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I am a therapist. I recall one couple I worked with. The moment they sat down the wife went OFF about how defective her husband was--like a racing horse starting out of the gate. I listened politely for nearly 10 minutes until she had to catch her breath. As soon as she paused, I brought out my magic weapon. "Now tell me," I said, "what is it about you that caused you to pick such a broken person to be your spouse?" She was livid, but she knew from my question that I wouldn't be played. If your …
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/26 06:09 AM
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When someone's marriage is without sex it usually means there has been a failure to establish emotional connection/intimacy. Seeking connection outside the relationship is both an indication of this problem and a perpetuator of this problem. Many relationships can heal, but healing never starts until the shortcut/counterfeit/substitute for intimacy (the affair) has ended. Humans can't walk in two directions at the same time.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/26 03:58 PM
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You need to get help immediately, professional help from a doctor or therapist. No way in hell can you give your ex the "win" of checking out, especially if that's what she wants (and there are plenty of women evil enough to want exactly that). No way in hell can you check out of the lives of your sons. As busy as they might be, they still need you. And you can't saddle them with the burden of your suicide. And you have no guarantee that suicide will help anything. If your consciousness persists…
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/25 07:29 PM
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My ex hired a babysitter rather than give me extra time with the kids--for more than two weeks. Judge allowed my ex to move out of state (which she did to try to move me out of the kids' lives). I followed the ex and moved in right next door to her. My parenting time was only every other weekend (because the divorce order contemplated us living in separate states). Shortly after we had all moved, my ex went abroad on a trip with her siblings and their parents. Though I was right next door and ha…
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/25 08:39 PM
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My ex wanted me out of the house but my attorney told me not to leave so I didn't. A short time later, coached by her female rabid feminist attorney, my ex fabricated domestic violence charges against me, whereupon I was escorted from my home by the police in front of my children. What my ex forgot was that she had already told the police I had never been violent, so during the hearing they testified against her, whereupon the protective order was dropped. So certain was the judge that I had nev…
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/24 02:23 AM
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Sorry this is happening to you. I went through it 15 years ago and it was hell. But as I learned (both personally and as a professional counselor), much of it was of my own making. Let me explain. Emotions are ultimately a function of attachment, and once we realize that, everything gets better. We don't fear losing someone unless we're attached to them. We don't grieve loss unless we are attached. And people don't have power to make us angry unless we are attached to them. You are still attache…
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/24 09:59 PM
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It's easy to find fault and place blame. Shame and guilt makes this a normal part of human experience. But it's more important to learn and grow. We all fuck up. What did you learn? How will next time be different? What do you have to bring to a relationship that you didn't before? Answering these questions turns failure into future success.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 07:03 PM
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Because leaving is seldom a sudden decision but rather the culmination of months or years of silent victimhood during which the woman convinced herself that all her problems were your fault. Hence by the time she leaves, she has thoroughly convinced herself that the man needs to suffer.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 08:54 PM
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And there's one other piece: No matter how happy they appear, a relationship that started with an affair will have zero trust because of how it started. Sometimes the relationship can last for a while while the sex is good, but it will never be stable or close no matter how it appears on social media (another reason to stay away from it). You've found out how shallow 99% of people can be and the universe has given you a gift. Find out what conveys true depth of character. Seek it, pursue it, and…
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/24 03:59 PM
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My ex openly admits it's all about the money—something she continues to extract through child support. I've never minded paying it because I'm happy to support my kids. But to hear her say it brought a smile to my face. She likes to think she's liberated and independent but she still needs my money. But my twins are 16 and child support will be over soon enough. Yes, like OP says, life it what you make of it. I didn't want the divorce and tried to save the marriage. She wouldn't have it. Now I'm…
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/24 04:15 AM
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In general, parents (divorced or not) are legally obligated to provide support and maintenance for their minor children until the age of 18, which is when they reach the age of majority and become legal adults. So even if there was language in a divorce decree about providing college education, it would be unenforceable. I'm not an attorney, but I'm 99.9% sure this is correct across the board in the US.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/23 11:37 PM
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I'm a counselor/therapist and I've seen this many times, as well as with my own divorce. Others have posted about "own group preference" amongst women. That could be part of it. But it's just as likely/even more likely that your ex has cultivated an insidious victim persona that she engineered to get your daughters on her side. If you think about it, it's not difficult for women to do. The most recent wave of feminism has proclaimed that women are always oppressed and victimized by men. The cour…
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/23 06:21 AM
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If you "just travel" and walk away, she wins. If there were no kids involved, I'd say go for it. But she's banking on the fact that you won't fight her, perhaps because (if I'm reading you right) you generally haven't fought her. I was in your same situation. I had to grow a set and fight like hell. She alleged domestic violence (later disproven) and everything else right out of the feminist victim playbook. You no doubt had good intentions in giving her what she wanted, but a real man will defe…
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/23 05:55 PM
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A lot of good advice has been given already. As a counselor for the military and having gone through a divorce myself, I'll add a few things: Gain closure by grieving. No matter how bad the relationship was, you've lost a huge part of your life. Love and grief are but two sides of the same coin. However, most men are so disconnected from grief they don't know what it is or how to do it. Here are some simple tasks of grief: - Say good-bye. This means acknowledging the end of the relationship in s…
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/23 03:47 PM
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Been there, done that. I wound up with four jobs at one point (1 full-time and 3 part-time) to try to keep up with her spending. Then I was in trouble for being a workaholic. I never made my ex happy but now I realize it wasn't my job; it was hers. I tried to save the marriage and would have stayed til the bitter end. But she forced the divorce and isn't any happier. I, on the other hand, am much more so. When my ex moved out I brought my sweet girl (yellow lab) inside. I've only ever allowed on…
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/23 01:16 AM
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Happened to me too. She had a feminist attorney who told her to alleged domestic violence to get me removed from the home. My ex did so, but she forgot she had told a cop that I'd never been violent. The cop testified against my ex, the protection order was lifted, and I was allowed to move back in. But she faced absolutely no sanction or consequences for her false allegations. Congratulations on your win. Make it about the kids even when their Mom can't. The kids always figure it out.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/23 07:20 AM
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One of the things that's hard to realize is why we love so deeply when the other person is broken and dysfunctional. Attachment is a function of sacrifice. The more you have to sacrifice to make it work, the deeper the attachment goes. It's not logical but it is human. It's why women have such a difficult time leaving abusive husbands/boyfriends. You're experiencing the opposite of that. You didn't just give of yourself; you gave UP yourself. Been there, done that, and life is so much better on …
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/23 02:54 PM
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I gave it my all. And it made no difference. I disagree. You stood and fought for something. Even though it didn't work out, you were a warrior. You will have the future satisfaction of knowing you gave it all you could. You'll be able to get closure. Whether you recognize it as such or not, that's a victory.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 06:28 AM
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Karma is a bitch, and so is your ex. But I draw the line when "karma" affects the kid(s), and so should we all. We have the opportunity to be better than our exes so the kids don't suffer needlessly. My ex's anger routinely prevented her from focusing on the needs of the children. To truly detach from an ex is to not care if she benefits from something we do for the kids. Kids need at least one responsive/responsible parent, and often that's up to us as men.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/22 07:19 PM
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Good advice, but sometimes it's impossible to apply when your future ex fabricates (as mine did) domestic violence charges to get you suddenly and abruptly removed from the home, by police in front of your children. In my case the judge completely dismissed the domestic violence charges because the officer testified against her (she forgot she had told the cop I'd never been violent) but she faced no consequences for fabricating her claims.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/22 06:02 PM
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You're welcome! If you end up interested in the NWTA but think you can't afford it, reach out to me and I'll make it happen. It was that impactful to me. You have more support than you realize and your brothers are with you in the fight.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/22 02:36 PM
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You have twins? So do I. Lucky man. See my post above.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/22 11:57 AM
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I went through a terrible divorce in 2009, where I was escorted from my home because of fabricated domestic violence charges (which were later dropped). I am also a professional counselor, so I will share some thoughts from that perspective. I hear you saying you're hurting and that you wonder if all the fighting is worth it. I hear you saying you're worried about the damage being done to your kids. I hear you saying you feel you're out of options. I hear you, brother. In many respects, I've bee…
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/22 12:40 AM
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"Now I feel weak and want her back." That's not weakness, and I can explain why it's not. I'm a counselor and run into this all the time. So many of us as men are told to be nice and tame and accommodating. Not necessarily bad traits but nor do they engender respect from our women. The less we are respected, the more the strain on the relationship and the harder we try to save it. The harder we try to save it, the more we sacrifice for it. What we often don't realize is that that sacrifice repre…
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/22 01:31 PM
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Is it legal? Probably, since the car is in your name. Can she make a federal case out of it, claiming you're harassing/stalking/threatening her? Yes. If you have a Y chromosome, in divorce court you're likely guilty by default. Don't give her any ammunition or any reason by which she could justify her actions in her mind. Don't rescue her; let her live with her guilt.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/22 07:22 PM
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