ricemilklatte Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
723	“You deserve it.”	LEVEL UP	ricemilklatte	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/05/21 05:58 PM
29	What are some high effort dates that your boyfriends are doing during the pandemic?	DISCUSSION	ricemilklatte	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/12/20 11:26 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
7	“You deserve it.” Aw I love Halloween so much! It’s one of my favorite holidays. I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. Some men are just miserable and hate fun! I bet your Halloween and fall decorations are amazing! Keep putting them up and sharing the holiday spirit.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/05/21 04:09 AM
7	“You deserve it.” You’re so right! I do tend to downplay my happiness or my accomplishments as to not make anyone feel bad, but fuck that! Thank you for pointing that out.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/05/21 04:02 AM
4	“You deserve it.” Thank you so much!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/05/21 04:00 AM
7	“You deserve it.” Thank you so much! I realize now that the title can be very ominous depending on how you read it lol	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/05/21 04:00 AM
6	"Pretty Privilege" is just another proof guys don't care about the women they don't find attractive Girl, you are gaslighting 101 if I’ve ever seen it. If you have to re-explain yourself 20,000 times, obviously you didn’t make the point you thought you did. Oh I see, you didn’t say that he respects me. You’re saying that he respects me MORE than he would some hypothetical ugly woman who wasn’t there, which doesn’t amount to much respect at all since he doesn’t actually respect me. Thanks for clearing that up. These mind games are incredibly fun to play. He didn’t use me for sex BECAUSE I DIDN’…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/03/21 08:26 AM
7	"Pretty Privilege" is just another proof guys don't care about the women they don't find attractive You JUST said the person at the grocery story respected me for being beautiful. I have never gained a man’s respect for being beautiful, nor have I gained respect for being educated, intelligent, funny, whatever. It doesn’t matter to these men. Have you ever read the FDS handbook? A man being nice to you one time does not mean he respects you. That’s why the handbook exists. To teach women to be cautious of a man’s intentions. Men will literally get in a whole ass marriage and have children with…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/03/21 08:07 AM
4	"Pretty Privilege" is just another proof guys don't care about the women they don't find attractive I’m sorry but this is such an exhausting conversation to have. I don’t even understand these points you’re making. Being wary of a pretty woman is just patriarchy doing it’s job. Patriarchy WANTS you to be skeptical of any woman you meet so you can hate them. I didn’t see that tomboy reference you made at first but what????? Who ever is an attractive tomboy? That’s an oxymoron if I’ve ever heard one. I don’t have to respond to all your ridiculous points if I don’t want to but like holy fuck that…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/03/21 08:01 AM
22	"Pretty Privilege" is just another proof guys don't care about the women they don't find attractive Alright you’re literally just finding all my comments and going after them, so okay. DO NOT call me honey. Jesus Christ that is so condescending. You’re using your personal experiences and applying that to everyone else’s and talking down to anyone not backing you up. You sound angry and bitter. I’ve been harassed and put in unsafe situations by men from age 10 to now, in my 20s. It never had anything to do with my looks. Whether I’m in sweatpants or a dress, made up or with a bare face, hair in…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/03/21 07:34 AM
4	"Pretty Privilege" is just another proof guys don't care about the women they don't find attractive The entire concept of beauty is literally white supremacy. It was formed from white supremacy, by white supremacy. Traditional beauty standards favor white features and proximity to whiteness BECAUSE of white supremacy. Things like classism and racism intersect because one can exist without the other. The concept of beauty would not exist without white supremacy, so yeah they’re going to overlap quite a bit. It would be impossible for them not to. Girl, social media is not real life. Don’t use i…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/03/21 07:27 AM
10	"Pretty Privilege" is just another proof guys don't care about the women they don't find attractive 100%! See: Ted Bundy.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/03/21 07:00 AM
2	"Pretty Privilege" is just another proof guys don't care about the women they don't find attractive Biracial POC and POC with whiter features are given more privilege because of white supremacy, not their beauty. It’s their proximity to whiteness that leaves them better off than their darker counterparts. And I’m sorry but LOL at that comment about women wanting to be your friend if you’re pretty. It’s quite the opposite in fact. You’re regarded as a threat, not a friend. I’m not saying I’m the most beautiful person in the world, but I have been picked apart for my looks my entire life. I have…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/03/21 06:57 AM
6	"Pretty Privilege" is just another proof guys don't care about the women they don't find attractive On the totem pole, you are below every man and every white woman, but you better be grateful that you have more privilege than ugly women of color! /s	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/03/21 05:30 AM
11	"Pretty Privilege" is just another proof guys don't care about the women they don't find attractive Well whenever I’ve seen any studies done on the benefits of attractiveness, it measures the benefits of both men and women. Yet, it’s called pretty privilege for some reason. I wonder why that is. Also, I’m sorry but are you kidding me with that comparison? The Greensboro Four were black in times of segregation. That’s racism. I’ve never heard of an ugly person being denied service or having the cops called on them because they dared to sit at a counter when they weren’t allowed.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/03/21 05:27 AM
13	"Pretty Privilege" is just another proof guys don't care about the women they don't find attractive Girl, I’m with you. I’ve been “ugly” and I’ve been “pretty.” All that has changed really is my access to cheap dick. Race and sex ALWAYS come first. It’s regarded way more than looks. If the person serving you is racist, then your beauty won’t matter. If the person serving you is vindictive and jealous of your beauty, it doesn’t matter then either. Also, how can something be a privilege when it’s conditional? Aging exists, so not all of us will retain the privilege of being beautiful. Race and s…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/03/21 05:15 AM
33	"Pretty Privilege" is just another proof guys don't care about the women they don't find attractive She said she’s a woman of color. Where does the pretty privilege end and racist bigotry begin? I’m not saying pretty privilege doesn’t exist, but it is frequently used as another thing to cast women as these vindictive beings that don’t understand how “easy” we have it. Why is it called “pretty” privilege when men also benefit from being more attractive? We don’t call men pretty, so why do we call the privilege by a word that is almost exclusive to women? When it comes to jobs and promotions, su…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/03/21 04:59 AM
66	"Pretty Privilege" is just another proof guys don't care about the women they don't find attractive It drives me nuts when guys use this as an argument. Oh wow, the employee at the grocery store helped me find something because he wanted to fuck me. Yeah, that’s way more valuable than feeling safe when I walk to my car at night.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/03/21 04:43 AM
38	"Pretty Privilege" is just another proof guys don't care about the women they don't find attractive Same here. My boyfriend is 5’6. His height was never an issue for me because he’s a great guy. Funny how that works.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/03/21 04:39 AM
9	I'm leaving my unfulfilling relationship and couldn't be more excited. Thank you all. This makes me so happy! Congratulations. You’re going to do amazing things.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/03/21 11:30 PM
21	"Men want to be judged on their intentions, not on their actions" Ugh “intentions” were honestly the crux of 95% of arguments with my ex. Him intending to take me on a nice date was just as good as actually taking me on the date, and I better have appreciated it just as much. One time we got into an argument that I “hijack” dates and never let him plan something on his own. He was referring to a night when he told me he’d cook me dinner and I sent him a recipe for tacos that I’ve been wanting to try. He never did make me dinner, from the recipe or from his own…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/03/21 06:29 PM
50	We've all heard of gaslighting, but what about when we delude ourselves? A man like this is not "amazing"! I got cheated on when I was at my skinniest and hottest lol, AND I was 21. Looks and age have nothing to do with it!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/03/21 11:00 PM
8	Momma’s boy I don’t know if there are statistics on the matter, but I think the momma’s boy trope mainly has to do with coddling and treating sons like they’re god’s gift to earth. Absolutely, if a man is a piece of shit then the blame shouldn’t completely fall on the woman who raised him, but I think over coddling definitely can lead to a plethora of negative consequences down the line. Maybe not outright defending their sons against rape/abuse accusations, but I think mothers can be guilty of getting too …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/03/21 10:48 PM
31	Be weary of men who intimidate you into not voicing your concerns in the relationship. So glad you got out of it. I believed my ex for way too long about the way I expressed myself because of my parents. They always tell me that I’m so “angry” and “emotional” when I’m just reacting to batshit insane things they say to me. So I bought into me being the problem.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/02/21 07:16 AM
36	Be weary of men who intimidate you into not voicing your concerns in the relationship. Ugh THIS was my ex too. He’d make problems out of something like a fun date night we had months ago that I genuinely believed was a good night we had. Now all of a sudden, it was a problem for him and once again, I’m to blame. They can all go burn in hell.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/02/21 07:08 AM
62	I want girls and young women everywhere to experience this epiphany! I realized that other girls were “mean” to me because I was standoffish and stuck up. I judged them and of course they could sense that. For every other girl, I was just hyper aware of every subtle inflection of their mannerisms and speech. I would internalize their unenthusiastic desire to be my friend as them hating me. It took a whole lot of unlearning to get over that. Now that I love myself and I can pass that love along to other women, I have some of the best friends around. We love makeup…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/01/21 01:52 AM
-12	Whenever I hear people say “sex work is real work” I assume they’re saying it from a place of non sex work privilege There is really no need to be this rude.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/01/21 09:33 PM
-12	Whenever I hear people say “sex work is real work” I assume they’re saying it from a place of non sex work privilege You can’t put motherhood on a resume either. Is that not real work to you?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/01/21 09:14 PM
12	Whenever I hear people say “sex work is real work” I assume they’re saying it from a place of non sex work privilege 100% this! Thank you.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/01/21 05:21 PM
37	LVM coerces woman into sex while sick and then calls her a disgusting pig when she voms on him. Because she was SICK. Porn has ruined men. They can’t see their partners in any state that shows their humanity because it “ruins” the porn star image they want.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 05:55 AM
3	Since I left my abusive ex, I’ve lived in an all female household and I’ve unlearned so many harmful habits. Like I've learned it’s ok to have opinions on movies, books, and even activities. I’m making choices and participating in things I never would have considered otherwise. Oh I’m the same exact way! I hate all Marvel movies. This was definitely back in my pick me days when I didn’t want to be seen as “judgmental” of other people’s taste. But now I’m like, screw that. I’m a movie snob and I don’t care anymore! I’ve always been told my others that my taste in things really doesn’t matter and it’s stupid to judge people based on how they react to the things I like, so I internalized that and tried to live by it. But it’s really just not who I am. I will absolutely ju…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 03:11 AM
8	I think I'm going to institute a new rule to help me get mine and weed out the trash 100% girl! My boyfriend will not cum until I do. And he does it all on his own. I’ve never had to ask. He knows how to make me cum multiple times before he does. There has even been times where I came several times and he didn’t cum at all! No guilt trip or “blue balls” soliloquy. I thought men like this didn’t exist, but they absolutely do! Don’t settle.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/12/20 12:47 PM
26	Since I left my abusive ex, I’ve lived in an all female household and I’ve unlearned so many harmful habits. Like I've learned it’s ok to have opinions on movies, books, and even activities. I’m making choices and participating in things I never would have considered otherwise. This is so true in the sense that men have to be the first to like sometime or else they’ll write it off completely. It’s so exhausting to be around.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/12/20 12:22 PM
30	Since I left my abusive ex, I’ve lived in an all female household and I’ve unlearned so many harmful habits. Like I've learned it’s ok to have opinions on movies, books, and even activities. I’m making choices and participating in things I never would have considered otherwise. Ugh this hits so close to home. My last boyfriend was so uninterested in anything I liked. I’m a huge movie buff and I really really like music. It was like pulling teeth to get him to watch anything that wasn’t a Marvel movie. I made him so many playlists that he either never listened to or he did but didn’t like a single song on it. How can you listen to a playlist with 20+ songs and not like a single one? Speaking of Marvel movies, I watched nearly every single one leading up to the Infinity …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/12/20 12:21 PM