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Or made to feel shame because something they as an individual aren't doing at the moment in their child's life that happens to match some negative stereotype based on their gender. Let the parents split up the task however works, and always treat each like we don't know what limits, if any, they have as to what they can bring to the child's life. I know which approach brings out the best in me when I'm giving myself to others, and which one shuts me down.
/r/MensRights17/06/12 04:57 AM
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Yes, the point of reversing it is to just to help people see that both are putting people down based on their gender. For some it's clear without this aid. I'd love for every bit of this to disappear tomorrow, and for people to treat gender as relevant to what a person can do as eye color or the shapes of their finger prints.
/r/MensRights17/06/12 04:53 AM
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An easy way to find whether this is just a harmless joke or support of a negative view is to reverse things: mom, if you were any more perfect you'd be dad. happy mother's day. Does it come across as offensive? Then there was a similar offense before that was hidden by a negative stereotype that you accept as true.
/r/MensRights17/06/12 03:45 AM
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I think the point here is that these examples of the same style of wording in other contexts shows how offensive they are. This is about raising awareness of the subtext of these "informative" posters (both real and mostly hypothetical), not actual posters we'd want to have around.
/r/MensRights16/06/12 05:38 AM
8

With a few slight alterations: Case Study #1: Danuta and Mark have been dating since grade 9 and are now in their final year of high school. They may attend different universities. This concerns them both. Danuta feels that they should make love as a means of securing their relationship whereas Mark wants to wait until marriage, which is what they had agreed upon. Danuta calls Mark gay and, in fear of losing Danuta, he relucatantly gives in. They choose not to use any form of protection because …
/r/MensRights16/06/12 04:18 AM
1

For some reason this particular discussion reminds me of a kite contest my father and I entered when I was little. Our entry was for the smallest kite, made of a maybe 1/4" piece of thick butter paper in a diamond shape with small cross-folds so it was a real kite, on a silk line. Judges kept walking past us and running through the line, and we ended up never even being judged. At first we were frustrated, but later saw this as undeniable confirmation that our kite was in fact the smallest there…
/r/MensRights16/06/12 04:08 AM
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Why is this downvoted? Such a poster would be another good clarifier of the misandry in the original.
/r/MensRights16/06/12 03:25 AM
6

Sorry if your post was meant sarcastically. Tradition and cleanliness are fine. Non-consensual mutilation of a person's body is not. It doesn't matter whether this has been done to millions of people before, it's still just as unacceptable as it was for the first.
/r/MensRights14/06/12 08:29 PM
4

Also mutilation of intersex babies' genitalia. All the above have no justification unless there's an immediate medical problem for which this is the only known fix, and not fixing it would result in great risk.
/r/MensRights14/06/12 08:28 PM
0

The laws aren't blind to the sex of the defendant. This if you're concerned someone is going to mess with you, the sex of the person matters.
/r/MensRights14/06/12 08:21 PM
9

Just say this out loud: "Hey, Cindy, they're patting us down so would you hold my knife for me and give it back to me afterwards?"
/r/MensRights14/06/12 08:18 PM
4

the fact that men can actually utilize urinals and women can't Are you sure?
/r/MensRights14/06/12 04:41 PM
2

accidentally is
/r/MensRights14/06/12 04:38 PM
3

Or maybe to make things more "fair", so that both sexes are equally inconvenienced by urination in terms of time, position, having to touch toilets, etc.?
/r/MensRights14/06/12 04:37 PM
3

Cleanest =/= reason to sit on it
/r/MensRights14/06/12 04:35 PM
5

And grows stuff after a few hours as things break down/things in the air settle in it.
/r/MensRights14/06/12 04:32 PM
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we had to install a camera outside the women's bathroom to try and catch who has been leaving it mess. [...] We haven't caught them yet. I think I've found the problem.
/r/MensRights14/06/12 04:26 PM
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I think it might stick in his mind and later he might remember being told that and have it click. If I could go back in time and tell my younger self things, it would be about the adults around me and how batshit insane they were about almost everything, and about how my intuitions were worth taking seriously.
/r/MensRights13/06/12 07:49 AM
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It kinds of reminds me of growing up, where one of my parents viewed everything I did with suspicion because the way my being was forming didn't match their idea of how it was supposed to form. They wanted me to be healthy, but only if it met their arbitrary idea of what health was. It was very damaging, to say the least.
/r/MensRights12/06/12 07:40 PM
12

Actually, we just need to ban adults from driving. Virtually no wrecks or deaths are caused by child drivers. We need to grant babies licenses from birth, then revoke them once they reach 18.
/r/MensRights12/06/12 05:39 PM
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100% of road accidents are caused by people driving, including 10 out of 10 road deaths. Because people are the highest and only risk category for accidents the best thing to do is get them off the roads: eliminate driver licenses.
/r/MensRights12/06/12 05:36 PM
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I think a presention of the topic of gay shaming would carry more weight if it presented the topic on its own, without trying to determine where it rates on some scale of severity with other things people do to each other. I found the summary tiring to read due to all the finger-pointing.
/r/MensRights12/06/12 03:50 AM
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I've thought before about this divison of genders in learning environments and come to some clarity on the matter. Note that by women and men I'm thinking of cultural styles taught to women and men as well as biology. In some cases, it might be that there are many aspects of the learning environment that are more disruptive to women than men. Further, a woman student might easily recognize that the learning environment isn't working, but not be able to explain in detail the cauess. Even if the s…
/r/MensRights11/06/12 07:27 AM
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The author's change of his view wasn't based on a simplified summary of the class; it was based on his presence in the class and the countless things he saw. I think he did give a more nuanced explanation as well, specifically that he was expecting the other students to stop the "jerk", but didn't see that, and attributed it to a different culture for their gender. I think his point is easy to grasp if the posting is read without the over-simplistic summary of "programmer calls for gender separa…
/r/MensRights11/06/12 06:19 AM
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There are many kinds of safety. In a classroom environment, safety is about students feeling comfortable asking questions and sharing problems without being put down, etc. There are many things that can shut students down. Treating them like they're deficient because they got shut down is missing an opportunity to improve the learning environment.
/r/MensRights11/06/12 06:15 AM
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I took this "lessons learned" part about emacsen changing his view from single-sex education being harmful to it being a useful option for some (and not imposing it on everyone). Apparently he thought that it might cause women to continue to stay separate even as they became more experienced, but he mentioned how these groups fed into the mixed-gender groups, simply helping to soften entry.
/r/MensRights11/06/12 06:09 AM
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I thought the point was that the author has seen men in a class respond to this kind of "jerk" to stop it, but that this didn't happen in the class of mostly women, sort of like men having a cultural "immunity" to this. He also mentions how the women-only intro groups apparently aren't having a divisive effect, rather serving as additional entry points for new members, and feeding into the more advanced mixed-gender groups.
/r/MensRights11/06/12 06:02 AM
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If I'm a person with money and I want something done, why does anyone have a right to force me to pay any particular amount to people who voluntarily do work for me in exchange for money? How am I depriving them of anything when they voluntarily entered the exchange? If I decided that I really didn't care to have any work done, would I be guilty of depriving people of employment they have a right to?
/r/MensRights10/06/12 11:59 PM
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I see myself and others as humans, some of who choose to see themselves like this and thus put a barrier between themselves and me. I've experienced it with gender, age, race, things we're good at, etc. It's always my wish that people see those things as part of something external that's imposed on people, and as something we can both stand together and look at and question freely. So in this case, assuming that this is true, I'd look at it as something about society or culture that causes emplo…
/r/MensRights10/06/12 10:00 PM
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Personally my problem with being treated like this in a variety of ways is that it robs me of agency, at least in others' eyes. When my action is explained not as a unique response to the current situation and my past experience (including many things nobody else can know) but simply as something simplistic as being white, a chemical imbalance, etc. I feel numb and like I don't exist anymore. I grew up with a parent who did this kind of thing constantly and my attempts to argue that it wasn't du…
/r/MensRights10/06/12 04:29 AM
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I've encountered this in other places too. Apparently sexism isn't merely one individual treating another specially due to their sex, rather some kind of institutional bias. Thus, a woman who hates all men and yells obscenities at them, keys their cars, etc. wouldn't be being sexist. And apparently a man treating a woman badly is always sexism, even if it's some individual thing he has against another individual who happens to be female. I admit my mind just leaves the building at this point in …
/r/MensRights09/06/12 07:57 PM
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It’s faulty logic to suppose women are inherently more trustworthy than men. This is called a double standard and it’s not okay. Otherwise, the culturally acceptable pronouncement, “Men are all dogs” should be met with “Women are all bitches” (i.e., female dogs) Clever!
/r/MensRights09/06/12 07:04 AM
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Basically, we are supposed to always want sex, we think of sex XXX times a day, FTFY
/r/MensRights08/06/12 07:26 PM
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"What are you, gay?" "No, you're just not attractive."
/r/MensRights08/06/12 07:25 PM
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This is sickening to read about.
/r/MensRights08/06/12 06:38 PM
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Translation: among the dead bodies were 40 human beings.
/r/MensRights08/06/12 04:09 PM
1

Oh yeah, his venting getting twisted into something was crappy as well. Some people just have poor skills when they're already frazzled about something else.
/r/MensRights08/06/12 07:39 AM
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My take on this is that when people become inconsistent and disconnected from their usual way of approaching the world, it's due to something that's happened around that subject. Unresolved, it corrupts thinking around the subject, in a way that distorts their experience of things so that the thinking seems totally normal to them. The emotions are also an effect of this unresolved thing, rather than the cause. So if I want to improve things, I try to be open and inquisitive about things similar …
/r/MensRights08/06/12 05:49 AM
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Yeah, it's a good skill to be able to listen to someone rant about whatever and not take it personally or as if it's going to change the way you have to behave or view things when with this person. My experience is that after a troubling experience, people just need to be able to talk freely about it and without having to watch what they say. During this time, the information content isn't nearly as critical as the fact that they are expressing something that went on inside. So here you're being…
/r/MensRights08/06/12 05:44 AM
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My take is that she wanted someone to listen, but that you got triggered by an issue you have. At that point, both of you wanted the other to listen, so it went sour. Taking turns works. Generally whoever is least triggered can volunteer to listen first, then once the talker has gotten to a place where they're more content, you can switch roles and the listener talk about what got triggered. Not saying you or her was in a place to be able to listen, just that the above has been a really good mod…
/r/MensRights08/06/12 05:37 AM
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I guess it would bother me to know that something was done to me that potentially had a significant effect on a highly sensitive part of my body, and that I didn't even know whether it in fact did. Just the fact that someone else would have taken that gamble, for some minor claimed health benefit, wouldn't sit well. BTW, what's that quote about downvoting for?
/r/MensRights08/06/12 04:22 AM
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Yeah, sometimes proof is hard to come up with, and being told "we will dismiss your claim unless you have proof" is awful. What I'd like is for people to first focus on healing/recovery from something traumatic, rather than determining guilt and punishment. I believe that people can heal greatly from things, and that treating things as a definite permanent serious handicap for the rest of one's life doesn't help a person to believe that they can work through things. I've heard of approaches that…
/r/MensRights08/06/12 04:17 AM
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They should be protected more, due to the response of treating them a perpetrators even after charges are lifted. If someone was accused of robbing a store, and the accusation later dropped, people wouldn't care much.
/r/MensRights07/06/12 04:51 PM
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This is coming from someone who doesn't identify with men or women. I find that many people tend to easily fall into an us-versus-them mentality, identifying with people of their sex and seeing people of the other sex as being in competition with them for a fixed amount of consideration and respect that society has to give out. It quickly devolves into "this sex does that, that sex does this" generalities. It's one of the things that has made it hard for me to not generally relate with people ex…
/r/MensRights06/06/12 10:46 PM
1

I thought it was a man using a cellphone in the children's book area, not a man looking for a book for his grand kids.
/r/MensRights06/06/12 04:41 PM
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I appreciate your respectful tone and sticking to the subject (really!). I also have the view that one can easily have feelings over something that are more sympathetic than directly connected. That is, someone learns that they were circimcised and then starts to feel sad and believe that this is the cause of many things. When I talk of trauma I'm not talking of this. That's not to say that this isn't justified, just that I wouldn't be very quick to believe that it's directly connected to that p…
/r/MensRights06/06/12 04:29 PM
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I don't think one can definitively know that some emotional issues they're having are from circumcision, but there's no doubt in my mind that the procedure causes trauma (watch some YouTube videos), and that anyone who watches it and doesn't recognize this is clearly suffering from repression of their own trauma around this. It's utterly bizarre how someone can dismiss this as insignificant and not notice how absurd it is.
/r/MensRights06/06/12 09:17 AM
1

but my having been circumcised really doesn't bother me at all. Oh, what age did you decide to have it removed, and what differences in sensation did you notice afterwards?
/r/MensRights06/06/12 09:12 AM
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Or, I had my kid's little finger amputated because his father lost his little finger in an accident when he was young.
/r/MensRights06/06/12 09:09 AM
5

I have laughed when a mate has accidentally been hit in the groin The laughing could be a reaction to the sympathetic pain response you might have had just before.
/r/MensRights05/06/12 10:34 PM
11

A nice cluttered infograph showing how repressed men really are in society.
/r/MensRights05/06/12 02:46 PM
3

"Shopping around" isn't putting anyone down either, it's just recognizing that you'll usually find a better match by trying several possibilities rather than staying with the first one that comes along. Applies to pretty much everything in life.
/r/MensRights04/06/12 11:03 PM
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How about an equal pay act for minors? After all, if they are paid less on average, then it must be discrimination. Also, how about we just double the pay for everyone, since that would help all families do better?
/r/MensRights04/06/12 08:38 PM
5

I think the complaint here isn't about one's rights being violated, but about the sexism and ridiculous implications of what happened. In other words, it's about the social sphere, not the legal one.
/r/MensRights04/06/12 06:52 PM
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You can't go buy them not because of a few people who harm children, but because many others are scared shitless of everything in the world no matter how rare.
/r/MensRights04/06/12 06:51 PM
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Adults must be accompanied by children to enter LEGOLAND Discovery Center I love this on one level: it's a total flip of the usual "if you're a kid you must have an adult with you to enter". For once adults are the disempowered ones.
/r/MensRights04/06/12 06:21 PM
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fraudulent rape accusation FTFY
/r/MensRights02/06/12 07:39 AM
6

Being lenient on false allegations means that even more real rapes go without justice, because allegations are taken less seriously. Take them seriously and don't put up with false ones and everyone wins (except false accusers... oh fucking well).
/r/MensRights31/05/12 03:33 AM
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This does show that it is marketing, but doesn't show that it's just marketing. Hardly anything is just one thing. This can be marketing and still be offensive, supportive of stereotypes, etc.
/r/MensRights30/05/12 04:27 AM
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Why is that relevant here? This is about the marketing on this bottle, not about beer. If you think we should be covering how beer is marketed, then someone else can pipe up about how something else is marketed, saying that we should instead be focusing on that. At some point you come to the insight that us humans best deal with one thing at a time, similar to how each sentence of this paragraph deals with one thing at a time, and each word likewise. To focus on one thing one moment doesn't mean…
/r/MensRights29/05/12 09:56 PM
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Maybe I'm racist for this, but whatever, it's what I thought of when I read the end: I imagined a black man many decades back who had been "given" freedom from being a slave, and making it clear publicly that he was grateful for his freedom and had no grudges, and wanted to get on with living a life of freedom. I know the feeling of having to not just put that on, but make myself feel that I am lucky to finally be free from bullies and that I have no negative feelings. It comes back later to hau…
/r/MensRights29/05/12 06:26 AM
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It's worded as if the person at the urinal is holding a raping machine, something that if not kept under control, will abuse people. This is a terrible message, because making a person hate part of their body and become detached from it will make them less integrated and able to resolve internal issues.
/r/MensRights29/05/12 06:19 AM
1

It'd be interesting if there were an alternate set of vote counters for each discussion which could only be contributed to by enabling a mode which hid people's usernames. This way up/down votes would be done on post content alone.
/r/MensRights28/05/12 04:32 PM
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So what? Being attractive to some/all men isn't the sole purpose of other people. Some people might not be interested in any kind of sexual relationship for some period in their lives.
/r/MensRights28/05/12 04:20 AM
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I hadn't realized that bronies were viewed so negatively by anyone in the first place. I feel sad knowing that there are people out there who have had such mistreatment in their own lives that they view people enjoying colorful ponies in such a negative way. Yesterday I met my first bronies and was moved by their accepting nature. I didn't hear anything negative said towards anyone, including myself. One even gave me several small figures and I had to ask several times whether I was really heari…
/r/MensRights28/05/12 12:59 AM
2

Conscious memory isn't the only thing involved. Not everyone remembers being born, learning to eat, walk, etc. yet every one of these things had a big impact on their daily functioning in the present. It seems that the argument rests on the idea that without memory, subjecting an infant to the extreme pain of removing part of its body (possibly without anesthesia) couldn't have any significant impact.
/r/MensRights27/05/12 07:18 AM
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Good point, it is sexism. It's treating an individual in ways that are based on how the other party perceives the group of people with that characteristic to be. It comes down to the cost of finding out how much of a risk you as an individual are. They choose to go by average risk. I believe that some look at one's past driving history, and also allow you to keep a tracking device so they can examine your actual driving in detail and thus give you a rate more based on your individual risk, rathe…
/r/MensRights26/05/12 08:31 PM
2

Oh, I hadn't realized this distinction. So self posts can basically be whatever someone wants, with whatever kind of title (like one's personal blog)? I'm coming from the perspective of someone who reads titles to find what something is about, so that I can decide whether it interests me. Sort of like how back in the day people would have lots of video/audio cassettes without anything written on the labels. It took a lot of time to find something. Titles like the above remind me of that, only th…
/r/MensRights25/05/12 07:33 PM
1

Do you mean that if one had the hypothesis that the women staffers being paid less was not due to discrimination, that one would need to find something that they all have in common, and not in common with the non-women (or at least less prevalent in non-women)? And that this would be called a confounding factor, that is, something else which is also present in the same distribution as the thing one thinks is the cause and thus is an alternate explanation? I also take your comment to be that if y…
/r/MensRights25/05/12 05:32 PM
1

Maybe slightly tangential. If we divided people in some field into two groups and saw any differences in pay between them, would that be evidence of discrimination? It seems that there are plenty of divisions that we could make that would show lots of pay difference, even if the division didn't on the face of it seem like it would reveal differences. For example, hair color, or height (in a non-sport field). And it seems that to truely understand the cause of this difference, we'd have to look c…
/r/MensRights25/05/12 04:55 PM
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One thing that bothers me most. Titles like this.
/r/MensRights25/05/12 04:09 PM
1

TIL what fungible means.
/r/MensRights25/05/12 02:46 PM
1

Yeah, since being married means shared finances, even if she pays off the debt with her money, it means less of it goes into your shared pool, and thus it affects shared finances just as if it were a shared debt. Sort of like how someone with a food stamp card can't buy certain other things, but can just redirect cash that would have been used for basic foods to buy these other things, and use the card for the basic things; the card is effectively buying these other things.
/r/MensRights25/05/12 05:20 AM
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It was edited after I replied. Original was in the cache, so I added the original as a quote.
/r/MensRights23/05/12 04:47 AM
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Wait, are you saying that each employee can work a different amount, do a different quality of work, have different goals? I'm skeptical. Can you provide some proof that everyone doesn't all put in the exact same level of work every hour of every day as everyone else?
/r/MensRights23/05/12 03:53 AM
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Another spin on what's our's is her's and what's her's is her's. Oww my eye's! EDIT: added quote of how it was originally (thanks to my browser cache)
/r/MensRights23/05/12 03:51 AM
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I'm interested too, once you have time to give it its due. I wonder whether it's something along these lines: specialization of labor is valuable, even in a two-person pair. A gender binary with heterosexual pairs can give maximum specialization for any pair. The lack of one means more overlap and less collaboration. Assuming it's something along these lines, I wonder whether the fact that people are naturally all over the place ensures that there will be plenty of opportunities for specializati…
/r/MensRights22/05/12 06:02 PM
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Each person should be allowed to discover what kind of person they are and express this, without their biological sex being a factor in how well others receive them. I think that there is something biological that determines who a person is, for which there as many categories as people on Earth.
/r/MensRights22/05/12 05:54 PM
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For that matter, what does anyone else putting you down know about you in particular? Nobody else lives your own life.
/r/MensRights22/05/12 02:59 PM
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From the post, apparently not being told to "stuff it because you're a man" when expressing the pain of doing so.
/r/MensRights22/05/12 02:56 PM
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But he disturbed the neighbors. He has to pay for their suffering.
/r/MensRights22/05/12 05:30 AM
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The biggest difference is that FGM is performed on people with female sex organs, and circumcision is performed on people with male sex organs. Both are violations of the owner's rights and are therefore wrong. As a circumcised male I can attest that my ability to climax has not been hindered at all. Since you did it consensually later in life (after you already knew what your ability to climax was), it was your decision. If you had had it forced on you when you were an infant, you'd have had no…
/r/MensRights19/05/12 04:07 PM
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Don't even go down that misleading path of trying to compare one individual's suffering to another; that's the error in comparing from the start. Forcing an unnecessary medical procedure on someone is a violation of their rights.
/r/MensRights19/05/12 04:03 PM
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If everyone's arms were amputated at birth and there were a good explanation given, many more people would justify it. For a similar example, see spanking and the way people who were spanked are more likely to justify it.
/r/MensRights19/05/12 04:01 PM
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MGM involves an infant being subjected to intense pain and forced removal of one of the most sensitive parts of its body, and risk of complications. What is being done to any other infant or person against their will at the time this is occurring is irrelevant with regard to the wrongness of this being done, and the psychological effects it has on the child later in life. A person must have been deadened or lied to to believe that doing this to an infant isn't barbaric.
/r/MensRights19/05/12 03:57 PM
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The error was the parent poster making the comparison in the first place. Each person experiences their own level of difficulty in attempting to achieve their desired body image.
/r/MensRights19/05/12 06:55 AM
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we were taught that even males can be raped, also by women versus "we were also taught that males can be raped by anyone"
/r/MensRights18/05/12 03:33 PM
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I know for me it might alter my perception of someone because I've encountered people who for less "serious" issues have all sorts of hangups about it and have gotten burned for asking the wrong questions or not having the "proper" attitude about it. I tend to be curious and interested, but restrained and stilted where that will get me into trouble. So I can see why one might keep this private, not because of its direct effect on your or others, but others' idea of how you feel and how they have…
/r/MensRights12/05/12 07:03 AM
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I'd feel pretty cheated if anyone made it so that I couldn't apply and be accepted based on my abilities, but instead would be accepted without question simply due to my body sex.
/r/MensRights11/05/12 04:29 PM
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Would you like me to google those meaningless terms for you?
/r/MensRights10/05/12 04:39 AM
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“There aren’t any black ponies. Why aren’t there any brothas on the wall?” I had originally assumed that the purple ponies were supposed to represent black ponies, but he was right–the ponies don’t seem very racially diverse. The color you see is their fur, not their skin. I'm thinking this person has never looked at a dog/cat closely.
/r/MensRights07/05/12 04:08 PM
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