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My failed approaches are when I overthink it. My career is in risk analysis, so I know what you mean. During my day job I'm always doing failure models... what could go wrong, what's the likelihood, what's the severity, that sort of thing. This line of thinking is cancer towards a successful approach. We all want to approach when we know it's going to be a sure thing, but on the grand scheme of things odds that she's going to be receptive is probably somewhere around 10% of the time. The other 9…
/r/askTRP17/06/16 05:28 PM
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Bounce to at least two venues before going to anybody's place. I unwittingly did that on Monday, met up with a gal from Tinder kinda late so the first place closed so we went to venue #2. Then we went back to her place to seal the deal. Of course even when we arrived at her place she was saying "no sex tonight" but shortly after she was initiating in bed and pulling me inside her. It definitely works.
/r/askTRP12/05/16 02:53 PM
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Could be he has a large dick and her vagina is death gripping him. That or improperly fitting condoms.
/r/askTRP05/05/16 04:31 PM
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Switch condoms, find one that fits well that doesn't strangle your dick or desensitize it. If you can cum by hand then it may just be she isn't using the technique that works for you. Teach her what you like. More often than not she will develop a complex about not being able to finish you off. Use that as ammo to get her to up her game and be dirtier for you. Also, just curious, have you recently started taking any new medications, specifically antidepressants? Those are orgasm blockers.
/r/askTRP05/05/16 04:30 PM
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How long have you gone without? You've gone longer, focus on improving you and stop playing by her rules. She knows she can control you by withholding sex, if you want to stay married to her you need to let her know that you have options and that she doesn't hold that power over you.
/r/askTRP04/05/16 08:11 PM
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/r/askTRP04/05/16 08:09 PM
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Check the edit. Basically it's the steps of the Dread game.
/r/askTRP04/05/16 08:07 PM
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There is a post on this on The Red Pill, basically goes through the steps of how to handle such an issue. Edit: Found it. Twelve levels of Dread: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/2l7pqe/the_12_levels_of_dread_the_rules_for_any_long/?
/r/askTRP04/05/16 08:00 PM
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Each rejection helps build up your resistance to the sting. You have to figure maybe 3 in 10 women are viable to say yes when approached. She was part of the 7 in 10, it wasn't you, she likely would've rejected any dude I'm guessing for whatever reason she had in her hamster brain to reject you. Review from an objective standpoint of self improvement and critique, but don't get down over it.
/r/askTRP04/05/16 07:50 PM
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Don't keep score and don't let it bother you. That's how slumps happen. She rejected you. You told 25k+ readers about it here. Tomorrow this will be buried and no one will remember your rejection. She's not the only woman out there. Dust off and move on.
/r/askTRP04/05/16 07:47 PM
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As you get more attractive, trade up. That's pretty much been my process. I used to be 270 lbs, as I have lost fat and packed on muscle my quality of woman has improved immensely. Don't feel like you have to go without, but don't get trapped into a LTR with someone who is going to be well below your standards in 9 months.
/r/askTRP04/05/16 07:39 PM
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Being shot by Clint Eastwood while Morgan Freeman narrates it, with musical score by John Williams.
/r/askTRP03/05/16 08:14 PM
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The saying YOLO (You only live once) is incorrect. You only die once. The goal is to live every moment up until that point.
/r/askTRP03/05/16 08:13 PM
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I know what I'm doing. You're only 18. You don't have a fucking clue. Stop being a poser.
/r/askTRP03/05/16 08:08 PM
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He's on a Manquest, to prove he's a man by blindly doing whatever other guys tell him to do because that's what men do or some stupid shit like that. Might as well tell this child to drink his own piss to check his virility. He's probably dense enough to do it.
/r/askTRP03/05/16 08:07 PM
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That's how Hitler was born. don't fact check me
/r/askTRP03/05/16 08:00 PM
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So, you don't want to fuck her because you like your dynamic, or you don't want to fuck her because you're afraid she might say no?
/r/askTRP03/05/16 07:47 PM
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If it's late at night, just find a golf course and fuck outside. Cars are difficult, but not impossible.
/r/askTRP29/04/16 05:17 PM
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What do you value? What are your goals? Until you adjust your values and work towards your goals you aren't going to change anything. You choose short term gratification. Sitting at home and jerking to porn is just easier for you. Until you realize that you want more out of life, that is all you are going to do.
/r/askTRP29/04/16 05:03 PM
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Binary rating is a good system too. It's either yes or no; beyond that is just subjective. Either you want to fuck her or you don't.
/r/askTRP28/04/16 06:46 PM
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Kate Beckinsale is my gold standard of a 10, but Katy Perry ranks on the 10 tier as well.
/r/askTRP28/04/16 04:02 PM
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I've been more harsh on bodies as of late. I've gotten into great shape and want a girl who takes care of it. Back when I was 270 lbs & 35% body fat I just looked for the cute face. Now I want the rocking body!
/r/askTRP28/04/16 03:59 PM
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Ratings are very subjective based on the person since we all have different tastes. A 5 to me may be an 8 to someone else. Typically the only thing most guys will agree on are the 10s, but even then personal preference comes into play. I have historically weighted the face more than the body when rating women. This is a fascinating new dynamic for me!
/r/askTRP28/04/16 01:42 PM
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Male fashion advice isn't all that helpful most of the time. You're better just googling fashion advice.
/r/askTRP18/04/16 04:21 AM
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Just bring it up naturally. You're not looking for their mother, and I'm guessing you're not having them over when you have your son.
/r/askTRP17/04/16 06:11 PM
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I'm up for the challenge as well.
/r/TheRedPill15/04/16 06:01 PM
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Bullshit. You're not a gremlin, your body doesn't care when you eat.
/r/askTRP15/04/16 12:33 PM
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This type of comment is why you shouldn't go to the internet for important matters. Links to three articles on the internet.
/r/askTRP14/04/16 10:16 PM
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Every one of those basically say you're eating too much and overcompensating. If your baseline diet is 1800 calories, eat 1800 calories. Don't crank it up to 2500 because the elliptical says you burned 700. Eat 1800 or whatever your target is for weight loss. If you're cutting calories and increasing activity, you'll lose weight.
/r/askTRP14/04/16 10:12 PM
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The Red Pill isn't all about hookups. It's about being your own man and not yielding the high ground to women in relationships.
/r/askTRP14/04/16 05:00 PM
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Do you need to lose weight? Then yes, cardio. Energy expended > calories consumed. You can lose weight just through diet but some extra cardio never hurts.
/r/askTRP14/04/16 12:53 PM
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Let me guess... small town? Unicorns only exist in small towns. Get out into the world and you'll realize she's not the only girl out there who ticks most of the boxes on your mental dreamgirl checklist.
/r/askTRP14/04/16 12:48 PM
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Better guard your cornhole.
/r/askTRP14/04/16 12:43 PM
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6 month vacation?!? Who the fuck gets a 6 month vacation?
/r/askTRP14/04/16 12:41 PM
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It happens, if I were to venture a guess she probably ticks most of the boxes of your mentally ideal dream girl (at least in personality, appearance, and interests). It makes it harder to let them go because from your perception she is "rare". But time will prove that this isn't the case. Give it some time before you pull that thread again.
/r/askTRP13/04/16 09:23 PM
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Ask him what he thinks of the Dallas Stars chances in the NHL Playoffs. He was born in Canada so he can't duck a hockey question. You could start the question framing it to be about his dual citizenship, but then redirect to asking about the Stars. Makes you sound clever, might get some media attention, but won't make you look like a schmuck on television.
/r/askTRP13/04/16 08:47 PM
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Ask him about the dildos: http://www.motherjones.com/politics/2016/04/ted-cruz-dildo-ban-sex-devices-texas (Mother Jones link, sorry) It's already on Drudge so it may be too late. But I'd ask him something about his time as Texas solicitor general. There's gotta be something in his history he's not ready to discuss.
/r/askTRP13/04/16 08:32 PM
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Energy expended > calories consumed. If you need to drop some weight then you should add some cardio along with the lifting and diet. Just makes it go faster. The key part of The Red Pill is being your own man. Take outside advice, sure, but don't just follow blindly the advice of the guys here. What worked for them may not be ideal for you.
/r/askTRP13/04/16 07:49 PM
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She does seem LTR material though Way too early to be thinking that. You're treating her like a unicorn. Don't.
/r/askTRP13/04/16 06:09 PM
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Whatever they find attractive? There is no one size fits all category of hotness. I personally gravitate toward the shy nerdy women or Asian women. Still looking for a shy nerdy Asian girl.
/r/askTRP13/04/16 06:02 PM
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It's the ones without kids in their 30s/early 40s that are baby crazy. If she's divorced with kids in her 30s the kids likely have a dad and don't really need another. But if she's mid thirties and checking the expiration date on her eggs, then she's looking for someone to put a baby in her.
/r/askTRP13/04/16 03:56 PM
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It's easy to not meet the kids, just establish that boundary. I've dated single moms for about 3 years now, haven't met a single kid. Most women don't want you to meet their kids anyways unless it's moving into a serious LTR.
/r/askTRP13/04/16 03:50 PM
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As a guy in his 40s, cutting out divorced single moms would be cutting out a large portion of a playable market. Sure there's higher risk, but the rewards are still there if you know how to play it.
/r/askTRP13/04/16 03:47 PM
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Are you moving to Austin just to get laid? Is it really that bad in Seattle?
/r/askTRP13/04/16 03:28 PM
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If you want to get to heavier weight and bulk on some mass, then bench press will help with your chest and triceps. Pushups work more than just your arms but you're limited to your body mass.
/r/askTRP13/04/16 03:27 PM
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Why stopping cardio? You can do both.
/r/askTRP13/04/16 03:25 PM
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Improper breathing and straining/holding your breath.
/r/askTRP13/04/16 03:23 PM
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Why do some people like having dogs?
/r/askTRP13/04/16 12:26 PM
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Come on man, if you applied yourself you'd be reading at a higher level.
/r/TheRedPill12/04/16 03:03 PM
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You had a weird thought, get over it and don't overanalyze it.
/r/askTRP12/04/16 02:58 PM
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If you're still in rehab, you should focus on setting goals and get your life in order. There's more pussy and fun to be had, think long term satisfaction vs. short term gratification. Turn Netflix off and read. Meditate. Take up a hobby. If you're working on yourself you're not idle and you're not wasting time.
/r/askTRP12/04/16 02:56 PM
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Pick something about her or something you learn about her. If it's something she brings up, then it's something safe to tease her about. If she never mentions the scar on her knee, don't tease her about it until you know the backstory. Basically, if it's something she's self conscious about, it's not a good rapport building tease topic (unless you're really fucking witty and can do so without pissing her off, but tread lightly early on). Everything else is fair game. Just keep the smirk and don'…
/r/askTRP12/04/16 02:49 PM
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If you do add her, preface it by saying you're not very active there and just use it to keep in touch with family. Also, make it out to be a big deal that you add her on Facebook... you can do so in a light manner ("normally I don't add women until after I've seen them naked"), this gives her a small ego boost. Pair the facebook add to an actual physical meet though, maybe use a small neg about her own facebook content ("your profile has the exact number of cat photos as I expected").
/r/askTRP12/04/16 02:39 PM
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That calculator is utter horseshit.
/r/askTRP12/04/16 01:29 PM
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Do both. I'm 41, I do six days of lifting and 6 days of cardio (gym in morning, gym at night). The key is food intake though. Calories in < calories burnt. If you cut your calorie intake enough you don't need the cardio. I choose to do cardio because I still want to eat.
/r/askTRP12/04/16 01:25 PM
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It's hard to convey sarcasm before you've developed rapport. Also it depends on a person's mood when they receive the message. When I'm home on a Saturday, just chilling, and I get a knock on the door from a group of kids selling fundraiser stuff for their youth sports league, I might buy something or at least give them a no thank you. But the same knock happens at 6pm as I'm sitting down to dinner after my boss chewed my ass for fucking up a customer visit, I'm not buying shit from those little…
/r/askTRP12/04/16 01:10 PM
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You could say that. You'd be wrong but you can say that. Why fuck someone I'm not attracted to? I'm not some 19 year old who still doesn't know what a vagina feels like. Nor am I hard up to get laid.
/r/TheRedPill12/04/16 01:59 AM
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Best option if you want the option of a repeat performance. Make it on your terms, not based on the neediness of her emotions.
/r/askTRP11/04/16 08:19 PM
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What?
/r/askTRP11/04/16 08:16 PM
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I'm not familiar with rock climbing, but is it hitting all of the muscle groups evenly? Seems like you hit your pull muscles hard but not your push muscles (chest, tri's and shoulders). 5x5 is a three day a week routine, 45 minutes tops if that. It won't add much extra time to your day.
/r/askTRP11/04/16 08:14 PM
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And don't forget to eat three meals a day. A banana for breakfast is fine.
/r/TheRedPill11/04/16 05:36 PM
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You could try the cyborg route then.
/r/TheRedPill11/04/16 04:51 PM
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I do have sex for the sake of having sex, but I don't feel the necessity to settle for someone like I did previously. It's not about a woman letting me fuck her, it's me fucking who I choose because that's what I want.
/r/TheRedPill11/04/16 04:50 PM
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Try to go Jason Statham/90s Bruce Willis first. Keep a little stubble.
/r/askTRP11/04/16 03:32 PM
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How long have you been doing 5x5?
/r/askTRP11/04/16 03:28 PM
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They aren't subtle. Needy people are quite overt about it.
/r/askTRP11/04/16 03:27 PM
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I try to fuck her and occasionally she lets me. She "let's you"? That's the Beta in you talking. Fuck other women. She's no snowflake.
/r/askTRP11/04/16 03:24 PM
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She has to qualify herself to you to be relationship material. If she's dating other men, does that make her relationship material to you? Sounds like she's baiting you into an LTR trap.
/r/askTRP11/04/16 03:21 PM
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I'm sure right now there's a child in Africa starving to death. No one said the world is fair. You can only control how you carry yourself.
/r/askTRP11/04/16 03:20 PM
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Overreacting and over invested. What is she to you? A plate? A FWB? Are you fucking anyone else right now?
/r/askTRP11/04/16 03:14 PM
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You're way too invested in nothing here. Just move on and don't get worked up over an argument on the internet.
/r/askTRP11/04/16 03:09 PM
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You're thinking too short term. The trip might make you happy, but what then? You've lost your job and likely will have to start over somewhere else with no leverage to improve your situation, and probably for less money. Now the nest egg is gone and you've got nothing to show for it but some vacation photos and a poorly done tattoo from a foreign country that likely gave you hepatitis. Invest in yourself. Figure out what you'd rather be doing for a career and work towards that. Ideally you shou…
/r/askTRP11/04/16 02:54 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3zd6q3/the_bitch_management_hierarchy_study_guide/ She has to earn her place. Don't elevate her before she's proven herself worthy. Only thing you know is she has a perceived low count.
/r/askTRP11/04/16 02:49 PM
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It only lets you do 5% increments unless you go premium, but it's close enough.
/r/TheRedPill11/04/16 02:46 PM
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If you're using MyFitnessPal, you can edit your macros to get your protein intake to the right levels. Keep an eye on these because if you update your goals it will rebalance your macros.
/r/TheRedPill11/04/16 02:40 PM
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I did keto for a few months, and when you're limiting your carb intake to 25g or less, it's surprising how full you feel when you're consuming that much protein and fat.
/r/TheRedPill11/04/16 02:38 PM
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100 pushups 100 situps 100 squats 10 km run Do this every day. One Paaaaaawwwwwwwwnnnch!!!!!!
/r/TheRedPill11/04/16 02:36 PM
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Since I've been on my diet and gotten into better shape, I've been avoiding junk food.
/r/TheRedPill11/04/16 02:21 PM
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She's looking for a sugar daddy. Or just flat out payment. Offer her $20 and a coupon for a free car wash, something flippant and see how she responds.
/r/askTRP11/04/16 01:02 PM
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I have a career and this is the first I've heard of the sub. So it's possible to get a career without it.
/r/askTRP11/04/16 12:57 PM
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I feel she could be LTR material After one date? Too soon to be making that call.
/r/askTRP11/04/16 12:33 PM
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This smells of low effort trolling.
/r/askTRP08/04/16 08:14 PM
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Way overthinking this. Do your own thing and go your own way.
/r/askTRP08/04/16 08:13 PM
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Meditating and fucking other women would be a good combo. You're a man getting your needs met, and she was just a means of getting that done.
/r/askTRP08/04/16 08:09 PM
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Own your choices. You choose not to drink because you're a fucking man and you are holding to your guns. That's admirable. If she questions you not drinking it's a shit test, just deal with it accordingly. Also a shot of whiskey is ~ 100 calories and carb free. You can make diet choices.
/r/askTRP08/04/16 08:02 PM
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Meditate? Do other things? Use her leaving you as motivation to improve yourself? Best thing to do is to block her out every way you can. I'm guessing you still have her number in your phone, or perhaps you've saved a few photos. Get rid of those. If you're friends on Facebook or social media, sever those ties too. If she calls you on it just say being friends doesn't work for me. If aren't friends on Facebook but still stalk her page, block her so you can't see it. Matter of fact, unplug from s…
/r/askTRP08/04/16 07:58 PM
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Your user name checks out. Thanks!
/r/askTRP08/04/16 07:53 PM
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That's what I thought as well, and that's what I've had more success with. It doesn't come off as a canned series of questions. the U & C are good finishers, basically giving a quick affirmation that not only have we developed some rapport we have similar interests so we should be open to seeing each other again. But asking if someone is half German just seems disingenuous and could quickly kill any vibe you've managed to create.
/r/askTRP08/04/16 07:44 PM
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So you want recommendations on how to take shortcuts? Just take the fucking pain like a man and put the work in.
/r/askTRP06/04/16 11:26 AM
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A woman with big tits and a slender waist can make use of those because everyone sees them. Same goes for guys with chiseled abs and a strong jaw line. I think it's more of an asset to keep the plates spinning. She may tell her friends about it and you could potentially develop a reputation for it, but I don't see how you could flaunt it or use it to increase your status like you could a nice car or being charming and having nice clothes.
/r/askTRP05/04/16 09:06 PM
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When I was married, gaming was my escape. My home life sucked so I disappeared online into video games, message boards and chatrooms. I've recovered a bit from that (heh, still on reddit though!), but I don't spend 20+ hours every week playing video games. Now I'm more likely to spend 20 hours at the gym.
/r/askTRP01/04/16 08:18 PM
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Guess I should cancel that guild raid I had scheduled for tonight. I'm kidding
/r/askTRP31/03/16 08:32 PM
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This is an excellent idea. I'm not much of a bar guy to begin with so I may be more comfortable operating in my element.
/r/askTRP31/03/16 04:33 PM
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The practical advice was what I was lacking. I was married for 17 years so I had regressed to dad style and didn't really give a fuck as to whether or not I looked good when I left the house. Most of my wardrobe consisted of ill fitting polo shirts that the ex bought, vests my ex mother in law bought, and tshirts my kids bought me. I needed to nuke my closet and start from scratch! Luckily I found some better advice by Googling. I feel better about my style choices now, at least to the point tha…
/r/askTRP30/03/16 08:38 PM
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Note to self... learn how to dance.
/r/askTRP30/03/16 08:20 PM
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malefashionadvice can be hit or miss. It's very much a hive mind of creating style vs knowing what is in style. A lot of what they suggest is impractical.
/r/askTRP30/03/16 08:17 PM
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I know a few places that have live music on occasion that also serve food. Not really a restaurant but attract a decent crowd and occasionally have a cover. You're right about the overthinking... I'm not truly alone if I'm being social and talking to everyone. When I first got divorced I was the guy sitting by himself at the bar not talking to anyone so that mental image still persists.
/r/askTRP30/03/16 08:02 PM
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Great point. Now I just need to find a good bar to become a regular at so I can post up.
/r/askTRP30/03/16 07:06 PM
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Do what these women aren't doing and put your needs first. Are you getting anything out of your relationships with them other than the constant reminder that you're not sleeping with them? Are you hovering around them for the off chance that you may move out of the friend zone? Are they supplementing their relationships with Alphas by having you fulfill their Beta needs? If you answered yes to any of those, cut ties and move on. If you enjoy their company and are cool with never sleeping with th…
/r/askTRP30/03/16 07:01 PM
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Sounds like you answered your own question. (Yes, it does)
/r/askTRP30/03/16 06:51 PM
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