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The guy is an asshole. I am not sending sympathy. My scenario was more directed to guy whose wife thought he was cheating and woke up without a dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 08:27 AM
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Loyal, honest, communication, desire, sweetness, friendly with confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 02:12 PM
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Attractiveness is objective. I wonder if blind men would be affected? If personality and character remained the same. What if women suddenly found an average man's lustfulness attractive? They felt comfortable in thier body enough to be with the men they found less physically attractive prior?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 11:17 AM
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When you feel like the other person is not a physical threat, you alter your mindset. You have a greater sense of security. Women's fears would change. My scariest thought related to gender is falling asleep with a woman. See John Wayne Bobbitt. He didn't have a chance. Furthermore women cheered the behavior. How is that supposed to make men feel? She wasn't physically stronger? I wonder how that story would have went, if she gets assaulted in her sleep for cheating?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 11:08 AM
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I don't judge purely on appearance. I don't assume it is all looks that led to rejection, but looks matter. When you are told it's looks that is not projecting. That is not irrational insecurity. Rejection happens for multiple reasons though. I have been in relationships. One was married 25 years. I was very secure a long time. I don't compare my looks to other people as much as I used to do. I am more interested in the kind of people they are. I pay attention to behavior now more than ever. As …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 10:23 AM
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A man who is a 4 is constantly reminded of it. In terms of rejection by various means. Being ignored or being overtly rejected. They learn to accept that the value they bring is not looks. It's personality and character. I have never seen a man think he was a 10 in looks after dating a better looking woman. There are plenty of women convinced they are a better looking woman than they are. I am not insecure. That would be assuming things are true that are irrational. Can you point to what I belie…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 09:57 AM
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Do you remember dumb and dumber? "So you are saying there is a chance." Most guys want to know with relative certainty that the endeavor is worth the effort. Granted Jim Carrey didn't understand the odds, the point is numbers help us relate to our chance of success. Another example of numbers and chance is the rating system. When we see a woman who is a 4 in looks hooking up with a 8 or 9, then assuming she is now a 10, well logically speaking, we see delusional thinking. Men are more geared to …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 08:38 AM
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If there are definite parameters, it makes sense there is a way to determine this. I know there is that cat lady calculator. Maybe using those parameters might determine the number? It seems like women have no problem ignoring a large percentage of men in society.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 12:33 AM
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What percentage of men are LVM?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 12:29 AM
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After reading FDS, I can see women are extremely judgmental about men in various ways. I kind if doubt I will look at women the same. I don't put down women's appearance. I put down behaviors. They are putting guys down for things guys can't control. Dating seems hopeless.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 12:22 AM
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Lol, now that's funny. Can't see the forest from trees?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 11:15 AM
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Companionship to share adventures Partner for emotional support, share household duties, and share financial success with. Someone to have a deep intimate connection physically, spiritually, and mentally with Someone who is there when you are sick. Someone who prioritizes thier love and desire for you above most of the people in thier life. Someone who has a balance between agreeable and opinionated. Someone with control and discipline over thier emotions that can be loyal when nobody is looking…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 08:27 PM
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Beta is a person that accepts bad behavior from thier partner, and puts the partner on a pedestal regardless of the behavior. A man can be successful and still have a good frame with healthy boundaries. I am going to say a successful good looking person is more inclined to be as alpha. A less attractive successful person would have a higher chance, if they have no frame.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 11:58 AM
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Apparently some Americans think European and Asian women are desperate and don't find American men attractive, they just want out of poverty? Is that how you see it?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 10:26 PM
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I left her. The final was related to finances and trust issues. I think any parent st home is better for instilling structure enforcing boundaries, and maintaining stability in the home. I think a career woman is fine, if she accepts the stress and burden of promary provider without judging her spouse. The domestic spouse would have to communicate the financial needs of the household and respect the bank account when the primary provider is the only one working. Miscommunication of the financial…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 08:20 PM
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I was married 25 years. She was a stay at home mom who refused to work once she could have. We managed finances poorly. Our family struggled as a result. If I did it again, I would want someone that works part time when the children are school age. The stay at home mom type was great, she just needed a little ambition.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 07:33 PM
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Very cool story. It helped me see how a relationship can flourish outside of traditional conventions. Thanks for sharing.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 03:40 PM
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That is awesome. Glad you have a situation that works. So when you say FWB, that makes me think emotional connection is less important. Do you look to be married one day or do consider what you are doing now as your best scenario for a relationship? It doesn't sound like companionship, but I might be reading it wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 03:24 PM
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I think, if they are working there, and get to know the person, there can be a legitimate connection. Mail order bride situations, I am not buying too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 03:06 PM
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I just read your post differently about income. I am in a decent range. have been on dating sites. I have met one person. Chatted with a few. It doesn't sound like the best method. I prefer in person. I am not afraid to ask someone on a date. The problem is the social faux pas of many settings. I would do fine in a meetup or group setting. People do like to hear how you met someone. OLD doesn't make a very romantic story. What are you doing to meet people or do you mainly just fwb?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 03:03 PM
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My job pays close to yours with benefits. My job is easy for me. I have been at it 20+ years with the same company. I was debt free. I decided to take on some self improvement debt, but it is manageable. I am on the track. Just waiting for that right person to join up forces. 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 02:01 PM
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It is kind of extreme. I think I can be happy in a relationship. I think those men were married to work. That is not me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 01:09 PM
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I would prefer a childfree 35 that wants to relax, have a little adventure, and travel a couple times a year. I wouldn't mind kids, if they wanted some. I just realize the sacrifice needed, financial, emotional, and time. I actually think I desire a childfree 35 woman who wants a good partner and no kids. I would be settling if I ended up having more kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 01:07 PM
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Thank you. Early here. Many do think it is gross. I am 49. So I could see myself with a 30 to 35 year old that is mature. I would prefer to have a calm life and travel, but I could still have a couple more children. I could be happy with the right woman at that age. I am not opposed to 40 to 45. They tend to be more set I thier ways. They have older children and grandchildren which has it's own issues. I have witnessed new grandma situatiom. They get obsessed. A man can quickly become an accesso…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 12:47 PM
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So you are saying the only hope for these "ugly" men is to work and avoid relationships, since they will never be truly loved and desired?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 12:13 PM
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What do you call ugly? Maybe they are just fine where they are and enjoy traditional roles? Maybe they are attracted? How do you know? Are you saying they will become "Western"? I want half Eddy. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 11:59 AM
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You were taught it is gross. You are conditioned to believe that. Have you been attracted to older men at all or just ignore any impulse?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 11:31 AM
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How is it that the same 80% of men can attractive women in another country? I think our culture has created princess syndrome in many western women. They are simply never content with any man. See Bezos or Gates. If these men failed with Western women, who has a chance unless they are perfect? Look at OLD. Women say men are low effort and unattractive. I say men have not been shown how to put in that effort. Furthermore, often the effort they do exert is ignored. Therevis literally zero apprecia…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 11:07 AM
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This might be an interesting debate. I wonder how many guys think the same as I do? Alabama wrote a song about it. " Don't Close Your Eyes"
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 07:36 AM
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Can a women keeps her eyes on her partner instead of closing them? Just make me feel like we are in the same experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 01:10 AM
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We are delusional. We want to believe we are top 20 until we aren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 12:59 AM
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We are delusional. We want to believe we are top 20 until we aren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 12:59 AM
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Arranged marriage has a purpose lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 10:18 PM
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You are right. I searched myself alot the last year. Figured out, I am impulsive, a people pleaser, and overthinker. It is a trifecta for being clingy, insecure, and overbearing. I have been single now for the longest period of time in my life. I absolutely want to modify my behavior. My picker was an octopus arm. Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 04:30 PM
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I am curious about your opinion of incels. I don't consider myself one. I have gone over a year without, but I don't have a feeling of desperation. Lol. I try to put myself in thier mind. I think they look at a world where sex is on display 24/7. They feel left out. That is a sad. They are frustrated and lost. They want love and adoration like most people. The sense of desperation is just not appealing to women. It is a nonstop pity party. Almost as pathetic as gorgeous women on tiktok saying "W…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 04:23 PM
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An escort responded. That changed my mind about this. Hearing from someone like that gives a different perspective. Body count may not be as important as I think. I certainly hope it isn't. I think love in the world is good. More people being able to give and receive love in the world is good.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 04:09 PM
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Sounds like you are ok. Glad you are doing well.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 03:57 PM
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Do you think you will measure a future partner to your past experiences or just focus on the life you have? I am wondering if sexual standards for performance and boundaries would be different than most or about the same?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 03:32 PM
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My heart goes out to them. I think they deserve love, if they can be in a healthy relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 03:07 PM
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Yep. I was really down. I was in a bad head space. Like most guys, I worked through it on my own. Not seeing much light in life. Mostly a job that I don't love. A friend referred me to a YouTube channel. If you know YouTube, it can take you on a ride. I listened to a lot. Read some. I have enough info now. Now I have cooled off. I would like a healthy relationship. My main goal was seeing where I was failing. RP does create animosity toward woman. I didn't really embrace that too much. I reflect…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 03:04 PM
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I hope you do well.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 02:45 PM
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There are things I liked and didn't. I didn't hrow as a person in it. I grew more through the divorce and a subsequent breakup. Marriage made me lazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 02:44 PM
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I was married 25 years to the wrong person. Marriage is flawed when the people getting married are emotionally and socially stunted. It is a good construct for companionship and intimacy, if the people are more mature. It is not required to have a healthy relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 02:40 PM
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I am going to say that love was also survival. She was broken. No doubts. She had an awful life. Well I guess we need a study of well adjusted people who have a high number of partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 02:36 PM
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Lol, I get you. I am open to reason. I don't think there is an argument against promiscuity, because it makes men feel better. I don't remember a generation more sexual than this one. Hippies are blushing. Remember free love was more about connecting. Casual sex is about pleasure. We don't know the long term effects of the hot girl summer. We do know men and women with frequent partners are more likely to abuse substances. There was that pair bonding study, but that was not humans. I guess we wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 02:33 PM
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https://ifstudies.org/blog/does-sexual-history-affect-marital-happiness
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 02:19 PM
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Typical name calling. Such a sad attempt at a decent debate. I welcome objective data. I would accept an accredited study.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 02:14 PM
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I would say the widespread increase in promiscuity or awareness of it might lead to a social study regarding the long term effects of sexual activity. There are anecdotal situations that show some woman struggle after having many partners. I would much rather have a comprehensive study outline what happens long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 02:13 PM
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Check out Aileen Wournos.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 01:19 PM
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Typical name calling from the emotionally stunted studs. About normal. The past affects the future. It is also an indicator of future behavior. I mentioned this on another post. I think about the emotional damage prostitution does. Many prostitutes cannot feel love for a partner. Some do self mutilation. The effects of excessive promiscuity should be obvious. I don't want a person incapable of loving and desiring me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 01:17 PM
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The number is an efficient barometer instead of talking about someone's past in more detail. If people had to write a detailed essay of thier sexual history. Well, they might shock themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 09:10 AM
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Not true. I think there are many men here who have moderate sexual history and recognize the emotional damage from to much transactional sex. They have dedicated their life, time, and attention to women who ended up being emotionally unavailable.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 09:06 AM
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I been roasted on railing against high body count according to my standards. I have also adjusted my opinion of it. Reality is it matters to many men. Why it matters? It affects a person's ability to love. The emotional damage of excessive partners is clear. Look at prostitution. Many are emotionally numb. Feel absolutely nothing regarding emotions. Cut themselves to feel. This is a real phenomenon. When I look at a person's sexual history, I think about those scenarios. Women are being told to …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 08:57 AM
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It is a greater argument for better vetting on both people's part to ensure authenticity and compatibility. Reality is that many people use money as a gauge of success. The risk of losing money, is a risk of lowering thier value to society and prospective partners. The risk of a warrant for failure to pay. I think in the grand scheme the alimony is a smaller picture item. I bring it up, because it affects my life in a very drastic way. I have to plan my future in dating and life in general aroun…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 04:02 PM
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Lol, yeah I know. I am still easily won over by a kind, considerate person and a sweet smile.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 03:37 PM
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Ultimately I think a group of men feel like thier is little to no voice for men's rights and women's rights are all that matters. I am not really sure how many men recognize or care about men's rights? There has been a fight to end permanent alimony in FL for years. Every year, the same people testify. Each side speaks. In the end, there is no change. The process seems pointless. Politicians don't want to see an ad of them supporting a bill helping men that would hurt women. Women receive the mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 03:35 PM
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You seem very reasonable and down to Earth. It is refreshing. Another point, I pointed out the negatives or relationships. To counter that, I know many women who were married that have positively impacted and influenced my life. I temper the negative with realizing there are good women out there. I think most men would love to have a woman in thier life that is highly compatible with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 03:09 PM
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That is best advice. Any stay at home mom should be engaged is some kind of employment. Not just in case of divorce, but death as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 02:51 PM
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Being a man, is being able to be yourself and not apologize for it. Don't do things to make others happy. Do things that define who you are and let the people interested enter your world.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 01:23 PM
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I am 49 and have to pay permanently. That is until I die, she dies, or she remarries. There are reforms suggested. My personal opinion is that it will change when the majority of people affected are women. Only time will tell? Does it upset women when men think this? I am just looking at current laws and accepting that family law will continue to benefit women exclusively? If there is a law that benefited men on a much greater percentage than women. I would like to know what that is? I agree abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 01:07 PM
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I think you articulate that well. How often is your scenario the situation? Now weigh it against what happens to successful men during and after a divorce? Really, a man spends 13 years to graduate high school. Four more for a bachelor's. Maybe three to six more to get a doctorate? Then spends even more time establishing a career. If he has a dedicated partner throughout that helped him get through it, I could see splitting assets. Alimony, I would never say is justified. Both people make decisi…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 10:10 AM
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I had an acquaintance. He was an old Vietnam vet. He lived alone. When he died, they found him after about 4 or 5 days. That does connect with the idea of having kids and raising a family to a degree. Even then people die alone. Especially COVID deaths. I am sure many have been that way. I think that affects the PTSD of medical professionals. So getting back to having a spouse and kids, it can be a buffer for dying alone, if you are not a general asshole of a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 08:51 AM
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I appreciate that very much. Thank you. A few sentences can make a profound impact.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 01:56 AM
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The last thing that happened. Insurance company handed us money to replace a roof. She spent about 3k of it on nothing she could account for and some clothes. I had to get a loan to pay for the roof. I just got tired of the lies and manipulation. I am a push over or people pleaser so it took a long time to get to that point. I found a wonderful person after I divorced. We moved too fast and broke up. That girl I loved with everything in me. I have been single a little over a year. I am just post…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 01:50 AM
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Well, lol nobody warned me. I grew up and held traditional values. I actually enjoy the companionship and monogamous relationship. I was married 25 years. Raised two children. I didn't have to pay child support, but I have permanent alimony. It has put a huge wedge between my ex and me. I refuse to contact her. I just can't see any successful man getting married today. I am waiting for the women's response. Nothing yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 10:53 PM
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Unless she spends like a sailor, gets distracted, leaves with half, demands a huge amount on child support and alimony. 50% of marriages end in divorce and most are initiated by women. I doubt abuse being the main reason. The divorce rate goes to 60% for college educated women I believe. So why should successful msn pair up with those odds? He can save money, travel, and smash regularly. What is she bringing that he doesn't already have, if he doesn't want kids?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 10:07 PM
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My last partner was awesome. We split the Bill's, loved each other. I would not say a gender only has one thing. I think their is a give and take. It is more like the scales are tipped and to tip them back or balance it, one has to compensate or the other compromise.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 09:43 PM
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I know. It is all fantasy to average people.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 09:06 PM
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I think it is the men who get damaged first. The cuckold my think it is a fantasy they want. Once the act is done, the wife could stop respecting the husband as a man, then start growing feelings for the bull. She might feel liberated in one sense, but trapped in another. I chatted with a woman whose husband begged her to do it. Sd he eventually did and felt guilty for enjoying it, and lost respect for her husband. They divorced. Would you be okay with that scenario?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 08:39 PM
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It sure is nice to see the responses. I think some guys bring porn situations into thier head and let that spread to thier relationships. I have watched cuck porn, but I get pretty disgusted fairly quickly. I think most guys see it and would never partake.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 08:13 PM
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I only reccomend it for reconstruction. I think it indicates a huge self esteem issue when done for aesthetic value.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 03:06 PM
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Depends on the age. A 60 year old it could. A 25 year no. That is the hard part. You have to weigh people on an individual basis more than a number. I am 49 with an average count of 5. Only 3 meaningful relationships. One was a 25 year marriage. I am 49 and have so much to learn yet. It does make me feel left behind, but I refuse to believe that there is no chance of a future with a good woman. I am just using the time to grow as much as I can.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 04:56 PM
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My opinion is changing as time goes on. I think of promiscuous as a behavior more than a number. I think a person who has had sex with 20 people in meaningful relationships is less promiscuous than a person who just decided to have sex with 10 randos. I think there is risk of emotional damage with transactional sex that is not happening with validationol sex. While body count matters, the context of the sex matters more. If you want a number. I think 10 or more transactional sex partners is prom…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 03:19 PM
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It does seem like the desperate, needy, and thoughtless gravitate to similar circles, but I believe most people are good. They need encouragement and guidance. Hopefully they find it here. I love hearing raw feedback from women on the various subjects. It is just better than reading psychobabble from a book.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 02:57 PM
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That is awesome. Honest peptalks help me a lot. After my last breakup, I spent time reflecting. I talked with friends and family about me and who I am. It became clear. My behavioral traits are people pleaser or chameleon and also an overthinker. I like to fix things in a relationships. I don't like conflict. A woman told me she likes makeup sex. I have never had it. I would also agree with my ex on about everything. It is exhausting for them. I get it, because I can see it. I know I have to hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 02:49 PM
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I love your name. So what motivates men to be more? Anytime you think you have put in the effort with little or no results you can get discouraged. Are you referring to looks, character, personality... or all of them?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 02:06 PM
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Not true. Right now, I would screw a toaster. JK Lol It is perspective. I think everyone wants what they can't have. It does create desperation which leads to lower standards in some cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 01:52 PM
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Plenty of guys have empty casual sex. Like they are jerking off inside a woman. It means nothing without any emotion or connection. Just a way to let off steam.Not all men are emotionally available. The sex is transactional. Now consider the man in the love with thier partner. For them sex is more important for expressing love. They are showing they love you in the most intimate way. When I have sex, I want to stay connected to her forever, because it is amazing to me on a physical, psychologica…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 10:06 AM
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Considering a man expresses love best with sex, how do they express love without it. Men are not women. I think this is a huge disconnect in relationships. Women think men just want sex. That is not always true. Sexual compatibility is difficult. I think many men go sexless in relationships to please a partner, but inside they are miserable and missing an important connection to thier partner. What you are calling an ultimate love is lacking for the average man when little or no sex is involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 05:04 AM
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It is bigger than you can imagine. It sets the frame. A man is needed for so little by women today. One of the few things you need a man for and you trivialize it. What part of your life can only be fulfilled by your partner other than sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 04:47 AM
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I would want someone to give me an honest shot and see what happens. Looks do not determine character and personality. Less attractive people can be assholes as easily as attractive people.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 03:11 AM
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Everyone doesn't live in a box. Qualities range for everyone. Maybe you like angry and bitter that ghosts you? There is no one right way. Just know what you like and be true to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 02:01 AM
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Kindness Happiness Sense of humor Sarcasm Enjoys spending time together Once we have a mutual connection Desire Affectionate Passionate
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 01:49 AM
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How often does a guy marry his dream girl? How often does a guy "settle". I think average guys compromise a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 11:20 PM
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You have described a pet dog. Just get a dog.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 05:28 PM
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B, I understand that I am deviate compared to her, but I have discipline and control over my body and emotions. Person A would literally drive me crazy. I would be terrified of the STDS of person A. I would yearn to be close to person B. Person A would repulse me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 07:52 PM
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I like dressing up for a date. It is the day to day that gets me. I wonder if that affects a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 06:07 PM
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That right thier compounds a person issues with self esteem and psychological state in a relationship. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 05:58 PM
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I would take a slightly overweight, active person over a slim lazy person.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 04:55 PM
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Would she date someone who has dropped alot of weight? I used to 5'6" 240. Dropped it to 170, then back up to 190. Weight can change. Love, support, and desire shouldn't change, but it seems like many people lose desire when they, a partner, or both gain weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 04:53 PM
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I just had the boob conversation with somebody. Guys notice boobs like women notice height. It is a trait.The best of us recognize that and move onto personality. Others might stayed fixed on a trait. I would want a person for who they are. I would want to be desired for the person I am. I guess that is the hard part about dating, sorting out authentic interest in you versus disingenuous interest in a trait?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 05:42 PM
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She didn't dump me. Our domestic situation was not working. I showed her love and respect as much as I could. I still hurt her and myself. I agree with you on clown behavior. I should have went slower. It's over now. I want to be better in the future. I haven't dated now in over a year for multiple reasons. The biggest is I really hate myself for hurting her. I will try again wi tug h a better understanding of who I am and what my boundaries are. I truly want a good woman who matches well with m…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 05:36 PM
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I do think blaming height for lack of looks, lack of finances, personality, or physique would be an easy cope. On the dating apps, 5'6" feels like a death sentence to dating. Reality is, location, bio, and pics matter to. I think more short guys need to focus on what they have, and less on what they can't. I am guilty of blaming women for my misery in dating. Reality is that, I have more influence than I sometimes like to sdmit.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 05:23 PM
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Tell me what you think red pill is? I keep getting criticized for this. My understanding is far different than others. I honestly would like to know how I improve myself to be prepared for a better relationship in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 05:00 PM
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You know I broke up with her? We could have eventually made it work. The red pill stuff wasn't even a thing until after she was long gone. Like many men. I was searching myself. Trying to find where I could improve myself. Red pill is not what you think it is to me. It simply awareness of Male and female nature in relationships and being aware of the dangers of committed relationships. Red pill does not tell men what to do. It informs them and let's them decide. You are lost on what red pill is.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 04:52 PM
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That isn't true. I didn't grab her or make shitty comments or accentuate that. I love who she is, not what she is. Liking big boobs is fine, but it needs to be tempered with honest respect and love.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 04:08 PM
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Lol, that is cute you think human nature recognizes political affiliation. Plenty of liberal Simps that make dry as a desert. Human nature involves primal survival instincts. They don't have a d or an r. They don't care about medical history. A liberal woman could marry a conservative and be very happy in many respects, but hate that the part that makes him attractive. Vice versa. Funny you think Chad's are liberal? Lol. Chad's have allegiance to themselves, that's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 03:14 PM
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I was wondering are flat chested women more promiscuous than large chested? Biologically I would surmise small breasted women might have more testosterone which would lead to more sex? Large chested we women would have less testosterone and desire sex less? I have been with large breasted women. I am curious if small breasted women are hornier?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 06:29 AM
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The story of losing my virginity is laughable today. Back then, it was mortifying. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 06:09 AM
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As good as your band camp?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 05:59 AM
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Exactly, most of us are just fine. I also laugh at old men dating young girls. I prefer women 6 to 8 years younger myself. I am 49. Anyone under 40 would be nothing for me. I also require some emotional connection before intimacy. It kinda ruins any chance of a carefree lifestyle. 😂 The upside is I only end up sleeping with women that are also emotionally invested. Quality over quantity is my deal. RP is just being aware of what can happen. I am pretty aware now. The goal is not to avoid women o…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 05:13 AM
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I would say the song older women make good lovers has a point. It don't mention marriage or commitment lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 04:53 AM
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To each thier own. I just know these old ladies thing they control the young bucks. They might for a night, but the young buddhas are no woman's pet. Those women wake up alone more days than not. Some like it and others lie to themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 04:52 AM
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Lol, right. A book written in brail?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 04:40 AM
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Plot twist, the guy on the left has no idea if women like what he is or who he is. He just assumes they all want the what he is and leaves it at that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 04:31 AM
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I laugh at it. These old women laying down for young bucks. You are nothing more than a dispensary. That is the hard truth. They want a mom they can bang that let's them do nasty shit they wouldn't dare try with a decent young womsn.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 04:25 AM
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Men have way less on average. Average women get it when they want it. Average men don't. Just how it is. It is why guys are thirsty. Women laugh at men for it. It makes no sense. Women at large create this thirstyness by ignoring men's needs en masse. Men just accept it. Women are really laughing at thier own creation.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 02:48 AM
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Breakers of hearts?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 02:34 AM
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I appreciate that very. Thank you. I was lucky. I found a woman after that was very open about sex. The problem with her and I was that I had the kid in candy shop mentality with her. I took her openness for granted and did not establish healthy boundaries for sex. Eventually she disrespected me. Which I regret. I did apologize. Too little, too late. The hard part is that I love her with all my heart and I hurt her.I wear my heart on my sleeve. I had to work through that. My next relationship wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 02:16 AM
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It's hell. I saw a video that stated "dead bedroom " is a huge problem for lesbian couples due to the lack of initiating sex by women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 11:50 PM
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Until it runs out of batteries. Then it's back to Incel fir you. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 11:22 PM
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I think many incels are married. I wanted sex for three years and she didn't. I was miserable. My self esteem tanked. I was like why doesn't she want me? I look back now. It was more about her being depressed and her feeling low self esteem. She didn't feel sexy even though I showed interest at first. Eventually. I gave up. I didn't have anything left in me. I just slep walked through it and jerked off.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 11:18 PM
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I would rather be desired and objectified, then tossed. When I and my right hand are respected indefinitely, I am going to be miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 10:02 PM
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Most attracted to Latino and Hispanic women. I would not mind seeing what it is like. I have dated a latino short term, but life took us different directions.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 05:26 PM
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Many psychologists reject the notion that men actually experience emotions less frequently than women do. Instead, researchers have suggested that men exhibit restrictive emotionality. Restrictive emotionality refers to a tendency to inhibit the expression of certain emotions and an unwillingness to self-disclose intimate feelings.Men's restrictive emotionality has been shown to influence health, emotional appraisal and overall identity. Furthermore, tendencies toward restrictive emotionality ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 12:36 PM
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No. Maybe next year. 🥳
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 06:52 AM
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I understand not giving compliments. Do you give them, to a partner, if you have one? I am trying understand the second comment. Are you enjoying the new year?🍾
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 06:01 AM
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The idea is you have a choice. You can turn down sex, because if you want some, it is ready when you want it. Many average men don't have that choice. They feel like they need to take it when they can, because it might be a year or longer before the situation occurs again. Young women have sex on easy mode, dating on easy mode. Go make a man's profile on a dating app. You have no idea of the struggle the average man has to get genuine attention, attraction, and desire from a woman. We can go for…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 05:44 AM
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A young woman can figure out if she wants relationship before sex. A young woman can get sex even after she has decided that there is no chance of a future. I think many young women get used to the power of the vagina.. Over time something happens. That power diminishes. They eventually give up and get a cat or dog and blame men for being men. I think most men want sex early on. Many women perceive this as men just want sex. A good amount do want more.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 04:55 AM
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My new years resolution is going to try to be more understanding. Not sure how good it will go, but I going to try.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 04:10 AM
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Your tone came off as hateful. Just calling it as I see it. I did use a question mark. It was a legit question that you answered with some sarcastic banter. Happy New Year! 🥳
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 04:02 AM
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Yeah, no excuse. Got to have standards that involve character lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 03:58 AM
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Lol, misandry much? I don't hate women. I also accept, I can't understand them, because they don't understand themselves. Women act on emotions which has no reason to it. I think a woman getting laid is like me taking a dump. No special talent needed. Just show up. I have an equal disrespect for all people who have transactional sex. It is not gender specific. You are all pigs.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 03:53 AM
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They can't answer that, lol. Women can't say why they do half the things they do, because half the things are done with emotions instead of reason and logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 03:26 AM
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Racism should be acceptable when choosing a mate. You are attracted to what you like. I honestly think blind people have an advantage in this aspect. I might be completely wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 03:03 AM
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It is more about attitude than looks. One is happy to please her man. The other nags about his shortcomings constantly. I would take a 2 that wants to please over a 10 that ignores me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 02:57 AM
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Damn skippy. There is a multibillion dollar industry built on satisfying women with a multitude of objects.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 02:53 AM
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I can attest. Blue eyed, white guy here. I am attracted to every race. I am more interested in thier facial features than race. I am also more attracted to a darker brown skin with long soft black hair, brown eyes, slimmer waist, and round butt. I loved living in FL. Now I live around less attractive women. It is night and day.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 02:48 AM
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The one thing I like about this reddit is brutal honesty from every angle. Ban nobody, take the hit, grow thicker skin, and learn something.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 02:16 AM
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Who taught these young men to become the people they are? What can these men do to be "secure" so they are attractive to the financially independent woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 12:47 AM
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Western society creates emasculation in young men. No wonder so few are successful. Women wanted better jobs, you got it. Men are not needed. Great. Do women think this attracts the men they desire? Women want superiority over men, not equality. So that you get to pick your man and ignore the rest. Western women are spoiled, for sure. How well are women at sharing a narcissistic top 10% of men that were cultivated by the attention they receive from throughout thier life? Those top 10% guys have …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 08:10 PM
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Being a virgin is not important. I think finding someone with similar experiences is more valuable. I would definitely avoid a woman who had the hot girl summer. I think it is impulsive and poor judgment. Just my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 07:44 PM
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Sex without intimacy and passion is boring. Women have squirted with me and others didn't. I think emotional connection is far more important. I don't engage in emotionless sex. I don't want a woman to open that gate without desire for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 12:11 PM
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That is like showing you a buffet of rotten to delicious and you can't find one thing to eat. A man waits months, years without a buffet. Then offered garbage, they eat it. They are literally sex starved. Women do not have to be. They many times choose to starve themselves. Many men are not choosing. That is how you get incels.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 12:04 PM
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This is good conversation. I mean 20 to 30 of piv. I also prefer to go slower and be more passionate and connect. Really haven't had anyone complain. I think I would like to work on foreplay more. I have had an orgasm without touching my penis or entering the vagina just by giving her oral. Her orgasm is pretty much all I need sometimes. I think porn can have a negative affect. I am trying to see what that is for me. I stopped for a while, but I am single and I don't want to take all day. I feel…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 04:31 AM
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What is the cost of a woman not getting an orgasm? Woman dictate that. Men just try to pay by doing crazier things in the bedroom. My experience tells me that an emotional connection gets women tut o orgasm faster than bedroom tricks.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 04:18 AM
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I enjoy amateur porn with regular looking women. They are confident and into what they do. It is not an image issue to me. It is a mental issue. I don't like the expense porn that is too fake. I like the idea that the situation could happen for real for me. The convoluted porn doesn't work for me as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 04:13 AM
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Lol, right. Porn has been fantasy since it's inception.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 04:04 AM
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Yes they do. They also know there are freaks out there. Guys just want that freak they can fall in love with and keep to themselves. Seems unreasonable to me. I would rather take vanilla sex and loyalty over the freaky person who has no control.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 04:02 AM
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I can walk away from it, if I had a supportive partner that I have sexual compatibility with. Women love to stretch thier limits for assholes and hold decent guys to holding pattern. Porn is to me what vibrators are to woman. An efficient, effective tool. That's it. It does not define my sexuality. I see it as fantasy. Most women are vanilla or vanilla for certain guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 03:58 AM
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I am have never, but you sound like you and your husband have a good situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 03:53 AM
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What is death grip? I have been jerking to porn since Brittany Spears was exposed. Multiple times a day. I get turned on like a light switch if the wind blows right and have no problems finishing in 20 to 30 minutes when I am with someone. I will say porn has skewed my perception of what good sex is. I have to scale back or risk losing respect. Guys are on the hook to perform or thier girl just looks other places to get satisfied. As a guy, the womans satisfaction is paramount, because I know I …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 03:47 AM
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I feel like this. I make ok money, and I am relatively fit. I am not going to go after angry post wall cat ladies. I would rather keep my money and enjoy a peaceful life.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 02:08 AM
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I have never experienced that. Given that, I would never look at other people. I prefer actual intimacy, in substitute, I would easily take that. I haven't looked at screen babes in 4 months. It has been an adjustment, but I am fine. Lol. I have probably been looking at it n different forms for 30 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 05:57 PM
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No lol, it just sounded dreadful to me. Emergencies happen. I understand that. I am talking normal course of average life.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 05:13 PM
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Lol, I have control. That being said, I would want it more than once every two months or more. I wouldn't mind a 3-4 times a week. Part of passion is letting go. Are you thinking that letting go once every two the three months is a lot?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 11:24 AM
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Absolutely not alone. I went three years in a marriage without sex. I was rejected many times. I began to feel like I was a stranger in a bar to her. I think she would have treated the stranger bettet.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 01:59 AM
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You lost me at "withheld ". If they wanted it and held it back from thier guy on purpose, that sounds terrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 01:56 AM
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Those babes are nothing when that screen is off. Merely a tool to get a job done. As a man, I would always prefer the experience of being with a woman over alone time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 01:52 AM
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I have never had these problems. I was an every day guy since 1987. It affected my sex life, because I kept trying porn stuff on my partner. Reality is that people are on different levels. Communication would have helped. None of the other things thankfully.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 01:50 AM
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I must be different. I take care of myself using my imagination. Stopped looking at porn a while ago. I will say I have put more focus on my goals without thinking about when I will go again. I feel like I am good as ever minus the porn. I guess there is a third scenario to consider celibacy without porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 01:46 AM
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I was chatting with a nice woman. She earned quite a bit more than me and has a big house. She mentioned how she wanted someone who would be more traditional. She talked about trips and drinking expensive wine. Scared the crap out of me. I know all my money would be going to living expenses. I also pay 1/4 of my net pay to taxable permanent alimony. It really puts a crunch on my life. 😂🏦 I don't think the salary is the qualifier for me. I would like a minimalist that wants to build and share the…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 01:28 AM
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I have not been asked by a women. I also have never asked a women. Sometimes it's best not to ask. I mentioned my points, because that is where a lot of red pill comes from. It is not judgement of the person. It is really just looking at who might be the most probable person to commit and stick through a relationship. These are opinions for the most. I think the greatest issue red pill has is related to the legal system, which at this time does not favor a lot of men. That does not insinuate it …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 12:30 AM
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I have not discussed body count with a partner. I haven't even worried too much about it. The discussion happens a lot. I try listen to both sides. In the end, my experience has been that emotional connection means more than physical attributes. Both are a factor though. Body count has been a non factor for me. I have learned to not ask about past partners. It didn't bring any value.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 09:44 PM
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Those are good points.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 09:39 PM
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I am older, body count is less important to me. I would prefer someone with the same sexual chemistry, but it seems like a pipe dream at my age. Good thing I have good discipline. Divorce leaves a mark. I am a Christian, but I haven't been to church in a while. I am not really looking. I tried OLD, that did not work. I am fine now. Home situation isn't conducive to a relationship. I am just working on improving my character and focus. I believe one day, I will meet her and I will be ready. It is…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 09:38 PM
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I get your point. Does having sex daily with one partner for years the same as one new partner a week for the same time? I think the emotional connection brings more value to that sex with one partner. Not really sure about the as effects of multiple partners other than the one that shows a higher divorce rate among promiscuous people. I do know a lot of men want women who have less partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 09:29 PM
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I think there is a good balance and chemistry involved in frequency. In the past I ignored sexual chemistry. I focused more on emotional connection. I thought that would carryover to sexual chemistry? I have gone through the sexual Sahara multiple times. It's no fun. I am not really even sure how to gauge sexual chemistry. I have had plenty of good sex. I have not had a partner that would openly communicate about it. That makes it a challenge. I don't mind it, but it can have mixed results. One …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 09:20 PM
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Nothing is 100%. It is probabilistic. Everyone gets a preference. It matters to varying degrees depending on the person. The ghost isn't just that person. The partner can also have doubts and wonder if the past partners were better.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 08:57 PM
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I think just means they more you do something, the less exciting it gets. Some people don't lose the excitement, some do. It seems more like high body count is more of an odds based issue. There are no absolutes, but higher body counts statistically lead to more divorce. That was a promiscuity study. I guess more studies will be done. In the meantime. I will have my preference, not a hard dealbreaker. I am at 5, but I had a 25 year marriage. That affects it. I would like someone between 5 to 10.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 08:53 PM
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I hope that lasts forever for you. I am not depressed, just realistic about how things are. I haven't met someone compatible yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 08:47 PM
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That rarely lasts, but I guess I am just another dummy. If everything was great and people were doing great, we wouldn't talk about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 08:43 PM
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If you ride bikes too much, it stops being enjoyable.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 08:41 PM
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I think people are delusional about the affects of body count, because they don't want to be accountable when thier emotional circuits are fried. Look at long term sex workers. It is not a far stretch to make an obvious link. Who cares though? Nobody.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 08:40 PM
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Yeah, because divorce rates are low and it's easy to find someone you are sexually compatible with. 🤔 I should have thought of that. Thanks you cleared that right up. I am sure some would dismiss the science. It does not bode well for many people. So you just call it something and poof it is nothing now? Lol They have a study and you have contempt. I am going with the study.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 08:30 PM
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Oxytocin deficiency is a thing. People can ignore it, but it will affect them. People get addicted to good sex.When it's gone, and they try to make it work with a person that performs at a lower level the ghost of sex past appears. Body count matters, because chances are the higher the number, the greater the number of previous partners they will want back when they don't get it from the latest one.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 08:12 PM
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That is not true. Some people do and some don't. I would care if I wanted a relationship. I wouldn't care if it is casual.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 08:04 PM
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Do you have any idea how many men are sexually abused that never sees the light of day. Prison abuse is not included in statistics. If it were, there would be a different story to tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 05:34 PM
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That is a huge generalization of mgtow. Apathy is the main theme I hear and see from listening to many channels. They do point out true stories that reinforce thier point. I have not heard one mgtow person say they hate anyone in a video. I would say I went my own way peacefully and with apathy toward women and the society that does not appreciate or care about my issues. I agree some men need to truly walk away from women. To get peace and stability in thier life. Realize women are nothing to t…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 05:32 PM
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By the time those flabby men get it in gear, they won't want the women that don't want them today.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 10:58 PM
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I think many women used to date close to their attractiveness level. Social media and OLD has deluded many women. They are a 4 or 5. The guy is a 9 or 10. She sleeps with him and does things for him she doesn't do for men close to her level. He just expects it, and he gets it over and over. When she is tired of trying, here comes the rant about all men being bad. Rinse and repeat. I have no sympathy for these people. They decided wrong, "here's your cat", (Engvall tone).
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 06:22 PM
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Nobody can come close to judging all men or all women. Most info is anecdotal. Your cross section of interactions with men is hardly "many". If you are only choosing hot guys, you get what you get. I am curious what ugly is to you? I thought women were not supposed to be shallow? Ugly for me, is related more to behavior and character. Looks matter, but not as much as character.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 11:12 PM
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Emphasize cold. I prefer a warm approach. Kind, considerate, and some humor. If I can't have a ten minute conversation, I wouldn't ask or want the number.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 04:18 PM
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When your standards in men are higher based on your own self worth or biased family and friends instead of the standards of the men you want, you get used.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 01:07 PM
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How much do you place accountability of the woman making a bad choice(s)? Quite a few make decisions rooted in emotion versus reason. They will pick a hot narcissistic man, then claim all men are bad. I would like to see woman start saying "The men I am choosing are bad."
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 12:46 PM
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I average 20 to 30 minutes. When there is mutual attraction, it can be great. I realize I don't do the pregame well. That is probably where you are setting up some great sex. The difficult part is finding a communicative, patient partner that wants to help you grow. I think the root of boring sex comes from bad expectations. Porn can mess up a guy. Experience is the best teacher. A lack of desire on bvb the ladies part makes it boring for me as well. I want someone who can have sex with thier ey…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 02:07 AM
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Very true for me. I do not put SOs on a grading scale. I accept their good and bad. I don't look over the fence when I have a great woman by my side. I have been lucky, women I have been in relationships with have treated me fairly. I really don't know if they were comparing me to other men.I think they graded the version of me when me to the version I am after a few months.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 01:56 AM
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I think a man could have a lot of sex and shame women, if he is having sex with married women and girlfriends. That would be where both could apply. I could see him having no issue with a single woman riding the cc. I could see a man who is traditional being disgusted with high count no matter the gender. I could also see men who can't get sex being frustrated that they are being left out and shaming women for chasing men just for sex when the frustrated guy wants sex and a possible relationship…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 01:28 AM
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That make me feel helpless.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 06:56 PM
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Emasculation until we are nothing? What is the end game?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 04:13 PM
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So what is left for men? Scraps? Is what you want? Women simply don't date down to average men. What should men do? Bow down and be thankful we are able to eat?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 04:11 PM
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https://youtu.be/Uouxqs8I6Os This guy is discussing why men are walking away. Society will come to a grinding halt when men stop doing the things women don't do.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 03:09 PM
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Here is a video talking about it. https://youtu.be/jPuQ1Wjd2Rk
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 12:42 AM
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Probably more like 99.9999%. Lol She had no real perspective other than seeing him at his worst.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 11:33 PM
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They are talking about OLD specifically. The swipes in particular. There is a Tinder site that let's you see the results of Tinder. It is grim for many men. The 99,1 is just gauging initial interest. It was recently released. It used to be 80/20, then 95/10, now it is 99/1. It sounds crazy, but you can research it. Women match at a high level in large cities. Average women are getting matches at a ratio of 20 to 1 compared to an average guy. It is literally depressing for many men. I have gone 2…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 10:55 PM
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I don't think so. I remember a study mentioned that in 2019 29% of men between 19-29 were virgins. That number doubled in 20 years. I think women were at the same promiscuity rate or a little higher. Less men are having sex today than 20 years ago. This trend where men have gone sexless started when Tinder and other OLD became popular. I will have to find the study. The point is clear. Many men are going without sex and relationships. Many would like both. Women's standards have skyrocketed sinc…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 10:36 PM
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Those numbers are swiping right percentages, not hooking up. Apparently 20% of women are a higher rate of promiscuity. I would say of that group, 90% want chad, maybe 99%. Chad gets to choose. What's that telling you? The bottom end of men as are largely ignored in person and online. It makes sense. When a women just wants a hook up, what is the main characteristic? Personality, looks, penis size, height? I think most guys can guess. The other 80% of women I guess are dreaming of a Chad that com…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 10:28 PM
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I gave no problem with being aware of women's issues. I never said that. I also said many men don't care. Prostate cancer kills more men than breast cancer kills women. Why I don't know? Breat cancer also kills men. I really don't care who gets what attention anymore. I simply suggested you look at the statistics. They are facts. I never said women are not important. I am at a point of apathy for society. You did not mention one statistic, you just rambled on an anecdotal rant assuming I am agai…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 06:11 PM
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I am 5'6". There are good and bad. I think if you take two guys with similar characteristics, a woman might be more inclined to pick a taller man. It is clearly a preference and dealbreaker for many woman. I think height will get you in some doors. Personality will keep you in the room.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 11:24 AM
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Wow, I think we know who is prey to perpetual victimhood. I have looked inward for improvement. I can't and won't control others. What factual evidence is there to back up that claim? I would like to see the scientific study. Read about the how the data was collected. How can a guy leaving people alone be related to that? If anything, it should reduce that. Looking at domestic violence statistics, the rate was dropping. Not sure how COVID affected that. Do the domestic violence stats put all rel…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 10:39 AM
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Lol, I am living pretty good. I am helping family more than I ever did, and building something. I am in my zone.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 09:33 AM
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Divorce statistics, suicide statistics cancer awareness, promiscuity statistics, statistics for shelters, statistics for prison population and sentencing, homeless population. Those as are facts that show it. Men are at the bottom of the societal ladder. That doesn't include the anecdotal evidence on social media of different women constantly showing how they use men. Many women are very offensive and accusatory in nature in social media. Most social media that men do is defensive or reactionary…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 09:04 AM
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You are probably right. Bad example. My point was more that bad behavior generally gets more attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 08:54 AM
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Kind of like the Cave. Men spend much of thier life looking at the shadows on a wall. Red pill takes you past the wall, and let's you see what is really happening. Let's you decide to take the blue pill and believe everything you have been told since birth. Take the red pill, and realize that men get used a lot. Putting knowledge to practice can be difficult. It creates a bias in people who take the red pill. Some people do get a red pill rage. They feel like they were cheated in life. I know I …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 08:51 AM
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Is it working? 😂👍
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 02:45 AM
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Who got more attention?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 01:39 AM
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Part of my reason for being here is to help me grow more. Hopefully recognize that incompatibility before getting into a relationship or in less time. I had a hard time. I opened up a lot to her. Trusting someone is going to be more difficult. I really don't see how it's going to happen. I would love a partner where the desire and passion are sustained.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 01:38 AM
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That appears to be a modern take. It has risks. People used to get married for it. In the past, I would be opposed. I think it is better to establish a connection before sex. The root of jealousy is insecurity. So I don't think you mitigate. Jealousy is also a very normal human defense. When it gets irrational, I think that is what I would want to curb. I am for establishing sexual attraction and chemistry beforehand to prevent dealing with incompatibility after feelings are involved. The balanc…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 01:32 AM
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She did at first. Actually at the beginning, the desire and passion was intoxicating. In retrospect, I should have taken it slower. We had a great bond. Life happens. We both gained weight. It affected us as well. She got sick. I always felt desire for her. Looks didn't matter to me. I just loved being in the same space as her. I think the weight gain and being sick made her push farther. There are other factors as well, desire was one if them. You ccx an gave a great start. How you keep the pas…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 01:18 AM
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It is a praxology. There is only information that is used to make a choice. No directive or moral imperatives.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 01:09 AM
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It's a praxology.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 01:02 AM
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Lol, I certainly will, because I stopped caring about society when it stopped caring about me. I do wish you and your partner happiness. 👍🖖
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 12:55 AM
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Lol, I am going fishing. Have Chad and Tyrones kid. I don't mind. Really I don't mind lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 12:38 AM
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Don't want to, is more like it. I have more time and money as a single man than I ever did in relationships. I am not saying a relationship is awful, but it would take me a while to trust someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 12:36 AM
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Men are leaving society behind. Society needs men, not the other way around.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 12:34 AM
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Go fishing. Go camping. Find a hobby. Ignore women when they do want you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 12:31 AM
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Once you realize dating is an option, it doesn't matter how tall you are, your salary, your age. All of a sudden, you are free to be yourself and do thingz you like. Some younger guys feel pressure to date. They are missing out by not living for themselves. Do you think the majority women truly care about men? I don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 12:29 AM
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Red pill rage is merely a phase. At some point, there should be peace knowing you now have a choice. MGTOW is a peaceful choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 12:23 AM
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To me, it starts with putting a woman on a pedestal before you even know her. Basically a people pleaser with no concrete goals other than having a SO. You live to please her. SIMPS can't make a decision. I have done these things. I can attest that I was genuinely nice. I wanted it to work. I tried to fix problems in her life. Everything a guy shouldn't do. In the end I broke it off, but she had no desire. It also broke my heart. It took me a year to get into a good place. I can't and won't do t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 11:54 PM
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I think she knew? I will have to revisit the story. Better example Ted Bundy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 10:51 PM
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It is pretty common for the worst of us to get the attention. Look at Tonya Harding. That is a name we shouldn't know. Who knows her victim's name? Probably relatively few?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 07:06 PM
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My original thought was red pill is about be aware of what can happen in a LTR and marriage. I tend forget how MGTOW blends into red pill. I had a good relationship. We shared bills evenly. We were great. She had quite a few previous partners. My experience says, I can have a good relationship, if I spend more time learning who the person is on a deeper level. Red pill says women have innate drive to leave for greener pastures. I didn't experience that. I left, not them. I might be an anomaly? T…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 01:17 AM
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I prefer a woman with less experience that values herself, and has a similar standard for the man she wants. There is a right way for each person. Can you agree to the standards your partner has for you? When I think of standards in relationships, I see 4 sets. A standard that each person holds themselves to, and a standard for the person they want. Those standards can be broken into two subsections (expectations/dealbreakers and preferences) for each set. The standards have to be agreeable to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 12:54 AM
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Would you say they are mvps at playing the game? How did they get that way? They were not born that way. They were conditioned by many partners. Do you think your experience was unique or did they use an MO? Do they even see the differences in the women they are with? I wouldn't know, but these are things I would find interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 12:23 AM
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The definition of domestic violence varies and is interpreted differently in different states. Some states require someone gets arrested when thier is a domestic abuse call. Even if nobody is hurt. There are cases where a spouse will lie or twist the truth to get the other one arrested. The definition of hypergamy insinuates moving up. Being single is better than getting beat. In a way, that would be. It is far fetched to think that many divorces are related to violence. I think it is implied th…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 03:13 PM
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