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| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (12/11/19)I do need to look for more opportunities to have sex earlier in the day. We usually have sex both days on the weekend because we can do it in the afternoon when the kids are sleeping, and aren't trying to do it at night when we are tired and trying to get the kids to bed. I do several kettlebell workouts each week, and usually try to finish those as fast as possible (e.g., this morning I used a 32kg kettlebell and did 25 goblet squats, 50 hand-release pushups, and 150 two-hand swings in 14:23, w… | /r/RPChristians | 13/12/19 12:22 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (12/11/19)OYS #16 Background/Stats: 34 y.o., 5'7", 185.4 lbs., 16.8% bodyfat (per Navy method). Married 9 years, wife is 35, and we have 3 little kids. Bench press PR is 285, deadlift PR is 440. Found this place spring of 2018. Reading completed: RPC sidebar, MMSLP, Rational Male, NMMNG, WISNIFG, Biblical Masculinity Blueprint, SLSM by Bluepill Professor, The Game. Overall: Nothing big to report this week. I’ve been traveling a lot for business. Just plugging away on my MAP. PHYSICAL: I missed OYS last we… | /r/RPChristians | 12/12/19 02:27 AM |
| 3 | Wife (who actively tells me she wishes we could divorce) wants to spend Christmas with her family alone. Response?Dr. Shawn Smith is a psychologist who does a podcast with Rich Cooper called "Before the Train Wreck." Since BPD is an actual psychological condition, and a psychologist told you she has BPD, I'd suggest calling in to that show (or otherwise trying to contact him) and see what he says. It couldn't hurt to talk about the situation with a Red Pill psychologist (who - unlike your wife's psychologist - doesn't owe any ethical obligations to your wife, and can therefore be more straight forward with … | /r/RPChristians | 10/12/19 12:00 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/27/19)OYS #15 Background/Stats: 34 y.o., 5'7", 185.0 lbs., 16.8% bodyfat (per Navy method). Married 9 years, wife is 35, and we have 3 little kids. Bench press PR is 285, deadlift PR is 440. Found this place spring of 2018. Reading completed: RPC sidebar, MMSLP, Rational Male, NMMNG, WISNIFG, Biblical Masculinity Blueprint, SLSM by Bluepill Professor, The Game. PHYSICAL: Down 2.0 pounds since last week. Ran twice and did two morning kettlebell workouts since last week's post. Saturday's kettlebell wor… | /r/RPChristians | 27/11/19 10:08 PM |
| 3 | Boundaries are easy to defend against the egregious. How do you defend them against subtility?In the past couple of years you've made a lot of positive changes. Do you think the subtle boundary violations are nuanced fitness tests where she's trying to determine if your positive changes are only skin deep? Also, a couple weeks ago in an OYS comment you listed some NMMNG rules: do not let anyone treat you badly don't tolerate the intolerable 3. don't settle - every time you settle, you get exactly what you settled for if you do what you have always done you will get what you have always g… | /r/RPChristians | 26/11/19 05:25 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/20/19)Yeah, I think that’s true. At the time I was doing those things, I would have disagreed that I was doing them to get something in return. But I was clearly upset that I didn’t get treated reciprocally. So there is another buried aspect of “nice guy” behavior to work on. | /r/RPChristians | 23/11/19 01:16 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/20/19)Thanks Chuck. That’s good advice. | /r/RPChristians | 23/11/19 01:06 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/20/19)That’s a good point - a couple days later and we seem to be back to normal, so I guess it did work out okay. I’d seen some progress recently and I was worried this was a big setback, but it doesn’t seem to have had much long-term negative impact. Appreciate the response. | /r/RPChristians | 21/11/19 05:00 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/20/19)Thanks man | /r/RPChristians | 21/11/19 04:45 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/13/19)Thanks Chuck! Appreciate your weekly feedback. | /r/RPChristians | 15/11/19 08:42 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/13/19)Thanks man! I wish now that I’d posted to OYS when I first started and was putting in a lot of work without (initially) seeing much in terms of results. | /r/RPChristians | 15/11/19 05:49 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/13/19)Hey man, have you and your wife done any of the Dave Ramsey stuff? That might be useful in terms of getting her to control her spending. He does live events ( https://www.daveramsey.com/events ) and a lot of churches will periodically teach a class he put together called "Financial Peace University." I listened to some of his stuff with my wife, and it helped us with our budget. We need to get back to following his program more closely, but we still spend a lot less than we did before. He's a Ch… | /r/RPChristians | 14/11/19 02:48 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/13/19)Hey brother, I just wanted to say that I looked at your post history, and the changes you've made are pretty inspirational. You're down from 245 pounds to 179.8 - that alone is hugely impressive. And didn't you just get a stripe on your BJJ belt? That's awesome. It sounds like you are down about some of the stuff going on with your wife, and you've gotten some good advice here. But I also saw where a year ago your wife was moving towards separation. So it looks like even in that area, you have m… | /r/RPChristians | 14/11/19 02:36 AM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/13/19)Lifting is going well, I’ve seen steady increase in just about all my lifts. Not currently tracking calories, just weighing myself once a week to keep myself in check. My back seems to be 99% recovered at this point, just the occasional discomfort but nothing like it was. Glad your back is feeling better. Always nice to see progress in the gym. | /r/RPChristians | 14/11/19 02:21 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/13/19)OYS #13 Background/Stats: 34 y.o., 5'7", 187.6 lbs., 16.8% bodyfat (per Navy method). Married 9 years, wife is also 34, and we have 3 little kids. Bench press PR is 285, deadlift PR is 440. Found this place spring of 2018. Reading completed: RPC sidebar, MMSLP, Rational Male, NMMNG, WISNIFG, Biblical Masculinity Blueprint, SLSM by Bluepill Professor, The Game. PHYSICAL: Ran 3x last week, once so far this week. Only one barbell lift since last week's post, but I’ve also done a couple of shorter k… | /r/RPChristians | 13/11/19 10:33 PM |
| 5 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/06/19)Chuck, it sounds like you could use some "sweet Me-time!" You're a machine, man - working full time, getting after it in the gym at 50, taking care of your mom, actively parenting a teenage son, fixing up your house and cars, reading through the Bible, church, replying to everybody who posts on OYS - you even turned Halloween into an evangelism opportunity! Even your commute is productive. A lot of what you mention this week (a nagging back injury that won't quite heal, an out of character binge… | /r/RPChristians | 07/11/19 01:28 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/06/19)OYS #12 Background/Stats: 34 y.o., 5'7", 187.0 lbs. (17.0% bodyfat per Navy method). Married 8 years, wife is also 34, and we have 3 little kids. Bench press PR is 285 (new PR 11/2/19!), deadlift PR is 440. Found this place spring of 2018. Reading completed: RPC sidebar, MMSLP, Rational Male, NMMNG, WISNIFG, Biblical Masculinity Blueprint, SLSM by Bluepill Professor, The Game. PHYSICAL: Good week of exercise. On Saturday, my buddy came over to lift, and since I had a spotter, I went ahead and tr… | /r/RPChristians | 06/11/19 05:55 PM |
| 2 | Sharing church with soon-to-be ex-wifeu/Red-Curious (founder of RPC) is also a divorce attorney. Over at MRP they have put several of his posts about divorce on the sidebar. Here's one that seems applicable: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/9j5cus/better_beta_divorce_strategy/ He advises, "If you want to save your marriage, maintaining frame and being attractive would be the goal. If you want to win at divorce, be the best beta suck-up you can be" because "[y]our goal in a divorce isn't to make your ex have the hots … | /r/askRPC | 06/11/19 05:47 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/30/19)Evangelism: 8. Today is National Evangelism Day (Halloween), where people come to YOUR door for Gospel tracts (and candy of course). I look forward to this every year, my son and I hand them out and he gets to eat whatever he wants out of the dish while he’s doing it (within reason of course). You're an evangelism machine. What tracts do you use? Something geared towards younger readers, or is it for their parents? | /r/RPChristians | 31/10/19 08:30 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/30/19)That's muscle gain bro. Haha. I hope so. If I'm feeling feisty this weekend, maybe I'll take a shot at a PR and find out. Yes sex is a main priority no doubt, but it's the whole package that really moves the needle over time. This. A lot of the flaired MRP guys don't actually seem to talk that much about women. They are too focused on building other aspects of their lives. "Lagging indicators," and all that. | /r/RPChristians | 31/10/19 08:27 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/30/19)“Are you still lounging around the house in gym shorts and using your ratty flip flops when you go out?” that’s just aussie culture moit This was hilarious. | /r/RPChristians | 31/10/19 04:21 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/30/19)First, good job on posting to OYS, going to church, and finding and working at your new job. Give yourself some credit for taking action to change your life. Mistakes are an inevitable part of any human undertaking. The alternative is to be passive - which was Adam's sin when he allowed Eve to eat the fruit. One of my favorite quotes is from Teddy Roosevelt's "Man in the Arena" speech: "The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; … | /r/RPChristians | 31/10/19 04:13 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/30/19)My weight is again all over the place. It ranged from 203-206 depending on the time of day. Yeah, comparing your weight in the morning to your weight at the end of the day, after multiple meals, is kind of an "apples to oranges" thing. When I first started losing weight, I'd get a nice dopamine hit from seeing the lower numbers every morning when I weighed myself. After my weight loss slowed down, I'd get frustrated if I ate right and exercised and didn't see immediate results on the scale. But … | /r/RPChristians | 31/10/19 02:44 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/30/19)Same here. My wife had a similar type of meltdown today. I am starting to find it amusing instead of getting mad like I used to. Seems like you handled it well. Yeah - this is probably an AWALT thing. Sometimes I still make mistakes in handling these situations (usually because I haven't slept well), but when I implement what we're taught here, things usually go pretty well. The three common RP sayings that help me in these scenarios are: "be the Oak," "fix her feelz, not her problems," and the … | /r/RPChristians | 31/10/19 02:28 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/30/19)OYS #11 Background/Stats: 34 y.o., 5'7", 187.8 lbs. (17.3% bodyfat per Navy method). Married 8 years, wife is also 34, and we have 3 little kids. Bench press PR is 280, deadlift PR is 440. Found this place spring of 2018. Reading completed: RPC sidebar, MMSLP, Rational Male, NMMNG, WISNIFG, Biblical Masculinity Blueprint, SLSM by Bluepill Professor, The Game. PHYSICAL: Barbell program is “Ramped 5x5” two days per week (https://superfitdads.com/the-best-ever-training-program-for-dads/). Since las… | /r/RPChristians | 30/10/19 03:58 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/23/19)Thanks Chuck - always appreciate your feedback. | /r/RPChristians | 26/10/19 01:17 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/23/19)OYS #10 Background/Stats: 34 y.o., 5'7", 188.1 lbs. (17.8% bodyfat per Navy method). Married 8 years, wife is also 34, and we have 3 little kids. Bench press PR is 280, deadlift PR is 440. Found this place spring of 2018. Reading completed: RPC sidebar, MMSLP, Rational Male, NMMNG, WISNIFG, Biblical Masculinity Blueprint, SLSM by Bluepill Professor, The Game. PHYSICAL: Continuing “Ramped 5x5” two days per week (https://superfitdads.com/the-best-ever-training-program-for-dads/) plus short kettleb… | /r/RPChristians | 23/10/19 07:21 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/16/19)OYS #9 Background/Stats: 34 y.o., 5'7", 187.2 lbs. (17% bodyfat per Navy method). Married 8 years, wife is 34, and we have 3 little kids. Bench press PR is 280, deadlift PR is 440. Found this place spring of 2018. Lurked/read since then, lost 18 pounds of fat (was at 205), have tried to implement what I read. Read: RPC sidebar, MMSLP, Rational Male, NMMNG, WISNIFG, Biblical Masculinity Blueprint, SLSM by Bluepill Professor, The Game. PHYSICAL: Continuing “Ramped 5x5” two days per week (https://s… | /r/RPChristians | 17/10/19 08:59 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/09/19)OYS #8 Background/Stats: 34 y.o., 5'7", 185.8 lbs. (15.7% bodyfat per Navy method). Married 8 years, wife is 34, and we have 3 little kids. Bench press PR is 280, deadlift PR is 440. Read: RPC sidebar, MMSLP, Rational Male, NMMNG, WISNIFG, Biblical Masculinity Blueprint, SLSM by Bluepill Professor, The Game. Found this place spring of 2018. Lurked/read since then, lost 19 pounds of fat (was at 205), have tried to implement what I read. PHYSICAL: Weight has stabilized after gaining weight last we… | /r/RPChristians | 09/10/19 10:56 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/02/19)Awesome news about the new job. Hopefully that gets you out of the house and into your own place soon. Don't worry about what your step-sister says - keep locking your door. Are you talking to any other girls? Good job making it to small group. Have you asked your pastor about working out with him? In your askRPC post you mentioned that he's pretty jacked. Sounds like he'd be a good dude to workout with. Where are you at in terms of the recommended reading? Have you read u/deepstrength's book? | /r/RPChristians | 04/10/19 12:31 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/02/19)Thanks for the comments. There's a lot of wisdom + actionable advice in there. You're right about how I should have handled the comfort test ("Show her she's desirable, and she will make the effort to become more desirable as you continue to make improvements."). My wife really looks good when she puts in effort, but she never had to put in much effort when she was younger, and she seems resistant to putting effort into her looks now - or at least she doesn't do it regularly. Pre-Red Pill, I wol… | /r/RPChristians | 04/10/19 12:11 AM |
| 1 | I doubt God's willingness to forgive meI'm really glad that article helped with your doubts about salvation. And it's hard to be patient with our own sin while we are both pursuing and waiting on the process of sanctification. But it's encouraging to remember that our sin is not a barrier to God loving us. See Romans 5:8: "But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us." That's great about the job! If you get it, do your very best (per Colossians 3:23) and it will likely either wo… | /r/askRPC | 02/10/19 07:36 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/02/19)OYS #7 Background/Stats: 34 y.o., 5'7", 186 lbs. Married 8 years, wife is 34, and we have 3 little kids. Bench press PR is 280, deadlift PR is 440. Read: RPC sidebar, MMSLP, Rational Male, NMMNG, WISNIFG, Biblical Masculinity Blueprint, SLSM by Bluepill Professor, The Game. Found this place spring of 2018. Lurked/read since then, lost 20 19 pounds of fat (was at 205), have tried to implement what I read. u/rocknrollchuck - thanks for your responses last week. I always appreciate your advice. PHY… | /r/RPChristians | 02/10/19 06:55 PM |
| 1 | I doubt God's willingness to forgive meHey man, you've received some good counsel. Here are some additional thoughts: (1) You are not beyond salvation. You quoted Matthew 12:31-32: "And so I tell you, every kind of sin and slander can be forgiven, but blasphemy against the Spirit will not be forgiven. Anyone who speaks a word against the Son of Man will be forgiven, but anyone who speaks against the Holy Spirit will not be forgiven, either in this age or in the age to come." Your post primarily focuses on the second verse, but go bac… | /r/askRPC | 01/10/19 03:38 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (09/25/19)OYS #6 Background/Stats: 34 y.o., 5'7", 184.5 lbs., 16% bodyfat (Navy method). Married 8 years, wife is 34, and we have 3 little kids. Bench press PR is 280, deadlift PR is 440. Read: RPC sidebar, MMSLP, Rational Male, NMMNG, WISNIFG, Biblical Masculinity Blueprint, SLSM by Bluepill Professor, The Game. Found this place spring of 2018. Lurked/read since then, lost 20 pounds of fat (was at 205), have tried to implement what I read. Started posting to OYS a couple months ago. PHYSICAL Back to OYS … | /r/RPChristians | 25/09/19 10:48 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (09/04/19)OYS #5 Background/Stats: 34 y.o., 5'7", 182.1 lbs. (down 1.0 lbs.), 15.7% bodyfat (Navy method). Married 8 years, wife is 34, and we have 3 little kids. My bench press PR is 280 (for 1 rep) and my deadlift PR is 440 (for 1 rep). Read: RPC sidebar, MMSLP, Rational Male, NMMNG, WISNIFG, Biblical Masculinity Blueprint, SLSM by Bluepill Professor, The Game. Overall: Much better this week. After posting to OYS last week, I realized that I was letting our extended move disrupt every aspect of my life.… | /r/RPChristians | 05/09/19 06:41 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/28/19)OYS #4 Background/Stats 34 y.o., 5'7", 183 lbs., 16% bodyfat (Navy method). Married 8 years, wife is 34, and we have 3 little kids. My bench press PR is 280 (for 1 rep) and my deadlift PR is 440 (for 1 rep). Read: RPC sidebar, MMSLP, Rational Male, NMMNG, WISNIFG, Biblical Masculinity Blueprint, SLSM by Bluepill Professor, The Game. Physical This never-ending move is starting to take a toll (I'm trying to write this quickly so I can go do more work cleaning out the old house). I got in a few sho… | /r/RPChristians | 29/08/19 10:18 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/21/19)Still trying to figure out red pill and the Bible. How they mesh and such. You're obviously familiar with the RPC sidebar and probably with the book The Biblical Masculinity Blueprint: A Christian Man’s Guide to Attraction, Relationships, and Marriage in a Messed-up World. I think one of the mods here authored it. In addition to those resources, I recently found a podcast that is on point: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/its-good-to-be-a-man/id1456285158 | /r/RPChristians | 22/08/19 06:16 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/21/19)OYS #3 Background/Stats 34 y.o., 5'7", 183 185 lbs., 16% bodyfat (Navy method). Married 8 years, wife is 34, and we have 3 little kids. My bench press PR is 280 (for 1 rep) and my deadlift PR is 440 (for 1 rep). Read: RPC sidebar, MMSLP, Rational Male, NMMNG, WISNIFG, Biblical Masculinity Blueprint, SLSM by Bluepill Professor, The Game. Physical Working long hours while also simultaneously moving my family from one house to another caught up with me last week. My weight is up a couple pounds to … | /r/RPChristians | 22/08/19 04:59 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/14/19)OYS #2 Background/Stats 34 y.o., 5'7", 183 lbs., 16% bodyfat (Navy method). Married 8 years, wife is 34, and we have 3 little kids. My bench press PR is 280 (for 1 rep) and my deadlift PR is 440 (for 1 rep). Read: RPC sidebar, MMSLP, Rational Male, NMMNG, WISNIFG, Biblical Masculinity Blueprint, SLSM by Bluepill Professor, The Game. Physical No big progress this week, but no regression despite working very long hours and not working out as often as I normally do. My weight stayed pretty stable (… | /r/RPChristians | 15/08/19 10:46 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/07/19)Thanks for your detailed reply. I know that took a while, and I appreciate it. | /r/RPChristians | 08/08/19 09:04 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/07/19)In terms of my MAP, I feel like I've run out of easy gains. To continue to progress, I have to attack larger goals, and the progress won't be as rapid. But attacking big, challenging goals is part of the fun of being a man. Other than what you've written here, are there any that come to mind? Spiritually, I want to be more consistent in my Bible reading, get more involved in my church, and structure my family life so that we are centered on God. My kids are really young, so that will be a proces… | /r/RPChristians | 08/08/19 09:03 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/07/19)The most important step: write it down. Flesh out each area as God leads you, and take those things and work on developing a clear, concise Mission statement. Post it here when you're ready and we'll help you nail it down and develop it. Thanks. I will do that. | /r/RPChristians | 08/08/19 08:40 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/07/19)If they are Bible-based and solid but just boring, then perhaps it's you who needs to change. I think the problem is mostly me, not our church. It's Bible-based and solid, and I don't think it's boring. I think there is some truth behind books like David Morrow's Why Men Hate Going to Church, but I think our church is better than average on most of the factors discussed in that book. I think you are right that I will enjoy it more if I make an effort to be really solid friends with some of the g… | /r/RPChristians | 08/08/19 08:39 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/07/19)I read the Bible regularly if inconsistently (if that makes sense). Not exactly. Do you mean you're consistent but the amount you read varies? The main thing is you're reading it and that's good, but consistency is important too. I responded to your comment above about the reading plan, so some clarification would be good here. My goal is to follow a regular Bible reading plan and read the Bible every day. Thanks to your regular posts and links to the plan you use, I started with that. I ended u… | /r/RPChristians | 08/08/19 08:27 PM |
| 5 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/07/19)u/rocknrollchuck I bet that when you get to heaven, you'll learn that you helped a lot of guys that you never talked to directly. I'm a long-time lurker (used a different username), but I started reading the Bible according to a plan because of your posts about your Bible reading plan. | /r/RPChristians | 08/08/19 03:42 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/07/19)OYS #1 Background/Stats 34 y.o., 5'7", 183 lbs., 16% BF (Navy method). Married 8 years, wife is 34, and we have 3 little kids. 1RM bench is 280, 1RM deadlift is 440. I've read: RPC sidebar, MMSLP, Rational Male, NMMNG, WISNIFG, Biblical Masculinity Blueprint. Long-time lurker, first-time poster. Physical Lost 20+ pounds since all-time high of 205 in March 2018. Got as low as 177, but weight crept up slightly and seems to have stabilized between 181-184. Goal is 13% bodyfat. My family is in the p… | /r/RPChristians | 07/08/19 06:52 PM |
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