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Discussionring_shopping/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 05:50 AM
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Women's bodies are very utilitarian, they're designed to carry children at the expense of pretty much everything else
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 12:21 PM
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I am a woman. Idk I guess I suck at making friends
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 11:53 PM
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OLD is a terrible representation of society. Women will be harsher on OLD because looks is pretty much all you can go off of initially.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 10:30 PM
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Same as women, 80% of them belong to top 20% of men, theoretically Based on what though, OLD studies?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 10:12 PM
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Isnt the 80/20 rule based on OLD studies
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 08:51 PM
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Is this satire or
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 08:36 PM
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Well obviously appearance does, but also how well you get along, personality, etc
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 08:34 PM
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They date shorter guys, not so attractive guys, poorer guys etc it's not so black and white
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 07:13 PM
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Yea I just have first hand experience of the other side. Like when guys insist that women don't read men's bio on OLD even though I know that I always did when I was on OLD. But I trust that ur experience is legit I imagine not all woman are like the women around me
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 06:42 PM
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Yea
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 06:08 PM
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Hell could be for other reasons I listed. The reasons were not appearance based But are you really gonna keep disagreeing with someone who’s lived that life? I'm not disagreeing I'm sure your experience is valid I'm just giving my own experience too
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 03:56 PM
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You can be short but again I said you have to dramatically improve everything else. Yea but he was short and he improved nothing clearly he made negative effort lmao And answer was she in a relationship where the guy had the same personality with a taller dude and let it go on for longer? Nah I think that was the first time a guy treated her like that but she's dumped plenty of taller guys for other infractions lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 03:42 PM
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She dumped him bc he started acting like he didn't like her, disappearing days at a time ignoring all her messages not because he was short 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 03:35 PM
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Ye my sister dated a short guy for a bit I don't think he was trying very hard to compensate tho
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 03:31 PM
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So what's your undesirable trait, height?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 03:24 PM
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Yea I agree. But it is how it is
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 03:22 PM
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Fair but that doesn't mean every man has the same experience. Your experience is probably more accurate than mine tho ig since its 1st hand
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 03:21 PM
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Did they tell you that
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 03:17 PM
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You said you'd need a passport to go to a deprived area. Actually why are we even having this conversation 😭 even in nicer areas I see women with partners that have your definition of "undesirable traits"
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 03:15 PM
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I'm confused. Just go to your country's shittier area
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 03:13 PM
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Rip
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 03:11 PM
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You don't need a passport to move to a local shithole
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 03:10 PM
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Did a Korean woman steal your lunch money
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 03:07 PM
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No I imagine its even worse than this place
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 03:06 PM
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Here this men need to improve literally everything to get something. Or they could just move to a slightly shittier area apparently lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 03:05 PM
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Wym
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 03:04 PM
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Partly you're right, but also cows are kinda cute and I'm glad her cow is ok
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 03:03 PM
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I've lived in a slightly deprived tourist spot for most of my life and in the summer you just see hoards and hoards of unattractive overweight broke people in relationships. I don't think women necessarily need to have a preference for a trait to be happy dating someone that has it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 03:02 PM
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Ig it depends on the country. My bf says women from his home country are super shallow and money oriented
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 02:58 PM
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Yea I would have
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 02:53 PM
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But that's only true for certain women. The women that aren't shallow are the ones you want to be appealing to but you're not even doing that if you don't have a bio or some effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 02:52 PM
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Women tend to make friends at the drop of a hat Please tell me how I can't make friends at all
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 02:46 PM
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I'm curious
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 02:45 PM
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These kinda guys don't want their partner to be their best friend like normal people do
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 02:43 PM
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Ig I'm ugly or a man then because I don't get random compliments from strangers tf
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 02:33 PM
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Yea I don't believe the whole "I'm wearing it for me I don't want you to look" bs. Putting your asscrack on show is a deliberate choice and if you weren't OK with people looking at it you wouldn't have it out. I wouldn't be comfortable with people staring at my asscrack so I wear baggy joggers it's really simple lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 02:32 PM
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This shit makes me so uncomfortable in the gym and I'm a woman. I don't wanna see your butthole while I work out pls put it away.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 02:29 PM
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Yea fat men get partners all the time, same for short men and broke men
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 02:19 PM
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Who are these women getting flooded with dms
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 02:18 PM
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Woah I forgot about that song
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 02:17 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 02:14 PM
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Nah I get it, even if the father decides he doesn't want the kid, the kid is still existing and potentially struggling with no money and a broken home. Whereas if the mother doesn't want it, the kid just never gets born. So it kinda makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 02:11 PM
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I'm happy for your cow
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 02:06 PM
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Hahaha yes he was in my dms tryna get me to say I'd cheat on my bf 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 12:59 PM
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Wait give me the backstory pls
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 09:14 PM
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Never seen someone so proud to say they suck in bed lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 08:39 PM
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Cute but I was referring to the dating pool of a successful and hypergamous woman because I thought that's what we were talking about. Like I said, as a baseline such a woman would be looking for a more successful man. Then the other stuff like having values and being trustworthy comes into play and the dating pool is, like you said, small. However it's not lacking in quality.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 08:19 PM
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Lmaoo that was hard to watch 😭 dude got so emotional so quick
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 08:13 PM
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Does your male perspective disagree that being successful adds quality
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 07:57 PM
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Wym? If you're saying a highly successful woman is only gonna consider dating guys even more successful than herself as a baseline requirement, sounds like quality to me?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 07:51 PM
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Lmao who was it I wanna see
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 06:57 PM
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Are you unable to be alone
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 06:52 PM
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Its better that way. Quality over quantity.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 06:46 PM
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A big part of the problem is they bring on bimbos who can’t reason or use logic to save their lives. And they get overruled by their emotions That's not a problem it's a feature, why would they invite a woman who doesn't fit into their stereotype of what all women are? They'd undermine themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 06:42 PM
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Idk edward cullen is pretty old
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 06:35 PM
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Most people don't care to date the "maximum possible." Real connection is about the individual not their stats.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 06:32 PM
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Ur right I should know better 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 12:11 AM
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(emotional attachment is part of both the physiological and enviromental variables) Literally just this would explain it for me. I only want sex with my partner. When I didn't have a partner I wanted a partner so there'd be someone I could want to have sex with. Never just wanted sex in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 10:07 PM
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On the other hand, there are absolutely 0 upsides to dating fat women. Does someone have a gun to the head of every ppd man threatening him into dating a fat woman like why are you all so pressed
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 09:43 PM
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All I'm saying is don't get mad at seeing such a pairing should one exist Why would anyone get mad at seeing a couple existing yall literally need to get hobbies it's concerning
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 09:41 PM
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Bro tried to tell me that we should move towards a completely sexless society and just use artificial reproduction all because no one wants to fuck him
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 08:04 PM
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But it makes you wonder why men socialize each other that way? Why are some men so virulently homophobic? I don't know, but I can't imagine it has anything to do with men having "disgusting" bodies. Look at ancient Greece for example. Male bodies were celebrated and seen as beautiful, and sexual relationships between men were normalised aspects of society. As to women's opinions of men I can't speak for everybody, but I've heard and seen plenty of women, for lack of a better word, thirsting over…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 07:29 PM
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Great well you can take that up with mother nature ill just keep having sex as normal
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 06:00 PM
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It's a little bit counterintuitive but evolution doesn't pick the best possible path it follows whatever works well enough. Perhaps we should move towards a sexless society? So extinction?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 04:11 PM
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I have 0 drive for sex with random men and never have had it. I have pretty constant drive for sex with the man I love. I think lots of women would feel similarly.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 03:51 PM
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I guess that's just the best evolution could do. It would probably get in the way of childbirth a bit
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 03:42 PM
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It is not normal to be THAT disgusted by your own gender. What do you mean by that? Surely you'd arguing that it is natural because men are naturally disgusting? I'd argue that men having that reaction isn't just natural, but an effect of society conditioning men to see homosexuality as wrong. But not so bad when women do it because that appeals to the male gaze. Like male homosexuality appeals to the female gaze, but society doesn't really reflect that because what women like is less important.…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 03:05 PM
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I don't really have friends to reference so you've got me there
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 11:31 AM
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Who knows but it's interesting that stats taken from within the vacuum of online dating are accurate and valid but people on reddit's opinions aren't because it's not the 'real world.'
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 11:28 AM
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Please wash your ass that's yucky
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 11:26 AM
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Well how many women are you trying to date. Just pick one that's not fat
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 05:32 AM
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They can only hurt you if you give them the power. Just put on your big boy pants and get over it
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 05:17 AM
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It sounds like you need to busy your mind with a hobby or something
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 05:16 AM
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I hear much more obsessing over height by men on the Internet than by anyone else anywhere
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 05:12 AM
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But if u don't think about them they can't hurt u
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 05:11 AM
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Men who beat their partners should be shot tbh I think that'd solve it
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 05:11 AM
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I didn't even need to open this post to know it'd be about moving to Thailand or the Philippines to get easy women
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 05:08 AM
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Why is everyone here so obsessed with fatness
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 05:06 AM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 05:03 AM
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When women are taught to think for themselves, they make bad decisions and end up unhappy with their lives. Based on nothing. They require their male protector usually their father but can be grandad, uncle, brother to help her make the right decisions That's great when her male relatives are good people with morals, and less great when they're abusers teaching her how to accept abuse
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 05:02 AM
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In my mind it'd be men using their strength to protect women not control and abuse them
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 04:55 AM
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Idk I'm just saying that awkward body language can make someone look really unappealing
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 04:51 AM
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Why do you think being half japanese makes you unable to have a fetish
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 04:18 AM
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We get it you have an Asian fetish
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 04:15 AM
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When a woman here disagrees with them she's just a rare exception to the rule. When 20 women disagree they're just 20 rare exceptions to the rule. When 80% of women in the comments disagree its just that women on reddit are weird and don't represent the majority of women. You get the idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 04:06 AM
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I wouldn't want one and I'm pretty confident that my partner would never ask for one
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 04:00 AM
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Sayuri matar is more beautiful than 90% girls From a male perspective maybe? But no straight woman would be attracted to him
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 03:26 AM
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That's literally just your opinion and personal preference though. Not some objective truth of "men evolved to be less aesthetically pleasing." My partner's "absolutely disgusting" masculine traits are beautiful to me, and I'm sure most women with a normal libido would feel similarly (not about my partner specifically lmao I just mean about men in general) Edit: just read in another comment that you're gay. Of course you don't find men beautiful unless they look like women then😭
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 03:21 AM
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the matches were all girls I would never want to be with. You know you only match with people that you also swiped right on. Why were you swiping on women that you would never want to be with?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 03:02 AM
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or washing my ass Wait what
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 02:59 AM
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Cringe
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 01:49 AM
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Comments were talking about the pose Sounds like you were probably standing awkwardly
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 01:43 AM
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Interesting. Definitely don't feel the same
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 12:30 PM
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How soon do you feel this should happen
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 08:56 AM
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So help me understand, when you're trying to find a partner, are you chatting and getting to know a few people to find out who you vibe with, and then with those people that you vibe with you start flirting and going on dates, and then if you really vibe with them you have sex? While meanwhile still flirting with and dating the other people that you vibed with?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 08:55 AM
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Exactly, idk why some people here are struggling with this concept. It's like they're kids with ADHD who have to watch TV while scrolling on their phone, listening to music, reading a book and playing with a fidget spinner. It's not a good look if you can't take the time to focus on one person without getting restless and going off to fuck someone else between dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 08:35 AM
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That sounds dumb but what do I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 01:44 AM
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Well my first comment that you replied to was my personal opinion but I did mean it to apply generally. But then you started asking about how I personally progress in a relationship so it derailed the conversation to here
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 01:40 AM
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Idk what tell you, my experience is clearly an outlier.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 12:19 AM
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No. The in-between is platonic acquaintances. Not FWB.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 11:03 PM
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No, well adjusted men don't feel cripplingly inferior. This is a problem with your mental state, not the world.
/r/ExRedPill27/02/23 10:57 PM
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You need to work on your self esteem
/r/ExRedPill27/02/23 10:56 PM
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Me. I said, some people commit because they feel that they have to in order to get into a relationship, whereas others actually want to commit. Those people who are doing it because they have to would be fucking around outside their relationship if the had the choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 10:40 PM
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I'm a woman so sex with one woman a month is probably as much as the average man could manage lmao. But anyway I don't relate. I'd rather be single than constantly going on dates with different people and having sex with people I'm not invested in.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 10:08 PM
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If a girl doesn't physically want me I don't want her I never said to date a girl who doesn't want you. Also I wouldn't trust a woman who didn't have sex first. I'm not going to ruin my own life sorry honey Why would getting to know each other before having sex ruin your life?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 09:59 PM
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Aw thanks, jealous of him or me haha. You don't need to have all those traits for someone to love you just as much though. There's plenty of women who his masculine traits wouldn't appeal to at all
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 09:58 PM
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No its just that 'enjoys sex with as many people as possible' isn't what I look for in a monogamous partner
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 09:46 PM
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Not even synonymous. More like, people can be different things. Does your own boyfriend predominantly meet the above traits, or does he moreso meet the second definition I'd say he has a mix of both, which is what I like best. He has a handsome, youngish face, cute smile that makes me wanna squeeze him like you would a cute puppy. He goes to the gym almost every day, so he's well built and really strong. He likes wrestling and roughhousing. He's lovely and sweet and my absolute best friend. He's…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 09:46 PM
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Some people commit because they have to, it's expected in a relationship. Others commit because they want to. This kind of thing separates those two people. If you want to date and marry someone who'd jump at the chance of an open relationship, date the former.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 09:28 PM
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But it's also a good way of judging their interest and character. If they literally can't go a couple weeks while going on dates with you without ending up in someone else's bed..
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 09:26 PM
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This mindset feels like a red flag to me. If a man isn't able to commit during the talking phase, there's a chance that he'll be able to commit in a relationship but it doesn't look too encouraging. Whereas a guy who'll happily commit even when there's no obligation seems way more likely to actually be loyal in a relationship. Also the way you see it also makes it sound like you'd be looking to cheat or leave if there was ever less sex in the relationship for any reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 09:24 PM
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Because they have higher standards than.. you I guess?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 09:17 PM
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I can't imagine that someone would be fucking around with people if they were really interesting in getting to know you and hopefully date you. They'd be focused on just you wouldn't they?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 09:17 PM
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I mean I've often heard women calling guys they're attracted to cute. but more of a best friend than a lover" I'm pretty sure this isn't in any official definition of the word cute haha. Personally I find my bf super cute. Cutest guy ever. He's also hot, and attractive, and has plenty of "masculine" traits. It's not a binary.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 08:15 PM
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Yea it's cool it's a war zone out here lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 05:33 PM
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I'm not the guy that you were talking to I was backing you up. Classic case of redirected aggression lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 04:59 PM
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However, women keep wanting legislative hoops to try and make them earn as much as men. I've noticed. Nothing I can do about it really. Just don't agree with the need for it. having no time to provide their femininity to the relationships. It's a case by case thing. Women should be free to be careerists if they want to be, and if they don't want to "provide their femininity" to a relationship that's their personal perogative. It seems unfair to me that women can gain money by marrying up or by w…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 04:51 PM
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I'm still not sure exactly what you're referring to. I don't think we need to make an effort against gender roles. We need to make an effort so that neither men nor women are trapped in certain roles if they don't want to be. Maybe that's not what's happening anymore, but I haven't said it was. I just disagreed with your statement that women need to suddenly lower their standards. finding it natural that everyone has to make an effort against gender roles. And I disagree with this statement equa…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 04:45 PM
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I'm under the impression that the gender pay gap doesn't really exist. Men and women don't get paid arbitrarily different wages. Men over their lifetime do get paid more because they either 1. Work higher paying jobs, 2. Work more hours, 3. Take less time off for family, or a combination of all. And probably some other factors. It's just reality that men on average will earn more. I don't think we need to jump through legislative hoops trying to change that. Just as we don't need to change the f…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 04:33 PM
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How so
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 04:29 PM
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It's a good thing people aren't food
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 04:28 PM
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Attractiveness is subjective. There's lots of people's partners that I find objectively unattractive but their partners still think they're hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 04:25 PM
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Bear in mind that this is one person's personal opinion, not something that applies to every woman. I think lots of people use cute to describe people they find sexually attractive as well
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 04:23 PM
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Well actually you should be going to bed disappointed every night and laying awake thinking about how you settled because your gf isn't Margot Robbie
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 04:20 PM
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90% of the theories presented as facts in this sub are completely made up we know that by now
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 04:18 PM
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Probably goes through life like a submissive dog at the dog park, pissing on himself when a bigger man comes near
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 04:15 PM
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but they're not marrying "lesser" men more than before And why exactly should they? If a woman is going to earn less over her lifetime than a man, is going to have to make the personal sacrifice of childbirth and the doing the majority of childcare if they ever want kids, and is the weaker and more vulnerable sex, why do you feel that she should commit to a man that is less able to provide than she is? The reason women "marry up" is because of natural selection. Because it works. Why do you thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 04:01 PM
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"Women as a collective whole need to arbitrarily lower their standards so men feel better"
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 03:57 PM
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Has it not occurred to you that you were supposed to seduce him into committing since it's your incentive and not his? What a dumb take. If either party needs convincing into marriage then the marriage is fucked from the beginning. If someone wants to marry you they'll let you know. No point chasing someone trying to change them
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 03:53 PM
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It's not an issue of semantics when you make your meaning as explicitly clear as you did. You said men have no value. They're born with no value. No point saying things that even you don't believe
/r/ExRedPill26/02/23 07:11 PM
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You just said "men have none"
/r/ExRedPill26/02/23 07:06 PM
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Of course men have intrinsic value. Everyone has intrinsic value as a human being.
/r/ExRedPill26/02/23 06:50 PM
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women will never have to risk or deal with, experience, even close to the amount of rejection men have to risk and deal with I think this is true in general. women don't risk having their social awkwardness or social ineptness, poor social skills, being labeled as weird or creepy, I still think there's risk of this if a woman is socially inept/awkward. I was 100% seen as weird because of my social awkwardness when I was a teenager and have been told I looked creepy while just minding my own busi…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 06:42 PM
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I was just going by your profile but yea could be
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 04:44 PM
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Iran
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 04:36 PM
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social outcasts that get bullied heavily and try to push back by appearing dangerous. Yeah this was the vibe I got.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 03:07 PM
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And we can still criticise people's actions of course, like if someone's lack of control over said emotions makes them an insufferable asshole or a terrible partner (the partners in your earlier comment can and should be criticised if they're lashing out at you unfairly) And obviously as follows with your example of libido lmao. But yeah the inclination itself isn't anything to be ashamed of. I'm not ashamed of having bigger emotions than my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 02:44 PM
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I don't quite know what you want me to suggest? Talk to your partner about it if you feel like it's hurting your relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 02:38 PM
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Well actually she's a theta bride because Chad zoinked her making him actually a Kevin which means she's a typical sandysmux Amelia because she llama twigged him in order to get a ride on the waltzers. Common female W.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 11:13 AM
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Yeah, sucks
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 10:49 AM
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I think you misread the post though, he said he wants to be seen as a lover AND a husband. Not briefly a lover and then shortly a divorcee
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 10:44 AM
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I imagine she'll stop seeing you as a lover if you stop having sex with her? Or at the least if you're very unenthusiastic about sex and she feels undesired.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 10:42 AM
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I can easily believe that I'm (a woman) more emotional than most men. I feel emotions very strongly, my mood can get ruined really easily. I'm pretty stoic in public settings though. I don't think women like to admit it in case it gets used against them. But being 'emotional' as a woman isn't some innate mental weakness, its just hormones. As long as men aren't under the delusion that they'd fare any better against emotion than a woman if they suddenly had their hormones swapped to match ours.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 10:33 AM
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I get the feeling he's lying to us too
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 10:15 AM
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You're iraqi?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 10:14 AM
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That doesn't even make sense. She said "none of them pulled that shit" meaning none of them lied to her about wanting something more, they were just both on the same page.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 10:08 AM
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No you don't understand, attractive people are the enemy !!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 10:04 AM
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Bit of a reach
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 10:02 AM
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She never said they were attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 09:59 AM
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I mean not everyone, but that's just my opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 09:55 AM
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Because they can't have sex on the kitchen counter when you could wander in at any second looking for your bag of doritos
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 09:52 AM
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That all points to what I’m saying, no? Yes, I was conceding. I've definitely heard the issue of men leaving their wives who have cancer, its very disheartening. I'm not saying that you were doing this, but I don't think the most productive approach would be to criticise other majority groups of women for talking about benefits that they experience, that more minority groups of women do not. I think that instead we should speak more freely about the advantages that able-bodied women, for example…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 09:25 AM
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I can't run a demographic poll on the commentors to confirm whether they're white and able-bodied so you may be right that the comments represent a certain demographic of women, but I wouldn't call the comments limited for that reason, since disabled women make up around 17% of the population aged 20-40, and of the I think 9 original comments made by women on this post, yours makes up 11%. I do appreciate hearing your perspective though, since it differs from that of the general population.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 08:33 AM
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Most studies I could find described how disabled women find it harder than disabled men to get employment and face more discrimination in employment, which isn't relevant to discussions in the thread. However I did also find a study stating that disabled women are less likely to be married than disabled men, which I found surprising, since I'd assumed that society's gender roles would be more accommodating of a woman who is less physically capable than a man who is less physically capable.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 08:19 AM
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Do you think that you would be more, less, or equally likely to be assisted than a disabled and fat man?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 07:53 AM
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I don't believe OP made any judgement on the reasons for women's lower libido
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 07:51 AM
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I don't know the actual reasons for less inventors being women, but I feel like it checks out. Men are proven to be better at spatial visualisation, which is surely important in the process of designing something, and better at building/putting things together. Plus when considering how historically women were primarily caretakers, and even today (according to a recent study) over half of mothers would prefer to stay at home than work, it makes sense why less women have been and are 'inventors.'…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 07:48 AM
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I can acknowledge that my appearance plays a part beyond my gender, but surely many of the things in my post and the comments still apply to the types of women you listed even if to a lesser degree. Plus I would be surprised if every woman sharing her opinion in the comments is "thin young able-bodied and white"
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 07:10 AM
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Immature woman makes it about herself or resents the situation and chastises man for it. I'm willing to be there's a whole lot of women (men too obviously, but in regards to this specific situation) that by default put their own negative emotions above their partners, and prioritise self soothing over supporting, so this situation with such a woman will never go in the man's favour. I realised years ago that I can be selfish when I feel hurt and I've made a conscious effort to improve. But maybe…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 12:07 AM
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Man I typed like half my response to this message and then reddit crashed and deleted it 😑 it might not be as eloquent this time around lmao. I never really know what to feel or do in such a situation as a man because your partner is clearly trying but I can't help but feel unsupported and like I am a burden because of this. I really appreciate this insight. I can easily see my partner feeling the same way. Not to the point that he wouldn't want to ever confide in me, because he still does when …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 11:53 PM
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I'm glad, I kinda felt like an ass when I realised. Got a bit excited with the revelation and just started typing lmao. I don't usually get any kind of deeper understanding of issues from this subreddit so its a nice change to have a productive conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 11:17 PM
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Yeah, I've never really understood this phenomenon but it makes a whole lot of sense when I think about it this way. It would mean that this situation doesn't occur because women are unempathetic (the opposite) or because they're more often bad partners, but instead that the emotional immaturity of women will show up more often in this specific situation than the emotional immaturity of men will. I would assume there's probably a pretty equal distribution of emotional immaturity between both men…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 11:15 PM
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I just read this exchange back and realised I pretty much just repeated what you said but worded different and as if it was my idea lmaoo sorry about that. I'm very distracted atm and I think I missed half your comment
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 11:07 PM
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Haha I literally just came to that exact conclusion in a reply I made like 5 minutes ago. I wonder if it was the same study that I was responding to because it was pretty long and scientific and I just skimmed it lmao. Either way I agree that makes a whole lot of sense
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 11:04 PM
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I think they are empathetic to their partners but, in the case of women that respond badly to being confided in, are emotionally immature. I just made another comment a second ago somewhere else in this thread and I feel like I had a sort of break through on this topic lmao. If you can find it, I feel like it makes a lot of sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 11:00 PM
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I really don't think women are doing it just to be mean. No I agree. I almost wonder if in general, women in relationships do empathise more strongly with their partners emotions, but as suggested in that link, are maybe not so good at being supportive despite their empathy, due to the emotional toll caused by so intensely mirroring the negative emotions being expressed. Whereas men might perceive themselves as being more empathetic because they stay at more of an emotional constant when faced w…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 10:56 PM
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When it's her partner with an issue , now where's the security at? I can see what you're saying. Someone who enters a relationship with the assumption that they won't be expected to provide emotional support and just be supported themselves will have an unempathetic response. It's a mini panic mode , this is not when empathy will show through. People can really display their empathy when they feel secure. If it feels like the situation is insecure or sort of a threat to the status quo then empat…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 10:15 PM
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It's ok if you don't want to answer my question, but I really am just curious, not trying to attack
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 09:02 PM
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but interested in what? In throwing a dick in me, or actually interested in in maybe pursuing a relationship with me? This isn't a gendered concept I don't think, since men will also not necessarily be able to tell which kind of interest they're receiving when they do receive it. The gendered part in question is simply quantity of interest, so that's the point that me and OP were discussing. It was op posting absolute horseshit about the female experience in dating, and making ridiculous compari…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 08:36 PM
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I don't disagree with your judgement of that particular interpretation of that one statement. However I found that when I read the rest of his comment, I understood that he was not claiming women to have "infinite choice" but simply to have the option, if they want, to wait for someone that they are potentially interested in to make a move. I'm not saying that this applies to every woman and I don't think he was either, just that it is an observable trend. By unempathetic I'm referring to your d…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 08:10 PM
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Np, thanks for hearing me out
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 07:58 PM
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When you're a kid, it's understandable. While transitioning to adulthood, you have that moment of "tf am I caring about their opinion?"...then it's all good. I don't know if I stopped caring or just started feeling more confident in myself, or both. But I feel the judgement of others much less harshly these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 07:50 PM
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If all you intend to do is be negative then by all means
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 07:48 PM
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But your seemingly best example of oppression in our society is not any legal right, I agree with you, I don't think that women in our society lack legal rights. But I do think that some women in our society are capable of being oppressed despite their legal rights. Laws are not the be all end all of discussion. There are always communities that are somewhat untouchable by law. The police rarely get involved with criminal acts by gypsies for example. Thankfully these societies are fringe cases, …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 07:47 PM
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Commonality and enthusiasm would be the main difference here. That sounds about right to me. In general I think someone will help in public if someone is visibly struggling (of course not in every case unfortunately) but a woman is likely to receive more enthusiastic help, even by other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 07:42 PM
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You inserted your own interpretation into a personal experience that a man described and downplayed it, then minimised it against your own experiences. I didn't get any sense empathy from your comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 07:39 PM
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What rights do western women not have in todays society? Although on a whole, women in western society don't experience oppression in ways that women in less developed societies too, there are definitely still pockets of oppression. In the UK there's a community of people called gypsies, found all across the country. A girl born into a gypsy community is taken out of school sometimes as young as primary/elementary school age to be a housekeeper. They get married at 16 and become housewives. With…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 07:34 PM
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or it's just interesting to other men, and In that case it's usually just annoying because they don't realize I'm a fucking expert and their little bit of experience is laughable Like a guy seeing you working on your car or something and coming in to give unneeded input? I wouldn't get help unless some thing is practically killing me, Just yesterday I was struggling to open a door with my hands full for like 3 seconds maximum and a man who was already walking towards the door started hurrying ov…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 06:54 PM
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If you Google "are women more empathetic than men" you'll see what I mean, it's agreed across the board. Not trying to discredit your opinion, I don't think that you're lying. I think it's an interesting topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 06:50 PM
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I don't doubt that lmao being female and upset generally makes people much more accommodating
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 06:40 PM
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It does, but how can you expect empathy from the other side if you're not willing to give it yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 06:37 PM
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Fully agree
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 06:20 PM
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We can have babies, our clothes are cuter I'll go a step further and combine the two: female baby clothes are much cuter than male baby clothes
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 06:11 PM
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I appreciate hearing your point of view :)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 06:09 PM
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Defensiveness is in no short supply on this subreddit lmao, from both sides
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 06:05 PM
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In an ideal world, women would have the same capacity to empathize with their partner. I'm very empathetic myself, and I thought that this was a trait overrepresented in women. Pretty much all studies will support that women are more empathetic. It makes me curious as to why so many men report such lack of empathy from partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 06:03 PM
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I did think about the men who target other men specifically for being perceived as a threat. Whether out of defensiveness or ego or whatever else. I'm glad my partner doesn't go to clubs or bars or anything like that, since I know how eager some men are to challenge another man.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 06:01 PM
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Being a mom is really magical. Hard, but magical. I was never much interested in the idea of motherhood, but recently I've been more open to considering it. I'm glad to hear it's such a positive experience for you. I've had much more experience with male strength being used against me than to support me. I'm very sorry to hear this. I think a man using his strength against a woman is one of the lowliest things he can do.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 05:57 PM
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I appreciate your input since your experience and worldview differs quite a lot from mine, and I know of course my experience will not be shared by all women. The thing I really hate about these sorts of questions is that they make human lives and their experiences a list of pros and cons. And you have to list them to justify why you've got it worse so you can get any help It wasn't my intention to promote the 'who's got it worse' competition, I just felt that this was a topic I hadn't really se…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 05:53 PM
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The system isn't set up to benefit men. Lines like "the patriarchy hurts men too!" and "benevolent sexism" are put pants on head ridiculous contortions to explain away female privilege and male oppression. While my understanding is that the 1% is mostly made up of men, and therefore you could conclude that men are benefitted in some way by the system, I think it's still just a system that benefits "certain" men, and while it helps, being a man alone is not enough to be successful (obviously). So…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 05:36 PM
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God I hated being touched and hugged by my friends when I was younger. I think a hug from a random guy (I had no male friends) would've just about started a fight lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 05:20 PM
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Most women like other women more than men so perhaps I get slightly better treatment from women than I would if I was a man? I can see that. Women are more likely to trust and confide in other women, be more open to friendship and go to other women when they need help I'd imagine.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 05:18 PM
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That's fair. Personally I feel its probably a situation by situation basis. It's not like men are always safe just for being bigger and stronger anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 05:13 PM
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Gotcha, I can imagine if you're covered in dark hair back to front that's a hell of a lot more work than just shaving your legs and armpits. I've been mocked a lot for actually trying to diversify my wardrobe/style away from the general "tshirt/shirt/jeans/pants" mentality I'm sorry you've experienced that. I've definitely felt self conscious and worried about what people have thought about my fashion sense before, especially back when I was in school. If someone had outright mocked it my self e…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 05:10 PM
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I suppose I got really lucky haha
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 05:04 PM
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Don't worry about it
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 04:48 PM
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. If women don't value men's purity, then it's on them. If women stopped giving insufferable fuckbois attention they would cease to be😩 But a girl can only dream
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 10:38 AM
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Wardrobe There's definitely a sense that women have more flexibility and freedom in what they can wear. I imagine I'd feel pretty limited if I only had the options of male fashion. Maintaining a hairless body What do you mean by this? Like that it'd easier to do as a woman or more socially accepted?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 10:30 AM
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I'd say I agree with all of that too, apart from the lesbian part since I'm straight haha, but it's another angle I hadn't considered. Thanks for commenting :)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 10:27 AM
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No I'd say it's based in assumptions and probably charged with a degree of bitterness or resentment. But I think there's value in looking past the words themselves and to the feeling behind them, to an extent. A lot of people here aren't very adept at communicating their thoughts or feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 09:16 AM
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I’m more referring to things like sex drive and such. Feelings. Trauma processing. The sexes are wildly similar on those fronts. I find me and my partner to be mostly similar on these fronts as well. I suppose I try to give others the benefit of the doubt when they claim to have an experience wildly different from mine, since I've no doubt it's possible and I have no way of knowing for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 09:13 AM
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Yeah you're 100% right. People in general care about what it makes them feel good to care about. Unattractive people being an example of the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 08:59 AM
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We are vastly more similar than we are different. It makes me wonder why there's so much animosity between the genders. I had a slightly different revelation in meeting my partner. He's quite different to me in ways that obviously aren't solely dictated by gender, but that are in line with the general proven trends. I.e. a fairly 'stereotypical masculine' guy. I find that our differences compliment each other nicely, and the masculine qualities that I originally didn't see much value in I value …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 08:57 AM
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Damn you single cell organism
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 08:52 AM
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Men are perfectly willing to discuss their advantages, like physical strength. They sure are. What I feel isn't discussed enough in mainstream spheres are the disadvantages of being men. Feminists for example don't like it when that 'gap in the market' is filled by people like Andrew Tate or even incels, but it has to be discussed by someone. What they are not willing to do, is to discuss pretend advantages that have in reality no relation with their gender, Again, I honestly believe that this o…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 08:47 AM
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but I rather be turned down before any real feeling develops than pumped and dumped by a guy I was hoping to have a relationship with. We all have our cross to bear. I didn't mean to turn it into a competition. I just think that if we want to be heard by the other side, we have to hear them out ourselves, and try to be understanding. It's not a relatable experience to me, but if I think about it, I can imagine the feelings of hurt and inadequacy that might come from being rejected like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 08:43 AM
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There aren’t any benefits to being a woman so much as there are benefits to just being me. If that makes sense. I see what you mean, and I don't mean to challenge your opinion. Personally I think that there are aspects of me that cannot be removed from my gender and attributed solely to my character. Ie. The way the world perceives me in some sense. Or the way my brain works in slightly different ways to men. Those aspects will probably look a little bit different to every woman but I do believe…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 08:39 AM
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It's just there is no point to discuss the appropriateness of such actions if there is permanent gaslighting on what reality is and thus what those differences are. Sure, but I think people will resist admitting to those differences while they still feel that the differences make them somehow inferior. It's human nature to defend against perceived attack. If women were encouraged to see certain traits as positive, they'd feel less defensive and more willing to concede. Same for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 08:35 AM
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I think I'm guilty of it myself sometimes. I like to see the best in my fellow gender, but obviously when that defense becomes a knee jerk reaction regardless of context, or lack thereof, it becomes damaging
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 08:31 AM
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I think the idea being expressed is that since men generally make the first move, women have to deal less with the possibility of rejection
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 08:29 AM
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I appreciated your list, I hope the negativity didn't take away from it for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 08:24 AM
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For every benefit I can think of.. There’s something that cancels it out. I still think its beneficial to think about and explore the benefits of being a woman, even if you feel that there are equal downsides. I find it a little bit disheartening to only ever hear about the bad sides, and it makes me feel down about being a woman. Since we only have the lives and bodies we were born into, I want to try and feel good about who I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 08:22 AM
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I don't think we need to try and discredit what feels like an advantage to somebody else. Men are free to have a close bond with their bros. Comments like this are interesting to me, because I don't think the original comment was claiming that its an advantage only enjoyed by women, so it makes me wonder what motivated that response. So can I gather from this that you don't personally feel there are any advantages to being a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 08:19 AM
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Because you're not I think that's part of the point. While not being a physical threat is pretty disadvantageous in all situations, not being perceived as a physical threat can have advantages. You're more likely to be believed to be in the right, to not be the aggressor in all situations, more likely to be supported and protected whether warranted or not. I.e. cases of domestic violence against men by women. Generally men will be believed to be the aggressor in these situations because of their…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 08:12 AM
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I don't suppose you could give me a sort of example of this? Like in the workplace maybe. I definitely see what you mean in terms of "stop seeing yourself as a victim and take responsibility" within the context of reddit gender debates, in which case I imagine that negative emotion you mentioned is a kind of defensiveness/fear of being discredited. I want to try and understand what you're experiencing in these other contexts.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 08:07 AM
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Just imagine that everytime you wanted to talk about a problem that would require you to be vulnerable everyone would tell you to shut the hell up and deal with it, if that helps. Yeah I don't think I've really experienced something like that, I'm sorry that you have. People also talk about women wanting to be heard, but the reverse as a factor is true : a man will want advice on how to deal with that. So in an ideal world, do you wish that you had someone you could open up to safely, or are you…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 08:01 AM
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The issue is when one pretends that it has no advantages whatsoever But feminism basically states that by definition there is no advantages for women since they are systematically oppressed. I thought about this a lot recently and realised its a big problem. Which maybe sounds kinda dumb and obvious but since the oppression and disadvantages of being female are so heavily discussed it kinda went over my head. Despite having personally experienced really none of the oppression that people referen…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 07:51 AM
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I feel like I do agree with the first 3 points. holy fuck women have it good with how their emotions are treated I'm not sure if I can agree with this, not because I think it's not true but because I'm just not sure. I'm my own relationships I've not been criticised for my emotions for the most part, but I wonder if other women do experience this? it'll worm itself in a next argument and ,talk about it to about everyone, at worst you'll judge, ridicule the emotions I have heard about this a from…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 07:32 AM
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As a man people will generally find a way to blame you no matter how little you were in control of the things that happened to you. That sounds like it's sucks. So in general you feel that women around you get less blame and more empathy?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 07:22 AM
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Yeah if I'd felt pressure to get married or have kids I may have felt differently. I'm the sort of person who needs things to flow really naturally in order to actually build connections, even with friends. Either I'm matching someone's energy or they're leading, but if they're giving no energy I just feel no desire to try.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 07:19 AM
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I hear Canada is a very friendly place lmao. Do you feel like you could ask both men and women for help?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 07:08 AM
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Yeah that can go both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 07:06 AM
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I do appreciate not being drafted. I feel like I've gone years without a hug or compliment from the opposite sex, but that would've been my school years so maybe doesn't count. And unless you count parents as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 07:04 AM
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Ms Heard?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 07:00 AM
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Yeah I think I agree. It's definitely easier to just respond to interest than it is to initiate and pursue potential interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 06:50 AM
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I'd like to think that everyone's suffering matters to society, but I know that's not true. I do feel generally protected by society for the most part. Edit: I'm genuinely curious which side I bothered enough with this comment to get multiple downvotes. Men that feel their suffering doesn't matter to society, even though I conceded my own point? Women that don't feel protected by society?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 06:46 AM
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Agree with most of this. Being able to bear life is both a benefit and downsides imv It terrifies me but I also think it's pretty cool that we can do it? Life expectancy is longer on average This one actually makes me sad because I hate the thought of outliving my partner :( Being the one who gets asked out. Honestly I think if it were solely up to me to initiate a relationship I would probably just die alone. Or at least get to like 30 before I felt motivated to try lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 06:44 AM
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Nah I'm way too paranoid and anxious to rely on that I pregnancy scare myself even with protection Edit: though now you mention it, my period does give me some reassurance by proving that I'm not pregnant, so that's an albeit very brief benefit
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 06:36 AM
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they know the guys they do get to choose from are interested. Do you think that this is always the case? Maybe it's a self esteem issue but I've never assumed that a guy was interested in me. I generally assume the opposite, to the point of being surprised if they do turn out to be interested. I still think you have a point though, because I've never really felt the need to strongly pursue someone. If I had pursued someone in a direct manner I probably would have had a better chance at being acc…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 06:29 AM
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Thanks for the clarification. Did you read the actual post or just the title because I felt like the content of the post made it pretty clear. U can answer honestly I appreciate that the post was pretty fucking long
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 06:22 AM
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I don't personally feel like I've ever had an abundance of romantic options, and definitely not to the point of being 'spoilt for choice.' But I do recognise that as a woman there's probably a higher chance of the guy you do like liking you back, than there is for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 06:18 AM
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So you think having a period is a benefit of being a woman? I mean it take it you're joking but no it has no benefits. Uncomfortable, painful, impractical and inconvenient. Messes up plans. Occasionally damages clothes.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 06:15 AM
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I tried to formulate a response to this but I couldn't really see how it related to my question
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 06:13 AM
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Thank u for telling me! I've edited it
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 05:54 AM
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Imagine calling literal misandry "antifeminist." Oh you're talking about women being prejudiced towards men? That's pretty antifeminst of you to suggest that women could do a bad thing
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 04:59 AM
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"misandry is not at all established as a cultural institution, nor is it equivalent to misogyny which is many times more prevalent in scope, far more deeply rooted in society, and more severe in its consequences. Scholars criticize MRAs for promoting a false equivalence between misandry and misogyny." Can't even give a fucking definition without throwing "but misogyny is actually worse" in there. I looked up the page for misogyny as well and it's night and day lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 04:52 AM
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Bit flat and thin
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 04:37 AM
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Whys it describe the concept of misandry like an urban legend 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 04:33 AM
1

Shes cute but she does look pretty young
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 04:21 AM
1

Probably my shit hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 04:05 AM
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Such entitlement in assuming that a woman found on a dating site is not a prostitute. It'd be entitlement if he found her in a brothel and didn't expect to pay.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 04:02 AM
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What a new and intriguing conversation topic that has never been brought up here 50 times before.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 03:57 AM
3

Yeah, pretty face is the first thing I noticed in my bf
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 03:52 AM
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For some people dating is meeting up and having sex. For no one is dating meeting up and paying for sex, so it's weird you find the latter more justifiable than the former.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 03:49 AM
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No? That's kind of what they're used for. They're not supposed to be used for prostitution. That's effectively like posting something on one of those giving away shit for free Facebook groups and then when someone comes to pick it up you ask them for money.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 03:44 AM
0

Checks out, he isn't an ugly guy even despite the hair
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 03:42 AM
2

I never had an issue on apps. Who cares about being ghosted. I went in with no expectations and no plans to date. Only swiped on people who seemed to be more on my wavelength. Just chatted with people like I would if I was trying to make friends. Ghosted boring people. Never received any angry or gross or otherwise negative messages so must've been doing something right. Found someone I really vibed with and immediately knew I had to meet them (only date I went on). Been dating for like 3 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 03:40 AM
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Nah ur right it's super socially acceptable at the moment to shit all over men as a whole but the reverse will absolutely be criticised. Both should be seen as equally unacceptable.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 03:33 AM
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Strangely enough I never got one angry or nasty or creepy message for the entire time I had an OLD profile. Literally never encountered it at all. There was one guy who got a bit weirdly attached and I had to shut it down but I still wouldn't call it creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 03:27 AM
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You're not allowed to on apps Exactly, meaning she was the one wholly in the wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 03:16 AM
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People name their cars and cry when they sell them. Once the cars start saying "I love you" back its over for society 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 03:10 AM
2

Is there any concern that it will totally fuck up people’s ability to interact with each other in the real world? No moreso than how previous advances in technology have degraded our ability to do things without that technology. So yeah probably quite a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 03:07 AM
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The thought of babies stresses me out I'd hate to have to take care of one alone. If me and my partner got to a point financially where he could take parental leave as well I'd consider it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 03:03 AM
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There's also a lot of sitting or standing around and staring in the gym, maybe moreso than other public places. What more to do between sets than zone out and stare into space. Sometimes you realise too late that another person was occupying that space and then you feel super awkward.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 02:59 AM
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I feel like I can pretty accurately judge an "average man." Average people in general can fall just either side of attractive or unattractive depending on how you look at them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 02:55 AM
2

I swear it's 90% the hair his barber did him so dirty 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 02:47 AM
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Can a nice physique save someone like is this guy way more attractive with muscle than if he was without or ottermode? I'd guess his physique would make him more attractive to a good portion of women. Looking at his face though he doesn't look like an ugly guy he just has a shit haircut. How much does muscle/good body factor into your dating choices Tbh, not too much. Body is one of the last things that I would focus on. I don't think obese would appeal to me though. strongman/builtfat, My partn…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 02:46 AM
1

I'm sure you can find that special woman that'll take care of you somewhere
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 02:01 AM
1

Anything wrong with all that?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 01:59 AM
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Yeah it's 100% not the norm. I wouldn't call it exceedingly rare though. From a quick search it seems like the percentage of female breadwinners in heterosexual marriages is around 30%
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 06:21 PM
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But you'd want to? I mean I do know couples where the women is financially better off so it's not impossible
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 06:02 PM
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I don't plan on getting a new car for a while tbf, was just wondering about it. Can't say changing gears bothers me too much even in traffic, but then again if I were to experience the alternative maybe I wouldn't wanna go back either. Mainly because you gotta get used a bit to automatic, as in, driving 2 weeks with it. Do you have to fight against the instinct to press a non existent clutch lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 05:58 PM
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Guys don't get security by handing out there phone number to already successful women I wonder, is that because they can't or because they wouldn't want to? Not being combative just curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 05:52 PM
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Makes sense. I'd like to try automatic and see what I think. I'm not sure if more relaxing would be a good thing for me personally though, I'm quite prone to getting sleepy while driving already
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 05:45 PM
2

Yeah security is nice. Do guys not want security too?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 05:15 PM
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No it's not
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 04:57 PM
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I was referencing the implication that being with a short guy is the most horrible relationship a woman can have
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 04:52 PM
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A “horrible” relationship for women just means not chad. He’s 5’11 not 6’2. He makes 65k, not 100k. I know you're not really this dense
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 03:50 PM
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Interesting, thanks for answering
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 03:26 PM
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On a similar note, I hear black people are super into breathing oxygen
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 03:25 PM
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That's not what shifting the goal post means
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 03:21 PM
1

I imagine I'd feel a little bit lost. Like, what am I supposed to be doing right now..
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 03:21 PM
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At a certain point fully manual transmission would just be holding the car back right? Is there a middle ground car where its not such a clear cut decision?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 03:19 PM
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How would a fully manual compare to an auto with manual mode or paddle shifters
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 02:51 PM
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Understandable. I don't drive recreationally but I enjoy it when I do
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 02:43 PM
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Everyone loves talking about themselves. If you want someone to like you, you ask them about themselves. Men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 02:38 PM
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I can't quite explain why but I find it fun. I feel like auto would get a bit boring but I'll have to try it and see.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 02:35 PM
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Fair, but do you not feel at all curious to try?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 02:23 PM
1

Cool I see, sounds like the best of both worlds. Thanks for explaining. never heard of clutch + pedals. Do u mean clutch + paddles or
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 02:08 PM
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To a reasonable extent
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 02:05 PM
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Forgive me for not knowing much about cars, are paddles effectively just a clutchless gear stick or is there some fundamental difference? It seems they only go up or down so you can't skip gears?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 02:03 PM
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I suppose as long as you both feel the same about it it's not that big of a deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 01:55 PM
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I feel the same but I wouldn't want to let ego get in the way of what is potentially a better product
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 01:53 PM
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See that's the argument I generally hear, but do you think that the fun of manual outweighs the inconvience of traffic or not
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 01:52 PM
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They won't do that because they value quantity over quality.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 01:50 PM
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So the issue would be minor dislike not breaking up
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 01:41 PM
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This checks out, I never actively tried to find a partner or pursue a relationship because I just didn't really care enough
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 01:37 PM
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Manual or auto?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 01:30 PM
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Reading OP's comment I like to imagine the friend was actually present in the room for this exchange. Just a few metres back, silently watching.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 01:25 PM
2

How deep into a relationship would you have to be before baldness would no longer be a deal breaker
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 12:52 PM
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The only women that these guys acknowledge the existence of are the mean girls from school all grown up
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 12:35 PM
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"I don't like guys who don't even wanna talk to me" Based I tried bro but bitches be having crazy requirements Cmon you can't call "he should want to talk to me" a crazy requirement it's literally the bare minimum of human interaction 😭😭
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 12:33 PM
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Negative character development
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 12:23 PM
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What's the issue if he stops
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 12:18 PM
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Some of the posts and comments here sort of feel like they were written by an alien pretending to be human
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 11:23 AM
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This place is surreal
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 11:06 AM
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It must be tiring living in denial
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 11:03 AM
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Yeah tru. But being unkind and unempathetic makes someone unattractive. Tho I'd argue that someone initially average/unattractive could become attractive by demonstrating kindness and empathy and other positive personality traits
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 10:12 AM
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What seems to matter most is if you can relate, and how you were raised. Yeah that checks out. My ex definitely hadn't experienced any mental health issues and would get frustrated with me for being down when she couldn't see any clear reason for it. Granted I could throw a bit of a pity party. I'd like to think I've matured and improved since then and I manage myself better.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 09:11 PM
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Yeah I figured it's not a solely gendered experience. Lots of people fucking suck as partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 09:02 PM
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Maybe one day you'll understand
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 09:01 PM
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Of course you do you. We all have things that we find attractive and unattractive. I have no doubt that being unattractive to me won't keep you up at night.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 08:33 PM
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It just means going with the flow. Reading the room, reading subtext, taking hints and being natural. All things men on this subreddit seem to struggle with, so it checks out that you don't understand it
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 06:24 PM
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I haven't, which is why I was hesitant to use such a strong word on something I couldn't fully understand. I'm lucky for that of course. I hope you never do again either.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 05:19 PM
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fetishization I nearly used this word in my last comment but didn't because it almost felt too vulgar lmao. But you're right it really does fit. I'm sorry you experienced that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 05:00 PM
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We're all oppressed, especially the poor/working class. There are definitely more ways that women can be oppressed but to say that men aren't at all oppressed is surely disingenuous. The difference in oppression between men and women gets vastly larger when you look at 3rd world and developing countries though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 04:57 PM
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I'm glad you've found someone who's considerate of your feelings. I don't like it when my partner cries just as he doesn't like it when I cry. Not because it's shameful or unmasculine but because it's an expression of pain and I'd rather he be happy. But suddenly everyone's saying they want to see their partner cry and it starts to sound like they get some sort of validation out of it. Like "YES he trusts me." Or if he won't "why doesn't he trust me enough to cry." His feelings aren't about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 04:41 PM
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I suppose because although men and women get equally defensive when generalised negatively, currently women's defensiveness is more socially acceptable than men's. And as a result people can be a bit afraid to criticise women in the same way they criticise men. I'd imagine men feel somewhat backed into a corner as a result. I agree, but the first part people do more often for women because people just have a better impression of women. I do wonder why this is. I catch myself doing it too.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 04:27 PM
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But very ugly people also have wives and girlfriends so by the same standard, attractiveness isn't a necessary factor
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 02:50 PM
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That's weird I still see average looking people my age getting into relationships with each other all over the place. And hypergamy has always existed. Arguably more in the past than it has today, since the important of social class and marriage has decreased
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 02:29 PM
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If you were to insist too hard that he open up it could cross into selfish territory. I'd like it if my boyfriend opened up more than he does. I want to be aware of his struggles so I can stand by him through them. But my own feelings about it should come second to his. If opening up wouldn't make him feel better but would make me feel better, that's not a good enough reason to insist.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 02:17 PM
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I hope you don't feel too lonely being single
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 01:41 PM
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How old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 01:19 PM
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How did others treat you that made you think you were ugly?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 01:00 PM
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There are definitely things men suffer more from, things women suffer more from, and things both suffer from in all manner of ways. People tend to get defensive when they feel like their gender is being generalised and attacked. I think it's a combination of good people who assume everyone else is good like they are and so try to defend their fellow "good people", and bad people who cannot take criticism and thus get defensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 12:01 PM
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I also find kindness and empathy incredibly attractive in a man
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 11:52 AM
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I just don't want him to be hurting alone if opening up and sharing it with me could alleviate that pain. I leave him to make that judgement though, because opening up doesn't always make you feel better.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 11:45 AM
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it's kind of weird to be stare a person directly into the eyes during sex anyways When you're in love that's the best part
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 11:43 AM
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Just doing my civic duty
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 11:13 AM
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Personally I'm most attracted to whoever I'm with. I find things attractive about my partner that never appealed to me before because they're on him.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 10:22 AM
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Yeah there's a lot of shitty people. I don't have enough relationship experience to comment on a strong trend either way but it's probably a pretty universal experience for people with a dating history
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 09:59 AM
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I had a girlfriend once and she eventually dumped me for being too depressed. Which fair enough she's not required to deal with. I'm still depressed but I have a boyfriend now and I never have to worry about opening up too much with him. Idk if that could be a part of a larger trend of men being more accepting of their partner's emotions or that he just happens to be a better partner. Or because he's depressed too so he understands me more. Then again I'm also a woman but I accept his emotions a…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 09:28 AM
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This is kind of a rigid system but I guess the competence and action? The traits I would associate most with the kind of masculinity I find appealing are things like being protective, loyal and confident, using your strength for good kinda thing. So I guess that lines up most with competence and action. Because you're physically demonstrating your ability to do those things?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 09:10 AM
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Lmao what I woulda said is I respect self control. Not like I'd respect them less as a human, just that I don't find it appealing. A guy who could get with girls but turns them down and keeps his body count low is way cooler than a guy who fucks anyone that glances at him
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 09:05 AM
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That's sad I'm sorry 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 08:59 AM
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Yeah I don't WANT to see my partner cry. That sounds borderline sadistic lmao. When he does open up to me and cry I just wanna protect him and support him. If a partner is really pressing you and pushing you to open up and cry to them they aren't really displaying emotional intelligence. But, if your voice starts wavering and you're getting emotionally shaky: just don't go there! What has happened in your experiences when you did this?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 08:52 AM
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Bro literally just realised I replied to this comment thinking it was something else my reply made no fucking sense
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 07:49 AM
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I'll have you know I spent 9 straight months inside of a woman once
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 12:01 AM
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Doesn't mean nothing. Means I'm apparently experiencing a higher quality of life than like 90% of women. That's crazy. These bitches wish they were me 😩😩
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 12:00 AM
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Yea I know. I'll rephrase. I personally wouldn't date a guy who treated me like shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 11:53 PM
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I had a gf once is my advice valid yet
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 11:37 PM
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Tf is he gonna do with 99.9% of the female population. His dick would fall off
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 11:34 PM
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How the fuck did you get this footage of me I'm calling the police
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 11:07 PM
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I recently found this subreddit so it's fresh and exciting. I tried r/changemyview but the topics that come up don't interest me. I'm not above u all I'm wallowing in this shit with the rest of u
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 10:49 PM
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I like arguing
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 10:45 PM
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I don't understand why there's so much arguing and squabbling about who's more this and who's more that. Yes men are physically more capable. The rest of the things you listed can go either way. The mind isn't as easily quantifiable and the parameters are fuzzy. Who tf cares. Women and men are equal in value as human beings, and our similarities as members of the same species far far far outweigh our differences.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 10:37 PM
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I don't know, when you hear how the US woman's soccer team played a "competitive" game with 15 year olds boys AND LOST 5-2, and all the debate that women are just as "good" as men... So from what I can gather, the fact that women aren't as good at football as teenage boys is a big problem for you, and as a result you disagree that women are as "good" as men. What did I misunderstand
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 10:24 PM
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I just reworded your own take..
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 10:12 PM
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Then it's settled, we build a ranch above the bunker and when the nukes hit we take the horses underground.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 09:46 PM
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I love being stereotyped as much as the next person. Especially love it when men who've spent 0 hours and 0 minutes in the mind of a woman make confident sweeping generalisations about the female experience
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 09:40 PM
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Yeah there's plenty of women like that. Depends on your social circles though I'm not sure I'd say it's the majority. If you're wealthy you can choose to associate with those women and play their games, or you can not. Obviously if you're not wealthy there's no choice. I'm with my partner because he treats me with kindness and respect. If he didn't do those things I wouldn't be with him. I'm sorry but I don't buy that that fact alone makes me some rare, not-like- other-women, exceptional specime…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 09:35 PM
1

Yea actually true
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 09:29 PM
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Yeah so anyway, being good at a kid's sport = good human. Being able to produce human life with your body but not as good at a kid's sport = bad human
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 09:25 PM
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A special subcategory of men hating lesbian feminazis.. in response to a woman who doesn't prioritise money in a relationship.. I thought that's what you guys wanted anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 09:23 PM
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Yes women are physically weaker than men, our bodies are specialised in literally building the human race. Why does this make women not as "good" as men? You value children's football over the creation of the species..
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 08:39 PM
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I just looked through your comment history you made a comment agreeing that women aren't capable of loving men, only respecting them, and men aren't capable of respecting women, only loving them. Not sure what advice to give in regards to your dating issues but that's a weird af take. Keep working on urself
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 08:24 PM
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Yeah i guess all women are just too dumb boring and ugly for you. You've peaked. It's lonely at the top 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 08:14 PM
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Unrelated but the more 'pussy' a man gets the more my respect for him decreases
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 08:12 PM
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Every single woman on this subreddit that gives her opinion is apparently an exception or an outlier, something isn't adding up
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 08:11 PM
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Yes all women want a rich asshole we love being treated like shit and bought presents
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 08:08 PM
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More successful than being alone and angrily posting on reddit all night
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 08:06 PM
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"I'm better than you. Why are you the only thing I can attract? " Clearly not or you would be attracting better women
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 08:03 PM
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No one? Just letting u know since ur so invested in other people's relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 07:28 PM
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Cool I'm still gonna marry my partner
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 07:27 PM
1

They should at least cover more than most, which yours does not
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 05:38 PM
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Sure there's lots of shitty marriages, and many people who would be better off unmarried, but to say there's no need for a man to marry would suggest that are no unique benefits in any situation which is just not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 05:13 PM
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OK? People's personal decisions don't need to be justifiable to you
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 05:05 PM
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heart broken If asking someone out and being rejected is heartbreak to you ..
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 04:28 PM
1

But marrying, at least for a guy, no need Many men would disagree with you
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 04:25 PM
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No reason not to date and be happy I could be dead in 7 years for all I know. I can cross that bridge when I get to it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 04:19 PM
1

Well in that case try shooting a few more times
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 04:18 PM
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Aw well that sounds a good start if they keep people away lmao. I have a GSD shes incredibly unintimidating and would go home with anyone if they gave her cuddles, I love her tho
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 04:17 PM
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I believe in u king u can do it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 04:15 PM
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Stop she doesn't wanna fuck u😭😭
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 04:12 PM
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We're still talking about the 4 legged kind right this sub is like the out of pocket wild west I gotta make sure
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 04:05 PM
1

Yeah that is apparent. Hope you find what you're looking for man
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 03:58 PM
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Fast_Delivery9164 try not to bring up bjtches for no reason challenge IMPOSSIBLE
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 01:36 PM
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Can’t even send a video through text, Just checked and u can, not sure why you'd even want to send video from an apple device tho better to just take the video on a superior Samsung device and watch it on the superior Samsung display
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 01:35 PM
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Their cameras are better where 💀 New s23 Ultra can take a picture of the pores on ur face from my house
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 01:21 PM
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Samsung W, Apple users small pp
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 01:20 PM
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No not Fast_Delivery 9164 now who will be the champion of the skinny women 😭😭
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 01:19 PM
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But pills so colourful and fun and healthy mindset boring no colour
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 01:18 PM
1

I've always wondered why there's such animosity between the sexes. It's surely in our nature to work together and support each other isn't it?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 01:09 PM
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Certainly. I don't resonate with modern wokeism in any capacity and the word feminism has been twisted into something sour in most privileged, first world spaces. Of course there is inherent need for and value in support of women's rights, as there is for men's. But the faces that the two sides present are getting a bit ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:53 PM
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I find it a little sad since commitment personally brings me such happiness and fulfilment, but I accept that not everyone feels the same
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:48 PM
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Some people say its amoral and its what you do with it which i certainly agree with. I find many of the opinions expressed by self-proclaimed Red pillers on this subreddit to be laughably out of touch. Not my kind of people. And they don't need to be. To each their own. The unfavourable surface is a marketing strategy perhaps, but what does that say about the sort of people inhabiting this space is that is what has drawn them here?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:46 PM
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It sounds like she's projecting her personal disillusionments onto you which isn't particularly healthy
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:39 PM
1

I can certainly appreciate aspects of it I wouldn't renounce it as a whole. I would say my partner probably fits a lot of the descriptors -- doesn't align with mainstream 'modern' masculinity, independent, works on himself, likes Andrew Tate 😭 -- but he's also misses pretty much all the pitfalls that seem to come with people in these circles (ie. Not misogynistic, hedonistic, self centred, or weirdly fixated on transaction in relationships, would definitely laugh at many of the redpill opinions …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:37 PM
1

Well there's not really anything wrong with it on an objective level because values and worldviews are subjective, and I don't feel any desire to dictate other peoples' values and worldviews. I personally don't like some of the values promoted, and I'm sure many women would feel the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:10 PM
6

Demonstrating a very narrow understanding of a very nuanced topic
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 11:39 AM
1

Wouldn't it actually be quicker to just call 999 yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 11:33 AM
0

If the red pill is about being your own man, free of the influence of mainstream media, then there mustn't be any wrong way of being a 'red piller' outside of that one parameter. My kind of guy is someone masculine but self deterministic, and who chooses to value things such as loyalty and integrity.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 11:32 AM
1

No problem, just the only prediction I could make with certainty
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 11:25 AM
0

I just read a bit of some blog of his and found it pretty grating. Referring to women as vaginas and little girls and giving messages like "don't be loyal, honest or communicate openly." I think a guy who subscribed to this mindset would be a difficult person for me to be around.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 11:22 AM
2

Women to women's issues and men to men's issues, empathy is sorely lacking between both sides
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 11:12 AM
1

Gotcha. Each to their own
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 11:11 AM
0

Interesting, ngl I thought it was more specifically misogynistic but I hadn't really looked into it. I guess a lot of men who wouldn't assign the term to themselves could be regarded as such. It's a pretty vague descriptor.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 11:10 AM
1

Better deterrent is a large dog of a generally feared breed
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 11:06 AM
1

I think most people would do a lot of shitty things if they were given the opportunity. Nothing new here. You can still choose to live above that standard and associate with others who also do.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 11:05 AM
2

OK maybe I misunderstand the term. What's your understanding of it?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 11:03 AM
1

Fair enough. I feel like if your body isn't narrowest at the waist you can't really be called curvy
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 11:02 AM
1

Agree to disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 10:56 AM
3

Is Chris pratt a redpiller? Based on what
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 10:56 AM
4

But I can't have horses in an underground bunker 😞
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 10:54 AM
2

Dick and hole is sex specifically, but a good marriage comprises more than sex
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 10:51 AM
1

Christina hendricks would definitely be classed as curvy, and everyone in the last paragraph I personally see as kind of curvy because they generally all have an hourglass shape even though they're slim. Idk if that's what people tend to mean by curvy the maybe that's just me
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 10:51 AM
2

You probably woulda been better off spending that money on a nice jacket or smth
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 10:45 AM
2

Modern men really pushing the envelope today
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 10:43 AM
4

God I'm sure they'd be heartbroken if they knew what u were thinking 🥺 wait actually no one cares
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 10:41 AM
10

Lmao is she one of those moms that hates every woman that dates her son because "she's trying to take you away from me, the no.1 woman in your life should be me"
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 10:34 AM
5

My favourite thing on my bf's body might have to be his shoulders oh mann People don't talk about shoulders enough. Or maybe it's just a me thing. I know lots of women have a thing for forearms lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 10:28 AM
1

I guess I just meant like some weight in the right places, slim waist etc
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 10:23 AM
2

Yea like the chiselled look is kinda divisive though I guess, not everyone is into it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 10:21 AM
2

I just think that women in my experience are less narrow in what they find attractive than they're given credit for. They certainly don't all date tall, ripped, rich guys (I will give u white but that's more because I live in a very undiverse area). And not because they're 'settling' either. I feel like men see a description like mine above and think "oh man I'm none of those things no one will ever be attracted to me" but it's just not true
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 10:21 AM
3

In my social circles it's overwhelmingly the case that women are dating and committing. I had a roommate in uni that was casually dating around a lot and it was jarring to me because I wasn't used to it, she seemed to date a new man every week.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 10:17 AM
1

Yea and its also not particularly sought after I don't think, like I've never actually met someone in really life who's expressed desire for a guy with a 6 pack, but I have met women who complain about guys that go to the gym too much lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 10:14 AM
1

I didn't mean fat I just meant like, slim but with curves I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 10:07 AM
2

OK so in a normal healthy relationship out in the real world, the reason is generally love, affection, companionship and commitment. I know that these things don't seem to carry much weight around here but in most human spheres they are the driving force behind relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 10:05 AM
9

Do any of you guys genuinely think that women will only date 6ft tall white guys with a 6 pack and a fat wallet or is that just an incel stereotype
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 05:47 AM
7

Not if ur sole purpose in life is to be attractive to Fast_Delivery9164
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 05:39 AM
3

How they gonna act like mommy's little boy and then get disappointed when she doesn't wanna fuck after his bedtime story
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 05:24 AM
0

U really think someone would do that? Just go on the Internet and tell lies??🥺
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 05:22 AM
2

Nothing says insecure quite like sudden and unprompted brags about ur alleged sex life
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 05:06 AM
3

I mean the definitions of skinny, slim and curvy are probably all pretty subjective and I'd imagine there's a lot of overlap. "Thicc" can also mean anything from slim but hourglass shaped to overweight. I just got the impression from your comment that you were imaging some roided out female weightlifter when you said women who lift weights, when in reality I was sure that weightlifting would create a body shape that you like without realising it. But if you're into a more skin and bone look fair…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 04:55 AM
3

So you don't like a curvy frame and a big ass? I would say your opinion is an outlier among men
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 04:40 AM
1

🤜🤛
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 04:09 AM
1

Ok but don't forget incredibly gay, there's no way we wouldn't turn to homosexuality after 10000 years of sexual isolation
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 04:05 AM
1

OK but I don't want some whore man, society be damned
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 04:04 AM
2

Interesting and also slightly lost on me but thank you for the dedication to writing that all out. Personally I just eat as much or as little as I like and move as much or as little as I want and my weight never changes. Idk what the science behind that is but I've decided not to question it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 04:02 AM
6

Men = all turned gay Women = all turned gay
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 03:42 AM
3

Idk any sort of cheating for me and my partner is a big nono and the feeling is mutual
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 03:39 AM
0

9000 calories talk about a bulk 😳
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 03:35 AM
2

OK that one was funny but I'd still beat u in a fight
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 03:28 AM
0

It's called physical activity and if I could bottle and sell it I'd be a rich woman😩
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 03:27 AM
2

My opinion ... differs from yours ... based on anecdotal evidence
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 03:26 AM
1

My dad can beat ur dad up
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 03:24 AM
3

My personal experiences do not align
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 03:23 AM
1

No tag backs
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 03:22 AM
3

No need to be alarmed just a platonic pee pee insertion standard procedure
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 03:22 AM
0

Fat erasure 😤
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 03:20 AM
1

Tag ur it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 03:15 AM
6

It's comments like this really foster a sense of community 🥰 we might not all agree but we're all dazed and confused and wondering how we ended up here
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 03:14 AM
3

I'm starting to feel like I'm having a mental episode every face I turn to morphs into Grapestheanswer
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 03:07 AM
3

The concept of war and having to fight for your freedom is just fun little thought experiment for them. That stuff doesn't happen over here it happens in made up places like the middle east of course I'll always be swaddled safely in the blanket of my first world privilege
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 03:06 AM
1

Don't be silly his religion would never allow that
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 03:00 AM
1

Cmon I was only talking about r/expansionproject what were you thinking of 🙄🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 03:00 AM
1

I suppose I'm destined to be but an old spinster 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:55 AM
1

Nope but since ur interested I'll make sure ur the first to hear about it when I do
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:53 AM
1

You'll find a lot more than just minds getting expanded on reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:51 AM
3

Nah I don't date weak-willed
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:50 AM
1

I'm cute everything suits me well 😌
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:42 AM
10

God it's a train wreck and I can't fucking look away
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:38 AM
3

A simpler solution would be to not do it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:36 AM
1

Fair enough, glad you didn't lose ur job
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:35 AM
6

No I think if my bf kissed another women I'd be pretty fucking triggered and also immediately single
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:32 AM
1

Why are you in a dating subreddit as a consequence of hitting someone's car?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:28 AM
9

I don't know a single woman who wouldn't be "triggered" by physical cheating. That's just a lie men tell themselves to alleviate guilt of cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:27 AM
2

Valid concern. I do feel the need to stress to my bf again that there doesn't need to be a ring and the time frame is flexible. I'd rather no ring than one bought out of a sense of obligation or like you said, with a sense of going through the motions.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:25 AM
1

Fair enough. Thanks for the honest answer. You're doing what you can within the confines of your reality. As long as you're both happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:19 AM
3

Lmao they could try their little hearts out he doesn't want em💀
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:17 AM
2

I liked the fact that my bf messaged me so much when we first met, made me feel wanted 🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:14 AM
0

I have always thought that the monkeys are likely looking back at me and thinking the same thing 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:09 AM
1

Yeah no doubt, though I can't speak for any women but myself. If a man wants to buy his partner an expensive ring because he knows it'll make her happy, that doesn't feel transactional to me. It's just kindness.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:07 AM
1

Damn straight. Arms shaved is a weird one but you've got the spirit
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:02 AM
2

I personally come here to gawk at you all like monkeys in a zoo. So close to my own species. Almost relatable. But ultimately I have no idea what's going on in your heads
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 01:58 AM
2

All men want three ways and desire to have sex with as many women who are above a certain attractiveness that will allow it Did the male hive mind tell you this?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 01:48 AM
1

What are you talking about it's clear that OP is referring to a man who has reached nirvana and no longer desires anything in our corporeal realm. Why enjoy life and develop intimacy when you can meditate and transcend
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 01:45 AM
4

You went shopping for a partner in a homeless shelter? Do you love her? Do you know what love is?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 01:42 AM
1

I'd do you one further and suggest taking the bus, or maybe a tandem bicycle to make her really work for it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 01:34 AM
7

Boy it sure sounds fun being u 😐
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 01:22 AM
1

Even so the comment I was replying to was wild, if my bf buys me an engagement ring he's not placing a monetary value on me, or making some kind of trade offer. He can propose without one if he wants. It's just nice to do nice things for each other without having a feeling of obligation behind it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 01:19 AM
1

There is a subreddit for everything, just type something into Google followed by the word reddit and your mind will be expanded.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 01:02 AM
3

I made this account to look at engagement ring subreddits I wasn't trying to make a statement but I guess I did walk into that one 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:57 AM
27

I'd wanna run away together and set up in a little ranch out in the countryside but he'd probably wanna fight for me and his country the bastard
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:48 AM
-1

I wonder if one day our society will realise that the drawbacks of alcohol outweigh the benefits. I guess Islam is onto something after all.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:46 AM
2

I'm not a man and I don't date women but I'd imagine you could try an approach like: asking for shit all the time? Bad no date. Enjoys spending time with you beyond what material compensation you can offer? Good yes date.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:40 AM
2

But many people probably won't even know what demisexual means so it hardly facilitates communication. You can just say I will not sleep with you until I know you very well.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:37 AM
1

Idk I see all sorts of men with partners and they definitely aren't all cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:36 AM
1

Your ass must be left gaping after this massive shit pull
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:32 AM
2

Where are you seeing this, lmao? In his schizophrenic delusions
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:29 AM
2

It is trade Romance is dead and y'all are the ones that killed it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:19 AM
3

Majority of dudes want out from this hedonistic rat race Then leave. Who has a gun to your head forcing you to date superficial women?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:13 AM
5

Mommy treatment lingerie and surprise blow job 🤨🤨
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:12 AM
3

Mammoths are a lot less scary than spiders tho
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:11 AM
2

I have been enlightened
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:03 AM
2

Officer this is the guy
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:01 AM
3

Why does every little single preference have to have a label and a flag tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 11:53 PM
4

Did I have a stroke reading this or did you have a stroke writing it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 11:47 PM
1

Fair enough, idk what other women were swiping left or right on so maybe for others a decent bio isn't enough for a right swipe. It just felt like the majority of profiles had 0 effort put into them. I was in the UK.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 11:45 PM
2

Or every photo being a group picture to the point you literally can't tell which person they are 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 11:27 PM
0

Tbf I did appreciate a funny bio but the bar got so low I would get excited when I saw a bio that was literally anything other than the 3 things I just listed. Believe me the bar for men on OLD is in hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 11:02 PM
1

Valid
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 10:38 PM
3

Back when I did online dating it was an instant left swipe on any profile with 1. A blank bio 2. A bio with just insta/snap 3. A bio with just their height "8'4 because apparently that matters 😜🤪" like bro stfu dead fish ass personality
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 10:28 PM
4

I thought I was asexual for a while but then I realised all the men around me just sucked
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 10:03 PM
1

The world is wrong and only you are right
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 09:14 PM
1

Curious what basis these pictures were ordered on because there's plenty of women on the lower ratings that look more attractive to me than women higher up
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 09:11 PM
1

How many women are you trying to date? Or marry? There's plenty of women that'll date a shorter guy. You don't need to appeal to half the population to not end up alone
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 09:07 PM
1

I have nothing in particular to contribute to this conversation but I very much enjoyed reading all your comments lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 08:47 PM
1

Sometimes the connection just isn't there. Or the vibe or whatever you want to call it. Doesn't mean there's anything particularly inadequate about you
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 08:20 PM
2

It's like men take it as a personal attack on their very humanity when a woman doesn't want to fuck them smh
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 08:13 PM
0

And? So what if someone isn't attracted to 60% of men, or 99% of men. I only want to date one man. That's 1.25e-08% of the population (according to Google. Feel free to correct my math)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 08:08 PM
1

In her defence I also have no clue what tf you're saying
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 07:31 PM
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