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Do you notice how OP says "about 800 calories" and "about 1800 cals"? It's the keyword "about" that causes problems for people's motivation and progress. OP should use the recommended calculator to get an estimated TDEE. She should track her exact calorie intake and her exact weight loss. These will allow her to back-calculate to get her true TDEE. 1lb per week of weight loss = about 3,500 weekly calories or a 500 daily calorie deficit. Losing faster than this is not recommended and she should e…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/17 08:24 PM
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I agree with you that cardio will not gain muscle but OP states in her title of this post that she wants to lose 30 pounds.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/17 08:03 PM
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as a cool down and nothing more. This is a very misinformed statement. I can appreciate that you just like to lift (as do I) but your personal opinion is not objective fact. Cardio has heart/respiratory benefits beyond a "cool down". It's also preferred by a lot of people and it doesn't require a lot to get started.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/17 07:32 PM
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OP, you need to clarify your goals. You said your goal was to lose weight, specifically 30 pounds. The only way to do that is to eat less than your TDEE. To be specific, you can either eat less food with no new physical activity or eat the same amount of food and increase your physical activity to raise your TDEE. Both of these create a calorie deficit. If you do not care about your actual weight and are really just trying to "tone" up, you can eat at maintenance (exactly your TDEE) and lift hea…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/17 07:16 PM
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As your TDEE accounts for exercise (and even what is burned through breastfeeding), this is superfluous to what I originally wrote. OP should calculate her TDEE as recommended. Start with a 500 daily deficit and track how she feels and how quickly she is losing weight. 1-2lbs per week for women is safe and healthy weight loss. Source: NASM certified in personal training & nutrition.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/17 07:05 PM
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The only way to lose weight is to eat less than your TDEE. You do not have to exercise to lose weight. You can calculate your TDEE here. At first, it's recommended to use 'Sedentary' for your exercise level, even if you are active. You should track your food with MyFitnessPal or similar and aim for a 500 cal daily deficit, which is 1-2 lbs per week. Eating a high protein diet will allow you to retain the muscle that you have while you lose weight.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/17 11:00 AM
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We don't actually GAF about either in isolation. We like men who make us feel feminine. I mean, is this really news? A guy who is a lot shorter than me, makes me feel huge and ultimately masculine. To add to that, a guy being too skinny is actually worse than a guy being overweight, for the same reason (at least for me). This is not to say that it's impossible for a guy who is shorter than me to be able to make me feel feminine but frankly, it's rare that they've developed the game required to c…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/17 05:24 PM
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I have explicitly told guys to go read TRP, yes (usually when they are complaining about their unrequited oneitis to me). The reaction has generally been the same; at first it's 'wtf are you reading that for?!' and then later it's 'this is spot on'.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 12:53 PM
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Less favorable odds. That's all it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/17 03:55 PM
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This is a big game you're playing with yourself because it means you don't have to be responsible for your own SMV. Most of our SMV, as women, is controllable. Plus, you don't have to be a 10 to have a wide range of attractive dating options. If you are so nerdy and smart, you would see the market for what it is and capitalize on your severe advantage, simply for being born a woman. In one, she was "nerdy", and in the other, she was a "bimbo". The latter received more attention, because she pres…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/17 11:23 AM
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A calorie deficit and deadlifts for days <3
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/17 12:08 PM
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I don't know what parallel universe y'all live in, where men buy everything for women. My girl game must be terrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/17 12:39 PM
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Weight loss is entirely up to your diet and nutrition. You do not have to lift or work out to lose weight. You need to calculate your TDEE (total daily energy expenditure) and eat less calories than that TDEE to be in a deficit. A healthy deficit is 2 lbs / 0.9kg per week, which is about 500 calories less than your TDEE per day. So, instead of lifting, which is pretty stressful, can you spend the next month counting your calories with My Fitness Pal and dieting? You should be able to lose about …
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 05:58 AM
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The only time I did this, it eventuated with me being a lot more interested in the guy than him in me. Now I always wait for the guy to initiate.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/17 06:41 AM
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JUSTDOIT
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/17 12:27 PM
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Isn't that the whole premise of Beta Bucks? They are all high RMV, but typically low SMV, at least compared to the girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/17 02:58 PM
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Newton's Third Law, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/17 06:58 PM
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Wow. That's a very long rant. Ironic.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 03:57 PM
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We haven't spoken about Redpill stuff so far but most girls in Germany/Europe seem to be hardcore feminists unfortunately.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 12:16 PM
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It's going to be subjective based on the guy's experience.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 06:29 AM
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It's called Girlcrush :) "For girls in Berlin to meet and simply hang out together. If there is interest, we can also organize Sunday brunches, movie nights, day hikes, and anything else that strikes our fancy. Bring a smile and make some new friends!" We have a whatsapp group now that we add all the new people to at each event and so a lot of girls are organizing mini meetups through the week through that; just posting if anyone wants to grab a drink/dinner etc.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 04:56 AM
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I started my own Meetup for girls in Berlin. We've had coffee in the park, a big picnic, movie nights, and a few Sunday brunches at cafes' now. There's about 100 girls who have signed up, so there's obviously a demand. I will admit, I haven't felt that I've met anyone that I truly "connected" with in terms of a best friend, but I'm starting to realize that this is just how adult friendships work. It's been a good forcing mechanism for me anyway, I'd recommend it!
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 04:51 AM
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I think we can define Chad as a high SMV guy that the majority of women find conventionally attractive. And you have to sleep with a guy to be a plate. This might be before that, if/when you're just going on dates.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/17 05:58 PM
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Me too. How long have you been single for?
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/17 06:05 AM
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I am saying putting your career above everything and skipping family life will make most people miserable. A lot of things can make most people miserable. Let's unpack what miserable really is anyway. It's dissatisfaction; more specifically, that what exists now is not good enough. I know people that prioritized family above everything and they still feel "miserable" in the sense of discontentment. Why do you think that is?
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/17 11:21 AM
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Of course. More supply in cities = less scarcity.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/17 05:32 AM
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That's true. I think in Australia though, our culture tends to lean more to relationships vs casual sex, like here in Europe. It's a city/country thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/17 05:21 AM
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I thought Stacie was the typical baddie girl? https://www.google.de/search?q=baddie+makeup&rlz=1C5CHFA_enUS528US529&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwjysau-tITWAhVIaVAKHW96A6sQ_AUICigB&biw=1408&bih=715
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/17 04:31 PM
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slimmer version Attraction is so weird. That guy looks like a 10 year old to me!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/17 03:20 PM
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Anecdotal but my ex was a multi-millionaire. He was only ever a barista in cafes' until he started his company at 33. We started dating when he was 35. 30 for men is almost like 20-25 for women.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/17 07:46 AM
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I want to be led by an Alpha leader and that's what I'm attracted to I think. However, when this dynamic plays out in my dating life How serious are these relationships? I mean, why is a guy leading you, when you are only dating? Am I misinterpreting this? Can you describe these relationships a little bit more please? (maybe just to me? some of this may be my MV, which can be worked on) I think this is the largest part of it.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/17 07:24 AM
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I don't know if this is RPW but it's definitely RP. The idea that what you have done in the past is what you should continue doing. Specifically, that if a girl sleeps with a guy on the first date, she should sleep with all guys on the first date. If she regretted it and that didn't work for her the first time around, it's insanity to say that she can't grow from that experience and do something different next time.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 03:07 PM
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:) What things make you feel good, happy, no pressure?
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/17 06:13 AM
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You can read my post history and see that when I first found TRP, I felt that it was all pretty hopeless too. I'm not going to tell you what to do and I'm certainly not going to coddle you with uplifting advice - the truth is, I know that you already know what you have to do and all it comes down to is to how much responsibility you can accept for the ability to change your life and create what you want. This is your life. Like, life is happening right now. It's not that dreamy image of the futu…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/17 05:42 AM
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A man who expects his wife to love him This makes it sound like you're writing for a man, no? Wouldn't TRP be a more suitable place for this? I mean, you don't see RPW's creating new posts over in TRP.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/17 04:07 PM
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What is your purpose with posting this in RPW? Not being rude, just genuinely interested.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/17 12:32 PM
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Really? I mean, I accept that maybe I'm an outlier but I've never spoken to any girl who was deciding a job/career based on what they thought guys would be into. Is that what you mean? I can't really think that this would be the majority.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/17 07:14 PM
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This lady makes me regret being single. What is up with the laughing? And what is that outfit?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/17 06:09 PM
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That doesn't mean 20% at every university. God, I was 1 of about 4 girls in lectures of 300+ men doing undergrad. It was nuts.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/17 06:00 PM
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I agree with you but it's more that it just would have saved time to have been told from the start. That's all part of the process though of course, so I'm not actually complaining; just lamenting the inefficiency of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/17 05:51 PM
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Well, that too :) You're right - it's usually "what do I like that I can get paid reasonably well to do"?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/17 05:31 PM
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People usually choose a major based on what they were interested in/good at in high school. Majoring in math at university requires that you had a solid understanding of the fundamentals much earlier on. And if you're told repeatedly from a young age that math is for boys, English is for girls, it's going to have an impact on what the average girl is interested in.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/17 04:07 PM
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I'm ENTJ which is super masculine :(
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/17 09:17 AM
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Well, should we take your anecdote or his?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/17 02:23 AM
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Define "power"... I mean, we have privileges, for sure. We can manipulate the majority of men pretty easily. Sex is cheap. But for everything else, it's still a man's world. Society is very much designed by men for men, so I'd argue that our prize is a consolation, at best. IMO it's easier for a guy to get a harem of Stacy's than what it is for us to get the commitment of Chad. #economics101
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/17 02:08 AM
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nor do they consciously decide to pick up a rugby ball instead of ballet shoes or tinker with cars But surely you can understand that there are a lot of influences (aka biases) that impact these decisions? Nature vs nurture..
/r/TheRedPill10/08/17 05:12 AM
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be claiming you're a women in STEM therefore women as a whole don't have a preference for in group security is a classic example of this. Although you said you understood my point, respectfully, you've completely misunderstood it. Here is what OP wrote: The smartest class of women are over represented in professions like medicine, law, academia What I am refuting is his (and your) rationale as to why that is. Why do women choose these careers? And further, why don't they choose STEM careers? Bel…
/r/TheRedPill09/08/17 03:52 PM
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Are you suggesting that men who travel for 1-2 months don't cheat on their girlfriends at all? Some humans cheat. Some don't. Amazing!
/r/TheRedPill09/08/17 12:59 PM
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they understand their natural advantage in life comes from group acceptance, and not tournament performance. Does this actually even make sense to you? I mean, have you studied yourself? When you were choosing your degree, did you sit there and think (as a man) 'oh, my natural advantage comes from tournament performance so I should study X, Y, or Z'? I'm willing to bet you didn't. As a girl in STEM who majored in Comp Sci, I really doubt women are sitting there thinking 'I prefer something that …
/r/TheRedPill09/08/17 12:53 PM
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I genuinely don't believe it's entitlement. It's that the average woman does not typically believe (or want to believe) that her primary value is what she looks like. I don't think men can really ever empathize. I mean, imagine your value as a person being determined by what you look like. Incels/ugly men could at least just work hard for a few years, earn a decent salary, and their market value dramatically increases; they can jump between levels. Yet a woman's physical beauty is only controlla…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 08:35 PM
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The problem is your word choice, which completely changes the frame here. Any girl (or person) that even uses the word "deserve" in terms of a relationship is low value and, I'd argue, a minority. I don't believe most people even think like that IRL. Average or below average girls think they can get a better guy than the one in front of them, based on their past experiences (whatever that might have been). It's like poker. Is this hand better than the next hand? What about the hand after that? S…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 08:15 PM
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while the only thing she truly excels in is the looks department Y'all are constantly raving about how nothing other than looks matter anyway. So which is it?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 07:55 PM
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Have you watched any porn? It might be helpful to watch the movement of other girls. P.s. your bf does sound like an asshole.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/17 06:40 PM
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Cool, thanks for your clarification. In a way, it's kinda like you're muscle testing / kinesiology.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/17 01:50 PM
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Also, correct me if I'm totally wrong but I believe the first card is related to your present & the second card is related to your future..? Sometimes they also choose 3 cards (past, present, future). Just going off what my fairy friends have told me before when we've played around with it.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/17 01:04 PM
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This is so fun & such a nice thing for you to do - thank-you! I'm being pulled in a specific direction. What do I need to know about it right now?
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/17 10:51 AM
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Why is this the only option for money? I don't understand. Can she not take a resume in to a restaurant or cafe or something? It would just be for a few months.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/17 06:12 AM
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Respectfully, it isn't comparable to astrology at all, which is literally BS. You might want to read about cognitive functions & socionics.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/17 06:08 AM
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Eh, it's life experience. Better to break up after a few years than divorce after 10 :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 08:53 PM
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Personally, I wouldn't do it. I've ended 3 of my 4 LTR's after moving in together.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/17 03:28 PM
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Completely agree. It's exactly what they say on TRP: never take relationship advice from the opposite sex.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 07:07 AM
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I'm at the gym twice a day. Fasted cardio in the AM & a 4 day split of lifting in the PM. I'm totally hooked.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 05:01 PM
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Having children doesn't automatically make your behavior feminine. Having a career doesn't automatically make your behavior not feminine. I think this post on Cultivating A Feminine Frame of Mind will help.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/17 10:32 AM
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RPW isn't just about being a SAHM and wife. It's really just about self-improvement to find and keep the commitment of one good man, specifically through feminine personality and behavior (which is more attractive and valuable than any career). There is no one "right way" to RPW, apart from being in or seeking a committed relationship. There are many of us here with demanding careers, just as there are many with the even more demanding responsibility of raising a family and maintaining a home. T…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/17 07:17 AM
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Are you new here?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/17 07:56 PM
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It sounds like you want the reward of a high quality partner without having to be as high quality yourself. I doubt the men you are dating are going to be as forgiving when they are aware of the value of their own commitment. You're effectively asking for someone with lower standards. You're going to have to compromise on something.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/17 01:08 PM
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I actually wish I could attract men with slightly more beta qualities. Which beta qualities do you want? What is lacking with the alphas who are attracted to you?
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/17 12:06 PM
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Kinda like RP's going on about how being catcalled by drug dealers is a legitimate dating option for a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/17 06:59 AM
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It's rare to see a guy & think 'wow, he's attractive'. In 95% of cases, we see a guy & think 'meh' but after speaking with him for 5 mins, then we feel tingles. This is called game.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/17 06:29 AM
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One of those arcades with all the games. So much fun.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/17 06:20 AM
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Do you think we'd know what an Alpha is at that point? Or is Alpha only obvious when we compare it to other men? I mean, we'd probably still end up with "beta alphas" and "alpha alphas".
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/17 05:21 AM
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Having sex with you would feel like having sex with my little brother. For me, I have felt this around the 18 month - 2 year mark.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/17 08:12 AM
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Then finally I discovered what I thought was right What is right for you doesn't make it right for someone else. And actually, what is right for you in this very moment, is probably not even going to be right for you one day in the future. People (hopefully) change with experience. And anyways, why are you so stuck on right vs wrong? Good vs evil? Life is rarely black or white. It's rarely red or blue. There's a whole bunch of grey and purple in between.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/17 10:08 AM
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Get curious about people. Like, actually get interested in different viewpoints. Realize that it's precisely through those differences that you grow as a person; and that by trying to turn everyone else into you, you'd just stay stagnant your entire life.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/17 06:30 AM
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There was one study on marriage, not LTR's. That study found that: Being a virgin before marriage has the lowest chance of divorce (but they say this is likely because most virgins are religious, which confounds it) Having more partners leads to a higher chance of divorce, however this only became true from the 2000s onwards. Before then in the 80s & 90s, having exactly 2 partners had a higher chance of divorce, even higher than 10 partners.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/17 06:22 AM
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I always preferred when my LTR's didn't shower lol. Mega turn on.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/17 09:27 AM
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This is a very biased test and wouldn't even be scientifically concrete. Of course you found a negative result because all it's testing for is a negative result.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/17 07:59 AM
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At what point did I say that it was a greater risk for women? I simply stated that marriage is a financial risk for everyone, and that everyone is trying to find the best partner they can get, to mitigate said risk. What is patently untrue about it?
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/17 04:20 PM
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My first casual relationship last year for about 4 months. I got seriously burned, learned my lesson, and don't plan to ever do that again. I can't do casual. I'm needy AF :)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/17 07:05 AM
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My best friend rode the CC hard for about 2 years when she was 18, after she got out of her first LTR (who she lost her virginity to). She writes as a hobby and basically fucked a lot of guys for the story/drama of it, at least it seemed that way to me at the time. We had a huge falling out over it and I cut her off for most of the 2 years, which broke my heart in a way, but I couldn't respect her anymore. It felt that every time we hung out, all she would talk about was the latest episode. I me…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/17 09:59 AM
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I know it's difficult to accept that your value is lowered just because you had more sexual partners You are missing my point entirely. I completely understand and agree with the statement "men prefer women with lower n-counts". I do not agree with the statement made by men that "higher n-count girls are incapable of pair bonding". As an aside, it's hilarious that multiple men have replied to me, trying to change the script. I'm not some girl sitting here trying to rationalize a high n that I do…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 09:07 PM
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Will a high count stop me from engaging a woman? No. Will it stop me from commitment? Absolutely. Who cares? The question is 'does a woman's promiscuity affect her ability to pair bond'? The ones on the higher end of the count spectrum had major issues with emotional connections. Are the emotional connections from having a higher n itself? Couldn't it be possible that the higher n is a result of having issues with emotional connections? It's real no matter how much you want it to be untrue. It d…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 06:34 PM
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I'm not married, currently single, and have had LTR's. All of that is a little besides the point as I'm not talking about my personal experience, which would also be anecdotal like OP's, I'm talking about statistical evidence. Specifically, that there is no data that shows that promiscuous women can't emotionally connect with someone. What does "relevant" mean to you..?
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 05:29 PM
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making sure his partner is the best one he can possibly find. People want the best partner they can possibly find. Don't make it out to be a man's honorable quest. Marriage is a financial risk for everyone. Women lose years of career progression in favor of being SAHM's. Tell me, would you get married to a man who was a recovering crack addict? Or had a history of violent domestic assault and was counseled/rehabilitated? Are you comparing these to a high n-count girl? If so, it's a little hyperb…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 04:39 PM
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Have you ever been in love, OP?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/17 02:33 PM
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deeply instinctual and gut level revulsion at the thought of committing to a woman that was clearly overly promiscuous. Well, this is precisely what I mean. Forget the insecurity part, that's just my opinion, but how you describe it as revulsion, means that it's just a personal preference. And having preferences is completely fine. What I'm refuting is the narrative that a woman who has casual sex is somehow damaged in terms of not being able to emotionally connect with someone. There's no repor…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 02:25 PM
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Of course bonding can happen through sex, but I don't think it can happen with only sex. There has to be some form of intimacy. I'm a psych student. My advice for almost everything on here is a lot of therapy, meditation, and exercise. Considering that you've been diagnosed with bipolar, you're somewhat of a special case in that you have to be managing your medication. Are you seeing a therapist at all now? I think that's super important, to get to the root cause which only comes through a lot o…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 10:37 AM
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My viewpoint is very different. While TRP warns of a high N, I think the true story is that men just don't like promiscuous women, specifically women who have a higher n than themselves, purely out of insecurity. Someone on TRP read 1 study and inaccurately tied promiscuity to divorce. Sure, there's a correlation obviously, but there's no data to say that n-count is the specific cause. What's more likely is that people who are promiscuous have personality traits that would lead to an inevitable …
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 06:54 AM
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Criticism of marriage is hardly a new idea. You can challenge it all you like, people are still going to get married because it's their choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/17 08:32 AM
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It's not really necessary as much as it is a commitment; to maintain that family for life. The legal restrictions are required to ensure that commitment, even if you divorce. Like I said, it's your choice. Why abolish something that isn't enforced?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/17 08:25 AM
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The main reason people get married is to have a family. You can't deny that children are best raised in a two-parent household. Plus, as much as we'd all like to think we've evolved, I genuinely believe a lot of us are still chasing our Disney fantasies of Happily Ever After. If you don't want children, I agree, marriage is probably a little silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/17 08:13 AM
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Marriage is optional. Why abolish it when we have free choice? I mean, it works perfectly well for a lot of people who are far from miserable. If you don't agree with it, that's fine, don't get married. No-one is forcing you to.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/17 07:55 AM
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Exactly :) Anyone who has read a TRP field report or two can see that they're dating girls with legitimate issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/17 05:29 AM
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Just because I identify as red (and RPW), doesn't mean I support everything from either. I see TRP for the self-improvement aspect of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/17 05:35 PM
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They don't sound like friends to me! Why should you deal with anyone acting bitchy, men or women? IMO it's honestly better to do things on your own for a while and make new friends, than to hang out with toxic people.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 05:46 AM
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You can literally eat whatever you want as long as you eat less calories than your TDEE (total daily energy expenditure, which is what your body burns each day). You aren't losing anything because you are eating at maintenance, not a deficit. Calculate your TDEE here Track your calories using MyFitnessPal Eat less calories than your TDEE This is THE ONLY WAY people lose weight: by eating less calories than their body burns. That said, you will see for yourself that 1500 calories of ice cream doe…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 05:31 AM
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I get ingrown hairs from waxing just as bad as shaving. I ended up getting laser everywhere. Best thing I've ever spent on, honestly.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/17 01:39 PM
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I thought you needed squats for a nice ass, but apparently you can get the same results by walking. Unfortunately, that's not really true. Walking does not help to build significant muscle, which is what creates a booty. People who "got a nice ass" via walking, probably already had a somewhat nice ass and simply walked off some fat, that revealed their muscle underneath.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/17 06:55 AM
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You've received some great suggestions already but this is a program that's always recommended for aesthetics, building a booty in particular: Strong Curves
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/17 05:26 PM
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I used to be terribly shy with men and honestly, there was an underlying reason for it psychologically, mostly from my parents divorce. I didn't magically make myself "unshy", I did a bunch of therapy to get there, but I am genuinely not so shy anymore. I don't mean to say that to disagree with you, just that there is a reason people are shy, and it's often not always cute or innocent. You are, after all, pushing people away from getting to know the real you. It can be totally worked through tho…
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/17 06:13 AM
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Why do you consider it a good thing? I really don't mean that in a sarcastic way. It's just an interesting thing to say about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/17 09:21 PM
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No, I really don't. At best, it makes me feel self-conscious. At worst, it's me literally breaking into a sprint from a guy following me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/17 09:07 PM
1

Like I said, I know who you are honey. My understanding of AWALT is that it's not literal. TRP explains that it simply means all women have the capability to be like that within them. I can't speak for the situation in the US, but here in Germany, girls aren't sleeping with random guys every weekend. They are going on dates, for sure, but I wouldn't call that the carousel. The girls who are, are liberal party girls who frequent clubs.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/17 06:13 PM
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It's completely true... for a subset of women. Including time for dating doesn't automatically mean the carousel. Maybe if you're hanging out with typical party girls.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/17 04:50 PM
1

I already know who you are. That doesn't really answer the question.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/17 03:46 PM
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but they are clearly the outliers Of the women you know, who apparently represent the majority of women, what do they do with their lives? Do they have jobs? Family? Friends? Hobbies? Do they study? Cook? Listen to music? Exercise? Read? I'm genuinely perplexed that you have such an unfortunate view of women.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/17 03:02 PM
1

Read OP's post again. She clearly means "alpha" in terms of being high value to avoid men mistreating her.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/17 02:55 PM
1

Man, c'mon. You aren't even debating, just invalidating my opinion, only because it differs from yours.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/17 02:50 PM
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You don't believe girls can have lives apart from sleeping around?
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/17 02:42 PM
1

You are really misunderstanding my definition of alpha woman. Believe me, I agree with you, "alpha woman" to me is not the same definition as alpha man as we have different biological imperatives. Alpha woman, to me, is a high-value RPW. The highest quality first mate.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/17 02:36 PM
1

Alpha == highest value. Do you believe there are women that have higher value relative to other women? What do you call those women?
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/17 02:21 PM
0

What is RP to you and how is the book not RP?
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/17 02:16 PM
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In what way does the book prescribe sleeping with a guy before you know him / riding the carousel? Honestly.. It simply tells a girl to demand more respect of her time. To fill her life. To stop being available because she's too busy being awesome.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/17 02:15 PM
1

Then all you have to do is become the best option :) Something that has helped me in dating is asking a guy what he is looking for as soon as possible, usually I ask on the 2nd date. Some guys are just not looking for a relationship at all and even if you looked like Miranda Kerr, they still wouldn't commit to you. Asking their intentions up-front, quickly filters out anyone who isn't serious. I asked about your past relationships because if you can think of a guy who really loved you, hopefully…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/17 01:36 PM
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Vetting is evaluating a guy's character for an LTR, trying to find his intentions and any incompatibilities or red flags. There is great info in the sidebar here. Not to pry but have you had any positive/successful relationships? Have you had a guy in love with you before?
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/17 01:24 PM
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Getting to know someone is always a bit unnatural, especially in dating. That's why they call it "game". It sounds like you just need to do a better job of vetting. That said, "being too nice" is likely a complete lack of assertiveness. You clearly have a pattern in your behavior, perhaps unconsciously, and it's unfortunate that it's resulted in a series of bad experiences. Have you considered going to a therapist to try and find the underlying cause of that? At some point in your life, you deci…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/17 01:07 PM
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The exact same way that men become alpha. Stop prioritizing the opposite gender over your self-development. Accept responsibility for how you have allowed people to treat you. Get selfish. And read Why Men Love Bitches, maybe.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/17 12:51 PM
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You need to have an honest conversation about what you're feeling, ideally with both your husband and his Mum present. I'm cringing myself writing that as I know it's going to be hard to muster the courage to do that, but really, communication solves everything.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 07:58 AM
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Apart from your n-count, every single factor of your SMV/RMV is controllable. Accept that the past has happened, learn from it, and keep working on yourself and your health. Relationships are temporary but your relationship with yourself is forever. Try to keep that in mind.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/17 06:26 PM
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The only time life sucks is when we have expectations that differ from our reality. When we want things, any things, we suffer. This isn't a "twenties" thing, this is a human being thing. You are going to return to this idea for the rest of your life. Everyone does because ultimately, we're all unconsciously terrified of our impending death; the fact that one day, we're simply not going to exist and that we will be forgotten. This isn't intended to be morbid as much as it is to state reality. We…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/17 06:04 PM
2

It's YOUR ex gf, which means that YOU CHOSE HER. Do you see this?
/r/TheRedPill03/07/17 05:08 AM
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I think you are drastically devaluing the definition of respect, and convoluting it to a point that it's almost meaningless. To me, there is a BIG difference between respect and basic manners or etiquette. One of the only absolutes my Dad ever taught me was that every human does not deserve respect but that every human deserves manners. My respect truly is earned, often through ones demonstration of "respectful" traits like hard-work, or specific learned skills/abilities.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/17 07:22 AM
2

It's interesting that you say your SMV. When these girls bought you things, did it impact how you calculated their SMV?
/r/TheRedPill24/06/17 06:38 AM
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I don't think an expectation can be morally right or wrong. I mean, an expectation is just a guess of what's going to happen, like odds. Humans like patterns; we expect a lot of things, often unconsciously, based on what we've experienced before.
/r/TheRedPill24/06/17 06:37 AM
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That there is a difference between an expectation and a right. Women who expect to be paid for do it because men set her expectation. It's like that kinky ex gf that guys have, they also set an expectation.
/r/TheRedPill23/06/17 06:17 PM
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Yes, you answered the question correctly. I have another question now, completely hypothetical. Say you're a >7 girl. You go on your very first date with a guy (a guy who dates >7's) who pays for all your dates. Later, you go on a date with a new guy (obviously also a guy who dates >7's). He too, pays for all your dates. And again later, you go on a date with another new guy. Now what is your expectation?
/r/TheRedPill23/06/17 06:03 PM
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Do you think it's possible that men who date >7's are simply more likely to pay?
/r/TheRedPill23/06/17 04:20 PM
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I don't think all women expect for a man to pay or to be financially supported. This is 2017 and isn't that the main point of feminism itself? To eradicate having to be financially dependent on a man entirely? There is a social norm that directs men to pay for dates, for sure. Because women are historically more "valuable" and are to be courted.
/r/TheRedPill23/06/17 04:02 PM
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I don't really have any problems saying that I think men ARE better at most things. Not that there aren't women who can be equally as good but like IQ, I think the normal distribution for men is much wider at basically everything. That said, I'm also curious as to how certain domains are impacted by being gender-weighted and traditionally masculine. Is it that men better at X because they're just better at X or is it because there simply aren't enough women doing X from a young age?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/17 11:21 AM
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It seems like you are looking for a guarantee or security that you are never going to get. No-one can tell you which guy is 100% the right Captain and which isn't. Dating is always a risk for anyone. That's why everyone here says to vet, because it reduces the risk. Unfortunately, sometimes you just lose one hand and have to endure that. But it's experience and you learn a little more for next time.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/17 07:27 AM
2

You are both biased by your friend groups. People hang out with people similar to themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/17 07:57 PM
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in front of my LTR when she wasn't looking. We met up last night And then.. Floored me as to how disloyal and how cunning women can be. How are you any less disloyal?
/r/TheRedPill18/06/17 12:14 PM
1

I agree, there is something not adding up there.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/17 06:58 AM
1

and each one has imploded when his boss calls him Maybe I'm reading into this completely but, to be honest, this just sounds like BS to me. C-level executive that has plans imploded by a boss..?
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/17 08:44 PM
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so I had to resort to text to ask him if he would be leaving the country This isn't really a conversation for texting and at 30, I don't believe I really need to tell you that; I know that you know this. If I were you, I would just give him space, let him come to you, and have the honest conversation face to face. Being stressed about work doesn't mean that you suddenly get to blow off your SO's needs. And vice versa, you don't need to settle for communication scraps. More broadly, this all soun…
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/17 07:57 PM
1

Got it. And I know it's somewhat obvious but how did it affect your attractiveness? Were men suddenly noticing you more? People were nicer? I guess how did it manifest exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/17 04:43 PM
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That's really cool to hear, thank-you. Did you ever have the idea that you would still be insecure? As in, there would always be something else you would want to fix, because ultimately you're not accepting of yourself? That's probably the other main reason holding me back - that I'd be worried that I still wouldn't be content.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/17 04:40 PM
1

No, genuinely curious. I've considered getting one myself but I wasn't sure if it would have that much of an impact. Life-changing sounds pretty huge.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/17 03:56 PM
2

changed my life How so? Was it that noticeable?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/17 11:11 AM
1

So are you :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 01:25 PM
2

People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 01:09 PM
2

I fundamentally believe that truth is relative to our own perception and that what we see in others is just a projection of what we recognise in ourselves. Have you ever read about the Allegory of Plato's Cave? It is all about this concept. To be frank, you can continue posting here as though you are superior and above that of others, you can continue to choose to be condescending in your replies and think that you're a stronger person because you don't care to discuss feelings, but until you ac…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 12:42 PM
1

Follow your man, he is the captain and you are the second in command, don't have short hair, don't let your emotional nature dictate what you do. How's that? You tell me. How is this all working out for you?
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 12:12 PM
1

Well, there are obviously a lot of different phases to relationships, it's natural. I think the underlying RPW values are used across all of them, so while you might not completely relate to a single girl managing dating, you still might be able to learn something about communication or feminine vulnerability, for example. Have you checked out the redpill subreddits that are focused more on marriage? Red pill wives & married red pill. Alternatively, you could post something here that you are cur…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 11:45 AM
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While I think you're being a little harsh, I can somewhat see your point. It's interesting - I think there is a phase of RPW much like the anger phase in TRP. Those new here have most likely found it due to a recent heartbreak. Maybe you were here for the same reason once. Perhaps you could be a little empathetic to what others are moving through. And if I've come to understand anything of people, it's that every single one of us is capable of (and enjoys) deep and intelligent discussions - but …
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 11:31 AM
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The past cannot be erased, but how do I ensure I don’t suffer the consequences forever? You wait. Time - that's all there is to it. While you're waiting: forgive yourself. It's completely normal and completely fine to feel what you are feeling. Every single one of us dwells in our pasts. You have to let yourself feel every emotion that you have relating to those relationships. Just acknowledge the thoughts/feelings as they come up. When I went through a nasty breakup, I often had a self-dialogue…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 11:23 AM
1

Have you spoken to him about it? Not just "I miss you"..? We all show & receive love in different ways.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 08:08 AM
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Of course, I'm a random stranger on the internet & I don't know you but what I would point out is that there is a big difference between vulnerability and codependence. It's great that you're aware of that inner child that just wants to be looked after but you have to understand that this is a symptom of the attention that you didn't get from your parents. And it's actually not your boyfriends' job to give you this attention now. It's your job. I'd highly recommend you do a few sessions of thera…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 07:18 AM
1

What was your childhood like?
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/17 08:23 PM
1

"I will join but I'm only having a scoop of yours. We are getting coconut btw" hehe Edit: I only just read that you're not really attracted to this guy, so this is probably too flirty.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 08:05 PM
1

Why do you want to have children?
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 02:57 PM
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I think you should forget about dating and relationships for a while, go into monk-mode. Why do you want to get married exactly? From the outside, it looks like you want a relationship to "complete you" as a person. A relationship/marriage shouldn't be an accessory to your life; a handbag that you just tack on to make your outfit look better. You need to be a whole, stable person first, and honestly at 20, that's rarely the case for anyone.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 08:43 AM
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I mean... how do you tell a woman to clean herself and start doing kegel exercises without coming across like a complete asshole and destroying her self esteem. As awful as that would be for anyone to hear, I genuinely think I'd prefer a guy to tell me something like that, just via text, for example. I "dated" a guy for a few months last year (I was a plate, for sure), and a simple text like that with a specific reason would have saved me a few months of feeling deeply insecure about the whole e…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/17 07:29 PM
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You make it sound like you'd think any girl who was good in bed had a high n. For example, I'm 27, I've had 4 LTR's (2 years, 2 years, 2 years, 5 years). I'm going to know something about what men are looking for without having slept with 1000 before. I agree with /u/Waterboo2 - I've only ever been asked by one guy who was insecure/low value & who I didn't even have any intention of having a relationship with.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 11:21 AM
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I'm really struggling with this. It's an emotional thing but it seems to take me a longer time to feel a connection, compared to the guys that I'm dating and frankly, they just haven't been willing to wait. Have you felt a connection to a girl you haven't slept with yet? Can you tell me a little more about that? My ex & I had a crazy connection and didn't sleep together for 4 months while we were dating so I know it's out there, I just don't seem to be able to find that from online dating.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 11:02 AM
2

Did we do this? I'm in!
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 06:13 AM
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She's clearly insane. I also have a STEM career that I have purposefully learned to downplay because of how UN-feminine it is.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 05:41 AM
2

Curious - how did you two meet?
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 12:16 PM
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if they have to settle Well, why settle? I think thanks to feminism, a lot of women are just happy enough to be single. If they can't get Chad, they're perfectly happy to be alone vs having to settle at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/17 05:34 PM
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Do it! https://www.dhamma.org/en/index
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 04:45 PM
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I meditate each day. I was raised Catholic and still hold those values but I'm closer to Buddhism now. I'm interested and open to all religions/spiritual faiths and find that every one has elements I can pull out and add to my own life. I've been on a few different retreats; probably the highlight was my first 10-day Vipassana. It was an intense experience but incredibly rewarding. Scientology has a great Communication course that I'm currently working through online (I don't agree with a lot of…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 01:39 PM
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People looking to save the world are projecting their insecurities on it... hoping that they can focus on anything but what their egos prevent them from seeing I think that's true & thanks for the reminder. That said, I also think that we can individually make changes that collectively raise the bar. They're the things that I was hoping to get for answers. In the grand scheme of things, of course, none of this even matters and is an illusion. But I think we all expand through our experience of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/17 04:08 PM
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It's not a question of my personal happiness. Rather, I'm interested in how others believe that we could improve/reconcile between the genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/17 12:29 PM
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I think you'll find that working on self-love will solve most, if not all, problems. Good luck <3
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 09:59 AM
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My severe lack of self confidence and inferiority complex Jealous is a symptom of this; the fact that you don't love yourself enough. You determine the value of yourself based on your boyfriend's love and validation. When you fear to be losing his love, the result is jealousy. however I've always been jealous by nature This is a game you are playing and "nature" is how your mind rationalizes it. Don't think of jealousy as a trait or feeling, think of it as an action. Jealousy is something we act…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 09:48 AM
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which is completely unlike me What are you doing to manage the stress that you know makes you act in a way that is unlike yourself? I don't know how to be sweet but also not a pushover. It's all in the delivery. This is a complete guess, but do you tend to bottle things up inside of you for a while, only to explode later? Have you read this post on assertiveness? I think everyone has to practice how to be more conscious of emotions/feelings as they show up. And we can all do a better job of mana…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 07:05 AM
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Do you believe there is a difference between humans and animals? Specifically, do you believe in morality, free will, the ability to consciously override our behavior against what might be "evolutionary"?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/17 09:05 PM
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Something to add to this is to consider how a child conspired to receive attention from its parents. Regardless of gender, we develop habits/processes/games when young, to get our parent's love and attention. These habits become very important, especially if you have multiple siblings and parents' attention is divided. This is where women develop "masculine" interests, often learning as a means to get the attention or love of her father or brother.
/r/TheRedPill14/05/17 08:48 PM
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My parents are divorced. Red pill, slowly turning purple.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/17 07:21 AM
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The overwhelming majority of women just need to be physically fit (in their control) to be sexually viable. That might get us sex but it doesn't always get us commitment from the guys we would want it from (i.e. the Chads with a ton of options). I think the genetics for women comes more into play in this case - makeup can make one look like an 8, but they're still always going to be behind the genetic 8's.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/17 04:01 PM
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Women prefer pregnancy with a beta male (Consciously) That's not really true. Women prefer pregnancy with a man who will commit to her and the child. It's just most common that it's a beta man that will commit. Of course, if Chad would commit, we'd all want Chad.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/17 12:33 PM
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The Buddhist in me says that life is only painful because of want and attachment. Our Egos seek things in the world, believing that they will make us "happy", like money, love, and even children. These are all wants, attachments, desires. And when life doesn't go our way, that we don't have our "ideal situation", that we do not obtain or fulfill our wants, we experience pain, suffering, and ultimately, unhappiness. I do not believe that I can be happy in any situation because I do not believe th…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/17 08:14 PM
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Everyone speaks English here as most Europeans have been learning it since they were young. That said, it's still Germany - without German, you definitely get trapped in your own bubble of English speakers and miss out on the full experience. As for the job though, it really depends on what you do. Cafe/bar jobs would be near impossible as you're competing with thousands of students here but professional roles seem to be easy enough to get (based on friends' experiences). If you work in startups…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/17 06:11 AM
2

Yep, I have a remote job so I was still always working full-time. I booked entirely through Airbnb. Airbnb places are much cheaper for 1 month stays & you can always negotiate for a discount!
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 05:46 PM
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Yes! But I prefer to slow travel, staying for a longer time in one place than quick trips. I've spent 1 month in a bunch of different cities, mostly in Europe. My original plan was to spend 3 months in every main city but it got exhausting after a while, and I started to crave having my own home. I'm Australian but now live permanently in Berlin. The next place on my list is India, but that probably requires me to quit my job for a while, as the internet there is apparently not reliable.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 05:19 PM
1

The answer to happiness and fulfillment may be right under your nose." You seem to have conveniently changed your sentence from "is right under your nose". Luckily I had the original version of your text open in a tab. http://imgur.com/a/ZJWJC To make a sweeping statement and then back-track on it. So RP of you. /s
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 06:07 PM
2

What would make your blog post correct is to stop framing your conclusion as an absolute for the entire population of women. Perhaps you could present your experience and question the rest of RPW about theirs. if you know anything about statistics and science. A little ironic considering you don't seem to understand basic distribution yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 05:50 PM
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Does that make it correct?
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 04:47 PM
2

Say that you don't meet the right guy and you don't have children, what would you do? How would you structure your life moving forward?
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 04:26 PM
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Maybe the answer is biological. Maybe it isn't. From the stories of your 3 friends, it seemed that even the 2 SAHM's expressed discontent in their lives. How does that impact your view on having children? Does it concern you that 2 of your close friends actually have children and yet still feel unfulfilled? God did not design the female brain for career hunting. What is your career exactly? How long have you been working for? Intelligent women don’t need to make A’s in school to prove to everyon…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 02:50 PM
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I think you're offended because Instead of thinking about why I might be offended, why don't you ask me? Why do you assume to know my viewpoint without ever asking for it? Your life experience is anecdotal. What you have seen amongst your friends and what has worked for you personally, may not be all that exists in the world. There might be a whole other universe beyond the confinements of your mind.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 01:58 PM
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I have to be honest. Your blog post terrifies me. If you’re a woman who is reading this and still can’t figure out “what to do with your life”. The answer to happiness and fulfillment is right under your nose. As someone who doesn't have children, how are you sure that they are the answer to happiness and fulfillment? Further, as someone who is clearly not happy or fulfilled, what makes your life advice so well-esteemed? But what you don’t realize is that I used to be like A, B, and C: starting …
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 09:38 AM
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I was 20 when I started dating my ex, he was 36. He was always very honest and never wanted children, which worked for me at 20, but not so much at 25 when I consciously started to want a family. Like any relationship, if your long-term goals match up and you are committed to making it work, I think it can work. In being with someone who had much more life experience than me, I grew a ton. I learned a lot about communication, managing finances, business. And the sex was awesome :) That said, the…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/17 08:58 AM
1

it struck me as super odd Perhaps you are just looking at a projection of yourself? The fact that you don't bring up that you don't have a relationship with your Mom makes it seem that your process is unresolved energetically. That said, my father is an alcoholic and was my entire life. I'm always honest about it when I talk about family but I always think that it looks bad, especially as a girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/17 09:00 PM
1

TRP would.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/17 08:50 PM
1

Feminine women tend to be the bitchiest, Really..? What does 'feminine' mean to you? Genuinely curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/17 03:22 PM
1

I'm confused. Do you want a non-Chad? Your plan sounds like a quick road to /r/deadbedrooms to me. I mean, don't we all technically want a Chad/Stacey that commits to us? In which case, that's why we should focus on improving ourselves, such that we're worthy of a high-value person's commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/17 12:03 PM
1

My female equivalent is much higher value than I am Height is a factor that MEN are judged on. It's inaccurate to use it as a comparison for a 'female equivalent' because a woman's SMV is rarely affected by her height. To calculate a true female equivalent, you'd need to use a factor that women ARE physically judged on, equally to height for men. Remember that a 5'5 girl who is attractive and works out, but has an average face, would have a lower SMV too. And that's just as equally out of her co…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/17 03:47 PM
2

Most men dont have that Most people don't have that. It's called being single.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/17 03:39 PM
2

I find most nonoverweight women my age attractive at least to some extent, so hypothetically I would be fine with having them as options. That's because you're a man, where your primary motivation is casual sex. Your definition of "attractive" is "someone attractive enough for casual sex". When you're a woman, where your primary motivation is a long-term, monogamous relationship, most nonoverweight men would not be "attractive". Our definition is very different.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/17 03:37 PM
1

27 Female Single I save about 85% of each pay check. I'm fairly frugal but I live in a cheap city with a remote US salary, which makes things easy. I keep an emergency fund in cash savings & invest the rest in Vanguard. I hope to be FI by 35. A girl can dream...
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/17 08:47 PM
5

They are her words from older posts of hers.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 03:51 PM
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I have told him this before and it hurts his feelings I don't enjoy sex with him. Straight-up telling someone that you don't enjoy sex with them would hurt anyone's feelings. I see from your other posts too that you seem to tell your SO a lot of hurtful things, thinking that that's what will get him to change. IMO negativity is toxic and only serves to create a perpetual loop of subliminal abuse. A more effective approach might be to focus on what you can do to improve as a human being, which co…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 12:07 PM
1

Aww, you guys <3
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 08:48 AM
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OP doesn't have to exercise to lose weight. IMO, it's better to start with her diet/nutrition, get that running on auto-pilot, and then start adding exercise in later. Of course, I'm a huge proponent of lifting too, but it adds an unnecessary variable to an already difficult road, and can be too overwhelming in the early phases when one is likely to give up.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/17 09:19 PM
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I can help with the weight! The only way to lose weight is to eat less calories than what your body burns each day. TDEE (total daily energy expenditure) is a measure of the calories that your body burns each day, including any activity you do throughout the day. Based on your details, your personal TDEE is approx. 1700 calories: https://www.iifym.com/tdee-calculator/. I set a goal weight of 130 lbs, which is going to be a long journey but that IS a healthy BMI for your height. If you eat less t…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/17 09:12 PM
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You lost 25 pounds by being at a calorie deficit. Sure, the HIIT helped you get into that deficit, but the high carb/low fat thing really doesn't matter that much, especially for someone like OP who doesn't sound like she is very active at the moment.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/17 08:57 PM
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TRP doesn't literally mean women are children. They mean to treat women like children to benefit their sexual strategy. IMO, anyone who believes that a person isn't responsible for their individual behavior is simply foolish. Stop giving shitty women outs and start holding them accountable to the same standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/17 12:02 PM
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To be frank, I think you need to chill the f*ck out and just give him some space. Your negativity sounds exhausting and I think you need to manage your emotions, such that you're a more fun/pleasant person for ANYONE to be around. Go for a run, take a yoga class, drink a green tea, bake some cookies. A man's distance is an unconscious request for room to breathe. Give it to him and let him come to you. Distract yourself with friends/hobbies/looking after your mental health in the meantime. so I …
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/17 07:23 AM
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I read a lot, yes. I read a lot more when I was younger, but I still read about 1 book every week. I tend to cycle through books that I've already read as I seem to gain more from them each time. Literature definitely impacted my view on relationships, as it has my view on people. Love is universal, timeless, human. It will always be written about. I'm sure it's a large part of the reason as to why I'm such a hopeless romantic. TRP broke my heart, for sure, but it's a pain that I subliminally en…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/17 06:59 AM
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Ironically, isn't that a bit of a white knight attitude of itself? That a woman isn't responsible for her behavior?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/17 05:41 AM
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You have to stay NC. Focus on the fact that she has disrespected you.
/r/TheRedPill21/04/17 04:37 PM
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I wouldn't even add the 'haha'. It's coming from a place of bitterness and you wanting more of her reaction / validation. As always, silence is golden.
/r/TheRedPill21/04/17 04:03 PM
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It sucks but you have to stay no contact & start finding someone else to date / distract you. You can come back to this relationship if you really care about her, but it needs to be on your terms, and after some time has passed. If you cave and give in now, she will get the upper-hand and lose attraction to you anyway. Edit: Btw the longer you stay in NC, the more she is going to want you / be on her best behavior in the future.
/r/TheRedPill21/04/17 03:56 PM
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I don't think this is as true as what RP claims. Women are generally able to break up without having a guy lined up, as we have friends / are able to meet someone new very easily.
/r/TheRedPill21/04/17 02:36 PM
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Or: Take care of yourself before you take care of others.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 07:57 AM
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This is not true. 'I want a break' is a shit test that translates to 'Tell me how much you love me' and 'let me get the power back in the rship'.
/r/TheRedPill21/04/17 06:49 AM
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God, that sounds so robotic and awful. I'm sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/17 06:30 AM
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women DO like getting jackhammered Kinda. I mean, we like it, sure, sometimes, but it's rare that we'd ever orgasm from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/17 05:52 PM
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He just has a preference. And honestly, probably every guy would feel/react the same in your scenario. I know that it hurts, but it's often that pain that drives us to grow. I'm aware of this and keep telling myself I need to get the ball rolling. Get the ball rolling.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/17 11:14 AM
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I think it's like that saying about tattoos - they've never made anyone MORE attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/17 08:28 PM
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a photo of abs/torso/addonis belt that cuts off just before dick is better than the same photo that includes all of the previous and dick? I could be wrong but based on me & my own experience of women, I'd say that is correct; the dick part is irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/17 08:16 PM
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Before that, I was just trying to build a habit, but after, that habit became a part of me, just like ... caring for my hair. I can completely relate. What an epic epiphany <3
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/17 08:09 PM
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male standards Who set those standards, men or women?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/17 07:37 PM
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Not taking the piss. The club /electronic music scene is huge in Berlin and age is not an issue; there are plenty of 40+ people still raving. It's much more common for people to go out alone too.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/17 10:55 AM
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I think it's more likely true to say that a lot of women don't realize how much they like muscles until they meet a ripped guy who appeals to them on other levels as well. I think that's my point - the guy has to appeal to us on other levels first, then the muscles are just sugar on top. I still have plenty of time for other interests That's true but I was thinking of when one was younger, during formative years where ones personality/hobbies/interests develop & become ingrained. My experience i…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/17 09:44 AM
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Yes, it's completely irrational but that's what I'd feel; that it was my fault that the guy couldn't lift me for being too heavy, not for him being weak. It's not like I'm huge but I'm definitely not "petite" or "dainty". That thing about guys throwing girls around in bed? Yeah, that's never happened to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/17 09:13 PM
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When you could have over a thousand dick picks over a minute if you wanted, someone sending you one is meh. You are saying that women aren't attracted to dick picks because they are "cheap" as we are able to get a lot of them easily, no? If so, I don't agree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/17 08:59 PM
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If women craved sex as much as men do and men were as selective as women, dick picks would be much more valuable. Strongly disagree. It has nothing to do with how much we crave sex. There is nothing attractive about a dick pic because there is nothing attractive about a dick. Give us shoulders, hands, collar-bones, that V line thing, but a dick? No thank-you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/17 08:40 PM
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I can say confidently that having a lot of muscle is boon in both the dating and casual hook up worlds. So what gives? I genuinely believe women are being honest when we say we aren't all that into muscles. If you asked a bunch of women to think of their dream guy in terms of attraction, a guy that gives them serious tingles, I'm not even sure that we'd be thinking of his body as much as we would his "vibe". I think we are being really honest if we were to stay that we are attracted to dominance…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/17 08:21 PM
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I have never met a girl who didn't go gaga for this I'm 5'6 and 140lbs and I have always been terrified of a guy trying to lift me for fear of my weight. I really can not relate to wanting to be lifted up. In this situation, I do think that I'd be less attracted to him but it would be subliminal. Even more than that though, I would feel incredibly self-conscious and would immediately resolve to start calorie counting. The whole thing makes me cringe.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/17 08:04 PM
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Move to Berlin. You will fit right in.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/17 07:52 PM
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A guy who's technically in shape, but short and balding, shouldn't be surprised that his smv equal is an overweight girl. Why is his SMV equal? It seems to be a bit of a cop-out. They aren't exactly things the guy can control.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/17 04:36 PM
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A 'smart ass comment' generally implies sarcasm whereas you posted an absolute statement that you genuinely believed. I'd hardly call your inability to read and understand your own article "smart".
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 08:56 PM
2

It says that all women are drinking more. And that women with careers drink more than the average woman. Career women are heavy drinkers. Where does it say that? 'Heavy' compared only to other women? But what about men? Can you still really say 'Heavy'?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 08:47 PM
2

Huh? You are making an assumption that a woman cannot have a job without becoming angry. start a high stress job There are a lot of well-paid jobs/careers that aren't high stress.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 08:43 PM
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Do you understand that there is a difference between your personal experience and what actually exists in the broader population?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 08:27 PM
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Wouldn't you say stress made her like this, not the job itself? Sure, the stress is caused by the job but it can be managed.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 08:25 PM
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Women who describe themselves as "strong and independent" Curious, when do you hear this? I mean, in what conversations does a woman explicitly say this? I've literally never heard anyone describe themselves as this, nor have I ever been in a conversation where someone would have an opportunity to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 08:20 PM
1

Gabourey Sidibe, Oscar-winner...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/17 12:56 PM
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Define successful? Lena Dunham is arguably "celebrated by society" and isn't physically attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/17 12:36 PM
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How do you feel? What have you learned about yourself? How have you changed and improved from this experience? What do you offer to the world? What is your mission in life? What is your value as a person?
/r/TheRedPill05/03/17 10:27 AM
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I think I'm high dominance too and while RPW has dramatically helped, I find that I keep meeting lower dominant men, even online. 'you don't need the most dominant man in the world to be attracted, just one more dominant than yourself' I really wish this didn't have to be true for me but I just can't seem to be attracted to anyone without it and it feels almost impossible to find.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/17 08:25 PM
3

Do specific MBTI types translate directly to low/high?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/17 07:41 PM
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A narcissist...?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/17 03:39 PM
1

Yeah, where is that guy?! sigh
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/17 09:06 AM
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Curious, how do you feel it empowers women?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/17 01:27 PM
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This is true for all of my relationships. I don't mean that they weren't attractive but that I was quite indifferent after the first date, yet completely smitten later on.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/17 07:15 AM
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Well, I said I'd go on a date with him, I'd just be a little more cautious of whether he's actually looking for a relationship like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/17 11:26 PM
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I'd rather have a guy in my range and I think I'm a 6-7. This guy sounds like a 9 which is too high for me to feel comfortable, knowing that he's probably banging or probably could be banging supermodels.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/17 11:00 PM
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Yes, I get it. Remember, for the most part, I actually do agree with TRP, but now I'm questioning myself. Why should I agree with TRP when it's not statistically the majority? Just in the same way that I 'logically' agree with the bacon?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/17 10:33 PM
1

I can confirm that they do the whole area and it's wonderful. Truly wonderful.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/17 10:27 PM
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You're right but still, I'm not saying all men like bacon, in the same way that TRP says AWALT.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/17 10:23 PM
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nobody is going to attack you for preparing enough bacon for 75% of the men who will be attending breakfast. Of course, I mean, it's the logical thing to do. But statistically, all I can conclude is that 0.005% of men in the world like bacon.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/17 10:17 PM
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We can take the entire reddit population of men, roughly 161M uniques monthly. While it's dramatically higher, and inaccurate for the sake of hyperbole, it's still less than 5%.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/17 10:12 PM
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We are assuming that every single one of you will defer to majority tendency Is it the majority tendency of all women though? If the average man has 7 sexual partners in his life, TRP would still only account for less than 0.05% of all women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/17 10:03 PM
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I would think he was a Chad based on his looks/demeanour alone, so no, probably not. I would go on a date with him and gauge what he's looking for but I would genuinely be suspicious.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/17 08:51 PM
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Would I be the software developer? You don't have to be a software developer. If you have a genuine interest in finance, you would probably be better-suited to and enjoy a position in marketing. If you dropped out of college, how did you get a job in this I had relevant skills that I had taught myself online (graphic design, digital marketing, html/css, and building websites). I don't think you need to specifically learn to code if you don't have an interest in it. What do you have an interest i…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/17 07:05 PM
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Honestly, it's a turn-off for me. He's likely a Chad looking for a casual relationship and that just doesn't align with what I want or value.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/17 06:43 PM
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I thought being one of the guys IMO this is different. This is acting like one of the guys. Do you have any of your own hobbies? Were any of them 'given to you' by an ex?
/r/TheRedPill27/02/17 06:21 PM
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This is one part of TRP I just can't agree with. Y'all are only noticing or caring about her 'cool' interests (aka the interests that you yourself find cool). I almost guarantee that every girl has other interests that you just don't find cool, but they're completely ignored because they obviously don't support the nice theory.
/r/TheRedPill27/02/17 06:17 PM
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7 9 5 8 9.5 3 9 3
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/17 01:26 PM
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What is your interpretation?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/17 10:21 AM
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woman's SMV is all looks. Why do you have 55%?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/17 09:52 AM
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Never listen to dating advice from the opposite gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/17 09:29 PM
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I still don't understand the relevance of your comment. women are more incentivized to care for their looks to attract high value men If a woman wants to attract a high value man, she needs to take care of her looks, regardless of MBTI. Or are you suggesting that us xNTx's don't care as much about attracting a high value man?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/17 11:03 PM
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Maybe NAWALT but that AWTTRPLALT (All Women That TRP Like Are Like That)? I say this as a 137 IQ ENTJ. I'm doomed :(
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/17 07:11 PM
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Kinda funny that you're giving advice for what you personally prefer on a thread that is discussing the majority of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/17 04:56 PM
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Why does a woman's MBTI matter if men predominantly care only about physical appearance?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/17 04:08 PM
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I'm doing this to a friend who wants to stop being fat. I just want to say that you sound like a great friend. I'm also glad that your friend is able to accept your help. I have a girlfriend of my own who is very overweight and often complaining about it, yet will take offense to anything that is suggestive to changing her lifestyle. Unfortunately it's lead me to want to hang out less and less frequently as the negativity is such a tax.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/17 03:33 PM
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I agree with other comments that spending 2 years for 'life skills' would be very unnecessary. Do you live with your parents at the moment? The best way to learn homemaking skills is by making a home! Can you cook with your Mom / help her out more around the house with cleaning? Otherwise, once you get your first 'home' of your own, whether that's a share-room, or your own apartment, you will quickly be able to pick things up, particularly with the help of the Internet (Martha Stewart's blog any…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/17 03:20 PM
1

Do you believe that people can change? Do you believe that women can change?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/17 04:52 PM
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It's not something I've ever researched online so I don't know myself but as that shoe conglomerate always says, just do it? I fold a blanket and sit on that, set my iphone to airplane mode, the alarm to 20 minutes, close my eyes, and just listen to my breath. You will have thoughts and you will be distracted, even the Buddha did. But just always try to return to listening to your breath. You will never be 100% clear or free of thoughts, but you will start to separate from them and realize that …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/17 12:40 PM
1

I'd really recommend meditation to improve self-love. You will never believe anyone else's love if you don't believe your own.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/17 12:11 PM
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Well, I already knew he was a software engineer so it was pretty telling.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/17 12:06 PM
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Truth is only relative but I'm still not sure of what you're implying exactly. I'm saying that I didn't have an intention or emotion. The "bra undoing" is usually a slight pause of momentum and perhaps I felt I needed to break what could have been an otherwise awkward silence. This is me only speculating on why I unconsciously said it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/17 11:15 AM
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In what way do you think I've misremembered? That it didn't happen at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/17 10:20 AM
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I dated a guy casually last year. At maybe the 2nd or 3rd sleeping together, as we were kissing, he undid my bra with one hand, very quickly. My immediate response: How often do you do that? (said in a half-giggling/flirty way, of course). He laughed and continued, which I think is probably the correct 'Alpha' way to respond to a cheeky but sarcastic stab. I think TRP would for sure say that this is a shit test but it wasn't something that I calculated or was consciously aware of. It just came o…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/17 09:34 AM
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If you knew that he wouldn't ever consider you for a LTR, would you have had them?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/17 12:15 AM
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This is a round-about way of trying to understand what makes a woman enter a non-serious relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/17 12:13 AM
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The definition of attraction is literally having the quality of wanting to be around someone, of being drawn in. A woman will not be sexually attracted to an asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/17 11:54 PM
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Because they don't contribute to attraction. Strongly disagree. Alpha + Comfort === Attraction A woman will not be attracted to a guy who doesn't provide some level of comfort.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/17 11:29 PM
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I'm not saying that women don't have ONS. I'm saying that if we take every single sexual experience from all women, the experiences that were approached with an attitude of 'I just want to fuck this guy tonight and never see him again', would be the vast minority. I'm (debating) that the majority of women wanted and expected it to be more than a ONS / casual.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/17 11:04 PM
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confidence, dominance, good looks and status If a guy had all of these things and was a complete douche, there's not a chance in hell that I'd go home with him. How can you honestly believe that basic human traits, like kindness and humility (that any healthy person should have by default), don't contribute to attraction?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/17 10:59 PM
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Exactly. I'm not saying women don't have ONS or casual relationships but I'm betting that the majority of those women did so expecting it to always be something more.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/17 10:34 PM
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Questions: How do comfort, niceness, kindness, humility, fidelity, etc. make girls want to fuck? I'm going to flip the question. The 'comfort' things listed here in isolation are not what would make me want to sleep with a guy. But in the inverse, it's the 'sexually attractive' traits that stop me from wanting to sleep with a guy. It really might be my self-esteem but I know a Chad when I see one, and while I can objectively say that he's physically attractive, I've never been attracted to him m…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/17 06:32 PM
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The majority of women. It's a question for you actually. Do you think the type of girls that you have had relationships with are representative of the majority?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/17 06:16 PM
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What percentage of women only want to fuck a man? I don't think there's a difference for us between 'fuck a man' and 'attractive for a relationship'. Our default mode is relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/17 06:10 PM
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Comfort is not "attractive". How do you know? How do you honestly know? Like, what are you basing it off? You have multiple women disagreeing and yet you never stop and question that perhaps you might be incorrect. Also, for the record: Attraction (noun); the action or power of evoking interest in or liking for someone or something. Comfort evokes interest just as much as the 'sexual' traits you listed.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/17 06:08 PM
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Pragmatic perhaps. Hamstering IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/17 05:36 PM
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What you mentioned aren't moral judgments. Oh, they did mean it as a moral judgment; that it's morally right/okay for a man to cheat because he has a biological need for sex, whereas women don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/17 05:22 PM
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I don't think they take a neutral stance on cheating. I've had a debate on there before about it. They think that when a man cheats, its' fine, because he's not emotionally invested. When a woman cheats, it's because she isn't in love anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/17 04:30 PM
1

How do you price check on a first date?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/17 04:18 PM
2

I never liked the theory that women don't have genuine hobbies. Apparently, if a girl has hobbies, they were given to her by an ex bf or her Father, and she was doing them to attract future men. As someone who has a lot of hobbies, that was offensive to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/17 07:02 AM
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I realized this myself. The reason my point doesn't make sense is because TRP doesn't believe that this girl (and probably any girl) could actually change. While I believe the foundation of our personality is solid, I don't believe it's fixed. Our behavior is an evolution. Will this girl always have a tainted sexual history? Yes. But I don't think this means she has to continue with it in the future. She could make better choices or check out of the dating scene entirely.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/17 06:39 AM
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How is it a new product? It's a new product to him in that he's starting from 0. The new guy doesn't know about the previous "product". We're talking about a first date. Do you typically ask a girl about her sexual history on a first date?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/17 08:28 PM
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You've introduced too many variables in this for me to even go along with it. One doesn't have to be consistent with their past behavior. Period.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/17 04:29 PM
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Respectfully, I don't think this is how it would play out in the real world. I don't know the stats but I can't imagine the odds of any guy committing after sex on the first date are particularly favorable.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/17 03:44 PM
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I don't think Chad is the highest quality consumer just because he's Chad. What is Chad's RMV anyways?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/17 03:36 PM
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What does stringing the guy along really mean though? I really don't buy the idea that a girl waiting a few dates somehow means that she is not attracted? You make out she's withholding sex out of spite, when she's really just protecting herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/17 03:16 PM
2

The guy is being taken advantage of? How?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/17 03:04 PM
2

It's more a consistency thing. If she's always one way or the other, it's fine. If she fucks one guy right away, and not the other until he's jumped through hoops, then the second guy is getting the shaft Well, this thread began by someone insisting sex on the first date, under the premise that a girl should be consistent with what she's done before (which I disagree with, if that hasn't already worked for her).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/17 03:02 PM
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It's not a new product in that the product changed. It's a new product because it's a new guy. The new guy isn't owed or entitled to sex on the first date just because she's slept with a guy on the first date before. He should be looking at it entirely as a new product and not comparing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/17 02:05 PM
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Would you commit to a girl who put out for you immediately and was desperate for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/17 02:03 PM
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I meant 'jump through hoops' as waiting a few dates for sex, vs expecting it on the first date. I don't think that's unreasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/17 02:02 PM
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I agree with everything you said here but it's kinda irrelevant to the original point, which was that women/people should be consistent with what they've done in the past. People should learn lessons with experience and improve themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/17 10:41 AM
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Pretend you're this girl for a moment. You really want a long-term, committed relationship. You've gone on a few dates with guys that you were attracted to enough to sleep with on the first date, but these never lead to any meaningful relationship. What would you do next? How would you approach dating now?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/17 10:38 AM
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Well, not really. Women don't want niceGuys, they want commitment. It's just a lot easier to get commitment from niceGuys.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/17 10:35 AM
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or positively accept it. Of course you don't have to accept it. That's my point. Move on to a girl that fucks you on the first date. This one has a different game-plan for a different kind of guy, that she's adapted to avoid getting the results that she has always had. I think if you turn it into a competition Strategy isn't competition. I have something you want. You have something I want. I want you to get what you want, but not at the expense of what I want. We're going to have to compromise …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/17 08:43 AM
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That's business. We're now marketing to attract a higher quality consumer. We're consciously accepting (and choosing) a smaller market with a higher chance of conversion. Honestly, I can accept that it's obviously much more favorable for a guy to not have to jump through hoops, but you have to at least look at the girl's side of it too. This is a strategic game, on both sides. You would be stupid not to update your next move. Isn't this the entire foundation of TRP?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/17 08:26 AM
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No one likes it when prices go up The prices aren't going up. It's a new product.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/17 08:08 AM
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What a crazy idea. With every relationship, we gain experience and we (hopefully) change. Imagine a girl who continuously sleeps with guys on the first date, getting repeatedly pumped & dumped. Would you recommend she continue being "consistent"? Nothing is owed to anyone from past relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/17 07:59 AM
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For someone who comments an awful lot on what it's like to be a woman in 2017, you don't seem to have a single clue about it. When was the last time you actually spoke to a woman and genuinely asked her about her life? And no, you won't find it in TRP posts. People with jobs pay taxes. People that need welfare, take welfare.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/17 11:02 PM
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Yes. Would it be the same as men's? No. Does that mean it would be unsuccessful? No.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/17 10:51 PM
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IMO #hesJustNotThatIntoYou He has made his intentions and feelings for you pretty clear. And honestly, it sounds like he's already met someone else. How long was the space between sleeping together & him starting to create distance? He may have just been in it for the chase - I don't think guys necessarily do this intentionally, but that's why we really stress vetting hard in the early dating phase, before sex, as sex (or lack of) completely influences our judgement and actions. Plus, afterwards…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/17 03:10 PM
1

Perhaps it's not that we drink more but that we just can't handle it as well? Even in Eastern Europe, they drink a lot, but it's never that messy character that comes out (like Ireland/Britain/Canada/Australia).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/17 10:44 AM
1

Lower her standards to average men. This would be a guy that she isn't attracted to. She would know it, eventually he would know it, and you can be sure that Chad would know it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/17 10:25 AM
1

I'm surprised by the WHO alcohol consumption data. I'm Australian and having been in the UK, I feel we have a similar drinking culture; drinking to oblivion is the norm and even celebrated. Honestly, it's why I moved abroad. As someone who doesn't drink much, it was always a struggle. Anecdotal but I've lived in the US too and in my experience, it's very different. Americans still party obviously, but it was never on the same level of binging. I live in Berlin now and getting that drunk is defin…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/17 10:16 AM
1

Ugh, this hurts me to read as it was so me in my last relationship. I am so dumb! Onwards & upwards :)
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/17 03:35 PM
4

I thought they really supported makeup? I've definitely read a few threads saying that they liked girls who wore makeup, albeit when it was naturally done (which is still an underestimation of the cost/work involved in getting it to look like that).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/17 05:19 PM
1

My spiritual bent on it: It's somewhat Buddhist philosophy but I believe in reincarnation and Karma. Karma is what attracts us to specific people; every 'spark' or connection we feel with someone is because we've had a past lifetime with that person and there is unresolved Karma that is part of our soul's journey to complete and clear so that we can transcend the human world. I do believe in soul mates but I do not believe everyone has them. For some people, their soul's journey (to complete the…
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/17 10:19 AM
11

I just decline enough that eventually they stop asking.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/17 09:33 PM
2

Definitely, I must have read it over 20 times now. And I'm jealous that you it was one of your high schools texts! The education system in Australia sucks and we were not so fortunate :(
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/17 07:37 PM
1

Friends. Are we friends? Are we really friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/17 06:28 PM
9

I recently added this quote to my blog. It's an excerpt from Siddhartha, the famous novel by Hermann Hesse, based very loosely on the Buddha: "The world, Govinda, is not imperfect or slowly evolving along a path to perfection. No, it is perfect at every moment; every sin already carries grace within it, all small children are potential old men, all sucklings have death within them, all dying people - eternal life. During deep meditation it is possible to dispel time, to see simultaneously all th…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 06:09 PM
8

I really don't have any work skills No one has any work experience when they start their career - you just need a foot in the door. Don't underestimate the skills that you have as a person, like your ability to spell, write, communicate. You need to start selling yourself. There's no reason as to why you can't create a portfolio online of dummy work - it will definitely make you stand out. I didn't have any work experience when I started but I was eager to learn, friendly to people, and always d…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 05:08 PM
3

I was 20 and he was 36. He was successful, very rich, but still responsible and frugal. He was always adamant that he didn't want children and at 20, I didn't care. Unfortunately, at 26, I had started to care a little more, so we broke up last year. I think you being at 25, you can have a fulfilling relationship, though I wouldn't recommend such an age gap to any girl younger than you. At times I remember feeling that I was being held back by him and the relationship, and I would romanticize abo…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 04:47 PM
10

Honestly, I read your post and my initial reaction was to roll my eyes. I'm guilty of this myself, playing the victim card, but at some point, you are really going to have to look at your life and start to process that everything is in your power to change it. What you have right now is on you, this is your responsibility. I shouldn't have to tell you of how incredibly blessed you are to be able to get an education at all, so please, do take a moment to get some perspective. I don't believe that…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 04:08 PM
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Want and need are very different things. Women want men in their lives but I don't believe that they need them. When you're 40+, there is of course a stigma that a woman simply can't be surviving without a man, which encourages silly posts like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/17 08:43 PM
3

Getting the sex they want, when they want it is not 'fine'. It's living the dream.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/17 08:06 AM
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women can get sex with attractive partners whenever they want The only reason you think this is a privilege is because you're a man. For 95%+ of women, there is absolutely nothing fulfilling or fun or good about sleeping with Chads.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/17 08:13 PM
6

Something you really don't know much about, since you're a woman. I'm literally in tears of laughter.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/17 08:07 PM
10

No, we really do get it. I don't think you understood the definition of 'fine' before you posted this. "all the sex you want, when you want, the way you want" == personal perfection. It's everything that you would want from your sex life. Now, why would one ever use 'fine' as an adjective to describe perfection? It makes no sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/17 08:05 PM
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Being in a relationship and having a few flings is NOT "doing fine" if you're not getting the sex you want, when you want, the way you want. You have done it multiple times in this thread. You tried to insinuate that because someone isn't getting what they want, when they want it (a fantasy), that they aren't doing fine. For reference, 'fine' is average, mediocre. I have no idea why you ever used it to describe perfection.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/17 07:55 PM
1

I don't even know myself. I was genuinely curious. I guess I don't believe you dating the medical assistant guy or security guard would ruin your life. Probably I am implying that you're missing out on a fulfilling relationship, but I think you know this and are just choosing for your longer-term desires.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/17 07:31 PM
1

While I don't think your wants are entirely unreasonable, I have to ask, how is this checklist going in terms of relationships that you've found? TBH, it seems insane to me but I respect that you have a very specific idea of what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/17 07:20 PM
1

The potential for attraction is there because it is hardwired and biological, despite him being an unattractive male he is still male with male characteristics. I can see what you're saying here. I just don't know how it's accurate to judge it based on potential. I don't believe anyone thinks like this. We're either attracted or not in the present moment. I see, an earlier post of yours says you were on the feminist bandwagon. Quelle surprise! Then you go on to state that you think you have high…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/17 04:11 PM
1

having numerous romantic options is a privilege Are they romantic options though? Men could hit on morbidly obese women, for example. That's why we're using the analogy of gay men here. They really aren't 'romantic options'. They aren't options at all. If you lived a male's experience I am sure you could see outside your bubble and maybe understand. I don't need to live a male's experience to be empathetic and understand the alternative. Of course I can understand it. I guess you, your average l…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/17 03:34 PM
1

I don't think I ever met a woman that was approached numerous times a day in reality. Does that mean that they don't exist? Another problem is some women may be inclined to a victim complex, and men hitting on them (framed as harassment usually) would only serve to strengthen this complex (normally seen with feminists). The biggest problem is that women are spiteful, they will purposely lie with a personal and biased anecdotes just to disagree with something they find provocative or offensive. R…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/17 02:32 PM
1

Numerous times a day is frequently... no? Anyways, you seem to want to argue in disbelief, which is fine. Like I said, I was merely stating a different observation. I'm not saying I'm the majority, I have no idea statistically what is the majority, but at least amongst my friends, we get approached. It seems other women have confirmed this in other comments here also. But I digress..
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/17 01:57 PM
1

There is a guy at the end, that asks for directions. He is genuinely asking for directions and this is not what I would consider as a guy hitting on me. There is a guy at the start who follows the girl and then strikes up a conversation, telling her she is beautiful. It's not catcalling but it's a guy hitting on her, even if it's polite or somewhat subtle compared to 'will you let me take you to dinner'. This is what I am saying happens frequently.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/17 01:42 PM
1

I already commented on that. It's exactly like the Italian guy in the video you shared - interactions like this happen frequently, at least for me and I'm not anything close to a model. Maybe I have an friendly face or give off an approachable vibe, I really don't know, I'm just saying that for certain women, it does happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/17 11:10 AM
1

I walk about 200m from my house to the train. I am always catcalled here, granted it's usually by the same group of shady guys who hang around near the train station (this station is famous in Berlin for where people buy weed). Even if I remove this entirely, I am still approached by 'normal' men each day. At my coworking space, in the supermarket, at the gym, on the train after accidently making eye contact. Honestly, I am totally fine with it in a bar/club and actually I expect it there - that…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/17 09:08 AM
1

I'm not a feminist and I get catcalled multiple times a day. I can give you the benefit of the doubt but my experience has been the same for my friends. Stereotypes exist for a reason - I don't feminism is just making it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/17 08:20 AM
1

I disagree because it's not an 'undesirable option' for me. These aren't guys that I would ever choose, literally ever. I would be alone and I would never consider it; I don't believe that's the same as an undesirable option. This isn't a concept I believe you can even imagine because you're a man. You can't possibly compute it. Men would always take the most unattractive woman as a last resort. I don't believe women would do this. We'd willingly die alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/17 01:15 AM
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I don't know if it would get me down. Probably now that I've had it, it would, at least it would feel a little strange. But if I had never had it in the first place, how would I even know about the experience? It's interesting. And yes, you're right, I look after myself so that I can attract a high value man. The problem is that attention from low value men does not somehow mean attention from high value men. I'd go as far as saying that from what I can tell, high value men do not run 'day game'…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/17 01:06 AM
1

Using gay men as an analogy/example, is the only way that we can explain our (female) perspective. It's impossible for me to say: 'imagine if 5 very unattractive, un-fuckable women hit on you every single day'. I literally can't say it because to a man, there are no un-fuckable women. That's why men see this as an advantage. That's why you see these as 'options', but to us, they aren't. We would never even consider it, in the same way that you would never consider sleeping with a gay man.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/17 12:43 AM
1

I don't know, I haven't asked enough and I'm certainly not in a position to speculate. I think you assume that because men aren't happy with a lack of attention, that women would also be unhappy. I'm not sure if that's so true. Perhaps women don't find their happiness in how men perceive them, in the way that men do? All I can tell you, from my experience, is that IMO there is no dating advantage from having extra attention from people that you would never be attracted to. At best, it's a taxing…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/17 12:35 AM
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It is an analogy. To a woman, an unattractive man is exactly the same as what a gay man is to a straight man. You don't consider a gay man an option because you aren't attracted to him and never would be. Just because the gay man hits on you, it still doesn't make him an option.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/17 12:27 AM
1

I am a 7 at best and IMO, TRP correctly reports that it's the 6's - 7's that get harassed the most; because there are more men that think they have a chance. You guys have no idea. It's at least 3-5 interactions EVERY DAY. If there was ever a benefit or ego-boost, it wore off a really long time ago. Now it's just down-right annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/17 12:24 AM
1

Is a gay man an option to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/17 12:18 AM
1

I can honestly say that I've had at least 10 experiences of men following me after telling them I wasn't interested. Perhaps not violent, but certainly creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/17 12:14 AM
1

I don't think most women...get approached very often Why do you think this?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/17 12:12 AM
1

Your experience, while harsh, is anecdotal. Does anyone, ANYONE, understand basic statistics?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/17 12:06 AM
1

It's not an option to a WOMAN. We aren't thirsty for sex in the way that men are. We wouldn't ever sleep with a guy we aren't attracted to 'in a dry period' or however men would rationalize it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/17 12:02 AM
1

It's not because the woman didn't declare it an option. Just because a guy is interested, doesn't make him an option.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/17 11:57 PM
1

Also we get hit on everywhere: on the public transportation, at the supermarket, at work. Agreed. Unfortunately, it has never, EVER been from a guy that I would consider even remotely attractive. I'mma keep on daydreaming...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/17 11:49 PM
1

I would. Honestly, I think I'd love that; assuming we could have a monogamous relationship and that I wouldn't be a plate within the harem. I'm really into the Captain/First Mate dynamic, plus I generally agree with most of RP fundamentals. There are some things in particular I don't agree with, like that women don't develop hobbies of their own, or that it's impossible for one to have a career and be family-oriented.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/17 08:45 PM
1

Move.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/17 08:56 PM
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I know what you mean and usually, yes, they are protecting their ego. In my case though, I do think that some guys have been intimidated before; only because I was blatantly open about what I earned. My salary for my age is quite outrageous (software) and in Berlin, where I live, it's going to be almost impossible that a guy in my age group would ever earn more than me. While I agree that it wouldn't ever be a dealbreaker for a guy, I can tell you flat-out that it has a big impact on the impress…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 01:10 PM
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Vulnerability is very much a feminine trait. It's the ability to be open, authentic, emotional, without having to restrain yourself from logic. It's the duality between the rationale mind, which is considered masculine.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 12:56 PM
1

Yep, I do anyway. Normal exfoliates aren't "tough" enough for my hair, but the texture of the sugar is.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/16 09:41 AM
2

I like to maintain no hair below my head also. I found this a while back, which has been very helpful (basically a stripper describing her daily routine for smooth, spot-free lady bits). Baby oil is a godsend. https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/24s5me/shaving_your_crotch_101/ Also, I make my own scrub to exfoliate with every few days. It's very simple; just raw sugar and olive oil. The olive oil makes my skin feel very smooth afterwards too. Coconut oil also works very well. With all of that …
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/16 05:44 AM
1

I think you should read my comments again at another time. You haven't understood them; you twist them around into something else and leave my actual points unaddressed. Its again, the lack of chad looks. Were I to have chad looks shit would be a lot easier. You're playing the victim card and using your lack of 'Chad looks' as an excuse for your lack of casual sex. Chad looks is one variable, and apart from working out, it's one that you can't really affect that much. Physical attractiveness is …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/16 01:02 AM
1

What do I have to do with Ted Bundy? You brought him up in an attempt to prove your point that women are not perceptive. The connection between you and Ted Bundy is that he was charismatic enough in his frame to pick-up girls within a few hours of meeting them, while you are not. Actually, the fact that he was a serial killer is almost irrelevant here. Which part of, '' I don't approach women'' makes me desperate? At not one point did I say that this is what makes you desperate. You said that wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/16 10:07 PM
1

I'd talk to her for 2 weeks, at least 1 week, and only then was I able to bang her. It would take me text messages, phone calls, dates, spending time with them, getting to know them, building a pseudo-relationship, and all that. This reeks of desperation. Do you think Ted Bundy was doing this? Ted Bundy == Chad. And I can assure you, he was approaching women and closing them within a few hours. We are perceptive to guys that we can control - any hint of desperation in your demeanour and we, quit…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/16 08:19 PM
2

They don't need to. Patriarchy is the default.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/16 08:34 PM
1

Once I'm aware of something, it's pretty easy for me to change it. I look at my personality like a project; there are things that I'm working on and I track myself against them, mostly just through self-reflection and journaling at the end of each day. Once I had set an intention for femininity, every time before I speak or act now, I think of that intention.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/16 09:37 AM
6

IMO, when a man doesn't reply to a girl twice, with days/weeks in between, he is not interested. Regardless of the injury, he does not respect you. Sorry to be blunt but I think you are holding out for a guy who doesn't actually care about you.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/16 08:29 PM
5

Firstly, be grateful for where you are right now and that you have the awareness to see your patterns - most people do not have this in their entire life, especially girls! As girls, femininity is our default state. Sure, we have masculine elements too, but our default state is femininity. Deviations away from this default, away from being feminine, are games that we play with ourselves, walls we build, processes that we invent, to avoid pain. Pain jades us, conditions us, makes us put on masks,…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 07:56 PM
5

It's because we can see that you're terribly desperate; God, it's almost suffocating me to read your comment. We (girls) are incredibly perceptive to this. Read the TRP sidebar for some of that abundance mentality frame 101.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/16 10:56 PM
9

It made a lot more sense to me when I found RPW, but I've always absolutely loved caring for people through little acts of service. I can't quite explain the feeling of simply cooking a meal for someone. I'm a hopeless romantic and have always loved giving handwritten letters to my boyfriends, with silly little drawings. Looking back, I can't help but smile, just remembering how touched they were by that, and how much they treasured the letters. I love that I can feel and not have to restrain my…
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/16 11:55 AM
9

In my experience, it means he is not interested. I was in a similar situation a few months ago and it took me too long to figure that out / accept it. Don't contact him, give him space - if he is interested, he will reach out to you. Date other people in the meantime.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/16 06:46 PM
1

No, I agree that we are different. I do not agree that it makes it any more okay for a man to cheat because it's "only physical", which is the underlying implication of the original comment. To me, infidelity is infidelity - whether it's emotional or physical is irrelevant.
/r/TheRedPill19/12/16 10:05 PM
2

Cheating on anyone is checking out of the relationship due to death of fundamental attraction. "Blowing a load in another vagina" doesn't make it any better or any more okay.
/r/TheRedPill19/12/16 05:03 AM
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Please. It's not different at all. Love is compromise. A woman can cheat for her urge to sleep with someone else and still be perfectly "in love" with her husband, just like a man. Assuming you're in a monogamous relationship, fucking anyone other than your SO is cheating, and cheating is wrong. It's a sign of disrespect / lack of value for your partner. Regardless of gender. Edit: 'It's not different at all' was the incorrect choice of words here. I completely agree that women cheat, much like …
/r/TheRedPill19/12/16 01:34 AM
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Right, I'm aware that TRP is going to be a heavily biased sample but still... The sheer number of TRP members is enough to confirm that cheating in general, is a lot more common than what I had realized.
/r/TheRedPill19/12/16 01:27 AM
1

I respectfully disagree. Even the 25% is heavily debated - basically, it's all about clitoral stimulation. In certain positions, we CAN orgasm with penetration, but it's because of the clit, not the penetration itself.
/r/askTRP18/12/16 09:44 PM
3

I am a girl, actually extraverted/confident in group scenarios, but very shy one-on-one initially. When men approach me unexpectedly, I feel incredibly uncomfortable. I do open up eventually, it's just an underlying trust issue. With all shy people, you just have to do a little bit more work to make them feel comfortable, safe; and you have to make the decision as to whether that's worth it for you. If she is initiating conversation, it's likely she's interested. Have you tried organizing to mee…
/r/askTRP18/12/16 08:32 PM
3

It's not "some", it's actually most. 75% of women do not come from penetration alone.
/r/askTRP16/12/16 09:04 PM
2

It's not that intelligence can't be a turn on or attractive, but it's trivial in importance when compared to physical attractiveness. Even though your fiance' is turned on by your intelligence, I'm guessing that you're not really overweight, for example.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 06:14 AM
1

Just be aware that sometimes the quality can be lower. For every package I order, I usually am sending something back. Just FYI.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/16 09:13 AM
3

Have you tried Asos? http://www.asos.com/ More expensive: https://www.shopbop.com/ I'm an hourglass too and prefer anything that is fitted at my waist. I usually only wear dresses and skirts these days, and I basically live permanently in stockings now that it's Winter. I absolutely avoid blazers and anything that looks too business-like - I was once THE blazer girl. Here's a quick search for styles that really suit my curves: http://www.asos.com/asos/asos-pinafore-dress/prd/7204903?iid=7204903&…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/16 04:36 PM
1

I started with cross-stitching. Most sewing stores will have little books of cross-stitching patterns that you can copy, so it's very easy. Then I just watched a few youtube videos on embroidery and started experimenting on my own.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/16 09:32 AM
1

I read this on TRP too and it's one of the only things that I disagree with. The only areas that it's somewhat true for, for me, are music and films - my exes definitely introduced me to music/directors. But honestly, I introduced them to a whole bunch too - isn't that why we fell in love in the first place? Writing, painting (water colors), meditation, gym, piano, learning German, 35mm film, Penguin classic book collection, embroidery, electronic music production. Honestly, I have too many hobb…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/16 11:03 PM
1

I'll bite. The truth is, even if you wielded yourself into a "unicorn" - a feminine goddess, who cooked, cleaned, gave regular BJs, and was the absolute perfect mate to her Captain, unfortunately there's still this little other thing called chemistry. If we all knew how to make someone fall in love with us, do you think we'd be here? RPW (or even TRP for that matter) would probably not exist.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/16 10:29 PM
1

I love Vagabond. Not sure about the UK but I just did a quick search & you could order via Zalando: https://www.zalando.co.uk/vagabond/
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/16 10:18 PM
1

It's perhaps the way that you asked her for the 2nd BJ that put her into attack mode. If a guy that I had just started seeing, straight up commanded me to give him a BJ, it would make me feel like a slut and I would be inclined to respond in a snarky way, like she did. Also, she's inexperienced (and maybe?) grossed out by giving BJ's without feeling that they should be reciprocated. Perhaps from that inexperience, she doesn't feel the desire to want to please you sexually.
/r/askTRP26/11/16 09:23 PM
5

Honestly, which women say they are 8s or 9s? I think we (women) are all too damn insecure of ourselves, physically. If anything, perhaps we give ourselves more "points" for the non-physical qualities. For example, I could see how some women could physically be a 4-5 but think that because they are financially independent, haven't ridden the CC, and are of a feminine disposition, that they get 2 extra points, which simply/sadly isn't true to men. I can go over to TRP and read a lot of posts of gu…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/16 03:52 PM
5

Wow. Just wow. She's an 8? She is an easy 9, maybe even a 10.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/16 01:47 AM
2

This was a great comment - thank-you for adding it. I've definitely been spending more time in TRP over the last month and I can see it has contributed to me being a lot more jaded (and paranoid) about relationships. I've been more conscious of it, this last week, and am making sure that I'm prioritizing time with real people.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/16 11:44 PM
1

While I totally agree with this, fortunately I have never posted about feminism (or actually any kind of social opinion) on social media. What I meant by 'Feminist bandwagon' was actually more about an attitude - it ties into the guarded-cold-bitch I mention in my OP. I had become entitled, felt that the world owed me something, and had started to prioritize things like my career and money over my underlying RPW desires. With the guy who plated me, I cringe thinking of all the little moments whe…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/16 04:25 AM
5

I'd be really curious how that transition (from plate to something more serious) happened? Were you still actively seeing him as a plate, and then changed to RPW? Or had you stopped, changed to RPW, and then you started things with him again? I ask because I was a plate of the last guy I was with and since found RPW - there is an idea in my mind that we could try again and things would be a lot different between us, knowing what I know now, but I'm just not sure how to get to a point of a second…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/16 09:05 PM
1

Do you have to return some video tapes?
/r/TheRedPill26/10/16 07:19 PM
1

How is this any different to men improving themselves to attract better women?
/r/TheRedPill19/10/16 12:01 PM
2

Take some responsibility for your own actions. Unless she is literally pushing food into your mouth, then you are accepting it, eating it yourself, and hamstering your own lack of self-discipline onto your wife. How about an open conversation with her that you are trying to lose weight and would like her to support your goals? Btw, if you must have a cheat day, it should not be of carbs; a cheat day should simply be a day where you eat more calories of "clean" food.
/r/askTRP19/10/16 11:58 AM
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I am eating 1200 calories too, which is the minimum number of daily calories recommended for women before your body starts to eat your muscle. Firstly, it's very important that you are eating enough protein. You need to eat a minimum amount of grams of protein each day. If you don't, your body will eat muscle instead of fat, and although you will continue to lose weight, you will end up with a very high body fat %. You can calculate the protein that you need here (and also what daily calories yo…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/16 09:51 PM
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For me, it was from the influence of very promiscuous friends. Thank God I also somehow managed to keep a low N count, but I did have one recent casual relationship because I honestly felt that I had "missed out".
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/16 09:02 PM
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I won't reply directly to everyone, but I sincerely want to say thank-you for all your replies. In reading the responses, the energy definitely feels as though it has shifted; that I can acknowledge my mistakes and see exactly what I need to do in the future. I am going to enter monk mode and work on everything I have learned already from RP/RPW. I only wish I found this sooner, but I'm 26 and I am very glad that I have found it at all. It would have been very sad, otherwise.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/16 06:20 PM
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