redhazardlights Archive

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1	Broke up with LTR kinda regreting it now What you're saying makes no sense. Why would she, if she's "fallen for you" act the way she's acting? You need to read more. If you are really an alpha to her, she will walk on water to get to you. That's just the truth, man. Your perception that she's only dated betas may be true, but you are not really rising above the fray at this point. A woman will never "think too highly of herself" to go for a man she truly believes is the best man she's ever been with. To me it sounds like you're upset, …	/r/askTRP	22/11/16 11:20 PM
1	they took god from me, YOU took love from me, what is there to fill the void, then? You deeply need to read more and better material. The answer to the existential question is to ask more questions. To understand yourself, others, and the experiences you will have in your life: these are lifelong tasks that require empathy, passion, time, intelligence, and experience. Why should you call this a void? It is the opposite of a void. There is so much here for you. PM me if you need support.	/r/askTRP	22/11/16 11:16 PM
1	How does the lifestyle of a guy in his 30s who is "winning" in life look like to you? I agree with u/TRPdating but in the broadest sense possible: He has a job he is happy doing, he's having the sex he wants to have, and he has interests beyond both of these things. Everything contained within those parameters is personal and cannot be evaluated from the outside looking in.	/r/askTRP	22/11/16 11:03 PM
1	Broke up with LTR kinda regreting it now You think you gave up way too fast but she's never contacting you and she won't let you touch her. Something is not adding up. She was not into you. Move on. Also, consider how good you are reading people. From this post, it sounds like not very. Practice on that.	/r/askTRP	22/11/16 10:57 PM
3	Met girl at a bar, made out, shes acting really weird? She might have only made out with you to begin with because she was drinking, who knows? Maybe she just wanted attention, who knows? Who knows? The point is, she's not interested now. Move on.	/r/askTRP	22/11/16 10:42 PM
5	I'm soft. How to toughen up emotionally? I mean, you know what you need to do, no one is going to make you do it, you said so yourself. If toughening up matters more to you than comfort, you'll do it. If it doesn't, you'll remain soft. That's not a judgement, just reality. What can we say to you? Better still, what do you want us to say to you?	/r/askTRP	22/11/16 10:33 PM
5	How was age 30 compared to age 18 for you? I'm on a role answering today so I'll take a swing at this. 35 here. I only have one rule, and it extends outward like a fucking ripple in a pond, man. Do NOT get bitter. Do NOT swallow the toxic here along with the sweet. You will hurt yourself. I've seen it. I work here now to try to help other guys. I have been lucky in my life. My looks have helped me exponentially, I'm in no denial about that. I'm naturally an optimist. But I also had to learn how to understand women, like everyone here. An…	/r/askTRP	22/11/16 10:17 PM
1	How do people party and engage in all of the hedonism after college? Can anything after college rival it if you're in the USA or do you have to go abroad? They do. My tips? Life in a great city with lots going on, like music, festivals, etc, hook up with the artists if you can swing it, because they party way longer and harder than people pursuing real careers. Musicians, writers, visual artists will all party well into their late 20s and beyond.	/r/askTRP	22/11/16 10:05 PM
4	Dating someone who is not over their ex? 1) I listen. Listening isn't the same as being an emotional tampon. It's actually very different if you have a high SMV. Because when you listen to a woman talk--I mean actually listen--you will learn a great deal about her, including whether she is worth spending time with. A woman who can't get over her past will not be worth spending time with, and you can learn this from literally one date if you're observant. 2) Answer honestly but kindly. Her: "My ex thought I was really bad at chores and …	/r/askTRP	22/11/16 10:01 PM
2	How do people party and engage in all of the hedonism after college? Can anything after college rival it if you're in the USA or do you have to go abroad? Uh, you sound angry. Have you looked for parties and not found them? I honestly thought it was as easy if not moreso to party post-college because I had more money/my own place/better friends/better women and the list goes on. Your location matters, as do your friends. Try Austin, Texas and get back to me.	/r/askTRP	22/11/16 09:48 PM
4	Outside of Country Clubs, is there anything as vain and shallow as Greek Life in the adult world? Think of it like Life Phases, man. You are in a certain season of life, and in a certain culture (USA?) and in a certain demographic (college), the way these people are acting is socially accepted and even appropriate. Country clubs, while similar, aren't actually the same thing. I think you're lumping them in because you are conflating these people's socio-economic status and maybe even their ethnic demographic. But country clubs are really more about demonstrating status in a different Life Ph…	/r/askTRP	22/11/16 09:38 PM
2	Potential plate coming over Honestly, you won't know until you try it. Some women would never go over to a dudes house unless they think there's potential for something, others (maybe this one, since you said she has lots of male friends) genuinely believe that men and women can be friends. Some chicks really believe this, even when experience should teach them otherwise. But we're all at different places on the journey, eh? Advice: if you're into her, try something, but not if the risk of fucking up your social group for …	/r/askTRP	22/11/16 09:29 PM
1	What would it mean if a FWB quits, but doesn't even want to keep you around as an orbiter? I think you got dumped. The sex thing may true, it may be a line. You'll never know. Best not to dwell on it.	/r/askTRP	22/11/16 09:25 PM
1	What would it mean if a FWB quits, but doesn't even want to keep you around as an orbiter? I mean I don't know the situation, but each time I pressed you here you admitted to liking her more than in the previous response, which is fine: so you liked her a bit. It happens. But what I'm saying is just because she was sleeping with you for awhile, once things got to this point (the point where you admit you caught feelings, even a little bit) I wouldn't assume there was "no way" she could pick up on that. Women are especially perceptive of emotions and you were sleeping with her, so chan…	/r/askTRP	22/11/16 09:23 PM
1	Why do girls love shopping? Good answer.	/r/askTRP	22/11/16 09:14 PM
1	Why do girls love shopping? Historically (and probably biologically, too) women have had more of a role in the home, and improving the home has been their sphere for millennia. They used to have gardens and sew clothing. Now they buy furniture, shoes, and gourmet spices. In an indirect way it's about competition, but more pertinently, they are doing it in the same way that men (generally) like to own nice cars. Because in the past their mode of transportation (horses) were useful both practically and as a status symbol (se…	/r/askTRP	22/11/16 09:12 PM
2	Boobs vs Ass. Do I have gay tendencies? Ah. Well, sexuality really is a continuum, so it's possible that you may really really love ass, and you may even love thinking about men's asses, and you still may not be gay. So. If I were you I wouldn't worry about it.	/r/askTRP	22/11/16 09:07 PM
1	What would it mean if a FWB quits, but doesn't even want to keep you around as an orbiter? I think she is more perceptive than you're giving her credit for. I think she did sense you were getting emotionally involved, and realized that she does not feel the same way. She likes sex with you, but not enough to hurt you, or herself. This is why she doesn't want to see you anymore.	/r/askTRP	22/11/16 09:04 PM
2	Boobs vs Ass. Do I have gay tendencies? Disgust is a strong word for something that shouldn't matter to you because it has no relevance to your life. The asking of this question is confusing in light of this comment. Not trying to be a dick, but why would you ask this question if you're disgusted by gay bars? Just to feel bad about yourself if you indeed do have homoerotic tendencies?	/r/askTRP	22/11/16 09:02 PM
1	What would it mean if a FWB quits, but doesn't even want to keep you around as an orbiter? If you weren't developing feelings why did you offer an LTR? Honestly curious.	/r/askTRP	22/11/16 08:52 PM
4	Why is masculinity better preserved in minority and lower socioeconomic cultures? Your sample is not random, so yes you are in danger of extrapolating things which cannot be proven across these cultures as a whole. But I would add this: in my completely anecdotal and unprovable and unpopular (at RP, at least) opinion, men in middle class white society have used the internet to emasculate themselves as much as feminism has done anything to actually hurt them. Everybody's a victim, these days.	/r/askTRP	22/11/16 08:49 PM
1	What would it mean if a FWB quits, but doesn't even want to keep you around as an orbiter? Because she doesn't want to have an unhealthy relationship with you. If she doesn't trust herself not to have sex with you, the healthy thing to do is indeed to remove herself from the situation. Some women are in fact healthy. But what you're not telling us: why did she quit? The post makes it seem like she's the one who decided. Cause if there's other shit going on in this story, the answer may not actually be this simple.	/r/askTRP	22/11/16 08:43 PM
2	Why do girls always have that one gay friend? This is right.	/r/askTRP	22/11/16 08:33 PM
1	If you were new in a group, would you start acting completely ignoring the leader if he's being an entitled pain in the ass? What is the alternative? If you are the person you say you are, you really have no alternative. Right? You will continue to not suck up to him, and these people will either become friends with you because they like you better, or they will not because they're getting something from him that you're not giving them. And you should be fine either way, because if he sucks that much, why in the hell would you hang out with them?	/r/askTRP	22/11/16 08:32 PM
3	Why do girls always have that one gay friend? I'm not going to get into this "women always have a motive" toxic RP thought process because apparently most people here are too daft to realize that men always have a motive too, and having a "motive" is the human condition, bro, and not an indictment. But to answer: women often like being around men. For many reasons, from the personal to the societal to the intrinsically human. Women also don't always want to fend of the sexual advances of men, even if these men are betas who just sadly look …	/r/askTRP	22/11/16 08:25 PM
2	How to live like girls don't matter The answer is time. You think about girls all the time because you're 17. It's not rocket science. Also no one at 17 has had a "proper" relationship. But to answer your question more fully, have interests beyond women. Make sure those interests don't make you a shut in (NOW is the time develop strong habits regulating the amount of time you spend playing video games, looking at porn, reddit, etc. If you don't do it now, you're in danger of getting sucked down the vortex if you crash or hit a rea…	/r/askTRP	22/11/16 08:14 PM
1	Girl i'm trying to plate answered this Uh she may not be "going with someone else," she may just not think you were great in bed, e.g. this is why she is not jumping to come back over to your house. Bottom line: If she wanted more, she'd have suggested another time/place. Let her be, dude.	/r/askTRP	22/11/16 08:03 PM
1	I have zero friends and a lot of inner turmoil Yeah, you seem like you communicate well via writing. But obviously that's not translating IRL, although from this description you sound quite socially able. Honestly I think your problem may just be follow-through. It sounds like you are social, can meet people, etc. But everybody's busy, man, especially in your mid 20s. People are working/traveling/dating, so you really have to push people sometimes to get through to them. I don't mean be pushy because that would be weird. But since you're goo…	/r/askTRP	16/11/16 11:02 PM
1	Why don't more women trade for resources? But actually it's incredulity because of these obtuse answers but sure, bitterness it is, bro.	/r/askTRP	16/11/16 10:54 PM
6	I spend way too long in the denial and bargaining phases that I become paranoid and bitter for any Red Pill. Listen, your problem is that you are resistant to the simplistic way that RP "truths" and "values" are spoon-fed to dudes who are way less introspective than you appear to be. There is a culture here, with upvotes as rewards for saying the most alpha thing. Everyone trying to out-alpha each other, and IMHO it's pretty hilarious, when it isn't sad. Which it is, most of the time. That said, RP contains kernels of wisdom. Except, it's not really "RP" that contains anything. RP is just a way for men…	/r/askTRP	16/11/16 10:20 PM
2	Need help studying effectively guys (STEM)(Healthcare field) Study harder. If you put the time in and are still not getting the results you want, this field may not be for you. Accept it and move on. Not everyone can do everything. Are you pre-med? Because if so this is even more true.	/r/askTRP	16/11/16 09:52 PM
1	Are red flags from years ago still relevant? He didn't say he was going for her, he asked a general question about red flags.	/r/askTRP	16/11/16 09:46 PM
4	I have zero friends and a lot of inner turmoil I'm going to answer you but first I want to know a couple of things: 1) Did you have friends in high school/college? If so, what were they like? 2) Have girls ever showed any interest in you, and if so, when? 3) In your honest opinion, what if anything do you do to cultivate friendships?	/r/askTRP	16/11/16 09:37 PM
2	How to deal with girls that say "sex was too rough" the next day? And what do they really mean? You're almost certainly crossing the line from making them play-afraid to really afraid. They dealt with it in the moment because that's how women roll, but after they leave they dislike that ambiguity and become uncertain if they want to allow it again. They apparently want to want keep having sex with you (hence the text instead of never hearing from them again), which is a pretty good sign though. Most women want to feel like you could hurt them without ever thinking you really will. There's …	/r/askTRP	16/11/16 09:26 PM
5	Are red flags from years ago still relevant? I tend to take a more generous view of the female nature than many here, but this may be because I'm in my mid-30s. In my experience, people can change. If they want to. This is the caveat. People rarely want to. Since you said you're not looking for quick answers, let me elaborate. The answer to your question lies in the woman's motivation for change. Can people ever recover from being alcoholics? Of course they can. Can people overcome shitty family situations? Of course. Do 2nd marriages tend…	/r/askTRP	16/11/16 09:16 PM
1	Need woman advice. You got it. And actually don't care.	/r/askTRP	16/11/16 08:24 PM
3	Why don't more women trade for resources? Actually, I do like the question. I'm trying to give a more informed answer because the answers in general here, while perhaps just angling to be the "most alpha," are just generally reinforcing what I think is the worst part about RP, which is that it makes women into the bad guy. WE are responsible for ourselves, right? Maybe a person has to be over a certain age to actually understand that, but I cringe when I see young guys here getting fed angry bullshit. I have no problem with RP, it's the…	/r/askTRP	16/11/16 08:22 PM
1	Why don't more women trade for resources? Just a tip from someone who's been around the block. No matter what people on the internet say, in real life most women really do have the good intention of being valued for their whole selves. This can and almost always DOES include sex/looks for women, because they're not stupid and they realize they get validation this way, certainly more than they could ever want. But most women do not personally define their self worth entirely because of these things, and thus I answered your question. You…	/r/askTRP	16/11/16 08:15 PM
0	Why don't more women trade for resources? This is so dumb.	/r/askTRP	16/11/16 08:06 PM
5	Need woman advice. This is an easy one. You are right (in general) to think men and women can't be friends. They can, but it's not the same kind of friendship people of the same sex have and it's also not devoid of sexual tension. BUT this doesn't mean anything will ever happen between the two of them. However, I do not have female friends and my wife does not have male friends, and we agree completely that this is how we want to keep things. So. All of the options you mentioned are dumb, but the last one isn't ba…	/r/askTRP	16/11/16 08:01 PM
14	Why don't more women trade for resources? I can't believe I have to say this because it seems incredibly obvious, but it's because most women do not like to think that sex is the only thing they have to offer. It makes them feel like shit. And, frankly, unless you're a) a teenager b) stuck in anger phase or c) both, it isn't the only thing they have to offer. In conclusion, unless you're boring-ass dickwad who can't carry on a conversation that isn't about video games or the gym, plenty of women have plenty of interesting things to say.…	/r/askTRP	16/11/16 07:50 PM
1	How do you stay loyal to a girl? You "get bored" with a hot girl after one or two times? Literally? Are you a total narcissist? Because if so nothing we say can help you, and also you probably don't want help, this post is just a humblebrag. Attention seeking blah blah. But. Benefit of the doubt? You aren't letting anyone in. So of course you get bored, nobody knows who you really are so you never feel understood, so every girl is just the same to you. Just so you know, they're not all the same. You say you love LTRs because of…	/r/askTRP	15/11/16 09:22 PM
2	Why you might be wasting your time with Tinder Well I guess but what I was actually objecting to were the value judgements passed off as argument. I'm just saying that people will take you more seriously if you don't add things like "Talk about a lack of imagination/creativity/ambition." It really isn't communicating anything useful except "girls suck amiright." In a general sense, a persuasive post like this will be more convincing to more people if you base your conclusions on facts and not opinions.	/r/askTRP	15/11/16 08:55 PM
1	What should I do about my friend's behaviour? When you hold very very contrary views to those you associate with, it's perhaps best to either not mention them, or find a group of friends who is more sympathetic. Unless you can genuinely not give a shit, which is harder than it seems. I went to grad school with a guy who was the "token Republican." He was very smart and articulate, moreso than many of our colleagues. And there were a few of these colleagues, both women and men, mind you, who respected his well-reasoned, well-researched argum…	/r/askTRP	15/11/16 07:06 PM
6	What should I do about my friend's behaviour? You can be an alpha and believe in those things, I hate to break it to you. If, in your social circle, those values are more acceptable, then the dude who holds them while still being better on all other fronts (looks, money, physique) will come out on top. Here's a hint: if you're good at life, you will sense what you should and shouldn't say to the people around you. So in a sense, your friend is the alpha because he knows what to say to your other friends and you, clearly, do not. What's more…	/r/askTRP	15/11/16 06:42 PM
1	Why you might be wasting your time with Tinder This is okay, some good ideas here (I agree that Tinder is a bad idea for most men) but you're really making some insanely broad generalizations that make me thing you don't have very much experience with relationships in general. For instance: if they get on Tinder when they're bored and single they either are just as horny as you (maybe) or their lives lack serious substance if that's their remedy for bored. Talk about a lack of imagination/ creativity/ ambition. Why is this boredom remedy inh…	/r/askTRP	15/11/16 06:28 PM
2	Girlfriend is mad at me but still investing . All that could be true. But he qualified the sex drying up with the sickness/period thing and also she has not stopped doing the other things for him that she does, e.g. cooking cleaning letting him live nearly full-time at her place for very little money. I don't know how old you are, but the "cut and run she's a gold-digging cunt" attitude seems to be one that generally young guys have. It's good advice sometimes. Maybe this time. But other times it takes people awhile to negotiate the ins and…	/r/askTRP	15/11/16 04:55 PM
2	Girlfriend is mad at me but still investing . Not if they don't have any money they won't. I'm not saying he should give her a ton of cash. But he's living there a good chunk of the time, or at least that's what I got from the post. Being alpha is not ripping people off dude. If he wants to chill with his mom from here on out (btw, he has his own apartment but he goes to his mother's instead? I don't get it) that's cool.	/r/askTRP	15/11/16 04:39 PM
1	Getting into my head as I read more RP Be interested the person speaking, not necessarily what they are saying. Why are they saying it? What makes them think this? Etc. Everyone's worries are pretty much the same, but their personal stories are not, and that's where you should be getting engaged with people. Women, men--everyone is interesting if you are interested in what makes them tick.	/r/askTRP	15/11/16 04:13 PM
1	Girlfriend is mad at me but still investing . Dude, she feels overwhelmed by something, who knows what? Sickness, money problems, her period, everything. She is expecting you to step up and help her because she thinks you two are "in it together" or at least that at this point you should be in it together. Her cooking and cleaning etc for you is her attempting to demonstrate the ways she is "in it together" with you. She sees your money-mindness as a lack of generosity generally, which makes her annoyed with you. She feels that she is doing…	/r/askTRP	15/11/16 04:02 PM
1	I have a difficult time creating interesting convos with women... But you're never going to sleep with women until you like yourself. Why would they like you if YOU don't? You can't trick them. I mean, maybe some stupid ones for like a night or two, but where does that get you? I'm honestly not trying to be a dick but I just see all these floundering posts in this sub, and it's just like...the answer is so clear. Women are the problem or the solution. The problem is your self-paralysis, your low-self-esteem which appears from your post to be based on the idea …	/r/askTRP	14/11/16 05:53 PM
1	I have a difficult time creating interesting convos with women... Stop using Tinder: if you're not as visually attractive as the girl you want, you're not going to get anywhere. No one will find you interesting if you don't even find yourself interesting. Why would they? I mean, listen to yourself. You just said that there's no reason for you to wake up happy. The longer you wait to change your life, the longer you will be waiting on women to make the first move. And there are very few women who find that attractive. Take a trip. No money? Sell your shit, take…	/r/askTRP	14/11/16 05:47 PM
1	Anger phase Idk, do you act the way you act because you're really, really, really out to confound and annoy and confuse and generally cause women grievous annoyance with your inability to be what they want? No? You say you act the way you do because you can't help it, because society is the way it is and you are a part of society? What's there to be angry about, then? It's just like that, but for girls. If you can't cut them the same slack you wanna be cut yourself, you're never gonna get anywhere.	/r/askTRP	14/11/16 05:37 PM
11	Am I slightly Autistic or something? It seems like you have pretty debilitating social anxiety, and have for most of your life. Idk if that's "beta" so much as it's something you have to deal with IF you want a different life. Do you? Doesn't really seem like it. If you do, get off the computer, take away the things you use to comfort yourself when you miss one of these opportunities. If the option is to either go out, or stay home looking at a blank wall, which would you choose? If it's still the blank wall, you probably are in ne…	/r/askTRP	11/11/16 07:32 PM
1	Worst date ever compounds dry spell Just gonna say this, writer to writer. All writers are some flavor of crazy. Male or female. The men tend to be "moody," ruminating alcoholics who are sometimes fun when they're drinking but shit to hang out with generally. And spoiled. The women of course are flaky, spoiled and easily offended. And alcoholics. And then of course both sexes are on so many pills. I am in my 30s and have been doing this for nearly 15 years, and pretty much every successful writer I know is some version of a spoile…	/r/askTRP	11/11/16 07:22 PM
1	Daily logs have revealed huge problems still exist - How do I fix them? You obviously don't want to work hard. People who do, do. People who don't either make excuses (which you're not really doing, so good job) or they accept themselves as they are. You should accept that you're not driven in the ways that you are pushing yourself, and then attempt to find the thing (if it exists) that DOES drive you to work hard. Obviously this is not finance or your school work. Saying "I'm going to be an investment banker when I grow up" doesn't make it true and it doesn't mean …	/r/askTRP	11/11/16 06:35 PM
1	Was a man cave, now its a rabbit hole. Is this affecting my hormonal profile? How do you stay masculine in a relationship? Forcing her to give them away is poor response, unless he personally hates them, which judging from the post it doesn't seem like he does. He should just make her take care of them. Point blank. They're hers anyway. Asking her to take care of her own responsibilities is a much more effective way of commanding her respect. Making her give them away will either cause her resent him, or worse, disrespect his judgement. An expanded man is fair and unruffled. Isn't your place any more, it's "our" pla…	/r/askTRP	10/05/15 08:12 PM
1	Was a man cave, now its a rabbit hole. Is this affecting my hormonal profile? How do you stay masculine in a relationship? Idk, some studies suggest that even sleeping next to a woman lowers your T. Are you going to stop doing that too? She'll respect you if your attitude demands respect. The rabbits are hers, so she should be the primary caretaker. It's fair and honest. The only time you do it is when she is out of town or sick. There's no reason to make her give them away, she'll resent you and its an insecure and dick move if you actually don't mind them as long as you're not taking care of them. What is so hard …	/r/askTRP	10/05/15 08:07 PM
1	How long do I spend with her after sex? Stay as long as is enjoyable for you. This isn't hard. If you want to be calculated, in the future stay different lengths of time with the same girl. One night sleep over. Another night leave right away. Don't lie about it. Tell her what you're really going to do and mean it (I sleep better in my own bed, I have this thing I have to finish, I'm getting a cold blah blah). Next time, stay for a couple of hours. She'll never know what to expect, and it will probably make her want you more. If you'r…	/r/askTRP	10/05/15 01:36 AM
1	What to do when you're looking for a LTR, not to spin plates? Ideally, begin by meeting her at a place that is interesting to both of you (a class, a performance, a sports game, a bbq, whatever). Are her interests interesting to you? Are yours interesting to her? If not, you'll get bored. I speak from experience. Does she fit your physical ideal to the degree that you've determined is necessary for your happiness? If not, look elsewhere. It won't get better. Does she seem kind? A kind woman is much better than a nit-picky one. You can tell this pretty quic…	/r/askTRP	10/05/15 01:19 AM
2	Anyone else paranoid after reading TRP? Paranoia is unattractive. If you feel those things, at least keep them to yourself in social situations. If you want to lead a normal life, pay attention to what happens to the normal people around you. Are most of your friends getting hit with false rape charges? Then maybe the girls in your circles are rape-charge happy. If you tell me none of your buddies have, then I'd guess odds are you're going to be fine. Exceptions exist, but don't expect them. It'll wreck your bliss, man.	/r/askTRP	10/05/15 01:01 AM
-1	Date is going great and then... I guess you didn't pass them if she left. Recalibrate, maybe. Also, 31 is kind of old to not even be done with law school. Don't know that your value is that high unless you have facial aesthetics to match your body. Hard to say though. She may try to contact again. Sounds like she had her own script and your game didn't match it. Or maybe she does think she can do better. 31 seems quite old to some younger girls, in my experience.	/r/askTRP	10/05/15 12:51 AM