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1	Alimony for life? Is that a real thing? Is anybody unfortunate enough to be in that group right now? Probably applies to long marriages, where one of the partners has few job skills, or is sick or elderly. I don't think it is common.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/06/26 05:15 PM
2	Does one have to date ? No. Follow what your body and mind are telling you. Maybe your feeling will change some day, maybe not.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/05/26 02:06 PM
6	Amicable split talk feels like a trap Mediator is actually a VERY good idea. That will ultimately cost you much less and preserve what little relationship is left - over a lawyer - as they tend to get adversarial and expensive quickly. A good mediator knows when to escalate up to a lawyer and will tell you both should that be nessesary. Mediators can help you agree on child support, alimony, and property division, and help you write up and file the agreements and paperwork yourselves (Pro Se Divorce.) However, if there are kids, chi…	/r/Divorce_Men	11/05/26 02:47 PM
2	Why is “work on yourself and maybe she’ll notice” always the advice when a wife wants a divorce? Your fate has been sealed for awhile now. Prepare my friend, that is your path forward.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/08/25 04:20 AM
1	My wife has gone insane. Mania? This sounds like the behavior of a paranoid schizophrenic. If you care for her at all, get her to a mental health professional. Don't self diagnose with Internet strangers.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/08/25 02:14 PM
2	Seeking stories of couples who are on indefinite separation for the sole purpose of not getting divorced. How did you pursue this? How does it work? Please read body text. This.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/07/25 04:32 AM
3	Has anyone else experienced this sudden 180 from breadcrumbing to intense sex + emotional whiplash? Classic BPD. Be careful. You are in for a wild ride.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/07/25 03:01 AM
6	Couples Counseling…has it ever worked for anyone? If I remember right, Gotmann's research showed success (varied methodologies) to be abysmally low at two year mark and considerably worse at the five year mark. Very worth reading or listening to their "10 Principals For Effective Couples Therapy" book for what is proven to work and under what conditions. Based on research not anecdotes. Basically, it can work if both are committed, honest with themselves and each other, humble, and follow some proven paths. AND... the counciller is VERY skilled…	/r/Divorce_Men	03/10/24 09:26 PM
4	She wants a divorce after 40 years r/graydivorce	/r/Divorce_Men	30/09/24 09:29 PM
1	Do I lawyer up 1st? Or try to talk to her about an uncontested divorce? It depends - do you think she will behave equitably, and do you value the relationship going forward? Mediation would be far preferable to lawyers, provided you can come to some agreement and stick with that. If none of that works, burn it all down with lawyers.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/05/21 05:06 PM
4	Inheritance Why would you be entitled to a portion of something that was directed to her?	/r/Divorce_Men	29/05/20 02:37 PM
1	Separation If one spouse provides health insurance, the other can keep it while separated. That's about the only benefit, unless there is some chance you will get back together at some point with your spouse.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/11/19 02:46 PM