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ADVICEredvelvetabby/r/RedPillWomen23/02/18 08:01 PM
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Forget about him. You’re not dating if you never see him. There’s no chance to build a relationship and he’s more in love with his career than building anything meaningful with you. Up your SMV and move on. Sorry but it’s the truth.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/18 03:40 PM
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Exercising together sounds like a great idea. This way if he wants to talk about what’s stressing him, you are his captive audience. And, if just being with him makes him feel better, while remaining silent, then that’s helpful for the relationship too. Either way, it’s going to help.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/18 09:11 AM
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I like “traditional women”
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/18 01:33 AM
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If it’s important to your boyfriend, why not try?
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/18 02:06 PM
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I’ll probably need to ask my boyfriend what he thinks I should do. The $12,000 won’t be enough 🙃
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/18 02:00 PM
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I have an idea of some part time work already but it would only give me about $12,000/yr to put to their dental work. Splitting their braces with my ex husband should cover it. I do have some medical benefits. But I still put away for their education and I want to keep that going.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/18 12:15 PM
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Modern yes! I hope it is a newer conservative movement.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/18 03:42 AM
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A favourite!
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/18 03:20 AM
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I think being a SAHM is one of the most noble professions out there. It’s hard work. I think conservatives tend to be more traditional and embrace respective roles. But I’ve also had friends where their own (European)mother’s were SAHMs and so they became one too, it wasn’t necessarily that they were part of a conservative household. I hope I answered your question. And yes I’m very happy with my new man. being a stay at home mom will be very different for me this time around.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/18 03:16 AM
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I guess. I suppose. Being a woman I never think about it but I can see your point.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/18 06:32 PM
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Personally, the only time I have ever withheld sex was when my ex husband was cheating. I just felt that our intimacy had been broken and it felt dirty to touch him and not dirty in a “sexy” way. I can’t imagine ever withholding. Maybe if he was trying to get me pregnant again lol! Seriously, I love sex though. Especially if we have a communion of sorts, a way to satisfy one another and express ourselves fully.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/18 06:31 PM
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I’ve never heard that it’s in the vows to provide kids for inheritance lol. What religion do you follow?
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/18 06:28 PM
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I’d be your partner! I’m working on the same!
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/18 06:19 PM
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This is sound advice.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/18 06:18 PM
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I agree you should first tell him, then together seek the medical help you need. You guys can overcome it. Trust him. It’ll work out just be honest.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/18 06:01 PM
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I’m a woman and would like to add my take if that’s alright, if not, the moderator can eliminate my post and I’m okay with that. I hesitate talking about the past but I think it’s important for illustrating my point: I was once married to a conservative man and we ran a somewhat quasi-traditional household. He loved telling people I was a stay at home mom but it wasn’t entirely true. My ex-husband and I ran a business together. And although I took a back seat while our kids were little, I did a …
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/18 05:46 PM
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I know for me, I already live quite frugally. I believe when my income of $45,000 is replaced with another workable stay at home income - that’s when I’d feel good to make the leap to SAHM. I only say this because I have a son from another marriage and another debt I need to fulfill. That means I’m investing for university and braces. Where I live there is no extra cost of health care for my kids, including prescriptions. It’s all covered by our government, high taxes. I also know my new boyfrie…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/18 11:03 AM
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This is an enlightening answer. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/18 10:13 AM
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I wouldn’t be okay with it either. But only because you care for him so much. Ask him if you can help him cut back to a safe regimen. You’ll need to do your research (although you seem to know a lot) and work with him.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/18 09:34 PM
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Id certainly talk to him about it. There may be a good reason why he’s taking it and may have a prescription for it. This article made me question the black market side of it http://www.menshealth.co.uk/healthy/symptoms-treatment/should-i-inject-testosterone The honest truth is, I’d want my husband to be in optimal health but that may mean not using the steroid.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/18 08:23 PM
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I agree. You see, as much as a new child would bring forth the opportunity to better my skills as a parent (since I’ve already done it once), and also bring forth my feminine skills, I know my limitations. I can’t do it without him and I can’t do it without many things in place first. My goal isn’t to shut down his dream, but help him realize that under the current circumstances, I can’t.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/18 08:04 PM
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Never.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/18 07:57 PM
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Are you reading anything I’ve said? Lol. I’d never have a baby outside of wedlock and even then I need more.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/18 07:55 PM
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Marriage is a must, nonnegotiable, but even so, I’m not sure he can leave me alone too long with a baby. Someone above suggested I seek counselling while pregnant and put together a plan before baby is born. I need many assurances and plans before I can have his baby.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/18 07:51 PM
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I would travel with him some if he’d have me, yes.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/18 07:36 PM
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The second seems a bit better. We would need to see. I hesitate blindly agreeing to it until we have had a chance to court and build a nest, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/18 07:27 PM
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I wear bio gel on my nails but they are my own. It reinforces them so they don’t break. I don’t wear them long either. I think as long as they’re kept nice and neat, they make a woman look “put together”.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/18 04:25 PM
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Thanks 🙏🏻
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/18 10:32 AM
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That would be ideal. I don’t want to hold him back from his dreams but I need time to build something great with him. I suppose I could always harvest some of my eggs, as insurance. To take pressure off. I am getting healthier and more fit in the meantime, should we be in a place to try. In any case, if we couldn’t have anymore children, I’d love his own kids as if they were my own. They are adults now but they are his offspring, still need guidance and very important to him and I love him. They…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/18 10:02 AM
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Thank you this is all wonderful advice and you’ve given me hope.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/18 09:40 AM
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That’s a dream for me
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/18 09:37 AM
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You’re absolutely right. I want to be a good wife and I need him in order to do that. I can’t hit any of our dreams without him in my life. I love him.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/18 09:21 AM
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I’d never have a baby with him without marriage. Without living together. My son would love it. He wants me to be married again but more importantly he wants a man to lead our home.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/18 09:18 AM
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He’s hinted that he’d support me but never said anything concrete. I agree marriage goes both ways.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/18 01:35 AM
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I’m not sure. I do have concerns about a baby, absolutely. In the meantime, I have lots to think about though. Thanks everyone for your comments. Time will tell. I hope to update all of you one day.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/18 12:34 AM
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I saw him last August before he went on assignment. He keeps telling me not much longer now
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/18 12:00 AM
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I’m very attracted to him but no we’ve been waiting to have sex, until we’re ready. That may be if we end up engaged. No we flirted and sexted. He’s smart and funny, he has a vulnerability I wish I had. He’s beautiful looking and works hard. He’s overcome some tremendous things and he inspires me. He also writes so beautifully, I can’t ever look away. He encourages me and sees more in me than I see in myself. He made me fall in love with dogs! He makes me want to be a better person, a better mom…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/18 11:51 PM
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Since he lives at a distance, i think just a long weekend here or there would help. Where there is no expectation of sex. Maybe more snuggling and spooning. Making dinner, shopping, long walks, cafes, dinner, a site or two. Easy peasy stuff.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/18 11:43 PM
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Possibly. We may have something salvageable but the stress of the expectations and no concrete goals is causing me anxiety. I almost want him to just slow down and court me properly so I can understand and trust him better.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/18 10:46 PM
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Thanks, I’m seeing I’m just going to have to be that straight forward with him. He’s on assignment right now so I’m unable to talk to him.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/18 10:30 PM
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He just states what he wants and he’s never really said, “and this is how I’m going to help you.” It’s feeling insurmountable by his lack of communication.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/18 10:28 PM
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When you have goals with a significant other, you usually lay out a whole set of wishes no? Ie. “darling, how many kids do you want when we get married?” I don’t think these are unreasonable questions.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/18 10:26 PM
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I just think his goals are taking the priority at the moment, and I’m supposed to fall in line. I do love him, it’s just that part in the book “surrendered wife”, where she says if he makes a request that you feel will cause bodily harm, say, “I’m sorry I can’t do that.” This is where I am at.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/18 10:25 PM
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Oh he’s said being married is definitely a priority, but what would be the point if he only wants a woman who will give him a child and support his goals. I’m doubting my abilities.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/18 10:20 PM
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He’s so guarded I don’t think he’s the talking type. He just kind of states what he wants and I often wonder if I’m considered. And being red pill, I normally go along with things.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/18 10:19 PM
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10 yrs old
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/18 09:31 PM
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I’m 35, he’s 47. He has 2 grown kids
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/18 09:07 PM
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Thanks. He and I are a long way from talking marriage since we are LDR. We’ve spent hardly any quality time together, so much needs to happen before I even consider marriage, etc. Maybe I’m feeling like I’m hearing all his expectations and yet I have no idea if we’re even going to see each other. Thank you for your perspective, it helped.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/18 09:05 PM
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You’re a very supporting person. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/18 02:11 AM
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I’m sorry I shouldn’t put my needs, on yours. We are a different age. I’m 32 with a child and I’d want to holiday with my boyfriend. Sorry for projecting.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/18 02:07 AM
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I’d just be honest with him. Maybe train over the winter months so you can join in. Not necessarily keep up but join in the events. I’d be a little concerned about him being gone for 70 days over the summer though. That’s most of the summer
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/18 02:01 AM
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If you’re taking classes, then you’ll be too busy anyway, yes?
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/18 01:52 AM
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Have you considered asking him if you can take a different role in helping the team? Maybe someone who holds the teams gear at each check point or giving provisions. I think races are inspiring, so I can see why you’d want to be around.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/18 01:50 AM
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I love hearing about your bliss. I also love hearing that you don’t just oblige but are in the moment with your husband, during sex. I’m curious as to what you think derails us from such bliss. You mentioned being tired, but what else? Feminist news, certain romance authors, certain friends? Would love to talk about what we can do to guard our thoughts so we can remain focussed on our husband’s needs. Especially in this generation as we work to bring back the traditional home.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/18 11:31 PM
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Southern California sounds lovely. I don’t have the best green thumb but succulents sound very doable for me. I’ll consider a greenhouse window, thank you. I hope to get back into gardening some day
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/18 06:49 PM
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I googled succulent broken pottery and they’re stunning! And charming at the same time. I have an aloe plant and I thought it was a succulent, I keep it inside all year. But do these broken pottery creations come inside in the winter months and outside in summer? There is snow where I live.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/18 09:59 AM
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For the most part, I don’t think we should engage in debate about it. Just show people how happy you are. I have divorced friends who tried to do it “all”. They will study you and your spouse and if they’re smart they will learn your secret to a happy marriage. That what you and your spouse have is a genuine division of labour, but that you stick to the tasks that come easiest to your genders. You’re going to have some resistance and maybe a girlfriend or two asking why you might ask your husban…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/18 09:43 AM
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I thoroughly enjoyed the joe rogan and vice interviews. I laughed when the vice interviewer became heated with Jordan Peterson for using narrow anecdotes. I thought it was great debating, the way Jordan backed up his thoughts with poignant examples.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/18 03:53 AM
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Nice answer
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/18 03:36 AM
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I love them. While in Mexico i bought myself a really cute pewter rack with hooks, it’s a tea pot! I wanted to start a collection of aprons and needed somewhere to hang them :)
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/18 09:33 PM
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Congratulations on getting your emotions under control and realizing it before it was too late :) I’m sure those ways of being softer will come easier to you now. Wishing you success.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/18 02:27 PM
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