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I see some sort of red flag... I think she does enjoy sex a lot, she has called herself borderline sex addict. I think she may be a high libido low girl
/r/askTRP13/06/20 03:38 AM
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See reply above
/r/askTRP13/06/20 03:27 AM
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It’s not just the n count... it’s her behavior: She has had 6 of those be ONS, she has pole danced for a room full of dudes, she has had sex with 2 dudes one after the other (different room in college). She has admitted to fantasize about DP. It’s the whole package that makes her a high risk for me @harmonicpinch
/r/askTRP13/06/20 03:26 AM
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N of 7
/r/askTRP13/06/20 03:12 AM
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I usually do not... I have been on several relationships (including a very successful marriage). They all have been low n count, educated, hot nerd types. This is my first true slut gf, and yet she seems like potential to be a great partner and mother to my kids. My reasoning is, she is going to be my LTR wife/mother to my kids? Must be THOROUGHLY vetted. Though it may certainly have a self stem component, I am primarily doing my due diligence as she may be a long term investment
/r/askTRP13/06/20 03:12 AM
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Sorry mostly a lurker , not sure what I missed. Let me check the rules out. I reworded as seeking advice 👋
/r/askTRP13/06/20 01:54 AM
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Here is my 13-n count story: First off, I was very cautious when I started dating her as she seemed very sexual and easy. She volunteered her 13 n-count and this threw a lot of red flags for me... the first one was... yeA right, likely 13 x 5 might be the real number... After a year or so of dating, I have corroborated her 13 number by things she says but most importantly... I have luckily found her phone password and she keeps a list of the dudes she’s fucked. I am indeed #13. With that out of …
/r/askTRP13/06/20 01:12 AM
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I don’t think he is seeking anecdotal exceptions to the rule... I think he is looking for a correlation
/r/askTRP13/06/20 12:55 AM
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This is the best answer
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/20 05:24 PM
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No I don’t
/r/askTRP15/02/20 01:58 AM
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I agree in general, except she is the potential girl I’m trying to have kids with.
/r/askTRP14/02/20 10:40 PM
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Don’t agree with this statement. Making a guy jealous is a common shit test.
/r/askTRP14/02/20 09:55 PM
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Doesn’t really bother me, I have checked her phone a few times in the last year. Thoroughly clean and no red flags. But on the moment, the shock of finding out... I need to work on my poker face
/r/askTRP14/02/20 09:54 PM
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Ima male
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 05:20 PM
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We are twins!!!! I also have insecure syndrome towards my girlfriends and trust issues. This is despite having plenty of reassurance from them...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 12:01 AM
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Mmm... Interesting debate... I tend to side on the “Woman Orgasm” is primordial for a woman to see you as an Alpha male, Not much different than lifting. Woman know how hard is to find a top dick that gets them to climax. Their hamster brain will turn that into dread: If he fucks another gurl, she will love his dick and be addicted to it. Dom man know this in the BDSM community, pleasure is the key to owning a woman body and soul. Having said that... I still think that a woman could have the bes…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/19 04:06 PM
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Thanks, I have recently stumbled into this sub. I have also realized recently I live in constant fear...
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/19 06:51 PM
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Cuckold is a beta guy who accepts a girl cheating on him as a means to keep the girl: Cuck: If I turn a blind eye to my girl getting side dick once in a while, maybe she will stay with me rather than leave me for the better. When you add porn to the mix, beta guys begin by seeing videos of wife cheating and gangbang my girl, as a mixture of fear and curiosity... Eventually, they get turned on by the thought of the girl cheating, but also comforted that there is a way to at least KEEP the girl if…
/r/askTRP12/09/19 09:55 PM
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You are correct my friend...plus the combination of porn...
/r/askTRP12/09/19 09:34 PM
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I think wanting to get fucked in the ass by dick or dildos is actually harder to come back from than cuck... you came back from it, so cucks have a chance. My take on cuckold is this: for me, I am a betaish male (short, chubby, ok looking) but I have a big thick dick and amazing personality/game when engaged. Most of the time, however girls pass on me because of looks. But, those that take a chance on me, usually end up falling in Love hardcore as hell (had a girl be disowned by parents, a suici…
/r/askTRP12/09/19 09:24 PM
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I think Facebook is more of a “closer network”. The difference vs tinder OKC etc would be that you’d be matching with people already in your circle. Like a single coworker, or the guy who you liked in sophomore year in college. I think this could be a game changer, and also very disruptive towards already established relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/19 09:28 PM
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I believe that affection cannot really be negotiated... For girls , affection is usually an uncontrollable feeling that a girl will have for her significant other, usually heightened after s bonding activity, like sex. She either is not that kind of person OR she doesn’t feel that way towards you...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/19 11:26 PM
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This is so true... but how can you determine if you are the most alpha guy or not
/r/askTRP02/07/19 07:34 AM
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Urghh I might be in the same boat... always hiding her phone
/r/askTRP02/07/19 07:32 AM
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This sounds like where I may end up...
/r/askTRP27/06/19 04:50 PM
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What about picking a High Libido women. I can see that going two different ways: 1) No deadbedroom problems! Wohooo!!! OR 2) Loss of interest as anyone else due to familiarity. Her High Libido makes her find another guy, and the husband gets cucked. Do we have any data as to which one actually happens?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/19 01:44 AM
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Thanks for response! I do project outwardly that I am awesome. She just told me yesterday that I am the best thing that has happened to her. The issue is not that... I may have not made it clear that she has a semi slutty past. No cheating, but many partners and risky behavior. This is where I think it will fail.
/r/askTRP20/06/19 08:01 PM
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Yea, I plan to keep SMV high as possible, but realistically, she is way younger and better looking and not in need of money. I guess I’ll give it best shot...
/r/askTRP19/06/19 11:34 PM
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Examples?
/r/askTRP19/06/19 10:58 PM
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Thinking of 2-3 years of fun, then kids at 30-31.
/r/askTRP19/06/19 10:49 PM
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We have a chat room in which we talk about anything. I have always been well liked and respected. Until recently, since I became single, I started sharing my experiences in the dating world... It started as, you are going to fail because you are short and ugly... then I told them I had hooked up with this very hot girl... they thought it was a lie and clowned me to death for lying Then I showed them pics... and they were saying that she is using me for money... Then, I started telling them how I…
/r/askTRP12/06/19 07:29 PM
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I am, they just don’t think I’m good looking enough to pull the good looking girls I pull
/r/askTRP12/06/19 07:24 PM
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I am same as OP, my 7 became a 7.5 and now is close to a 9
/r/askTRP11/06/19 11:48 PM
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I gave same issue, low libido.
/r/askTRP11/06/19 11:43 PM
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I only smoke weed with girls... usually before sex... only then
/r/askTRP11/06/19 11:41 PM
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Why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/19 04:20 AM
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Me: RMV 8.5, SMV 5 Her: RMV 5.5, SMV 8.5
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/19 08:02 PM
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I kinda agree
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/19 04:37 PM
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He can order whatever he likes... His job is not to recommend food. This does not make him boring low effort. I order whatever drink I please and I dare not suggest any food to anyone as I don’t want to be responsible if it’s not liked, as taste is subjective. Your friend AND you are super offensible and out of touch with reality...
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 05:14 PM
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Interesting to divide the beta men into quartiles... I think I’m also in the upper quartile
/r/askTRP07/04/19 08:57 PM
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Yea, working on that
/r/askTRP03/04/19 07:05 PM
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Yea, I’m not going back on what I said and I will definitely not try to get in the plane, as that would be low key mate guarding and perceived as weak. I do have a couple of dread plans using other plates, a sort of taste of your own medicine. Could you elaborate on the red flags? We are both a bit older 33 and 28, and we both want to have kids in the future in general. So her plan is move in during summer and kids in 2 years. I have told her this is too soon as we been dating for 8 months (frie…
/r/askTRP03/04/19 06:47 PM
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Thx for the feedback/slap in the face... This is what I am currently doing, I said nothing to her, will not mate guard and act like i don’t care. If she walks away then it was likely going to happen sooner or later. Having trouble distinguishing if this is how I should try to handle it... or if I am being cucked by not establishing boundaries. Also, externally I am zen, but really trying to not let it break my frame. She brought this shit up as we were going on our way to a date.
/r/askTRP03/04/19 06:41 PM
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He is the pilot, not a passenger
/r/askTRP03/04/19 06:34 PM
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They are not dates 1 on 1. She drinks with coworkers including him, I can confirm this as I pick her up from bar at 6-7 pm and we go fuck.
/r/askTRP03/04/19 06:17 PM
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Amen
/r/askTRP03/04/19 06:15 PM
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Honestly, you may have beta this but I don’t think that was the issue. The real reason you lost here is because this girl was never over her ex. You probably had a chance but he decided to come back. Lesson: if you want an LTR, don’t date someone that is still not over her ex
/r/askTRP03/04/19 08:00 AM
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Overthinking the status of your dick.... oh no it’s going soft!!! Is it at 99%???!!! Is she ok?
/r/askTRP02/04/19 07:31 PM
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I’m 35, Prefer 25-31 for LTR For STR 18-40
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/19 10:13 PM
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Raunchy conversation topics
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/19 08:00 AM
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Because we both want kids...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 09:15 PM
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Yea, she is very good looking and attracts all the guys. Then her personality is flirtatious and can drink and banter with the guys. I see this as problematic, as the guys can get inappropriate. She seems to tone down the talk when it goes there, but to me it seems like these orbiters are just testing how far they can go. I am very much a part of the Convo, and the guys are fixated on meeting me and trying to figure out who took this “wild” girl off the market into an LTR. Not sure if being that…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 09:13 PM
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Yea, there is a level of testing, which I think I have passed. Did not let it be seen that I was overly bothered, just a bit dissinterested in subject.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 09:09 PM
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Not done in front of me, but overall she has a super flirtatious personality. Male co-workers always orbit her, ask her to go out for drinks. She usually does go, then comes hang out with me. They do engage in sexual talk and jokes. Not sure how to fill about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 09:02 PM
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She calls it flirtations personality
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 09:00 PM
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Upvote... females tend to be more polite. They could be sending, thank you no messages, or fishing for compliments from ugly dudes
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/19 06:42 PM
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Interesting... how would you explain that to the girl or to others without sounding like some extremely jealous person? And does that apply to coworkers
/r/askTRP20/03/19 05:33 AM
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Are you saying that an LTR should not squire new friends
/r/askTRP20/03/19 03:36 AM
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Are you worried about future branching? Do you feel that she changed? Or do you think she is the same as before, and you’ll keep her as long as you maintain high value?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/19 04:44 PM
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Yes, interested in this organic situations
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/19 04:42 PM
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Yea I worry less about the n number and more about the coworkers. Seems like she enjoys orbiters?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/19 04:00 PM
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No, y
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/19 09:11 AM
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Wow, this should be it’s own post... I feel like I have so many questions for you. How do you feel about this now?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/19 06:40 AM
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She is a very hot girl, she claims to love me like no other, sex on demand, cooks for me, hot with huge ass, gave me a 1000$ bday present... Main issue is the n number, AND she tends to go out a lot to drink with coworkers which are ALWAYS male. Not sure what to think
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/19 06:31 AM
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Yea, but I am making an assumption that this is bigger than disclosed
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/19 12:10 AM
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13, struggling with this number atm, as I am considering this girl for LTR
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/19 10:07 PM
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I have had deep attraction from girls last up to 2-3 years... that’s my average, I don’t get a lot of girls but the ones that I do, seem to fall pretty hard.
/r/askTRP10/03/19 01:55 AM
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Too high is not bad, but sometimes it is great to feel hungry for it... sometimes my gf and I will go in 4-5 day breaks, no sex and no one is allowed to relieve with masturbation. Then on 6th day we fuck like crazy. Very satisfying! Most of the time we do it 3-4times a week
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 08:53 PM
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She is not BPD, but she does have anxiety but seems to be under control. The main red flag I see is high n count, but no Alpha widow. The n count does bother me a bit. She has told me a while ago, that I am not the biggest she has been with, but that I am a very good size. She also told me recently that sex with me is some of the best she’s had ever... Those things are red flag and bother me some.
/r/askTRP26/02/19 04:46 PM
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I overdreaded recently and almost fucked up my top plate
/r/askTRP25/02/19 11:42 PM
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So... I have oneitis hard, specially when she doesn’t text... I know people recommend to get other girls, all girls are the same...BUT... *This girl fucks like no other, I can give her 12-18 orgasms on same day. *. She has no inhibitions, has asked me to be her dom and does everything I tell her. Change her hairstyle, hair color, bake for me, bring me food after sex, dress up how I want in bed and outside She is exactly like I would have ordered her if tailor made, big wide hips and thick ass, F…
/r/askTRP25/02/19 11:33 PM
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I got the same issue, that sounds like it can help
/r/askTRP23/02/19 07:03 PM
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What if you are into thick girls? For me a size 8-10 voluptuos woman with hips an ass is a 7-9. The 120 pounders barely score a 5-6 on my book
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 09:04 PM
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Wtf
/r/askTRP20/02/19 05:29 PM
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Wtf
/r/askTRP20/02/19 05:28 PM
4

I’d say that guy is lower than average
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/19 08:56 PM
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I am in a similar scenario as you are. Wife which I love much have been together for many years, but the spark is long gone. Separated to give each other time, for 6 months. I met this girl who I am incredibly in sync with. I struggle with the choice everyday. I seem to change directions like crazy, stay or go stay or go stay or go.... I decided to let some time pass, before rushing a decision. Hopefully it would allow me to see if the new girl is truly that great, or if I am just being blinded …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/19 08:46 PM
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From all the responses, it seems that most are not hateful against these women, they just simply would not LTR them. The question that I don’t see answered is WHY are these women not LTR material if they have reformed themselves? Even OP would not consider them LTR material.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/19 10:38 PM
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How successful are you with women currently? Do you get dates at all, one night stands?
/r/askTRP16/02/19 05:29 PM
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99.9 %
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/19 05:04 PM
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Have not... have met some of her more important friends, but not been to male drinking group
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 09:20 PM
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Yea, I’m not whining or even mentioning it to her. Currently just gathering more data...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 08:32 PM
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No I’m not thinking I’m the back up plan. I’m thinking she is actually seeing how I react to this. I did not ask her about this event, she just makes sure to always bring up the outings and all details. Feels like she is trying to get a jealous reaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 08:31 PM
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Not a male dominated industry She has had a drinking problem in the past. Currently under control according to he. Unsure if she needs attention... If this was the case, this’d be the red flag. I am currently thinking of maybe I am too old for this shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 08:00 PM
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Exactly.... finally you get the jist of the argument. Let’s summarize to its purest form: 1). She had told me numerous times recently that she is seeing me as someone who she can see spending the rest of her life with (the me being amazing part) 2). She hangs with dudes in 8:1 ratio ( red flag part) Now you see the issue?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 07:55 PM
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Not a male dominated industry
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 07:53 PM
1

Good that we finally understand each other. Any other background info you need from me?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 07:49 PM
1

I agree with this, I’m concerned about the particular details of this group. See edits.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 07:39 PM
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What does other threads have to do with this scenario. FYI, I am in an unhappy marriage, which we decided to take a break from. The previous post which you cross reference is me trying to decide how and if I should permanently end that marriage. Meanwhile, as a separated adult. I am allowed to date and consider other options.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 07:34 PM
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By staying on topic I’d recommend?...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 07:26 PM
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So what? How is that relevant? Could I be in a polyamorous relationship? Maybe I am separated?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 07:19 PM
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I think the main issue is that the crowd is so tilted with 8 men 1 woman. If it was a more balanced crowd, I’d see that as more normal
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 07:17 PM
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I am currently separated and have been since last summer.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 07:03 PM
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Mostly guys, one outing was described as 8 guys and her. On another outing, the conversation drifted into mfm threesomes. I have asked her if these guys are interested in her. She says some are, but it doesn’t mean she is going to reciprocate. I am part of the convo as I Am often talked about. The guys seem to be interested in info regarding me, the new boyfriend, so she talks about me. She also asked me to come, but I’m not interested in that so I decline, I do pick her up after the bar sometim…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 06:57 PM
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Is being a high beta a good thing or bad thing for the guy? I’m a 7 looks wise, financially in top 5%, funny, well endowed, and non selfish/extra empathy, high IQ, but never had women throw themselves at me. I have had very hot girls but I always LTR them. I think they like the stability and neta traits with some alpha traits. Has worked for me so far but wondering if I’m getting short end of stick. I can’t seem to get myself in oneitis mode and then LTR. When I do though the women tend to be hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 11:45 PM
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Sounds like you may be a rebound. This is a red flag
/r/askTRP13/02/19 11:01 PM
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How do you calculate the female SMV?
/r/askTRP13/02/19 05:35 PM
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How does one calculate their SMV?
/r/askTRP13/02/19 12:09 AM
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Where are they meeting and what time? Is it Starbucks at 3 PM? Is it a restaurant or bar at 9 PM? This is a red flag. The only way I would be ok with this would be if the following happened: 1) GF was super transparent about it and willing to talk and there was a reason why she was doing this ( guy has depression, or some other legit reason) 2) meeting was in a coffe shop or lunch during day And Most importantly: 3) girl asks to be picked up in the same location by you 1-2 gr later. I have a Gf …
/r/askTRP08/02/19 05:04 PM
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Not all alphas are your archetype chad muscle. I am an alpha and I’d describe myself as a slim trendy nerd, but with tons of confidence, money and lots of game.
/r/seduction08/02/19 01:13 AM
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I’m going to right now, would like to make LTR but scared of the high n number
/r/askTRP07/02/19 01:08 AM
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I usually only text to reply... never text first. If she keeps on texting every day first, then drop a first text once a week or so to surprise her and keep the carrot on a stick going
/r/askTRP07/02/19 12:47 AM
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Examen de mierda
/r/askTRP04/02/19 12:36 AM
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Don’t respond for a while... a good 30 min 2 hour. She’ll build anxiety. Then respond with a very positive but manly yet not too hardcore response. Something like, “You look hot wearing either, but my favorite is #2” then insert a couple of hot sexy emojis
/r/askTRP03/02/19 11:18 PM
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Excellent!!!
/r/askTRP03/02/19 11:13 PM
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What did she say?
/r/askTRP03/02/19 11:09 PM
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Figure out how to make the girl that you are with have an orgasm. Make sure every sex encounter ends with a girl having a mind blowing orgasm followed by a period of cuddling and bonding. Rinse and repeat, but do not overdo. Keep girl thirsty. Mind blowing passionate sex + intimacy= Girl would throw herself of a cliff for you IME
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 09:18 PM
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I’m 5,7 and it does bother me a bit in places like tinder or clubs and I feel this is a big disadvantage. However, dating organically has not been that much of an issue. I have had 9s and 8s fall madly deeply in love with me (move in with me, have my kids, don’t care if parents disown me type of shit)
/r/askTRP03/02/19 09:11 PM
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The dresses need to be on for proper assessment
/r/askTRP03/02/19 08:54 PM
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I struggle with this a lot. Girl I’m considering for LTR is ridiculously hot and has a kardashian booty. She seems to enjoy making me jealous with comments like, oh some guy just hit on me.
/r/askTRP02/02/19 10:30 PM
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Yes!!!
/r/askTRP02/02/19 08:01 PM
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Try a edible weed to relax her and uninhibit her. Best sex ever.
/r/askTRP02/02/19 06:12 PM
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I have ED that is anxiety driven specially which new girls. Mine is not as bad as yours. I can get hard but usually started to loose erection within 4 minutes due to overthinking and penis focusing. I tried viagra and it helped a lot but I’d still loose it sometimes. I started taking some edible weed when masticating and I noticed that my mind would stop being anxious and I would stop focusing on my dick performance and baaaam! Hardest erection ever! Instead of thinking of my dick status I would…
/r/askTRP02/02/19 06:02 PM
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My wife doesn’t want kids... thinking seriously of alternative options
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/19 09:58 AM
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Entered without any idea or worry, we were both dead broke
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 10:17 PM
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