ridukosennin Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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5	Do you think a woman can be with a man who earns less, or does his hypergamy prevent it? Kristin Bell is far more successful than her husband Dax Shepard: happy decades long marriage, she still fawns over him and several kids. Taylor Swift billionaire and Travis Kelce she writes songs about his penis. Beyoncé is also way more successful than Jay-Z yet stays with him despite him cheating several times	/r/ExRedPill	03/02/26 01:57 PM
20	A few things I noticed in real life This was the core of the issue for me. I looked at women as somehow being fundamentally different from men. When I started seeing women as just people with different conditioning and social expectations everything made sense. I do acknowledge the differences in biology and behavior but these are not nearly as impactful as I imaged and masculine/feminine was more of a spectrum of behaviors rather than strict categories we fall in	/r/ExRedPill	04/12/25 08:37 PM
7	What’s the thinking on Scott Galloway? I like him. He has moderate perspective that acknowledges some of the underlying truths in RP without the toxicity. He has some antiquated views of gender norms however these resonate with many men and offers an off ramp to RP beliefs. Scott’s view of masculinity is based in compassion, and the ability to show vulnerability as well as confidence and strength. Becoming appealing to the opposite sex has always been a driver for self improvement. He less blaming women than saying many modern men do…	/r/ExRedPill	17/08/25 03:34 PM
20	Testosterone and female attraction High levels of testosterone also produce qualities that women do not find attractive like baldness, hairy backs, gynecomastia and acne. It’s about balance not just amounts	/r/ExRedPill	16/07/25 09:20 PM
6	How to make myself attracted to below average overweight women? Maybe start off by not lying to yourself. Either get your shit together or accept the consequences from continuing the patterns of you keep perpetuating	/r/ExRedPill	01/03/25 08:44 PM
8	How to make myself attracted to below average overweight women? Are you expecting things to change drastically without making drastic changes?	/r/ExRedPill	01/03/25 03:53 PM
13	How to make myself attracted to below average overweight women? You clearly have a lot of trauma and emotions that have not been processed in a healthy way. I’d focus on professional individual psychotherapy to address these issues first before jumping the gun on next steps.	/r/ExRedPill	01/03/25 03:51 PM
1	How do you deal with your insane envy of promiscuous people? Start with recognizing what lies behind rage. It’s often pain, a sense of being hurt. Explore how the rage has affected you in life. Has it cause distress and pain? Has it help you resolve the underlying issue? If not recognize these thoughts are a reaction to pain. Then think how could you respond more skillfully to these feelings. You may not be able to get rid of the rage but you can learn out to manage it so it doesn’t harm you. You can’t stops the waves but you can learn to surf	/r/ExRedPill	21/10/24 09:19 PM
14	Who should the initiator in dating? Whom ever is most interested because generally you miss all the shots you don’t take	/r/ExRedPill	31/05/23 04:21 PM
19	Men who were Red Pill, but are not anymore, what was the single most important, hard lesson you learned that led to you leaving? I saw too many RPillers driven by resentment, anger and insecurity. It’s a terrible way to go through life.	/r/ExRedPill	28/04/23 06:15 PM
4	Red Pill normalized a lot of abusive and dysfunctional traits. Dating has become so toxic that it's unbearable for a lot of people. That sounds so frustrating! Deception is one of the worst things about RP One technique of rooting out deception is to keep them talking. Keep asking about their views, explore their reasoning, ask their opinions and check for consistency. In my experience the mask eventually breaks when there are too many lies to keep track of.	/r/ExRedPill	12/04/23 10:01 PM
6	Red Pill normalized a lot of abusive and dysfunctional traits. Dating has become so toxic that it's unbearable for a lot of people. Would screening potential partners about RP and being upfront that RP ideology is a dealbreaker? It’s true it’s becoming popular, and the public is becoming more aware how toxic these beliefs can be.	/r/ExRedPill	12/04/23 08:11 PM
2	Hello, I still prescribe to some red-pill ideas, AMA! Self improvement and accountability are universally recognized as good things. No one is criticising those	/r/ExRedPill	11/04/23 07:41 PM
3	Hello, I still prescribe to some red-pill ideas, AMA! None of those things are uniquely RP and seems like just generic advice. Some criticisms of redpill are the views on women’s behavior/psychology, namely the evolutionary psychology, dismissal women’s viewpoints, and idealizing one form of masculinity above all others	/r/ExRedPill	11/04/23 06:36 PM
4	Hello, I still prescribe to some red-pill ideas, AMA! Standard self improvement advice like maintaining fitness and stable finances is nearly universal. Do you see these as uniquely red pill beliefs?	/r/ExRedPill	11/04/23 06:29 PM
3	Hello, I still prescribe to some red-pill ideas, AMA! How something impacts your functioning in psychological and social realms. Basically how has RP impacted your mental health and social life.	/r/ExRedPill	11/04/23 06:26 PM
2	Hello, I still prescribe to some red-pill ideas, AMA! Which RP ideas/philosophies do you subscribe to? How have they impacted your psychosocial functioning?	/r/ExRedPill	11/04/23 05:42 PM
4	Obsession with being seen as desirable The post isn’t about working on desirability, it’s a critical look at people with unhealthy obsessions with desirability. For example someone with unhealthy body image starving themselves or working out to the point they ignore their relationships and responsibilities. Being obsessively about desirability ironically often makes people less desirable	/r/ExRedPill	02/04/23 05:54 PM
7	Obsession with being seen as desirable Why are you focusing on just obese woman? What about women past their “prime” or with features many find unattractive. Again why project this on women instead of asking themselves about their own experiences? How much is self judgment and distorted self image playing a role?	/r/ExRedPill	02/04/23 05:48 PM
9	Obsession with being seen as desirable They are referring to an obsession with desirability not speaking against desirability itself.	/r/ExRedPill	02/04/23 05:25 PM
10	Obsession with being seen as desirable Strive to accomplish your own goals thus making yourself desirable?	/r/ExRedPill	02/04/23 05:07 PM
12	Obsession with being seen as desirable Not really, women who don’t meet conventional attractiveness standards and those out of a narrow age range are by default just as undesirable. Many live everyday this way and survive and thrive not choke. Many share your experience, but is more a factor of self judgement and esteem than an unavoidable rule of nature. I see you project emotions onto others without knowing or asking them about their experience. Why is this so?	/r/ExRedPill	02/04/23 05:06 PM
2	Is it bad that I pay for my own meal? It’s not bad and acknowledge expectations depend on context. If planning to share dishes I offer to split the bill. Insisting on paying can be interpreted as generous indicate certain conservative values, but in the end they should respect when someone declines that offer.	/r/ExRedPill	18/03/23 02:31 PM
3	How am I so bad with girls? I found this video on male desirability helpful. It’s sounds like RP gave you an ideal of attractiveness to live up to and you are learning there’s more it. Would love to hear your thoughts on it	/r/ExRedPill	13/03/23 04:33 PM
2	What are your main problem’s with the red pill? The main problem is it doesn’t work effectively and cuts off men from an array of normal fulfilling relationships	/r/ExRedPill	12/01/23 08:58 PM
2	What turned you away from the red pill? I saw that it didn’t align at all with my moral values. The foundations of the movement appear to based in resentment, hate and anger. Also red pillers in general seem so unhappy always with a chip on their shoulder	/r/ExRedPill	11/01/23 03:11 AM
1	I have an escort addiction. I work in behavioral health and it’s sounds like you are struggling with sex addiction and motivated to change. The good news is it’s highly treatable with standard addiction treatments. If you have a primary care doctor/GP I recommend asking them for a referral to a psychiatrist or addiction medicine specialist. Otherwise you can search for local providers in your area. Treatment typically includes talk therapy with therapist as well medication management with a psychiatrist that can help with …	/r/ExRedPill	06/01/23 01:30 AM
7	My Best Guy Friend is Sucked In. What I'm hearing is he's still carrying the hurt of his bad breakups and projecting resentment from these relationships onto all women. It's easier to blame women, society, others instead of accepting he might be wrong about things. Red pill logic is insidious, exploiting common vulnerabilities in men, transforming them into anger and hate. We can't exactly talk them out of it, they need to make the decision to leave on their own. Disagree politely but don't force it. Let him know you value his …	/r/ExRedPill	13/12/22 04:30 AM
2	I'm 25 and haven't had a date or GF since high school. Why does it matter to you if women have easier social lives? This seems like a generalization contributing to a defeatist mindset and self fulfilling prophecies Just my experience: I didn’t date until 25. I started getting dates when I stopped focusing on dating and focused on figuring out myself. Developing my career, health and hobbies naturally increased my confidence. Women began showing interest and dating became easier and easier. Consider focusing on what you can control. Make yourself in…	/r/ExRedPill	09/12/22 01:17 AM
8	No flirting personality Yes it’s possible because I’m a terrible flirt and typically act terrified around attractive women. Flirting is a skill that requires practice. One way is to treat it just like you would a friendship. Smile, greet them when you see them, kind compliments (not on body parts), try to make them feel heard and understood, use validating statements, keep topics lighthearted, try to find shared interests.	/r/ExRedPill	03/12/22 08:15 PM
1	Still afraid of women This still happens to me despite several intimate relationships, professional success, good fitness ect. With practice you can manage the emotions but they may not ever go away. An attractive woman can turn even the toughest guys into jelly but we can learn skills keep it together. Many women understanding as long as you keep it appropriate and honest.	/r/ExRedPill	07/08/22 05:05 PM
7	My birthday is today, and have no friends or family to celebrate with. Hang in there! Social skills can be learned, it’s just comes easier for some. It took me years of practice and many failures to begin feeling confident. We are here and rooting for you	/r/ExRedPill	23/07/22 03:53 PM
2	How do I let go of the resentment ? We can't control our feelings but we can control our response to them. Instead of responding with anger to pain, consider responding with acceptance. Letting ourselves feel the pain and injustice it brings takes the power away from it. Resentment only controls us when we let it. When I have thoughts of resentment I take a curious approach. Why am I having these thoughts? How can I learn from these thoughts in ways conducive to my goals. We increase chances to overcome resentment by seeking help,…	/r/ExRedPill	06/07/22 05:55 PM
2	Any hope for older incels? Thanks! It sounds like you are thinking about it and exploring options, which is a great first step. You guys inspire me too!	/r/ExRedPill	28/06/22 02:23 AM
2	Any hope for older incels? Thanks! You being here inspires me too!	/r/ExRedPill	28/06/22 02:21 AM
2	Any hope for older incels? Thanks! I’d say my mindset was a seed that I watered and small changes compounding over the years into big changes. Up until my mid 20’s things were bad.. suicidal ready to overdose bad. I still pinch myself sometimes because life has changed so much. I learned a lot, but I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. My mission now is to give my kids the childhood I always wanted and give back to my community. I work in healthcare and my experiences definitely helped develop patience and empathy for those who a…	/r/ExRedPill	28/06/22 02:20 AM
61	Any hope for older incels? Progress is often measured in inches, not miles. Make small changes and let them snowball into big change. At 27 I was on the brink of homelessness, broke, depressed and abusing several substances. Then I started therapy, took meds, went back to school, abstained from substances, found a tough but well paying job. At 38 I’m married to the woman of my dreams, have 2 beautiful kids, great chill career, and many meaningful friendships. There is hope, start small and be persistent	/r/ExRedPill	25/06/22 07:01 PM
3	Why is everything about being so primal? I work in academic Psychiatry and Psychology. Evolutionary psychology is widely regarded as pop culture psych with little scientific basis or utility.	/r/ExRedPill	19/06/22 04:18 PM
35	Do women really trade sex for money, security, and safety? It’s far less common than these guys assume. Sex with someone you aren’t attracted to sounds like a horrifying experience. Few people would choose it willingly	/r/ExRedPill	06/05/22 03:01 AM