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ridgecoyote/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 08:05 PM
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Debateridgecoyote/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 08:04 PM
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So for instance, it would be impossible if my wife were to fantasize about being a queen with young and handsome male slaves, begging to do her every pleasure. My wife couldn’t fantasize like that because such males are her inferiors. Ok. Nice theory bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 04:53 PM
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I don’t get what you mean by superior - especially in regards to the opposite sex. Do you mean I only fantasize about my female bosses or celebrities or politicians? Superior in what way? Your entire conceptual scheme is bizarre and I doubt any real discussion is possible without a lot of unpacking of ideas that seem pretty abhorrent, like something a devotee of Ayn Rand would postulate with firm conviction. Sorry but I just don’t see any point.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 04:57 AM
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Are you saying if my wife masturabates to pictures or stories of other men she’s polygamous? I don’t understand your distinction
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 02:29 AM
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Yes. And?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 10:56 PM
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Attraction is to other people is common with both sexes but finding a woman attractive is one thing, actually wanting to have sex is another
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 11:00 AM
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I’ve never screwed around on my wife and I’ve had opportunities. I don’t think I’m better than other men but I’m just not wired to enjoy sex outside of commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 10:57 AM
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Don’t care how many, as long as it’s less than me. (A number too embarrassingly small to relate)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 04:28 AM
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I agree. But I’ll probably just unsub instead. I’m not seeking drama or anything, was just hoping for discussion. But I realize now that Reddit mods can kinda power trip and it’s silly to butt heads with these kinds of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 11:11 PM
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I’m kind of ignorant I guess. I don’t even know how to message the mods. I just like discussing and learning from others on the topic of human relationships. To be moderated feels really… wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 09:33 PM
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I’m sorta pissed off at mods in this thread for removing a couple of my posts for being off-topic. In both cases it seemed like they were well thought and sincere questions to the community, but got censored for some picayune reason. So wtf are the mods anyway and can they be removed with enough community complaint?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 08:53 PM
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The technical definition of “obese” includes me and pretty much everyone in my family. I’m 5’10 - 1/2”. 225 lbs. that’s obese. I’ve been a framer since I was 17, contractor since I was 29, an here at 62 I’m pretty much the obese guy I’ve always been. Still outworked, out-played and out-drank everyone else on the crew. So wtf does obese even mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 07:51 PM
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I hear ya bro. You need to chill with friends at the end of the week, smoke a few bowls, drink a few beers and unwind on the bullshit going down all around. I get ya. Fortunately for me, I ain’t ya. I do that every weekend with my Grass Valley buds. Play dominoes, pass the pipe. It’s lovely.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 07:47 PM
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I think extra body fat on men is much less attractive than on women. I have a hypothetical evolutionary theory on this : women who are heavier traditionally signified a successful life. She showed by being well fed that her mate was a good provider. Furthermore, past a certain point, low bmi lowers (and eventually eliminates completely) fertility in women. Whereas a male was supposed to work and sacrifice for his family to keep them fed, he would go hungry- whether hunting or farming. This shift…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 06:07 PM
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True dat. Married my wife when I was 28 and she was 21. 35 years later, still going strong
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 10:57 PM
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It’s tricky. That’s why we have rules to guide us. The best match with a woman, age-wise, is half your age + 7. Everyone should memorize this.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 09:30 PM
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Yes. Or as a wise man once said- the world needs ditch diggers too.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 10:01 PM
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Lol. I have no idea. But I like ragtops and flexibility in partners both.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 09:27 PM
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Don’t just be a beetle. Be a cabriolet! I like my wimmuns like I like my cars - convertible.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 05:36 PM
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I believe the word husband derived from Germanic Haus bund. One that holds a house together.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 05:34 PM
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I honestly can’t think of a single friend or relative around my age or younger that has cheated on their partners. My parents generation I can think of ten right off the top of my head. (Including my folks)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 04:23 PM
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I don’t think men nowadays consider the whole point of partnering. Biologically speaking we were meant to bring children up and the best way to do that is together. Too much emphasis is made on just getting sex and the personal validation that someone wants you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 07:08 AM
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Yup
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 11:12 AM
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My experience is the same: Guys who work in construction or the trades do tend to land wives or partners and tend, imo, to not cheat. I always sorta envied the guys who work with lots of women around. Even if you don’t cheat on your wife the fact that you could tends to keep her on her toes
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 11:14 PM
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Absolutely. I started working for my contractor dad at 17 and ended up working more than 30 years in construction. Women were non-existent on the job site. I married young and my wife worked in the restaurant industry and had lots of guys to flirt and converse with. It was a huge imbalance and eventually drove us to divorce. I eventually married again through a mutual friend, but honestly never dated because I was in such a male-centric world and never could get the hang of chatting up the oppos…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 11:03 PM
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That makes sense. In the past a woman needed a man to protect and provide but in a modern economy she just needs a good job and someone to provide good genes. This whole “chad” thing always seemed kinda silly to me but I can see how that makes sense , biologically speaking.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 03:03 AM
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I’ve known quite a few who go the mail-order bride route. Russian or Filipino are the most common.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 02:53 AM
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I agree but not the point. It’s shitty either way, but historically speaking, female cheating is viewed as much worse and it might very well be for the reasons op delineated.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 08:20 PM
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Wow. Interesting topic. And important I think. My own personal experience was a bit different- attended a religious boarding school in California for my 4 years of HS. The music teacher wasn’t predatory I don’t think, but he did turn out to be gay so I wonder what happened there that I wasn’t aware of
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 08:16 PM
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I’d say it varies greatly with intelligence. Intelligent men are turned off by dumb women eventually and conversely find smart women attractive over time and exposure.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 06:18 PM
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Older male here. I always took it the other way around- back in my day husband material meant good guy you highly value and wife material equaled boring , no fun drudge
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 07:16 PM
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I think resentment is natural on the part of men - and women too, over the way society as a whole has been conditioned and culture controlled by and for central corporate interests and a profit motive run amok. Blaming “men” for anything is beside the point. Men and women both are victims of some bad program
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 08:10 PM
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The worst, speaking from experience, is crying because your wife flirts with other men. But hey, that’s what you get for marrying at 19. Lol. Immaturity.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 09:55 PM
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Well… maybe I’m just speaking from personal experience. I got married young and that marriage didn’t last long I was very immature and having my then wife flirt and spend time with o
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 09:52 PM
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Exactly. It all depends on why. If he’s crying because his feelings are hurt that’s one thing. But crying at a funeral for a friend is another
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 03:23 PM
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Gosh. I guess I’m the only guy in the world that would take Amy Shumer over Megan Fox any day. Sheesh. What an outlier I am
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 12:39 AM
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Rolling eyes- women also have insanely broad standards when it comes to physical standards. Just cuz they don’t like you doesn’t mean squat
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 06:53 PM
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In pretty much all mammals the males compete for and pursue the females and not the other way around.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 06:11 PM
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An Extremely attractive woman comes with issues- even if she’s sweet and faithful I’d feel a bit intimidated. Not to mention putting up with all the attention she gets from other men would make me uncomfortable
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 04:03 PM
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Dumb. She can be pretty as a Barbie but if intelligence doesn’t come shining through she is not attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 07:16 AM
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I’ve been attracted to a number of women in my life because they had pleasing looks and personality but I fell in love with my wife because we meshed so well. That is, I love who we are together more than any particular trait or appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/20 07:16 PM
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I think I see what you mean, people that long for money and success but make excuses or blame outside forces for their lack. That is weak.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/20 09:15 PM
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Some of us see those who bow to the gods of materialism and power as the weak ones. Thanks for sympathizing with us tho. And backatcha kiddo.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/20 08:40 PM
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All men are at least a little bit misogynistic, for many of the reasons you stated (excellent discussion btw) but the degree is crucial - Ted Bundy et al vs guys griping over a Friday night poker game with friends about the ol’ ball and chain. It seems inherent in Western Culture and it’s questionable whether replacing it with something else would work out better. Isn’t it basically the engine that drives our socioeconomic evolution and development?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/20 07:22 PM
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Female sex drive is more cyclical- when they’re ovulating for instance, it’s probably as strong as men’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/20 04:37 PM
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I agree, but I’m guessing the focus on celebrity changes the preferences of women to certain characteristics that remind them of their celebrity crushes. These few lucky guys then, are the ones all the girls chase.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/20 03:04 PM
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Good point. However I think a major factor is being left out and that’s the way media - tv and movies, influenced the development of women’s preferences. Men are no longer competitive with other men in the village, they have to outshine the celebrities piped into their town. I think this is why the situation has gotten skewed. And yeah, women also are compared with hot young starlets and magazine covers but I think the impact is greater on feminine preferences for reasons I haven’t figured out b…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/20 08:41 PM
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I agree. When I was a young man I was attractive enough to draw the attention of quite a few females , none of whom were fat or ugly but I was only interested in a one girl who was not interested in me. -neither was I ever interested in being promiscuous just for the sake of easy sex. Not all men want the pump and dump.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 04:43 AM
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This is weirdly reassuring and scary- my son graduated in 2020 and he’s never had a girlfriend or even anything close to it. I’m reassured it’s not just him but troubled at the way things seem to be going
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/20 07:20 PM
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I don’t think women hold it against men for having chinks in their armor - I think women hold it against men for whining about their weakness or complaining. I believe women have strong maternal instincts but for their man to ask or beg for maternal nurturing turns women off. It comes across as childish or infantile. A baby cries when it’s hungry; a grown man chases down prey. When her man acts like a baby, it’s a turnoff. Even while she might soothe and feed his need, there’s a part of her that…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/20 11:03 PM
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Men are function ; women are form. Doesn’t matter what a man looks like, it matters what he can do. Men get their self-esteem from work, women get their self - esteem from how they look. A man who cares about how he looks is probably gay. (A self-confessed old school fool)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 05:12 PM
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There are men who aren’t as successful as their wives career-wise but are still considers a catch. If he’s a lazy good for nothing that’s one thing, but a considerate and hard -working partner, even if he only works hard at keeping house and child caring and doing handyman type chores, is a dream man for many successful women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/20 08:15 PM
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Women choosing what benefits them is a principle which benefits the evolution of humanity as a whole
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/20 10:10 PM
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Hmmm. That seems to overgeneralize. I ain’t no Brad Pitt but we’re about the same age. I’m sure he can hit on young women without them thinking “gross”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/20 02:09 AM
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I agree and it pisses me off at my fellow men. If guys would just show a little restraint and some class it’d be a helluva lot easier for all of us. Men and women
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/20 02:00 AM
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Yup. In fact if you are happily married and mention that you’re kicked out of the group. So definitely a self- reinforcing circle-jerk of dissatisfaction and pain. Yay.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 07:36 PM
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It just seems that way. To men, it seems much easier for women to find love and to women, vice versa. The truth is it can be very difficult until one day when suddenly it’s not. Don’t give up hope.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 06:11 PM
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First off, don’t put too much stock in “the wall”. Pair bonding can be tricky and it doesn’t follow any pre-determined script. I’ve got three daughters of marriageable age and I’ve seen the gamut. Don’t let yourself get desperate because that’s a killer. Expand your social circle and if you can afford it, travel. Good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 06:07 PM
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It always seemed to me that guys who grew up with sisters were better able to approach women. They weren’t quite as intimidated and mystified.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 06:09 PM
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If I was a woman, I would date someone else. Dating myself is just to egotistical
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 12:40 AM
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C Are Babb
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 05:59 PM
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“But for the other 80% of us guys, I honestly don’t think Western women in 2020 are worth the trouble for anything more than short term relationships and sex if you can get it easily, or just avoiding if you can’t. Way too many risks financially, legally, and emotionally based on our current state.” You say “Western” but I believe you mean “American”. My best friend and my brother found Happy marriages in the arms of Russian brides and I personally married a brit. One thing we all decided is tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 07:27 PM
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I lean towards the moralistic side - for me the ideal is (like my wife) someone who waits til marriage but has a tough time doing so.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 12:23 AM
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100% of the people living a great life are going to die one day. So what, it’s still worth it to live the best life you can while you’re here.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 04:04 AM
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The views I formed in High School definitely influenced the views I have now so in that sense they “came from” back then. But they also changed a great deal and would be unrecognizable to my earlier self so it’s hard to see the point. My high school self would have definitely been drawn to the whole incel mindset though- which make me wonder. Sexual frustration is probably a normal phase of most people- the problem is when they become fixated on their adolescence
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 03:53 AM
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I don’t know why women should get all grateful for men’s protection when what women need to be protected from is men
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 04:52 AM
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Errrr, no. Not EVERY married sap, obviously.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 07:15 PM
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My wife Yay me. N count = 1. Healthy lifestyle (sometimes it’s annoyingly so). Great mother, 5 kids, conservative Christian values, moderate social media but to be fair a lot of that is keeping up with the kids. Enthusiastic sex partner, talented painter. So yes, they do exist. Or at least one does and I got her. Neener neener.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 08:46 AM
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Married one.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 08:34 AM
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I don’t think women are hard to please, but judging from my wife they love shopping more than they love being pleased
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/12/19 06:32 AM
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I agree. At the same time I can relate to the feelings that generate the RP outlook. I remember it well from high school and my early 20’s - i.e. the horny immature years. It’s an outlook you have to go through but hopefully grow out of.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 12:32 AM
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As a smart guy emotional man, I get what you’re saying here. I always thought the macho males seemed kinda boring too. I wonder if, in fact, the issue comes down to natural selection of intelligence. Dumb bimboes never appealed to me, no matter how hot they were objectively. But those types seemed more turned on by the macho males and vice versa. Is all this TRP malarkey just another way of saying we should dumb ourselves down so we can get laid more often? No thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 06:51 AM
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You’ve got it all wrong. Male strength and power was never intended against females- it has always been aimed at other competing males. This isn’t merely human nature, it’s virtually ubiquitous across all mammalian behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 11:45 PM
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We used a year of couples counseling to work some problems out. We both learned a lot about each other and it helped a lot. Our marriage was never in any real danger; I just got to the point where I realized I needed some outside perspective to get some stuff across.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 09:15 AM
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Yup. If it’s yellow let it mellow, if it’s brown flush it down. A good rule of thumb
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 04:10 AM
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I think it’s mostly body chemistry. I worked in construction my whole life and eat whatever I feel like eating and don’t really care about “grooming”. I shower after work and never use deodorant or cologne and I smell fine. Believe me, my wife would let me know if I stank
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 04:05 AM
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Amen. They worked their assess off farming, ranching or building and built lean muscle mass, unlike roided up gym freaks in posing pouches, masculinity used to be about what you could actually DO.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 08:17 AM
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Attractive means you attract. It’s not all about looks alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 10:27 AM
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Idiocracy
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/11/19 09:56 PM
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I disagree with most of y’all on this thread. I think her main problem at this point is where she lives - The Bay Area. I pity her.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/11/19 08:54 AM
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I miss Dr.Laura, who always told off single moms - If your kid is your world, then don’t be jumping from dude to dude on dating apps. Don’t remarry, don’t date until the kid is 18 and out on their own.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/11/19 02:49 PM
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A couple things in her favor- 1) she’s at least self aware enough to own her strategy 2) she’s only 19 3) she’s not all that hot so she’s likely to avoid excessive dickery.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/11/19 05:46 PM
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It seems that way to me too, except in romance novels and movies. I figured that’s where the article got its “data”.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/11/19 08:52 AM
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