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redliferedemption/r/askMRP24/10/19 07:09 AM
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How would you feel if you expressed appreciation and received absolutely nothing back in return? If the other MRP guys completely ignored every single one of your posts? I don't want anything in return. I just want to thank a random internet stranger for taking the time to read what I wrote and help me on my journey. But I guess you're right, I still picture him reading and nodding his head in approval, sort of a 'good student' validation. Do you ever go back to check how many upvotes you get? O…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/20 03:56 AM
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Yeah, just read your post. Choosing to stay in a relationship that we both know does not satisfy me, is showing that I am low value. Edit to go to the bottom of my reasoning: Women do not submit to low value men. I do not want better sex, it could stay the same for all I care. I want her submission, in her mind above all.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/20 03:49 AM
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The biggest indicator that someone is seeking validation is them tagging other usernames in their OYS posts. Ask me how I know. Even throwing a "thank you dude for showing me my blind spot" is seeking validation? You have got to be fucking kidding me. The bedroom is for two things, and neither of them are lifting weights. Why is your toddler sleeping in your bedroom? Yep, the only room where there was some space in our smallish appartment. Wife is sleeping with toddler so that I can get a full n…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 01:19 PM
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Depends on how important sex is for me in the grand scheme of things. It does seem petty now that you ask, especially versus not seeing my kids. But there are other moments when I just don't want to settle for an unsatisfactory sex life.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 12:56 PM
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OYS #12 33, 68kg, 1m80, 16% bf, wife 35, married 4 years, together 6, 2 kids (f) 2 years old and 1 month old Lifts kg: Squat 100, Bench 73, Overhead 50, Row 72, Deadlift 125 Reading: best of TRM, Heartiste, NMMNG x2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Unchained Man, HTWFAIP, TWOTSM, Pook About to start SGM The reply to my OYS from u/part_wolf from 2 weeks ago finally made sense. Of course I was doing OYS to get validation, rather than to be accountable to myself. I have been keeping a list of weekly goals on my ph…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 09:50 AM
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In my case the boundaries were less about what was being said, and more about what was being done. It's pointless to argue with the wife, you can't reason with her, her outbursts should be dealt with DARE instead of DEER. As for actions, I was feeling like I was doing too much, being a plowhorse for my family, taking no time for myself, and my wife being unappreciative for it. In hindsight I see I was trying to relieve her of her responsibilities as a wife, a mother, a SAHM. Once I realized this…
/r/askMRP29/04/20 08:41 AM
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You're right, better to not start letting her on the stuff I'm reading. Instead of nuking movies and tv shows entirely, which is one of the few things we do together, I will just avoid the sci-fi and fantasy section.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/20 08:25 AM
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Not really, we live in a 2 bedroom flat. I take my daughter to see my parents who own a house once per week, but I use that time to plug the guitar since no neighbors. But I did write this OYS there. And for the reading, I just set myself the new goal of reading just 10 minutes every morning, as I wake up before everyone. Can't believe I didn't think of something that simple before. I really need to get my shit together.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/20 08:19 AM
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At first I was going to defensively reply how I absolutely have to nuke everything to be able to laser focus on my goal of becoming an integrated male without backsliding. But maybe you're right. Being an integrated male IS being able to accept that you like some stuff that can be deemed childish or unproductive, and owning it unapologetically. Right now between my kids, my job, and MRP, I have very limited time and have to prioritize, so I will have this escapism moratorium anyway, so I will se…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/20 08:14 AM
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OYS #11 33, 69kg, 1m80, 17% bf, wife 35, married 4 years, together 6, 2 kids (f) 2,5 years old and 1 month old Lifts kg: Squat 100, Bench 73, Overhead 49, Row 72, Deadlift 122,5 Reading: best of TRM, Heartiste, NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Unchained Man, HTWFAIP, TWOTSM, Pook, currently rereading NMMNG Reading: Managed only another 10% on my reread of NMMNG. But u/RedBackedBadger is right, this book is too good to be rushed. This time I see myself everywhere, I take notes, and make sure I come up with…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/20 08:41 AM
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OYS #10 33, 69kg, 1m80, 17% bf, wife 35, married 4 years, together 6, 2 kids (f) 2,5 years old and 1 month old Lifts kg: Squat 100, Bench 73, Overhead 49, Row 72, Deadlift 122,5 Reading: best of TRM, Heartiste, NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Unchained Man, HTWFAIP, TWOTSM, Pook, currently rereading NMMNG My exchange with u/HornsOfApathy last week made me realize my nice guyness bleeds through even when participating in MRP. Instead of giving straight answers to simple questions, my brain gets automatica…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/20 08:33 AM
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You need to be comfortable being alone. You have no kids so this should be easy mode. Go do some awesome stuff. You make relationships sound like they are a vital organ or something. Stop looking at others for validation of your self worth. What are the things you do just for yourself? Not things that are geared towards becoming 'the perfect husband' or perfect member of society or anything that relies on the validation of a third party, but things for your personal enjoyment?
/r/askMRP18/04/20 03:38 AM
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You say you have no problems enforcing boundaries in your job, but do you enforce them with your wife? It takes a while to realize that you are completely pussy-whipped, even if you improve all the other areas.
/r/askMRP16/04/20 09:28 PM
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It's an area for self growth. You saying that I got it wrong gave me relief about not having to face my fears. Other than that I know I am worth at least some shit, definitely not fulfilling my potential yet, but I look back on some of my progress with satisfaction, not talking about it with anyone. I feel I have done all the other stuff pre dread level 6. Work is good, finances are in order, eat clean, got rid of all vices and addictions, I look much better, dress and groom well, renewed friend…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/20 03:13 PM
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I think the kids are mine due to their facial features, but I might do a test down the line anyway. However one thing that has been giving me pause is that this friend has been telling me that he has a cuckolding fantasy, and has been indirectly hinting that if he had to choose someone to fuck his wife, it would be me, on more than one occasion. Feeling of guilt or wanting to make things even perhaps? Interesting. My ego might have been protecting me from accepting the ugly truth about both him …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/20 09:42 AM
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OYS #8 Found MRP in 02/2019, Age 32, 69kg, 1m80, 17% bf, wife 35, married 4 years, together 6, 2 kids (f) 2,5 years old and 1 month old Lifts kg: Squat 97,5, Bench 72, Overhead 49, Row 69,5, Deadlift 122,5 Reading: best of TRM, Heartiste, NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Unchained Man, HTWFAIP, TWOTSM, Pook, currently rereading NMMNG New anger phase: Since realizing I was the quintessential nice guy with a massive ego, the rate at which things have been clicking has risen exponentially over the last weeks…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/20 04:09 AM
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averaging 4 dark beers per day Beer can be managed Does not compute
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/20 02:48 PM
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Part 2: So many things started to make sense. I would open the tap in the loo so that my wife would not hear toilet noises. I put my phone on vibrate in public transportation to not inconvenience other people. Jesus. Fuck. I understand why people have no reservations about using me. They're not the ones harming me, I am doing that to myself. Now I finally understand what reset everyday means, I know what is my main fucked up mental model and what needs to be addressed. I also finally understand …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/20 08:32 AM
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OYS #7 - previous one was on January 28 Found MRP in 02/2019, Age 32, 69kg, 1m80, 17% bf, wife 35, married 4 years, together 6, 2 daughters, 2,5 years and 2 weeks old Lifts kg: Squat 97,5, Bench 72, Overhead 49, Row 69,5, Deadlift 120 Reading: best of TRM, Heartiste, NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Unchained Man, HTWFAIP, TWOTSM, currently reading Pook I am ready for a reread of NMMNG. The first time around I didn't recognize myself in most of the situations, and thought it didn't apply to me. This is bo…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/20 08:28 AM
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OYS #6 - previous one was on October 29 Found MRP in 02/2019, Age 32, 70kg, 1m80, 17% bf, wife 35, married 4 years, together 6, 1 kid F 2 years old, second one F due in march Reading: best of TRM, Heartiste, NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Unchained Man, currently reading HTWFAIP Lifts kg: Squat 92,5, Bench 69, Overhead 48, Row 62, Deadlift 112,5 Mission: I will push myself, step out of my confort zone, past my real or perceived handicaps, relentlessly self-improve, to fulfill all my potential, to advanc…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/20 07:51 PM
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You are your only judge, you shouldn't measure progress by how she responds or doesn't respond sexually, at least at first. My wife is also pregnant, and many things are off the table because of this and frequency has taken a nosedive (1 x week at most) because we are both too exhausted. I took this forced sex moratorium as an opportunity to just focus on self improvement, without being distracted by thinking about my sex life.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/20 11:59 AM
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OYS #5 MRP since 02/2019, Age 32, 75kg, 1m80, 19% bf, wife 35, married 4 years, together 6, 1 kid F 2 years old, second one F due in march Reading: NMMNG, WISNIFG, best of TRM, MMSLP, currently reading Unchained Man Lifts kg: Squat 87,5, Bench 56, Overhead 43, Row 62, Deadlift 107,5 Relationship: Thanks to the replies to my post about SAHMs and money in askmrp, I realized we both were carrying enormous resentment towards each other. I decided to take it like a man and next time she would lash ou…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/19 05:47 AM
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My guess is you have no fucking clue what you want and so how do you expect her to have any context for making decisions. Correct. I am waking up from a lifelong faggotry and video game induced coma.
/r/askMRP24/10/19 06:01 PM
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I actively enforce boundaries with my daughter but she is very difficult, requires constant attention and barely sleeps during the day. Wife has pretty much given up and placates her just to not have to hear the screaming. Kid's temperament is part genetic lottery, but I know a lot of the clusterfuck has snowballed from me not having my shit together.
/r/askMRP24/10/19 05:59 PM
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Dad is over 60, mum is over 50. They were living the good life but my dad lost everything due to bad luck in business. No savings (don't ask, I still can't wrap my head around it myself). Mum still has the liberal profession she always had, dad isn't sitting on his ass drinking but everything he tries fails sooner or later. They manage day to day living but there is always a house or car repair that fucks them up. I also repay one of their loans, have lent some money in the past, and try to help…
/r/askMRP24/10/19 05:55 PM
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Thanks for the replies. I see clearer now. It is indeed not about the money. I am resentful at her, but she is a reflection of me. She has all the right in world to be resentful at me, for how I have been the whole time, a shitty non-captain.
/r/askMRP24/10/19 09:08 AM
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Video games give you a false sense of achievement, a feeling of accomplishing something which in reality doesn't mean shit. Exactly. Even though I had reduced my gaming to a few hours per week, I was still thinking about it all the time. I was giving myself a pass for not giving real life my full effort, because my sense of achievement was guaranteed at home in front of the screen anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 04:28 PM
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OYS #4 Found MRP 02/2019, Age 32, 75kg, 1m80, 19% bf, wife 35, married 4 years, together 6, 1 kid F 2 years old, second one F due in march Reading: NMMNG, WISNIFG, best of TRM, MMSLP, currently reading The Unchained Man Lifts (kg): Squat 80, Bench 53, Overhead 41, Row 59,5, Deadlift 105 I initially wrote a massive post detailing the observations and thought processes behind my video game addiction over the years, but fuck it. Games were only a symptom of me being a faggot, not the cause. Long st…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 12:45 PM
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If she asked nicely or even neutrally I woudln't have made a fuss. But here she was outright disrespectful, barking orders. What's the proper response in order to maintain self respect? Ignoring it? I've been doing it my whole life, I don't want to anymore. Amused mastery? Something like "geez I'm on it, calm your horses"? Regarding the wife outburst, when she is very emotional she says things like this, but after a while she acts as if nothing happened and we're all sweet and cuddly. I guess it…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/19 10:33 AM
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OYS #3 MRP since 02/2019, Age 32, 75kg, 1m80, 19% bf, wife 35, married 4 years, together 6, 1 kid F 2 years old, second one F due in march Reading: NMMNG, WISNIFG, best of TRM, currently reading MMSLP Lifts kg: Squat 84, Bench 52, Overhead 40, Row 57, Deadlift 102,5 Relationship: Shitty week. I am not being the oak. We were supposed to go on a family trip on sunday and my wife was really looking forward to it because it was her hometown, but my parent's car broke down earlier in the week. Wife s…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/19 09:09 AM
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Thanks. Will look into the book for a start.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/19 09:45 AM
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This is spot on. The thing is I have no problem speaking my mind and saying things which I know are silly with my wife, my parents and my friends. But with coworkers and strangers I'm stunted, and always go for the "nice and official" answer. Since finding MRP, I sometimes even come up with an outrageous (probably only in my eyes) reply, but decide against it. I have to find a way to start treating everyone as if they were my close friends. Do you have any pointers for getting over the irrationa…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/19 09:20 AM
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OYS #2 - MRP since 02/2019 Age 32, 75kg, 1m80, 19% bf, wife 35, married 4 years, together 6, 1 kid F 2 years old, second one F due in march Reading: NMMNG, WISNIFG, best of TRM, currently reading MMSLP Lifts kg: SQ 78 BP 49,5 OHP 44,5 ROW 57 DL 95 Relationship: I got shit tested this morning over not wanting to skip lifting (at home). I was coming home very late due to overtime at work the last 2 weeks, and my daughter missed me a lot and she started having a meltdown when I was leaving for work…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 08:08 PM
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OYS 1 - MRP since 02/2019 Age 32, 75kg, 1m80, 19% bf, wife 35, married 4 years, together 6, 1 kid F 2 years old, second one F due in march Reading: NMMNG, WISNIFG, best of TRM, currently reading MMSLP Lifts kg: SQ 70,5 BP 44,5 OHP 44,5 ROW 54,5 DL 90 I wanted to self improve long before I met my wife as I always thought there was something wrong with me. I think I have undiagnosed high functioning autism. I was always severely behind my peers in terms of, well actually everything now that I thin…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/19 09:53 PM
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How do you guys get in the PIV > blowjob mindset? For me it's the other way round. Regular sex is nothing special, but I woul gladly take blowjobs over it half the time. Is this a sexual act validation seeking on my part? Me needing the seemingly submissive and degrading thing to feel like I have power? I will admit in terms of physical sensations PIV is usually better but I'm just psychologically turned on by the idea of a BJ. Another thing is that my wife cannot comprehend selfless one sided s…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/19 04:26 PM
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