Philip Zimbardo (of the Stanford Prison Experiment fame) did studies into this. His conclusions were to quit playing video games and quit watching porn. Video games give a perspective that if I do steps 1 through 99 perfectly, I will get the princess at the end. And, because of porn, the princess will have sex with me right away.
This is Reddit, and even though this TRP, the Obamas are off-limits for direct criticism. Perhaps use her surname, or the phrase the wife of the current President.