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Hmm... nothing? I mean, these are the normal, non-neurotic types of men who mostly have hobbies and a healthy outlook on life and are minding their own business. What are they supposed to do?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 08:35 PM
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Maybe, I am definitely more lenient with that, too. It's not like ideal or anything but this isn't a deal breaker by any means when there are other things I find attractive. I can't really say why, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 08:32 PM
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I am not sure where you are seeing fact when it's about the OP's view on three women where there are basically absolutely no facts known, but you do you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 08:21 PM
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one woman is on a premium dating site, And she is maybe not looking for a committed relationship but just ons and fwbs, and that is only when we assume OP knows much about her private life (which he actually doesn't). the third has been in a series of relationships which doesn't tell us anything about her marriage goals or whether or not she has decided relationships aren't for her. A woman wanting a child does not automatically mean she is desperate for a man either. The OP's view is clearly in…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 07:57 PM
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Everyone of these guys is hyper muscular. No one seriously thinks that this is what a "skinny guy" or a "dead bod" looks like. Are you just posting these things to convince yourself your pre-existing ideas are right and it doesn't matter how many women tell you otherwise?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 04:47 PM
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Outing myself hard but in hindsight I am very sure I gave off some very deseperate, needy and stalker-ish vibes. Oh, and I am not hot, you know (pretty sure that wouldn't have been as bad otherwise).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 06:38 PM
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Aww, you're so cutely innocent
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 04:04 PM
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I was getting all angry at your and thought you were an insufferable buy like most guys here on ppd, tuns out you are just an insufferable woman
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 09:39 PM
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Seeking to date men - yes and probably-also-yes-if-not-too-extreme with the right personality and if I found other things attractive about him.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 05:19 PM
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This is definitely understandable and also the reason why I/women are looking for a relationship (self-evidently). However, it doesn't explain why there is such a huge gap of satisfaction when it comes to single men and single women, because normaly, you would assume they are unhappy at the same rate. Men, however, seem to be more dissatisfied with the single status (or so it seems on this sub).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 09:37 AM
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I was thinking about groups that are building around hobbies, tbh. Like clubs or meet ups or something like that. But also, even friend groups usually consist of people that have a similar lifestyle and oftentimes similar hobbies.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 08:01 AM
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There are quite a few social interest groups that are open two all genders, yet are predominantly female just because their hobbies female-dominated. Guys are a very welcoming change there and if you are okayish looking and with your social skills, you can quickly become the king in that group.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 07:59 AM
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It definitely translates to physical attraction; no idea how that works physiologically. Men are more visual than women (now I am also starting with these tedious generalizations.. sigh), so some of the men might not feel the same way about attraction. But less attractive women becoming more attractive in the eye of a man due to personality definitely is a thing, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 07:08 PM
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"validation" definitely is a thing I can understand. I would say it's also very high on my list why a romantic relationship counts as a big bonus to me. My friends and I are very huggy and that alike, so are my parents. So I'd say I'm not touch starved. Many wouldn't be either if they were to change their relationship with their male peers, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 04:33 PM
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True. Because that would be.. gay, you know /s
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 04:18 PM
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So you say you don't need to share your feelings with your girfriends either? At least that makes sense, but other have mentioned that this is the reason they are seeking out a partnership. What exactly is it that makes you want to be in a relationship, if I may ask?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 11:28 AM
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That's sounds like "reproducing" is the primary driving mechanism behind you looking out for female companionship. Yes, I know that you are talking about "biologically wired" and "underlying evolutionary mechanism" or whatever bs the so-called trp community comes up with. But I am talking about factual and practical reasons why men want a a relationship nowadays. They aren't seeing women and thinking "omg hopefully she will bear my ten children because I desperately want to reproduce finally." I…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 11:12 AM
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okay thx I'm convinced now
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 11:08 AM
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That is not what emotional cheating is, though. Most liberal-minded people have no problem with their so having friendships with people of the other gender they are also frequently opening up to (and I know I'd have a serious problem with my boyfriend if he would suddenly ask to drop all my male friends and to not talk about emotional stuff with them). In our circle this kind of mindset would be branded as toxic jealousy or something. Emotional cheating is something of a washy concept but it usu…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 10:44 AM
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That's sounds incredibly selfish and unhealthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 10:40 AM
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That's not sad It is, though, because that seem to be an incredibly big motivator to lots of guys to get a girlfriend, apparently. If you'd be okay with these things lacking in your life ("I don't need to tell my feelings to anyone, I can deal with them on my own"), you wouldn't need female companionship in the first place, would you?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 10:40 AM
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I think you are making a mistake many participants of this sub are very guilty of - projecting your preferences onto your whole genders. Sure, there are men who few female and male friendships that differently and want to stay it that way (particularly, more traditionally-minded guys, obviously), but that's not the impression I got from my male friends. Or maybe it tends to be this way, but many men told me "and that's why I like having female friends - there are some things lacking fith my guy …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 10:37 AM
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Is there a way to explain this better? I mean, if you have lots of very, very good platonic friends then, of course, they can't replace a romantic partner completely, but I'd think it's incredibly close. Why doesn't that get close to lots of men (or men that are writing here at least)?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 10:31 AM
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I am someone who needs lots and lots of information about that person, with photos being one of the least important ones (albeit not completeley irrelevant). Old Okcupid was nearly perfects in this regard, because it had an extensive questionnaire and people were writing longwinded essays on their profiles. So a perfect dating app for me would, in theory, make sure that only people dedicated to this same approach would participate in it. So basically not allow for one-lines and empty profiles. A…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 09:17 AM
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The first "Wow, I must say, I am very flattered. I just have to say, I simply don't see you that way." "It feels a bit ironic that I am doing the rejection here in our constellation. But for some reason, I just don't see you that way, even if most women would probably be thrilled by your proposal. I am, too, to be honest. It's just that I don't feel like we're a match." "I'll have to say your question is really tempting and in other circumstances, I propably would have said yes. But ultimately, …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 08:14 AM
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Not at all, no I’ve had several dates where women tell me they didn’t feel a spark or flat out ghost me and when I’ve expressed my surprise they elaborated that they didn’t think I was that interested… I hate to say this, but it sounds like an excuse. Even more shameful - I think I've said similar things before when I wasn't really honest to myself and that guy. There is, however, a sign of plain desinterest that is super offputting. Not if you are absolutely desperate for that guy and all over …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 06:39 PM
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You are talking in a agitated and offended tone towardss comment that merely pointed out that comparisons schould make sense at least a tiny bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 09:34 AM
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She is a younger women herself, which means that your correct analogy would have been "as a homosexual, I don't get the homosexual men like dicks" dynamic. Is elementary logic so hard for you all here sometimes?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 05:58 AM
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While I agree that getting "straight to the point" is necessary sometimes, I would say it's not how most human interactions worked for millenia (and somehow we still survived and made babies). There are many instances in which being ambigious and not direct in your approach is the better option - whether you are male or female. For instance, when you are flirting with your coworker, but you don't want to straight up ask him out because his rejection would be downright awkward for both of you and…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 05:32 PM
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Questions that start with "imagine.." or "in a hypothetical scenario" are kind of weird to me, if not a bit offensive. Do you all honestly assume that women don't hit on men? Why are so few women here protesting this assumption? Is reddit or ppd so scewed towards the socially awkward that women here barely do this..? Anyway if no signs or IOI's worked But this is kind of important, isn't it? Usually, when you're interested in someone, you watch out whether or not exe contact is possible, whether…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 03:41 PM
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Do women secretly know specifically why they don't like their attractive friends? The way you frame these sentences tells me you have a pretty black-and-white thinking on that matter. None of the women here said they don't "like" their friends they find attractive, but you are using that word. Probably because to you, it is still somehow "offensive", or maybe not worth anything if a woman is not absolutely over the moon for you. But things like "she/he is totally attractive looking, has a great …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 08:41 PM
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OP, this post shows how disconnected guys in this sub are when it comes to the average real-life experience of women. Everything you are mentioning is somethign I am going through as a woman. I do not expect most guys I find attractive to like me back, I do follow interests and hobbies only few men get excited about and if there are some that I have much in common bit they are certainly not chossing me among the hundreds of others they chould choose. Rejection isn't some foreign concept to us bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 04:02 PM
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I would absolutely prefer some sort of "blind date" approach to "normal" dating apps (who are absolutely off-putting and frightening to me as of now, but desperations creates actions and all that so who knows for how long). The "social vetting" aspect - as in, having someone vouch for that guy that he is alright and all - is something that is very valuable. Of course, there needs to be at least some level of attraction, but many women (myself included) have a very emotionally flexible way of fee…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 03:26 PM
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Nice try, but you just need to read all the commetns from women who are totally open to it and all the comments from guys here who are ridiculously afraid because she could be unattractive or obese.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 03:13 PM
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Many, many, many times. My "tolerance" for physical attributes outside of the things I find attractive seems to be pretty huge, as it seems. drawn into a man based on his personality, whom had no RPQ's you seem so weirdly autistic about your description - why do these things need to be "RPQs", why not simply "did you find men attracitve you usally don't find attractive/you didn't like at first" or something? Anyway... what drew you into him Hard to pin down. I have a huge thing for intellectual …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 08:30 PM
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Not to say you're lying, but that even if it's something you see that's common to your daily life, it isn't to a majority of men. Why do you assume the comment is the exception and your bubble is the rule? This is a perception bias and the same you claim this commentor has. Maybe your group of friends are outsiders and a bunch of ners whether the OP socializes in "average" circles. That seems to be the case with men and women here, tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 08:16 PM
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A very harsh pill to swallow for us but also the correct answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 04:09 PM
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They weren't into you after the first date. They were just pretending (at worst), or (rather) were unsure and wanted to give it a second chance to make sure. None of that is a 180, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 09:37 PM
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Reading these comments was a bit depressing, to be honest. Far too many women still say "I never approach", which, in the best case scenario, might be because reddit attracts introverts and rather shy people and therefore women, but it's still depressing. I always say how men here are delusional it's super normal for women to approach or to at least do some serious advances, but this thread doesn't show it's the norm, actually (then again, maybe it depends on where people live here?). In my cicl…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 04:45 PM
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I do not know whether the amount of personality disorders such as narcissism are particularly high hear (very likely, actually) or whether this is just fan fiction, but I can't count the amount of comments here that were along the lines of "I am super attractive/easily a 8.5/10/I have everything a woman wants" followed by "and yet I am a virgin/I don't get any matches on tinder" etc. And I am not sure I know of anyone in real life who is attractive whoc can't get laid on a pretty regular basis. …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 07:07 AM
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They probably mean they wanted to make sure the person was slim..?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 07:39 PM
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It depends on the level of wilful deceit, I assume. Angles and lighting can make you look better without the person actively trying to deceit someone (I know from myself that this is true for me); the other extreme is someone using ten year old photos in order to look younger or something (and prey for younger girls, if we are talking about clichés here). Filters are a bit of a weird thing because usually, you can at least see these are filters and I would not even remotely consider someone who …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 07:38 PM
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Thinking I would not be able to carry them How is that even relevant? (assuming this was true, which it likely isn't) - are they that conerned about unique once in a lifetime unique emergency situation in which you have to carry them out of a burning building or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 05:51 PM
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When I dated a tall guy people always said we looked "funny" together so I guess this opinion isn't unsual. I don't mind how ridiculous that looks to people, though;p
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 05:49 PM
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Do you expect a man to pursue you? Of course not. We are living in the 21st century and I am living in the West, it is not the man's job anymoe Approximately how many times have you asked a man out on a date first? I can't possibly answer this because I do not keep track of something like that (do you? Do you remember how many times you've asked out women?). I think it's also a far too complex of a topic. At least where I live the concept of asking someone out isn't as direct as some people make…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 05:01 PM
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I don't have such a strict and normative opinion over this - if my son or whoever would find a girlfriend whom he dates long-term and then decides to marry her then who I am to judge and why? Because he would be missing out on other experiences? Actually, finding your wife in your first girlfriend would be an unbelievably lucky and rare occurrence, so it's highly unlikely to happen, but I don't see why this should be bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 11:54 AM
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Most traditional men (not trp or ppd men here, mind you) are marrying one of their first girlfriends and live a monogamous life with her. I suppose this is what the comment meant.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 09:52 AM
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You are living with a lot of assumptions and abstruse theories in your head. I feel like you are suffering from this halo effect as well, without questioning your biases. There is nothing that proofs how more attractive women are less likely to suffer from mental or personality disorders. You don't know them and you have no idea how secure, happy or depressed they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 09:49 AM
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I think you are conflating a few terms. If someone approaches you first, that means someone is already interested in you, so of course there is a difference in that and someone whom you have to approach first. OP is speaking about "chasing" guys that either are or pretend to be hard to get and how this whole chasing game is supposedly allurig to these women. This, of course, is bollocks.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 09:47 AM
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If I have to "chase" a man (note - not to be confused with asking him out and doing the first step) then yes, he comes off as high maintenance and very annoying, and thus off-putting after a while. No one likes people who like to play games and pretend to be better-than. I have no idea where your theories about women always come from, but they are always ridiculously wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 09:34 AM
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He is asking this question at the bottom and explains his self-esteem that hardly affect this topic at the very top
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 10:03 PM
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a lot of them probably believe their FWB makes them “in a relationship” while the guy does not think of it as such. This is also a bitter fact that plays into that, sadly. I also knew these players in my broader circle of friends/acquaintances and I am pretty sure they wouldn't have called their "situationships" and "girlfriends" in their open relationships girlfriends at all. Not sure it was the other way round for their "girlfriends", though
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 06:56 PM
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I mean, even if these stats were real then non-commitment and "content being single for now" seem like two plausible scenarios in which guys wouldn't "suffer from loneliness" or something, doesn't it? Also, weren't these stats showing that there are almost just as mnuch women being single?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 06:53 PM
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Ive mentioned my material conditions before, and I went to a technical college because I live in a factory town, and I learned how to repair machines. T I think this is your "problem" here - you are in the wrong social circles and most of them are found in college and in liberal art schools, not so much among other working-class people (ironic, I know). Don't give up hope, OP. You just need to find your people. Many of us would appreciate such attitude and interest in politics :)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 04:11 PM
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It's not atypical at all to call yourself a socialist or communist in Europe; and again, there are more women than men identifying as communist/socialist here, it seems. I definitely don't see a shortage of these people on OLD
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 04:09 PM
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I do believe you when you say meet ups are filled with men, but I woudln't believe men are so desperate/creepy enough to attend hobbies they are totally not interested in only to hit on women. I also hear that yoga classes and dance classes are almost women-only groups in our area despite men being welcome there, too. I am not even saying you have to attend these because, in the end of the day, you shouldn't force yourself to go for an activity you don't like. I am just saying that there are cle…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 08:01 AM
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Ive had men here on reddit, go on my profile, send me dms, and say that because im a "leftist" that this is what is keeping me from ever having sex, and that women want... "real men" (...) I have no idea which right-wing edgelords are saying this and perhaps okcupid has been a niche dating site itself back then, but your views seem pretty normal and average for an educated middle-class demographic to me. Far more women are liberal/left-leaning than men and many of us are specifically looking for…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 07:58 AM
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Sorry but did you try telling me that there were more guys in knitting than women? These attempts are getting a bit more ridiculous day by day..
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 07:41 AM
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That doesn't contradict what the OP said necessarily. They have no circle, thus they aren't in circle that match their interests. You are right though that most guys who are hardcore struggling are also guys who lack social connections in other areas.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 10:22 PM
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The culture is that mixed friend groups are not common. As in single females are not hanging out with single males. Do you want to say this is not common in America? I've never heard about such a weird anomaly concerning American friendship culture
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 10:20 PM
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There are also certain female interests that don't have enough men matching up the niche and many women who fight for these few men
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 10:19 PM
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And it was no dealbreaker to you that your husband has lied to you heavily?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 08:51 PM
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I don't think ppd men whining about how oppressed they are because they can't get laid should tell me to grow thicker skin, but whatev.. You are allowed to not enjoy every sexual interaction you had in your life, I certainly haven't. I am "triggered" when menchildren in echochambers such as these desperately try to beat women up in every way imaginable; particularly for such shallow and dumb reasons like "she wasn't attractive for me" (and he didn't "see" it because he was too drunk), while simu…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 10:31 PM
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Also, rather insulting to most men to call them desperate and without options, no? It's absolutely every other post and comment here on ppd: "I am an undesirable/unsuccessful loser/virgin/insert-sth-else-here and even if statistics and numbers show that I am clearly still in the minority surely absolutely every man must experience the same and there is a 'growing epidemic' of guys similar to me and I might as well make my own failings into a societal issue right.. riight?"
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 10:02 PM
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We can't generalize here, I think (as always.. duh). I hear guys here saying that seeing someone clearly unenthusiastic about them or the act itself would be a huge turn-off and a blow to their self-esteem. On the other side of the extreme, there is a whole porn/kink category that shows women being either super unenthusiastic during sex or down-right forced (tbh these "bored" videos are almost weirder and funnier to watch if you ask me lol).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 07:00 PM
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You just left two comments describing how "disgusted" you were by a woman you had sex with because she was overweight. Is this the ppd way of incredibly undesireable men here to "I had sex look how cool I am I even hate these chicks I had sex with"? Because it sounds incredibly psedo-edgy and cringe and more like a fedora-teenager is trying to proof something here..
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 06:50 PM
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I totally hear you. I can imagine that for people in certain areas/countries/bubbles it's particularly rough out there when everyone is already coupled up and rasing children already. I see my female coworkers being married with kids and the last thing I can imagine is becoming close friends with them (due to the lack of similarities between us on one hand and their total lack of time and motivation on the other). Where do you live and how does your social environment look like? Relocating to a …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 08:45 PM
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No it absolutely does not only happen to attractive women. If you are hardly ever seeing it, you might be living in an area where things like these aren't that common.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 06:48 AM
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Are we femcels now because we are going five years single? I feel bad lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 05:11 PM
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This post clearly mentions a few instances where the woman are very interested in you so I don't get your comment
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 04:29 PM
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It sadly is to many people. Likely, those are the basics you can check on a dating app or something like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 09:16 PM
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I am impressed I had to scroll down that far to find that "she/he just has to look at me" comment. Like, you can ruin a date in a fraction of a second if he or she decides you don't look anything like your pictures or "giving that ugly duckling a chance and hoping for the best" wasn't such a great idea after all.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 09:15 PM
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No you are "blackpilled" (lol) and I was referring to your lack of everything while complaining about all the things you never actually did in your life. No idea whether this is a generational thing or total illusion, but that's just not how women behave in the Western world.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 08:00 AM
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Are you a time traveller coming from 1900? Are there still regions occupied by ISIS? Because otherwise I never understand where redpillers and incels alike get these ideas from that seem to stem from 100 years ago. Somehow men like you live in a culture in which woman never ask men out or get paid for everything and I am wondering where this paradise for women is (because, curiously enough, there are these enourmously traditional gender roles but women are never subject to these roles themselves…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 07:45 AM
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I feel like people can't really complain about women arrogant women putting "no man under 6 foot" on their profile while simultaneously complaining about women not being open about their shallow preferences lol [Also meanwhile men on dating apps: "I... umm.. I really want to find someone healthy and also my marathon hobby is super important to me and it's super important that my partner can keep up with me, so...I also go hiking on holidays regularly, just so you know thehe. Edit -bonus points i…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 07:20 PM
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Even "shallow men" such as yourself would never ever state they only care about looks, or how looks are the most important thing, even. I don't believe there is a single sane person that can claim how personality doesn't matter at all and how every version of a shitty person is okay to them as long as a person has the right looks. Is this too hard of a concept to grasp?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 07:02 PM
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So you're handsome, tall, and rich, but for some reason, you've been a "late bloomer" - if that's what you call it - most of your life? Okay bro xD
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 06:10 AM
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The fact that TRP has an incredibly big working and race underbelly is something every normal human that is digging even on the surface would notice. I've noticed the same thing with FDS, by the way. Yet since it is coming from America and sine reddit is so Americanized these are subjects that are taboo to talk about, even in such a "free discussion" forum as this.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 06:29 PM
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No, I think they are right. The problem with many women around "consent", as I see it, is if it is taken to an extreme and implemented robotically as if you have no social skills or social intelligence of your own but blindly follow a script. A behavior that is often observeable with autistic men. I think women take it as a sign of low emotional intelligence if it is conducted awkwardly. I think when emotionally intelligent people ask for consent it isn't even really noticed as such, because it …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 09:38 PM
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one person's tweet or whatever on social media is not all Western women. Stop making shit up where there is literally no issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 06:41 PM
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The vast majority of cheater are actually looking for excuses on why they cheat on someone. Perhaps some are more prevalent in women whereas other excuses are prevalent in men. I haven't heard of "owning" it or saying "I was just horny" or "I am a bad person for doing it" any more than I heard women doing it but rather coming up with very similar excuses (even if they are "framed" a bit differently). The fact that female cheaters are somehow more gaslighting/manipulative on average is something …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 10:58 AM
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Literally no one thinks that
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 10:30 AM
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I don't watch porn, and most of the time I read it (pretty rare) the woman is dominant over the man, so no real male on female violence there. And even if you did it isn't as unhealthy or evil as certain people claim it is. Only because there is some sick porn out there or men with porn addiction it doesn't mean one's personal sexuality has to be vilified like this and all porn has to be prounced as being unhealthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 09:06 AM
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It's definitely a "we do not care" kind of thing more than it is a preference in one way or the other. Men who assume most women want a super experienced (a "high n-cound" man - god how I hate this phrase) are probably on the internet for far too long.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 09:02 AM
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This comment sounds very neutral und valid. Thank you for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 08:12 PM
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He has great video essays. You should give it a try and watch them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 03:49 AM
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That video took some serious dedication and editting
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 08:53 PM
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I always find it bizarre how schoolteacher is not an attractive job in the US lol..
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 03:45 AM
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meh... would still do. ¯\_(ツ)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/23 08:04 PM
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I mean.. who claimed women don't like introverts who are also good looking? A combination of personality trait that someone likes and good looks are what most people are going for, isn't that kind of obvious...?^^
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/23 08:01 PM
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But I do thing older women creeping on young boys is gross (Emmanuel macron and his wife for example). This example is a whole 'nother dimension though, because it's not only or the age gap in itself that is creepy, it is the fact that Macron was still a minor and his wife was his freaking teacher at that time. So we are not talking about barely "creepy" levels here, this was downright predatory.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 10:14 PM
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I think you have this nice guy syndrome hard because you think that somehow that should give you a bonus or something. That is, however, something that is expected in a relationship from one another. Tossing these issues aside, your view on relationship sounds extremely conservative. Why would you think it's necessary to "provide" for your family? That is not something that is expected (and often wished for) in the west. Are you from a country with arranged marriage or somewhere where finding lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 10:01 AM
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for the right reasons, and he judges those reasons to be that he treats her well. I either don't get your sentence, or it is a bit confusing. You clearly don't only want a relationship with a woman to "treat you well", you want a relationship with her because you find her attractive and (I assume) you like her personality. Are you honestly telling yourself that you choose women completely randomly or how can we understand this...lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 09:57 AM
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Generally when a man courts a woman by explaining to her how he would treat her, he is labeled as a "nice guy" with ulterior motives to have sex. You misunderstand the concept of "nice guys" completely. A nice guy has ulterior motives, yes, and first and foremost, he isn't really nice and starts acting up as soon as he doesn't get what he wants. All thsoe nice guys aside who don't even do a tiny thing but still think they "deserve" something wrong women because they are "being nice" (either beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 09:53 AM
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As someone with this infamous immigrational background, I kind of get where you come from. If you are a weird mix of values and beliefs (for whatever reason) that don't quite "match" in the society you live in, you have a hard time even finding someone with similiar values to you. But then again, quite a lot of women are liberal-minded and are looking for a committed long-term relationship with someone to start a family with, so we aren't that rare, actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 10:35 PM
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OP your post is correct when it comes to white men from rich countries immigrating to poorer countries (or wherever, honestly) and having success there. I'd agree with that. But in no way do immigrants from poorer countries better in dating when they are in a foreign, "richer" country in which they have neither the status, nor the capital, nor the language skills, nor the country-specific dating experience; and this comes on top of all the stereotypes and prejudice that goes against them (and wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 10:31 PM
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But black men have excellent stereotypes, and excellent representation in media. I cannot say this about our media, to be honest. Where are you coming from, if I may ask? In Europe, I guess it depends on whether or not the black dude is from the US (= "good") or from Africa (= the "baddies")
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 10:14 PM
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Your comment had me snorting my tea a little bit and I know I'm going to hell for this omg
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 10:12 PM
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Oh I don't disagree that we are not the same. It seems like forget how different we seem to be sometimes, though. In this case it's just.. when a man was raving about big muscles on guys and how big penises are clearly the most aesthetic thing, I would kind of ask him again whether he was actually straight. But I mean... it can be like that, who knows...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 09:41 PM
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Interesting. As a fellow straght woman, that line of thinking is pretty foreign to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 04:53 PM
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Since I am a heterosexual woman, I say men, of course. But it takes beautiful men to reach this standard of beauty (same goes for women...lol). This opinion is highly subjective but what else did you even expect?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 04:36 PM
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Are you attracted/only interested in women? I so your conviction makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 04:35 PM
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Who is forcing you to find these people attractive? Are you held against your will milked in order to impregnate fat women? Less dramatically - are you even reading women's magazines? Are you totally into fashion shows? Are you scrolling through fashion catalogues? No? Then why does it bother you so much what - mainly women - consume and like to look at? Because you like being a dick, that's why.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 06:25 PM
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there have been hundreds of discussions here on reddit already (e.g. https://www.reddit.com/r/SkincareAddiction/comments/2jgutp/discussion_why_do_you_think_so_many_people_think/) But I guss narcissism and autism that is rampant here in this thread really top it all, so this is clerly contributing to the - already inflated - ego of the "average" population
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 07:45 PM
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i am 39 but nobody has put me above 28 in the last years. I am sometimes estimated to be 25 by women who are 25. Of course. Like always. Somehow it's all of you here who get rated ten years syounger. Such a huge coincidence, I wonder why that is...
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 07:13 PM
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Hmmm.. lets see. I like babyfaces. Some guys who have them don't seem like them very much
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 09:06 PM
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I think some men who suffer from alopecia areata are very good looking. You have to be a certain type to be able to pull that off for sure, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 09:03 PM
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the guys I know who don’t really approach women these days are the more empathetic stable trustworthy guys - better long term partners) That's because they care about women's feeling and know what makes them feel unsafe or uncomfortable. You've said it yourself. These cool guys don't do it. I’m a tall good looking well spoken guy and yet I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve clearly been approached or hit on If you've rarely been approached by women then I have bad news for your self-…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 09:12 PM
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Oh.. thank you! Very kind of you to remind me of my cake day<3
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 12:08 PM
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Ladies what is your opinion of husbands, boyfriends, brothers, dads, friends or any of the guys in your life worried about you visiting a male gynecologist? It would be a huge red flag if a guy in my life felt uncomfortable by a male docor examining me. I can't imagine having a partner with such a thought process. I don’t know if women docs would be as knowledgeable about penises as guys would Well, such ridiculous thinking is one of the many reasons why such a thought process would be so outrag…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 10:02 AM
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Hmm, i guess we should get rid of value judgements then Yeah pretty much? Why would you use a dehumanizing concept tht originated from toxic and neurotic internet spaces anyway? So do you think if a woman uses that term guys should pay no mind to it? Well I think one could "pay attention" to it in that sense that such people are not worth your time/to be dated...?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 11:46 PM
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I don't understand.. why? There are quite many people who are financially unfortunate and unsuccessful nowadays (I surely am almost one of them, btw). And the numbers are rising.Doesn't make them bad people.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 11:42 PM
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Of course. What a strange question that is...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 12:32 PM
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you’re lying to yourself if you say you don’t find such men sexually desirable and physically alluring. If you feel like you can't "trust" our answers and you know it better than we do anyway, why ask such questions in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 10:10 AM
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I've heard it is definitely a thing (or at least in my country it is) to approach dog owners in a park when you have a dog yourself. I mean, sometimes the dogs approach for you anyway so you don't even have a chance to not to approach lol. One guy told me he's met at least one intrusive girl who just wouldn't walk away and stop petting his dog for ages, so that happens, apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 07:19 PM
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Out of all those things she's mentioned, only "work" seems to be commonly mentioned as being inappropriate (for several different good reasons and not only for "the sake of women"). Nice strawman, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 07:16 PM
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It's pretty obvious that older guys get a lot of love From whom..? Slightly older guys maybe, but huge age gaps aren't actually that common. so is there an age a guy can be, below which you wouldn't go for him regardless of how attractive and put together he was otherwise? Is this deficit even possible to overcome with looks and charm? When I find it morally questionable. But I haven't figured out what age that would be. Or bether say, to me, I think everything below 25 actually is questionable,…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 07:14 PM
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How on earth is this fear irrational if it literally happened to most women already mr smart guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 04:12 PM
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Also, please give simple answers. No paragraphs. This is just a curious ask How much are you willing to learn and to listen if we are not allowed to write paragraphs, OP? If you feel like this is too much work for you to "read paragraphs" and you expect us to reply in simple terms so you don't get yourself overburdened, then I don't think you are asking in good faith, nor do I expect you to be truly open-minded and willing to learn something here.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 01:55 PM
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Yeah I know we always hear that, but perhaps it's also a personal preference thing..? Or a hormonal issue or something. I am not sure diet can get you rid off any problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 09:34 AM
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No one lol. I might be in that camp of assessing too much importance on looks anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 08:58 PM
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What kind of "approaching" are we talking about? "Cold" approaches? No positive reaction, doesn't matter how well he looks. Approaching as in "I am sorry, could you please tell me where the next pharmacy is?" I do not know why I should treat people differently there. How rude would it be to ignore or insult them lol... Do you give them a chance for friendship at least? When they are interested in me romantically? No. That happened too many times in the past (not that some "super ugly" guy approa…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 08:14 PM
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I somehow don't undertand the link between your question and your statement shortly after that, but it might be too late in the evenening for me. I don't really know, actually. My father is a very caring and kind guy. My goal is to have such a caring and stable relationship my parents have with one another one day. Interestingly enough, I have not been as lucky with men/I am rather on the perpetually single side, ha ha. Shows that a good relationship with your parents does not always guarantee s…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 11:32 PM
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I don't really have any. It's mostly because these kinds of lifestyle/personalities don't interestme that much or at all. I do have crushes on real-life people - even if these are idealized versions of them, most likely. Also on fictional characters lol. But not on something like "celebreties". I never really got that sentiment to begin with (then again, liking fictional characters probably just means that I'm a weeb lol).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 08:13 PM
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Is there any chance we get some specifics on this? I am not going all in and gaslight you, but yes, being accused of being creepy by "minding one's own business" sounds just so highly unlikely and absurd to me. I mean, I don't deny that there are crazy people and very unfortunate misunderstandings, but I am just wondering whether you are being neurotic over one or two incidents or otherwise massaging your reality here for the sake of argument quite a bit. In worst case, some men who actually beh…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 07:15 PM
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PPD can be surprisingly wholesome sometimes.. :'(
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 06:11 PM
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If I could have a penny every time someone here on an "ask Women" answered with "I am sure women/I can tell you what women think..." (without these comments being deleted or negatively commented on in any way), well then... you know how that goes. I just thought that this discrepancy I've noticed between preferences of women and my male friends was something I could answer as well, but then again, maybe you are partly right.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 05:36 PM
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Not a man but off the top of my head I can think of - growing a long, full beart that many women find unattractive - hyperfocusing on very big muscles that most women find unattractive - leaving the three hairs you have left on top of your Norwood head because "you don't look good bald" so you refuse to shave it off despite everyone telling you it is time
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 05:15 PM
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Stop spewing your transphobic bulshit everywhere you go. Alba Rueda is a woman who truly deserves her award, and she is one out of 11 women receiving it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 11:54 AM
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Do you think men rightfully should feel offended if he has to have money before you date him? As many men here feel? Yes. Not gonna answer and participate in this other redpill-lingua nonsense of yours, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 11:01 AM
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That posts reeks so much of an self-obsessed egomaniac, omg ... xD
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 09:33 PM
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Can the Ukranian men do the same shit? Why not..? I don't know what you are talking about. Many Ukrainian dudes are hot af
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 09:00 PM
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ok, sorry for these walls of texts from time to time lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 05:59 PM
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A "femcel", though versions of it could also be best described as a "pick me girl" or simply a woman with internalized misogyny
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 04:15 PM
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Do you have an example? Because otherwise it's hard to imagine something that would not be totally childish and immature if it is not dealth with properly. I mean, I know what you're getting at (and it's not like there is one post on ppd every week tackling the same subject or so) but it's super hard to make an equal comparison here. For example, imagine a girl (or me) dating a guy who has been married before. He proposed to his previous girlfriend after half a year of dating or so, he was in hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 12:31 PM
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Yeah that would be a "soothing" explanation but honestly, this is not always the case. Sometimes the guy just "gets" that there is someone better out there for him and the next girlfriend simply is a better fit. Particularly if he was the one who dumped this first girl in the first place. It's crappy, it hurts, but this is life.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 12:11 PM
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Fuck this hit really hard. Yeah it's this other way round stuff, usually
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 12:03 PM
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Things that come to my mind right off my head, in no particular order: Is not entitled and doesn't take everything for granted, shows signs of appreciation of gratefulness (preferably not only towards you, but towards others) treat strangers and people with basic respect, her treatment of people "beneath" her/serving her (busboys, subordinates), men she finds unattractive etc. is not substantially different and significantly worse; doesn't like to badmouth people or to gossip and isn't too fake …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 11:33 AM
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Regarding looks, 3/10 with good personality and some or most of the above qualities automatically becomes a 10/10! If you can overlook looks that easily yeah, you have my respect!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 10:58 AM
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That was a mixed bag of statements. Like, for instances, not yelling is absolutely necessary and absolutely the norm in a healthy relationship (or so I hope), "is able to accept some level of disagreement", on the other hand, sounds vaguely right in theory (yeah, everyone disagrees on something, duh) but statements like that can be used to justify really despicable views that you "don't have to disagree with because I am allowed to have my opion." Many nuances here.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 10:56 AM
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You have a very bad take on these replies if this was what you got from your other post about women improving themselves (then again, we are on PPD here). Like, the first reply literally said she lost weight so that guys liked her moree. Something very banal and simple. I am always trying to answer to questions earnestly but I am not sure whether our answers are getting through here at all, actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 07:21 PM
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If you think about it that way, that you are losing your precious time to a guy who isn't the right one for you; time that could have been spent searching for or dating the right one.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 12:53 PM
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May I ask you how tall you are, OP? Generally I agree with what you said, however, I think height is one of those things that is a big hindrance to ethnic minorities. Living in a big international city, I see lots of (East) Asian and South Asian men with girlfriend, but the thing they seem to have in common is some sort of minimum treshold for height that they could pass. Btw as someone who really, really like East Asian features I have to agree that many men really manage to still be unattracti…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 03:22 AM
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Oh no I didn't want to "win" it's just the first thing that came to my mind lol. But yeah I guess most of them are fishy but who knows, maybe there are some reliable out there and you'd just have to do a little bit more research? Idk. Also, how about mosques and other kinds of religon-based community meet ups, isn't there something that is organized by your local community? Might be an option as well
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 10:17 PM
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You don't have to date anyone you don't find attractive but you could check whether your "preferences" might stem from harmful believes, yes. I said what I said.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 03:57 PM
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Listen, I saw a weird add on YT for a marital site for Muslim people once. Wouldn't that be a good idea? Not sure whether it was an international or national one. But internationally, I am sure that many women find living in Germany quite appealing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 04:10 AM
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It's definitely a matter of outdated gender roles/expectations and homophobia, I think. Only because these are women it doesn't mean they aren't capable of it. I do have "some" insecurities or concerns in regards to bi men as well (more risk of a STD, "is he actually just gay" "am I enough" etc.) but this doesn't mean this stops me from being open to date them. Every liberal/feminist woman should re-check her concern towards bi men (if she has any), because that wouldn't be consequent to her val…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 08:55 PM
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I know right? It's a common trope on PPD that "men don't mind bisexual women" but almost simultaneously it's also "don't trust bisexual women, they fuck around/thes are all feminazis hurr durr"
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 06:42 PM
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I should have just handed those over at the store counter It wouldn't have done any harm to just hand it over to the cashier. Most people are asking for their stuff at the counter when they are looking for something they've lost, because they assume because they assume that someone might have found it and handed it over to the staff members. Alternatively, you can just call that woman and wave with your hand with the dangling key in it, so the woman would know where this is going.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 05:05 PM
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It certain siuations and in the right context, yes, racial minorities definitely have the right to feel unsafe. Who knows what they went through. What are you getting at?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 04:57 PM
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Not everyone is agreeing she is an idiot (I certainly don't) but if everyone is agreeing with her, like you said, your comment is a non-issue. Your obession with someone who is "an idiot" according to everyone (in your view) doesn't seem to be very healthy or constructive.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 04:55 PM
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I'm a woman I agree with you here. Also, I would strongly need validation in my marriage and lets be honest, without sex, you just don't feel desireable or validated by your partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 03:56 PM
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It has 41 million views because people like you like to click on it lol. Outrage porn is a thing and your outrage is directly responsible for its success.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 03:44 PM
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I did this mistake twice before I learned that it doesn't work for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 08:40 PM
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Why would men marry a woman who will get old and fat and appreciate him less, when he can have a younger, better looking woman Because he can't lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 04:33 PM
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Insight is the first step towards improvement
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 07:41 PM
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Well first, it would be news to me that my body isn't my "property". Well, it isn't my "property", of course, technically speaking - but it's so much more than that since - you know, even if my whole house was destroyed I could be alive and well whereas, if my body.. you get the idea. Bodily autonomy and safety are way above my own property, so it's a bit appaling how someone can seriously thing this is "less important" than...If anything, the comparison doesn't do this whole sitation justice. Y…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 07:38 PM
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I am very well aware it's just a tiny percentage of men, by the way. It's just that it doesn't change anything about the fact that a significant amount of women will feel fearful whenever there is someone approaching them due to their bad experience with this (perhaps tiny) percent of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 07:15 PM
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They never were in the dating market and never will be. Sorry bud but if you think Christians in the US have a low divorce rate I have bad news for you...
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 06:37 PM
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we have a lot of true crime shows, documentaries, books, podcasts, movies, etc. Do you talk to your female friends or sisters, OP...? Women are not afraid of strangers because we've seen in "in crime shows". Women are afraid by strangers because we have years of experience of men doing that. And we remember how awful that felt and how many men reacted to rejection. It's our "empirical data" telling us to hate that stuff, to put it in your "super rational male" words, not "movies and the media."
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 06:35 PM
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That is a very good comparison, I really appreciate you putting in the effort and demonstrate the "female" perspective on that one (even though people on PPD won't care here)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 06:31 PM
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You obiously wish to be that guy, OP
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 06:27 PM
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Are you always that entitled when you talk to friends like that? I'm just picturing you with your female friends: "Mary, but if you are truly really a good friend and you know I really need sex right now, you will give it to me, right? You are being a good friend, after all. N-nno..? Wow, so you aren't actually a true friend Mary, am I right???"
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 06:05 PM
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And as we all know, procreating means you'll be immortal /s.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 05:59 PM
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How dare you speak with common sense and reason on PPD?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 05:57 PM
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It's so weird to me this is coming from a woman allegedly... Anyway, I am almost the same age as you and I hated this situation those stranger guys put me in with a burning passion. I am very glad this is discussed more now, but I didn't really know any woman "bach then" who thought this was normal, and only few guys disagreed with me (clearly the more traditional and sexist ones did). To be fair, though, we also lived in a country where small talk with strangers almost never happens so maybe it…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 03:47 AM
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LMAO you really went through with that. Well done lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 05:33 PM
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Only when you dm me that the guy dm'd you after being dm'd
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 04:40 AM
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Who cares? Many women aren't into that. You can't appreciate something you are not interested in
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 04:38 AM
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People get used in marraiges all the time. There is this fear of he/she is only after your passport" for a reason. So just tying the knot can not magically prevent you from getting used (and it shouldn't be used as such a preventative measure). Ideally, obviously, you are certain that you are not getting used because you trust your partner. That's how people (at least in the west) have sex before marriage, or without ever getting married.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 04:20 AM
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I think you don't understand that many 33-years-old dudes won't ever get there, no matter what they'd like.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 09:15 PM
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Yes, because it would be super off-putting for him doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 09:03 AM
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Information they put is often not relyable or incomplete, and women often first pick by picture and then by description. They are overwhelmed by options to pick. The only exception from the rule has been old okcupid. There were pages upon pages of questionnaires and most profiles filled at least one page. People nowadays always say how this is "too much" when people write a paragraph, but honestly, for people like me this was the only advantage of OLD apps compared to real life encounters with s…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 09:40 PM
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Hmm not really. I think men here are an incredibly small and neurotic subset of men with whom I hardly interact with in everyday life. If anything, it makes me appreciate "normal" men a little bit more.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 09:07 PM
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Which countries are you living in in which skinny for non-youngish women is rare, I don't get it
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 08:31 PM
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Lets not forget that like 1 in 5 young people suffer from a diagnosable anxiety disorder and that number is very heavily weighted towards women. That was me in my 20's, so kind of true..
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 08:29 PM
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I don't know, which age group are they marrying? Honest question.. I woud think it's around five years younger for them..?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 08:26 PM
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Really absolutely not at all. It's more of a turn-off (depending on the specifics). why does the red pill emphasize money so much? I have a few explanations but really I can't say for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 08:15 PM
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24 is like super young comme on now and quite a lot of people at your age don't have that much dating experience or are just entering their first serious relationship. There is honestly nothing shameful or weird about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 06:19 PM
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My thoughts are you might have a serious mental problem
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 06:18 PM
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I think that quite a lot of relationships in the past formed due to necessity. I do believe this is common occurrence until this days (especially in poor countries). But it was not my case with my grandmother, I believe my grandmother and grandfather respected each other a lot. My grandmother mourned my grandfather very much when he died. The other side of my parents - I never came to know them, but I didn't hear anything bad either (also they had seven children, but that doesn't say anything, o…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 08:24 PM
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They are very common in redpill/conservative spaces and partriarchal (means - non-western) societies. They are not at all common among well-educated/upper-middle class men in the west. I think every man I am friends with would count several one of those as dealbreakers.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 10:26 AM
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You can definitely think that for yourself and who knows, maybe some women truly do have this logic. Personally, I know from myself that I let a lot of things slide, because when I am interested in someone, I think that no other ever comes along, so I have to try and work with what I get. Learning to set boundaries and understand that there are other men out there is something I had to learn after many failed attempts (and I am still guilty of making similar mistakes in the prestent). The women …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 08:21 PM
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Today, I got a response from someone who ghosted me three years ago. I am very confused and worried how this will progress and how to respond, but all in all, it made me happy he thought about me and I really appreciated him reaching out. (btw I haven't responded to a comment of you yet; sorry for that, will do in the nearest future)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 09:21 PM
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I still don't care about accomplishments, is that bad..?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 04:41 PM
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What do you mean? I see how men's look play a very big role on OLD, for instance. In real life? Well I am constantly seeing "average" looking men with girlfriends and the boyfriends of my female friends aren't models either, so how do you explain this?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 10:12 AM
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You should stop with this leagues already. Most women hate to be approached by strangers no matter who they are or what they look like. What makes it better or worse is their behavior, not how they look like.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 06:57 AM
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66.8% Well that doesn't feel right. Actually I think I am pretty delusional, though. I'm pretty sure it is in fact something around 0,001% or so. But what can I do about it if he only asks me only five or so stupid questions, which for the most part have no meaning for me?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 10:32 PM
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I am not the person you've asked but I could have written that comment myself so I hope you allow me to answer that. In my case, I've had a couple of very toxic (short in most cases) relationships where I was way too emotionally involved, while they unfortunately didn't return my love. I felt like I completely gave myself up for them and was willing to do anything for them while it still wasn't good enough because in truth they didn't feel the same way about me. Emotionally, this is also way too…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 09:06 AM
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To me as a leisure activity that would be off-putting, yes. This occasional immersion into one game for a few days by non-gamers from time to time isn't something I count here, though. I mean many men don't even view fashion, nai art, or makeup as a hobby, let alone having any interest or respect in women's hobbies, so I don't see how it's difficult to understand a hobby could be off-putting. By the way, it doesn't matter in the end. You should look out for someone who likes video games as well,…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 07:40 AM
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No unless they a) have attachment issues or b) are "chronically single" whie having fwb and hook ups constantly (and probably attachment issues). Why would I be grossed out by someone who is like me anyway?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 03:52 PM
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Physically I have quite narrow preferences Would you mind going into detail here? I mean, how narrow are we talking..?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 01:55 PM
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Omg I remember a German youtuber making hilarious short videos on that cliché movies but I can't link to them since they are in German. Must be some sort of TV trope nowadays
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 09:04 AM
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I've never heard women saying that (e.g. here on reddit), but then again, maybe it has become such a huge meme that nobody is saying it anymore. I agree, that should be self-evident and mandatory. Some women of the older generation (starting from the Xennials) have seen their mothers not being independent nor strong, though, and for them, this might be at least somewhat of a "generational" achievement to be the first woman to be gainfully employed and what not. Just a thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 09:03 AM
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No you are absolutely right. But many older people (mostly women) are spending twenty or so years alone because their previous partner died before them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 09:00 AM
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I think I can only partly meet my preferences (I don't have "standards" that I see I "demand" from someone and men have not met my preferences various times and that was okay) If you have a wealth standard for men, can you meet that wealth standard yourself Luckily, I don't have that (if we gonna get super duper complicated about that, then the majority of men I've dated and be interested in were at least middle-class, but that will get complicated now) If you have a standard for facial structur…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 08:27 AM
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I think we might misunderstand each other. I wasn't talking about women who cancel last minute but women who know that they don't want to meet right away from the very start. So basically most women, as far as I'm concerned. So I was wondering whether these women that are quick to meet up are outliers "in a good way" or in a bad way (I was arguing that they might have personalities that not everyone can deal with). You don't seem to be interested in even getting or being open to understand a wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 05:45 PM
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This is a bit of my view there as well, only that it can be compensated through text messaging. I thought that was sort of logical
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 03:10 PM
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I know you didn't ask me but anyway - I already had guys that were very attractive and interesting to me but the way they come off as too strong or other weird vibes I got from them via texting has put me off that much that I didn't continue with them, so to me, it's the attractive guys as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 03:09 PM
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A few questions on this one a) are you getting enough dates with this approach anyway? Because if so, then there is no probem that exists for you anyway and peope have different approaches to that, apparently. But b) do you feel like these women (who all want to meet up in an instant) are noticeabley kind of "weird" or "crazy"? Because if so, there might be a filter in place and this might be a sign that this is only appealing to a certain set of women. Is it really that hard to understand for s…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 03:01 PM
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I don't understand what you are saying, OP. ‘Hi, fancy a cup of coffee?' has nothing to do with talking "normal" if this is the very first thing you say to a stranger. You come off as totally socially inept at best and creepy at worst, so of course, most women (I assume) don't respond well to that kind of thing. Of course, I do find pick up lines and copypasata messages terrible though and yes, I "appreciate" the man being "real" with me providing his "realness" is neither a creepy nor disrespec…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 01:41 PM
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Jesus Christ dude, get out and touch some grass for once, seriously...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 11:23 AM
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a lot of them suffered from that 20s insecurity where even if they like don’t hate you, they’re hesitant to put too much of their personality out there. One and two word answers, amicable nodding, prefacing every sentence with “I dunno…” I have to say that I totally get what you're saying because I've been super guilty of doing it, too (though I would never answer a sentence with "dunno"), and I am still somewhat recovering from that. Sometimes, you're just to socially awkward and insecure durin…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 09:06 AM
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The other reality /u/Swimming-Energy-4456 should've pointed out is that if you're unable to find a man who's simply gainfully employed and doesn't have kids, then the issue is definitely more so you than anything else This is the only thing I totally agree with. I mean, come on people - the vast majority of adult men are gainfully employed and somewhat sane, that shouldn't be so hard to find. (I mean, almost none of my male friends in my circles is "gainfully employed" but I am living in a free-…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 08:41 AM
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Being obsessed with computers doesn't correlate with being smart, wtf? In fact, a huge problem with computer guys was their lack of intellectual curiosity for everything outside of "tech" and they just fell behind of every other guy I knew who from other majors (who are, of course, all doing very well in dating - it's almost like if you have social skills and more to offer than pure money you don't struggle with dating).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 08:38 AM
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My "excuses" would be that they don't meet what I am looking for in any way or form...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 08:35 AM
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computer programers who are often all of those things you mentioned struggle so hard? Because computer programmers are an undesired group when it comes to dating. Their social skills, emotional intelligence, and often lack of any other interesting hobbies are off-putting to lots of women. (also, for instance I am not one of these who find high earning potentional interesting, so the absolutely only thing that makes them "desirable" isn't interesting to me).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 08:34 AM
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There are like... tons of men who don't want any children. I'm sorry but if you are on such a forum like ppd, chances are these men are making up reasons ("fertility") in order to justify their shallowness. My personal (obviously) anecdotal experiences was that the majority of men aren't obessed or interested in having kids, but have a rather "okay so if this is what my future partner wants then yeah, whatev..".
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 08:22 AM
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I think the only thing that is not so realistic is this one relationship (within a late bloomer situation). Then again, I know plenty of women who are in their thirties and are in their second serious relationship or so(it's just that these are all long-term relationships, so they were not late bloomers). So yes, "in shape" and something like "under five relationships" would be super realistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 08:18 AM
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Thank you for posting this. This is very helpful!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 08:14 AM
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How has it impacted your sex drive? no difference Are you single and on birth control? Yes Are you on it for reasons others than avoiding pregnancy? Yes, it helps with my horrible menstrual cramps. On top of that, my skin is better and my breasts are fuller, but this is only a side effect. Have you explored other contraceptives such as IUD, condoms, etc? I need hormonal contraceptives with these issues I'm having and so far, nothing was as convinging as getting on birth control. Condoms are diff…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 06:43 PM
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Tom then...? But I agree that more information would be needed, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 09:00 PM
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The same as you, OP. Most people know why they aren't in a relatinship, including themselves (myself included as well). Don't have anyone who is "perfect" (according to some superficial "objective" standards) and doesn't know why they are single, that doesn't exist in my case. That being said, I hope it's clear that it doesn't mean they are bad people or unloveable. Struggling financially/mentally or not looking attractive enough doesn't mean you'll make for a bad partner necessarily (it's only …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 08:55 AM
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Oh, hi, it's you. Not exactly super-duper nice to see you here, if I'm being honest, but I assume your comment was meant equally sarcastic. To be honest, it's kind of embarrassing to comment here, but sometimes I can't stop myself from lurking and coming back at it again. Often I just delete my comments here to hide all traces:P
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 04:14 PM
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I don't know OP. My male friends definitely have and always had lots of female friend, so I assume that's definitely a reddit bubble problem. On the other hand, it was always hard for me to make male friends in the past (I've only lucked out several times so far), mainly because there were so may men that didn't see women as anything else than "would bang"/would not bang and totally uninterested to socialize in andy kind of way." Male having other platonic female friends became a huge green flag…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 10:39 PM
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It's not a bad thing per sé, it's only a problem when the other person doesn't reciprocate, obviously; and every complication and drama that comes along with that. But women here complain that these guys aren't even looking for a relationship but the other stuff. That's definitely derogatory.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 10:34 PM
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So remember men, there are many many many times when a woman smiling at you means she wants to fuck you, so as always, shoot your shot and never stop shooting your shot! Sadly, guys like you are ruining it for all of us...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 03:07 PM
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but the conversations I have with my friends now are generally more substantive In our friends group, we're almost constantly talking about stuff like that so I guess we might be a bit less of adults here... lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 11:34 AM
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whut? Too short, of course :D
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 10:59 AM
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man tends to want a woman who is youthful, co How can I easily attain it when I am not youthful🙃? We are talking about a relationship, just for the record ​ Notice that "height shaming" doesn't exist. Being a 4'11 chick who requires 6'3 If it "comforts" you, it's mostly only a US thing. I've been rejected for my height quite a lot of the time. I don't blame men for it, by the way (unlike, you know, you) as long as people aren't cruel. But yeah it was a dealbreaker for many.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 10:27 AM
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Same here
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 08:52 PM
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As a woman who likes bi men/doesn't mind them in any way, the only point of concern would be these kinds of "bi" men who are actually gay and haven't admitted it to themselves yet. (this doesn't mean I avoid bi men for that reason, of course, it's just a concern I have deep in my mind somewhere that could hopefully be disproven as soon as we would be starting dating or something)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 08:51 PM
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Okay fair, you made some good points
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 07:32 PM
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Thing is a lot of women on here (and elsewhere on Reddit) might look at someone like me, or perhaps the commenter above, and decide based on the content of our discussions that we're ineligible, complete write-offs I mean you're not wrong IRL we don't talk about this stuff, we don't go around saying things women (normal or troubled) would find nearly as objectionable. Doesn't matter since we know now that you say them here:p
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 07:10 PM
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I know right? In my 20's, I didn't party around, I just felt like crap lol...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 10:51 PM
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That's interesting. Could you tell a few examples? I can only thing about couples in way older years, in which the wife would have to take on a caretaker roll for her husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 10:50 PM
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Sorry I didn't read all your text but wanted to answer your question. There is nothing wrong without not marrying your lifelong partner as long as both of you are on the same page about marriage. One of my best friend doesn't want to marry his ten year long girlfriend and she absolutely agrees with him on that. When they both want it this way, who am I to judge? If, however, one is very sure about it and another is one of these "maybe some day" kind of type then yes, I would start to wonder whet…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 11:54 PM
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When witnessing misogyny, do women become more cautious? Yes, I become more cautious. That said, I know internet is not real life. Not in the sense that people writing this stuff don't actually think that way (they obviously do), but that the amount of concetrated misogyny is accumulated in certain online spaces and not at all a representation of real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 09:50 AM
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You must be very unlucky then or have a very bad profile. I would never send a simple hey and expect a reply, I find it very disrespectful. Pretty wild stuff, requiring more than a greeting just to message someone I am not sure I'm following you. You are "allowed" to not send more than a hi, but don't be surprised when people only respond to thoughtful messages.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 10:24 PM
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Good looking men will get matches even if they say they are child rapists Yeah and so will attractive women. Btw somehow no one ever cared to take these super duper bulletproof and scientific "experiments" further and figure out what sort of people are actually swiping right on those profiles, but what ever... Maybe some people are so attractive that they don't need a bio. Or at least that goes for a certain demographic of people. Maybe the "best" people are not the ones swiping right on people …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 08:58 PM
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Okay..? Speak for yourself though and don't complain about not having success on these apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 08:01 PM
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Ah geez, relax, it's PurplePillDebate after all and being neurotic is pretty much the standard here
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 05:26 PM
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People like OP, obviously...? sniff:( This comment turned out to be much more of a roast than I had originally planned :D
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 04:19 PM
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I'm receiving totally contradictiory answers to this, somehow. It's fine, though. I think there are definitely some male profiles that are awesome, but thes were very few, unfortunately. I always thought female profiles were longer on average, but this might only be due to women being a bit better with words and langauges on average.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 04:16 PM
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Not sure what everything you've said has to do with it. I'd had thought the same thing if the genders were reversed. It's quite sad to be living with such a mindset all the time, you know.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 03:49 PM
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Have you ever tried reading men's bios? I know this sounds super snarky but this really wasn't my intention. I always thought men bios were crap and after reading female ones I didn't feel like there was such a big difference in the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 03:19 PM
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I never see men as a whole or as a group of bein my enemies. But there are some men who just happen to be assholes. I hope to not stumble upon them too often.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 01:32 PM
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There's also a huge spectrum between some muscle men and super overweight out of shape people. You can be naturally thin, or naturally thin-to-athletic, or just like sports and be in great shape
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 01:16 PM
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Some may claim to like out of shape shy guys. It’s virtue signalling If you don't believe what we're saying, why even be on a debate forum? You explain your worldview to yourself already. Also, I can't say I agree with your "theory". For instance, there are people who "love" exercise. Some other people hate it, but force themselves to exercise. Maybe some people find this discipline attractive, but in the end of the day, whether it is hard or easy to obtain to people is largely irrelevalt to mos…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 12:42 PM
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One of the things I've noticed here is that comments with the "high" standards get upvotes much, whereas comment with the "low" standards don't get upvoted. It's like they want to hear their biases confirmed, but as long as women answer "boringly" that almost none of that matters they like to overlook it and be completely uninterested by that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 12:03 PM
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Quite many of the women here on reddit, apparently (not me though, as long as it won't get in the way of our sex life)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 09:18 AM
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Not everyone thinks that way There will still be people who will accept you as you are, and with your past. Is everything else is fine enough, people can overlook things they initially thought to be dealbreakers.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 10:57 PM
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And as we all know, Jewish people can never be Slavic /s
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 11:18 AM
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Link? That was not that one older guy who was chatting up a minor though, wasn't it? "Where do you go to school?" Doesn't sound like such an innocent question when asked by a 40-something guy about a 17-year-old now, does it?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 10:42 AM
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Yeah, that sounds very bad on so many levels... The only way I could see myself participating in it (not really) is falling victim to serial cheater who had ten chicks beside me or somethings... Oh and scam artists, of course
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 11:13 PM
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It's one night for men and ltr for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 05:11 PM
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I think it's super hard to feel attractive without any validation from the outside. Confident people are mostly people who were validated throughout their lifetime.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 08:16 AM
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Omg, we were having a calm and respectful converation here, I can't believe it!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 11:24 PM
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I think you are very quick to get upset about stuff that might be do so much as hinting at the possibility of you doing something wrong. I'm responding to your commment for now but judging from your reaction you aren't here for debating in good faith. You're shifting the responsibility on men I'm shifting the responsibility on perpetrators when they do things without the consent of other women (it's the same if gender were reversed, of course). So does the court, by the way. I don't shift the bl…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 10:56 PM
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I know is women rarely say much truth about what they like doing in sex in the first dates, even when you break the social barriers and get closer to them You must be frequenting weird circles then. My female friends and I don't have any problems talking about these topics, and trust me when I say that that doesn't require close friendships or an "intimate atmosphere" or whatever. none ever complained That's not a hard sign of them liking it, unfortunately. In the past, I didn't complain about t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 07:29 PM
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Ha ha, fair enough!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 07:03 PM
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It's an interesting question and I have know idea. It must be a very complex mixture of experience, genetics maybe (?), personal history and things society deems attrative/things that are commonly associated with certain characteristics. Current trends are not discussed enough here, imo. It's certainly not totally irrelevant what media "propagates" as being attractive currently.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 06:30 PM
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I've seen this reply several times now, and I couldn't help but wonder how much current trends play a part in it. When I grew up, "big butts" weren't a thing. Then again, reddit wasn't a thing either and I don't know whether it was just a mainstream thing and many men still prefered big butts, or whether there was a high preference for "small"/"non-existent" butts (Paris Hilton types).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 06:28 PM
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Sorry OP but your comparison is kind of wacky. In my world, IT job don't have any positive status at all, for starters. I am sure there is a reason why these jobs are the most prevalent on OLD, for instance. Not every community and social circle rates the desirability of a job based on money. Artistic professions, writers, journalists etc. are all very desirable in many circles, yet they don't generate a lot of money, necessarily. Then stuff depends on your country as well. It's definitely very …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 10:55 PM
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To be entirely honest, the cynical part in me believes that this is maybe how people truly think inside their minds. And this thought is rather unsettling to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 12:16 AM
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Yeah I really dig these gender roles swap thingies. I've watched Je Ne Suis Pas Un Homme Facile (I am not an easy Man) one too many times as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 09:03 PM
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Beause I genuinly don't think it's easier, I think it's different. And beause I had my fair share of terrible experience there, most of which men didn't experience (or not to that degree). Another thing is that the guys in my environment don't really struggle with OLD. They do get quite a few matches, one of my best friends was always able to "choose" his girlfriend from the dates he had. When guys where struggling, it was women losing interest after the first date (which I thought was connecte …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 11:59 AM
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While I strongly disagree with the claim in this post, this is the only thing I can somewhat agree with/a thing I don't understand as well. I've only been on okcupid, at that time where everyone could message everyone (regardless of matches). Of course, getting "too many messages" (most of which where either low-effort or downright terrible) was a real problem, mostly because you weren't able to filter them out. But on an app that only allows you to message someone you've matched with? Just decr…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 11:55 AM
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I'm quite surprised by the answers here as well. I see attractive men almost every day in the subway, and it was way, way more frequent on campus when I was at uni. Every once in a while on OLD as well, but that is rather rare. I'd say I have a rather uncommon type as well, but I am not totally bound to it and can aknowledge attractiveness in different types of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 10:45 AM
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As a leftist man my ideal society is something akin to modern China or Putin's Russia ... Alright.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 05:46 PM
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"Approached" as in "by strangers/on the streets"? Since it's a rather a (more and more) uncommon occurrence in my country, I'd say that the most approaches come from 1) way, way older guys from all backgrounds (don't know whether it is because it was more appropriate in their times or whether or the old guys that stay single are more likely to be the weird ones), 2) immigrants or 3) from native guys that are very obviously weird, displaying behavioural problems or are the well-known "creep in to…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 02:42 AM
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What's the point of this whole discussion (have I missed anything)? Men who like makeup can wear it, men who don't like it can leave it. Like, duh..?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 12:58 AM
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There are enough single women on earth who are attractive and don't engage in casual sex, OP. Not sure what else to tell you. We don't have any statistics on this. But casual sex seems to be much rarer among women since many are not actively seeking out non-committed relationships. I've been "truly" single vor over 5, soon to be six years now and I don't know, I am not a model but I am average, I guess; some call me pretty, I don't really lack male attention (though I am really just average, I s…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 03:19 PM
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Umm.... OP? This is your third post within 24 hours. Do you need help, buddy?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 05:24 PM
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Yes, it's very cringe of you, OP. I am also wondering whether you are autistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 08:53 PM
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I don't remember the last time I did it with someone else, to be honest, but generally speaking, sure. It's more my friends who introduce single me to their single friends, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 04:44 PM
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There were men I knew who were never sexless for more than a few months and there are women I know (myself included) who go years without these intimate interactions.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 10:06 PM
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as it is for women to understand why many dudes, even the majority, don't really require one either. You are talking bullcrap though because it's surely not "the majority of men who don't require a relationship". Actually, all FA/incel/virgin types of males are constantly fighting for their struggles to be recognized and how it's not only about sex for them but also about love, amongst others.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 07:13 PM
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are there women out there who go sexless for a long stretch of time voluntarily? I repeat myself one thousand times here, OP. Yes, women go sexless, and it might be happening more often than women having constant hook ups. Many of us just don't enjoy hooking up with strangers, or even having sex outside of a long-lasting, loving relationship. I am not sure why this is so hard to understand, to be honest (sorry, got carried away here).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 05:20 PM
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Why are you not dating your attractive single friend of the opposite sex? I don't have any. I mean, no friends who are attractive and single at the same time. Other than that, some people might simply be totally incompatible. Shocking, I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 01:38 PM
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I feel the same way as the commentor. And I am wondering if I'm living in the same world as you guys as well here:p
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 08:00 PM
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Is there any possibility you'll take into account that dating apps are simply not geared for women, are making the whole experience uncomfortable for women as a whole and thus only few women find themselves using them?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 04:59 PM
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Also 0 here
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 12:48 PM
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There are a lot of things that are obviously still very bad or at least not favorable for women: - To be very dramatic right off the bat: the risk of getting assaulted, raped, stalked etc. when meeting up with a stranger. You can weed out some of the worst risk factors yourself, of course, but you may never be sure. - way more common, less "severe", I guess: Guys only wanting to hook up (and not being honest about it). Or, you know, just being honest is annoying as well when you are spammed with…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 10:40 PM
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- Asexual This is not a red flag. This is an incompatibility issue, or might be a deal breaker to you, but it's not the same as having bad personality traits. You don't need to be such a dick about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 04:02 PM
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If you feel like you already know all the answers, why do you even ask...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 11:06 PM
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I could explain in full detail how an interesting conversation looks to me, but I know that it will be different for 99% of people, probably. I am also curious to hear what my fellow women think of when they imagine an interesting conversation. It might be different for everyone, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 10:42 PM
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Obviously B), but probably only before I tried out the water were sure they'd be interested in one another, not dating etc. Also E) namely if someone expressed interest in the other and I wouldn't think that was a bad idea Bonus question - no, I don't think this would be too desperate, but it depends on the context. It would need to be a good friend I know and trust, probably
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 10:14 PM
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you're worried that it's going to reduce your chances of having sex? That's your concern? Mate, that's r/PurplePillDebate in a nutshell for you
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 04:57 PM
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Umm... Hopefully very bad?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 04:56 PM
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We are an anomaly, but yeah, I agree with you. Only with progressing age, a guy who has never been in a relationships starts to become more and more of a red flag, and it may start to have a negative effect on the guy as well, maybe (bitterness, being resentful at women and so on). That doesn't have to apply to everyone, of course, but you have to be a bit more careful with time. Still, at your age, I am sure there are many awesome guys in their 20's who have never been in a relationship to choo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 09:02 AM
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Yes, of course, I know plenty of them, but then again, your descriptions sounds so broad that quite a lot of men I usually don't consider "unsuccessful" would fit under your this term. Let's say I've met plenty of men who were either virgins or had one, maybe two (short) sexual encounters or one short-lived relationship or something. I would put them into two categories: The super great ones with an awesome personality that are usually unsuccessful due to a number of unfortunate combinations - p…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 10:07 PM
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One of them is not like the other.. lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 08:22 PM
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That was a good one. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 08:19 PM
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d the dads were all way "less masculine men". But aren't these all just beta males? /s
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 05:42 PM
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This is roughly how I feel about this as well! Or.. I don't know, it's maybe just that people how tend to have "weak" facial features like to wear beards more often in order to hide them, or something...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 05:41 PM
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Not true, I am 30 and haven't found much appeal in hypermasculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 05:39 PM
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Timothee with a little makeup and dressing could pass as a woman That's part of the appeal behind it... Yet, he is clearly male, so that kind of makes it attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 05:38 PM
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People don't listen to men 16 years your seniour so lightheartedly and think they are just being nice. This guy is well known for chasing after very, very young girls, be careful out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 08:48 PM
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Yeah well that person is absolutely insane. I hardly knew such self-loathing women existed, but apparently, they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 03:58 PM
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genders usually aren't interested in shity and insane mindsets such as trp maybe?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 07:30 PM
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I don't understand, OP. Don't you think a thread on "AskWomen" about the hardships of dating for women would yield similar results? Like, do yout think the answers will be all sunshine and roses?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 07:53 AM
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Please don't comment if you're average or below. I can make a post for you if you want. Lol please do
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 10:03 PM
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Whoa, didn't know me approaching someone contributes to ending social civilization as we know it. Makes sense. Thanks for letting me know. I'll never do it again, I promise!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 11:14 AM
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Arguably one of the few not so bad posts on PPD. If women were the only initiators it woud spare us a lot of harrassment as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 08:22 PM
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It’s why men can become obsessed with women they’ve never met. Okay, but, I mean... women can become pretty obsessed with handsome men they've never met as well. It starts (and often peaks) in high school where many school girls have huge crushes over guys they've basically never talked to, and for many, it doesn't and there. The picture of a person you've created in your mind can be very addictive and often more interesting that real life. I know it because I am very guilty of doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 03:44 PM
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I know you're not the OP, but you've asked this question. I mean, I personally think the post is shit, but clearly we disagree. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 12:07 PM
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having my obligatory "who hurt you" question in my mind, but seriously.. what went wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 11:53 AM
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maybe to kind of show you how ridiculous and non-sensical some, if not most, of the discussions here are? To kind of tell you to spend your time with something else maybe?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 11:49 AM
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True freedom as a man is when you stop caring what women think about you entirely Yes. And true freedom as a woman is when you stop caring what men think about you entirely. What a wise realization. We can all go home now.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 10:57 AM
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Yes, I dated someone I was not attracted to; someone who might have been a good match otherwise. He was also incredibly smart and a very kind person. This was a terrible idea of me though, it didn't work out and I regret my decision and the things I've done really much. Developing an attraction to someone you weren't initially attracted to, on the other hand, is very common; particularly among women (I'd dare to guess). The person does not need to change their appearance one tiny bit, it's just …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 10:38 PM
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“Your fault for being a doormat.” I swear I only see women levy this question at men. Interesting. No I totally asked this queston about myself several times, and I often tend to ask these kinds of question in one way or another when I feel like women get from one toxic relationship into another. Totally not geneder-related, in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 02:01 PM
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You are against a 25 year old dating an 18 year old, because they are supposedly in "different places in life" Yeah, sorta. Not only because of another life stage but also because of another maturity level. So, would you rather a 25 year schooled-at-home virgin old date a 32 year old single parent? No? Who said this? Such a relationship wouldn't work out in the long run probably, and sounds really unequal to me. In my personal anecdotal experience (which is, yes, I know, highly subjective, but b…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 04:38 PM
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Hmm.. does anyone know whether or not it makes any difference for a petite woman who is on the lower end of average/slightly below if she exercises and loses some weight to get even thinner and/or get some muscles? I'm not sure if the cost is worth it, to be honest; to me, it always seemed like face/height/bust size were more important factors (which I couldn't achieve through sports) and also I wouldn't like to lose the few curves I have... hmm.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 04:27 PM
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Hmm.. I have to say that my experience on a dating app back in the day as a mid-20 woman was "significantly" worse and I don't think I am exaggerating. A few things might be at play here if we were to believe you and me likewise. 1.I am significantly worse than your "6/10" you (hate this language but let's keep it for the sake of it. This might very well be true, I never thought I was that attractive. But curiously, my best female friend back then who is Asian, in her earhly 20 (then) and is stu…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 12:13 PM
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I think you are coming from a "typical" male perspective here whereas I come from a "typical" female perspective on this and that's why we are disagreeing here (necessary disclaimer here that my own perspective can't be applied to all women out there so in the end, perhaps your perspective might be more suited to her after all). The reason I am disagreeing is that I've experienced it myself and while, as a teenage girl, you might daydream about people being attracted to you even when you might n…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 08:16 AM
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If she has male friends who are unattached she should start hang out with them one on one outside. Yeah, or if she has male friends that are attached but know their boundaries and just want to be friends. In my experience, singe male friends are more difficult to handle when they are interested in you romantically (but you are not interested in them in return) and you have to be very, very careful to not get in a toxic situation in which the guy only wants you as a hook up/relationship (and you …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 06:09 AM
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I don't understand how the answer could be anything but yes (or how that has sparked a debate in another thread). Same goes for men, of course. Now, of course, you can think "deeper" about/overthink all things in life and find many nuances and exceptions and this is no different. If, for instance, you realize that you ultimately desire some toxic traits in men/women then clearly the answer might not be "become more toxic yourself" but rather "find out why you desire toxic traits in the first pla…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 06:51 PM
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So, you've never heard of the subjectivity of beauty, or you simply deny it at some point...? If you think that these said women "can't possibly be regarded as attractive" by just about anyone I would really love to see some examples of yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 06:31 PM
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I will add though that I think lots of men don't put on weight as well as women do. Maybe true on average. But I also think that some men put on weight better than other men. Mostly, a tall build and good clothes can suit you well when you're heavier.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 07:22 PM
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You are very wrong when you assume this almost universally aknowledge value is a Christian thing, but I am too lazy to write an essay on that yet, 2. even if that was true in theory Christians would be the biggest hypocrites of that statement ever so please.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 06:32 PM
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Lmao that humor would have been my thing exactly:p
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 03:54 PM
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You have to get out and experience real life a little bit. I agree that men aren't using women as long as it's consensual and women agree to have a casual relationship/hook up/FWB situation only. Some men commincate that really clearly (the men doing the right thing), some don't. From my experience, not all, even not that many men were lying about their intentions (still enough to get your view on humanity hurt a little bit...), but many of them were deliberately abstruse about them ("not sure y…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 03:47 PM
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Agree and disagree to some extent. Christian fundamentalists? Sure, they like to talk about Jesus on their profile. But there is a certain subgroup of people (particularly men in the US) who likes to call themselves "agnostic but culturally christian", even claiming how they don't like the church any more or how they emancipated themselves from Christianity. But when you continue talking to them, you quickly realize that their values and outlook on life is really much based on Christian conserva…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 03:38 PM
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They might not be "chewing your face" when you're dead, but they might be fighting over who gets the most out of your will, fighting over who has to deal with all those tedious funeral arrangements, or not even noticing you're dead for several weeks. Don't get me wrong, having a super loving family around you in your last days is great and all, but not everyone with children is lucky to have that outcome with their kids - and it seems to me like too many people are counting on those things to ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 11:16 AM
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This is all relative. I was invisible as a woman once and clearly that was much better than my trust being broken. It's hard to think of anything more terrible, really, but I won't deny that people might feel different about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 10:40 PM
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I think standards are just very different. I can see how people can find this guy handsome, but I can see that he can have something ugly to him too.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 09:20 PM
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I googled the guy and I agree, he turned out way more attractive than expected as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 09:18 PM
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I never really encountered any anecdotal evidence on this. I really wanted to be friends with many more guys I am friends with now, but they were either (only) romantically interested in me or not interested in me at all. My guy friends never had troubles to be friends with women either.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 10:56 PM
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I really don't know. It might be a stereotype that is true only in certain circumstances. Some people say that more men have worse/smaller social circles than women. I mean, they might be smaller and/or they might be circles that are less intense/more superficial/more bounding through a similar hobby but not through lifelong friendships or emotinal bonds. This is something I could get behind. Some of my male friends have told me that they don't talk about their emotions or their life like that t…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 09:35 AM
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Well if this is true then you certainly have the simple answer to the "loneliness epidemic" among men, don't you? Glad we've solved it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 06:04 AM
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It's a bit bold for you to assume that everyone who is struggling with dating is overweight. The same way it is pretty ignorant to assume every person that is overweight must be struggling with dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 06:30 AM
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There are many women who are alone way longer than they want it to be, sometimes for years. I happen to be one of them. Don't know why there should be such a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 07:44 PM
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The same thing that will happen to women who struggle in dating - some of them will commit suicide (arguably the worst outcome), some will die miserable and alone, some of them will change over the course of their lifetime and thus will succeed eventually, some of them will luck out eventually, and some of them will live a life as happy and as fulfilled as possible, because they'll find happiness and fullfilment in other areas. women who can’t find their desired partners still have the support o…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 07:43 PM
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My biggest hope is that women will refuse to date Republicans and as a result, Republicans will die out eventually.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 03:36 PM
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Morals, ethics, and values from what I can tell is above average among the STEM people and average for the blue collar dudes. Um.... No.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 07:18 AM
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I would guess that men have a higher sex drive and seek out casual relationships and intimacy more. Thus this higher driver to succeed with many women perhaps? Lonely women are lonely or their own or in unhappy relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 07:08 AM
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Exactly my thinking there.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 06:43 PM
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I'd take the second guy if there were some other things that would make us significantly compatible, like having the same outlook on life, the same values, same humor, same interests (wait.. you've mentioned his interests. Well to be honest, they are kind of boring and the biggest issue so far). All other things would never be dealbreakers in themselves; I can imagine myself dating someone with all of those things if some others were right as well. The second one is so much of a complete turn of…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 06:42 PM
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I love this sub. OP, if you are so certain about this after spending years within this red pill rabbit hole you're in, apparently, then why even pretend you are asking a queston and want to get an actual opinion from women? You know better than all of them anyway, apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 05:26 PM
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Would you have sex with the every single guy you right swiped on Tinder? I don't use tinder but assuming I'd use another kind of swiping app, I'd say these guys would meet the physical criteria to get intimate with them and pass this treshold, yes. So I wouldn't swipe on someone I am not attracted to, if that was the question. I would, of course, not sleep with any guy without knowing his personality ("only because he looks good") and before chatting with him and meeting up with him and finding …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 05:23 PM
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Not all of us are that suspicious. If he felt things were moving far too fast the last time and how sex screws with your emotions, it's only logial and understandable he has learned from his experience and decided to make it better (thus, wating longer) the next time. Not everyone has to apply the same logic some men here (with some clear issues) are applying to women here.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 03:23 PM
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I know, right? No, not really. I am not interested in being so-called friends with idiots and doormats who are just pretending to be friends with women only for the possibility to date her at the first opportunity (and likely failing at the attempt).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 10:07 PM
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Does it terrify you that you might end up being settled for? Honestly, yes, that's one of my fears when it comes to love/romance. But I have lots of them and they're very diverse, so... I mean I also fear that no one would settle for me, or that I might decide to settle eventually. Are you grateful that smoking hot guys are willing to be so generous with their sexuality? They aren't doing these women any favors, do they lol..? No I am not really greatful for that, because I wouldn't enjoy it (I …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 11:10 PM
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We all know online dating is a god-forsaken hell-scape for men and women It doesn't have to be this way though. You can still find a partner through online dating, enjoy a date or have respectful conversations. It is all possible. I second the first comment and the other with the nice description about the "warm approach". Ideally, we talk very "casually" (but friendly and warmly) in a social event or within a social circle of friends, and build up a connection slowly, see how we "vibe", and so …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 08:12 PM
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why can’t an older woman date an older man if men her age won’t date her We can. why can’t she date younger men? We certainly can. Now, of course, it depends on whether or not we/they want a serious relationshi out of it. With men a few years younger? Sure, it's the same as dating a man the same age as you. Men much younger? More likely to be a short-term relationship (sometimes, for the best for both parties), but even there, there are outlier couples that make a relationship with a bigger age …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 12:10 PM
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Your life sounds so inspiring! Great everything worked out for you? May I ask you what exactly you do in the medical field? I am also about to start to get into that profession in my ealry 30's now.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 08:58 AM
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Of course I'd take the second option. What an incredibly easy choice. I've done that before. As long as I am attracted to him it wouldn't and shouldn't bother me what others think of him anyway. He could be "ugly" by these "objective raters" for all I care (also happened to me before).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 09:11 AM
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Yeah I've noticed I have multiple types, which I found quite interesting. However, I have one type that is my "favorite" of all types, means, one type I consider to be "husband material" or something, if that makes sense (?). Perhaps this is only a phase know and I could imagine it changing when I actually meet one of my other types, fall in love and prefer that type then as a result. How about you, does that sound familiar?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 02:24 PM
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And it's not like it's a bad thing (?)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 08:47 AM
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I cannot say that for sure because I actually like bisexual men; I often prefer them to straight men, even (I've noticed). I think a lot of it has to do with the distaste of homosexuality/feminine men in general, to be honest. I can think of two reasons that would concern me as well, though ("concern" as in I'd like to make sure they are clearly not a problem first). The first thing is STD's, but it's easy to get tested before becoming intimate. The second is the fear that he'd come out as fully…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 09:41 PM
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Yeah I don't know whether it is because it isn't properly moderated or not, but when it comes to r/expredpill in comparison to r/IncelExit, for instance, this subs seems to be way more toxic and is not taking any stance on promoting harmful views at all. I'm afraid I have to unsubscribe soon, unfortunately.
/r/ExRedPill09/10/21 12:44 PM
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Umm.. I disagree but okay.
/r/ExRedPill06/10/21 09:09 PM
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I know right? People here hate to hear it (jee, I wonder why) but "conservative" and being educated (particularly educated and well-read in the humanities) are diametrically opposed most of the times.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 07:13 PM
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Yes, because only the most retarded people call themselves "socially liberal but fiscally conservative." Even saying "on the far right" would sound better, at least that person would be honest and more self-aware.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 07:09 PM
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They have trouble understanding that someone can find someone beautiful without them being conventionally attractive. That or they are that autistic about it that it's technically lying to them whenver you say to your partner "you're the most handsome guy to me."
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:37 PM
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Isn't that wholesome? For her, he is handsome. Perhaps he is smart, funny, or has a big heart. Why shouldn't she feel like he is the best man in the world? That should be normal in a marriage that has happened out of love.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 05:01 PM
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Good credit score, bein open with their emotions, good hygiene... Ah, such entitlement. Why are women like that? /s
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 07:57 AM
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A US survey found that 44% of teenage girls have had sex, compared to 58% 25 years ago. For boys, it was 47% compared to 69% 25 years ago. So... the men were still having sex earlier? Am I reading it right? What is your "problem" again?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 04:34 PM
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Up for a good start calling men "men" and women "females" buddy.
/r/MensRights29/09/21 04:19 AM
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I like the list. We probably have different work/career ethics but otherwise it's fitting many things I seek for as well
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 08:45 PM
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I liked how I didn't know exactly whether you were male or female
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 08:36 PM
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Why wouldn't you want to be friends with them then? I don't get it...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 08:34 PM
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I always thought this one is one of those big red flags (at least) and this goes for both genders
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 08:28 PM
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And my overly high standards are probably why I sit here today as the kissless dateless virgin I am now (...) Well that was one of the most self-aware comments I've read for a long while! This is a very good first step to make it out of the black whole eventually. You seem like a very nice fella, actually, I believe you can do it and become the happy person you want to be. Good luck on your path! (editted cause spelling)
/r/ExRedPill25/09/21 09:41 AM
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Emma Watson. pretty, but not stellar If this is true I'm an ogre LMAO
/r/ExRedPill25/09/21 09:39 AM
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Hmm, so I don't have a particularly emotional stance on that issue or mind "losing" this debate by being proven that women face an advantage in dating - honestly, I couldn't care less because having an advantage "somewhere" wouldn't shatter my worldview or anything like that, honestly, it would rather be soothing. Nevertheless, I have a few objections here and there - (it's now too late where I am, so I changed my mind on that essay I originally wanted to write and keep it to seperated questions…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 07:56 PM
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Hey, I can only imagine how frustrating that is for you. But seriously, you should keep your chin up. Some of us truly like younger looking men, so it wouldn't be correct to generilize it like that. I do have no idea whether we are in the minority or not, but at worst, you are a niche interest that is only waiting to be dicovered by people who will appreciate your younger looks :-). Besides, you'll stay younger a lot longer and trust me, you will appreciate it someday (at the latest at 35+).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 03:46 PM
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Interesting reading comprehension. I feel like at least half of the women here state completely different things. Clearly I don't think having a preference for a nice face is in any way unique to a gender or a bad thing in general, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 12:04 PM
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I am not entirely sure what you are hinting at, since I feel like answers to this post has been quite different. From women who almost never check men out to women who like to do it a lot, and people also really seem to like different things. But if you could enlighten me, that would be great. I don't deny there might be "tendencies" or things that are more typical for women, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 08:03 AM
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Good luck, man. It's really, really hard, but I believe you can do it. People survived this and so can you. I believe in you.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 07:21 PM
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I'm not talking about constant rejection or not being able to get sex/dates, since I know that probably doesn't happen why not? I'm approaching my fourth year being single and was only rejected from the guys I liked during that time. Of course, if we are talking about just "any" kind of date (with strangers etc.) then yeah, sure, I'd probably have found someone. But that's not what women are interested in. Strangers hitting on me and "likes" from guys on dating sites aside, I had no real interes…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 07:19 PM
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First, women are not a monolith (yes, I assume you're fed up with hearing this, but it needs to be said still), so answers may vary *greatly.* As for me, I do check men out who are attractive to me, mainly because they are quite rare - and with that I mean strangers that are attractive solely because of their outward appearance, I mean. I guess mostly I will take a few repeated glances, but I might stare, too, when I'm confident the person I'm looking at isn't seeing it. I'm pretty sure I turn m…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 05:29 PM
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@ u/ChibsFilipTelfordd, too: wenn people mention how they never want to go to a meet up because people look "cringe" there, there are always these two photos that are mentioned: https://www.reddit.com/r/CringeOnChemo/comments/9h6jg8/im_never_going_to_a_reddit_meetup/ (Of course, all the other meet ups looked normal but no one is mentioning these because that would be boring...)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 11:21 AM
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love bombing occurs when you are already together? Oh no, not at all. Love bombing is a common occurrence at the early stages of dating and is used to convince people that they are the right one for them (the person they've ever dreamed of, their prince in shining armor etc..).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 08:16 PM
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I am still looking and it's a very tall order to find a reasonably young girl (~25yo) who want a commitment in London. Well that's very weird, your posting history suggest you hadn't had a girlfriend four days ago yet. That changed really fast, didn't it? :D
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 08:02 PM
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lmao I thought the same. It was like "wait.. I totally forgot which team I am in."
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 12:53 PM
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Making a statement that a whole gender is basically mentally disabled and underdeveloped compared to another is a good standard definition of a sexist comment to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 12:13 PM
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This person sounded halfway reasonable until they had to bring their misogyny into it. Some men can't go without desperately mentioning it in every post, apparently, otherwise they'll explode or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 11:46 AM
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As a lurker I feel you. It's not reddit as a whole, it's these toxic communities you're in. Even if you realize how stupid their ideologies are from the get go, you get pulled down into their rabbit hole, eventually (even if subconsciously). Contrapoints has a great examplary video on incel communities (if you want to check her out, it's worth watching) and how even she began to think in these terms they were using. If I may give you some unsolicited advice - just quit these communites. They are…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 04:34 PM
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Haha, okay thank you for your quick answer, though!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 06:46 PM
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Women’s lives have become more like men’s over the last 35 years. Men have historically been less happy than women. Any source on this? Not asking passive-aggressively (even if I low-key doubt it), it just sounds so strange and interesting to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 06:38 PM
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Would you also say that there are men who want to date you and sette down with you?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 06:00 PM
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