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OYS 12 Stats: 34, 1m80, 80kg, bf 19%, wife 36 sahm, married 5 years, 2 kids 3,5 and 1 Lifts kg: SQ: 120 BP: 91 OHP: 59 DL: 140 chin-ups: bw 3x10 Reading: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx1,5, MMSLP, TRM, POOK, TWOTSMx2, SGM, HTWFAIP, PFP, Unchained man, Manipulated man, Models, Bang, 48lop(paused), currently rereading POOK Last OYS I identified my insecurities as the final obstacle to having satisfying sex. I think I was on the right track. So I wrote down a laundry list of all my insecurities about sex, to pos…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/21 09:33 AM
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I was never alpha, but was having pornstar sex before marriage. Same shit, my ego can't let this go and I keep feeling entitled.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/21 07:11 PM
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Have you gotten your free testosterone, test, and E2 checked? Are you not attracted to your wife or women in general? I never got my T checked. I am very attracted to my wife and women in general. Some things make me think I don't have T problems (never any ED problems even when drunk, I can get hard just by looking at her or hugging her), while others could be symptoms (minimal body hair, looking very young, fatigued often). But I definitely want to check it just out of curiosity. It could be a…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/21 09:02 AM
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OYS 11 Stats: 34, 1m80, 80kg, bf 19%, wife 36 sahm, married 5 years, 2 kids 3,5 and 1 Lifts kg: SQ: 120 BP: 90 OHP: 58 DL: 137,5 chin-ups: bw x10 Reading: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx1,5, MMSLP, TRM, POOK, TWOTSMx2, SGM, HTWFAIP, PFP, Unchained man, Manipulated man, Models, Bang, 48lop(paused), currently rereading POOK Style: I didn't buy new clothes since the start of the pandemic, except a pair of trousers and a few tshirts. This week I threw out my old tops and sweaters, and for the first time ever I sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/21 09:50 AM
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Talking too much is a manifestation of insecurity and scarcity. You want to control people, situations, outcomes, because you believe it's your only shot at something so you have to make the most of it. Someone who has abundance, is cool, stoic, knows that he can get his needs met, so he lets life unfold and takes it as it is, and has fun with it. While you can't yet achieve the latter, at least try to think how the former looks from your wife's perspective. STFU to just not appear unattractive …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/21 12:06 PM
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There is a lot for me to process in your response, but I just wanted to say that you made me see the light about one thing: I have been trying to replicate the causal link between my actions and her reactions big time. But this ensured I was never fully authentic, I was always trying to capture what it was and experiment until I got it back, whether consciously or not. This explains why the pornstar sex never lasts. Everytime I think I stop being a dancing monkey, I become a new one shortly afte…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/21 03:02 PM
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Damn, you're right. I thought that after revisiting this post 4 times at different points in my journey and gaining new understandings would mean I was past this, but I guess not.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/21 05:28 AM
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Ha you got that right, had the every unhappy wife is a rape victim post in my mind when I was telling her to forget it. But given our history of me doing retarded stuff, there is the slight possibility that she's scared and wants to avoid my antics, so I prefer to be on the safe side. But maybe I am misreading it and the problem wouldn't have arisen if I had just started going after what I wanted nonverbally as you say.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/21 05:25 AM
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I am at the experimentation phase to see what gives me the best results. Using tactics, being my true honest self no matter the circumstances, or something in between. The difference is that now I accept my core self, which wasn't the case before, but I also accept that when it comes to women there may be some games involved.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/21 05:14 AM
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While this was more of an experiment in flexing the idgaf muscle, you are right about all the other little covert things I had in there as well. The veiled asking for permission, the initiating not out of genuine desire, the cc. I reread your initiations: why you're not funny post, replacing it with overtness, and I am definitely protecting my ego still. It's as if I haven't yet accepted that things have deteriorated and she lost attraction. I am still clinging to the times before marriage when …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/21 04:40 AM
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The manning 101 post was exactly what I was thinking of when I did it. Maybe I took it too literally, and maybe I'm not there yet. But overtly initiating is out of character for me. I normally do it either by grabbing or looking at her. Doing it verbally makes me nervous and uncomfortable, I wanted to push myself to a new edge, and wanted to flex my newfound ability to not think about what others think and put myself first. Now will I stick with this method? I like that it trains my idgaf muscle…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/21 04:23 AM
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OYS 10 Stats: 34, 1m80, 80kg, bf 19%, wife 36 sahm, married 5 years, 2 kids 3,5 and 1 Lifts kg: SQ: 117,5 BP: 89 OHP: 58 DL: 137,5 chin-ups: bw x10 Reading: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx1,5, MMSLP, TRM, POOK, TWOTSMx2, SGM, HTWFAIP, PFP, Unchained man, Manipulated man, Models, Bang, 48lop(paused), currently rereading POOK Lifting: Slowly approaching 3x10 bw chin ups, currently at 10,10, 8. SL website then says to switch to 3x5 weighted. But 3x5 +1kg each time sounds like it will be much easier than 3x10 bw …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/21 09:11 AM
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If you want to keep this girl long term, go out and meet some new girls while you're away. This will kill your neediness for your oneitis that you're so scared to lose, and you will exude a natural abundance. Otherwise she will feel that you can't do better than her, and you're indeed settling. Don't play games with her but if you indeed have high smv as you claim, naturally occuring dread from this will be to your advantage.
/r/askMRP18/04/21 08:14 AM
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You just found the place. Work your way through the program to kill that neediness, there is still hope for you from the sound of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/21 09:34 AM
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Do you think that I get the frequent shower sex because it's a convenient way to shut me up? Yes The only thing I really did do wrong up until I started reading, was that I kept imploring and annoying her about my desire for more sex. Of all the bad things you could have done this is the worst.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/21 09:20 AM
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Betaization process. Read PFP. It's preprogrammed, it seems, unless you fight it tooth and nail. I read it, and since I saw myself as a lifelong beta, I thought it didn't apply to me (like half the sidebar on first read...). It's only when I had a few more of these instances of great spontaneous sex, that it started reminding me of myself. but the good thing about relationship equity not existing and women being in their feelings is that long run it won't really matter. Yes exactly, as I replied…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/21 05:03 AM
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Because you’re all talk , just like a women. She’s confused and repulsed because you’re not acting like a man. Yes it's true. I wish I could stop the cycle somehow. Where I am at right now is great. To follow your boat analogy, it's more like I am jumping from a leaky old boat to a brand new yacht an back again over the course of my MRP journey. Right now I'm on the yacht. It's not a continuum for me, but a binary almost schizophrenic change between where I don't want to be, talking and insecure…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/21 04:33 AM
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OYS 9 Stats: 33, 1m80, 80kg, bf 19%, wife 36 sahm, married 5 years, 2 kids 3,5 and 1 Lifts kg: SQ: 117,5 BP: 88 OHP: 58 DL: 137,5 chin-ups: bw x10 Reading: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx1,5, MMSLP, TRM, POOK, TWOTSMx2, SGM, HTWFAIP, PFP, Unchained man, Manipulated man, Models, Bang, 48lop(paused), currently rereading POOK Lifting: 3x week going well, was apprehensive about shortened recovery time, but exercising through the muscle soreness makes it go away faster. Diet: Turned down having a beer after work o…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/21 12:22 PM
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Thanks for making me see my blind spot. I thought it was lack of experience or lack of certain natural or learned traits, but it's definitely insecurity. Probably seeps in every other area as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/21 02:53 PM
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You are a faggot. I guess I am, but curious as to what makes you say it exactly?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/21 11:35 AM
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Wtf?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/21 06:56 PM
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I don't agree that dirty bulks are fine. Here's something to consider. When the body adds fat cells, they never go away. Didn't know that, thanks. Plus I definitely have room to make the bulk cleaner anyway. I also think you're timing your cut wrong. Argh, you're right, I may have miscalculated. Still I decided for the first time since being more serious about lifting, to start lifting 3x week instead of 2x, as part of the 60DoD. I want to ride that momentum and keep increasing my strenght for t…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/21 05:12 AM
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I mean, we're all here to fix our fee-fees, right? For now I will definitely take fixing my fee-fees. It's WISNIFG's and the verbal assertive skills whole premise: to feel better about oneself, to feel less at war with ourselves. For this alone I am grateful I found this place. I get what you're saying though, the situation shouldn't happen in the first place. Because we're all about throwing away authenticity in favor of dancing for whatever works too. I chose my words poorly. I need to stop tr…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 01:49 PM
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You care enough from the sounds of it. You're scared. Good catch, thanks. Adding Extreme Ownership as next on my list.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 01:09 PM
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Thanks. Extreme Ownership has been on my radar for some time but I was put off by reviews saying it's mostly fun war stories, but not much in terms of transferable advice. Seeing it recommended in this context is making me reconsider, adding it as next read on my list.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 01:07 PM
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OYS 8 Stats: 33, 1m80, 80kg, bf 19%, wife 36 sahm, married 5 years, 2 kids 3,5 and 1 Lifts kg: SQ: 115 BP: 87 OHP: 57 DL: 137,5 chin-ups: bw x10 Reading: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx1,5, MMSLP, TRM, POOK, TWOTSMx2, SGM, HTWFAIP, PFP, Unchained man, Manipulated man, Models, Bang, 48lop(paused), currently rereading POOK Physical: I'm starting to get noticeably fatter around the belly, but I will continue dirty bulking for now. I will do a cut when t-shirt season starts in 1-2 months. Let my self go a bit wit…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 09:28 AM
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I'm in. Switching from 2x week to 3x week. Time to stop being a smartass and fall in line.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/21 02:40 PM
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For limbic conditioning, I'm doing exercises and meditation to try to overcome my adrenaline response to stupid shit. I'm struggling here a lot. Does anyone know good resources? WISNIFG has the cure. I missed it on my first read, maybe you did too. I used up my kindle copy limit but check page 100. The key is to actually PRACTICE the assertive verbal skills, in order to reprogram your anxiety responses, even for when they do not happen in conversation.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/21 10:21 AM
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OYS 7 Stats: 33, 1m80, 78kg, bf 17%, wife 36 sahm, married 5 years, 2 kids 3,5 and 1 Lifts kg: SQ: 115 BP: 86 OHP: 56 DL: 135 chin-ups: bw x10 Reading: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx1,5, MMSLP, TRM, POOK, TWOTSMx2, SGM, HTWFAIP, PFP, Unchained man, Manipulated man, Models, Bang, 48lop(paused), currently rereading POOK Figuring out why I couldn't OYS every week was a dragon to slay in itself. I tried to attribute it to autism, being already good enough, stubornness, having to learn the hard way etc,. but it's…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 02:24 PM
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At least you're self aware enough you're full of covert contracts. But that's still not a lot of progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/21 06:27 PM
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However, can this marriage be saved and turned around? Or is this a case where it is too late and I need to look past the horizon once I've rebuilt myself as a man? It doesn't matter. As long as you're trying to figure it out you will be stuck as a dancing monkey, and it will hold back your self improvement because you will be putting in just enough effort to trigger her reaction, instead of realizing your full potential. The stay plan is the go plan. You do this for you.
/r/askMRP15/03/21 12:41 PM
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Nobody gives a shit you failed a rep. The only unattractive thing is how you are handling it, being so insecure. If you were further along in your journey you'd just laugh it off. Read the section on negative assertion from WISNIFG a few times.
/r/askMRP25/02/21 05:38 AM
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OYS 6 Stats: 33, 1m80, 78kg, bf 17%, wife 36 sahm, married 5 years, 2 kids under 4 and 1 Lifts kg: SQ: 110 BP: 82 OHP: 54 DL: 132,5 Reading: NMMNGx2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, TRM, POOK, TWOTSMx2, SGM, HTWFAIP, PFP, Unchained man, Manipulated man, Models, Bang, 48lop(paused), currently rereading WISNIFG Mental: I've been depressed a lot lately and I suspect it has to do with my journey. Last realization was when I caught myself phantasizing she did cheat on me (there was some social flirting with my frien…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/21 12:41 PM
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OYS 5 Stats: 33, 1m80, 74kg, bf 17%, wife 36 sahm, married 5 years, 2 kids under 4 and 1 Lifts kg: SQ: 105 BP: 74 ROW: 66 OHP: 52 DL: 130 Reading: NMMNGx2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, TRM, POOK, TWOTSMx2, SGM, HTWFAIP, PFP, Unchained man, Manipulated man, Models, Bang, 48lop(paused), currently rereading WISNIFG. Mental: Internalising my assertive rights. Not being afraid to fail anymore because I can cope with someone disagreeing. Trying new things. Being more assertive everyday with wife, family, coworkers…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/20 08:15 AM
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[2:10 PM] Wife: but i am sorry its my work that is causing you and your family stress "don't worry, they're used to you by now" The general method is, focus on the bit that you disagree with/is ridiculous/where she tries to manipulate you by playing on your emotions, and go along with it, amplify it to point out how ridiculous the premise is But in general texting sucks, if she doesn't see your shit eating grin while you deliver this line it can get misinterpreted.
/r/askMRP22/12/20 05:44 PM
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They all lie. As long as she didn't do any funny stuff while you were together, I don't see why her past is a problem. Stop trying to pry it out from her, it just shows your insecurity. As another poster on TRP said, she doesn't even sound that bad with her trying threesomes with you. Her not giving you her best sex? Lead to make it happen. Head over to the sidebar on this sub, because you need it. With that said, you have no kids, and on the sliding scale of AWALT it's clear you can find more s…
/r/askMRP22/12/20 06:31 AM
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Great analogy, which works with a lot of things. When I play guitar by myself, I pull off some awesome stuff with feeling, totally into it, surprising even myself. Then someone enters the room: "I wonder how I sound" "Let's play this overused lick so they really understand I can play solos" "Do I sound badass enough?" "Does my skill show through? Let's play some fast stuff I barely practiced" As a result I play some sloppy mess trying to impress rather than play actual music.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/20 11:49 AM
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OYS 4 Stats: 33, 1m80, 73kg, bf 17%, wife 36 sahm, married 5 years, 2 kids under 4 and 1 Lifts kg: SQ: 105 BP: 73 ROW: 65 OHP: 52 DL: 130 Reading: NMMNGx2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, TRM, POOK, TWOTSMx2, SGM, HTWFAIP, PFPFTPM, Unchained man, Manipulated man, Models, Bang, 48lop(paused), currently rereading WISNIFG. Sex: Zero. Had 2 occasions but turned them down. First time I actually initiated by accident, getting naked before she finished her make up, smirking at her insolently just for fun. She came bac…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/20 07:43 PM
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Welcome to extra hard mode. You have to thread the needle between red pill, putting yourself and your self respect first, and the genetically ingrained need to protect your family, not to mention all the social conditioning that makes you wonder what's the right thing to do. From personnal experience, I would ease off a little on the building of a life outside of home, and the pushing for frequency of sex, until her cycle comes back. Our infant is 8 months old, my wife is still breastfeeding so …
/r/askMRP12/12/20 12:59 PM
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I don't want to work out with an empty stomach, but you are right in that this is just an excuse. If I really wanted to I would have made it happen.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/20 08:27 PM
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We fuck once a week, enthusiastically. Frequency is what it is with small kids, however quality is not where I want it to be. She gradually stopped doing certain things, when I confronted her after a few years, she said because religion. I don't believe her. I was unattractive, she probably just wanted an unattackable alibi. I want these things back. You are absolutely right with the analysis paralysis. I do actually keep a journal of my progress that I update daily, already 50 pages of notes in…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/20 08:24 PM
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This is the final stretch. That's why I started posting again. I nuked my progress on purpose and went back to being beta when she was pregnant with our second kid and during the early infancy, because I have trouble calibrating due to my autism (I've done some stupid shit right after finding this place), so I wanted to stay on the safe side. During this time I focused mostly on the mental models, and I had a lot to unpack. I am now ready to use feedback.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/20 08:22 PM
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I then reached down and put my finger to her lips. “Shhhhh. I understand that you feel that you are entitled to be upset, but I will not be spoken to in this tone. Try again.” My wife stopped in her tracks and looked me dead in the eye, “If you don’t like the way I’m talking to you, then fucking do something about it!” I did what I thought was most prudent in the moment; I reached down, picked her up over my shoulders and tossed her onto the bed. As soon as she hit the bed she rolled over and st…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/20 07:43 PM
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She will respect you even less if you take her back. Red flag after red flag. No kids -> next
/r/askMRP08/12/20 02:49 PM
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OYS 3 Stats: 33, 1m80, 73kg, bf 17%, wife 36 sahm, married 5 years, 2 kids under 4 and 1 Lifts kg: SQ: 105 BP: 72 ROW: 65 OHP: 52 DL: 130 Reading: NMMNGx2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, TRM, POOK, TWOTSMx2, SGM, HTWFAIP, PFPFTPM, Unchained man, Manipulated man, Models, Bang, 48lop(paused) Currently rereading WISNIFG. It's like a completely different book after one year and a half of introspection and mental deconstruction. Career: I still occasionally deer on calls and justify why I do things and make such an…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/20 10:15 AM
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Ok, but then can something you just squeeze in between life commitments, still be your mission? I understood it's something you subordinate your life to.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 10:14 PM
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But you don't really want it. You don't really know what you want. You're right on both counts. Translation - I had an opportunity to try push myself to a new edge, but decided it would be easier to just keep doing what I am doing. I just can't understand why nothing is changing. To be honest the situation was already pretty novel and exciting, on the kitchen counter while our toddler was playing in another room, not sleeping, which is a first. But yeah it doesn't change the fact that I did not …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 10:09 PM
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Don't know your history but your ignoring her comes of as butthurt and autistic. She tries to shame you like a child by comparing to another child. Amused mastery would be perfect to nuke this, but you can't force it and have to be non-butthurt for it to work. Best to not create situations like this in the first place. If you don't feel like talking, can't you just "uhuh", "yeah", "mhm"? You don't even have to listen. Also, this is how nice guys are made, protecting mommy against bad daddy.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 09:12 PM
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In MMSLP there is a bit where he says women can increase their smv just by increasing their sexual availibility. So in your sexless marriage to a fat wife, if she were to give you a bj out of the blue, her smv would jump by a good 2 to 3 points, wouldn't you agree? What you're asking of her, loosing weight, takes way more effort than some sex stuff. What I'm getting at, looking at your stats, is you don't yet have the leverage to be demanding this. You lift for a bit and then look over your shou…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 08:11 PM
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OYS 2 Stats: 33, 1m80, 72kg, bf 17%, wife 36 sahm, married 5 years, 2 kids under 4 and 1 Lifts kg: SQ: 105 BP: 72 ROW: 64 OHP: 52 DL: 130 Reading: NMMNGx2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, TRM, POOK, TWOTSMx2, SGM, HTWFAIP, PFPFTPM, Unchained man, Manipulated man, Models, Bang. Vision and mission: I have this paralyzing baggage that I need to come to terms with. I keep thinking about the damage of my beta ways on the greater part of my life, of what could have been. Everything I have and do right now is the resu…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 08:30 AM
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Thanks man. My particular issue is I want more oral, and I'm not sure how to lead to this. But I like your escalation scenario, with backrubs and dirty talks, two things I'm not doing at all. I do grab her tits and ass all the time, but now I realize I don't take myself seriously when I do it, which might be the problem. I may be giving more of a starved horny teenager vibe because of this. So yeah, baby steps, got to be comfortable doing dirty talk before I get comfortable grabbing her hair and…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/20 05:21 AM
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Yes I am fully aware of that, but for now I prioritize my career and parenting, and getting enough sleep to perform both well. This situation will change eventually once kids grow up.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/20 06:17 AM
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"Borderline Rapey" Ha Dude she's your wife. Have you considered that she may just want to be taken? Have you considered that she may be designed for that? Keyword borderline. Obviously respect a hard no. Yeah I've considered that, but in the heat of the moment I think I am still paralyzed by fear of rejection, and stay on the safe vanilla sex route. Also get the fuck out of the house. Go lift. There's your excuse. That is not negotiable. Your new plausible excuse is because I want to. Forgot to …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/20 06:14 AM
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OYS Stats: 33, 1m80, 72kg, bf 17%, wife 36 sahm, married 5 years, 2 kids under 4 and 1 Lifts kg: SQ: 105 BP: 72 ROW: 64 OHP: 52 DL: 130 Reading: NMMNGx2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, TRM, POOK, TWOTSMx2, SGM, HTWFAIP, PFPFTPM, Unchained man, Manipulated man, Models, Bang. Currently reading 48LOP Lifelong beta, nice guy pushover, autistic. Found MRP in 02 2019 Mental: I think I stopped being a dancing monkey 2 weeks ago. I realized I was playing the game and wanted to win the prize. I was doing all the self i…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/20 08:46 PM
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