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| 25 | Opsec fail"My OPSec is on point" the OP mentioned | /r/askMRP | 28/01/25 10:53 PM |
| 20 | Which redpill books are actually about being a better manAlso, When I Say No I Feel Guilty | /r/askMRP | 20/08/24 09:57 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 30, 2024Man. You've read the sidebar but haven't internalized yet NMMNG. You are fat. You DEER about it. But I will be addressing other things no one has address it yet. You are on OYS #0. Zero? You won't reach OYS #1. Mission: To be the living example for my future children. Your mission is someone who doesn't exist yet? And might not? I have been a drunk, or high, captain. I am an addict, it is in my genes and family history. It's not your fault, it's your family's fault. Have you internalized NMMNG? … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/05/24 09:12 PM |
| 4 | Am i wrong?Your wrong. It’s a choice to accept to get shit tested. You're right You could always date men instead, and suck dick. They won't shittest you. | /r/askMRP | 31/03/24 09:45 PM |
| 3 | Am i wrong?To be fair I don’t miss her that much Makes a post on /r/askmrp Try /r/asktrp instead You're trying too hard to display alfa™ Am I wrong? | /r/askMRP | 31/03/24 09:44 PM |
| 14 | What did I do wrong?You just failed all the shittests she presented to you Who can blame her? Everything your wife said could have been answered with AM and A&A You are DEERing, in her frame and afraid of her emotions Are you sure you've been internalizing the sidebar? | /r/askMRP | 24/03/24 10:37 PM |
| 0 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 30, 2023OYS #21 Age: 38; 175cm, 69Kg, BF (navy): 19% Mission: Independence and freedom. Read: 48LoP, 16CoP, NMMNG (x2), WISNIFG, BoP, RM #1, MAP, MMSLP, TWOTSM (x2), TAoS, Day Bang Reading/Listening: Doing the BFA NMMNG exercises, comparing notes, mental models and OMS DL 138Kg | Zercher SQ 66Kg | BBR 62Kg | BP 58Kg | OHP 38Kg One day of this week I had a lot of things not working out very well on my job. Even though I kept a positive attitude about it, the whole day went downhill. I was feeling angry b… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/05/23 10:12 AM |
| 5 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 23, 2023Dude, your male hamster is running wild AF I will soon hit a period of time when my wife will be out of my web of surveillance for a few nights. This will be the first real window my wife has to get some outside dick and I expect it's going to bother me. I don't sense any kind of plan, but I don't need to. During this time: I'll get the feeling that I'm getting cheated on, and react to this by cheating At this point I'll be really done with her in my heart and mind, and I'm already close to that… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/05/23 10:33 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 23, 2023OYS #20 Age: 38; 175cm, 69Kg, BF (navy): 19% Mission: Independence and freedom. Read: 48LoP, 16CoP, NMMNG (x2), WISNIFG, BoP, RM #1, MAP, MMSLP, TWOTSM (x2), TAoS, Day Bang Reading/Listening: Reading my own field reports from 1y ago, identifying what I've done both good and bad. Restarted doing the BFA NMMNG exercises, comparing notes, mental models and OMS DL 138Kg | Zercher SQ 66Kg | BBR 62Kg | BP 58Kg | OHP 38Kg Haven't slept enough due to circumstances I could not control but I am recovering… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/05/23 10:19 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 16, 2023That’s all well and good but until you get out of your wife’s frame it’s all just details. You're right. I've been thinking about your comment and how it struck me so deep in my ego. I thank your for your comment. I am still on scoreboard mentality Do you see the need to harden the fuck up yet? Yes. For myself. Do you know the most attractive body part on a man? I will answer frame | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/05/23 12:44 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 16, 2023Are the goals unattainable (probably not) or are you just sucking to work on them? Mostly, sucking to work on them | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/05/23 05:23 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 16, 2023I know several professional musicians. All of them struggle to make a living of music and have main jobs, music being a side hustle. They love music. I used to produce music too and I didn't lived off of it, never got a dime out of it but I still did it anyway. The point being: You want to be living of music or do you want to be a great music producer? What if, by external factors, you cannot make a living from your music but you'll still produce and make great music? Will your life be a failure… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/05/23 08:52 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 16, 2023That was really insightful. Specially this: you’re telling yourself to donate to an institution you hate in order to hit these goals suggests to me you’re not loving the process Thank you. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/05/23 08:13 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 16, 2023Is this the mindset you want to have? You are preempting yourself to walk on eggshells and tracking your chicks cycle. Whose frame do you think that is built around? That wasn't the point tracking it but I can understand why you might think that way. Why couch your feelings and blame others for how you feel? You keep referencing the oak in your OYS, but all I see is a lot of rock even towards yourself. External factors I cannot control. Which means I still get angry because of external factors I… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/05/23 07:59 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 16, 202320% protein is an increase? What have you been eating? Food is fuel, that’s it. Make it routine, boring and plan it out. No, I wasn't counting macros, I increased my protein intake in absolute terms (more grams). Maybe 40/30/30 it's mor suitable for my objective (gain weight and muscle) Fogging: I think of it more as deflecting. “You might be right” “perhaps” etc. Rocks can still hit you in the fog. It’s more like an umbrella in the rain or “creating fog” so someone doesn’t see exactly where you… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/05/23 07:42 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 16, 2023Did you fail your goals because you did not do the right practice or did you fail your goals because they were too ambitious? Some were too ambitious, others were contradictory with others and others I didn't do it right or didn't put enough effort into it. Also I didn't account for external factors. What is the purpose of self punishment for arbitrary goal setting? It works. As long as it's well thought and planned. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/05/23 07:27 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 16, 2023You're right. It's 140gr of protein my daily intake. I was following My Fitness Pal for gaining weight but I need more, apparently. And it isn't working because I am not gaining weight. Thanks. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/05/23 07:24 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 16, 2023OYS #19 Age: 38; 175cm, 69Kg, BF (navy): 19% Mission: Independence and freedom. Read: 48LoP, 16CoP, NMMNG (x2), WISNIFG, BoP, RM #1, MAP, MMSLP, TWOTSM (x2), TAoS, Day Bang Reading/Listening: Reading the JackTenOfHearts posts and comments DL 138Kg | Zercher SQ 64Kg | BBR 60Kg | BP 56Kg | OHP 37Kg I haven't been doing the BFA exercises from NMMNG. I will be doing more BFA exercises this next week. Have been prioritizing reading instead of writing. Switched from 6 days a week lifting to 4 days a w… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/05/23 09:22 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 09, 2023I like your OYS structure. And I also noticed you reply a lot to other MRPers OYS's. You're more verbose replying to others OYS than actually writing in your own OYS. Is it because you: Teach and therefore learn this stuff better Or you have a save a bro™ complex? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/05/23 10:16 PM |
| 0 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 09, 2023Lifting 4x a week is plenty if you bring the intensity (will also help you sleep). What split or program are you going to use? I was lifting 6 days a week and it was ineffective. It was feeling like a burden. This is my new lifting program 4 day Split // v1.1 All of the exercises are using the RPT method. This can be edited throughout time, no plan is perfect and can always improve. Monday: Back & Biceps Tuesday: Chest & Triceps Wednesday: Rest Thursday: Legs Friday: Shoulders & Arms & Abs Satur… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/05/23 10:38 PM |
| -1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 09, 2023Yes. Doing AM or AA prevents that anger and resentment to build up, it defuses the situation. If it does build up anyway, I just STFU. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/05/23 01:40 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 09, 2023I have been addicted and dependent on THC since 2019 / 2020 and every time I 'quit' it was not indefinitely. I keep holding a door open for myself. "If I do it for a period of time and then stop for a while it is not a problem" It took me months (before MRP) to quit daily consumption of weed. It's stressful, my brain kept making excuses to get/smoke weed. I had to make a decision, make myself extremely busy with something, I smoked cigarettes like crazy to deal with the withdrawal symptoms. It e… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/05/23 01:35 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 09, 2023OYS #18 Age: 38; 175cm, 69Kg, BF (navy): 19% Mission: Independence and freedom. Read: 48LoP, 16CoP, NMMNG (x2), WISNIFG, BoP, RM #1, MAP, MMSLP, TWOTSM (x2), TAoS, Day Bang Reading/Listening: Reading the JackTenOfHearts posts and comments / Stuff about Nutrition and Lifting online DL 138Kg | Zercher SQ 62Kg | BBR 62Kg | BP 56Kg | OHP 36Kg I am controlling my diet and with MyFitnessPal. I came to the conclusion that my macros are a little off and that I need to put more effort and variety into my… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/05/23 09:36 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 02, 2023Deering about the past Spot on. Maybe living in a house that's properly maintained is something you "want". Yes, I do. I have no mortgage or debt. My wife inherited her "house's" but in need of proper maintainence. If we ever separate I will be theoretically homeless, but I'm not worried about it. Meaning that I'm investing on something that will never be mine. But it will be for my kids. I've come to terms that even if I separate tomorrow I wouldn't ask for anything I've put into this house. Co… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/05/23 09:40 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 02, 2023No, dude. Covert contracts are "if I X, someone else will Y." You can have covert contracts just with yourself and your ego You could, I suppose, just be a serial plater and next them as soon as the moods arise. That's one way to do it. It's a lot of work to do all that. Probably more work than becoming unaffected by your woman's mood. Pick your hard. I wouldn't say it's more work than becoming unaffected by my/other women's moods. I believe it's probably easier to just kick the can down the roa… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/05/23 09:47 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 02, 2023And why would she? And that's comforting. Not knowing that she wouldn't settle for less but knowing I can do much more, with or without her | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/05/23 09:29 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 02, 2023Maybe you don't actually want some of the things that you think "need" to be done. Excluding the need to fix a house that really needs proper maintenance, this was very insightful and I can map this to other things in my life. Thank you | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/05/23 09:28 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 02, 2023Well, if you want one that doesn't have bad moods, maybe marry a man? That would make things a lot easier, thanks for the advice If you're able to be not affected by her moods, I guess her bad moods don't matter and you can go about liking her again? Maybe. But that's a covert contract that I don't want to subscribe. I may not be liking her again. But if I do, great. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/05/23 01:48 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 02, 2023Wonder where she gets her scoreboard mentality from. If the standards were clearly laid out why are you enabling this behavior? You're right, just like the rest of your observations. I didn't set this boundary properly and I expected everything and everyone to follow and have a problem free life™ | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/05/23 01:46 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 02, 2023I think that once you will start loving the dark side of her character and not getting aggravated by it things will start to change. They do. I am not consistent. And that makes things much harder. Your wife feels that you are not able to be amused by her moods yet and will keep testing you until you do. Exactly. Most of the time shittests are amusing to me but that one time I don't have patience causes her to double down on it. Fortunately I am able to reset much better and don't get resentful.… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/05/23 01:38 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 02, 2023Perhaps it was a shitty comfort test, you might be right. My instincts tell me it wasn't a simple shittest, but my instincts could be wrong, of course. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/05/23 01:33 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 02, 2023On the upside, we learned a lot about his wife this week. Fascinating. True. I wasn't being my mental point of origin and it showed all over this OYS | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/05/23 01:31 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 02, 2023Start being selfish Yes. I am getting more selfish with my time. “[You’re right. And that was a mistake, but ] I can’t change the past. I can only change things going forward, and that’s what I’m working on.” [optional / if relevant] This is what I do, but not 100% of time (and that's my mistake), a broken record version of what you wrote. I am using this always from now on: I can’t change the past. I can only change things going forward, and that’s what I’m working on. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/05/23 01:29 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 02, 2023That happens sometimes and I often take that stance/mental model at work. Outside work, I don't do that so often and that's the struggle I have with myself. Limited time to do what I want. Being overwhelmed by things/stuff at home that need maintenance/fixing or being replaced. If I take the same stance/mental model I take with work, I know I will be able to manage my time better. I can't fix everything. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/05/23 01:22 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 02, 2023I don't know if this is a 'normal' thing, but I see that once I take my focus away from my spouse and relationship and focus on myself that things drastically improve. It almost feels like a paradox. You read, read and read, put all this effort in and then you find out that you need to put less effort and thought into it for it to thrive. Like riding a bike, or skateboarding. You can read about it but if you practice it enough times you don't need to remember that chapter you've read about "fall… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/05/23 01:27 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 02, 2023OYS #17 Age: 38; 175cm, 69Kg, BF (navy): 19% Mission: Independence and freedom. Read: 48LoP, 16CoP, NMMNG (x2), WISNIFG, BoP, RM #1, MAP, MMSLP, TWOTSM (x2), TAoS, Day Bang Reading/Listening: n/a DL 138Kg | Zercher SQ 62Kg | BBR 60Kg | BP 54Kg | OHP 36Kg My BF is too high. I have been increasing my weight with some difficulty and my BF has increased too. Of course it's all my fault. I haven't addressed properly my diet and haven't payed enough attention to this item in my MAP. I will make a plan… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/05/23 01:17 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 25, 2023With Finances I am not happy as my wife earns equally and never contributes to the house. To me that is an hard boundary. I just stopped paying bills for a few days and I was willing to leave my nuclear family over this. To me, it worked, and as soon as I get laziness and unwillingness to cooperate, I stop paying bills again. Words, negotiations, are worthless. Only action solves problems. Be a rock to shit tests and negative comments (very difficult as I cannot shut my mouth and always reply). … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/04/23 09:57 PM |
| 1 | 10 years relationship helpAny advice? Yes. New girls, I’ve no problem turning them into my personal whore. Drop your oneitis and check Rational Male Iron Rule #7 | /r/askMRP | 26/04/23 09:37 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 25, 2023I have other hobbies that I've put on hold since my first kid was born. I use my family as an excuse often to don't do it. You've probably read plenty and it is a whole different thing to start applying it. Probably. But I've always liked psychology and human behavior. Evolution psychology. Human interaction. Body language. Red pill wasn't a major surprise for me but I thought somehow 1 wife and 2 kids later I was kind of immune to the human condition and/or forgetful about things. I've found it… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/04/23 11:03 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 25, 2023I find that post being helpful on changing your mental models, I don't care if it's true or not, but if it's useful. Reading your reply was also useful, /u/Persimmon_Dazzling But your punishment (removing time, attention, affection, commitment - taac) only works if you're attractive. A nice guy can "punish" but still don't get a desired outcome because his punishment is useless (i.e: removing affection) just like his reward (giving attention) That doesn't mean you're wrong though, but like every… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/04/23 10:24 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 25, 2023Yes, it was very helpful, thanks | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/04/23 10:13 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 25, 2023Thanks. That probably means that writing a weekly OYS is helpful. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/04/23 10:12 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 25, 2023I've not had a drink in 2.5months. This is great. The rest of your OYS just speaks to me as mild depression, procrastination and laziness. Lack of purpose and mission. Anger. Am I right? approaching women that I need want to. Was that a Freudian slip? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/04/23 09:58 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 25, 2023OYS #16 Age: 38; 175cm, 68.5Kg, BF (navy): 18% Mission: Independence and freedom. Read: 48LoP, 16CoP, NMMNG (x2), WISNIFG, BoP, RM #1, MAP, MMSLP, TWOTSM (x2), TAoS, Day Bang Reading/Listening: Re-doing BFAs from NMMNG. Reading the JackTenOfHearts posts and comments DL 136Kg | Zercher SQ 60Kg | BBR 58Kg | BP 54Kg | OHP 36Kg I defined better my MAP, what I need to improve and what are my goals. Some are short term, others are long term. I defined some goals for 6 months, others to reach within a … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/04/23 11:42 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 18, 2023I think the main reason I was rejected was because I did it half-jokingly. This wasn't smart. Initiations: You're not that funny If I do it jokingly it avoids feeling rejected because I was just kidding. It feels less painful, at first. But initiate and if/when she shoots you down, go do something else and avoid being butthurt. Takes practice, like everything | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/04/23 09:26 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 18, 2023It seems like I am r-tarded, doesn't it? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/04/23 07:05 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 18, 2023If you can't think of anything interesting that's a big problem. I can. Besides working out I currently have no other hobbies and I acknowledge it, I am thinking about it and how I can address it. Thanks | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/04/23 12:24 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 18, 2023OYS #15 Age: 38; 175cm, 68.5Kg, BF (navy): 18% Mission: Independence and freedom. Read: 48LoP, 16CoP, NMMNG (x2), WISNIFG, BoP, RM #1, MAP, MMSLP, TWOTSM (x2), TAoS, Day Bang Reading/Listening: Re-doing BFAs from NMMNG. Reading the JackTenOfHearts posts and comments DL 136Kg | Zercher SQ 60Kg | BBR 58Kg | BP 54Kg | OHP 36Kg I took a week off from work (vacations) and fixed a lot of stuff around the house and organized things. Took care of the garden and fruit trees. Cut all the grass inside the … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/04/23 01:43 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 11, 2023What is your mission? Why are you getting married? Also have to create a new email address to separate the junk mail from the business emails, and extend my desk at home to add my personal laptop so I can access that account on my desktop as opposed to working from my cellphone. That's fucking pointless and not useful to have on your OYS. Just do those "bare minimum" tasks to organize your work, pat yourself on the back and STFU. A much more useful OYS statement would be on your OYS #4 "I organi… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/04/23 10:48 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 11, 2023You're right Horns, thanks You've said a lot with such a short comment and it made me rethink my whole approach to this Also my previous comment was absolutely worthless | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/04/23 09:08 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 11, 2023Yes. Not as frequently as I would like to, I have problems managing my time, logistics and that can be overwhelming. I have a tendency to want to do/make everything (*right") which is a NG trait. I wasn't writing that on my OYS because that didn't seem relevant to write. I get what you're saying. Thanks for the feedback. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/04/23 09:04 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 11, 2023Is there a specific reason that you choose this strategy over low reps / high weight? I started a few weeks ago also doing accessory exercises and not just compound exercises. Bicep curls, Bulgarian Split Squats (on leg day), hip thrusts, etc. I started light and doing AMRAP but always increasing the weight on every session. I'd rather increase 4Kg each session instead of 10Kg and still go for higher reps, but of course they will come down in number of reps, and that's fine. You are already dead… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/04/23 01:07 PM |
| -2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 11, 2023You are doing fine. You are becoming a very capable leader and your wife feels it too. Stop talking yourself down like this. How much progress have you made in the last few weeks? You stopped smoking, you started leading (yes you did) and your self talk has improved immensely. Be critical, but also be positive about your progress, because you're making it. When we do our weekly OYS, and I think most of us have that kind of covert contract with ourselves, that were going to fix ourselves just bec… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/04/23 09:44 PM |
| -2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 11, 2023I may have to accept that she will never be good with money and it's my responsibility to guide this family financially. Fixed. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/04/23 09:29 PM |
| -1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 11, 2023This is from OYS #11 Finances weren't still where I wanted.them to be, until Sunday. Organized. Since my wife wasn't cooperating, and it's a hard boundary for me, I told her I wasn't going on a trip we planned to have this last weekend. I said: No more money spent until our finances are organized. I didn't cancel it, I told her I wasn't going and the reason for it, but in practical terms it means canceled. She didn't seem upset. My mistake, even after cancelling, was trying to argue, negotiate a… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/04/23 09:28 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 11, 2023Or your game was just intrinsic and you didn't even knew you had it. Everyone has some form of game. Maybe it was weak game. Maybe you were doing things that were attracting women and it was natural to you, so you never needed to think about game. It's a lot of maybe's. Map this to your life. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/04/23 09:19 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 11, 2023/u/Tyred_Biggums already nailed it but re-read this comment on your OYS #6 a month ago and you agreeing with it | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/04/23 12:48 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 11, 2023You're very angry towards yourself and your wife by proxy As a result of this unrealistic zoo of high libido GFs I spent my adulthood in, I NOW HAVE WEAK FUCKING GAME! I can relate but don't blame others for your failures | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/04/23 12:43 PM |
| 7 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 11, 2023OYS #14 Age: 38; 175cm, 69Kg, BF (navy): 18% Mission: Independence and freedom. Read: 48LoP, 16CoP, NMMNG (x2), WISNIFG, BoP, RM #1, MAP, MMSLP, TWOTSM (x2), TAoS, Day Bang Reading/Listening: Re-doing BFAs from NMMNG DL 134Kg | Zercher SQ 58Kg | BBR 58Kg | BP 52Kg | OHP 36Kg Regarding lifting I find myself thriving and evolving fast on exercises like Bulgarian Split Squats or Barbell Hip Thrusts, but not as much on Squats, Bench Press and specially on OHP. I do AMRAP with RPT and I can go someti… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/04/23 08:52 AM |
| 0 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 04, 2023Everything is manipulation, but not all manipulation is bad. Why practice assertiveness in this situation? Why not? Now here's the twist. I called him up yesterday and said: "Hey bro, I made a mistake. Count me, my wife and kids to that dinner." I didn't explain why I changed my mind and neither he needed an explanation, he's just glad he can count me in. He didn't need for me to explain my mistake, because he's one of my best friends and trusts my judgment. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/04/23 09:33 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 04, 2023I'll fake the kino and flirting but I feel artificial about it. And so does she Your ego is telling you that you don't feel attracted to her so you don't destroy your ego. Your ego is in self preservation mode and hamstering hard so your mental models can be safe and don't get shred. I'm not telling you should like your wife but think about it. Are you angry at yourself and projecting that on your wife? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/04/23 09:50 PM |
| -1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 04, 2023Yeah thanks, I thought so too. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/04/23 05:50 PM |
| 0 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 04, 2023I wasn't lifting properly on some other exercises, not having the proper form, specially on OHP. I get your advice though and I want to push further, but my priority is my form Imagine someone said they were going to shoot you in 3 months if you didn't squat 2x bodyweight. What would you do? That's actually a great goal to have, maybe not as extreme but it's a great mental model | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/04/23 05:50 PM |
| 0 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 04, 2023A good captain keeps the crew generally informed of his departure and arrival back to the ship. He has no reason to play stupid mind games. You're right Horns, I had decided something and didn't inform my FO of a decision I made, because I had a covert contract that I was deciding things without having the need to inform my FO. It's stupid dread games which get stupid results. I shouldn't let my ego run the ship. Thanks for the feedback I will address this | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/04/23 12:26 PM |
| -2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 04, 2023OYS #13 Age: 38; 175cm, 67.5Kg, BF (navy): 18% Mission: Independence and freedom. Read: 48LoP, 16CoP, NMMNG (x2), WISNIFG, BoP, RM #1, MAP, MMSLP, TWOTSM (x2), TAoS, Day Bang Reading/Listening: Finished Day Bang. And read mostly about nutrition and ways to naturally boost my T levels. DL 132Kg | Zercher SQ 56Kg | BBR 56Kg | BP 50Kg | OHP 34Kg I am doing a PPL routine 6x a week (PPLPPLR) but I am not satisfied with my current progression. My muscles have enough time to rest so I can avoid injurie… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/04/23 08:51 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 28, 2023You've been postponing that divorce talk for a while now, and everyone knows its not easy, specially you since you have to deal with the aftermath. So, I guess your next OYS will be including some kind of FR about hysterical bonding, shittests and comfort tests. Wish you luck and strength sir. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/03/23 05:38 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 28, 2023There are times when I start hitting a bit of anger from not having the IOIs I think I should be getting, and remember I still can't lift shit, so it makes sense. Work first. That's a covert contract. You lift to get IOIs. That's not how it works. Guys can get IOIs without lifting. You lift because it will make you attractive and builds discipline, but don't expect immediate IOIs after lifting. When I started lifting I got more IOIs from randoms because the way I carried myself improved, not bec… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/03/23 09:38 PM |
| -2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 28, 2023I do Zercher Squats because I don't have a squat cage yet. You can follow up my OYS #8 | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/03/23 10:23 PM |
| 0 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 28, 2023OYS #12 Age: 38; 175cm, 67Kg, BF (navy): 18% Mission: Independence and freedom. Read: 48LoP, 16CoP, NMMNG (x2), WISNIFG, BoP, RM #1, MAP, MMSLP, TWOTSM (x2), TAoS Reading/Listening: Focusing on completing NMMNGs BFAs again. This week I mostly read about lifting and PPL routines online. Corrected my form on most compound exercises like Bench Press, Overhead Press and Zercher Squats. I can lift much less than I thought, specially on OHP because my form was completely shitty. And it was probably th… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/03/23 12:49 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 21, 2023You understand that actions are what matter but you probably just need to remember to keep your attention withdrawn for bad behavior. And after some thought I realize you're right. Thanks. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/03/23 05:26 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 21, 2023Didn't work. So I stopped talking. Only actions and consequences. I STFU'd. I removed my attention and STFU'd A few hours later I ask how are things going with her and the kids, she texts everything is fine and that she fixed her side of the finances. It sounds like you have a covert-contract here, "if I solve the finance problems she has, then she'll love me". I wanted to fix our joint finances, not her's. Her money is not my problem. I don't think I have covert contracts also regarding our fin… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/03/23 12:43 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 21, 2023The nature of MRP is that I have to be "on" at any hour of the day, and I consider these experiences my practice to move closer to that goal of being ready at any moment to control the frame/game/etc. No. You don't have to be ON You are always ON and you don't even have to think about it. "I am the game" - Rollo Tomassi | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/03/23 04:48 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 21, 2023Banged a plate in the last week, gave her multiple Os and didnt cum myself (which I like the self control aspect). Have a couple unattractive/average girls I can bang anytime I want. Is it conscious or is it your ego trying to avoid attachment and perhaps oneitis to some other girl? I'm not saying you need to have a relationship, but Have a couple unattractive/average girls I can bang anytime I want Are they just because you're just trying to avoid rejection from better quality girls (whatever t… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/03/23 07:09 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 21, 2023Let me rephrase that: I am doing a PPL routine adding SL 5x5 to the mix | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/03/23 07:00 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 21, 2023It's taking a few steps back and pushing forward from that point. I have my mind on my long term goals. Thanks for the pushing though | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/03/23 06:54 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 21, 2023Crying randomly when alone - Usually triggered by listening to music or reading pertinent information. Want to stop this as it's really pissing me off. Lifting will help. Why? Yes, lifting will help but why does it happen? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/03/23 06:48 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 21, 2023Time to get BIG. 64.0kg Don't do it too fast. Don't do it as a covert contract (with yourself). You won't automatically get big, and it's easy to get fat and don't build as much muscle. Build muscle consistently. About STFU, How I communicate now, without words Don't expect to change your frame and your ability to STFU in just a few weeks, but start now. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/03/23 06:47 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 21, 2023The trip didn't happen. I didn't said "Were not going" I only said "I'm not going". She reluctantly agreed but didn't seem upset. Like reliefed for me saying I wasn't going, so nobody's going and it's not her responsibility. Context: it's a 2h drive, to her beach house. We need to go there from time to time. Nothing was paid on advance or anything. We were going to stay there for the weekend. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/03/23 11:13 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 14, 2023Don't thank me. I won't hold you accountable, you'll hold yourself accountable. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/03/23 10:47 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 14, 2023like i said though, i was running the risk of being an armchair redpiller, all reading and no action, im not currently spending a lot of time on furthur reading as there is some hard real work to be done. That's great. OYS weekly. having got past the anger phase i acknowledge that most of this is my fault. Beware of the 2nd anger phase . Or it can come in waves. Or you can still be in the anger phase and just be in denial. Being angry is great. Gives you strength and motivation to change. i resp… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/03/23 09:33 AM |
| 0 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 21, 2023OYS #11 Age: 38; 175cm, 67Kg, BF (navy): 18% Mission: Independence and freedom. Read: 48LoP, 16CoP, NMMNG (x2), WISNIFG, BoP, RM #1, MAP, MMSLP, TWOTSM (x2), TAoS Reading/Listening: Focusing on completing NMMNGs BFAs again. I was recovering from last week's injury, but as soon as I had no pain, I got back on lifting. Stopped for almost a week. I deloaded on all lifts and I am back to SL 5x5. I was eager to get back to gym, but had to shred my ego because I deloaded all my weights. I've been reco… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/03/23 09:21 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 14, 2023But...are you afraid of what I have to say redmateus? Or do you think I'm completely full of shit? No. Not one or the other. I got some insightful things to think about from other conversations we had. No. Thats not what degrees of freedom are. What is it then? I struggle a little with understanding some of the concepts as English is not my native language. You don't have to explain, you owe me nothing. Even if it isn't what I've thought of, I don't think my logic is incorrect, or at least usele… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/03/23 11:33 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 14, 2023I had to look it up but from what I've understand and putting it in very simple terms, is having numerous ways to achieve the same goal. Well, I started watching Fresh & Fit while in the anger phase. It eventually got me to MRP but not directly of course. Also /r/deadbedrooms Both indirectly got me here and maybe I didn't got here if it wasn't for both those "time wasters". But if got here directly maybe I could had done more instead of being angry, wasting that time and anger more productively.… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/03/23 10:02 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 14, 2023JP's actual lectures (not his woke preaching) a decade ago on psychology Yes, but not his stance on marriage and relationships. Tate, meh, I have conflicting ideas about the man. Casey? Don't know that man. I see your point Blarg. But I disagree. And that's OK. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/03/23 04:56 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 14, 2023what a bitch shes been. She's a reflection of you, bitch boy but also Andrew Tate, Casey Zander, Jordan Peterson Why are you listening to LARPers? its totally reset the dynamic between us, its entirely possible its done enough damage to cause us to split, alternatively its given her a wake up call about what a bitch shes been. This is a covert contract. What about your lifts? What have you read so far? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/03/23 05:06 PM |
| 6 | FNGThe first time I tried it, she had the tone of anger and was demanding I washed my hands after smoking. You don't? Terrified inside but with a dead pan stare I just told her no. Her eyebrows raised and she tried to argue the point. I calmly brushed it off and said I'd get to it when i get to it. You were everything but calm. But that's OK. You're angry. Read the sidebar lift and STFU. You're not special. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/03/23 07:09 AM |
| 0 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 14, 2023You're right. I never backed down from lifting because I felt tired, always because I got an injury. And I realize those injuries are mostly due to having no rest. I wish I could lift 6 days a week but if I can only do it 4 times a week there's nothing wrong with that, except for the blow to my ego | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/03/23 09:13 PM |
| 0 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 14, 2023have a wife life partner He probably wanted to write that. But if he wants to have a wife and get married, that's his goal. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/03/23 06:50 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 14, 2023Here's the rub dude - no one cares. No one cares about your excuses or your goals. So if no one cares, why do you care to announce what you will do? Just keep it to yourself (both things you will do and the excuses) and I assure you that you'll find much more self-validation in it all. Thanks for the feedback /u/HornsOfApathy You're right. Nobody cares. I was telling myself I was posting some goals on OYS to hold myself accountable announcing my goals to the world, but ultimately I have to be my… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/03/23 02:40 PM |
| 0 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 14, 2023OYS #10 Age: 38; 175cm, 69Kg, BF (navy): 19% LTR for 11y; 2 kids: 8y and 3y DL 128Kg | Zercher SQ 64Kg | OHP 44Kg | BP 58Kg | BBR 68Kg Read: 48LoP, 16CoP, NMMNG (x2), WISNIFG, BoP, RM #1, MAP, MMSLP, TWOTSM (x2), TAoS Reading/Listening: Currently re-doing the BFAs from NMMNG. On #8 Also listened from Rian Stone's podcasts on sidebar/NMMNG. But mostly reading about working out and lifting this week. Mission: Be my own mental point of origin. Independence and freedom. I've been thinking a lot abou… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/03/23 09:16 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 07, 2023I turned down sex for the first time. She was in her hot period of the month and came to me to have sex, she really wanted sex, but as we started we fell back into routines and saw that she was not into it. My fault probably, and my ego pushed me into refusing to be with someone that has no interest in sex with me. I know this shall not be done, and it may be something that will come back haunting me… However, I am bored of boring sex and I’d rather not to have it and save my energy for gym or w… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/03/23 10:54 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 07, 2023What about just gaming her the whole time. Enjoy fucking with, kino'ing and annoying her until she either gets her tingles and you can fuck or she leaves you alone. Win win. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/03/23 01:53 PM |
| -1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 07, 2023Sugar and alcohol are the worse. I drink coffee socially, and I don't think 1 or 2 coffee a day will influence my weight at all. I could be wrong tho. I know I have to measure my calories and weigh my food. It's not easy and I haven't fully internalized it yet. But it's important, I know. This week I am starting with cutting down sugar and alcohol to zero. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 07/03/23 10:44 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 07, 2023Most of the time it comes in a form of shittesting, lately it's been shitty comfort tests. Accusing me because whatever, quickly leaving the room and avoiding me afterwards for a while. Doing AA or AM works when it's a shittest, not in comfort tests. It's either: - projection and she's cheating - too much dread on my part without an increase on my smv or some variation of that - just her hamster - I don't know I actually got caught 7/8 years ago sexting a former fwb. All our arguments used to en… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 07/03/23 10:39 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 07, 2023OYS #9 Age: 38; 175cm, 68Kg, BF (navy): 19% LTR for 11y; 2 kids: 8y and 3y DL 128Kg | Zercher SQ 64Kg | OHP 44Kg | BP 58Kg | BBR 68Kg Read: 48LoP, 16CoP, NMMNG (x2), WISNIFG, BoP, RM #1, MAP, MMSLP, TWOTSM (x2), TAoS Reading/Listening: Finished listening to NMMNG and currently re-doing the BFAs Mission: Be my own mental point of origin. Independence and freedom. I'm still increasing reps and Kg but not as fast as I used to. I had to deload on OHP last week to 42Kg, but with better form than befo… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 07/03/23 09:36 AM |
| 7 | Boundary enforcement/ lies. Did I Rambo?had made it abundantly clear that smoking is an absolute no go for me. Past few months she has been vaping again “ You can do as you please however, I will leave and you know very clearly that’s a complete deal breaker for me.” and tells her dad not to pick me up. We live in her fathers rental so I can’t ask her to leave. She is 32. I’m 25. At one point in the night I see her coming into the room where I was and getting a drink with a guy I hope this answers your questions | /r/askMRP | 06/03/23 06:39 AM |
| 0 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 28, 2023Again you don’t have to do that if you want, but it isn’t an overreaction to request that people honor their commitments or at least alert you to the fact that they have changed their plans. It's true, I get what you're saying, but I don't care about it. It's a failure on their part, not mine. The lesson I took from this is really that I cannot control other people or their actions. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/03/23 08:01 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 28, 2023Yes, seems better. I will keep my OYS shorter and instead put out thoughts like this in a journal. Thanks | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/03/23 07:53 PM |
| 0 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 28, 2023That's a great idea and I will get one of these. I feel r-tarded I didn't thought of this before. Thanks. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/03/23 07:50 PM |
| -4 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 28, 2023I assume you are doing a zercher from the floor. Sumo deadlift, putting the barbell on my knees, doing a Zercher Squat then after. I feel it already on my quads and glutes, and also on my abs With your strength level clean-to-front squat is a great variation. Bulgarian split squat/rear foot elevated split squat or lunges as well as high rep back squat that you have pressed into position on your back. If you are able to press 48kg, try doing widow makers (20 rep sets) with 40kg. Learn to push thr… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/02/23 10:29 PM |
| 0 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 28, 2023What do you exactly mean? In that I've been a bit vague about something and not telling an exact story about it, is that it? If it's that I can understand what you're saying. This week I had a lot of realizations and covert contracts shredded. That's an uplifting goal for me, even if my actions haven't yet caught up with my mindset. Anyway next week I'll try to keep this shorter and concise, action based, and not so much my realizations or thought process to reach a conclusion. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/02/23 10:15 PM |
| 0 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 28, 2023Instead of continuing LARPing I started practicing and acting like I preach, AA, AM, STFU, broken record and overall being Outcome Independent. At first it feels autistic and fake it until you make it. It's quite easy to pass simple shittests with the assertive tools presented above, and I'm getting better recognizing the difference between shit tests and shitty behaviour. Almost didn't watch at all any social media, when I scrolled through my phone was either to check exercices/diet/health info… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/02/23 06:39 PM |
| -1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 28, 2023Sex/Relationship I have a lot of covert contracts regarding my wife and the best way to shred them is to not expect anything from her (or expect anything from anyone). Anything I give to her, be it affection or attention must come from a mindset of abundance and not expecting anythint in return. Adhering to the 2/3 rule. Instead of continuing LARPing I started practicing and acting like I preach, AA, AM, STFU, broken record and overall being Outcome Independent. At first it feels autistic and fa… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/02/23 09:51 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 28, 2023OYS #8 Age: 38; Height: 5'9 (175cm); Weight: 149lbs (68Kg); BF (navy): 18% LTR for 11y; 2 kids: 8y and 3y DL: 277 (126Kg) | Front SQ: 220 (100Kg) Zercher SQ 132 (60Kg) | OHP: 92 (42Kg) - deload | BP: 127 (58Kg) | BBR: 149 (68Kg) Read: 48LoP, 16CoP, NMMNG, WISNIFG, BoP, RM #1, MAP, MMSLP, TWOTSM (x2), TAoS Reading/Listening: Day Bang (60%) and NMMNG (again) Mission: Be my own mental point of origin. Independence and freedom. Lifting: Fixed my form on Zerchel (Front) Squat I thought I was doing a … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/02/23 09:50 AM |
| 0 | Just found out "deadbedroom" is a thing, and I'm definitely in one.This belongs on /r/askMRP Repost it there to get the following response: Lift, sidebar and STFU, Start an OYS every week Either you accept it or go to other subs so you can cry and vent like the in testicular cancer meeting. They will understand you and tell you it's all her fault. We won't. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/02/23 06:29 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 21, 2023I appreciate your feedback and honesty But I acknowledge what my big flaws are. Not STFUing and DEERing. Also shredding that narcissist fantasy. I don't have low self esteem, it's just I need to get more down to earth and destroy my ego. You ain't shit and that's ok, it's a powerful and freeing statement. Once you know you can make mistakes, fuck up on occasion, and stop trying to do everything perfect, it's another step towards freedom. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/02/23 11:54 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 21, 2023I don't know if anyone told you in the comments, but I think one of your problems is that you think and talk way too f*cking much man. Yes. And DEER even when I don't identity it as DEERing. I am not the grand master of STFU. Since this last post I've been actively better, doing an actual effort, trying my best at STFU without being autistic but it's tiring. It's not who I am, by default. I DEER and talk too much, by default. I can and will be better at not DEERing and STFU. I got complacent in … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/02/23 06:17 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 21, 2023Actually doing the work, discover and shredding obvious and not so obvious covert contracts. I did not intended to have a victim puke but I ended up having one. I am listening again to NMMNG and doing the BFA exercises, again. Comparing them if there is any evolution at all. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/02/23 06:06 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 21, 2023There is a gym SOMEWHERE near you that you can go to that isn't too expensive and has appropriate equipment for your needs. I don't have access to a gym The only gym in my hometown opens at 9am, closes at 9pm I live in southern Europe and I won't fully disclose where but the closest one is around 70km away, that is open at 6am | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/02/23 01:05 PM |
| 0 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 21, 2023I'm not American, I'm European and I have seen some decent ones online for about 800€ | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/02/23 12:59 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 21, 2023That's a good advice but I'd rather buy a squat cage, which I will in 6 months max, probably in 2/3 months I suck at wood working, it would kill me and look like self - deletion | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/02/23 12:58 PM |
| 0 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 21, 2023This sort of thinking is terrible. Don't think like this. It isn't 'alpha good, beta bad'. You're right. I intended to frame it as in "beta=building comfort" but the whole thing came out skewed. Both you and your wife know you're not going to find anyone else better. That really resonated within me, as well as your full reply. Thanks for your feedback. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/02/23 12:56 PM |
| 0 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 21, 2023You're right, I thought it was about that other issue. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/02/23 04:41 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 21, 2023I don't have a squat cage, yet. And I don't have access to a gym at 6am, for example | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/02/23 10:30 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 21, 2023You have lots of goals which is fine, but it's not owning your shit. Write things you did, not things you'll (probably won't) do | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/02/23 08:25 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 21, 2023I call her out on it You're trying to be right and prove it. You'll never be right and you shouldn't care about being right. This was regarding her slapping my son. It's not about being right or not. It's about something that's a boundary for me (and even for her) and she quickly apologized to our son. I don't require an apology from her regarding this situation. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/02/23 08:03 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 21, 2023Fix your form on lifting, I have never seen someone with your ratios who wasn't quarter squatting and using incorrect form on barbell rows and OHP. Last week you said you were Front Squatting 98kg and now you're Back Squatting 100kg? After consulting YouTube i came to the conclusion I am doing a Zercher (Front)Squat but in an incorrect form. I will fix this even if I have to deload. Unfortunately I can't do traditional back squat, yet. Regarding OHP and Barbell Rows I am doing the right form, ap… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/02/23 02:19 PM |
| 0 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 21, 2023Not acceptable. I called her out on it in that moment while comforting my son and she apologized to my son a few seconds later. It's not the first time that happens, even though it's rare. We already talked about it before and promised she would try to calm down. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/02/23 11:16 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 21, 2023My LTR gave some shit about "making dates with other people this week but not with me". I just ignored her argument and invited her to something I was thinking of going to that night. She agreed and we a had a good night out with friends. So, you rewarded bad behaviour. Next time she will give you shit because she knows she will get what she wants. And it's not even conscious. Would you really take her out if she didn't nag you? Think about it | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/02/23 10:57 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 21, 2023True. I have a lot of covert contracts and most of them are still covert, not been yet uncovered. And I've been thinking in the last few weeks to revisit NMMNG. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/02/23 07:19 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 21, 2023I haven't been working out here in Portugal, so that is not good Can't you do pushups, situps and exercise without a gym? I do body weight exercises everytime I'm not home. While my frame gets more strong, there are still moments where I feel I could STFU more. In the deepest of my being, I do not like to talk when there is nothing needed to say and sometimes I catch myself talking unnecessary. Getting even more comfortable with silence without being autistic will be my main objective for the co… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/02/23 10:29 AM |
| 9 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 21, 2023OYS #7 Age: 38; Height: 5'9 (175cm); Weight: 147lbs (67Kg); BF (navy): 18% LTR for 11y; Wife 35; 2 kids: 8y and 3y DL: 268 (122Kg) | SQ: 220 (100Kg) | OHP: 105 (48Kg) | BP: 127 (58Kg) | BBR: 149 (68Kg) Read: 48LoP, 16CoP, NMMNG, WISNIFG, BoP, RM #1, MAP, MMSLP, TWOTSM (x2), TAoS Reading/Listening: Day Bang Mission: Be my own mental point of origin. Independence and freedom. Lifting: Back on track. Evolving slowly but steadily. Increasing reps or weight on almost all exercises, almost always. But… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/02/23 08:57 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 14, 2023It's more helpful to follow the MRP script Lift, read (NMMNG and then WISNIFG) and STFU Yes, you want sex and it's all you can think about. Relax. Read this | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/02/23 08:41 PM |
| 7 | Wife wants a long-distance marriageHer hypergamous best option is her job, not her current husband. Who can blame her? You're acting weak and putting out a disgusting victim puke. It doesn't even need to be another guy in the picture, yet. But you wife doesn't value your relationship. You can lift, sidebar and STFU but don't do it as a covert contract to win her over And if you are in a good position to divorce, then prepare yourself and do it asap. Don't just daydream about it. | /r/askMRP | 18/02/23 11:57 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 14, 2023Of course, the legitimacy of my setting boundaries is predicated on my owning my shit. I used to not care for myself and my environment. Now I do. I used to not care for the dog. Now I do. You're allowed to change your mind. You just have to own it and have a strong frame about it. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/02/23 11:47 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 14, 2023Other: I have stopped myself from doing a few beta things (like buying groceries and washing dishes) and left my wife to do it. That's not beta or Alfa per se. If you run the "wife is dead routine" it's not a comfort building strategy (aka beta). Doing the dishes or buying groceries isn't what a real man does? What defines a real man? Social: Zero! Get an hobbie. Mingle with (other) people (besides your wife) I don't know what to do about the sex (that's why I am here). Do you even lift bro? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/02/23 11:41 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 14, 2023All things I wouldn’t have noticed pre-MRP, but now I’m sitting there wondering if she’s ovulating You're more afraid of success than failure. Listen man, you don't have to fuck that woman. But you can. You just have to own it. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/02/23 11:22 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 14, 2023Guys often say they’re committing to it to be accountable. That’s BS because it’s easy to quietly disappear. Therefore, there’s no real “accountability” because there are no consequences for disappearing. I mean, just look at how many OYS #s are > 20…not many Most of them quit on #2/#3 and/or start posting on other subs that validate them better. MRP takes work. When you think you have it all figured it out, something snaps, a thought, a comment, a covert contract I thank you /u/FutileFighter be… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/02/23 11:19 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 14, 2023Update: Thanks for your feedback. You've given me a lot to think about. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/02/23 02:11 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 14, 2023Accept his above response as a gift. If you find it helpful, great. If there is a general sincere question then ask that. Yes. It was helpful to see where my ego stands in my way. I don't have to agree with everything /u/muzzy_W0e wrote but I think 90% of it is useful | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/02/23 10:56 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 14, 2023Where did you read about testosterone? I don't remember. I don't even know if it's true or not, but it's useful. Like the moon is made out of cheese mantra, if it makes you workout 3d/week, then the moon is made out of cheese | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/02/23 06:42 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 14, 2023Some stuff I agree, other stuff I don't totally disagree. I have too much ego. Always have been. It's a problem. Sometimes I'm irrationally confident but most of the time that helped me a lot in my life. But, there's just one point I think it's relevant to DEER: I don't have love handles (but I used to). But I am skinnier than I'd like to be - Source: you The formula for weight loss is simple. You're consuming more calories than you're burning. Eat less. Though at your bodyweight and height, I p… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/02/23 10:14 PM |
| 0 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 14, 2023Ok, I can accept that, and don't actually disagree Can you give me a tangible example? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/02/23 06:43 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 14, 2023Exactly. But you decide when to quit. Most of my friends smoke and of course they tested my boundaries but if you keep your frame they will accept it. And you don't need it to be creative. You're creative anyway | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/02/23 06:42 PM |
| 6 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 14, 2023semen retention No FAP? That's nonsense. Don't damage your prostate over some broscience | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/02/23 10:41 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 14, 2023Addictions: I had a fallback on weed after months of abstinence. When I am with people that don’t share my vision, has great plans and dreams I tend to drug myself with tobacco, weed or alcohol. My reaction the day after smoking however let me realize that I am ready to definitely cut it: when usually I was too tired to do anything and ended up smoking again, Sunday I thought about that… but instead of smoking I went for a run and a cold bath, 5 mins in iced water. Balance restored. I had troubl… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/02/23 10:40 AM |
| 0 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 14, 2023OYS #6 Age: 38; Height: 5'9 (175cm); Weight: 147lbs (67Kg); BF (navy): 19% LTR for 11y; Wife 35; 2 kids: 8y and 3y DL: 268 (122Kg) | Front SQ: 215 (98Kg) | OHP: 105 (48Kg) | BP: 121 (55Kg) | BBR: 149 (68Kg) Read: 48LoP, 16CoP, NMMNG, WISNIFG, BoP, RM #1, MAP, MMSLP, TWOTSM (x2), TAoS Reading/Listening: Day Bang Mission: Be the oak. Self-sufficient. Be my own mental point of origin. Independence and freedom. Lifting: Improving weights and/or reps on most lifts. Improving deadlift with mixed grip.… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/02/23 10:27 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 07, 2023Lifting 5x5: Squat 75, Bench 55, Row 75, Overhead 50, Deadlift 115 She asked why, baiting me down the ol' mother-disciplining-child path. I changed the subject and took her to the gym to lift with me. I lol'd This whole OYS is about her Write something about yourself. I don't care your gf lifts more than you | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/02/23 10:23 PM |
| 4 | Thoughts on Rocking the (wife's) Boat on purpose.Manufactured outrage. Not for newbies. You just didn't articulated it properly. | /r/askMRP | 09/02/23 06:26 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 07, 2023She wants to keep her own name because independent woman, feminism, blablabla. "The girl I'm marrying will take my last name" not implying it's her or anyone else. It's your boundary. You can keep it on broken record, you don't have to explain your reasons neither to her or her feminist friend, or anyone at all. Your frame will be tested though. Don't overthink it. It's just a shittest. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/02/23 01:11 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 07, 2023Cut out the weed If it's daily use, it's bad for you. Kills your ambition and motivation. If it's once or twice a month, there's nothing wrong with that. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/02/23 12:58 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 07, 2023Cut back drastically on all media consumption (book on Deep Work has really helped here). Limit consumption to no more than 1 hr per day. Cut back to 15min, use the 45min to do something useful. It's just time wasted, unless you have a business that requires social media. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/02/23 12:53 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 07, 2023I'll look into it, with a grain of salt Thanks | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/02/23 08:02 PM |
| 3 | I spit the redpill back up, I'm struggling to get it back down againThe red pill goes up and down your throat... Right You're not redpilled, you're being throat fucked. Also, using RP strategy to achieve BP goals. It will blew up in your face. Consider yourself blessed for learning it in such short time, learn from your mistakes and move on | /r/askMRP | 07/02/23 09:51 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 07, 2023Thanks for your advice, I'll look into it | /r/MarriedRedPill | 07/02/23 09:45 PM |
| 4 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 07, 2023OYS #5 Age: 38; Height: 5'9 (1.75mt); Weight: 149lbs (67.5Kg); BF (navy): 18% LTR for 11y; Wife 35; 2 kids: 8y and 3y DL: 264 (120Kg) | Front SQ: 209 (95Kg) | OHP: 99 (45Kg) | BP: 121 (55Kg) | BBR: 143 (65Kg) Read: 48LoP, 16CoP, NMMNG, WISNIFG, BoP, RM #1, MAP, MMSLP, TWOTSM (x2), TAoS Reading/Listening: Day Bang Mission: Be the oak. Self-sufficient. Be my own mental point of origin. Independence and freedom. Lifting: Added biceps to the mix. I haven't done biceps in a while and I'm also applyin… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 07/02/23 12:43 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 31, 2023I usually stay up too late and then don’t get up at a reasonable hour to go to the gym. Or I go to the gym when I should be working. Work on getting a steady routine. Happy that my lifts have increased fast. Noob gains. Don't waste them my wife is a planner and has things organized 10 months in advance. Literally. We have a company vacation in Feb, and a family cruise in Oct. my wife planned it, I’m paying for it. So... Either you're a giant pansy who lets his wife run the show or you're with a … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/02/23 11:27 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 31, 2023Fuck. After writing all that shit and thinking again about what you said, you may be right. Do I have covert contracts with my ego? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/02/23 08:23 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 31, 2023I will lift weights. Lifting weights will discipline me mentally. I will lift expecting this result. Thats a contract. That's a contract. You're right. But not a covert one. Unless lifting weights doesn't discipline me mentally, doesn't make me strong to move heavy shit and I freak out and resent the world because I didn't achieve those results. To me, a covert contract is between 2 people (at least), one doesn't talk about on what's expected and the other person (or person's, or the entire worl… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/02/23 08:15 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 31, 2023Sometimes I think about the following: Would I still lift weights if I were the only human in the world? 100% of the times I mentally answer, yes. Most of people wouldn't. I understand that. To me, lifting weights is not a covert contract. That's something I've internalized. And if you pull it you'd find that if everyone in the world were fat and 10% BF was looked at as sickly and revolting, if gyms were not a thing and muscles served no purpose, I would be less inclined to do what I do. True. B… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/02/23 10:58 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 31, 2023Read the sidebar posts about divorce, start taking care of everything related to your kid. You're going to have to make a choice. Your work or your kid in joint or full custody. Can you take care of your kid full time? Have you done the my wife is dead routine? Can you manage a household and a kid without her? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/02/23 10:57 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 31, 2023even that is a covert contract... Im gonna do it so I want to fuck more That's not a covert contract. You deliberately become more fuckable, to have more sex, with wife or not, is not a covert contract. It's an action towards a result. To develop an abundance mindset. Not everything is a covert contract. yes I suppose I could say be my own mental point of origin but I didnt have those words, if I did I would have had to define what that means... so I mean the roads go to the same place... I just… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/02/23 10:47 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 31, 2023I've got some issues with my ego. I'm afraid of being judged. Read NMMNG. And WISNIFG. SQ: 3x5@195 BP: [email protected] RW: [email protected] OP: 3x5@85 DL: 1x5@195 Lift more! but I tell myself that even if I promise to do it - that I will fail. STFU But I'm going to make the action plan to do exactly that this week. I will go out and meet new people this week. I don't know where, or when, or how - but I will do it. That takes practice but when you do it often, it becomes natural and easy. Not just with girls,… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/02/23 10:41 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 31, 2023I want to be in a good mood, happy, motivated to get shit down, forward thinking guy who has his time filled getting shit done and enjoying life I want to be direct and asserting in stopping people from killing the vibe I am creating around myself - without being a little bitch about ever perceived slight. You could had resumed it to be my own mental point of origin Cause aint no one gonna wanna fuck me if I keep acting like every damn interaction COULD be some sort of slight against me. Every i… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/02/23 10:34 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 31, 2023How many times a week you're going to the gym? And stop with that 397lbs club thing. You're placing too much emphasis on percentages and statistics. I get it man. It's motivating, but only for a while. Set specific goals and stick to them. Be realistic about your goals. Don't set yourself up to failure. It seems like as I read in many other guys OYS that wives respond strangely to changes they do not percieve to be normal. Anyways I will try not to go "Rambo" and provide more comfort and hugs fo… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/02/23 08:49 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 31, 2023"Tell me, how many girls were you talking to when we first met?" or "Who was the last girl you fucked before you met me?" Shittests and more shittests. Those are actually common. You did A&A which was great. No main event type stuff yet, but I definitely feel something going on. You cannot expect a main event. It will always come without warning. If it comes. Think about this: Do you want a main event so she will finally be submissive and the shittesting finally stops? Or become lighter? Is it a… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/02/23 08:38 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 31, 2023First of all, before I point out your f*ggotry I want to take a moment to appreciate the fact that you stopped smoking. I also like the fact that you don't talk about it with the wife (look mommy i stwopped smwoking cigawettes!). Now don't be weak and go back. True. I've only shared it with this sub full of internet strangers who couldn't care less if I'm still smoking or not. The only validation I need is internal, I'm not interested in external validation. Also because I always found boring to… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/02/23 07:30 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 31, 2023Every January is the same. I have savings, this was probably the first January that I didn't go for savings but I lived from 28 to 31 with only a few cents in my wallet, literally. Everyone needs money, I'm no exception, but I managed to live those days without directly spending any money at all. All bills paid. I didn't said to anyone I've quit cigarettes. Family, friends, no one. Just a bunch of r-tarded autist random strangers on the internet who own their shit (or try to). Doing it for mysel… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/02/23 07:13 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 31, 2023When I started lifting I used to do farmer carries but nothing substancial. Doing those again and doing mixed grip may help me go further on Deadlift | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/02/23 07:07 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 31, 2023Mixed grip seems to be a great option and it will probably add more grip strength From what I've read, I just have to switch the hand that stays up each set to prevent muscle imbalance. I will try it on deadlift day | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/02/23 07:03 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 24, 2023I get what you're saying, but the RPT works pretty well for me, currently. I'm still trying it out. I'm currently pushing forward on every exercise. I was doing something like you're doing before and I was feeling stagnated. Maybe because I wasn't resting enough between exercises. Maybe. There was a time I was doing 15 reps (3x15) and I was even progressing slower. For now I'm sticking to this. I'm increasing weights, other times reps, other times both. As long as I'm progressing. But thanks for… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/02/23 06:49 PM |
| 5 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 31, 2023OYS #4 Age: 38; Height: 5'9 (1.75mt); Weight: 149lbs (68Kg); BF (navy): 19% LTR for 11y (not married); Wife 35; 2 kids: 8y son and 3y daughter DL: 250lbs Front SQ: 209lbs OHP: 96lbs BP: 121lbs BBR: 140lbs Read: 48LoP, 16CoP, NMMNG, WISNIFG, BoP, RM #1, MAP, MMSLP, TWOTSM (x2), TAoS Reading/Listening: Day Bang Mission: Be the oak. Self-sufficient. Be my own mental point of origin. Independence and freedom. Lifting: Will give it a shot on reverse pyramid training, followig /u/FutileFighter advice.… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/01/23 10:37 AM |
| 3 | I fucked up by showing weakness, RP relationship broken? Need advice.This belongs on AskMRP Also, quit whining and STFU. Lift and sidebar. You claim to be RP but base your whole self worth on the image you think some woman thinks of you. Your victim puke is disgusting | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/01/23 10:37 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 24, 2023You're right. 3x12 leaves me exhausted and the reverse pyramid seems much more natural. Either you progress on the weight or on reps. For example, doing 4x10 on squats leaves me exhausted for the next exercises, this seems to be better and less tiring overall. I will give it a try. Thanks. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/01/23 07:15 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 24, 2023That's a great mental model. Thanks | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/01/23 01:06 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 24, 2023It's not just the tracking, it's also the DEER | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/01/23 06:23 AM |
| 4 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 24, 2023They rather have their father for 10min of his undivided attention than a whole day of an half assed dad. Don't track it. Just be with your kids, with undivided attention. If you have to track the time you're spending with them, it's like a chore to you. If you don't want to be with your kids, just don't be with your kids. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/01/23 11:01 PM |
| 1 | Married and Lost Desire (Anybody relate?)This question belongs on AskMRP So as my answer | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/01/23 10:41 PM |
| 4 | Married and Lost Desire (Anybody relate?)So your wife got so fat you'd rather rub one out to gangbang tranny porn? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/01/23 10:39 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 24, 2023If for you owning it means writing about it for some internet weirdos, then sure. I write it for: the pleasure and amusement of internet strangers so they can call me on my shit to myself and analyze where I can do better | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/01/23 06:46 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 24, 2023But, if you don't pick a problem to fix, and give it some action, then you will just keep whining about your life. True. This week's has been lackluster, I bitched and complained alot, but also had a lot of a-ha moments. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/01/23 06:45 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 24, 2023I've been keeping up with your OYS too-- looks like you're the slightly younger, slightly taller version of myself, so I expect big things from you. That could be a covert contract in which you project my alleged success into yours. I expect big things from me also, but I can't attach it to someone else's OYS or even MRP | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/01/23 06:42 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 24, 2023If it makes a girl comfortable, it's beta. If it makes a girl wet, it's Alfa. In terms of behaviours. We tend to mix behavior with a demographic (and I did that too, but not on purpose). What you're describing is omega behavior, plain unattractive. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/01/23 06:36 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 24, 2023My seven days weigth moving average for the week before last is 104.26 and 104.20 kg for last week. 60 grams? Dude that's irrelevant. Start lifting and put the fork down. You have millions of calories stored on your body fat. It's actually painful to know that you're almost twice my size and lift half of what I do (and my lifts are shitty) I can deadlift you, you can't deadlift me. Let that sink in | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/01/23 12:17 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 24, 2023Lots of stuff about your LTR and not much about you Your mission includes her even if indirectly. You're on OYS #6 haven't you been called out on it before? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/01/23 12:06 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 24, 2023It's great you don't have approach anxiety but that's not the point. You could had talked to that random girl at the bar, and probably be shot down, but at least you'd know you still could pull some game. I used to skateboard regularly 20y ago. I still have one, I skateboard from time to time. But I don't practice regularly. I can't say I skateboard like I did in my late teens. I know how it's done. But I can't say I'm just as good as I was 20y ago. The point is, I only found out I was out of pr… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/01/23 11:52 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 24, 2023Exactly. I can't blame anyone but me. My life, meals, fitness, health, etc, it's all my responsibility. I was really out of yogurt. My wife usually buys them for me without me having to say anything. This kind of behavior evolved into a covert contract in which she is responsible for my yogurts but we haven't discussed or said anything about it. It's a lame example, but it's a covert contract, I guess. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/01/23 10:28 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 24, 2023I decided to not hit on any one because all it would be is validation seeking behavior. Basically exchanging the lack of feels from my wife for feels from a random bar girl. You decided? You can be angry or shy, but that's a coping strategy. Instead of deciding not hitting on anyone, try hit on someone, because you need practice. You can stop before sleeping with someone else besides your wife, if you want to. The wife didn't text or call all night though so dread didn't work up an anxiety but f… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/01/23 08:00 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 24, 2023Peak autism. I love it. Stay tuned | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/01/23 06:42 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 24, 2023I know. This week's OYS was full of shit. At least, I own it. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/01/23 06:41 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 24, 2023Why do others need to uphold your values? You're right. They don't. I got angry because it was a reflection of past me, I identified and noted it, and reset. Perhaps something like a shared family calendar would be helpful tool here. We have that. I didn't had any plans and I was expecting maybe (covert contract) to watch some TV or something else together. This is just the tip of the iceberg on covert contracts. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/01/23 06:39 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 24, 2023Fewer shit tests. Have not really seen comfort tests from her though. I have that same situation. I think it could be the following: We (me and you, /u/anonymous50002 ) have been beta and providing comfort for so long, that they don't require comfort at all, for now, because their mental models still haven't caught up for what we are doing. But you'll notice some comfort tests every once in a while One thing I got from Rian, a good rule of thumb to have: If it's ME, it's a comfort test If it's Y… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/01/23 01:22 PM |
| 7 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 24, 2023OYS #3 Age: 38; Height: 5'9 (1.75mt); Weight: 147lbs (67Kg); BF (navy): 18% LTR for 11y (not married); Wife 35; 2 kids: 8y son and 3y daughter DL: 250lbs 5x1 Front SQ: 202lbs 4x10 OHP: 96lbs 3x12 BP: 114lbs 3x12 BBR: 140lbs 3x12 Read: 48LoP, 16CoP, NMMNG, WISNIFG, BoP, RM #1, MAP, MMSLP, TWOTSM (x2), TAoS Reading/Listening: Day Bang Mission: Be the oak. Self-sufficient. Be my own mental point of origin. Independence and freedom. Lifting: Couldn't workout this Thursday, I was sick. I tried, but I… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/01/23 12:03 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 17, 2023You need to read WISNIFG before reading The Rational Male Spend more time without her outside Most of your goals are redundant and include her, not you. I suggest you make some new goals about yourself, not including someone else | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/01/23 11:14 PM |
| 8 | Wife wants me to be more attractiveThis belongs on askMRP Also, your wife wants you to return to your momma's house, she dressed you sexy | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/01/23 05:44 PM |
| -2 | Tried to deal with criticism, feel like I did badYou need fogging. Read WISNIFG. Better yet, read the whole sidebar, lift and STFU You acknowledge their emotions as valid, but don't validate them and make them real. | /r/askMRP | 21/01/23 05:32 PM |
| 11 | Tried to deal with criticism, feel like I did badYou need to internalize that "sorry" is when you purposefully do harm someone and you get caught. If you're used to say "I'm sorry" for everything, you need to eliminate that from your vocabulary and your mental models. You need to own your actions. You can make mistakes, everyone makes mistakes. You can own those mistakes and say you made a mistake. Nothing else. Until it's awkward to you, it's awkward to everyone else. And when you're with your woman, give her your undivided attention, if she … | /r/askMRP | 21/01/23 11:23 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 17, 2023I don't have love handles (but I used to). But I am skinnier than I'd like to be I wasted my newbie gains, from what I've read now I've got to go though bulk and cut phases. Thanks for the link, has very helpful information. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/01/23 01:11 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 17, 2023Yes I've checked it, read some articles and seems legit and effective. Thank you. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/01/23 07:24 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 17, 2023I wouldn't allow you to do it. You're trying to push really far your arguments just for the sake of being right, amirite? I probably hit a spot there. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/01/23 07:02 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 17, 2023Im the first one to say I love you. My wife always responds in kind, but im always the first. I started slowing that down (I cant say I stopped even though I wanted to). and I found that she is coming to me with that more and also seems a bit happier It's a covert contract. You say ILY because you want her to say it back, for validation, not because you're really feeling the love towards her. Or else it wouldn't bother you. And she knows that. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/01/23 11:15 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 17, 2023This is the third week I’ve contemplated posting this. Writing it out makes me feel like a failure. Posting it for others to read and judge me scares the shit outta me. But I guess being a failure and growing through it is better than being a failure and hiding. We don't know you. You don't know us. We're just random internet strangers. We, like the world, will test your frame. It's uncomfortable, it's supposed to be. Be honest with yourself, because writing will let others see things you cannot… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/01/23 11:08 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 17, 2023Awesome? lol Nah, they're shitty. I've improved a lot for sure, being really weak at the start. I need a squat cage, since I have a home gym. I have to improvise a lot but I will buy one on the next few months No TRT ou anything similar | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/01/23 10:56 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 17, 2023Yes. You're right. I have to get rid of everything that reminds me of smoking tho. Ashtrays, ashes, cigarette butts. I will give away the tobacco, I could make some euros selling it but it's not about the money. Thanks | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/01/23 10:52 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 17, 2023Fuck. It's 5'9. I used a converter online that apparently was shitty. Next OYS will have my updated height. I want to bulk up, I'm 16% BF, how the fuck am I fat? Yes, those lifts must improve. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/01/23 10:42 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 17, 2023"Take them both as independent problems uncorrelated with each other...look at the relationships between the stimuli and the effects and loops...and see similarities between those structures." English is not my native language, sometimes I can mix up things. But I get what you're saying. Can you kick the wife habit in a similar way you kick the cigarette habit? Not in a Rambo kind of way, but doable. Replace the words "smoking" with "my wife" in the above paragraph. Insightful. It's all about me… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/01/23 10:32 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 17, 2023Are your friends constantly getting into fights? No Are you getting into frequent fights? No Like I said, I'm not violent but I'll fight alongside a friend. Last time I got in a real fight was maybe 12y ago, and in self defence. It's not an issue for me. People recognize the weakness of your frame and lack of handling things through assertive communication for what it is and subsequently treat you as the reactive/lability loose cannon that you are Sure. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/01/23 10:20 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 17, 2023Not sure I'm sorry to know that. You have acquaintances, not friends | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/01/23 10:15 PM |
| 0 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 17, 2023No man. I'm the type of person who will fight alongside friends if a fight breaks out. So do they. Do you have any friends who will watch your back regardless? I'm not a violent guy, but I've been in fights. And that's irrelevant to the story. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/01/23 05:52 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 17, 2023When SHTF we cover each other's asses. Also, we stop others from doing dumb shit. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/01/23 03:47 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 17, 2023You are right. And I'm just avoiding and kicking down the can because I'll have to do it eventually. It's a kind of a sunk cost fallacy I have with it. But I can sell it, give it away or burn it and quit. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/01/23 02:13 PM |
| 0 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 17, 2023Yes. I do see some similarities now that you mention it. But I'm avoiding the covert contract of: "I'll quit smoking and we'll have sex more often because I'll smell and taste better" I'm doing it for myself. I've thought about it for a while and came to the conclusion that if I can quit smoking, I can do anything I put my mind into. I'm just avoiding and postponing the mental pain it will cause me. Thank you /u/Blarg_Risen | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/01/23 02:11 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 17, 2023Let's use an an analogy. You're addicted to porn. There's 2 months of porn you haven't watched yet. You're going to stop watching porn, when you finish watching it all? Fuck. You're right. That analogy really hit home | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/01/23 02:06 PM |
| 5 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 17, 2023OYS #2 Age: 38; Height: 5'7 (1.75mt); Weight: 146lbs (66.5Kg); BF (navy): 16% LTR for 11y (not married); Wife 35; 2 kids: 8y son and 3y daughter DL: 250lbs 5x1 Front SQ: 202lbs 4x10 OHP: 96lbs 3x12 BP: 114lbs 3x12 BBR: 140lbs 3x12 Read: 48LoP, 16CoP, NMMNG, WISNIFG, BoP, RM #1, MAP, MMSLP, TWOTSM (x2), TAoS Reading/Listening: TWOTSM Mission: Be the oak. Self-sufficient. Be my own mental point of origin. Independence and freedom. Lifting: I've reached a point where I'm slowly progressing, still g… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/01/23 10:01 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 10, 2023Even though the user is [deleted] I'll still answer, even if only to myself You are procrastinating your stopping because you are not COMPLETELY done with it. Come to the realization that it's probably one of the big factors why your wife doesn't want to fuck. It's true. But I've decided I'm going to smoke all of it and then quit. And punish myself for doing it, like, if I start smoking again I will have to donate to a group I really hate. Haven't decided on each one. And for the love of God ple… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/01/23 11:21 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 10, 2023Don't know if your wife smokes, but would say quitting smoking is a HUGE one. This not only fucks heavily with your health, but you're mentally dependent on something. The remarkable thing is, you're treating ejaculation & pussy in the same way: That's on point and never thought about it that way. I am planning on quitting in 2/3 months. I still have tobacco I've grown but haven't planted in 2 years. I've put my mind into quitting as soon as my stock vanishes. Haven't bought in years. It's only … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/01/23 11:14 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 10, 2023Thanks for the feedback. I never suggest it, propose or ask for it. I initiate. But sometimes I initiate timidly and like a chump. Or be jokingly about it so the rejection doesn't hurt as much. I'm starting to embrace rejection now. A soft no or a hard no are always guaranteed, but If I don't initiate at all, I just have sex when my wife initiates it. Edit: Grammar and text completion | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/01/23 06:55 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 10, 2023Yes, I have. Last joint was about 3 months ago, stopped daily use 6 months ago, last time I watched porn 2 months, but I stopped the heavy use more than 1y ago. I only drink casually since 12 months ago, except for some occasional heavy drinking with buddies, which is not frequent Haven't solved my PE problem yet. It's a mental block from years of teenage masturbation and the later years of LTR, I was watching porn to reach ejaculation. But yes, I've stopped watching porn. The amount of sex is n… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/01/23 05:29 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 10, 2023OYS #1 Age: 38; Height: 5'7 (1.75mt); Weight: 146lbs (66Kg); BF (navy): 16% LTR for 11y (not married); Wife 35; 2 kids: 8y son and 3y daughter Non native english speaker DL: 246lbs 5x1 Front SQ: 202lbs 5x5 OHP: 96lbs 3x12 BP: 110lbs 5x5 Rows: 140lbs 3x12 These numbers are rounded, I use Kg. Read: 48LoP, 16CoP, NMMNG, WISNIFG, BoP, RM #1, MAP, MMSLP, TWOTSM (audiobook) Reading/Listening: The art of seduction (audiobook) 50% Mission: Be the oak. Self-sufficient. Be my own mental point of origin. I… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/01/23 02:27 PM |
| 10 | Men in their 20s and 30s: How often do you have sex with your wife? What’s the quality of that sex?STFU is that, but not only that. At first is just that, shutting your unattractive mouth Then it becomes saying less than it's necessary Once you start STFUing and OYS, then you'll realize the immense power that STFU has I'm thinking about writing a book about that subject "The 12 levels of STFU" Srsly OP, read the sidebar. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/01/23 11:15 PM |
| 26 | Men in their 20s and 30s: How often do you have sex with your wife? What’s the quality of that sex?You don't "suggest sex" you go for it. Sounds like you're needy and clingy. A nice guy™ Once a week is not bad, but isn't great either. How much do you want it? 2x a week, 3x in a day? Only you can answer that, not a bunch of random internet strangers STFU, lift, sidebar and OYS | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/01/23 10:56 PM |
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