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riseoftherice/r/RedPillWomen17/02/19 06:29 PM
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Not really what the sub is for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 05:10 PM
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I swear to god the Soul Crush would be audible. Ya'll are making my uni dating prospects sound a lot less depressing and a whole lot more fun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 08:46 PM
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I never knew there was a part two for the baby oil joke lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 08:13 AM
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Why you have to speak the truth tho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 07:49 AM
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Same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 08:47 PM
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Men don't feel shamed. They feel "attacked" and react accordingly. Women feel shamed and feel bad for it because they actually care about their sorroundings and not hurting others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 06:54 AM
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Lol just be an underage gf with no driving license in a country with no public transportation on the weekends!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 07:24 AM
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Middle East and North Africa
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 09:07 PM
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Curious about your opinion regarding co-parenting with women? It is extropemely rare so probably not a viable option, but if you could, would you? Also: nannies and aupairs are an option as well, live in nannies are very common in families with both parents as doctors. No reason not to have one as a single mom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 02:41 PM
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Very important topic, thank you for bringing it up and thank you for opening up about your experience. I hope you're both well and that quarantine and covid adjustments will go smoothly with your son.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 07:13 PM
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I've read a book discussing his work a few years back, a very good read. Would love to have more psychology/ psychoanalysis related posts here. Thing is, there's a reason it's about mothers. Mothers carry the blame for how a child will turn out. There's immense pressure to do everything perfectly so the child will be have a good childhood and grow to be an adjusted adult. Trying to achieve that perfection leads to unhealthy methods. Being okay with being imperfect allows the mother to be more pr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 06:58 PM
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Doctors are notorious for their god complex. It just takes a lot more effort to find a potential HVM in this field, it's just easier to drop them altogether. They also tend to have very full schedules with hours that clash with the average 9-5 work life, something that might not bother someone with a similar schedule.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 09:57 AM
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Hey, are you my friend? If so Ilysm and thank you for not laughing at me when I said that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 08:15 AM
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Thank you for sharing them. In this sub I don't think it should be considered bragging. These are new standards we can adopt, things to notice when vetting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 09:02 PM
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Why do we take all the responsibility for how they treat us? !!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 11:58 PM
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I live for your striked-through additions. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 10:15 AM
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The U-Haul lesbian stereotype finally makes sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:35 AM
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Omg I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought so!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 06:43 AM
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Excuse you I was trying to avoid this truth, very rude to have me face it. /somewhat s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 09:38 PM
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It's Belle Delphine's "gimmick". Very odd use of food + clickbait to get scrotes paying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 11:19 AM
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AFAIK nothing official or any fds approved accounts. Unfortunately, FDS is something that can't really be taught unless someone is ready for it. I think that there's a growing FDS leaning themes in tiktok which should be good enough for the youth rn. They'll be able to develop it further in their adulthood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 10:08 PM
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There's a very good video essay by Yhara Zayd about women in horror. https://youtu.be/TkUbP2KVVl8
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 08:10 PM
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Excuse me, what the fuck?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 11:08 PM
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The only reason a man would be upset over something like this is that he views her as his possession. He doesn’t want anyone to view what he thinks of as his. But she’s not his - she is her own. Exactly. If he doesn't like how she dresses, he can leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 09:33 AM
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The last post on her blog was extremely eye-opening. I never thought much about the male gaze in filmography (unless we're talking about Megan Fox role in TNMT) and damn that's a lot to take in. Thank you for sharing the link!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 10:53 AM
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This very eye roll just validated how I felt for too long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 07:10 AM
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5/5 would be dragged again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 08:43 PM
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Ime it seems like it's how they can view us as an extension of themselves, rather than a separate being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 08:39 AM
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Really needed this today!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 08:19 AM
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That's very a very wise agreement! Thank you for sharing this idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 01:56 PM
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Ohhhh so that's why! I used to think I'm an introvert. Turns out it was just shitty friends. God bless graduating HS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 12:25 PM
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If it works for you and isn't screwing you over, then why not. Just for clarification (it's quite personal so don't feel pressured to answer) does 50% mean groceries and bills or does it include rent/ mortgage. I want to understand the logic better so I could implement it better in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 01:06 PM
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Oof I felt that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 02:56 PM
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Accurate af
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 02:35 PM
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Excuse me I wasn't ready to hear the TRUTH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 10:38 AM
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The dad said that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 05:56 AM
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Ya'll get thanked??? srs/ I didn't even consider the action part as a requirement. Thank you for helping a girl in need of some higher standards
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:34 PM
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oh yeah, and his actual terrible behaviour is revealed the remainder of the series. (Destroying her already fragile self esteem in New Moon, literally kidnapping her and forbids her to see her friend in Eclipse. Not to mention not letting her make her own choices whether it's having a baby, driving a car or choosing what to do with her life). Him not reading her mind and still knowing what she's like? That got me. It reminds me a lot about this AITA mushroom pizza post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 11:58 AM
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Honestly fighting creepy men is the only motivation I have for arm exercises
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 08:33 PM
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Got to know how scrotes replied to this. Swear I saw the og tweet that inspired this satire in this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 07:33 PM
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The N part comes from the entitlement. They think they're so amazing and all chads and stacies are dumb and inferior to them, so they (incels) must be served by dumb stacies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 05:07 AM
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In my country we also have a volunteering organisation to help new moms. Maybe op has something similar where she lives!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 07:25 AM
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You can't negotiate attraction. Don't delude yourself into thinking you can ignore it or get over it.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/20 07:30 PM
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As if they're common enough to get 2... I'd just enjoy the mirror wall in my room, none of the heartbreak and time waste, all of the love and respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 08:11 PM
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Paragraph 4 hits close to home. Also sweetie, move over, you're holding up the que Made me lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 06:40 PM
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What about men that don't interest you but still need to interact with? What about men you're more than slightly like? I'm really curious!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 10:06 PM
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You're welcome 🥰 Pinterest voard here it is! Unfortunately I couldn't find precisely what I was looking for. I wish I could find outfits that exude the right vibe with the specific garments I included. I will be sure to update you if I'll add more pins to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 09:23 PM
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I live in a hot and humid climate too, so I've got you covered! Short (mid thigh- knee) skirts are a must for me. You can go for a line or wrap if you prefer roomier or woven natural fabrics. I go for narrow because they flatter me most. Tailored but airy shorts, preferably not denim. Fitted on the waist but roomy on the thighs. Dresses, I think halter/ high necks and a line/ slim tent bodice is best. I like straight (think 60's) cuts because they don't cling but still show that my body looks ni…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 06:19 PM
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Dramatic/ professional silhouette. It gives the mature and attractive look but with the "don't f with me" vibe that intimidates LVM. High neckline + bare shoulders, pencil/ narrow skirts, turtlenecks, tailored tops, cigarette pants. All of those can be worn in casual/ dressy looks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 08:36 AM
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We know, but especially us newbies and recovering pickmes need to internalise this message.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 08:21 AM
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My fav is "build a bitch" when it comes to their ideal women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 07:46 AM
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Lately wavy, but used to wear curly
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/20 06:58 PM
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Short gels + gloves helped me a lot. Hairstyle: I prefer milkmaid braids and other updos that keep my preferred hair texture. I wash it every other gym session (cardio warmup, weights or bodyweight sets, short cardio cool down and stretches; they're not very sweaty). For your situation, you might want to try washing often and either doing blowouts (or just using a dryer) with heat protectant or try heatless style techniques.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/20 05:37 PM
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Boo feel free to DM me whenever you need to vent. We all were in that "stupid to have stayed that long" here, calling each other out on it helps us to remember why we're here and what behaviours we need to change. We all need to promise ourselves "never again" and keep each other accountable, heaven knows men and pickmes won't do it for us. Hope you're doing well financially and emotionally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:31 PM
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Just add him claiming he has high EQ while doing that shit and you're golden
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 06:42 PM
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I'm highjey disappointed I didn't even think that is an option for him to lie about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 06:39 PM
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Preach! Happened to me all the time with my ex. He complained that I make him feel underdressed. Never again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 12:04 PM
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That you probably need/ had some therapy and need to get to know yourself better! When you're doing it for yourself it's okay, it's your job to take care of yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 02:08 PM
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Agreeing wholeheartedly. I think the op meant castrated as they won't be able to reproduce rather than have "sexual urges" yuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 10:16 PM
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Kind of confused by the second part, but yes. My parents treated me as a co-parent, until I was 14-ish. The counselor they had to go to while I was hospitalised told them that they're the parental unit. Their eldest isn't part of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 04:23 AM
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Either games (I prefer just dance for fun and shape for more focused activity) or use a reward system. I do go to the gym, but can't stand doing cardio, the only way I manage to not be bored out of my mind is YouTube. I put in my watch later playlist all the videos I use as treats (amandabb is my go-to). Regarding food, idk if it's feasible but I just focus on my activities or do hobbies that require both hands so I won't be tempted to eat. Also drinking cold flavoured drinks instead of boredom …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 01:33 PM
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Check the sidebar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 08:57 AM
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You practice being kind, polite, slightly flirty (?), sweet, light on your feet... You will feel it yourself when you practiced enough to feel that it's you (you might tone down some behaviours and amplify others so it would feel more natural). Also how others react to you, both men and women can give you indication. Looking more approachable or smiley can help, but don't forget to whip out a RBF in appropriate situations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 08:12 AM
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I hope I'll internalise this before going to uni/ work. This is so important and hopefully I'd be able to teach (?) It to all women in my life.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/20 06:35 AM
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I doubt there are many books that cover this topic. I think you'd find better results through blogs easily found on Pinterest. Either printables or maybe a booklet they sale if you need a hard copy.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/20 11:56 AM
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as most i listen to a variety of genres. The music that inspires femininity for me is probably musicals (poto channels my inner 40yo housewife), european folk music and arabic melodies (mostly iranian, iraqi and egyptian)
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/20 07:26 PM
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As many have said, finding men will not be as much of a problem. If you're going to open a dating site profile, you probably should make sure it's clear that while you're their mother, you're not the bio mom and don't have baggage relating to most 20yo moms. Many quality men that ignore single moms will date this parenthood circumstances. Also, you must know because of your nannying job how serious raising kids is and how you're tied down to them. Do remember that you're still 20 and should live…
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/20 11:53 AM
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Go to taptalk threads for your body type and watch Aly art (even though her knowledge is very limited imo) Straps and other specifica: learn what thin/thick long/short and the like yin/Yang affinity and what total feel and silhouette yours should have. Focus on the silhouettes and line part of your type. No you cannot, body typing is about your bone structure and where you gain fat and how does that fat look like. Enjoy your kibbe journey.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/20 09:05 PM
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The wall, as it's frequently called is the stage in which a womans smv declines. Her rmv declines only so slightly because of a shorter fertility window, but otherwise she may be preferable because of her maturity. I don't know what you mean by function, but of course you should still try! We have plenty of women here who got married in their 30's (which is usually considered wall age) some were even divorced. We think feminine self improvement is relevant at any age, the redpill is a toolbox, u…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/20 05:07 AM
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If you'd elaborate what comments did you get and if you have talked about it with him, it will help us give you a more tailored advice. This is mostly assuming this happened before quarantine but lately amplified. The passive aggressive nature of the comments: if the roundabout way of him complaining about your behaviour is what bothers you: ask for more direct communication. First by encouraging such behaviour when it is direct. If that doesn't work tryy giving "clues", talk to him about a pass…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/20 06:46 PM
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You're absolutely right. Idk much about haredi Jews in the US, but in Israel (which I think her husband is indeed Israeli but I'm not sure about her) the mentality is a lot different. OP, can you give more details about your family income source and perhaps more details about your community and if you have a rabbi?
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/20 08:19 PM
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Bring him your problem, not your solution (nap but then help). ask him for his solution, you need some time for errands and some personal care and activities like the events you mentioned. What he thinks can be done for the situation to improve. Not answering your question regarding improving communication and problem solving, so don't go for it before using the rpw method. Why not hire a babysitter? Not necessarily all the time, but for the events you want to go to?
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/19 08:23 PM
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The mac and cheese idea is incredible! I will look into more casserole dishes, thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/19 08:11 PM
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I need recipes that would be easy to reheat in a toaster oven, preferably recipes that are either vegetarian, made with chicken thighs or breasts, or ground meat. (bonus for pasta recipes because we have tons of it!)
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/19 05:43 PM
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Highly recommend using a thin layer of builder gel in order to keep your nails more resilient and you can also fix chipped or broken nails easily. Also regular gel polish can be good for thickening and strengthening nails.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/19 11:21 PM
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I don't think you're overreacting but here it doesn't matter. As others said if you trust him then stop worrying about it. Most importantly, make use of STFU and read other posts here of similar situations to learn.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 09:09 PM
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Makeup: I go for sunscreen, then color coreector and concealer for undereyes and setting the undereye area. Then maybe eyshadow if I feel fancy but usually waterproof mascara and tinted lip balm or long lasting liquid lip. Hairstyles: Curly as well, curly girl method helps me to keep them defined. Fringe gives my hair a personality and looks more intentional. Usually clip/ braid/ tie up strands from the front that get in the way. Pamper: Anti blemish gel of Clinique does wonders for me. Clay mas…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 08:34 PM
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On Thursday (V-Day) I bought some undies from Aerie. Mostly thongs but also one comfortable cheeky, because even on my period I should wear cute undies! Friday my boyfriend came over for a family dinner, afterwards we went out and on our way there he told me he is starting to understand why I left for a boarding school. It's a validation I never got and meant the world to me. It even helped me deal with stress at home with my family. After dropping me back at home he texted me that he had an ama…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/19 12:15 PM
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Thanks for the detailed answer. I hopefully would add more skirts after I graduate. I still sit on the sofa with my knees up, especially when I'm studying or lounging with my laptop. Other than that not much, unless I drop something down haha
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/18 11:51 AM
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How do you handle cold weather? I assume you workout (and maybe do housework and the like) with pants. Was there anything that you had to adjust about your life when you switched? Like crouching, sitting, walking and similar activities
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/18 10:32 AM
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I agree, it really think most is exaggerated. Maybe it's due to insecurity and pretending to both desirable and victimised. A close friend of mine is scared of men so even the lighter stuff are harassment or catcalling for her.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/18 05:42 PM
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I eat healthily (salads, fruits, oatmeal and even spinach smoothies!!) Not only for keeping my figure, but also because it keeps my sensitive digestive system happy and it extends to my sex life as well. Discharge-wise and for better anal sex. I take care of my body, moisturising my body, light oil-free moisturiser for my face, high spf sunscreen, exfoliating, shaving and waxing. Exercising (and building this habit), skateboarding, using butt plugs to minimise damage. Always having medications f…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/18 09:53 AM
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Secretly want a relationship as in they say it to you but not to their partners or secretly won't admit to themselves? If it's the former then all you can do is ask them questions to help them self-reflect and maybe be an example. If it's the latter, can't do much about that. Frustrating but they're friends so we love them anyway 🤷
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/18 10:26 AM
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This should be higher. Having a scat fetish is questionable at best. I'd be scared to see what's to come especially with being extra sensitive. Ninja edit: if he's such a perfect match in such a short period of time and shows his hardcore fetishes in that period it's probably dangerous for you.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/18 10:27 AM
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You're 27 with a three year old toddler looking for a traditional man. It wouldn't be easy to find one only because of how desperate most 27 yo are to marry (at least where I live, I think it is around thirty for most anyway). The reason you're a single mother isn't because of bad decisions or wild lifestyle, it is very important to tell that to potential partners, dating a promiscuous (read: careless) woman is very different than a wife who lost her husband. This is the main reason as to why yo…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/18 12:41 PM
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Notice when something irritates you and anything, stop the conversation immediately, tell him you need to cool down for a bit and you'd come back to talk as soon as you feel more in control. That way you can avoid/ delay damage and work on communicating better. Better even to discuss beforehand with him that you want to react more respectfully when you're irritated and for now, you'd like to have a cool-down period in which you can control yourself. If he can't accept your mature way of owning u…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 03:13 PM
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Not BPD, just regular over-sesnitivy paired with depression and C-PTSD. I believe that therapy helps me avoid being diagnosed with BPD. I think that a therapist should support you helping yourself, my therapist would be thrilled if I will do more DBT exercises. Find a good one that fits you best! I don't think it's stupid coming here for improvement, it helps me a lot with interpersonal dynamics and acceptance, also with dealing with things out of my control (needed for relationship) and how to …
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 03:02 PM
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It does, I think it's one of the reasons the trp recommend having a mentor. Good luck with it! Obviously do not nag about it, it has to come from him as much as possible.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 11:24 AM
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I understand that both of you work but only you do housework and invest in your future. I might be misinterpreting it, but it sounds like he treats you sort of like a mother. You make food, you do the laundry, you do everything and take care for him. Very one sided. The only difference is that he has sex with you. I think that unless he becomes a captain the relationship has no future. Maybe inspire him to take action and not only play video games. I can't think of anything right now, but things…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 10:24 AM
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First of all, therapy! Bpd affects relationships dramatically, without getting some therapy and DBT I wouldn't have a healthy relationship at all. You mentioned you want to build your life with him, you know it wouldn't last without improving your relationship. I suggest communicating mostly about what happens right now in your relationship rather than fantasizing about the future. The idea about losing weight and dressing more feminine, great. Don't forget to workout to build muscle and look to…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 06:37 AM
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Improve your looks even more, in your post you say you're an attractive person but when you explain you just say positive qualities that aren't physical. They are wonderful, but they don't make the first impression. I'd anything, usually toning up is all it takes. Regarding men, I assume you know what relationship you want and what would work with your lifestyle. You're in need school, as far as I know medical professionals don't have much time for personal life. Who can realistically deal with …
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/18 02:12 AM
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What I want to tell you: Forget about having a summer femininity makeover. It won't change a thing in school, teenagers are mean and highschool is a very difficult game you can chose to play or not to play in. Best to avoid playing and getting burned, better to observe. What you asked for: Outfits and accessories: Pinterest, r/femalefashionadvice has nice boards and ideas, I like to look every once in a while in vogue and the like or the new magazines with feminist ideology like bustle. Hygiene …
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/18 07:44 AM
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If he won't be satisfied without regular pegging, you're not sexually compatible. If he likes being dominated and dislikes dominating, you're not sexually compatible. If you can find a compromise you're okay with, that's great. I can think of few options that might be easier for you. Best let your future husband and you find your solutions for it.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 03:17 PM
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I go for high-cut leg, Aerie's cheeky-cheekier coverage. Maybe a low rise pair to alternate. For tops, I like simple triangle bra and if you won't swim you can try strapless.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/18 05:42 PM
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Did you forget to switch accounts or something?
/r/TheRedPill01/06/18 04:27 AM
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Thank you for your answer!
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/18 07:03 PM
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What do you recommend to do/ think for either calming and reassuring yourself and for asking him for his reassurance?
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/18 06:47 PM
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Don't expect most of your peers to have RP values, if you can find feminine activities or self improvement with them, great. If not, you have yourself. If you have guy friends, they sometimes give you the best rp ideas and how to improve in relationships. Lose weight, fat people aren't taken seriously most of the time. If you can, befriend young mothers and try to see if their views are RP compatible. Try to form new friendships with women in your area.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/18 03:26 PM
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I believe lent is a Christian thing, not sure at all about it.
/r/TheRedPill14/05/18 01:58 PM
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Learn how to make doughs. Pizza and bread are very simple and very delicious when homemade. Pasta, learn how to make different sauces. My favourites is chestnuts and sweet potato with cream. Jacket's potato with fillings, can be anything. I like curry (not traditional curry), just paste/powder, plenty of coconut cream and all the veggies you'd like. I prefer spinach, sweet potato, bell peppers, broccoli. Breaded chicken breast, very simple and if you want to switch it up a bit you can add sesame…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/18 06:30 PM
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Yes. Also, since they obviously cannot be why are women trying to make them become accepted as red-pill? Just validation?
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/18 05:09 AM
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I don't think it's wrong as long as you can still complete college and have friends. He's your boyfriend, why shouldn't he be a priority?
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/18 06:11 PM
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Hun, you're in a dead bedroom situation. Dead bedrooms are a relationship killer. Your needs aren't taken care of and it bothers you a whole lot. Try to think on every possible reason (even if it seems silly or not the reason why) as to what's changed. Not necessarily about you, maybe something with him. Did he initiate in the first year? What happened before you moved together? Can you tell if he enjoys sex when you're in focus as well (face-to-face)? Do you still have intimacy outside the bedr…
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/18 11:09 AM
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It's a fairly new relationship (5m) and we can't see each other often but: • He is very spontaneous while I'm leaning to be easy more strict. If we have plans I usually make sure they can happens if he still wants. He also helps me open up to not being in control and just going with his flow. • He can be forgetful with important things he needs to do especially if it causes him stress. I have better memory and I won't get stressed over it so I remindror him and make sure he achieved what he need…
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/18 02:47 AM
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Do you think you'll write on improving RMV? Or maybe different ways RMV traits can manifest? Great post! Hope to see your next one soon.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/18 08:04 PM
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That's what I love about the red pill. Apply as needed. You shouldn't date someone you're incompatible with and definitely not if he wouldn't be accepting enough to be with you. That would be a disaster waiting to happen.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/18 02:17 PM
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I'm a bit dark, and usually tan on top of it. All of my previous partners have Russian/ Ukrainian roots which usually gives them lighter skin. High contrast like: light skin but very dark hair. Sort of like Snow White.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/18 10:43 AM
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Long hair, taller than me (it's easy since im 155 cm and the average of males in my country is 180), stronger (able to lift me up, also simple because of my weight), a bit of fat on their muscles, also usually my skin tone and lighter and usually with high contract in colouring. Fortunately, it's not very hard for me to find people I find attractive. I bet that if you must have over six feet tall men youll have harder time finding a partner because most are looking for that height.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/18 10:08 AM
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I don't know where you're from and how tall are the men in your area, maybe it's realistic maybe not. They are superficial, but if they're important to you that's all that matters. You can't force attraction. I don't think I have physical deal-breaker. Probably a small dick. I do have preferances and I have to be attracted to my partner.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/18 10:00 AM
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It seems doable which is fantastic! Do you have more defined mini-goals within each goal? What do you define as financial independence? Does it include pension? Savings? What about your house? Where? How big? Is it realistic to rent/ live in one? Your minimalist wardrobe, how many items? What do you define as minimalistic? Would you rather have your wardrobe mostly monochromatic or colourful but with less than 50 (?) Items? I think you can manage if you don't stress yourself out, but building a …
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/18 03:57 PM
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What are the red flags you noticed? What you mentioned at the bottom of your post is about how he is now, right? He sounds depressed, if you think that when his mental health improves he'll be the man you want, I think it may have a chance. It would take plenty of time until that happens, so you should consider that. It's taking a toll on you. I don't know about him or you enough to tell you that, but some people can sense others potential. Can you see him truly and naturally be more decisive? C…
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/18 05:33 AM
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In my opinion, it's not a waste if you can get something out of it. So you won't have your guy, you won't feel that everyone currently can compare to him. But (!) you can learn a whole lot from it. Getting over people is definitely hard, no doubt. It's one of the things that won't magically disappear out of nowhere. It's easier out of sight out of mind or working on it to be free enough from the attachment so you can continue with your life.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/18 08:10 PM
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That's not what alpha widowed means. I'd reccomend trying to keep your relationship for the classroom only. It hurts your progress, feelings and it wastes your time. Set hard limits, he's a great guy I'm certain. There are other great guys, you think you have high SMV and if so, why don't you try to just see other people? No sex, no commitment until you think someone is worthy of being exclusive. I believe that relationship experience or at least, knowing yourself better and how to present yours…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/18 07:55 PM
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Have you considered taking birth control? Maybe it could reduce your PMS symptoms. About dating: other than nun mode, I've seen some commenters talking about casually dating (for vetting potential guys) and maybe it's something you should try? How good are you at setting limits with guys?
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/18 04:34 PM
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Yeah, having similar goals and views is more important imo.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/18 05:07 AM
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DBT is Dialectical Behavioural Therapy. As for information, DBT first tool is mindfulness, which has plenty of videos, articles and even apps about it. Other than that, it teaches healthy and positive tools for dealing with overstimulation, interpersonal interactions and improve your life quality. They are not related as in co-morbid. Since BPD has problem with emotional regulation, being highly sensitive makes matters worse. Children are in need of learning emotional regulation from their paren…
/r/TheRedPill20/02/18 02:46 PM
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Just wanted to mention that in DBT they teach HSP (which includes BPD) tools for coping with their sensitivity. Imo being able recognizing traits in oneself is one of the key steps for self improvements, definitely should be discussed in the RP community.
/r/TheRedPill20/02/18 02:07 PM
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