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Bros mad bc she kept it in a box, bc she wears it on another finger, be she sold it and kept the $, bc she gave it back. Bros mad bc she moved on. Bc she's the ex. My heart goes out to all the bros, but, y'all need to accept the things you cannot change and move on to your own next chapter.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/26 08:08 PM
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Maybe you did peak as far as the photogenic qualities of ypur.partner. It is what it is my guy. My own experience has been that it's not that hard to attain new heights when it comes to performance in bed. I had experienced some pretty awesome things in the bedroom but as I age it's just gotten better in terms of skill, eagerness, kinkiness, and functional communication about it. Emotional connection is a mixed bag, on the downside my own scars get in the way, on the bright side I find that I'm …
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 06:09 AM
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Same for both genders: Dating is pretty sweet imo if you can spot red flags and keep it moving, and you have your shit together and have a realistic set of expectations. One person in hundreds you are going to want to spend any time at all with, one in tens of thousands you are going to want as a full partner. But, quickly sorting through the rejects is a streamlined process, straightforward communication about what you want and then enjoying it without drama seems so much better compared to my …
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/26 12:04 AM
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Everyone's situation is different. If you want to cooperate for the kids or if there's reasons to have clearing conversations then it could be worthwhile.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/26 07:07 PM
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When you feel done with it If you need to take a full year off after everything is finalized, then in my opinion it's fine to wear that ring. If you're done with it right now, also fine.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/26 04:46 PM
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Oh there's options but they're felonies. In theory the law is on your side, from actual experience as a third party in a few different roles, I can say for certain, in some states in USA, it's very much up to the responding officer and they're very unlikely to volunteer themself for this hassle. Definitely recommend you have a discussion and video and audio record it. Tmdh to get both to acknowledge that this is legally your property and they understand that you deny permission for him to be the…
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/26 04:46 AM
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Sorry that this comes off harsh, brother, if you want to express those emotions I'm here to be a support network. But also, real talk, it's a safe bet you're in a goddamn war zone and if you don't have your shit together you can wreck your whole life making one wrong move. Mostly due to emotions. So. Process them, but do it where it's safe. And the shitty part is, she has been probably 80-100% of your emotional safe space, and now she's very much the opposite. So do it internally or find any oth…
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/26 12:29 AM
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Yeah definitely don't say anything like that,.my man. Definitely not helpful in forwarding any outcome you want. What I'm hearing is you got a lot of emotions to pack up, and if I read between the lines correctly, your STBX already packed her emotions pretty thoroughly. Stop sweating over the petty stuff, the huge underlying issue is unpacked emotions. Pack. And do it fast.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/26 12:26 AM
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I'd agree to that. Where I'll quibble a bit: 2 should be imo 1a. Personally I was celibate for over a year I was separated, and it was a dead bedroom/I had begun to start sorting through the emotions before the separation, however, I didn't go 6 months after the official divorce - it was very final but due to reasons the paperwork dragged out a long time. I went through only one other breakup that was difficult to get over, and in that one, I dated again immediately, and I didn't use it to numb …
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/26 09:56 PM
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Then she's locked in, whatever she sees or doesn't see couldn't lead to any meaningful discussion. And you have no reason to try to remain cordial. Seems like a no; a hell, no;and a fuck you, no; are in order
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/25 10:11 PM
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Did you agree on the price already as part of the judgement? Did you get a clause that specifies you have full and exclusive use of the residence? Personally I would allow it, but, I'm amicable ish and working hard to be moreso for the kids' sake. If it's been a contentious divorce, then know your rights and stand on them, if you feel the need to.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/25 08:58 PM
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Same situation. And? Not to be insensitive to your pain but yeah. When I met her, she didn't have a healthy plan to love and be loved. She was looking for a certain status. Maybe it's easier for me to see because I actually just processed it a few months ago - about 12y after the divorce and about 5y after a phase of a lot of healing and growth, in which I realized I was also using the relationship to fill a void. I didn't have a healthy definition of love. Okay, so my reaction to childhood woun…
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/25 11:43 PM
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The last one (in OP) What I'd do differently is derail the counselor (LFMT) prepared script (which was extremely good material) and bring up all the dirty laundry. In actuality what happened is we had 13x 40m sessions, the 14th week I took her to her favorite restaurant and used what had been discussed to make the point. She said it didn't matter who affirmed that my ask, the issues I wanted to change, was reasonable. It didn't matter what I changed. Regardless she just wasn't interested in chan…
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/25 12:15 AM
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Drop TF out of that friend circle. Might be helpful to Google the term "flying monkey." Had two exes do equivalent with a different accusation - one was addiction, the other was that I cheated - both entirely false. Anybody who's going to get caught up in that he said, she said bullshit,.must not have had enough sense to hear Limp Bizkit's lyrics, and that is kind of a low bar.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/25 10:20 PM
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My ex wife is like that. Sex is to hook a man. Once she's reeled him in, it goes dead. I've seen a few variations on this as friends get into the details of their divorces including women come right out and talk about it. My own experience proved to me that it isn't necessarily the guy not romancing her. She admitted she resisted her urges to initiate sex, and when we did, all the fireworks were there, we'd often go more than once a day for a bit. She admitted it was about control. But that was …
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/25 10:02 AM
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First marriage was dead bedroom at the end, the day we paid off the rings (before the wedding) she warned me things would change. Once married she totally flipped, her compromise was she wanted once a month, in practice that was a bit more often and it was still some freaky marathons until I called her out on some bs outside of the bedroom. I'm 45 and seen a lot of friends out age dating. Also I'm in USA and cultural context probably matters a ton. Honestly it is going to depend on you If you're…
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/25 02:01 AM
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Added: stumbled across this, what is written about older women pretty well summarizes how divorce aged me: https://www.reddit.com/r/NotHowGirlsWork/s/Cx4p0tIs31
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/25 06:09 PM
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Yeah I've experienced similar. For me: divorce wounded me deeper than I'd like to admit even to myself. Nothing wrong with me physically, and more casual sex isn't a trigger, but when I start getting emotionally involved, when a woman is close enough to cut me deep,.basically it seems the little brain knows to complete the mission and get out of the danger zone. And the big brain's usual tricks couldn't override it. Working through those issues was a motherfucker and a half. Can't really offer y…
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/25 04:55 PM
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Popped up in what context? What was the tall prior to saying that? Bc people actually do have platonic friendships. But it's a different context if she was on a dating app
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/25 11:50 PM
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Ber in mind that 1 legal custody has ZERO to do with where the kids actually are and when. Bc the custodial parent has authority to say the kids have a sleepover at anyone house... Be it grandma, classmate, or the other parent. 2 this is the low point in most respects but in many ways this is the first impression/ground rules stage of your new relationship with the ex. Ie "wife" is over, "co parent" just starting. I'm betting like every divorced adult I know, you're thinking back to red flags ig…
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/25 03:34 PM
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50/50 custody is not the best you can ask for yourself. And everyone I've known, including myself, finds that 6-24 months after this point it's a lot better than they had feared. I represented myself and my ex's lawyer was quite good to me, curved her psychotic ranting and basically took a tone of reasonable clarification. There's a table that is exactly the same for 26 states of the USA I think, although those states vary in terms of the other factors, it's the starting point. I believe for two…
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/25 02:31 PM
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P2 This might be really tough to hear. But, respectfully and supportively, I suggest you look into anxious attachment and codependent dysfunction. I believe you're emotionally enmeshed, and framing yourself and the history of the relationship within Karpmann dramatic scripting. Good news is, if that's the case, you are 100% in control of changing it. Bad news, for me, that was a year and a half of heartache and growth pains. Good news, along the way I began the healthiest relationship of my life…
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/25 11:47 PM
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It feels like it, and I get that But she gone, yeah? You're done? Closure is inside of you, my guy. It would be a whole lot easier if she gave you honesty. But no matter who's to blame for what, your sanity really doesn't rest on untangling all the sordid details. If you're divorced, she's mostly out of your way (exception being to whatever degree you have to co parent together) and you're fully responsible for your sanity at this point. If that's a struggle then it's a struggle you need to turn…
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/25 11:43 PM
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I've been accused of similar and it was 100% untrue. I knew the woman through work, I disclosed it to my gf in an ethically non monogamous relationship. Things were really shitty, I turned her down for sex and slept separately for a year, asking her to do some minimal stuff (like take antidepressants and follow up on a counselor that she went to one appointment with and didn't like some very gentle, supportive advice, eg she refused to read some titles the counselor suggested) Long story, a line…
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/25 11:11 PM
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It's not offensive, just realistic. An older female friend told me, at least 90% of the time, when a couple that has been married or been together for years breaks up, one has mostly finished their emotional luggage l, before the other realizes there's serious problems. I think as a generalization, it's true. Sucks to be the one caught by surprise. I've been on both sides of it myself. But also I think that's not quite a direct answer to the question you asked. I think a decent amount of divorce…
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/25 07:30 PM
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Definitely being a widower would be worse. I loved my ex for reasons. She is hostile, but I don't wish her dead, she's a good mother, I moved on. Being a widower would definitely be easier on me than my divorce though. A worse event but a final selection me with an end to the pain and messy drama of it. Two years after, I think I'd have been in a much better place. For my kids, losing their mom would be much more devastating and difficult, no matter what kind of support they had, judging from fr…
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/25 03:02 PM
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Toys were a game changer. I've remarried, but it matters bc I travel for work. Tenga brand came up with something called a Tenga egg, I've used the off brand of something similar. Supposedly the ones that only work for less than a dozen uses are a little more pleasurable. I wouldn't know. The ones I've tried are more durable and about the same price. It's quite discreet. And I personally would say for my own experience, add a bit of good lube and it's like halfway between my hand, and an average…
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/25 08:30 PM
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Bc our culture gives a pretty woman a lot of entitlement and shelter from significant consequences in some categories. If she's never FO, why wouldn't she keeping FA? Wouldn't you do the same if all you had to do was bat your eyes, smile, cry, show some cleavage, etc at the appropriate time?
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/25 05:51 PM
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Homie of mind was venting about his marriage and he said something I feel is brilliant. When he was quite young there was a middle aged guy he looked up to quite a bit who told him that love is a decision, and every day you wake up and decide to love/be or fall in love with your wife. I didn't hear it quote so clearly and concisely but definitely a a whole lot of guys I respect have voiced that and I took it to heart well before I was married. Point I'm making is I don't think all that many wome…
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/25 12:34 AM
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I'm working on just the info in OP and my take is she isn't about money. Speaking as someone who's alright fending for themself, if I'm divorcing a woman, she already has the high ground financially, and then she inherits 2M, it definitely doesn't change anything. I chose to walk away from what they could offer financially, guess what, I'm walking away. Personal experience, ex wife made 3x what I did during the marriage, I walked away and left all equity in the house, she's still making CS as ho…
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/25 07:21 PM
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Solidarity, my ex does a lot of the same
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/25 10:05 PM
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Personal experience: Really comes down to info not stated in OP. Namely how, um, difficult are you two being? I know a bunch of people with far more tangled situations than yours who either filed all on their own, which is pretty simple, or, paid a lawyer $800-1200. I personally would strongly suggest:in case you have a calm discussion about the division of assets, just get her to go down to a public notary and sign a statement of intent get it notarized, give her the same. I'm not sure how lega…
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/25 08:22 PM
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Speaking as someone 10 years past a divorce like that and still perplexed and hurt In a sense it's the measure of a twisted kind of love. She built her identity and dreams on being married And to that extent she needs to fuck up my world for rejecting her. Never mind if she was the one who rejected me, or, any other objective reality. Idk man I can't make it make sense.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 04:00 AM
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