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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	Fucking Terrified Exactly. The "let's not disrupt the kids" is a trope used to get fathers to give up their rights and access to their kids.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/04/19 02:29 PM
4	I need Advice.. But she went on to tell me she wasnt happy any of the 10 years but why marry me after and 8 and finally wanna have a baby with me if u wasnt happy You are misunderstanding her. It is not that she wasn't happy during those years. It is that right now she feels she wasn't happy during those years. Also, your marriage is over - start going to therapy to address your anxiety, hit the gym, etc. You'll be fine. Pleading with her is not going to work - it never does.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/04/19 02:28 PM
1	Fucking Terrified Are you planning to not have 50/50 custody? If you don't have 50/50 physical custody, expect to pay child support. If you do have 50/50 physical custody, the kids will be disrupted anyway as they'll spend half the time with you.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/03/19 03:29 AM
2	Being guilted into being a Disney dad Be sure to agree on custody before even beginning to discuss money. That is your leverage.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/03/19 02:28 PM
3	Overspending & Dead Bedroom That is how I felt to. The stress of supporting everything as we gradually destroyed our finances killed the mood.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/02/19 11:40 AM
2	Planning a budget for after the D - Feedback appreciated: You need your own attorney, ASAP. It'll save you in the long run.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/02/19 04:38 PM
5	does alimony change Be sure to have it be modifiable in your divorce agreement. Also have her income imputed, if that would help you. You want something in there that she is expected to work full time as well.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/01/19 06:58 PM
1	Ex wife moving out of state with kids? If you are in a one party consent state, get a small digital audio recorder and keep on and hidden on your person at all times when meeting with her.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/01/19 02:46 PM
1	Ex wife moving out of state with kids? As a compromise, you could offer to take the kids full time. In the fog of a new partner, she may just agree to it. In terms of her taking the kids out of state, "No" is a complete sentence. And the law is in most states - and it seems the divorce agreement - is on your side. However, be prepared for potential allegations of abuse and/or parental alienation when you block her plans.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/01/19 02:45 PM
1	My Ex tried to smother my son... Record everything. Have a small portable audio recorder on you and running at all times. Don't rely on your phone. Back this up regularly, on multiple cloud accounts.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/01/19 02:39 PM
3	Six years to go Counselling usually lasts as long as the counselor agrees with the wife...	/r/Divorce_Men	23/01/19 05:12 AM
3	Wife just threatened to take my children and disappear. If 1500 miles away is abroad and the children don't have passports - get a passport alert set up.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/01/19 02:49 PM
1	what would you do in my situation? Go with the custody itself first - if it is full custody you want, get that. Once that is formalized, you can go with the child support - that is technically between her and the children, so can be revisited later. Just don't jeopardize the custody arrangement.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/12/18 09:41 PM