work on myself, or just go straight into dating, but if I do go straight into dating that doesn't mean Ohh, I'm going to do some 90-day rule shit now, because I'm not. My priority has just switched fro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/19 06:26 AM |
| 0 | I seriously don't get how men can be happy and validated in a relationship if their wife is more sexually attracted to other men.For me, I had always felt if I was a guy I'd get a huuuuge ego boost that she chose ME, despite being a high-quality woman. This would essentially trump the fact that she can get other guys and she would look/at like other guys and other guys would do the same with her. I'd feel like "still fucked tho/I'm the one smashing that ass and HE'S BETTER LOOKING THAN ME hahahahaha" I was genuinely surprised when I grew up and found out (recently, at that) that there are so many misogynists and incels wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/19 05:36 AM |
| 2 | Why does the red pill add sexism to great advice?On that same note, I've always wondered why, sexual and reproductive topics aside, hippieism is seen as a bluepill philosophy and not a redpill one. It literally IS conservative in all aspects yet isn't "categorized" as such (I know, I know, fuck societal labels, they mean nothing; It's just weird and amusing to think about.) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/19 05:54 AM |
| 1 | Why does the red pill add sexism to great advice?Yup.. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/19 06:14 PM |
| 1 | Why does the red pill add sexism to great advice?I agree completely! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/19 06:14 PM |
| 9 | Why does the red pill add sexism to great advice?Thank you so much, I completely agree with you, someone finally understands. I wish I could afford to give you platinum | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/19 06:12 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else find "alpha male behavior" to be exhausting sometimes?Alpha vs Omega, my friend :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/19 03:21 PM |
| 6 | Oklahoma, and the girl who 'Can't Say No'.I am not strictly blue-pilled and I personally think her activity is fine, but not her reasons. Regardless of more redpillers disapproving of her activity than bluepillers, I honestly thought more redpillers than bluepillers would find her reasons wrong. The way you worded it: purely cold, selfish reasons, and you maintain indifference to men's feelings while doing it What makes you think her indifference to the men's personal lives, feelings, etc etc etc (aka her not catching feelings) equals… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/19 08:36 AM |
| 4 | CMV: Sending men to jail for not paying child support is a human rights crisisAt first I was too stuck in my ego to do this, but after a couple of minutes I decided to be the first non-strictly redpiller to come in this thread and admit it: You have a valid point here. I would love to see legitimate arguments either for this or opposing this, but so far nobody in this thread wants to be simultaneously eloquent AND elaborate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/19 07:41 AM |
| 1 | Why do feminists celebrate female sexuality but shame male sexuality?I was totally thinking this, too. I try not to use tooo much absolute language for my own good, but I slip up sometimes. Unfortunately I don't have any exact statistical information on this, and this is merely speculation. (If anybody has stat sources I'd love to see them) I think it would be hard to HAVE cold hard stats, though, because of how easy it is to lie about stuff, suppress stuff, and I just learned that "paid trolls" may actually be a thing. I personally do not identify as a feminist … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/19 05:00 AM |
| 3 | Why do feminists celebrate female sexuality but shame male sexuality?I used to think this. The sad truth is a lot (if not most) feminists use it for this reason. They use it as a cover-up for their insecurity (not picking on their insecurity, just how they're dealing with it is not constructive unless it's being backed up with ACTUAL WORKING ON IT) or as a sickening justification or excuse for narcissism. I realized deep deep deep deeeep down I was only telling half-truths when I trash-talked women, because a chunk of me didn't WANT to like women after never ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/19 12:22 AM |
| 1 | Q4 All: Do you try to help your female friends avoid scumbags?Personally, I would truly listen. Edit for clarification: I wouldn't just take it and run with it. I would truly listen to what they are saying, especially if it is a male friend. I too am upset by people who don't listen, they're ruining it for people who would truly take the consideration. Thanks to these basic bitch and basic guy assholes, I could potentially be the next victim of some abuser, since people are being steered into not bothering. FUCK ALL OF YOU!!! Same thing when girls let gu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/19 12:52 AM |
| 1 | If men and women are equally sexual creatures, why are places DirtySnapchat, Dirtyr4r, and VirginityExchange so out of proportion?As a woman, I've always wondered the same thing as OP. I'm even typically hypersexual (when this depression isn't killing my libido, anyways) This explained it perfectly, thank you so much for this. What I totally wasn't thinking about, is the fact that I am not conventionally attractive, because of my low-functioning depression (I don't take care of myself.. like at all. At all.) Your chocolate analogy did it for me, ya successfully CMV :') | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/19 05:29 AM |
| 1 | Staying celibateI've totally noticed the 'transformation from unhealthy mindset and habits to healthier ones' thing in my personal life. the past few years I have been a yo-yo dieter which stems from the way I cope with emotional trauma, and if-you-will I am also a "mental yo-yo dieter" as well. I notice that when I am adopting more healthy habits than unhealthy ones, my period syncs riiight up. Whereas otherwise it is irregular as hecc. But I totally thought of casual sex as "health neutral" depending on many … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/19 06:02 AM |
| 1 | Staying celibateThank you for your response :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/19 05:54 AM |
| 1 | Staying celibateI was as well, since I had strict family growing up my sexual invalidation made me think that I wanted to be a slut when I was a virgin. After turning 18 and doing hookups, I realized I was dead wrong. Or at least, maybe I was right, but DEFINITELY not under the pretext that I was under. I can't enjoy a poppin' sex life if my priorities are jacked and I'm not a pretty damn good version of myself. I've considered webcam modelling so many times. I've dedicated years to research, made accounts, etc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/19 07:06 PM |
| 1 | Staying celibatehahaha "saves you from a grizzly bear in the woods' OMG I am totally a sucker for this kind of thing- if you treat me like an empress I will feel the need to give you the world and spoil you with whatever you want. I need to work on this, and is one of the many many many reasons I want to be celibate now (because I fear someone might come along who is a manipulator in this way). Any tips on where to start for this specifically?? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/19 06:46 PM |
| 4 | Staying celibateI'm not yet sure if this is going to be a "until-marriage" thing or not. I'm going with the flow and this is what feels right for now and for a long long long time. Due to my depression killing my libido right now, I;m getting off the hook easy; I know that when my engine gets back to revving, though, it's BAD. When I'm horny, it feels like I will go crazy if I don't have sex, and I get full of rage and wrath. Being horny is just too much for me. So, I want to prepare in advance, since I already… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/19 01:24 PM |
| 0 | Men who complain about not getting any sex, complain about not getting the validation they like to receiveI think I'd be able to do it, and I do want to exercise my gift of opening eyes and connecting to/with people [and connecting them with each other] but I am contemplating keeping my anonymity, and I feel my identity would be a huge help in the conversation... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/19 12:22 PM |
| 2 | Men who complain about not getting any sex, complain about not getting the validation they like to receiveSo many great points in this thread and sub | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/19 12:17 PM |
| 1 | Men who complain about not getting any sex, complain about not getting the validation they like to receiveExactly | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/19 12:14 PM |
| 1 | Men who complain about not getting any sex, complain about not getting the validation they like to receiveAmazing point!!! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/19 12:13 PM |
| 1 | Men who complain about not getting any sex, complain about not getting the validation they like to receiveGood point, should've noticed that one right away | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/19 08:47 AM |
| 1 | Men who complain about not getting any sex, complain about not getting the validation they like to receiveAs much as I agree with you OP, I do think the "if its only about sex, they could simply visit prostitutes" argument is invalid. Prostitutes are majorly viewed as dirty, having no morals, a breeding-ground for STD's. Even if it was only about sex, celibacy could sound way more appealing to them than burnt dick or accidentally impregnating a woman whom they presume to have no moral ground. Condoms do not prevent herpes, and condoms do break. Edit to add because I thought of something: Striking … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/19 08:21 AM |
| 1 | In an attempt to reduce false rape accusations, the UK government now requests alleged rape victims to have data taken from their phones for inspection - victim blaming or a good deterrent?Hidden information can be used for good or evil. This is something that they needed to keep silent about. By making this a silent change, they would have weeded out the probability of alleged victims thinking of ways to scurry around it, such as "I didn't have my phone, I went for a nature walk to enjoy the beautiful day/clear my head/whatever" type of excuses. With victim-blaming being a buzzword, releasing the information not only waters down the effectiveness like stated above, but also p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/19 06:08 AM |
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