redsprinklersystem Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
9	Setting a boundary that I'd struggle to reinforce or justify.		redsprinklersystem	/r/askMRP	27/04/17 08:13 AM
2	Sperg recovery?		redsprinklersystem	/r/askMRP	18/09/17 06:41 PM

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6	[Guide] Home Improvement - Staying Busy Couldn't agree more. Almost 20 years of constant remodelling, decorating and landscaping and I just got nagged about the stuff that wasn't done yet and shit like getting paint on my (old) clothes. Just one year of lifting and DNGAF though, and I was asked to 'use the tradesmens entrance' by the wanton slut that was her new split personality. Sure, fix shit when it needs to be fixed. Redecorate every few years to keep it a nice place to live. Unless you're in property development though, home imp…	/r/MarriedRedPill	06/08/18 04:40 PM
4	Finally got a confession of her past, Specifically who she slept with. A real piece of work. Exactly, and if he's being this much of a pussy-ass bitch about 'fat Chad' she very likely won't reveal much uncomfortable truth in future either....	/r/askMRP	31/07/18 12:17 PM
1	How to express conservative clothing boundary? Only 17"? Need more curls, bro!	/r/askMRP	29/07/18 10:11 PM
1	Parking tickets need validation That was a massive 'holy fuck' moment for me. She had been literally asking me to OYS and lead the WHOLE TIME and I was just too stupid a dumb fat fuck to hear it. That was a big old gulp of redbull to wash down the red pill.	/r/askMRP	27/07/18 10:59 PM
1	Modern Events – Men’s Sperm Count Article Ok. Hope ypu got that sorted. I'm tempted to go to the gp claiming lethargy and slow recovery from DOMS but suspect that even if I can talk them into a test I'll just come up normal range. Very tempted to run a cycle or two to see what it can do for gains, but too pussy/sensible to go black market.	/r/MarriedRedPill	27/07/18 10:39 PM
3	Modern Events – Men’s Sperm Count Article Like a prostate exam with a hand on each shoulder to hold you steady? Seriously though, your GP gave you a T test on the NHS because you told them you were lethargic in training? Jokes aside, I thought they reserved that sort of thing for those with obvious issues (or an unwanted vagina and penis envy).	/r/MarriedRedPill	27/07/18 04:11 PM
1	Modern Events – Men’s Sperm Count Article I'm going to try that. I assumed that under the NHS I would need to have a distinct lack of facial/body hair and a squeaky voice before they would even run a test?!	/r/MarriedRedPill	27/07/18 12:14 PM
1	What is your mission? Thank you for that link. I've saved it because it's the best description I've seen so far of the quandry I find in defining my mission. The only thing I have found to be true is that happiness and fulfilment are tied to working toward and achieving goals. I fell in love with lifting because it embodies this so simply and perfectly: Set a goal, work toward it in increments, deal with any setbacks. If only the rest of life was so.... linear.	/r/askMRP	26/07/18 12:32 PM
1	Is this as good as it gets with her? It's surely a very introspective thing. Very much YMMV. All I can offer are some questions to lead the thought process: What is it you want that she isn't delivering? Is it me? (SMV high enough / leadership issue) Could I get that thing from a different woman?	/r/askMRP	25/07/18 12:20 PM
8	“On the fence” - one month update Why do you use "NSFW" instead of 'sex' or 'fuck'.	/r/askMRP	23/07/18 04:31 PM
2	Driving the train - thoughts? Lol @ Charlie Brown's teacher	/r/askMRP	22/07/18 08:57 PM
13	Wife still wants to see friend who's in love with her Whole OP in one sentence. Goes to show the rest is just hamster.....	/r/askMRP	22/07/18 08:53 PM
6	Anti-Slut Defense and Boundaries Shameful to admit, but after a botched drunk attempt in the early days when I hurt her, it was a strict no-go-zone for over 15 years though it was known I wanted to. Oddly enough, a year or so after finding MRP. Bodyfat got low enough that I had some vascularity going to complement a healthy dose of IDGAF: guess who chimes up with "I want you to fuck my ass" out of the blue one night during PIV.... Keep at it (read / lift / OYS). She knows you want it and will give it up when she thinks you're w…	/r/askMRP	19/07/18 09:45 PM
9	Striking a balance between STFU and standing your ground? When you engage, you end up fucking? Look up 'emotional rollercoaster'. You're not providing the feelz so she manufactures her own. You know how kids are known to 'act up' for attention, good or bad doesn't matter since its all attention......	/r/askMRP	19/07/18 12:15 PM
5	When to apologize? Exactly. Acknowledgment that you fucked up (implying that you can, and will improve) is fine. Apology is only ever necessary or beneficial if you deliberately acted to the detriment of a person and regret it. Being more mindful, controlled and congruent eliminates almost all situations that would require apology later.	/r/askMRP	18/07/18 12:15 PM
2	Do you game your wife when she's on her period? Beats me why people get so squamish about it. Its not real blood like you're cutting her open and fucking the wound.	/r/askMRP	13/07/18 03:49 PM
1	Boundaries. Rambo. Comfort. DNGAF I planned my whole wedding. Everything. The difference was that we had LTR'd for 8 years already, joined ownership of our house etc. She got pregnant by accident (no question on being mine, or accident - pill fucked up because gastro). Marriage was a formality we didn't need until then, but I basically shotgunned us both for my unquestioned parental rights. I don't know what the fuck OP is playing at. A fancy wedding that neither of them apparently want, to a bitch who doesn't give a fuck about …	/r/askMRP	13/07/18 12:42 PM
2	Are there women out there who won't ever disrespect you? As has been pointed out, its not a boundary without consequence. I've been there, when the only consequence you can think of is to nuke the relationship. You know how there are literally endless ways to improve or enjoy your life, right? When she starts her shit you just say: "I don't know who the fuck you're talking to that way, but it's definitely not me". Then you walk away and do one of those things. She'll get the message and either stop the insults or drive you away often enough that one o…	/r/askMRP	11/07/18 10:14 PM
1	Are there women out there who won't ever disrespect you? In 20 years or so, of ups and downs, my wife and I have said pretty much everything to eacbother at some point. Context matters. You say this is one sided, how frequent is it? Women talk, men do. She should be the one wanting & chasing the conversations. Shitty attitude = see ya. Do you know what a boundary is?	/r/askMRP	11/07/18 04:57 PM
1	Will sex increase once I become more successful? Get your €2000 changed into €5's and throw them at her one at a time, like a stripper.	/r/MarriedRedPill	10/07/18 04:49 PM
1	Constant fighting over where to eat. None of us have power over women. We learn that we have (and how to exercise) power over ourselves. You have the power to choose where and what you eat. You have the power to lift and exercise. Now think about why you're fat. EDIT: Typos	/r/MarriedRedPill	10/07/18 04:46 PM
5	Constant fighting over where to eat. Am I the only one smelling TROLL in this shitshow of a textbook example??	/r/MarriedRedPill	10/07/18 12:18 PM
8	Why is MRP called RP on Hard Mode? Hey, eye of the beholder and all that. Maybe he likes 'em around 250 with wonky teeth and an overgrown bush! It would still be a 10 to him!	/r/askMRP	06/07/18 07:17 AM
3	Had a Tinder date and now I realize what I'm missing in my life She had to fuck another dude just to confirm that she's a prudish bitch. How long until she decides that she may be a pegging dominatrix and makes OP bend over and bite the pillow - just to try it.....	/r/askMRP	03/07/18 07:10 PM
12	Had a Tinder date and now I realize what I'm missing in my life Not married and no kids? You gave your own metaphor for your life, being your house. You've put a lot of work into it over a long period, so you're reluctant to let it go. Now you know there are houses in a better location with low property taxes and huge potential. Sell the house and go find your new mansion. Probably best to rent a few places first to decide what you really like and whether you want to commit to buying again. Don't forget to keep working on your DIY skills.	/r/askMRP	03/07/18 11:57 AM
2	Anyone else take their wife’s virginity? I don't think that a woman would normally step out just for variety. One that would, would have done so already. I know the temptation, and its probably stronger for us because of how we're wired. Personally though I wouldn't stand for it from her so I wouldn't do it myself. (Developing options is necessary. Exercising them is a personal choice, but crosses a big line for me) Own your shit, be your best possible self and don't worry about it.	/r/askMRP	30/06/18 08:33 AM
2	Main event or just the end? 4 month in? Not enough time spent or work done. The answer is the same as always. You are just lucky enough tohave a wife (like mine in this regard) who cares enough for you and is willing and able to communicate overtly and honestly. Do the work and evaluate yourself critically and honestly. When you get to the point that younger/hotter pussy is readily available, either your wife will be fucking you right or you decide between obligation sex for the rest of your life or NEXT. Anything that isn…	/r/askMRP	29/06/18 12:32 PM
2	Thank you all! Get your diet in check, man. I fucked that up down the line and learned the hard way. I started at over 280 and lost 40+ but felt like shit as I neglected fats and just concentrated of calories and protein. I stopped counting my food for just over a year and though I was still lifting 4x per week with good progress, doing more cardio etc; just eyeballing food normally and a couple of 'fuck it' cheat days a month gained back more than half of the weight (only a couple lbs of that 20+ regained may…	/r/MarriedRedPill	28/06/18 12:39 PM
9	[FR] Unplugging a Friend Did you ever see Nanny McPhee? "If you need me but do not want me, then I must stay. If you want me but do not need me, then I must go" Redpill works when we find it because we need it. You red-knighted your friend and the only reason I picked from your post is that he's fat and badly dressed. I remember thinking that I wanted to share this amazing revelation to help my brothers. WRONG. If you don't need it enough to find it, you'll never accept it. I hope this doesn't backfire on you.....	/r/askMRP	28/06/18 07:18 AM
3	How to avoid rambo? Anyone spoon-feeding you here is doing you a diservice. Sidebar and search function. You'll find many other gems among all the shit you read to find what you're looking for.	/r/askMRP	27/06/18 04:47 PM
2	How to avoid rambo? Do some more reading here about the concept of Rambo. In the situations you describe, ask yourself: "Did I do/say/refuse that because I'm pissed at her for acting the cunt, or was it because thats how things should be?" You already showed that you have fucked up STFU by literally going mute, hence her calling you brainless etc. Read up on that too. Keep one ear open to the shit she spews. I found that its useful feedback on where I was failing to OMS. Say nothing about it though, just give some …	/r/askMRP	27/06/18 12:34 PM
1	Need opinions on how to be a busy man while working shifts Very succinctly put. OP planned to install covert contracts up the ass for something so simple. u/hack3ge 's life sounds stressful as fuck to me, but more power to him. I prefer to keep things much less scheduled. It all comes down to the same thing though You do what you need to get done (OYS), then with the remaining hours in the day you do what you want to get done (hobbies etc). As far as I'm concerned kids and lifting count as both.	/r/askMRP	21/05/18 12:20 PM
2	Game Theory Got it. In the timeframe of about 2015-2017 thats absolutely spot on. Before that I was in blissful bluepill ignorance with a (lucky find) great woman. Can't help but wonder sometimes how things would be if I realised this stuff 15-20 years ago though.....	/r/MarriedRedPill	18/05/18 03:47 PM
2	Game Theory ?? Link to private, invite only sub. Care to elaborate?	/r/MarriedRedPill	18/05/18 12:08 PM
2	How did you talk to your son about sex? My daughter was about 6 or 7 and came out with the straightforward questions. She got the straightforward answers very similar to what u/youscum describes with the mechanics/biology and a note that there are a lot of complicated feelings that are difficult to understand so thats why its not for kids and we can talk again when she's older or has more questions. My son on the other hand, he's 8 now and has never really asked. My wife wLked in on him stroking it to those teen cuties on Nickelodeon …	/r/askMRP	17/05/18 04:44 PM
10	Game Theory This struck a real chord with me, because its exactly what brought me here. I was literally in the disney dream - shacked up, married and procreated with my first love. It worked great for almost 15 years until my paradigm began to crumble. I love the bones of the woman, I'm not ashamed to admit it. Making her happy made me happy and all was well, until it wasn't. I think we just fell into that rut. The kids were around 6 and 9 y/o and nothing new was happening (avoiding being boring is the cent…	/r/MarriedRedPill	17/05/18 12:25 PM
1	Everything is about sex. Except sex. Sex is about power. This 'power' concept seems to sum things up quite neatly, though it could be interchangeable with 'value' in some respects. If women see sex as sharing or merging of power, she'll go for it with gusto for a net gain from a high value man while refusing or begrudgingly giving starfish to maintain status quo when she's holding yours already.	/r/MarriedRedPill	02/05/18 08:12 PM
1	dealing with severe pms Bingo, bitch. So why give a fuck about her tantrums?	/r/askMRP	01/05/18 11:12 PM
1	dealing with severe pms She isn't dying. I tried rationalising once, back in the blue days; "You've had periods for almost 20 year's , shouldn't you be able to handle it by now?" Didn't go down too well.... Ninja edit - stubby fingers on phone	/r/askMRP	01/05/18 11:11 PM
3	dealing with severe pms Stop being such a fucking bitch. Follow that advice yourself, then tell it to her. Mine has been letting fly with the lunar cunt routine since she came off the pill a few months ago. You know what I do when I notice it flare up? With all of the smarmy mock sympathy I can muster, I place a supportive hand on her shoulder, look deep into her eyes and say "It's OK honey, I understand". She then rants about "You're a bastard man, you understand fuck all blah blah blah..." Then I laugh in her face, g…	/r/askMRP	01/05/18 11:06 PM
2	A fun little game... She must have a fucking huge boredom threshold. I was tired of it by the third example. You know there are better 'games' to spend your time & effort on, like LIFT or MAP?	/r/MarriedRedPill	30/04/18 06:45 PM
2	Properly Shutting the Fuck Up I think most of this comes from pretenders who haven't read the pre-requisites, let alone the rest of the sidebar. Than again, there is progression in STFU practice for all beginner merps. First don't wrestle the pig, later learn to direct it where you want. "OK" or silence. Silence is real fucking sperg, but it works on the principle of 'better to keep your mouth closed and allow yourself to be thought a fool than to open it and remove all doubt'. OK can be employed at many levels with the appr…	/r/askMRP	26/04/18 08:28 PM
1	Social Influence and Defying Context I'm the same, introverted and see the benefits of cold openers being matched or outweighed by the fact that it can be just weird. I'm aspie as fuck in this regard, but resolved to keep myself open to approaches, and to take the low hanging fruit. Most of the time this results in nothing at all, or a bunch of non-starter "Hi, hows it going?" exchanges. Occasionally though, someone has something interesting to say or approaches me without begging for change or trying to sell me something. Baby ste…	/r/MarriedRedPill	04/04/18 06:03 AM
-1	Grip Training Don't use bitch straps for deadlift. I decided early that I wanted all my lifts raw. (I do use chalk to prevent slip). My current deadlift total is 3750kg (8267lbs) per session for 5x5 ranging from 110 to 190kg. Double overhand for the first set or 2 then mixed grip.	/r/MarriedRedPill	03/04/18 05:28 PM
1	Not owning my shit Eventually she becomes more like a smoke detector. Sometimes she goes off when a fire gets started. Sometimes she goes off when you're frying bacon. Analogy of the year right here.	/r/askMRP	12/02/18 10:09 AM
1	How to handle negative family members? How many interviews have you been on in this last exact month? Depending on many variables, jobs can be hard to come by in the UK. Well, DECENT jobs can be. Shite minimum wages and zero hour contracts are available EVERYWHERE. Why haven't you been flipping burgers in McDonald's or stacking the shelves at Tesco to pay your way until you find something better. Ever think that your grandparents may have a point?	/r/askTRP	05/01/18 04:50 PM
2	Wife crying on NYE. I know what I have done wrong. Just chiming in on the vaping. Not really sure why people rag on it. If it's a replacement for smoking tobacco, thats waaaay the fuck down on the fix list. I switched over about 3 years ago, still vaping but reaped a shitload of health benefit from changing over. Yes, its an undesirable habit and nicotine remains a stress relief crutch of sorts, but its pretty much harmless to majority of current research and I find it helps a fuckton as a zero calorie sweetness hit while I cut. That is all. Res…	/r/askMRP	01/01/18 05:47 PM
3	Be the Judge It's a shame that the OP expanded past the first couple of paragraphs. Taken on face-value it's a fucking beautiful analogy to demonstrate the concept of proper STFU for a noob.	/r/MarriedRedPill	21/12/17 04:57 PM
2	Anyone had a chance to read her diary of her time before you? Wow that sounds pretty fucked up. I'm guessing (hoping for you) that its a cathartic thing for her, to write all that nasty shit down in order to get it out and move on? Otherwise she really is batshit and thats just a record of it. Is it clear from her behaviour otherwise which?	/r/askMRP	08/12/17 08:24 AM
3	Anyone had a chance to read her diary of her time before you? What a fucking shocker! Are you trying to tell us that teenage girls are actually bitchy to eachother, and more interested in sexy boys than the league standings of their volleyball team?! You should get to work immediately and transcribe the juicy passages of this insightful tome for your rp brothers to share this amazing first-person insight to the female psyche.... Do you remember what DGAF means? Waste no more time on that fucking mental quicksand. I guarantee that there is something more pr…	/r/askMRP	07/12/17 09:33 PM
2	The most bluntly stated overt dread statement ever, and it worked. Worth trying again? I've been with my wife almost 20 years too, and we've actually discussed that ebb and flow of attraction (pre RP). We were both unaware of the contributing factors on the whole, but while she is still happy to just ride on the current emotions through the peaks and valleys, I wanted to figure out what was happening. I don't think we can ever really control it, but having the first fucking clue what's going on and therefore the ability to assert at least some influence is about as close as we get…	/r/askMRP	05/12/17 07:12 AM
4	Men and Suicide What about men's purpose being thwarted causes suicide? Was this rhetorical? I can see the link and cause/effect because I was on my way there. I had level infinity oneitis. I still love the very bones of her, but when I found this place I was in pretty bad mental (and physical) shape. I hadn't attempted suicide or even seriously contemplated it, but the thought of it kept popping into my mind and that scared the shit out of me. When you're that blue and completely immersed in her frame all that…	/r/MarriedRedPill	04/12/17 06:47 PM
2	Definition: Rambo. I had to google delta burke, I thought he meant Rue McClanahan (my first gilf wank - before gilf existed).	/r/MarriedRedPill	01/12/17 11:15 PM
1	Non-covert contracts... just contracts... how to handle? Oh deer oh deer. You want some salt & pepper on the venison?	/r/askMRP	30/11/17 07:32 PM
3	Differentiating Between Her "Following the Leader" and "Stroking Your Ego" I agree with your theme, but for a couple of caveats. Acting alpha vs becoming alpha. I think what you're gettingat in the first couple lines relates to the 'mindset shift' I described in a recent comment. We can learn to act alpha very quickly, but we're just a beta faking it til we make it. Actually internalising that shift and becoming alpha, I agree can take a fucking long ass time and a shitload of mental work. I've been at this for 2 years now and feel like I've barely started. Maybe I sho…	/r/MarriedRedPill	30/11/17 05:15 PM
8	Differentiating Between Her "Following the Leader" and "Stroking Your Ego" This ties in very well with the current Alpha / Beta terminology discussion, and also explains the frequent phenomenon of 'noob RP gains'. It also encompasses the requirement for that essential change of mindset. When we initially learn to act alpha, they respond accordingly because its fresh and new and exciting (and biologically wired in). Soon though, they see it (I think) as their formerly well trained beta 'acting up', which is essentially correct. Our following the script without that mind…	/r/MarriedRedPill	29/11/17 01:25 PM
1	The shit tests have started Realise that you could have had that place as clean as a surgical theatre, but if she feels like being a snarky bitch it still won't be good enough because its not done the way she does it. Continue to own your shit, but give waaaay less fucks about her words and feelz.	/r/MarriedRedPill	28/11/17 12:30 AM
3	A "Don't Eat Paint" post What a refreshingly honest and balanced report. Its a perfect example to counter the 'beta = bad' shit that seems to be leaking over from TRP. This gentlemen is the end result of going rambo. I sort of agree with the linked post about good & bad alpha/beta, but as I commented on 88will88's post, I find it easier to think of it simply as Alpha attraction and Beta comfort (with Omega unattractive shit to eliminate). We can get so carried away with increasing the alpha attractive traits (because th…	/r/MarriedRedPill	28/11/17 12:23 AM
1	Owning Your Desires Without Negotiating Hers Yes, but I'm curious what the trigger was that changed things. Did something happen to bring them on, or was she just burying that shit when she felt the desire/need to fuck you good?	/r/MarriedRedPill	27/11/17 11:27 PM
1	Destroying the “mixing some beta with your alpha” fallacy Could you define alpha comfort vs beta comfort? I clearly take alpha comfort to be something of a paradox, or an interpretation of what I would think of as 'the right amount of beta'. There is of course a world of debatable nuance, but I think a more universally understood definition of what is probably the 'core' of RP terminology would let us all better compare our experiences and strategy effectiveness.	/r/MarriedRedPill	27/11/17 10:09 PM
2	Date night stinks Excellent job. Calm decisive action in the face of a 'crisis' with clear instructions for the FO to assist effectively, and holding frame like a fucking champ throughout. It's our job to play the 'rescuer' of fuckup situations as they come up, but to make a future 'funny memory' out of what would have been just another pain in the ass occurrence shows a leader whose skills have been honed to a high degree.	/r/MarriedRedPill	27/11/17 09:56 PM
2	Owning Your Desires Without Negotiating Hers Not to deny her trauma (that shit must be a real mindfuck) but how come you say "get back to what it was like before the panic attacks and flashbacks started". Was she being a good slut just to lock you down (and now has a good excuse to deny you) or did something else trigger her to bring this up? EDIT: Oh and the masturbation = cheating thing is totally fucked. If she doesn't want to drain your balls and presumably doesn't want another woman to do it, then what the fuck does she expect?	/r/MarriedRedPill	27/11/17 09:27 PM
1	Destroying the “mixing some beta with your alpha” fallacy I really don't see why there is still so much debate over the whole Alpha Beta terminology. Especially among flaired veterans. You talk of comfort being necessary and giving the right level of comfort for a relationship to work, but then espouse that it's somehow 'Alpha comfort' because Beta=Bad. I get that in TRP context that doesn't matter. Beta is useless for plates or ONS's so can be ditched along with Omega shit. As you state, a certain level of comfort is necessary in marriage / LTR, and a…	/r/MarriedRedPill	27/11/17 09:07 PM
1	How much should I be aiming to lift? I am 37 and 5'11". I never lifted until 20 months ago, besides some dumbell curls in my teens. When I started I was very fat (280lbs) but 'stocky' build - ie if I wasnt really fat I would have still been up toward 190-200lbs. After 6 months on stronglifts I tested my 1rep maxes to see if I could hit the "1000 lbs club" and did it. I've never lifted more than those 1rm's since. I like the 5x5 working range so stuck with that, but progress at my own pace now. Just try to work in an extra rep or tw…	/r/askMRP	24/11/17 09:51 AM
1	fast results, little ones--but wow Fair enough. I'm British and was born in the 80s so it gets pretty confusing. (Everything in the real world was / is imperial but we were only taught metric in school). I lift kg, but weigh myself in lbs (or stones), yet weigh my food in grams. I buy diesel in litres but drive distances in miles at speeds in mph, and check my cars economy in mpg. Unit converter is the most commonly used app on my damn phone!	/r/askMRP	23/10/17 04:46 PM
1	The start of my red pill journey and how subreddits work Fuck. Is that a thing? I was just wondering the other day why I still have such a belly when standing up but 'letting it hang', although my bf is still too high, the belly is solid less than an inch under my flab. Will extra ab work make that better or worse?	/r/MarriedRedPill	23/10/17 02:41 PM
1	fast results, little ones--but wow Yes and no. No because under the metric system there aren't standard 45's so that terminology doesn't apply. Its normal to refer to the total weight. Yes because it is something like my countrys equivalent to PF. Hence the looks when the oldest looking guy in the place pulls 190kg for 5 reps are more shock & awe than 'mirin. Agree with the deadlift sensation though. Squats just feel more like hard work and leave me fucked. Deads get me just as fucked but sort of.... euphoric too.	/r/askMRP	23/10/17 05:55 AM
1	fast results, little ones--but wow I hope you mean on each end of the bar, boy.	/r/askMRP	22/10/17 06:02 PM
1	update: how I do approach this This is what I thought when reading the original post. I declined to comment since I wondered whether my view was coming from my own lack of abundance and debated between this and the waste of his own time in throwing away what he describes as being as close to a unicorn as there is. He was already told though to think it through carefully before bringing it up and that asking the question meant he wasn't ready to handle it. I suspect he may fuck this up and bang a few sluts but ultimately regre…	/r/askMRP	19/10/17 12:22 PM
8	Taking care of your family requires that you take care of yourself first It's always good to cover the basics but this is very much a "Don't eat paint" level of post.	/r/MarriedRedPill	18/10/17 11:25 PM
2	[FR] Be her boyfriend and husband Excellent post. This and the trifecta post mentioned in the comments really brought it home to me. The whole crux of my problems was based around being almost completely husband / dad (beta) -and nowhere near enough boyfriend / lover (alpha). Exactly as is seen from a good share of the other guys here. Just realising that keeping things fresh and exciting is MY job, even if I'm not that good at it yet, being conscious of it and actually trying has turned my life around. I'm still oneitised to fu…	/r/MarriedRedPill	18/10/17 11:06 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 17, 2017 I think I could have certainly fucked it up worse. It was a knife edge whether to quit or plow on, and trying to figure a plan for dealing with the aftermath of quitting lost out to 3 days of being backed up!	/r/MarriedRedPill	18/10/17 06:47 PM
2	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 17, 2017 Overt contract. Butthurt because the sex was shitty. Can negotiate sex, can't negotiate desire. Funny how eventually it always boils down to the basics huh?	/r/MarriedRedPill	18/10/17 04:53 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 17, 2017 Part b of your previous comment nailed it. The overt planning and arranging for it killed any hint of spontaneity. Planned sex is rarely ever good and I should know that by now. I'm quite shocked that we could turn on a dime from the recent mindblowing filthy soak-the-sheets stuff to this though. Just goes to show.... Thanks for the input man, appreciate it.	/r/MarriedRedPill	18/10/17 04:50 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 17, 2017 The change of plan was given due consideration. I've been trying to work on frequency though, so took up the offer. (I usually get back late from gym and successfully waking her to fuck is rarer than rocking horses shit). The cuddling was mostly guilt because the starfish was so bad it began to feel a little rapey. In glorious hindsight though, yup - shoud have gone and lifted. I feel an anger fuelled PR coming tonight...	/r/MarriedRedPill	18/10/17 02:43 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 17, 2017 Hero to zero. I don't think you fuck really give a shit about whatever household repairs I'm currently doing, and yes I'm still aspie with strangers but one event came up last night that I can't tell what the fuck happened. Would appreciate some other perspective to figure it out. For context, things have been going pretty well. Little wins every day, shit tests have been rare but playful/flirtatious when they came. Generally owning my shit. Sex has been fucking AMAZING. Literally, the last coup…	/r/MarriedRedPill	18/10/17 10:35 AM
2	Reminder to get your T-Levels Checked Anyone in the UK have any experience with this? Under the glorious NHS I think you'd have to rock up to your doctor with a voice of mickey mouse and bald from the ears down before they would entertain ideas of low T. There will be private clinics but that shit is EXPENSIVE. I did wonder whether I could be a 'low end of normal' guy after reading many comments here, and I considered juicing for a while since I'd love to get really jacked. I'm fucking terrified that I'd screw up and wind up literal…	/r/askMRP	12/10/17 07:46 PM
5	The "Dancing Monkey" Attraction Improvement Programme I mentioned a while back that we need to take pride in out little daily 'wins'. To use the usual captain analogy; we won't all build ocean liners or superyachts, but knocking together a basic raft with a trashbag sail and having an idea of general direction raises us way above the oceans of fucking flotsam thats just bobbing around with the hope of washing up somewhere. There is no end to building up our vessel and evaluating & plotting our course, but the simple fact that we are conscious of ou…	/r/MarriedRedPill	12/10/17 07:59 AM
1	Male Control If the laws in Oz are like those of the UK, its a necessity to have such a caveat to avoid discrimination suits. I recall news stories of mens clubs that were literally centuries old (golf clubs, gentlemens clubs etc) being legally forced to admit women in at least a reduced form because some fempowered bitch or other kicks up a stink. Funny (strnage, not haha) that this shit doesn't tend to work the other way though. Almost every community swimming pool in the UK has a weekly women only session…	/r/MarriedRedPill	11/10/17 12:47 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 10, 2017 Overview: A few small wins, but failed in my main goal of increased social action. Body Switched up some sets to bring me closer to my (arbitrary) goal lifts as planned. Feels great to be getting close. So pumped to be ripped & shredded in a few months time I'm looking forward to, and planning meal options for my cut. Bodyweight goal: 220lbs & evaluate then if further cutting required. (Sticking at 248-250 for now) Lifting goal: 5rm's as peak of 5x5 ascending sets - in kg; SQ 160 (currently 110-…	/r/MarriedRedPill	11/10/17 12:07 AM
1	FR: Abundance I cannot speak with experience, since I don't believe that I yet 'have' abundance, but it certainly sounds like the beginning of it to me. It has been commented that you're checking out of your marriage, but I would guess (projecting from myself) that its more a matter of the boundaries keeping you within your marriage are becoming more transparent. You're seeing now that your attention can be focused elsewhere and it may well be to better effect. This could be via more willing and responsive si…	/r/MarriedRedPill	07/10/17 11:00 AM
3	Small Wins: Remember that this is about you, not her Don’t cherry pick parts of the sidebar or make a half assed MAP. It’s all important for a reason Good insight. I meant the general shift of focus and deciding for yourself what requires your time and attention, but I am guilty of taking the 'easy gains' (lifting) while ignoring the red areas (social) that are less comfortable to work on, but really need it. Working on that.	/r/MarriedRedPill	05/10/17 03:49 PM
1	I have STFU and lifted for a year. What results? Learning fellatio from a book?? I was inferring that she'd been practising elsewhere. (Shit joke attempt - disregard!)	/r/MarriedRedPill	05/10/17 03:41 PM
2	I have STFU and lifted for a year. What results? Not there yet, so an unsolicited bj that was actually any good and I'd be thinking "When and where the fuck did she learn THIS?!"	/r/MarriedRedPill	05/10/17 12:13 PM
8	Small Wins: Remember that this is about you, not her It has been said many times, but worth repeating that we come here to fix problems with our wives / marriage, but learn to fix ouselves. I've taken things mega slowly but, as you identify here there are many small occurrences when reflecting on them point to things subtly (and sometimes not so subtly) changing for the better. Some guys come here and it seems in a year or so they metamorph from a skinnyfat, deadbedroom burger-flipper to a competitive bodybuilder earning six-digits while railing t…	/r/MarriedRedPill	05/10/17 12:10 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 03, 2017 Thought it was about time I should own my shit here. I've been here (mrp / askmrp) for almost 2 years now. Seen a lot of improvement but very slowly, I'm like the anti-rambo. Maybe logging this shit publically will get things moving at a better pace.. Body Stalled on fat loss because cutting hard holds me back from my lifting goals. Keep on current maintenance kcal until current lift goals are met, then cut as hard as I can while maintaining those lifts. Will jiggle some 5x5 lifts to ascending s…	/r/MarriedRedPill	04/10/17 12:15 AM
1	FR- Mid divorce Can confirm I must be one of the big fat dudes who skewed the numbers. I'm 5'11" and cut from 280lbs to 240lbs during my first 6 months of stronglifts. At 6 months I 1rm'd 1000 (455kg actually, 105 bench, 160 squat, 190 dl). My form was probably horrible, but I did doubles for the SQ & DL just to be sure. A year later and a year wiser (deloads, working on form & volume etc) I currently 5x5 92.5kg bench and 120kg squat. I do ascending 5x5 DL from 110kg to 190kg peak. I'm working on getting those …	/r/askMRP	27/09/17 12:37 PM
1	Texting your wife? Text is great for things like times and dates. We all tend to look at it before sending, and it stays there for the recipient to refer back to later. Logistics, see? Text is fucking shit for subtle shifts in voice tone, innuendo and facial expressions which serve to add spirit to interpersonal communication and build rapport. To my knowledge, the only people adept at communicating all of that good stuff via text are teenage girls. Even then, it takes like 150 texts full of indecipherable abbrevi…	/r/askMRP	26/09/17 11:37 PM
6	If men were made to spread their seed and women were more made for commitment/motherhood how come women seem to have a harder time remaining faithful or will cheat more easily This means the next time you are banging a chick and you make her cry out in orgasm, don't be super proud. She's just calling out for more dick. The most amusing lesson in humility I've ever had. (Actual LOL)	/r/askMRP	26/09/17 10:12 AM
19	If men were made to spread their seed and women were more made for commitment/motherhood how come women seem to have a harder time remaining faithful or will cheat more easily Why does it seem to you that women have a hard time saying no? Is this confirmation bias on your part? Flawed though it may be, the common theme in just about all available stats indicates the exact opposite, that women are far less likely to cheat than men. You say that you understand hypergamy, but you don't seem to grasp that the basis is that dick is cheap, and it's a womans job to refuse all except the best specimens offered. Their natural state is to be declining beta and omega cock. When …	/r/askMRP	26/09/17 07:52 AM
1	Question on hard no's Yeah, I better start swiping my card in ho's asscracks pronto.	/r/askMRP	22/09/17 06:58 PM
1	Question on hard no's This saddens me greatly. Cutting below 2200 screws my recovery and staying there is pretty much maintenance. I'm pretty close to reaching my former 1000lb 1rm's for 5x5 (1x5 peak of ascending sets for DL) so am sticking with the 2200kcal til I get there. I need to shed another 30lb or so though, and living on 1700 or less is going to be a very long and miserable grind...	/r/askMRP	22/09/17 06:57 PM
1	Question on hard no's I love this but wish you'd picked a higher number. I fucking rep 225, so why is my life not like a snoop doggy dog video?!	/r/askMRP	22/09/17 07:36 AM
7	Opinions please, on how to treat her latest threat You can't negotiate desire, but you sure as fuck don't negotiate with terrorists. She's trying to hold your dick to ransom in order to get her way. Depending on how your marriage is and where your SMV / dread is, you shoud either: A) Make it clear that she can only deny you sex WITH HER. Not cut you dry entirely.... Or B) Do everything you know how to get her hot and bothered. All those OYS tasks that can be done shirtless, cook some great meals, work out at home etc. All served with a healthy s…	/r/askMRP	22/09/17 07:22 AM
3	Question on hard no's First, you must realise from reading here that you're not in such a bad position. Many guys here try frequently but don't get their dick wet for literally months (even years!) on end. Your wife is initiating consistently but giving you hard no's when you try...... Sounds to me like a control thing. You get to fuck on her schedule / when she decides to or not at all. My instinct says you need to turn her down when she initiates, but its playing with fire so don't fuck it up. Work on your kino and…	/r/askMRP	21/09/17 07:31 PM
1	How do I start lifting? Its been covered already but I have to concur. Watch the stronglifts videos (and all of the others mentioned) on youtube. You'll learn enough to get by in the main lifts. Also look for things like '10 mistakes to avoid with [whichever] lift' and learn what to avoid. Lifting is the single best thing I ever did for myself. Getting fit and strong is great but remember that its also a metaphor for life. You must constantly challenge yourself in order to grow. When it feels shitty is when you need it…	/r/askMRP	21/09/17 06:11 PM
5	Advice on Maintaining Rule #1 and #2 on devices I never bothered with any secrecy since mine was never the type to snoop (and I generally have nothing to hide). A couple of months in though I tried nofap (for the first time since I was like 11!) and I was like a rhino with 3 cocks. She wondered wtf had gotten into me and snooped on my phone. She actually thought 'the red pill' was me buying some weird internet viagra! She read a little and took the usual blue perspective that this is a horrible hub of misogyny and that led us into a pretty bi…	/r/askMRP	21/09/17 12:57 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - September 19, 2017 Yeah, I meant to add the usual caveats about not being stupid with safety. Whenever you push beyond your own limits of good form as above, its essential to have a solid plan for ditching and I don't know a safe way of ditching a regular squat without a cage or rack. Remember pushing for big peak numbers is fun but essentially pointless unless you're competing, and drastically increases the risk of snapping up your shit. Its those working sets that really count and they're where we make our gains…	/r/MarriedRedPill	20/09/17 07:40 PM
3	When do you address and when do you keep quiet? Women can be sneakier fuckers than we could ever dream to be. If she were to do anything and hide it, chances are you would never know. The whole point of this praxeology is to turn the tables on them. Switch it around completely so that its her worrying about the bitches that are orbiting you. In summary, don't worry about what you can't control. Focus your attention on what you can.	/r/askMRP	20/09/17 12:40 AM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - September 19, 2017 I think you're a LOT closer to the 1000lb mark than you realise. I was in a very similar position last year and just went for it. Remember, you're pushing your 5x5 weights for up to 25 reps in a session - you only need to shift that bigger weight once for a 1rm to count! Try it out, just warm up as usual then hit double and singles adding 20 or 30 lbs each time. I bet you surprise yourself. Its pretty arbitrary really, but damned if I didn't walk out of the gym with a massive shit-eating grin th…	/r/MarriedRedPill	19/09/17 05:03 PM
1	Sperg recovery? What I described above is pretty much it. I guess I ride the line between casual and smart-casual depending on the shirt. I think a couple of jackets will give it a boost in either direction. A blazer with plain pastel or stripes to kick it up a notch, and something maybe leather or suede to push the plaid ones into a more rugged 'hot contractor' vibe.	/r/askMRP	18/09/17 09:33 PM
1	Sperg recovery? I get the theory. I'm just so used to being the person with the one-word-reply (with the undertone of 'fuck off outta my face') that I expect the same from everyone. I also don't do well with crowds, so don't tend to go places where folk are out to socialise. I suppose I should try 'lite' venues like the supermarket for drive-by interactions and go from there.	/r/askMRP	18/09/17 09:13 PM
0	Sperg recovery? Great example, thanks. I don't go to bars or anything so that type of situation (family outing) is the type of scenario I can attempt. Guess I just have to block out my thoughts of being that guy and try to be THAT GUY.	/r/askMRP	18/09/17 09:07 PM
1	Sperg recovery? I skimmed that one. Will go back for a more considered & thorough read, thanks.	/r/askMRP	18/09/17 07:56 PM
1	Sperg recovery? Sounds very similar to my wardrobe, but I wear more button shirts or sometimes polos in the week. Weekends are more tshirts and switching out the jeans for cargos depending on activities. All shirts are gradually replacing 'biggest I can find' with better fitting ones as the belly slowly shrinks. I don't really get to many places where I need to dress more 'up', so I'm keeping my eye out for a couple of nice jackets to boost it a little, maybe a blazer but not sure how preppy or hipster a look I…	/r/askMRP	18/09/17 07:49 PM
1	Sperg recovery? Lifting is going great. Bodyweight/fat has plateaud but close to my 5rm goal (another month or two to get last years 1000lb BSD 1rm up to my 5rm) so will cut a couple hundred more calories then. My inner sperg helps this! Grooming is good, but wardrobe could be better (not much point since I don't go out much). Good food for thought, thank you. (any second helpings?!)	/r/askMRP	18/09/17 06:56 PM
1	I need a bit of advice... Your starting situation has several similarities to my own. The marriage was never 'shit' but it was heading on a bad trajectory. I was a fat directionless passenger, and so dependent on her validation that any decent level of argument put me in a pretty bad mental place. Mine found that I was reading here, snooping because the first week of nofap made me hornier than a dog with three cocks and she thought 'the red pill' was some sort of internet viagra!! Its hard enough when they know that we h…	/r/askMRP	28/07/17 07:16 PM
9	Wife going on a day trip, should I care about this? Something is amiss here. Either with her behaviour, or something you've left out. He made her uncomfortable enough to come home early from a night out, but not so uncomfortable that she won't avoid taking a day trip to the shore with him there, presumably where he'll get to ogle her in her bikini/swimsuit etc? My 0.02?: Her discomfort may have come from her feeling bad about the tingles he gave her, and the day trip is her plausible excuse to go back for another dose. Are YOU giving her tingles?	/r/askMRP	19/07/17 07:44 AM
1	OYS vs doubledown on choreplay Excellent distinction. Also serves as a reminder for me, as a recovering 'Type 1' to nail the basics before worrying too much about the power balance.	/r/askMRP	17/07/17 12:29 PM
6	Not Empathizing Enough So its really a simple situation then: you can share some good times and let her temporarily escape her stresses - as a bonus you get some good food and maybe a gummer ;-D Seriously though, you're in an enviable position compared to many here. You don't mention any hard ties, so you just treat her as the steady plate that she is. More whiny shit = more distance and vice versa. Just keep in mind that any help you give needs to be from a place of abundance and generosity with no expectations (care…	/r/MarriedRedPill	13/07/17 12:44 AM
1	Not Empathizing Enough Haha. Hey man its just a number, right?	/r/MarriedRedPill	13/07/17 12:34 AM
4	Not Empathizing Enough Dude. I know you're old and all, but do you actually have alzheimers? Your post is all over the fucking place! Let me try to extract a theme... You're pretty chilled and enjoying your retirement, and you met a woman online a year ago who will fuck you but apparently has a shitshow of a life. Her 'friend' has given her a lot of money and you offered some of your time to help her through some health problems she/her kid have. But she's whining because you're not empathising and doing her housework…	/r/MarriedRedPill	12/07/17 11:05 PM
5	[FR] Simple and easy, but this stuff works. Great report, and timely for me. I really needed to read this today. My woman has a much lower desire for general affection than me. This has combined with a couple of 'hard no's lately and drawn me into the mindset of "Fuck you then, I have better shit to do than try to win your attention". You reminded me that in a battle of 'Who can remain a miserable cunt for the longest?' she will ALWAYS win. Even if I have to fake it til I make it, the situatio will only change under my lead. I need to hit…	/r/MarriedRedPill	29/06/17 07:42 AM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - June 27, 2017 I didn't find a huge difference except in durability. My general purpose 'walking shoe' type trainers must've had an air pocket in (a-la Nike air). When my squats and deads exceeded 150kg I noticed the shoes start to squelch in wet weather - burst. Chuck taylor type low-tops are cheap and sufficient for the job. Pretty flat sole that doesn't compress too much.	/r/MarriedRedPill	28/06/17 12:41 PM
3	just started no more mr nice guy and i cant relate to the beta guy shit. In reading the sidebar, take note of the numerous mentions of balancing alpha and beta behaviours in an LTR/Marriage. Getting the balance right is key. Most of the posts tend to skew toward increasing alpha behaviours because that's what 'we' mostly lack. Beware the Alpha = Good : Beta = Bad hyperbole though. All alpha is a sexy bastard that women want a one nighter or affair with but no more. All beta is the super-caring, great provider with a dead bedroom. At MRP we strive to attain our own un…	/r/askMRP	27/06/17 11:34 PM
1	Wife wants another baby? Re: inspection (haha). The incision is less than half an inch long. Once the stitches are gone she would really have to be looking, even during a BJ, in good lighting. After a couple months I literally couldn't find my scar (YMMV if you shave your sac or somesuch girly nonsense). The stitches (2) were the dissolvable type, so I just noticed they were gone after a shower a couple weeks after. You could probably remove them sooner yourself once certain that the skin had knit.	/r/askMRP	27/06/17 11:22 PM
1	Wife wants another baby? I got cut after the mutual decision for no more kids. With hindsight, I could've done it without her knowledge, and if I had any suspicions of her cheating I definitely would have, just to hold the 'ace up my sleeve'. Hiding it wouldn't be a problem at all, putting a moratorium on sex (eg a groin strain from lifting) until the stitches came out would suffice. No notable scar - does your woman inspect your scrotum that closely?	/r/askMRP	26/06/17 12:40 PM
5	Kill Your Idols I get the feeling that a lot of guys who find and choose 'redpill' have a tendency to make it into their identity. I think its part of a more general issue of people wanting to identify as part of something ie hardcore sports team fans, goths, gangs etc. They do so wholeheartedly to the detriment of their true self. This manifests temporarily (hopefully) as going RP Rambo, but the real success comes afterward when the man adopts the established 'toolkit analogy'. We should never aim to 'become r…	/r/MarriedRedPill	14/06/17 12:43 PM
3	How do you know if your frame is ready? Congratulations. You described a milestone moment. I (and I believe many others) was tied to her emotions and worked like a mule to make her happy, so that she would make me happy. The simple realisation of 'fuck that I'll make ME happy ' is the marker point. The failed tactic above actually works amazingly well when reversed like this.	/r/askMRP	14/06/17 10:22 AM
4	My know-how of handling wife's bitchin She wants a strong, warm frame to embrace her and show her that all of her problems can be solved with your penis. Love this. Also completely agree with the window. If she needs to vent I'll be there, but only for a few minutes, or until I'm bored. I use the A&A 'asshole route' to shut it down (both fists under chin, eyes like saucers "Oh WOW!! Don't stop there, I simply must know what she said next!!" ) This turns without fail into the typical 'you're an asshole' , 'yeah but I'm a hot asshole' …	/r/MarriedRedPill	13/06/17 04:58 PM
9	Self-Care Honestly, just keep busy. One of the biggest changes for me was to catch myself when I was just sitting around surfing or watching bullshit TV etc. At first I made a list for myself of projects, repair jobs etc and every time I found myself sitting on my ass I'd pick something from it to do. There is no end of productive little tasks and preparations to be done, just get on it. If you're really on top of everything and struggling to find a task, bust out the dumbbells and crank out a few extra s…	/r/askMRP	09/06/17 12:36 PM
1	Started 5 months ago fucked up big time last night and lost ground to the point i am further in the hole. I can totally relate. Just over a year of mostly lurking here but making what I think is less than optimal improvement...... Last week during sex (which was decent, but average/ordinary) she pushed me off to change position (nothing unusual) and said "turn me over and fuck me up the ass" Whoa! Holy shit! I almost fell off the bed in shock! Anal has been completely off the table since a botched drunken attempt about 16-18 years ago (despite my undoubted desire for it). She has always frozen up if…	/r/askMRP	09/06/17 12:20 PM
1	Anger: Your best diagnostic tool Very timely post for me. I totally lost frame and went off at my 7 y/o the other day, after he fucked the second pair of shoes this week (he tends to crawl around on his knees a lot while playing so goes through the toes of shoes and knees of pants at a fucking ridiculous rate). The anger got directed at him but I felt like a cunt afterward because its me who should have taught him better to take care of his shit. On the flipside, I initiated last night and got a hard no ((half expected), and a …	/r/MarriedRedPill	27/05/17 12:10 PM
18	Am I avoiding conflict and failing shittests? Holy shit. Are you telling us that when you're not otherwise occupied, you actually help your wife and work together on common household chores? What a faggot! Be very careful, as this is a slippery slope. Before you know it you'll be eating meals together, talking about current affairs without a predetermined purpose, showing affection for no reason or even taking vacations together. Shit, you may even start to feel that you love the bitch! Seriously though, someone stated a while ago about dri…	/r/askMRP	21/05/17 08:28 AM
1	Woman reaction to sex Haha mine has no interest in cuddling after. If it wasn't for the essential cleanup of bodily fluids she'd roll right over to sleep! (No matter how freaky or starfish) Daytime quickies aren't that frequent but I can't say I ever pay nuch attention then, its usually on with the day. I'm curious about shit tests in the following days though. I can't say I've noticed it, but nor am I watching her that closely. I can definitely tell when I've been neglecting her and she needs a good dose of 'vitamin…	/r/askMRP	12/05/17 07:23 PM
1	Lifting vs Cardio? I started as a fatass too (now just semi fatass). Like all the guys already said, 'cardio' does fuck all for fat loss, you can eat back those calories from half hour / hour workout in just a couple of bites. I added 15 - 30 mins of either HIIT or steady rate cardio (depends on day) after I lift to work on my endurance & CV fitness. It doesn't harm to burn a few extra kcal, but it did nothing to burn more fat - its all diet. If you haven't lifted before, do Stronglifts 5x5. Study and work on form…	/r/askMRP	11/05/17 12:31 PM
1	NMMNG and STFU. Am I missing something? I totally agree. Mine started snooping when I first tried nofap and my libido went through the roof (snooped my tablet because she thought I was buying viagra online and found 'red pill' pages in the history). She tried to give me shit for it at first, but I laid it out straight - that I was miserable inside and needed to make some changes to make myself happy. I think those changes will make us better / happier as a family too, but she's free to leave at any time. Now I get the occasional shit …	/r/askMRP	10/05/17 12:52 PM
2	Wife needs facebook validation... is my response better to be presence/affection or time/attention? Totally "I like your stuff all the time! Get nekkid and I'll show you how much..."	/r/askMRP	05/05/17 12:28 PM
5	Mother's day gift suggestions for wife married for 20 years with two boys (16 & 12) Maybe mothers day is different where I'm from. I bought her obligatory 'mommy' shit from the kids when mine were very young, now (theyre 7-10) I take them to the store and fund/supervise their chosen gifts / cards while I get something for MY mother. At 16 & 12 your involvement should be limited to reminder/taxi/advance on allowance (banker). Or As suggested earlier, arrange something fun that she would enjoy BUT YOU WANT TO DO ANYWAY and call it a mo…	/r/askMRP	05/05/17 12:23 PM
6	If you put her on a pedestal then she has no choice but to look down on you Holy fuck. I think I may have finally swallowed the pill. in this case: you are scared to lose her (not scared of losing your kids and money - that is a different and reasonable fear) Reflecting on this, I realised that its not actually her as a person I fear losing. Its simply that our lives are so enmeshed after this long, it would fuck up most/all other aspects of life. Thanks for the perspective. Its given me a new direction to work on (more independence, rearrange long term financials etc).…	/r/MarriedRedPill	03/05/17 12:40 PM
3	The smartest dogs are easiest to train There was a natural history series on plants and I recall an episode about the symbiotic relationships between various plants and animal species. It held a similar implication of how grasses, like wheat etc have effectively trained humans to clear vast swathes of land to dedicate it to their cultivation. Mind = blown.	/r/MarriedRedPill	02/05/17 02:36 PM
1	Setting a boundary that I'd struggle to reinforce or justify. Very accurate and succinct. Just stressing over the risk that arises while I work on it.	/r/askMRP	28/04/17 10:23 AM
1	Setting a boundary that I'd struggle to reinforce or justify. Wow. You're just about on the money. I reflected a lot on this since yesterday to see whether the parts I initially disagreed with are actually true. You're dead on, but for one exception. I honestly don't feel threatened by any other social activities but this and I haven't tried to shut anything down besides this - actually I don't want to shut this down, just to limit the excessive binge drinking. On reflection I think we both bought into the disney dream (together very young) and each forsoo…	/r/askMRP	28/04/17 10:22 AM
1	Setting a boundary that I'd struggle to reinforce or justify. Thanks for the link. I read the OP and get the idea. As I replied at length above, I know I can't set the boundary without defensive actions or consequences planned. What I'm stuck on is that it doesn't warrant going nuclear and separating (unless I found that she did fuck chad - instant dismissal) but removing my time and attention doesn't mean shit to her - yet. I need something in between.	/r/askMRP	27/04/17 01:02 PM
1	Setting a boundary that I'd struggle to reinforce or justify. Thanks for the thoughtful response. I appreciate it and agree with the approach. To clarify a little, I don't think either of us is doing 'wrong' per se. We both go out of comms when doing our own thing. I could (in theory) be smashing strange when I'm away and I AM putting myself in some degree of danger. I am fully aware that the fear of her falling onto a chad is my trust issue to own (lack of abundance, just my turn etc). I think my concern over her safety at those times is valid though. The…	/r/askMRP	27/04/17 12:54 PM