TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

remaininyourcompound Archive

View 0 posts and 250 comments by remaininyourcompound on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Title Category Author Subreddit Date (UTC)
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
1

I don't know what to tell ya, bud. My flair is not inaccurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 10:12 PM
1

I can assure you that is not the case, lol. These women are extremely forward with their intentions. Or maybe you're right, and "I want to take you home and climb you like a tree" has some other, more innocent meaning.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 10:05 PM
1

I said "without me". They don't know he has a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:57 PM
1

I mean, my boyfriend gets aggressively hit on by women almost every time he goes out without me, so... That said, I have zero concerns about him cheating; he's far too decent for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:41 PM
1

Seems like there's a very obvious solution here that has nothing to do with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 07:09 AM
1

rainstorm apparatus engine bear memory reminiscent snow uppity desert dinner This post was mass deleted and anonymized with Redact
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 09:53 PM
2

makeshift school resolute birds exultant edge full divide worm memorize This post was mass deleted and anonymized with Redact
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 09:52 PM
1

There aren’t enough real sexual predators or groomers so the bar must be lowered so more people can fit the new outrage criteria. If only this were true.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 02:45 AM
2

Are they being forced at gunpoint? Talk about a lack of accountability, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 02:37 AM
1

A 45-year-old pursuing a teenage fan is absolutely being predatory. Sorry you can't creep on young women without being called out for it anymore? That must be tough. Perhaps some of these men could actually try taking accountability for once, rather than being slaves to their lustful urges.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 02:31 AM
5

I refuse to read AI-generated reddit posts.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 10:59 PM
1

You're assuming the sex will be good, which it rarely is.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 09:48 PM
1

Golly, you built an entire town? So you're a builder, carpenter, electrician, plumber, and urban planner, at the very least? That is impressive. The obvious answer is that women also work and increasingly out-earn their male partners. Sole breadwinners are a dying breed and I've never even met one.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 02:51 PM
6

You are being manipulated and weaponised.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/02/25 08:27 AM
1

For now, but that's rapidly changing. You didn't answer my question - how are you contributing to this wonderful, masculinist society?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 02:50 AM
1

I'm a commercial diver doing underwater welding. Pretty physically demanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 10:02 PM
1

Sorry, I was busy giving my man sex so he'd provide essential labour/protection/resources. It's not like we both earn the same 6 figure salary or anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 01:23 PM
1

1) We tend to do this on behalf of each other, so when his dish is wrong, I flag down the waiter, and vice versa. There is no designated flagger. 2) Depends what the shit is. Something happens with the cars? I usually handle it, because they're technically mine and are in my name. Something goes wrong on holiday? I'm usually the one who does all the planning and organising, so I take charge there too. He has his areas of expertise as well. If something throws either of us into an emotional crisi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 11:59 PM
1

You sound jealous. Have you considered transitioning?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 10:39 PM
1

You are delusional, dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 09:02 PM
1

Just a few off the top of my head, speaking generally: Emotional labour. Equal time/effort put into chores. Equal time/effort put into parenting. For men to stop committing 95% of violent crime. For men to interrogate their own male socialisation and privilege.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 11:08 PM
2

I've been in a happy relationship for ten years and we certainly don't have a leader/follower dynamic like you've described. That sounds miserable and unhealthy, to be honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 03:20 AM
2

Why should women treat men who actively dislike them with respect?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 08:08 PM
1

Utter nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 07:50 PM
1

Desiring control over somebody else is neither honourable nor respectful. It's a cage. May as well just live in Afghanistan.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 03:38 AM
–

How incredibly magnanimous of them. Better to die on your feet then live on your knees.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 09:30 PM
20

Women are not a resource to be distributed.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 03:07 AM
25

Women are human beings, not some "reward" to be handed out as motivation to men. I'd rather humanity die out than return to 50% of the population being held as broodmares in chattel slavery.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 03:05 AM
1

I don't think the hair and freckles are a big deal, to be honest. Sounds like she chose a great donor.
/r/MensRights20/01/25 01:57 AM
5

Nah dude, I'm 33 and happier than I've ever been. Not everything in life is within your control, but a hell of a lot of it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 11:27 AM
2

And how do we know which is which?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 10:39 AM
1

Feminists fearing and resenting men they never met is called sexism
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 09:36 AM
1

don't need magic to see an obvious thug ... So, then women should be prejudiced against some kinds of men?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 09:08 AM
1

Weird, I constantly see red/black pill men here mocking abused women for chasing "bad boys" and "thugs" like they should have known better. You've never heard 'burn the coal, pay the toll', for example?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 08:56 AM
1

As in being able to tell the person was abusive before you got into a relationship with them. You see that rhetoric all the time here.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 08:27 AM
1

And yet, somehow, women are expected to magically know which men are the "bad ones" and blamed for choosing them when they are abused... Can't win.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 01:44 AM
1

Yep. It's sad, because I'm naturally a very warm and loving person, I've just learned to shut it off around most men for my own safety.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 09:27 PM
-2

This is great and very actionable advice, so of course it will be roundly rejected. Very few people here are actually interested in changing, unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 07:27 AM
5

I guess anything can mean anything if we're just redefining words based on how we feel now, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 05:10 AM
2

Oh, did you have a point? And is this not a discussion thread? You're free to leave at any time. I am simply a person who has experienced real love and understands why it is conditional and what that actually means. It is conditional because you love your partner. You want to support them to be the best version of themselves. There is nothing loving about watching someone destroy themselves and saying nothing. I hope you are able to experience this one day; it is the greatest joy in life, in my …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 01:52 PM
2

Similarly, I have no interest in discussing this with someone who has never experienced a long-term, loving relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 01:37 PM
1

I'm simply questioning the basis on which you and/or OP purport to redefine "unconditional" love. I assume you must have had a transformative experience of enduring long-term love, and would like to be similarly enlightened.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 01:32 PM
5

Yeah, I figured you hadn't. I know what real love is, I'm living it right now. Hopefully you get to experience the same one day.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 01:27 PM
2

You're speaking from experience then, presumably? A marriage, or at the very least, a serious long-term relationship? Do enlighten us on the true nature of ""unconditional"" love, please.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 01:22 PM
3

May I suggest investing in a dictionary?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 01:16 PM
2

I read it; you're wrong. Find a different word that actually fits what you're trying to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 01:16 PM
5

No, I understand it perfectly. Words do, in fact, mean things. Have you ever been in a long-term (3+ years) adult relationship? Because this sounds like something a teenager would say.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 01:12 PM
11

100% agree; it's a huge red flag and screams potential abuser looking for someone that will put up with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 12:58 PM
7

All you've done is redefine "unconditional" to fit your own (incorrect) definition.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 12:49 PM
2

Unconditional means without conditions.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 12:45 PM
3

In what universe is that what 'unconditional' means?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 12:44 PM
1

You'd still love your partner even if she was a paedophile who violently assaulted multiple children? Your own child, even? No? Then it's not unconditional.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 12:41 PM
4

I would be less indifferent to strange men if the slightest degree of interest weren't interpreted by them as a romantic/sexual signal 100% of the time. Women learn very early that even making eye contact with an unknown man can be dangerous. I'm not looking to get followed home again after briefly making eye contact with a male stranger on the train, thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 05:58 AM
–

Indeed.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 01:34 AM
15

The absolute state of this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 06:38 AM
1

Why would I care if you're shallow? I don't know you. I just find it amusing how you conflate having preferences with being shallow.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 10:23 PM
1

Care about what?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 03:17 PM
1

I don't have a problem at all, I'm with a person who perfectly fits my preferences and our relationship is the furthest thing from shallow 🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 09:58 AM
1

I'm sad for them. For me, I consider it a privilege when my partner and the other men in my life are willing to be open and vulnerable with me. I hope we can one day live in a world where men don't have to repress their emotions out of fear of being shamed.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 01:53 AM
1

Yes, I've seen those anecdotes. I understand that most men are emotionally repressed - we don't disagree on that. What I'm saying is that it's possible to change, and they will be happier for it. Unless, who knows, maybe you're happier keeping everything bottled up inside and never experiencing emotional intimacy with other human beings? In which case, who am I to judge? Most men don't seem to be happy with that though, funnily enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 12:37 AM
1

I know they exist, but it's also perfectly possible for them to engage in personal growth and stop being emotionally repressed. As I said, I know many such men myself, and they're certainly happier for it and have much better relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 12:14 AM
1

How many more times do I need to repeat that having preferences is not the same thing as being shallow. I have preferences. Everyone has preferences. This is fine. What's shallow is when you only care about someone's superficial characteristics. This isn't complicated, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 11:47 PM
1

Nah, I know plenty that aren't, and they have great relationships with the women in their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 11:42 PM
1

Why? I'm doing great.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 11:41 PM
1

I'm beginning to think you can't read...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 02:21 PM
2

Again, having preferences =/= being shallow.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 02:11 PM
1

Maybe so. It's only a problem if you're repressed and emotionally dumping on the women in your life, I suppose.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 02:10 PM
1

No it isn't, it shows you care about a person's character.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 01:26 PM
1

Who's talking about preferences? You can have preferences without being shallow lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 01:10 PM
1

Apparently you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 01:00 PM
1

Of course you can be shallow, I've never said otherwise. People are also perfectly entitled to be turned off once they find out; you're not immune to criticism 😁
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 12:57 PM
1

No one cares about your dating life lol, but yes OP is absolutely talking about dating
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 12:40 PM
–

You don't think if you present yourself as a wealthy man who would provide for a golddigger type, they might be more likely to be interested in you? Who you meet is random, who you connect with isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 11:43 AM
2

Well, it's probably the business of the person you're dating. For some people that would be fundamental clash of values.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 11:06 AM
–

You're delusional if you think that's the case for the average older woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 10:12 AM
1

Sounds like there's not much to be broken if it's a shallow relationship based on nothing more than shared interest
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 10:10 AM
–

No, but the way you behave and present yourself influences the kind of person you will attract
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 10:08 AM
5

History says otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 10:05 AM
7

So you agree that men don't die for people then
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 09:14 AM
1

Stronger how, what does that mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 09:13 AM
7

The irony of this being the titanic is famously an exception to the general rule that women and children are far more likely to die https://www.abc.net.au/science/articles/2012/07/31/3554854.htm
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 08:24 AM
1

Men are statistically far more likely to remarry quickly after the death of a spouse.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 08:17 AM
1

The definition you yourself linked defines close friendship as intimacy, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 08:15 AM
1

So what, you never talk to your friend about how something pissed you off that day, or a thing you're stressed about? Because both of those involve emotional openness aka vulnerability. You only ever talk about your mutual interest and the occasional money-lending, and know nothing about each other's lives? Bro sounds like a casual acquaintance.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 08:11 AM
1

Don't strain your back carrying that cross
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 07:58 AM
5

How terribly charming.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 07:54 AM
4

Woman evil, man good.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 07:51 AM
1

How can you build trust with someone if you never engage emotionally? Trust is based on mutual vulnerability
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 07:48 AM
2

You too!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 07:45 AM
2

Me too, and it's definitely very welcome and appreciated
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 07:37 AM
1

Oh, I guess it's never happened then. People do always follow the rules They trauma dump on their female friends BECAUSE they don't have enough emotional intimacy with other people in their lives, especially with other men Genuinely, what do you think a friendship consists of?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 07:36 AM
2

I gotta be honest, I'm not used to someone on the internet ever politely ceding an argument lol. But yes, you're not wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 07:27 AM
1

a situation in which you have a close friendship or sexual relationship with someone: What is a close friendship if not exactly what I said? Familiarity, vulnerability, trust, emotional openness That's literally what friendship is. And you become closer friends over time, i.e. you slowly build intimacy over time. It's not a binary state that switches on or off, and you can higher and lower degrees of intimacy with different people. It's not necessarily a synonym for "romantic". The only one talk…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 07:22 AM
2

I also see what you were trying to say originally now, and I don't disagree, so I think we've both just been wasting our time here 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 07:02 AM
1

Not to people talking utter bollocks, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 06:59 AM
2

That's not what you wrote though, you said they wouldn't want to have sex unless he was in the top 10%. That changes the meaning entirely. The implication of 'unless' in that sentence is that most women are exclusively, solely attracted to the top 10%, i.e., most women find the bottom 90% of men unattractive. If what you meant to say was that most women are more likely to have sex with the top 10%, then that's an entirely different matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 06:40 AM
3

Unless you are top 10%, most women probably wouldn't want to have sex with you. Do you know what "unless" means? Because that's exactly what you've said here. And yes, you do need a source if you're going to make wild claims like the above.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 06:08 AM
–

Right, so it's just most women who only want to sleep with the top 10% of men. Dare I ask for your source?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 05:45 AM
–

Your statement implied that women are only interested in having sex with the top 10%, which is simply untrue.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 04:50 AM
–

Unless you are top 10%, most women probably wouldn't want to have sex with you. This is nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 04:41 AM
1

Lol, are you six years old? Better get busy, you've gotta ring up Oxford, Cambridge, and all the other dictionaries to inform them of your newly made-up definition.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 04:39 AM
2

No, that's a complete misrepresentation of what I said. I'm begging you to develop some reading comprehension skills. Your inability to meaningfully engage is tedious, so I'mma bow out.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 04:30 AM
–

All good, I was just being sassy because it's my pet peeve. Thoroughly disagree with your actual argument, however.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 04:25 AM
1

I mean, that's quite literally not the definition of intimacy, but words don't mean anything anymore so go off, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 04:24 AM
2

Women being gold diggers is a well known thing, who needs sources for that? This is not debating. Again, your just arguing based on your own feelings about things.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 04:21 AM
2

Oh, please do share your sources then.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 03:47 AM
–

Less than ten percent of what? Or are you saying the bottom 10% get all the women?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 03:45 AM
–

Can't relate, all the women I know love sex, myself included. There's also plenty of high libido women posting over in r/deadbedrooms
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 03:41 AM
1

Of course not, why would you assume that? Different relationships obviously have different degrees of intimacy. I still don't understand what you mean by a "strong" relationship if not depth of intimacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 03:36 AM
2

Again, this is based entirely on your feelings and does not reflect reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 03:33 AM
–

Familiarity, vulnerability, trust, emotional openness.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 03:28 AM
1

I would assume female golddiggers are more common for obvious social and historical reasons. Neither is very common though, and it's certainly not "many" or "most" women as you've repeatedly stated. If I'm being honest, I'm quite bored of arguing with you because your positions are based on emotion rather than fact, and you clearly just want validation rather than actual debate. Best of luck unpacking your misogyny.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 03:26 AM
1

Way to project, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 03:13 AM
–

... Yes? What is bonding if not developing emotional intimacy?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 03:00 AM
–

Bonding implies intimacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 02:56 AM
–

Bleak.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 02:55 AM
1

Yes, they exist, as do male golddiggers. Yes, you've generalised your own personal experiences - with nary a shred of actual data - to slander "most" women as being fundamentally incapable of love. You may feel that way, but it's not reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 02:43 AM
–

As is tradition.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 02:35 AM
–

What makes their friendships stronger if not the degree of intimacy?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 02:32 AM
–

Really? You're telling me a 60-year-old spinster has a rotation of male orbiters to choose from?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 02:31 AM
–

If you genuinely believe that all women are shallow and incapable of love, why would you even want them in your life? Surely being alone would be better? Sounds like you need to develop some self-respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 02:25 AM
–

It's almost like they just hate women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 02:19 AM
1

I believe there are a small minority of women who do this, yes. Usually their partners are only with them for their looks/sex, so they're both using each other. There are also men who do this too. My issue is that you are presenting this as some universal truth and ignoring anything that doesn't align with your limited worldview.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 02:14 AM
1

I didn't say it was; you're the one who brought it up. I have also dated a lot of men and never behaved the way you describe. The men and women I know don't behave the way you describe. Your experiences are not universal. Yeah, you're a misogynist. Best of luck with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 01:45 AM
1

Do you understand that people can be put off by things and change their mind? There's been plenty of times I was on a date with someone I fancied whose behaviour caused me to lose interest. Again, the whole point of dating is to determine your compatibility. I dunno, maybe your standards are too low. I'm not gonna fuck a guy who was rude to the waiter, for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 01:42 AM
5

Yes, I suspected you didn't have any. I think we're beginning to uncover the root of the problem here.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 01:38 AM
2

Sounds like you view asking someone on a date as a covert contract for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 01:35 AM
1

Actually, I'm bisexual, so I have dated quite a few women. Lol, you've stated outright in your OP that women are fundamentally incapable of caring about men as human beings. Now I'm suddenly capable of empathy? Try to be a little consistent. Bit rich to ask for empathy after slagging off half the population as soulless prostitutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 01:33 AM
2

That doesnt mean they've thought about you in a romantic context, though, so I still think it's a bit silly. All sorts of things could happen on a date that change her feelings about you - again, that's the entire point of dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 01:25 AM
5

Your female friends do this too?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 01:14 AM
–

Based on your extremely limited life experience as one person out of eight billion, got it. Why are your personal anecdotes worth more than all the others in this thread that contradict yours?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 01:12 AM
–

You're bang on there.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 01:07 AM
–

You're the one claiming anecdotes are proof. You've also said this is a universal truth about all women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 01:03 AM
4

Well, you said you'd be disappointed if she didn't, and presumably she didn't because she wasn't feeling it. If she wanted to, she would, right? I would only want someone to hook up with me if they were equally as into it, not because they felt obliged to uphold their end of the transaction. I disagree; the whole point of dating is to get to know someone. How is she supposed to know if she likes you before you've even spent any time together?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 01:01 AM
–

I have done; I talk to my male friends about this stuff all the time. Most of them are outearned by their female partners. I'm wondering if it's a generational thing, hence why I asked your age. I assume you're also American, yes? The US does seem to have a more regressive dating culture. You might find Western Europe more to your tastes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 12:53 AM
–

That's interesting. So even if she wasn't really feeling it and was just doing it out of some sense of obligation, you'd still want that? At that point, it's basically just paying for sex, no? Why not cut out the bullshit and just see a sex worker?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 12:50 AM
–

These are men you know in real life? Couples you socialise with? How old are you, out of interest? All the couples I know earn roughly comparable salaries and share finances equally. I don't think I know anyone who behaves how you describe.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 12:46 AM
–

Sounds like you guys have got it worked out. I'm beginning to think that a lot of people in this sub are just terminally online or something, because most of their claims are just completely divorced from reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 12:41 AM
7

I dont think thats a very useful example as approaching =/= forming and maintaining a relationship. If a man is only with a woman because she's attractive, even though she is using him for money, then yes, I would call him shallow. They're both using each other at that point, so I don't see how either could really be mad about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 12:37 AM
2

It's quite sad, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 12:33 AM
–

Like you described in the OP, where the woman is only with the man for his resources.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 12:32 AM
–

How many couples do you personally know, in real life, that are like this?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 12:12 AM
–

I guarantee you do, you just don't know it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 12:05 AM
–

This is a bizarre reach. Women are not an essential resource that is being withheld from you, they're fully actualised human beings.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 11:58 PM
4

Somehow only their anecdotal experiences count, too. I'd love to know how many couples like this OP actually knows in real life, because I could easily point out at least 20 off the top of my head in my own social circle demonstrating the exact opposite. Feels like a terminally online take.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 11:57 PM
–

The casual devaluation of women's labour is so insidious. Same dudes are waxing hysterical about falling birth rates, no doubt.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 11:51 PM
–

His feelings, duh.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 11:49 PM
–

If they're only interested in women for shallow reasons, I'm not sure why they would expect the woman in question to behave any differently. Some self-reflection may be in order.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 11:49 PM
–

How do you square that with statistics increasingly showing women earning as much as or more than their male partners? The male breadwinner model is basically defunct, and I don't know any couple outside of maybe a few boomers who live like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 11:45 PM
–

Might be worth considering the kind of energy you are putting out into the world if you only ever meet women who are after your money.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 11:42 PM
–

I've found that buying the first round on a date is a great way to weed these types out. It sets the tone from the beginning, and a man who is not interested in having an egalitarian relationship will be thrown off and act weird about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 11:40 PM
–

When you expect something, you consider it as likely to happen. If it then doesn't happen, you may be more likely to react poorly (i.e. you feel entitled to it). Wanting something is just desiring it to happen, with no presumption implied.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 11:37 PM
–

There are millions of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 11:33 PM
–

Wanting and expecting are not the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 11:32 PM
–

Cool, I'm a partnered woman in the world and know many other couples, none of whom follow these archaic dating scripts you've described. I guess you must be wrong, then.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 11:11 PM
–

Of course you can criticise women - but if your criticism is this divorced from reality, you should expect to be called out. I don't deny that these women exist, but they're a minority and I've never met one. If you're constantly attracting this type of person, it might be worth doing some self-reflection. I would say the same thing to a woman who repeatedly dated violent men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 11:08 PM
3

Completely agree. I don't associate with shallow people and have none of these problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 11:01 PM
3

Chad is basically the incel boogeyman at this point, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 11:00 PM
1

Indefinitely? Seems unlikely.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 10:58 PM
2

Of course people are allowed preferences, we all have them. That's not the same thing as being shallow.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 10:55 PM
3

I second everything you've said. Sometimes I feel like I must live on another planet to the people on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 10:45 PM
0

I don't know any men that do this nor any women that expect this.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 12:45 PM
–

You're right, I've noticed this as well, especially with porn stars/sex workers by the usual pornsick suspects.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 11:27 PM
–

Desire is in the eye of the beholder.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 06:18 AM
1

My observation is that a lot of older men seem to rely on their wife to basically manage their lives outside of work.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 08:50 AM
1

Other than violence - which is disproportionately committed by men - I largely agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 09:42 PM
9

My kingdom for literally any source
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 09:40 PM
4

Oh jeez, you weren't kidding lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 09:06 PM
1

I'm so confused by this trope that only men pay for dates. Is this an American phenomenon or something? I've dated on two different continents and that has never been the expectation.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 08:55 PM
0

You're right, that must be it. It's not that most people are average-looking, clearly the good-looking couples just stay inside en masse for no apparent reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 04:24 AM
1

Yeah, I think this is part of it too. It is possible to heal yourself and develop a secure attachment, but it's hard and unpleasant work.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 03:22 AM
2

This is the conclusion I inevitably arrive at every time I visit this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 03:16 AM
1

I literally see them every day. Most people are not very good-looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 03:15 AM
1

Hitting on every woman in your social group one after another indicates that you're not really interested in them as individuals. Of course women don't like this. No one wants to feel like they're interchangeable.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 01:55 AM
1

Are you a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 02:08 PM
1

Lol. You didn't address a single one of my points in all of your rambling. You don't supervise your toddler-aged child while they play outside, by your own admission, and intend on installing a pool without the proper safety precautions. Your toddler is not capable of understanding risk or consequence, despite what you seem to believe or your inane parenting strategy. You are unwilling to take even the smallest recommended measure to protect your children from the leading cause of death at their…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 07:14 AM
1

It's an indication of your priorities.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 06:54 AM
1

I hope to god your kids don't have to learn about water safety the hard way. I guess you know better than all the experts, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 06:51 AM
1

And of course, the obligatory gross nsfw post history checks out 😂 maybe take your dick out of your hand for a second and actually try parenting your kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 06:48 AM
1

A toddler can drown in an inch of water in two minutes - hopefully it never rains where you live. A three year old is literally not capable of understanding danger or risk, and certainly not the finality of death. Do you know anything about child development? Your kids are not magically special or different, and negligence like this kills. Jesus christ.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 06:37 AM
1

You obviously know nothing about water safety and are not interested in learning, so I see no point in continuing this conversation. I am genuinely concerned for your children's safety. Every parent thinks if could never happen to them until it does.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 06:27 AM
1

Supervision and multiple layers of protection are the bare minimum recommended by experts. It's illegal to have an unfenced pool in much of the world. Let's hope to god your kids never learn to climb or stack things on top of each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 04:30 AM
1

Toddlers can get into just about anything, and it only takes one time. I truly can't believe how cavalier you're being here - a pool is not at all comparable to any of the other examples you stated. There is no room for error. This would be considered child endangerment in my country, and you would rightfully be charged if your child were to drown. At least get a childsafe fence, christ.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 11:25 PM
1

No, what's mad is leaving a toddler unsupervised near a pool. I can't believe I even have to say that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 10:44 PM
1

Nope, I think it's perfectly normal for children to play outside by themselves, and I did the same thing growing up. But leaving a TODDLER outside completely unsupervised (and no, a 5 year old does not count) is incredibly reckless.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 10:41 PM
1

Well, hopefully they'll learn that self-sufficiency and independence before either of them inevitably falls into the pool while playing unsupervised.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 09:50 PM
3

... You leave a 5 year old and a 3 year old completely unsupervised in the backyard?? Jesus, dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 09:45 PM
2

In fact, I believe it actually has a positive impact on one's health, as shorter people tend to live longer (cbf finding a source but something about stress on the heart, etc). I'm a tall woman who reached my full adult height of 5'10 at age 14, so I've always had some sympathy for short men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 03:29 AM
7

The funniest thing about this is that D cups, even triple D cups, are not even particularly big.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 03:14 AM
6

I love the ones that try to convince me I must be wrong about my own height (5'10) because they're "definitely 6 foot!!!" while I'm clearly as tall or taller than them... Ok buddy, whatever you say.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 03:07 AM
0

I mean, is it possible you're actually just into dudes? There's no shame in it if you are.
/r/AllPillDebate07/07/23 01:33 PM
–

Does this include squid? Edit: lmao sorry I can't read, literally in your first sentence/link
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 01:29 AM
1

Shit, have you guys been balancing your estrogen levels this whole time??
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 09:23 PM
3

Literally who's who at the zoo, love it! Although, where tf do you live that it's free?! Costs an arm and a leg here 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 01:42 AM
7

Great analysis. I think this is spot on.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 09:58 PM
8

Oh yes, those poor men, "trapped" in a relationship they voluntarily entered into with their "genetic inferior", forced to bear the burden of her trauma. Truly, their suffering knows no bounds.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 04:09 AM
3

So a win-win, then?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 03:51 AM
3

Sounds like a good time!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 03:38 AM
8

Are these chubby, tatted-up, abortion-loving women in the room with us now?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 01:32 AM
1

He looks AI generated lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 10:01 PM
3

It is truly pathetic and embarrassing to observe.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 09:57 PM
0

Don't do this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 04:52 AM
1

Early/mid-twenties at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 10:59 PM
1

Of course. I'd die for him. I know that sounds dramatic and perhaps difficult to believe, but it's true. It's hard to explain what it feels like to love someone so much. I truly hope you do find a mutually loving relationship one day, OP; it is the greatest gift I have ever been given, and I will never take it for granted.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 12:35 PM
2

Disagree. A shitty personality immediately spoils a pretty face, at least for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 12:28 PM
1

Nah. I've found dudes completely unattractive right off the bat and then changed my opinion entirely after getting to know them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 12:23 PM
1

Can confirm; has happened to me more than once.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 12:21 PM
1

Yikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 11:19 AM
0

This has been my experience too.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 04:40 AM
2

I'm sure the feeling is mutual.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 04:33 AM
1

I find cheating despicable, but if you read her comments, the husband literally raped her...
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/23 08:38 AM
-2

If you're so uninvolved in your kids' lives that you'll only attend doctor appointments and parent-teacher conferences under threat of divorce, then you're a shitty, absent parent who probably shouldn't have equal custody.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/23 08:17 AM
-14

Nah she's right lol, this post is a bit pathetic.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/23 08:06 AM
1

Oh dear, how will the women of the world recover from this crushing blow!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 09:16 PM
1

This is such rubbish that I can only feel sad for you, OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 09:12 PM
1

The last time I let my guard down and smiled at a guy like that in passing, he literally sprinted up the escalator behind me and cornered me outside my apartment to ask for my number. After maybe one second of eye contact, total. So yeah, I don't smile at dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 03:53 AM
14

It took me way too long to figure out that WT = white trash 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 11:10 PM
2

Honestly, I find the whole language of "low value" to be gross, whether it's applied to men or women. People are always redeemable and have the potential to change and improve themselves, however unlikely it may seem. Putting that aside for a moment, I suppose I would consider "low value" traits to be things like: Cruelty; unkindness; lack of empathy; lack of regard for others (especially the vulnerable like children, animals, etc.); selfishness. No real interests or passions; no curiosity about…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 09:58 PM
1

Sage advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 06:13 AM
1

I hear older women (like 50+) talking about how freeing and liberating this is all the time. Personally, I'm kinda looking forward to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 05:38 AM
3

Gave me a good laugh, I must admit.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 09:57 PM
2

I was going to suggest that perhaps those hotter women were into your personality, but clearly that isn’t the case lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 09:20 PM
1

Yes! I relate to this completely, thank you for explaining it so well.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 09:15 PM
1

Some women allow themselves to be gassed up by it, yes. On the other hand, many of us have a realistic view of ourselves and find it extremely cringe.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 09:09 PM
2

Fucking this!!! Just reading “nice tits” makes my vagina drier than the Mojave (nuclear winter notwithstanding).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 09:02 PM
2

This, omg!! I’ll go out looking feral as a defense mechanism and it still doesn’t work.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 08:50 PM
0

I mean, those subreddits are misogynistic, and judging by your post history, so are you. There’s a happy medium to be found between pathetically worshipping women and straight up hating them. We’re just people, for christ’s sake, as complex and varied as you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 08:48 PM
1

Hell, you may well be right. Personally, I find the 1-10 rating system facile since attraction is such a subjective thing. I don’t think of people in those terms myself, although it seems to the preferred nomenclature here, so when in Rome, etc. You’re free to think what you like; all I can tell you is that I’ve enjoyed a very successful dating/sex life with pretty much anyone of my choosing, and am now in a happy LTR with a wonderful man with whom I intend to spend the rest of my life. I really…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 08:43 PM
1

No, we’re saying stop blowing smoke up women’s asses in a pitiful and extremely transparent attempt to get laid. There’s a happy medium to be found before you jump straight to negging.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 08:32 PM
1

I can only speak for myself, but personally I find it much more meaningful to be complimented on any of those things rather than my looks, which are largely due to a roll of the genetic die and so mostly out of my hands anyway. It basically just translates to “I want to fuck you,” which is really not as flattering as most dudes seem to think.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 05:47 AM
-1

Aka 90% of posts on this subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 09:08 PM
25

Yep yep yep to all of this! I don’t even post lewds/nudes, just the odd dorky selfie on insta, and I still get random dudes all the time sending me the most ridiculous compliments. Had an Uber driver recently tell me I’m the most beautiful woman he’s ever seen... Meanwhile, over in reality, I’m a 7 at best. It’s extremely cringe, especially when you just know they’re saying the same to probably every other woman they encounter. I see how some women would get a big head over it. Dudes are just to…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 09:02 PM
2

Disagree. Therapy can do wonders if you’re willing to be introspective and put in the (admittedly, often very hard) work. My partner and I both come from broken homes and troubled backgrounds with significant traumas, and we have a very healthy and loving relationship of 8 years with no toxic behaviours. No cheating, no fighting, no lying; hell, we’ve never even yelled at each other. We talk about everything and try to help each other be better and grow as people. If anything, I’d argue that we …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 04:01 PM
6

Women are to blame for everything, it seems.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 03:27 PM
5

My point, which you've clearly missed, is that it makes little sense to blame the single mothers who actually stick around and do the extremely hard work of raising their kids. Blame the deadbeat dads who shirk their parenting duties while carelessly popping out kids by multiple women - maybe they should step the fuck up and actually try to be fathers.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 03:25 PM
12

Nah, hard disagree. My younger brother was raised by a single mother with two older sisters. He saw how our father fucked off with a younger woman and put in the bare minimum effort as a parent. He saw how our mother worked herself to the bone day and night to provide for us and give us a decent life, alongside her unconditional love. He’s in his late 20s now and is one of the most empathic, kind, and compassionate men I have ever known, and has many close female (and male) friends. Single mothe…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 12:10 PM
1

I couldn’t agree more. My partner is my best friend and it’s fantastic! I only wish everyone could find this same happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 12:33 AM
2

If an objective standard of beauty existed, by its very definition wouldn’t it be so self-evident that everyone would have to agree?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 11:32 AM
1

My comment said nothing about “being mean”. Of course some women are; they’re a complex and diverse group of human beings, some of whom are undoubtedly terrible people. The fact that you would compare “being mean” to behaviours like stalking, harassment, and assault is a clear demonstration of the cognitive dissonance many men seem to have about predatory male behaviour. I don’t care if someone is mean to me, I care if they’re actively trying to harm me - which, before you call me dramatic, has …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 11:27 AM
2

Disagree. I’m bi and I find her much more attractive. It’s cute that you think your personal opinion is the objective one, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 11:09 AM
1

Have you also noticed that these female protagonists are usually absurdly good looking? And often scantily clad or in clothing that goes transparent when wet, which for some reason happens all the time? Why do you think that might be? And who is directing these kind of films - hot tip, it’s mostly men, and they’re also the intended audience. I’d suggest reading some feminist film theory which discusses this phenomenon in detail, although somehow I suspect you wouldn’t be open to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 11:07 AM
1

Don’t go getting me excited now.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 10:55 AM
1

In what universe is Michael Cera "the best", lol. He's not remotely attractive, the main actress is decidedly out of his league.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:55 AM
1

You can't possibly be this obtuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:49 AM
1

Lol nah, this is absolutely not true. Just off the top of my head, horror films that have a male protagonist: Signs; Sinister; Get Out; Final Destination; Saw; Hostel; The Collector; Evil Dead; The Thing; Jeepers Creepers. In addition, let me assure you that horror films are not casting hot women to appeal to their female audience.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:48 AM
1

If you are consistently finding the male leads in everything you watch more attractive, perhaps you are just more attracted to men?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:38 AM
1

I mean, have you considered that you might just be more attracted to men?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:36 AM
1

Yeah, this sounds about right.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 06:07 AM
4

I'm standoffish to the point of rudeness with strange men because experience has taught me that anything less is likely to be interpreted as interest. It's a shame, and isn't in my nature as an otherwise warm and friendly person, but the risk simply isn't worth it. On the other hand, I'm perfectly polite and friendly to women because as yet none of them have taken this as an invitation to assault/harass/stalk/bother me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 01:21 AM
3

This is such a lovely comment to read on this cesspool of a subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 03:34 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter