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4

Don’t apologize. He needs to hear that
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 10:46 PM
3

I understand. 28 years is a good chunk of your life. Yall grew up and took on life together. You’ll get through it. Don’t go over the edge with substance abuse or not taking care of your health. Granted it will leave a scar that will probably never heal. But now you can reinvent yourself. Do things you’re passionate about. Get out there and meet new people. Relocate to a new town. Take more trips. It may not be better but just different. Accept it, embrace it and move forward.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/26 09:24 PM
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Yes I had written everything up. She kept more assets but left my retirement alone. She agreed. Well her woman lawyer convinced her to get part of my pension she was entitled too by law. So she gets about 1/3 of my monthly pension payments for the rest of her life, to share with her pos boyfriend she was screwing around with while we were married. Sickening. Women are the devil
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/26 01:05 AM
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Depends. Do you want to work on your marriage? Are there kids involved? Can you forgive her and move forward? Personally, I’d get a lawyer first and file, then confront her.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/26 06:10 PM
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Even though she was a habitual liar, adulterer and abused our child, Ill take my 50%.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/26 02:50 AM
12

Um no. Hate to tell you. She was involved with this guy while yall were still together
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/26 07:22 PM
2

Help him? Personally I hope the pos that helped break up my marriage and is with my ex gets all the bad stuff he deserves
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 01:51 AM
2

You never forget. But you have to move forward.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/26 02:35 AM
3

Most times I didnt know who I was when I was with her.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/26 05:23 AM
2

Infidelity
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/26 01:11 AM
4

I was also 20 years. Most times it was dysfunctional. She cheated and filed in the end. 1 adult child involved.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/26 08:00 PM
3

Not much hurts like finding out your wife is screwing someone else. Anxiety, not sleeping, not eating. It takes a while but it does get better
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/26 02:26 AM
2

😁
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/26 10:07 PM
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You need Jesus
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/26 04:54 AM
8

Dude, she didn’t just replace you in a week. Its obviously been going on a while longer than that
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/26 12:27 AM
2

Probably Vegas area. Lots going on besides gambling.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/26 03:49 AM
2

I was once told that most divorced people get with someone afterwards for one of three reasons - substitution, desperation or convenience.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/26 09:36 PM
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Everything you said is true. But it does get easier with time. You do have to move forward. That doesn't mean things are gonna be great or you'll forget about those times. It leaves a bad scar. It stays in your memories. You can find a replacement or substitute but its never the same. I know Im probably better off but most times it doesn't feel like it
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/26 03:50 PM
3

Thats too funny!
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/26 09:47 PM
7

I;ve seen others do it and be successful. We separated and got back together only to divorce years later.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/26 03:01 PM
1

You never will. But it gets easier to deal with
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/26 11:18 PM
1

They tend to suck for older people.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/26 11:05 PM
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I married (first and only) at 35 and divorced at 55. Dated off and on for 10 years. It just never felt right for another long term relationship or marriage. The things you go through with your wife- buying a home, starting and raising a family, job promotions, family holidays and trips - are over. Now it would just be to have someone to be with. But at 65 Ive decided that’s it. Im done. Im focusing on me, my child and my family and friends.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/26 04:03 AM
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Seriously wont do this for your kid?
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/26 02:36 AM
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Most of us have been there. It gets better. You have to survive and fight through it for a few months or a couple years sometimes. Work on yourself. Get better at your job. Learn a new skill. Maybe a new hobby or part time job to fill in the spare time. Get more involved in your daughter’s life. And don’t hookup with the first woman you meet.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/26 04:49 AM
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Take the dog to the vet at your convenience. He’s probably on his last leg. 10 years isn’t a bad run for a dog. Don’t let him suffer too long. Does the 19 year old have a job? Have him help out with the dog expenses
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/26 10:17 PM
1

I tried - also in LA - going back after 5 years. And was shutdown by my lawyer. The community property was settled and agreed too. Decree is signed but a lawyer can always try to fight it. Depends if there is a precedent and a judge will hear it. Good luck. Btw Im not a lawyer just did a lot of research online and worked with a lawyer on my divorce
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/26 03:32 AM
1

I found out about my ex's adultery about a year after the divorce. Even though I suspected it. She was a good liar and as her husband I reasonably trusted her. She's been living with the guy ever since. It makes me sick to think about it because she gets part of my pension every month. The ex-wife of the guy told me about everything. She said she didn't want to tell me while my ex and I were still together as to not affect our child. Dammit. If I had known sooner I would have fought the property…
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/26 04:30 PM
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I gave mine the house as part of the settlement to keep her from getting more of my retirement.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/26 02:49 AM
2

Nights are gonna be tough. Like sports? Go to sporting events maybe a sports bar - you don’t have to drink alcohol. Use a delivery app for a side job. Volunteering is a good one. Have a hobby or need a hobby? Find a local group. If you just want to stay home there are things to do online - work remotely, start a website or blog, trade crypto, even volunteer.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/26 04:40 AM
4

Just her family members that acted like my friends. Didn’t miss them a bit and still don’t. Also left the town we lived in and moved back to my hometown, which she always hated. Im happy to be with real friends and family again.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/26 10:12 PM
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Move to another town. Start a new life there, putting yourself first. Learn a new skill. Work a side job. Find a new hobby. Make new friends. No need for another woman yet. Life is good brother.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/25 11:33 PM
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Women these days are all about themselves. They sre all about their feelings and emotions. Maybe she needs to go to work? Probably you’ll never be good enough for her.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/25 02:59 AM
3

Aw man so sorry. I hate her too! But don’t bankrupt yourself. Maybe try to be your own lawyer is you can’t afford one. Do what you can to stop it. But don’t end up broke. Those are always your kids too. You’ll have to do what you can to be in their lives. Btw how old are they?
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/25 02:04 AM
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What if they had a father but he wasn’t very masculine? Btw society has taught women that masculine men are bad. And on the flip side society has taught women to be less feminine.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/25 04:15 AM
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If she files before you she will have a restraining order and you’ll have to move out. She can tell her lawyer anything, whether true or not, to get what she wants. Btw I divorced at 55. First and only marriage. Im not going through that again. It hurt too much both physically and financially
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/25 03:20 AM
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Ridiculous. Someone should kicked that judges butt. Im so sorry this happened to you.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/25 02:08 AM
2

And let's not forget the other guilty party - what kind of POS gets involved with a married woman?
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/25 08:55 PM
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Dude you can’t dwell on it. It’ll wear you down. Accept it. Move on. It hurts but will get better with time. There’ll always be a scar. And adultery is evil.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/25 06:10 PM
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I divorced at 55. Almost broke me. Luckily child was 18 and spousal support was only 1 year. 7 years of working a lot and maxing out my 401k Im retired, all while supporting my child through college. I don’t have a lot but she was a money suck. Not sure where Id be financially if we had stayed together.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/25 04:54 AM
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I moved back to my hometown. Our only child moved about 4 years later to another state. No worries ever about running into her or her pos adulterous boyfriend. I visit my child regularly with no worries also. You know what you should do.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/25 03:50 AM
1

A stbx wife lied!?
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 05:31 AM
3

Get your own lawyer. This lawyer works for her
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/25 02:25 AM
1

All online? Probably a bot.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/25 12:27 AM
3

Could be worse. She could've been dating while you were married - like mine did! Women can be the scourge of men.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/25 12:41 PM
1

Unless she filed a restraining order, go home. Learn to be honest. Have her block the porn for you.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/25 03:12 AM
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Yes. I was just discussing this with someone the other day. This has been going on for decades.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/25 02:17 PM
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Women can be evil. I came home to an empty house one evening. My stbx had taken our small child and left. I couldn’t find here so I called the cops. When they showed up I was told she had called them to report me getting physical with her. They had come and watched while she packed and left. I told the cop that’s a lie and I hadn’t been home from work yet. I told him this was my childs home, so this should be abduction and what can I do. He told me get a lawyer. Your wife left you and you can’t …
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/25 02:41 AM
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If it's a mental health issue you need to coax her to seek help. You setup the appointments. Go with her if you have to. I'm sure meds and counseling would help her. Unless you're just done with the marriage. But be prepared to pay her some kind of alimony and give up at least half your assets.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/25 05:14 PM
2

Gonna lose half brother
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/25 08:28 PM
0

Of course they are aware. But I would never leave my kids. Wife might just need therapy and meds.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/25 11:31 PM
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Id stay at least til the kids get 18. Your kids deserve better. Man, its a marriage. Better or worse.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/25 09:58 PM
2

Yes do it. Can’t you just sign off and be done? I mean generally the state laws try to be fair - although we know the woman wins. She can only get what law allows. Maybe get together with her lawyer to negotiate the final. But is it worth the aggravation and money to keep fighting?
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/25 02:21 AM
1

I found facebook dating to be bad. Paid accounts on Bumble and Match were good for me.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 08:39 PM
8

She has probably been on there for a while longer than that. My no-good ex was carrying on a relationship with a coworker for years and I had no idea until after we spit up. I'll admit it leaves a scar, but it does get better. ETA - We were married 20 years.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 08:27 PM
2

I was implying someone closer than that
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 02:27 PM
8

Sounds like she’s been seeking someone else’s opinion and input. Good luck brother. Most of us here have been there. It gets better just takes time. Stop blaming yourself it takes 2.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 04:05 AM
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Yes. It left me scarred for life and angry at her and her adulterous bf. Plus I love my child but when I visit it stirs up bad memories and feelings from the past. I enjoy our visits but I also leave feeling sad.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 02:04 AM
9

That’s what evil ex wifes do unfortunately.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/25 06:26 PM
1

Maybe the ex wife talked you down to them. You should move. Whats stopping you?
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/25 02:12 AM
11

A real man is not a lying adulterer who destroys a family
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/25 01:45 AM
1

Im an advocate for the Dad and it hurts to hear this. The courts need to do a better job of giving the Dad equal rights instead of the guilty until proven innocent type assessment. All she has to do is lie and they believe her
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/25 08:12 PM
1

Dude its not a competition. Your best recourse is to move on and live your best life. Worrying about her and her pos adulterous boyfriend will only hold you back
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/25 02:02 AM
11

Feel bad for her or me? I feel bad that my son and I continue to suffer because of her.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/25 01:47 AM
1

Record conversations. Take any pictures necessary. Make notes
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/25 01:45 AM
1

I found out about a year after divorce. I was distraught. Our marriage wasn’t good and dysfunctional at times. But 20 years is hard to give up on. I know Im better off now away from all that. But 10 years later it still hurts
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/25 10:01 PM
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