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Procrastination 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 02:58 AM
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There is such a thing called "nonverbal communcation". You might want to look into that.
/r/ExRedPill30/03/26 08:48 PM
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I mean, you also dont have to be willing to have sex with someone who doesnt align with your sexuality. I thought that was implied in my comment 🤷‍♀️ but you do you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 08:12 PM
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Not having an issue or being fine with men living a gay lifestyle or being gay does that mean you have to be comfortable with the idea of YOUR PARTNER having sex or wanting to have sex/relations with other men. I say this as a woman dating a bi man, and am perfectly okay with him being bi. Being accepting and welcoming of the lbgtq community does not mean you have to be willing to date someone whose sexuality doesn't align with your own.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 07:00 PM
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You can still be mentally unwell without having a specified diagnosable disorder. All disorders, diseases, illnesses and syndromes are just clusters of symptoms that appear together frequently enough to be determined beneficial to define that particular cluster of symptoms to achieve better treatment outcomes. This is true in the medical field as well, although they have had a lot more time to refine and and verify more precise and definite illnesses. It's important to remember that psychology i…
/r/ExRedPill19/01/24 06:50 PM
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too many women are parasitic and feel entitled to dinner dates. Literally in your comment they were replying to.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 06:59 PM
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I can pm you if you want That is up to you. Judging from the amount of comments you make, it sounds like you do need someone to talk to, and I'm (almost) always willing to lend an ear. I'll be honest too, I'm personally curious what your reasoning is.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/20 03:45 AM
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If you think so. This sounds more akin to the typical young adult mindset that comes from lack of perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/20 03:15 AM
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I’ve probably dealt with more pain in my 21 years of life than many will in 50+ years Dear god, this has to be the most melodramatic line I've read all day.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/20 02:48 AM
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raped is commonly thought of an act of receiving penetration The FBI's Uniform Crime Report updated definition of rape (2012) actually does define rape as "forceful penetration" (to put it simply... I'm happy to provide links, but I tend to go overboard; last time I tried to preemptively cite a comment, I sent myself on a 12 hour research and reading excursion; whoops!) many men do not realize that “being forced to penetrate” counts as rape Technically, that would fall under the code dealing wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/20 07:59 PM
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I just got my boyfriend's mom to start watching it with me. You're right, small changes can lead down a slippery slope, and sometimes alarmingly fast.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 12:44 AM
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Meat market - bars that people go to solely to find a ONS, usually runned down and/or dirty NEET - Not in Education, Employment, or Training; a term originated in Japan, usually used as a derogatory label for LVM/LVW who have very low or no motivation
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/20 05:10 AM
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I have a theory, but it's based off of just antecedal evidence. I graduated from 2010, and we too didn't seem to have these dating problems I hear about online currently. I think it a big portion of it has to do with the school system. I tried to work as an aid for a teacher a few years back, and I just couldn't do it because I couldn't stand how much they wanted to stifle the kids. Even in the after school program, they demanded little to no cross talk during and even in between activities. I f…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/20 02:58 AM
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Omg. That first link. I was dying laughing. That guy has to have literally the worst hook up advice ever. Honestly, the "Thirst Trap" strategy/interaction seems so fucking cringy. God, I guess I'm getting old. Made me think back to my High School days where we would do the same thing on Facebook (post a picture in hopes for interest or like a picture to show interest), except now apparently there's fucking guides for it, and people are doing it into their 20s. The people writing in the blogs cam…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/20 01:36 AM
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Off topic, but have you watched the handmaid's tale? That series immediately came to mind when I read your comment. Terrifying piece of fiction. I watched the first 2 seasons in one sitting because I got so sucked in. I still need to read the book it's based off of.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/20 09:04 PM
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I don't know if you're interested in another person's answer, but I'm giving it anyway. Haha! I'm female, but I've always been disgusted by the corporate career life, or even a regular 9-5. I'll admit right now, I'm having motivation issues because of a major life setback that led to major depression and ptsd. But before that - and I hope, eventually, once I work through my issues I'll go back to this - I got a massage therapy license almost straight out of high school, and was self employed run…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/20 07:58 PM
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Is commenting with this account meant to confirm that this is an alternate account? So coletteub44 and spykidsgameover are, indeed, the same person? You replied to a comment on a different post duplicate, so if you want, we can go into what my thoughts are there. Having two separate discussions on the same subject with the same person is a bit redundant.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/20 04:00 PM
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So are you related to the CMV post? Honestly curious. I was surprised to see such a similar view posted by two different redditers. Also, I don't necessarily disagree with your opinion. I just found the wording amusingly peculiar.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/20 01:30 PM
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But oh man, I'm getting a huge kick out of the conversation. Haha! I wonder if the OP is in any way related to the redditor who posted an almost identical question/view in the CMV subreddit...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/20 12:57 AM
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Oh man, I spent like an entire weekend reading up on sexual coercion in prison a while back. That was a wild ride. Rape is a serious issue, and I think its small minded to argue over who gets raped more, or who has it worse for any issue for that matter. Its a very traumatic event regardless of gender. I do want to point out that forced sexual contact isn't necessarily rape, though. It covers everything from having someone's genitalia grazing any part of your body while you are both fully clothe…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/20 09:29 AM
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It really depends on the neighborhood you're in. There's, I think, 3 families on my block right now with kids, and I constantly see them out playing throughout the whole block and sometimes further (we have a park like 2 blocks away). I live in Texas though, so I feel like since Texas culture is somewhat centered around independence, we are more lenient on unsupervised play.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 08:30 PM
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Oohh, I see what you're referring to now. For sure, I mean in my opinion, you should be doing a cost/benefit analysis for everything you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 05:57 PM
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Which marriage debate? Hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 05:32 PM
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Here's the thing - I certainly don't think the majority of men would react negatively to the point of violence if I was blunt and brutally honest all the time, but the small percentage of men that have no remorse when they respond with violence to, say a rejection, for example, causes me to treat every new male acquaintance with caution and reservation. I genuinely believe most people are good people, but the potential consequences outweigh the benefits when it comes to me being candidly honest …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 05:06 PM
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You needed to post under the auto mod comment BECAUSE you were agreeing OP. This post is marked as Change My View. Parent comments in CMV posts, on this sub at least, should be disagreeing with the OP, since the post's purpose is to "change their view". There was nothing wrong in WHAT you said, it just didn't follow this sub's rules, is all.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 03:26 PM
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THIS. I will never understand how it's my fault if someone decides they want to continue our platonic relationship after being rejected. I'm a huge supporter of platonic physical (and emotional) intimacy. Human contact is so important, and it doesn't have to be centered around sex. I also always try to make it clear that what we are doing is strictly platonic, or if it could be sexual. To me though, its not hard to draw that line since I practiced massage therapy for 7 years. It's perfectly poss…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 01:26 PM
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Sweetheart, you insulted me, not the other way around. The question is framed to make woman sound like gold diggers. You emphasized him losing money, and the perceived fallout of losing money. Honestly the stocks part is what cracked me up. The only people losing that much money in stocks to where it's detrimental to the level of lifestyle you're used to tend to not be very good with money. I can't imagine dating someone who would throw the majority of their money into stocks all willy nilly, es…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 11:11 PM
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Yes. I am. "Gotcha" questions tend to not be popular here. Your premise is that all woman want: money status looks AND marriage Which is hardly true of all women who aren't already living a privileged life. Sure, these things are important to some degree to most women, but we aren't expecting to score 10s in all of them (or we don't even want one or more of these criteria). Honestly, I can't even say any 4 of these are important. I care about your drive and willingness to improve. Many people ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 10:33 PM
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Man honestly thats so sad. I hate hearing that. I've always been a very touchy, physical person, even in platonic relationships, and seeing people have to get their level of physical needs met through hook up culture is just depressing to me. I don't even have a problem with hook up culture, I've had my fair share of flings and one night stands, but gah I really feel for people who have to use it to get some form of physical intimacy in their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 09:33 PM
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I mean, me and my boyfriend were joking that a lot of babies were going to be born 9 months from the lockdowns. We've definitely been fucking a lot more than normal. But I honestly can't say I've heard anyone complaining that they couldn't get out to find a random dick. I have seen a lot of people going into depression from lack of physical contact, and thats totally understandable. I am very thankful I was not locked down by myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 09:15 PM
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I had my boyfriend read it before I posted and he snorted at your analogy too. I don't expect you to be a billionaire, hell my boyfriend doesn't even have a job at the moment because of everything going on. We are living out of my mom's house. We're in a shitty place. But he's shown that he's still motivated to be financially independent, and he's shown that he's committed and cares about me, so I could really care less about what's in the bank account. Honestly the guy you described sounds like…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 08:51 PM
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Is he bitter and resentful that he lost all his money, and subconsciously/unintentionally, or even purposefully taking it out on me? Yeah I'm leaving. You aren't the same person I married. Is he still kind to me regardless of his money failures and drop in social status? Hell yeah, I married him for him, not his money, not his friends, and not his status. Also, talk about some shitty fucking friends to drop you out of their social circle because you're poor. Also also, I honestly laughed at this…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 08:33 PM
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Oh good. So they were honest and upfront about it. No. Sorry, guess I shouldn't be using local colloquial here. I meant they were absolutely not interested, but they were not up front about it ie. They acted interested to get into pants. Which, again, I don't get since I'm pretty chill about casual sex, just let me know that it's casual sex. Although at this point, I think you know exactly that, you're just being willfully obtuse. Just making conversation making you think things over on your own…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 07:23 PM
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No, some have been straight up they were not interested in something other than sex. I used to be really obsessive (I mean I still am, but not so much over relationship bullshit anymore now that I'm older) and would go through mutual friends to find out what the deal was. Some just couldn't stand my intense personality, which is totally understandable. Some have straight up told me exactly that, that they lost interest, and sure that still stings, but not nearly as bad as being misled. Usually I…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 07:06 PM
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Yes. Thats what I am saying. I am very up front about it usually, something along the lines of "hey is this a hook up, because that's cool, I just wanna know where you stand" and its usually followed by something not as cheesy as "oh no baby, I'm super interested in you/I could see myself dating you" but you get my point. One was talking about me meeting his fucking mom. Ghosted me after we had sex. Like dude... thats just weird. I'm not saying we should always get what we want. Similar to how s…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 06:45 PM
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I have never expected commitment or a relationship from a bar hookup. Wtf. I do get upset when I've been talking to a guy for a few weeks who's acting like he's interested and actually enjoys my company, and when we finally fuck he ghosts me or suddenly loses all interest in talking except to initiate sex. Especially when I make it pretty clear I'm cool with just a hook up, but they're the ones acting emotionally invested. Like, I make it pretty clear up front that if they aren't actually intere…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 06:03 PM
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I think there's a little misunderstanding here. It sounds like they are defining "human contact" as an emotionally fulfilling encounter, whereas you're defining it as physical contact. While yes, physical contact is important, it still feels really shitty to participate in physical contact that you perceived as more emotionally connected than the other person was leading it on to be. Honestly, if I wanted connection and physical contact while single, I'd just go cuddle with my best friend instea…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 04:46 PM
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Meanwhile, this quarantine has proven that (single) women can’t even go 4-8 weeks without fucking randoms. (80/20 rule proven again - since most men go way longer than 4-8 weeks without sex) What exactly are you referring to here? I feel out of the loop... like has there been a surge of women on hook up apps? Are you just seeing women complain about it on reddit or social media? Was there an article...? I haven't heard anything about women specifically freaking out over sex... I've mainly just h…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 04:02 PM
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Yeah, I feel like the OP didn't quite interpret that part correctly. From what I've observed, these men don't necessarily crave a relationship, but most of them do seem to be craving physical intimacy. I think the problem is because they feel so sexually starved, they don't recognize or acknowledge physical contact as a separate and independent need/craving. Of course, I have a background in massage therapy, which has caused me to see how nonsexual physical contact can greatly improve your mood …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 03:34 PM
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Technically I think the PPD sidebar defines an LTR as over a year. So in context to this sub, its considered long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 02:52 PM
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Okay, I'm asking what shows or movies show that?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 10:44 PM
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Well what did you have in mind when you made your original comment? I’m saying that there is a tendency not to as there is a big push to cast female role models. I could see this true for children shows or shows portrayed towards teenagers, but I honestly think shows tailored for adults rarely care about a role model. I don’t think horror and thriller sci-fi are good examples Not everything I listed were those genres, there are also dramas and comedies listed. Also, what show exactly would have …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 10:37 PM
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I appreciate you. You poor mods work your asses off!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 10:13 PM
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No. Dear lord.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 10:12 PM
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IZombie and the 100 definitely have female protagonists, but they're flawed. The "antagonists" are never really framed as the super villain evil type. I see them as human, and their background makes sense for how they end up into the position they're in. Let's see... Z nation (yeah, okay I have an obsession with scifi and apocalypse ha), Another Life, Stranger Things, The Handmaid's Tale, The Strain, 11.22.63, Black Mirror, How To Sell Drugs Online Fast, New Girl, Snowpiercer, That 70s Show, Los…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 09:58 PM
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Weird, everything I watch apparently shows about an equal amount of flaws for both males and females. I can't think of anything I watch that just basically worships girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 09:43 PM
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You see this in popular media too. Jeeze what are you watching with these types of characters?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 09:37 PM
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Where are you hearing these typical women say that almost all men are "bad men"? Do you hear it irl?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 09:29 PM
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What an odd question. In what context do you mean by "bad men"? That seems pretty broad and ambiguous. It seems like you're trying to ask a loaded question.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 09:21 PM
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Once my living situation improves, that is exactly what I plan on doing!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 09:13 PM
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Yes - dancing with glow sticks. I get where you're coming from, and yes! I always felt at home when I attended a rave. But I just don't think it's in the cards for me anymore. I've been through a lot of trauma, and it's just definitely changed my lifestyle. I have found other ways to be happy, even though I miss the scene. But to be honest, I think I'm secretly scared even going to a rave (definitely if I went by myself) would trigger some PTSD.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 09:04 PM
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There's a college town I could go to 2 hours away, but honestly it wouldn't be the same without the friends I used to party with. Many of them moved off. Some of them stayed here, but we're usually all too busy to try to take a trip like that. Instead I just jam out to dubstep insanely too loud in my car while getting weird looks all over town. Hahaha. One thing I miss the most about it was how fit I was from glowsticking. Like dear lord, you can turn that into an insane workout. Obviously also …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 08:49 PM
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I live in a really conservative city. The "partying" scene here is just not something I enjoy, not like with the social group and community that was here with the rave scene. Most of the main dJs moved to a more "raver friendly" city, and it completely morphed the scene.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 08:39 PM
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The scene dried up in my city.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 08:34 PM
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Red pandas are absolutely too adorable. Although personally, my favorite animal is the fox. They are such big ole goof balls.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 08:08 PM
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I mean, obviously introverts are the superior crowd /s
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 07:48 PM
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Hahaha, I used to work at my city's zoo. We have bison and antelope. I was 100% terrified of those antelope. They're little assholes! The bison were at least usually pretty calm, but yeah, definitely wouldn't want to piss one of those off either.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 07:42 PM
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I don't think I've ever got to see a reindeer. I live too far south. That would be a cool experience though. I would also love to see the moose in Yellowstone park. Moose are so fucking MASSIVE. It's insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 07:31 PM
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Do they really? I didn't know that. Anything with antlers is scary. Like deer lord, there are some bucks I've seen that I would not want to piss off.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 07:22 PM
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Same. Well, technically raving for me. But same shit, different name.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 07:11 PM
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I laughed way too hard at this.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 07:08 PM
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For real, if you're only with me to pop out your babies, then please go away.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 07:07 PM
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As a woman, would you believe him? Yes, because he hasn't given me any reason from your example to not believe him. He is single and looking for a mate. Why wouldn't he flirt? I've seen my boyfriend flirt with other women in the past before we started dating. He stopped when we got together. Because he could stop actively trying to attract a mate; he now has one.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 07:05 PM
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What's right about dislike of or contempt for half the human race? What's right about maintaining a prejudice against half the human race? It's literally dehumanizing half of the population.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 05:59 PM
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In general I don't feel that I can express certain things around certain girls because it's viewed as weakness. Even feelings for the girl! I don't really like it, but it's been mostly the case for me so far. Things like this break my heart. I feel like we've created several generations of emotionally insecure or immature males by pushing the stoic narrative. I've had so many lovers cry in my arms and I've never lost attraction from it, or viewed it as a sign of weakness. If anything, I see it a…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 05:48 PM
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But in general, I did try to be a stable person, a guy that people could rely on. Staying stoic with no outlet whatsoever will definitely take its toll. Yeah, that brings up the fact that for some reason "stable" has become synonymous with "stoic" as well, which doesn't have to be the case. I've never expected a man to be stoic. I do expect some degree of stability though. I don't understand women who don't want their male SOs expressing their emotions. It seems a bit ridiculous. I really don't …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 05:24 PM
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Universities in the US are getting ready to spend nearly 15 million dollars this year in helping men deal with their monthly period Do you have a source for this? I haven't heard anything referring to something like that...
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 05:07 PM
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For sure, I agree with you. It's important to find a healthy outlet for your negative emotions. That is one thing I definitely sympathize with men over, especially because some of them really aren't taught how to properly find an appropriate outlet. The idea that men should only be stoic has really screwed up some males. Anyway, seriously, thank you for taking the time to explain the honesty concept to me. I've been struggling to fully understand that one for a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 05:02 PM
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Yeah, I think some guys want to be able to treat girls like their guy friends because that's how they view a healthy relationship. I mean, it's fine for some girls. I'm overly snarky and blunt, so it tends to not bother me. I even occasionally shock some of my guy friends with my "harsh truth". Haha. Probably has to do with I grew up doing activities predominantly seen as masculine (ROTC, hiking, camping and other outdoor activities, gaming, etc.). It's probably also why I'm naturally drawn towa…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 04:53 PM
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Ah! That makes sense. Your explanation is honestly the first time I've ever been able to grasp what was trying to be expressed by that claim. Thank you! I usually see it try to be applied in terms to being "out and about" - as in, everyday living. Not in the aspect of social events, such as sports or hobbies, which yeah, for sure, I've definitely seen what you're talking about now, and have even had it done to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 04:35 PM
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Are you saying your brutally honest to male strangers and acquaintances? I just find that so... bizarre. Maybe because I'm a girl. I don't know. I've never seen this to be the case. I have seen men be "dicks" to their coworkers or friends - both in a joking way, which I've seen the same for women, or just also in a hostile way, I guess because testosterone? But I just have a hard time believing the majority of men are, by default, overly, harshly "honest" with male strangers and acquaintances. M…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 04:25 PM
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Well of course - I think we are rarely brutally honest to strangers or acquaintances. That would be very detrimental to our social lives. This is true for both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 03:58 PM
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Cool! Thank you for answering. I agree with you, honesty is the best policy. I have trouble wrapping my head around the belief that women collectively want men to lie to them, else they lose their attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 03:51 PM
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Where do you live? I'll come say it to your face.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 11:09 AM
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It doesn't, but in my 12 years of texting, I have learned that I tend not to get along with people who insist on using "text short speak". There's nothing wrong with those people, don't get me wrong. But we're generally not compatible, and I'd rather not spend the time trying to talk to them when there's already a high probably that it will lead to nothing. This is true, but women aren't going to take the time to see if every guy sending "wyd" doesn't fit the established profile we've created fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 10:49 AM
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"Nice" again with feelings and emotions when it isn't pertinent. You're the one who brought up triggered, sweetheart. I don't frame everything as men being helpless victims I'm sorry, but you really do. Or at least you frame women as inherently evil. Maybe it's just how you have to perceive reality to accept it. I really don't know. But you decided to reply to my comment and assume that I meant I don't understand how bad men must have it due to height. I simply meant that I couldn't honestly ans…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 10:37 AM
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I don't understand the rest of your comment or what even triggered it. Your tendency to frame everything like men are helpless victims by evil "the female imperative". Sorry, I don't usually care to talk amiably to someone who generally has nothing nice to say about an entire gender. I'm not really triggered though. I thought that males just talk to each other bluntly and without affability regularly, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 10:17 AM
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We tend to put a lot more subtext into communication, I will give you that. The problem is, even if it isn't different in a man's mind (definitely not true in all men's minds though - I prefer to converse through texts without acronyms because I think its lazy; I only use them for short, concise, or important information that needs to be sent quickly; I don't date guys who dislike using full sentences in written communication, so naturally the men I am with value vocabulary and grammar; they, to…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 10:06 AM
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I do not do that. I also actively tell girls it's shallow to judge solely off of height. I am not the one to complain to. But the truth is men think women do not care about height at first. That isn't the truth. No man I have talked to irl has ever believed that height doesn't matter, same as looks. It is true for some. Which if that was the case for you, I'm sorry, someone told you wrong. But the truth is I've seen several short men not be insecure about their height, and do just fine with wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 09:46 AM
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Jesus christ, what a bitch. It's just foreign to me because my social circle has never really been that shallow either. You'll never understand, this is why men talk about it, so women understand what they go through at least a little bit. Actually now I think you're misunderstanding me. I don't understand it from a girl's perspective. I understand it from the men's, and I have talked to many men about this before. Men and women both go through shitty things. Don't play the victim game to me. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 09:33 AM
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"real man to protect them" I'm sorry but has that literally been an actual rejection line given to you? That's just fucking insane to me. Like I said, I'll literally never understand. I've dated as short as 5"2. I have never rejected a guy based off of height. Height has never been on my "criteria" list. I just straight up do not understand it. Everyone is tall to me from down here. Lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 09:19 AM
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I will never understand the height thing because I am 4"10, so literally every guy has been taller than me... I honestly don't think I even know if I'd find a guy shorter than me unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 08:12 AM
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I don't believe being a SAHM is unfulfilling. But I'd rather women have a choice other than just SAHM. If anything, I think being a SAHM has become a more prestigious position than it used to be, since now it can actually be an option instead of mandatory. Although I know not all women hold the same attitude towards it that I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 07:30 AM
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Question based out of curiosity, Honesty is a MUST for my friends and even more so with a potential partner. Are you one of those people who think men can't be honest with a girl?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 06:52 AM
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I mean, "wyd" is essentially different from "what are you doing?". Also, isn't that what this sub is for, so we can be a bunch of asocial weirdos deconstructing normal social interactions? Hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 06:40 AM
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I use it to see if my best friend is free/I'm not interrupting what she's doing. The difference is that I've known her for several years. If I got "wyd" from some rando dude, then yes, totally a booty call. Haha
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 06:21 AM
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not engaged continues to reply I suggest you revisit the definition of engaged, my dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 06:15 AM
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Off topic, but if you ever do need to talk (including to just complain or vent) about your depression, you are welcome to message me. I'm a pretty good listener, or at least that's what I've been told. Depression is exhausting; but you are not alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 06:08 AM
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Nobody was talking about that. I mean, the post referred to even in the OP says that a guy has sent "wyd" 3 times that day. I think it's worth talking about. I'd argue quite a few people have talked about it, considering the amount of replies the user you yourself are reply to got. If the girl didn't answer to the first 2, this seems kind of obsessive and desperate. If she did answer the first to, it seems pretty low effort if you don't have anything of substance to say to her replies, but conti…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 05:57 AM
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I just wanted to tell you I always get excited when I read your user name, because you explain and describe things in a way that's completely foreign to how my brain regularly interprets things. It helps me pivot my mind to better understand new perspectives.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 05:06 AM
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Hahahaha underrated comment right here.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 04:49 AM
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I'm cracking up that you just compared our sub community to a cult, because we essentially are one. The amount of snarky banter going on in this thread has me rolling. I love the users on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 04:44 AM
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I had an issue with this exact same thing in regards to this sub for a while, until I started taking most of the claims and/or views stated on here only in the context of dating and sex. Sometimes I try to gently remind some users that we are more complex than just our social dating side. Some radical users also seem to believe that we all only apparently matter in that particular context. I just role my eyes or laugh when I see them though, and scroll on by.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 04:37 AM
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Having a single fling or one night stand is the definition of promiscuous? No. Sorry. Words have meaning. Promiscuousness is "characterized by many transient sexual relationships." Now, what constitutes as "many" may vary between different populations and groups. But very few individuals would consider a single, or even 2 or 3, fling(s) promiscuous in our current society.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 04:21 AM
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REEEEEE
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 04:08 AM
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The amount of sarcasm in ZC's flippant comment pretty much accurately describes this sub and it's users. Hahaha You can learn some very interesting information about communication, social interactions, society, the "sexual market place" and its climate, relationship dynamics, etc if you wade through all the bs here. There is a lot of name calling and anger here though. I also feel like most of us are just inherently snarky assholes. Hahaha I go here for laughs, to get lost in reddit holes, and t…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 04:03 AM
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How is this not top comment omg bahahahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 03:44 AM
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People don't always see or recognize adverse behaviors when starting a relationship with someone new. Sometimes the relationship were when these people were younger, and they didn't know how to recognize these traits. Sometimes the ex efficiently hid these behaviors during the beginning phases of the relationships. Sometimes people get "rose colored glasses" when they are first interested in/infatuated with a potential partner, meaning they are blind to these negative traits because of their inf…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 02:19 AM
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You can never completely know who someone is. There have been a few people I have gotten involved with that I didn't realize how incompatible we truly were at the time. There's also the "rose colored glasses" phenomenon, in which you only see someone you're interested in/infatuated with's good traits, while completely blind to their bad traits. For example, a girl twitterpated with some dude, but all her friends bewildered why, while trying to tell her that he's a cheater/liar/insert whatever ba…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 02:06 AM
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I'm kind of late to the party, but wanted to answer anyway. How many of your ex boyfriends were absolute pieces of shit? I wouldn't refer to any of my exes like that (even the guy who raped me). I prefer to acknowledge the inherent worth and dignity of every person. I'm not saying some people aren't bad people - there are obviously people who society as a whole would label as "bad". But we are all human, meaning that we all have our own issues and shortcomings. Even when someone hurts me, I try …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 01:59 AM
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I honestly thought it was obviously implied in your argument. Like, no shit you aren't attracting HV people if you happen to be around them; it's also the reason why you gravitate towards and attract LV people.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 09:35 PM
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I agree, to a certain extent. I strive to be around people better than me, simply because that helps me mature and grow as a person more. I can see this not necessarily true when looking for a mate, though. If you're actively looking for a mate, you don't want to be, for example, a 5 hanging around a group of 8 or 9s. You won't be able to attract anyone this way. (As a disclaimer though, I think I rarely use a 1-10 numbers scale irl, and I think trying to find a mate by doing so is just going to…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 09:32 PM
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I understand. I have depression and ptsd. I'm sorry you're having to deal with depression too. But lashing out at random strangers online telling you to adapt isn't going to help how you feel. We have to adapt to our depression.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 05:01 PM
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I wasn't trying to say that lust or attraction wasn't part of love. But that's just it - they are only a part of it, not the full package. I am attracted to many people, and I lust over others besides my boyfriend, but I don't romantically love any of those people. I'm not going out to fuck them, I just admire their looks. Do you not think that way?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 08:37 PM
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Well, words do have meaning. We are all the masters of our own reality. I never claimed my interpretation was the soul definition. If you disagree, you are welcome to say why. I even ask for how you define love in the post. I was looking for an open discussion, I wasn't trying to attack anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 01:10 PM
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It's not, but life's not fucking fair, bro. I've been hurt more times than I can count, but endlessly or continuously whining about it isn't going to do anything for me. Cry it out, shake it off, and get back out there. I'd also argue that no one has deliberately made the SMP or RMP the way it is deliberately. Life's pretty random, and it's hard to predict. Dont focus on who to blame, focus on finding solutions.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 01:03 PM
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The first read through I thought it was the initials of some porn actress 😂 I feel dumb
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 03:11 AM
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That's fair. I still think men tend misuse it more than women on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 03:05 AM
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I've seen more men misuse the theory than women. I'm not sure where you're trying to go with this. Has someone even recently brought up the madonna/whore complex on here?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 02:41 AM
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😂 I feel ya
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 01:46 AM
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We think about this stuff more in depth ya know? Exactly. That's why I brought it up in the context of this sub. I'm going to politely decline on answering the rest of your comment, partially because I wasn't talking about "normies", and partially because I'm getting hangry and don't want to accidentally snap at you 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 01:40 AM
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That's fair, you just sounded pretty bitter in your comment towards women there.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 01:26 AM
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It was weeks if not months ago when I have mainly saw this, probably when FDS users were flooding in, before the sub updated their rules. I don’t think most regular people are thinking that in depth about the substantive difference between “love,” “infatuation”, “lust”, etc, And I think that's a big problem. Words have meaning. I was not trying to imply that regular people say they are in actual love with their crushes You weren't, but that's the problem. They DO. I firmly believe that's why we …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 01:22 AM
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Women do include “erotic” when they are “in love” with someone romantically. Women definitely think about sex, I'll agree (I'm being a horndog right now waiting for my boyfriend to get home hahaha). But when we discuss it on here, I've seen many women dismiss the erotic attraction side when they describe love. It's an odd phenomenon. Like they know they get horny. But they try to say love itself has nothing to do with erotic attraction when they try to explain what love means to them. Also, I'd …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 01:10 AM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 12:56 AM
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A sort of tipping point I guess, where it goes from "I love you" to "I'm in love with you." But you're not sure where this tipping point is, or what causes it? I'm not trying to come off as judgmental, genuinely curious. I don't think I can quite pin it down either. But I also think it's not just a mix of the two anymore. Maybe it's also the actions that accompany the emotions? Like a user said downthread (I would tag then but I'm on mobile and I can't remember their username for the life of me)…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 12:55 AM
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For real. I want my damn tail! Hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 12:46 AM
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I mean... I agree, but I think quite a few men who aren't incels push the narrative that men polygamous on here? It's not just incels and women. Isn't that men are naturally polygamous even a held belief in TRP?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 12:46 AM
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I used to subscribe to this definition, but I feel like it is too narrow for me now. I love my best friend. I also am very attracted to her (I'm bi). I wouldn't define our love as romantic though. The love I have for her is different from the love I have for my boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 12:24 AM
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I've seen women get married in case the guy leaves them. Not all women who marry do so for this reason, but there's a good percentage. I am not religious and I don't like the religious tones that surrounds the idea of marriage. It's just never going to be an idea that's sold to me. I'd also argue, as a woman, their are far more consequences for me than not marrying. I felt the effects of that from my last relationship. Even with those consequences, I still just don't like the idea of marriage. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 12:22 AM
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I’ve heard that love is caring for someone unconditionally but that just sounds like having poor personal boundaries to me. Same. If you have any good articles or readings you can recommend on the topic, I'd love to hear them! It sounds like a subject right up my interest alley. Haha
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 12:18 AM
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I guess that's where you and me differ. I think some people who get married do so as a failsafe for when/if the relationship ends. I've never been one to plan for failure.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 12:12 AM
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I am agnostic but steal from my upbringing when it services me! I tend to identify as an atheist for simplicity, so I feel you there! That’s why I love that definition so much, it includes “accompanied by emotion” which covers a multitude of sins (so to speak). It’s action that is emotionally charged. And I would argue that no one would define just thinking of someone as loving them, you know? It’s usually accompanied by actions. Funnily enough, why I'm having trouble agreeing with this is becau…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 12:10 AM
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Hahaha! Good point!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 12:03 AM
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Take more time in dating before having sex. It has nothing to do with moralizing or prudishness. I just think once sex gets included the water muddies even more between lust and attraction. By holding off (even just a bit, maybe the three date rule is enough?) it gives space for attraction and attachment to develop which gives us motivation to still date even after sex. Thats a great suggestion! I really dig it. true love takes about two years to really develop (the amount of time to rewire the …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 12:02 AM
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What do you mean by different types of love? Are you referring to how I believe men and women interpret love differently, as in too narrowly to fit the other's definition?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 11:54 PM
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Okay, I see what you're saying. Although marriage is a recognized way to pledge your allegiance to work as a team with another, I don't think it's the only way. Not all relationships outside of marriage lack duty, is what I mean. I've never liked the idea of marriage simply because I don't think the government needs to be involved in my relationships, but I am still loyal to my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 11:52 PM
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Interesting. I've never considered any of my feelings as love as "boring", but I see what you're getting at. It's definitely not all consuming, and I wouldn't call it exciting all the time. But I think maybe I'd refer to it as still enjoyable.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 11:48 PM
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There's many sermons from my childhood on love that I like to refer back to when thinking about the topic. Christianity and some of it's teachings really do have some great explanations for love! I don't think love is only action, though. I see what you're getting at, but sometimes I just like to sit in awe about how much I love my boyfriend (although maybe I am wrong and this is just adoration).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 11:46 PM
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Interesting, I had to look the term up, thank you for the expanded knowledge! How would you normally describe a situation as limerence? As in, would you mind giving a few examples?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 11:41 PM
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Romantic love outside of marriage lacks duty. Would you mind expanding on what you mean by that?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 11:38 PM
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That was absolutely beautifully worded, and aligns very closely with my own thoughts on love. Thank you for your input! I think attraction can be a part of love for some people (not just the physical side of attraction, but the whole package). I just feel like the word attraction gets thrown around too often on here to the point that it starts developing cryptic meanings.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 11:37 PM
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Lmfaooo you got so triggered that you WENT ON AN ALT ACCOUNT to try to get the upper hand in this exchange? Yeah, you're definitely not a "normscum POS" who's "above the roaches" /s 😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 10:35 PM
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I would never do anything painful to him for my plesasure. I don't even let him eat me out so he doesn't feel uncomfortable. You've said this a few times, and I don't really understand your wording. You don't LET him? Because that sounds like he wants to and you arent allowing him. Are you saying you don't demand it of him? Because that makes more sense. I was thinking about this, and I also wanted to add in I think the word pain can be kind of ambiguous. Not all pain is bad. Like the pain from …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 09:41 PM
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That's fine! I just wanted to give you my past experience and conclusions, as food for thought. You do you, girl! I don't want to feel pain especially when he doesn't have to feel pain. Why should I? This is the only thing I would disagree with, simply because any thinking along the lines of "s/he doesn't have to, why should I?" Leads to relationship turning into a tit for tat situation. But I'm sure you probably already understand that yourself, since you're hanging out in this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 08:57 PM
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it's because we usually need clitoral stimulation. And men should remember about it id they want their partner to orgasm. Yes! Now that statement I can 100% get behind. I'm sorry if I came off as harsh before, but on a sub centered around debate, I think its critically important to make sure we are correctly expressing ourselves. I certainly don't want men here to start to assume we don't want penetrative sex, or use the particular wording of "vaginas are numb" as fuel for some argumentative fal…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 08:25 PM
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I'm gonna test drive a vehicle before I buy it. Much like how males prefer to see if you're sexually compatible before getting into a serious commitment, I would demand that partner live with me if we had to get married. (Of course, I don't ever plan on marrying though, so eventually, personally, I'm going to decide this person isn't really all that serious about our relationship if they're refusing to cohabitate)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 07:54 PM
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Bahahaha I love that you just referenced "the poop knife" 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 07:50 PM
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feel everything, it's just not pleasure. Most of us need penetration to at least feel some pleasure. Also, I'm assuming you made a typo here? Figured I'd point it out in case you wanted to fix it. If not, then I don't really understand where you're coming from at all...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 07:30 PM
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I peeked at your profile. I hope you don't take anything I'm about to say as a personal attack, because that is not my intention. I am just a blunt person, and don't like beating around the bush. Sure, I have heard women say that their vaginas are not as stimulating as their clit, but "numb" isn't the correct word (I saw that english isn't your first language, so this is completely understandable); numb is usually associated with deadened or no feeling at all. It would be accurate to say they ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 07:28 PM
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I'm sorry you decided to engage in a discussion on a debate sub. 😂😂😂 Seriously though, thanks for the laugh, and I enjoyed playing "mental gymnastics" with you. I hope you have a spectacular day!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 06:52 PM
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Sure, most women on here have said that they need clitoral stimulation to orgasm, but that doesn't mean their vaginas are numb. Most on here have stated they enjoy penetrative sex, they just don't orgasm from it. All I'm saying is please refrain from making sweeping statements like "vaginas are numb". It leads to ignorance. Also, completely off topic, but I definitely don't consider myself lucky from being able to orgasm from penetration. Quite the opposite. I used to be able to orgasm from clit…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 06:49 PM
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Weird. It sounds like those people aren't worth being around. I've been in both positions. I used to drink heavily when I was in my party phase, but I ended up developing stomach ulcers that ultimately have led to me not being able to have more than one drink or shot without throwing up. I'm sorry people have gotten mad at you for it, that's really shitty. Any time someone has tried to give me hell (and they weren't just teasing), I tend to just stop socializing with them. "I don't judge you for…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 06:39 PM
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I am a woman and I would never describe my vagina as numb compared to my clitoris. Speak for yourself. Have you never had your g-spot stimulated? There are times where I literally cannot orgasm without penetration. The only time in my life where I thought I didn't actually enjoy penetration was when my microbial population and environment was unbalanced. It took a few years to fully restore it, but dear lord it made a world of difference. I understand that all women enjoy sex differently, and we…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 06:35 PM
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I don't believe I have any control over anyone's happiness. I can influence it, sure. But that still is extrapolating quite a bit from what carrot originally said. Where have they said one can control someone else's happiness? You can still believe imposing on someone else's "happiness" is wrong without believing I (or someone else) have direct control over others' happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 06:27 PM
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Vaginas are numb Wut? Your vagina is definitely not supposed to be numb...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 06:20 PM
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How the hell was this not removed, but the questions about morality or drinking were? I don't understand the mods sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 06:14 PM
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What do you mean you don't have enough of a presence to actually own the fact? I'm not trying to be rude, I honestly don't understand what you mean by that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 06:04 PM
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I mean, they never spoke in absolutes. If you interpreted it this way, then sure, I can see how it's bad. But I'm choosing not to be obtuse, and apply what little they said here with how they talk and interact in their other comments here that I've seen, to interprete that "mostly" is implied.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 06:00 PM
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That's fine. There is nothing inherently "bad" about seduction. I'm not really sure how that applies at all to your original comment though. Good for you that you found a way to be successful! But that has nothing to do with whether being unhappy from sexual frustration is either "good" or "bad".
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 05:55 PM
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Feminism, I believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 05:44 PM
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Do you not see how retarded this philosophy is? If by that you mean how retarded believing that someone owes you anything because you're unhappy, then yes. If you're implying that it's retarded to strive to have a positive impact, then no, I'm not understanding where you're coming from. Not everyone will always be happy with everything. Sometimes it is best to work towards the happiness of the majority, and try to make compromises where necessary. Someone is not inherently bad for being unhappy …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 05:42 PM
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That was beautifully summarized. This is my main beef with religion - that many who subscribe to it wholly believe that their belief is the only correct moral code. Religion can be a valuable tool for some, especially as a coping mechanism, and I fully accept that. I love learning and talking about religions. It only becomes a problem for me when people tell me I'm inherently bad for not subscribing to their particular beliefs.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 05:25 PM
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I used to go to a Unitarian Universalist church, but haven't been in a while, mainly due to me turning into a shut in from personal trauma. But that's a whole other story. To actually answer your question, UU's follows 7 guiding principles that I strongly agree with: The inherent worth and dignity of every person; Justice, equity, and compassion in human relations; Acceptance of one another and encouragement to spiritual growth in our congregations; A free and responsible search for truth and me…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 05:12 PM
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Would you mind linking these studies?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 06:33 AM
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All I know is any successful businessman who has partially or fully lost their fortunes due to outside forces out of their control has not sat back and only complained about the unfortunate circumstances. Usually they are spending their time more productively by striving to adapt to recoup their losses. That's what makes them successful.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 06:12 AM
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Like if someone has a successful career, money, and it's taken away due to outside forces and factors, nothing the person did, they're just supposed to gee golly gosh! Time to adapt! ? Again, in what magical world does this happen? Reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 04:29 AM
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Are you seriously asking where to find out more on covert contracts, or are you being tongue-in-cheek here?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 12:39 AM
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I had a feeling you'd say something along those lines (not that I'm judging! Was just curious what you thought could be done to improve OLD). I feel like there's already quite a few different OLD platforms that are available to appeal to all sorts of different niches. The problem is that only a few actually get utilized. I don't think it's a "we need different algorithms to better measure compatibility" issue; to me, it's that looking at profiles gives you a too "static" view of a person. You ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 12:20 AM
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What exactly untapped potential do you see?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 10:36 PM
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Don't you know, women are only good for one thing, so obviously we couldn't possibly have value in any other area of our lives. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 08:07 PM
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That is unfortunate. It's sad most people immediately will jump to cheating, instead of understanding that some STDs can lie dormant for YEARS.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 11:55 PM
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So what I'm hearing is that if the antibody count is 0, that means someone is 100% clean...? I mean there will always be exceptions. The virus or bacteria could actually be in their body, and their body just is not able to produce the correct antibodies. That's why there are tests to see the populations for your antibodies, as well as tests that see if the actual virus (or bacteria, respectively) is present. Although most people don't realize this - not all tests measure the same parameters to d…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 11:00 PM
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Also, I'd like to add you can just ask for the full report on your test results. I always do. You can see what level they are at for yourself. My test last summer was a negative for HSV-2, and the antibodies were pretty well below the threshold. This will normally mean the body was exposed to it, but was able to fight off the virus. They are just still present in the blood in case the body comes into contact with it again. This is how all viruses work.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 10:23 PM
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I'm also thinking of a messed up hypothetical scenario where if M and F both get tested at the start of a relationship, M gets a false negative and later infects F, then F starts to show symptoms because she doesn't have the antibodies yet, and M accuses her of cheating... I mean, wtf That's the problem with our society having such a negatively stigmatized view on STDs. Many just don't even bother taking the time to actually learn how the majority of STDs work. This makes the term STD appear lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 10:19 PM
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The first is waaaay more attractive to me. Like the second just looks like a douche to me. I would 100% approach the first guy to try to socially interact with rather than the second.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 09:47 PM
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Yeah, I'm having trouble understanding this one. I like to think I'm usually pretty good at interpreting what someone is trying to convey even when they do it poorly, but this one has me stumped.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 09:40 PM
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Ooo, I like this. I always try to promote understanding and empathy when I can, and this sub tends to be overly critical. As a general rule, I try not to be too critical of either gender, but I'd like to answer for both anyway. Men - I immensely appreciate their innate instincts to protect a woman, or to willingly offer help. For example, all of my Male friends have always been more than happy to help me move when I need to, both with lifting and borrowing trucks. I've had even instances where w…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 09:29 PM
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It's true that the virus spreads more easily during an active outbreak, but it can and will still spread through skin to skin contact without an active outbreak. Also, cold sores aren't exactly the only way herpes presents itself. Some "cold sores" aren't even the herpes simplex virus, they are just a sore that developed from a different virus or a bacteria. I think the most confused one is the canker sore, which has several other causes other than herpes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 08:50 PM
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What the hell. The WHO organization, which the article uses as it's resource, says 67%. Not 90%. 67% has always been the number I've seen consistantly over all research. You can contract herpes from sharing any objects that have made contact with the saliva of a person who carries the virus. WHO also says nothing about this. From everything I've read, that's a myth. There's such a low chance to catch it from someone who has it if they don't have an active outbreak if you share objects that its a…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 08:42 PM
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From what I've read, could be related if you gave oral since hsv1 and 2 can infect either end, it's just that 1 prefers mouth and 2 prefers crotch Right, it's really interesting to me how each is attracted to a different nerve cell. I really wish there was more medical research. I'm really medically inclined, plus my sister is in medical school, so lucky me, she let's me use her accounts to access medical journals for students. She's actually thinking about doing her thesis over herpes, because …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 08:20 PM
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I'm not really sure what you're trying to imply here. I caught hsv1 2 years after my casual sex phase. The chlamydia literally took a week to clear up. Since when does a boatload mean 1? Also, an LTR is a relationship that is at least 6 months long. I would've said STR if they had been as short as what you're imagining (hell, I probably wouldn't have even defined them as a relationship at that point). Quit trying to pretend I'm hamstering to make yourself feel better. You could've just asked me …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 09:30 AM
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you just got caught in the blast radius. It wasn't even my casual sex. My partner before him was also an LTR, and I had been tested earlier in the year when they finally caught it (I've had yeast infection issues since I was little, so when it flairs up they usually just go ahead and run the usual std tests; also, not sure why I'm way over sharing tonight; whoops. Haha). Its more I like I have to laugh cynically at them. They ain't safe just because they stick to LTRs. It's quite possible to can…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 08:41 AM
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I had my fair share of casual sex, but both stds I caught were in LTRs. The first was hsv1. The guy didn't tell me he had it until after we had already slept together. I'm still kind of miffed about that. When I first got tested, it showed positive for both hsv1 and 2, but I've only ever had one outbreak. I got retested last summer and it only came up positive for hsv1. Honestly the whole situation is kind of weird. None of my partners afterwards have ever come up positive either. The second was…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 08:00 AM
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I mean, if they're already hard, then you don't really need to logic your way to hard. But I think I understand what you're getting at.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 07:20 AM
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Just curious - are implying men can logic their dicks into hardness? They can't logic their pussies into lubrication. This made me giggle, my boyfriend and I have a running joke of "oh hold on, let me just turn my wet on" from some bizarre claim some guy was trying to make on this sub about how women's lust works (I can't recall what the original discussion was though... damn, that's gonna bug me all night).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 07:06 AM
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The only problem is that women view sex and intimacy as one and the same thing - they feel disgusted to have any physical contact with most men. What? No, I adamantly disagree with this statement. Almost every woman I have ever interacted with revel in giving and receiving nonsexual physical intimacy. Women are the ones usually demanding to cuddle. Most in my circle are completely comfortable with platonic physical intimacy from both males and females - cuddling, touching, hugging, sleeping in t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 04:19 AM
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Sorry for taking this long to respond. You're absolutely fine! We all have lives outside of reddit, it would be ridiculous for me to expect an immediate reply. ​ I consider those side effects to correlate with poor animal health. The definitely do. But since the procedure will completely alter their hormonal balance, the risk for hypothyroidism (at least in dogs) triples. It's imperative that you closely watch your dog's health if you decide to spay or neuter them after they are fully grown. Any…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 02:13 AM
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The argument "men don't need sex because they can survive without it" is bullshit. The majority of CMV posts don't use profanity in their titles. All other posts never contain profanity in their titles, although I think that's because it's a sub rule? Regardless, right off the bat, op's choice of words for the title sets an emotionally charged tone for the post. Using profanity in areas that profanity use is seldom to occasional will make your post stand out, though not necessarily in a good way…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 10:47 PM
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It looked to me like most dropped the issue as far as the poor analogy when he admitted that it may have not been the best one. Although I did find it odd he didn't bother editing his post to try to improve it, even after the criticism. The way he's been replying in here gives off the impression that he doesn't really care to restate his argument in a more understandable or relatable way. He seems to just want to argue for the sake of arguing. At least that's the impression I got from reading al…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 04:13 PM
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Again, I had no issues understanding his point, and I addressed the issue of the analogy. I know, I understand that you understood his point. I understood his point as well. I'm just trying to explain why other people are misinterpreting it. I wrote a stupid amount of papers for college over the years; I'm just using the knowledge and skills I gained from that to hopefully help you understand why it's getting the reaction it is. If you dont actually care why, that's fine. I'll shut up. I tend to…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 03:29 PM
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I partially disagree with you here. It's not that they don't care about the person, most people are just tired of trying to get the person who is complaining about having their sexual desires unfulfilled to recognize that there is usually an underlying, unidentifed issue that's causing their sexual frustration. I'm sure their are some people who truly don't give a rat's ass about the person (and in the case where it's an anonymous stranger, I can't really blame them; everyone has to decide what …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 03:19 PM
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I don't think he's wrong - he's just having trouble properly expressing himself. Sure, he used basic english and words, but that isn't the sole criteria for successful communication. Honestly his poor analogy is what's causing the majority of the discussion taking place here. Your delivery of any topic you are trying to argue/establish is always going to factor in on how your audience is going to judge the validity of your stance, and your competence. A poor delivery will make people easily dism…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 02:42 PM
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If everyone else is discussing the 'wrong' topic, then it might actually be you who has a communication problem. Seriously - you both are using some really odd comparisons and examples, and are both being hyperbolic. The original post could've been articulated better. It came off as more of a rage post rather than an actual discussion post.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 02:13 PM
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kill each other over women even when there's no "need" at all. Something that can cause that kind of behavior in otherwise rational actors cannot be classified as a mere want. People will kill each other over drugs. People kill each other over land. People kill each other over ideals. Something doesn't default to a life-essential need just because it causes that extreme of behavior. I'm fine with equating sex to an emotional need, but it's ridiculous to compare it to the need for food, water, or…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 10:39 AM
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Would you be okay if from now on you never had sex or where unable to masturbate? What if we did that to an animal? I mean, don't we do that with most cats and dogs when we get them spayed/neutered? There's obviously some risks involved, since you're removing a friggin organ; but the most common negative repercussions are obesity and noticeable lethargy, and these tend to only manifest when the procedure is done when the animal is an adult. Older animals have a harder time adjusting to the hormo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 09:55 AM
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Vast majority of dates are coffee (which isn’t a big deal), or ‘drinks’ (ie likely appies and entre on top). Ugh, I've always hated how these are considered the standard 'date'. They are so boring. 9 times out of 10, I reject the guy who asks me out on these types of dates (including dinner). There's countless free activities. I've always enjoyed hiking or walking at the park, but I understand that's not necessarily the norm. There's a free monthly art walk in my town though, I've always enjoyed…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 05:38 AM
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1110 in 10 years is 111 per year, and 333 in 3 years. Uh. Yes that's what I was trying to convey. Apparently we both suck at typing out math (no offense - ha! Just poking some fun at myself...) Trying to explain math over text is just arduous. I guess I should've said: I read what you said as, "if you obtained 333 new partners in the last 3 years, then in 10 years you will have accumulated 3333 new partners." In this case, they will actually only accumulate 1110 new partners in 10 years. Instead…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 08:58 PM
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Ah. You know what, never mind. I read it incorrectly. 3 digits in 3 years means 333 to 3333 in 10 years. I read this as 333 in 3 years means 3333 in 10 years. That would actually be 1110 in 10 years. Of course, to be fair, you had originally typed 3 years means 333 to 3330 in 10 years. which is why I read it the way I did in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 08:34 PM
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Dude, in an earlier comment, you said you weren't even 18. You're putting yourself into these echo chambers without even giving yourself a chance to "play the game". You're just setting yourself up for defeat/failure. You're most likely not even out of high school if you're in the US. The dating dynamic in high school is completely different from the 'real world'. You've barely even started your life - you just completed the tutorial! How most women are attracted solely based on looks. Our attra…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 08:24 PM
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The people who think 6+ is high really crack me up. This sub really opened my eyes to how much of a 'slut' I am 😂 most of these guys would treat me like some sort of leper irl with my past, I'd imagine.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 06:22 PM
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How did you get into that line of work? Did you see both men and women? (I snooped on your profile and saw you were bi (me too, go team bi! Lmfao), I had a feeling you would have to be, to be a male escort; on that thought though, did you ever run into any straight male escorts?) Did most of your engagements involve a date AND sex (I thought it was more common to have it only consist of sex)? Again, sorry for the intrusive questions. I was a massage therapist for 7 years, and it made me more int…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 06:18 PM
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Oh no, I get that, I was more referring to PPD wanting to put a label on every interaction in general. Honestly I'm sure most guys on here would deny what I just described as even possible, since, ya know, you can't have friends of the opposite sex apparently. I'm not really concerned what the actual label would be, I was just finding it amusing on how some of the things said on here are absurd. This sub definitely gets me thinking in odd ways. Haha
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 06:04 PM
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That's... not how math works.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 05:48 PM
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That's what I was just thinking. In what world do women not talk about their hookups? When I was in my party phase, it was pretty common in our group to even "report" on certain guys to women you barely even know, to either warn them or recommend the guy. Haha! I mean heck, one of the popular bars here has a wall in the women's bathroom where there's a list of guy's names to avoid carved into it/sharpied on, along with other useful info.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 05:41 PM
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This is true. Honestly all I can think about right is the guys I've fucked only once but we've been friends for years. Would that be considered a ons? I hadn't thought too hard about it till now, but now I'm like "what would PPD consider those?" I've always just called them a hook up, but there doesn't really seem to be a label specifically for that experience. Hahaha, honestly it's kind of a silly thing to wonder, but I tend to wonder a lot of silly things when I browse this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 05:32 PM
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I can think of maybe one or two guys I've slept with that I didn't initially consider it a ons because I wasn't sure if I'd see them again (because life's crazy), but it's not like I indefinitely consider them not a ons. Thats the only context I could come up with that would fit what he's saying. But then again, I do know some people who are just obvious to what's going on in their life, and have almost no self-awareness. That's a pretty small percentage though, and most of them I met while I wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 05:15 PM
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Hey, from what I've gathered from what you've posted within the last day, you're a guy, right? What's it like being a male escort? I hear from female escorts all the time, really curious to hear from a guy what it's like, and if it differs from a female escort's experience. Sorry, I hope I'm not being rude, but my curiosity is piqued and I just had to ask!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 04:57 PM
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I'm not trying to claim what you're saying is wrong or bullshit, I hope it didn't come off that way. I'm just genuinely curious if you've heard women actually say or seen them believe this. It just astounds me how people could be so oblivious to what they're doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 04:29 PM
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What? Do other women actually say and think this? That's crazy. I've never had an issue admitting when a ons was a ons or sloppy hookup.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 04:07 PM
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I think the issue usually in these situations were sex declines is lack of communication, not necessarily that the guy got duped into being a betabux, or the "safe option". Otherwise, I mostly agree with you. It could fall on either the guy or girl as well, as far as who is failing in communicating. I personally don't think one gender does a worse job of communicating, that's just a universal problem. I always try to express why I'm not being sexually intimate, because I understand how detriment…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 03:04 PM
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This is hands down the best comment on this post. Hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 02:41 PM
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Sadly, that's just an issue with any text-based communication. Most online comments can be too easily construed as cold, rude, or hostile. It's hard to convey your true emotional intent without the subtleties that are present in communicating face to face. I feel like most people automatically read everything here in a negative tone as well, since it is a debate sub. I like to try to remind everyone here that we are all still humans, and not just words on a sub, when I can. Honestly, just trying…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 12:50 PM
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"Safe" and "desirable" aren't mutually exclusive. But to answer the question, I would be thoroughly amused that someone could think I was the "safe" option, because I am, most certainly, not a safe option. My life has been quite the hazardous train wreck, and my standard of living, as well as my mental state, are just volatile. I don't think I'd ever consider it an insult, though, assuming they actually care about me. I can understand feeling humiliated or insulted if you found out you were some…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 11:40 AM
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Oh my god, uughh! Yeah, I'm with you right there, your reply struck a nerve for me. Haha I got in a debate with a hard-core no-fap enthusiast a week or two ago on here. Some of the information claimed in anti-porn articles is blatantly false, or they take decades old studies that were done poorly, and try to claim their findings were true. I'm a very data-driven person, I love reading published academic research, studies, and experiments. Unless it's something you naturally enjoy, it can be hard…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 01:28 AM
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I 100% agree with you. The way he talks about his child is disgusting. His attitude comes off as repulsive, it's no wonder he's having trouble with women, to me. I only replied with what I did because I was hoping it would help clarify what the women (and even some men) were trying to express. He isn't causing himself to be viewed as low value simply because he has a child, or even because he doesn't want a child in his life; he's causing himself to be seen as low value by the way he is handling…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 12:39 AM
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Men don’t read romance novels specifically because they are NOT porn. By saying that, you're equating what is sexually appealing in porn is, by default, a man's definition. Women do read raunchy romantic novels for the same reason men watch porn, because that's what they find sexually appealing. To ignore that many of the men are portrayed as a potential provider, in works created specifically to appeal towards a woman's sexual preference, is willfully ignorant.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 12:02 AM
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I understand that! It can definitely make it easier. Heck, I mean I feel like that's part of why this sub even exists. It is just also important to be able to tell if someone's claim is based in reality or not. Meaning, is this actually a majority held opinion? Is what they are saying true? Are their statistics on it? Or is it just a popular myth that often gets touted? This is why the person mentioned finding sources, so that you could, indeed, see, that what they are claiming holds true. If yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 11:37 PM
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To an extent - but I don't have the time to dig out all the papers, quote the relevent parts and lay them all put in a comment. That would take about half an hour. Why do we need to do that? Let's just talk like people. I'm just going to chime in here. It's always fun to have a lively discussion and to talk to people; but when you choose to seek outside sources and find supplemental reading on the topic you are discussing, it exponentially increases your knowledge. I always recommend to not let …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 11:19 PM
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What if he just doesn’t want this kid and wants a new life? Personally, I think even this is fine, as long as they do it the correct way. My boyfriend has two children because mistakes. He made sure they were adopted into families that would be able to take care of them since he (and the mom) wouldn't be able to give the child a decent life. He's actually even mentioned that he wishes he could be more involved in their life. Honestly, I think that's a big reason that I didn't have a hard time ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 09:47 PM
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That's a good point. I believe a decent amount of people genuinely can't easily distinguish between infatuation, lust, and love. I assume it's either because they lack enough experience, or they've spent little time engaging in introspection.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 08:43 AM
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Women don't want only naturals. That's some weird TRP trope I feel like. There's nothing wrong with someone who had trouble having success with/attracting women seeking advice or knowledge to improve themselves or their success (Admittedly, that may just be my personal view, I have seen some women on here have a contrasting view). I don't even have a problem with some, if not most, of the information on the RP side bar. I think the real issue is when men turn to TRP or PUA tactics, they can star…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 04:06 AM
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Every time this sort of question comes up here I always have to snort derisively. OH I GUESS I'M JUST NOT ALLOWED TO HAVE FRIENDS BECAUSE I'M BI. I mean come on guys. Not everything is about fucking sex. My best friend is EXTREMELY attractive to me. I would literally never try to have sex with her. That's not our relationship dynamic. Plus, although we are great friends, we would definitely never work out in a dating relationship dynamic (not to mention she's straight hahaha).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 12:56 AM
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laughs in bi
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 12:50 AM
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The only thing I could describe as a "coke hangover" for myself is if it was cut with too much nasty shit. My town's coke quality has been going down drastically for years. Mainly its stuffy nose (like your whole head feels swollen) sometimes leading to sinus infections, though sometimes almost unbearable headaches happen too. I've just started to completely avoid it. Not even worth it imo
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 11:55 PM
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I give most guys on here too much credit. I think a conversation on here about what power, privilege, and influence means to a guy, and what they believe it means to a girl would be an interesting talking point on a post this ridiculous. Too bad none of them want to discuss anything of the sort. I'm also just stunned how they can completely ignore all factors that have led us to late stage capitalism, and just blame women entering the workforce. That's insane. A complex problem like that is neve…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 10:31 PM
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Why did you date him/get into a relationship with him if you werent attracted?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 09:21 AM
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I'm pretty positive none of my LTR boyfriends ever actually "hit the gym" (as in they attended regularly), and I've certainly never demanded it. One in high school was going into the military (westpoint), so he was fit since it had to do with what he wanted to do with his life. Another was a brick mason, so he was relatively muscular, but was only so because of his job. I don't think it ever occurred to him that he needed to go to the gym or work out to be attractive, he just was fit because his…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 08:35 AM
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Jeeze, okay then. I don't think I'd ever consider power over children the same as power of slaves. To each their own then.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 08:27 AM
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A couple of things I wanted to ask - why are you so focused on the word power in this context, when the op mentions privilege and influence as well? Do you not think those two things played into the "removal of barriers" for women? Jumping off of that, why would you think allowing women into the work force actually removed our guidance? Is their more to the women's movement you think caused us to remove our guidance, thus causing women to be unhappy? (Wording this in a particular way to still tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 07:56 AM
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But power? Power is just right in front of everyone The power of free will? Sure. But power is such an abstract concept, and it depends on what context you are putting it in on what it could actually mean. Would you say the power over your children is the same you would have over, say, a slave? What about your employees? What about the power a teacher has over their students? The power one has over themselves? I'll admit where I can see where you would say power in most of these examples is to h…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 07:41 AM
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You're just talking nonsense now and refusing to actually acknowledge the majority of my reply; I'm assuming you're not actually interested in a serious conversation (which I'm honestly a little bummed about, I wanted to ask you about some other things you've said on this post; ah well). I hope you and your wife have a good night.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 07:27 AM
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Hahaha, well okay, that's fair. But personally, I've found some bald (and even balding) men very attractive (but of course we aren't supposed to discuss anecdotes on here, right, because only averages and the majority matter /s).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 07:05 AM
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? Huh? Waaaht? Hello? What is power? They, obey. Guidance is perhaps the kindest use of power. Perhaps our difference is I think power is good, and you think it's bad. Hey just disobey! Of course I don't think power is bad. What a silly thing to say. I'm not putting any moralistic descriptors on the word power. In fact nothing I talked about had to do with the definition of power. Having power doesn't just mean people obey you. That's restricting the definition of what power is too narrowly. Gui…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 07:02 AM
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Power means you obey. Tf does that even mean? You've been trying to sound like you're overly smart and thoughtful throughout this entire exchange without actually even understanding what you're trying to talk about. Guidance isn't power. Someone can guide me to do something or not do something ("this career path/lifestyle would be best for you/will probably end up detrimental for you), but ultimately I, myself, have the power to choose what I do (in the example I gave, I can choose career I want…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 06:22 AM
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You've refused to answer most people who have commented on your post, you've made no or weak arguments, and when you do reply, you focus on one singular point that you can try to spin in the most negative way you could manage, and it adds nothing to the conversation. You're either trolling or you're throwing a woe is me party. Of course they exist. That's why I said you could tell the difference between one who has a disorder and one who doesn't. It's also why I mentioned getting your thyroid ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 03:35 AM
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So you're a troll - got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 03:31 AM
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This is such a stupid question/comeback. You can increase your glutes and pectoral size through exercise. Guess what - that's gonna give you a bigger butt and boobs. I've literally gone up a full cup size from my average size before, by exercising regularly. I've also gone down a full cup size from my average size when I was extremly depressed, which led me to being very sedentary and barely eating. It is not as hard as overweight people in America love to lament to lose weight and keep it off. …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 03:28 AM
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Although they can mean the same thing, simple can refer more to being able to comprehend a task or concept, while easy would refer to the ability to actually do the task. I think it would be more accurate to say, "simple and easy don't always mean the same thing."
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 03:02 AM
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I honestly didn't learn too much from my fellow female friends. Sure, they helped a little, but a lot of it is trial and error. What skin products work best for your skin (and in the case of females, what make up colors work best with your skin tone), what clothes style work best with your body type, and what hair styles and hair products work best with your hair type/body type. Sure, some information on the internet can be wrong or questionable, but I take the same approach as I did when doing …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 02:10 AM
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That was beautifully written. Thank you for taking the time to explain it all. I hate how a lot of things discussed on this sub get too dumbed down, and most don't want to take the time to look at all the complexities and nuances taking place in the topic they're discussing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 12:35 AM
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In bird culture, this is considered a "dick move".
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 11:57 PM
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Female dating strategy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 07:21 AM
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Whoopsies. No biggie. I assumed you meant me since you, ya know, were replying to my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 12:16 AM
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I'd love to receive a message from you when this all ends where you started with thoughts about us and where you ended. Very curious. Can do. Lucky for you, I love to overly talk on ppd topics. Its my guilty pleasure. Hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 12:10 AM
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Fair enough. I just wanted to give a trigger warning in case you weren't mentally prepared for it (mainly because there was a time period afterwards for me where I wasn't able to handle such topics, so I try to look out for other people who may be in that position). Honestly though, I can't believe someone would say that rape was the standard of living and not traumatic until recently. That's some crazy rationalization being done.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 11:11 PM
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I swear I'm not stocking you - just lurking in this thread reading all the comments. Hahaha. Anyway, rape is actually discussed here pretty frequently here. In general yes I would agree irl its not usually up for debate, but this sub does love to challenge societal norms. I'm just saying this to give you a heads up/warning - you will see it often discussed here. I've had personal experience of it too so some of these comments can be pretty shocking for me, I feel you. Just be prepared to see it …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 10:57 PM
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It's a great way to learn! I'm right there with you! I just feel like you will get the most out of debate subs if you do supplemental reading along with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 10:14 PM
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If you don't know what SMP means, you need to stop for a minute and just read over the PPD list of terms at the very least to have a better understanding of this sub. I'm not trying to be rude, and I'm really sorry if its coming off that way, but you'll get a lot more out of this sub if you familiarize yourself with at least the lingo. Preferably, you should actually go read the actual Red Pill ideals and beliefs. I spent quite a bit of time doing that when I stumbled across this sub and it save…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 10:10 PM
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I had to go back and reread it a few times, I think you may have been a victim of autocorrect. The word "mom" threw me off, plus personally I've never thought of NLOG as feminine, and I took part of what you said as women try to prove their feminine by saying they're NLOG. Personally, I've been super tomboyish since I hit puberty, but I've never touted that I was NLOG. I've never had a shortage of male attention. Women who use it to try to be something they are not aren't going to be very succes…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 09:28 PM
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Please don't apologize, I was just confused. I thought maybe english wasn't your first language (which is pretty normal on here, and also not a bad thing/big deal). I understood what point you were trying to get across, I just didn't quite understand what you were trying to say about your background.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 08:04 PM
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Good to know! I got on birth control when I was 16 and have rarely been off it. I am now currently, so my boyfriend and I have discussed buying them, but we are also poor and fuck way too much for that. Haha!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 06:04 PM
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None. Or at least none that I recall. I realized at a pretty young age that they had a toxic relationship, so I may have disregarded any advice given when I was a teen. My parents definitely would be defined as strict, but I wouldn't necessarily say they were guiding. Again, I may have just disregarded any attempts at guiding though. I've always disagreed with most of my parents views, and have always viewed them as small minded. The only advice I remember my dad giving me was that lambskin cond…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 05:56 PM
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Is it just me or is there a lot of typos in this post? I'm honestly having trouble understanding what they were trying to convey in the first half of the post...
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 02:14 PM
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It's not even trying too hard, it becomes a problem when they tie in how well they please you with their ego/self esteem. With my last boyfriend, whenever we would finished, he would always ask how many times I orgasmed, and would get upset if I said less than twice. It got to the point that I would just say "at least 3 times" even if I didn't orgasm at all just to not deal with him sulking. My current boyfriend always asks "did you enjoy yourself?" When we're done, which is much more preferable…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 02:24 AM
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Yes, but I'm a weirdo. Haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 11:35 AM
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That's cool, man, but really, can you link any studies backing your claims? That's it that I'm asking for at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 10:08 PM
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Why do you care so much people use porn? I'm hardly being hysterical. I'm asking for proof. Is that so unrealistic in a debate sub? You're the one who made the claim. If people don't masturbate, its fine with me. I'm not going to shame them for it. I didn't masturbate for over 2 years. I'm not about to go online and tell men they need to stop watching porn though. Why is it so bad to you that I want to challenge my views? I enjoy reading research and I enjoy looking into views and data that diff…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 10:01 PM
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So you just call everything I said BS and then you go and downvote me, after already being called out on this thread for downvoting? Why are you so salty, dude? Honestly if you'll reply to just one thing, I would really love to see some studies that sexual intercourse orgasms are different from masturbation orgasms. Its why I want back to even click on this comment. I've spent hours trying to find anything that might even allude to that with no avail. I have no idea where you're getting that fro…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 09:21 PM
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Good talk. Great points. You definitely have a handle on laying out logical arguments and displaying established evidence. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 08:20 PM
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I am female, so technically flicking and not wanking. Ha! Physiologically men and females are completely different including the nervous system. Dude, it was a joke, lighten up a little. Ever heard of the phrase "flicking the bean"? As someone who's studied anatomy and physiology for part of their career, I can tell you we are built pretty dang similar. The same organs and tissues throughout the body are almost identical except for our genitals. There are a few distinct differences, but men and …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 07:26 PM
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I am female, so technically flicking and not wanking. Ha! Reguardless, denying myself masturbation would be detrimental more than anything. Orgasms produce several hormones and neurochemicals at a higher rate than normal, such as dopamine, vasopressin (reduces the sensation of pain), serotonin, and oxitocin. If someone is clincally depressed, orgasming can actually help kickstart their brain chemistry and help them reduce anxiety as well as become more motivated and energized for the day. (This …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 03:27 AM
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Personally I'm just blunt and ask them. Not rudely, but opening a dialog on how you show your affection, and inquiring on how your partner thinks they show affection is a bad idea. It can be difficult to navigate through conversations like that without soundinf accusing though. Personally, I need a partner to show intimacy, so I wouldn't put up with that behavior long, even if it's just who they are. That's fine if that's the case, but you gotta recognize if you're incompatible in a relationship…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 01:35 AM
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avoiding pornography and masturbating is Free of Charge. Interestingly enough, pornography and masturbating is also free of charge. So um... your point is kind of moot.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 09:49 PM
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I'll admit, the first time reading it, it sounded a little condescending to me, but honestly going back and reading it a second time I realized I was just projecting a tone onto it. I've never heard of any of my female friends being addicted to porn, but we all run in different circles. Their's nothing wrong with forming a hypothesis over your observations .
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 08:40 PM
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Downvoting is majorly frowned upon in this sub. Please don't be salty if you disagree with someone or they have ridiculous opinions. Debate subs are a great place express differing opinions in a productive manner. If we all started downvoting everything we disagree with, everyone would have negative karma! That's no fun for anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 07:10 PM
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I have a big "if I say no, that's final" standpoint for sex, but part of that is past trauma, and part is current medical issues. Even with that though, I'd say me and my partner turn down sex about the same amount. If he wants, I'll get undressed and let him masturbate to me too if I'm not in the mood. We're both pretty open about our masturbation habits to eachother, so I think that lets us have a pretty lax view on "who decides" to have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/19 11:08 PM
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https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Five_Love_Languages I'm pretty sure they was referring to this. Its an interesting model. It can help you understand how your partner might express their love, as well as why you might've not recognized it if you use a different love language.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/19 11:10 PM
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It sounds like you're just trying to find validation to leave in a relationship you already decided is over. Just leave. You will be happier. Staying with someone who is causing you to feel resentment does no one good.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 07:30 PM
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Women can hate you and you still have sex with them. It doesn't mean you'll be very successful in relationships. I thought that was even part trp's whole trope? "Women love mysogyny". If you felt like I was shaming you, I'm sorry. You do sound very bitter though.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 03:28 PM
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I never called you an incel....? I also don't reply sarcastically with comics. I really don't even know why you felt the need to link that, other than being bitter.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 01:52 PM
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I know most women want a man to be assertive. I'm not really sure what you're getting at. My point was women don't want all that other nonsense you put. Its weird. Thats it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 08:42 AM
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Except NAWALT. That was my point. But you seem pretty convinced that women have these bizarre requirements. If you want to chase women who want those, that's you're deal, I'll leave you alone. Have a good night!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 08:26 AM
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God y'all are dating some toxic women. That's it that I got to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 08:19 AM
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I am aware. I am talking about relationship wise. All of what you listed ,excluding assertiveness, would be fucking awful, for me, in a relationship. It sounds like they wouldn't even be able to act like who they really are. Like, "Dont have any unresolved problems of your own". That sounds like an awful relationship. I want my partner to feel comfortable coming to me with their problems! Most of what you listed sounds like hiding your actual thoughts, which is just going to turn into a toxic re…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 08:14 AM
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Weird. That's fair. Personally besides be assertive, none of those are traits that I would consider to be a "good man". I expect myself to be assertive as well though, I wouldn't consider it something I want only men to be. Though I'll admit I'm not typical, so I may be biased. I just find it hard to believe the average woman requires those.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 08:03 AM
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What "male virtues" do you think women expect of men that they don't expect of themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 07:44 AM
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And no, women enter relationships out of pragmatic reasons much more than men. Hahaha, I mean, I'd rather enter into a relationship because of pragmatic reasons rather than impractical, unrealistic, or idealistic reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 05:47 AM
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I need to know what they wanted to ask!! Haha
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 05:41 AM
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I'm pretty sure I accepted that "the one" was a silly fictional trope when i was like 19 and accepted that every relationship may end. It sounds like you think you can only romantically love one person throughout your lifetime? That seems silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 05:35 AM
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I'm confused by your comment. Are you saying the expectations man fulfill to be considered a "good man" are defined by females? That other men would see them as "a good man" without these expectations?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 05:09 AM
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Thanks, friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 04:48 AM
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Which thread? Would you mind linking?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 04:43 AM
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I hoped that helped give a little clarity. Sorry the comment didn't have much structure, was just kind of typing as I was thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 03:25 AM
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I can try, I've been thinking about this since I read your post. (Though this may seem a little ranty, so bare with me) I'm the type of person that irl people just tend to word vomit to me, so I often wonder if these men actually try to talk to other women like this, or if I'm just one of the few that see this side. One guy I met recently was talking about his baby momma (which is fine), which led to him talking about how most of his friends are girls since guys can't stand him (this one is usua…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 03:16 AM
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Is it a case where most attractive guys are fuckboys so girls learn to expect it? This seems to be the case in my social circle. When you see most hot guys willingly be deceitful to sleep with a girl, then ghost her, you start to believe that's the norm. I don't assume every attractive guy is a fuckboy/player, but if they are conventionally attractive or I find them attractive, I automatically become more guarded. If you start saying things that most fuckboys/players say, I become even more guar…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 02:54 AM
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I'm really not. Plus that may have been true when streaming first started to be a thing, but gamers don't put up with that shit now. We usually want actual game content in our live streams or gamer channels.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 01:44 AM
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Dude you salty. Sorry women don't like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 01:41 AM
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Giving hobbies a gender label is stupid, and will continue to make most girls (and boys avoid "girl hobbies") avoid them into adulthood.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 01:40 AM
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I've literally only have had relationships with effeminate men. The one "masculine" man I dated had some serious emotional isssues that I wouldn't want to feel with again. Y'all are lying to yourselves that women only want masculine men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 01:37 AM
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It's masculine, is active and so gives the workers fitness, it's full of dudes so they learn to take and give shit, and women love all of those things. Definitely is masculine and keeps you fit! I was asking because I dated a construction worker for 3 years. He brought home a lot of emotional baggage from it since it was he worked with only aggressive males and I had to deal with it. He also had way more of an issue with communicating than I realized. I try to check in with my current partner pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 09:28 PM
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Good for you! Seriously, that's a great mindset! We are all human on here, so I understand. It can get frustrating when you feel like you're repeating yourself 50,000 different ways and still they refuse to listen to you. Personally, I try to word most of my comments as neutral and analytical as possible, and try to add in compliments if I can. It helps me keep my cool and keep emotions out of it as much as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 08:49 PM
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Thank you, that's actually helpful! I don't get the obsession with linking news articles here. I'm all for talking about empirical facts on here. Just don't make me dig for a viable source if you're making a claim...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 08:38 PM
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Its all good dude. It happens. It just seems everyone has been so overly hostile the last few days on here. I agreed with a girl earlier in this post. She got super argumentative and then assumed I was a male. I'm female... sheesh.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 08:35 PM
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Woah man. Don't shoot the messenger. I didn't say I believed it. Just interpreted.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 08:20 PM
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Ugh I hate when anyone uses the daily mail as a source for their claim. The daily mail list sources so poorly if at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 08:17 PM
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None. I sucked. Hahahaha. I earned some medals from science bowl and stuff like that. Couldnt tell you how many. I was good at it, but I wasn't competitive...I was just excited to have an excuse to be out of classes. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 07:47 PM
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I am a woman. Wut? What I typed required no intellectual thought. Honestly I don't know why you're feeling the need to make such snide remarks. Kill 'em with kindness.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 07:30 PM
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That is just so crazy. My programming class last spring was like at least 75% women. I wonder why women aren't wanting to talk about it... What makes you think more successful with women as a construction worker?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 07:27 PM
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That's actually pretty interesting. I really need to check out the PBS streaming app.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 07:22 PM
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I'm not wanting to respond because you are not the only person I am talking to on here, and I work soon. I'm sorry. I'm going to ration my mental energy, if you will. I'm not interested in debating with someone who places so much blame on one gender. Assigning blame is generally unhelpful. Looking for causes is fine, or even better is looking for solutions. You very adequately answered the OP. I really respect your answers. You did a fantastic job. Honestly though, this is getting wildly off top…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 07:18 PM
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As I get older, my level of concern over my looks have definitely consistantly decreased. Hahaha. Its just so high effort....
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 07:07 PM
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I take our reproductive rights very seriously. I've been paying attention to whats going on. I still firmly believe its just this cycle of politicans. The last 4 years have been shit. I encourage everyone to go out and vote. The film industry is an incredibly messed up area compared to the rest of society. I'm more concerned with the shocking amount of child sexual abuse going on in it than gender equality. Sorry. Sexual abuse especially to children is going to be high priority to me compared to…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 07:05 PM
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That's a good outlook. I respect that. I feel like both men and women on here tend to be simultaneously too critical of the other and too self pitying of themselves. I even catch myself doing it sometimes. Though I can understand some come here just to blow off needed steam, which is fine if its not constant.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 06:47 PM
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Now that I feel like is untrue. We don't really have a strong patriachy in America. Its closer to egalitarianism than most women would like to admit. Sure, there is still some gender issues that are dominantly female, but we've improved leaps and bounds over the past 100 years. Its just the majority of directors (or casting crew, heck I don't know, sorry I'm not in the film industry) are male, so they care about a sexually pleasing female role. Or it could even be that average looking women aren…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 06:38 PM
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God, that would honestly be really shitty, if humanity as whole bred ourselves into these such inscure people in modern times. Hahaha. I'm not trying to discredit you or anything, just like... man that theory is hilariously ironic. We suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 06:29 PM
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I'd concider consumerism as a probable cause more than anything. Some women feel like beauty products are shoved in their face from a goung age. I might even consider the generation that raised us. My mom constantly berates me for not wearing makeup. Though I realize thats anecdotal.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 06:22 PM
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I'll admit I'll be disinterested or even peeved to have a conversation about it if the guy is being offputting. But generally I'll be pretty excited to talk about it with anyone if its something we both have a common interest in. Heck, I'll even let them talk about it if its not something I'm interested in if they're genuinely excited about it. Its heartwarming. I honestly can't believe most other women would act that way. I'm truly sorry if that's the case. I literally cannot wrap my head aroun…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 06:13 PM
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I was even noticing it in straight to dvd/stream services b flick or lower horror movies around halloween when this topic had come up here then. Although I view the issue differently, since I'm not insecure about my looks personally. To me its more of an issue with younger men subconsciously (or consciously) feeling entitled to hotter women because its so prominent in our media. Either way, it's quite annoying to me (and even discouraging/demoralizing to others).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 06:00 PM
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I think you misunderstood. They're saying women are generally insecure about it, with or without sex. Men are generally insecure about it if their looks are keeping them from getting laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 05:44 PM
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That's very mature. I really admire your levelheadedness over the situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 05:35 PM
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As a woman, I genuinely couldn't tell you. I haven't worn make up in over a year, and it's never been a high priority thing for me. I will never understand other women who can spend on average an hour or more getting ready every day, and then complain about never having time or complain about unrealistic standards. It takes me at the most 15 minutes to get out the door if I start from fully not ready but awake.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 05:27 PM
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Like, no exception, it doesn't matter how long you've been together? Or just in the initial phase? Genuinely curious. I can't imagine doing that. I have no qualms in helping out my partner if they need it. Everyone hits hard times.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 05:20 PM
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Oh man. You are lucky. That shit hurts. I would literally not wish it on my worst enemy. Getting ghosted in an LTR, I mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 04:45 PM
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I don't think I've ever had a guy leave me for someone else, so my opinion may be biased. I'm only going to be upset if the breakup is done in a toxic or belittling manner. Ive had breakups that were mutual and although they suck, sure, I don't resent the guy, and we usually stay on friendly terms. I've also had breakups where it was just deliberately spiteful and mean. Those are markedly more miserable. I've made it a point to be clear in my last few relationships that if there is someone, to n…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 04:27 PM
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You don't have to be snarky and bitter just because someone is being dumb and an ass. If you don't think it's acceptable content, report it and move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 03:52 PM
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If a reply genuinely irritates me, I now think "what will make me sound the most like I sincerely don't understand that they just insulted me, as well as thankful?" It tends to shift my mind back into a positive state too. Win-win situation!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 03:37 PM
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Of course, how dare those rascally women have sex! There's totally not an entire community thats been teaching men since the 1970s how to manipulate and seduce women for a ONS. Oh wait...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 03:31 PM
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Dear lord. Quit being so salty about this. They already said content will be allowed on Monday, they are just allowing themselves time to revise rules accordingly. Have you seen how busy they've been this weekend even without said content? I'm honestly impressed with the mods. They run themselves ragged.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 03:22 PM
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If you subscribed recently, I'd give it a few more weeks. Its been pretty whiny here since FDS has become more popular. But that should be clearing out soon, and the mods already announced they are revising the sub rules Monday pertaining to FDS. It really does feel like some people are coming here just to see if they can get a rise out of the opposing view. I've recently just started being as sickeningly sweet as I can be to them when I feel like they truly don't want a discussion. They usually…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 02:51 PM
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Hahaha! I'm sorry. My girl waits for me to wake up before she starts complaining for food. I am not sure why. I have a feeling she's tried to wake me up before over the years, but I wasn't having it, so she gave up. Ha!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 12:24 PM
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Mine sleep. The make good feet/hand warmers.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 11:14 AM
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I'm just baffled why you replied with only negative rhetoric. I honestly just think people forget at the end of the day that we're all humans living our own lives, and the majority here aren't as terrible as the other side likes to imply. The repetitive negativity is just tiring and adds nothing. These debates would generally go much farther if everyone tried to be a little more considerate. Okay I'll get off my soapbox now.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 10:26 AM
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Jeeze dude. Tone down your bitterness. I'm not trying to argue with you. Why do you feel the need to actively bash the women on here?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 09:27 AM
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Dude like I'm not really sure what you're trying to prove here, I even specified in this sub in my comment. I know there's hoes out there. I used to be one of them. They're out partying and hoeing, not reading reddit. Hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 09:09 AM
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I just told them they sucked and then left if it was casual (and bad). Ha! Guess I'm a bitch.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 08:14 AM
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Well good luck with that. I wish you all the success in your wingman venture.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 08:09 AM
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https://youtu.be/5-bz97yXH-Q
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 08:06 AM
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You do that then 🤷‍♀️ why even ask about women not wanting casual sex. Just go pay for your hookers. Don't worry about the rest.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 08:04 AM
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Not by casual sex, or even intimate sex. It took a lot of work on myself, and a lot of work (unfairly) from my previous boyfriend. Choosing not wanting to be bitter made me stronger. But I wouldn't have recovered as well as I've managed to without my support group. That just is not going to happen from casual sex from some dude that wants to get his dick wet for the night... poor guy would've probably had to deal with me bawling. Not what he signed up for.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 08:01 AM
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If you aren't horny right now then you seriously have no etiquette. I'm not sure if you're trying to just be funny or what, but your vulgar lack of empathy isn't really going to make any woman want to sleep with you casually.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 07:53 AM
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Ew. Dude. No. I've been raped (multiple times, by the same person. Drugs are bad, mmkay). That's not how this works. My boyfriend has to deal with me having flashbacks and straight up panick attacks if he just happens to touch my hips wrong and I'm already jumpy. It took 2 years to be able to have sex not on drugs for me. It took another 2 to actually begin enjoying it again and initiate with my boyfriend. That's just not even something to be taken so lightly like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 07:50 AM
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You aren't going to remove any inhibitions going about it the way you are. I'll give you a genuine, thought out response with even personal experience, but if I'm being truthful (and I'm not trying to be hurtful or hateful here) it honestly just seems like you're thirsty af, considering the time of night it is and they way you phrased your post, and just wanting to talk about sex right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 07:34 AM
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I was pretty thrown off on this as well. Its far more likely to be caused my sexual abuse or trauma. That alone would keep most women from having casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 07:29 AM
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I have about the same amount of sex as I had before we got together. Sure I go through spells with low libido, but he doesn't care. He hadn't gotten sex for a year when we got together. Lmao Honestly I'm bewildered why this keeps getting brought up. Do guys collectively think women will be more open to it if it keeps getting shoved figuratively in their face? Its honestly pretty off putting. If I was in a casual sex phase, it would honestly kill my desire for it. Are you genuinely curious or are…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 07:21 AM
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I doubt you would've ever gotten a chance to anyway. I mainly tried to stick with fwb. The ons usually involved drugs. Which I think trp adamantly speaks out against if I remember correctly. I still like sex. Its just much easier to get it from my boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 07:10 AM
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No one wants to be used. The women on this sub do not want casual sex. You aren't going to convince them otherwise. This topic literally pops up at least once a day here. I already did my casual sex thing. I'm over it. It's also just not all that great.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 07:02 AM
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Hahahaha for real though. They're soft and warm and don't complain!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 06:57 AM
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Oh jeeze. This sounds like your mind's already made up. Do we really need 2 posts about why women don't want casual sex in one day?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 06:36 AM
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I mean, to be fair, I usually only want penatration sex with no forplay for a few years now. I got sick of getting yeast infections. Most men's hands or mouths just aren't clean enough. I could make him go wash every time, but honestly its just not even appealing to me anymore. Everyone's different. Really the key is communication.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 05:41 AM
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I assumed it meant, unlike a contract, you can back out after you sign. You can be able to withdraw consent at any time. I'm honestly really grateful for this. I've gotten raped repeatedly from a previous partner. Yeah, I know, I made some shitty decisions. But my partner understands this, so if we're getting busy but I suddenly get triggered, he has no problem backing off.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 05:11 AM
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That video was pretty great. I don't even own an Instagram so I lol'd at "uploading a picture is the same for her as getting a date." Seriously, truly, thanks for the laugh. I needed it. I agree this is probably true for much younger girls. Its interesting for me at least to even see how shallow even someone who's only a few years younger than me. I ain't gonna judge though. I went through a crazy party phase, and telling her she's being shallow or niave won't do anything. They'll grow up when t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 04:37 AM
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I can't even imagine thinking of it as labor with my clients. Ha! I love most of them, and there's certainly no one I hate. Oh gosh. I don't think I would be really caring about the nuances of my wording either if I was in postgrad school. Thats going to keep you mentally exorcised enough. Haha! I don't really try to use big words, but I like to vary my diction. I've been double checking the meaning of words I haven't used in a while though, just because its a nice refresher. Commenting on this …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 04:22 AM
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Eh. I try not to comment unless I have the mental energy to write out what exactly what I'm trying to convey. I know I shouldn't expect the same. But I get tired of seeing the same people post the same hyperbole over and over. But with that said, I admit I shouldn't have been commenting. I'm pretty mentally drained, and allowed myself to get irritated over trivial a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 03:53 AM
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Oh I know he did. And I shouldn't have been so catty. I just get frustrated at these assumptions all women only talk to guys to get orbiters and only care about attention, and then can only list one redeeming quality? I am a gamer. That's probably why it irked me a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 03:33 AM
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I am a 28 year old woman and I've literally never gotten this comment. Like wut. Hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 02:33 AM
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Thats fair. I just won't let my infatuation get out of hand when I get a crush on a friend. Although I will say that I've been very lucky that I've had ample amounts of friends which has given me the experience to know how to handle my emotions that well... Edit: Sorry, just realized that could come off super passive aggressive. I was just kinda ponder-typing...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 02:24 AM
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That still doesn't make it NOT emotional labor. Also not sure why you're telling me? I didn't downvote you. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 02:12 AM
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I understand that. I've had it happen to me. But I've always just been very upfront about it. "Yo dawg. I'm catching some feels, are we doing this or what? Cause if not I'm just gonna take a break for a few weeks." I mean. Not exactly like that but I am a bit of a goofball... hahaha. I would hope a guy would do the same if he had a crush on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 02:11 AM
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Thanks!! 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 01:54 AM
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You can find out pretty quickly if they know nothing about it. Honestly I don't know why some you guys just aren't straight up like "I don't know much about -x- but I'd like to learn more!" But now that I'm really thinking about it, I was incorrect. Sorry. A long time ago, in a land far, far away I remember hanging out with a coworker that we really didn't have anything in common besides drinking (and working together, obviously). I was niave and didn't realize he did indeed just want to fuck me…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 01:51 AM
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Do you guys really just assume most girls don't have the same interests as guys? That's just some crazy experience to me, if that's really what y'all are observing. I've literally never spent time or hung out with a guy unless we had something in common. That would be so boring on my part, the attention wouldn't even be a factor because we wouldn't have anything substantial to talk about.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 01:41 AM
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I had a huge crush on a guy in high school. Turned out he was gay. Whoops. Haha. We've been good friends (I consider him one of my best friends) for about 12 years now. If you were friends with the person simply to try to pursue them romantically or sexually, you probably shouldn't have been friends in the first place...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 01:36 AM
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That's fair! Thanks for the reply. I was curious since I practiced licensed massage therapy for 7 years, as well as childcare with children on the spectrum. I guess I was a little baffled too, because obviously I don't want to use medical jargon with my massage clients, and DEFINITELY was a nono to call the kids retarded, disabled, or even special needs in front of certain parents. But I still knew the nuances of all my industry terms, and I try to be as technical and correct in my wording here …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 01:27 AM
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Wow. So only girls that are gamers can have male friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 01:08 AM
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But it’s only emotional work if it’s disturbing for you. Way to take that quote COMPLETELY out of context. Beck: Is it emotional labor to be the one at work who is expected to plan the after-work happy hours and social gatherings for the office Hochschild: That is mental work. Important mental work, and it can crowd out attention to other kinds of work. But it’s only emotional work if it’s disturbing for you. Beck: Is it emotional labor if you are the person in the friend group who people keep t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 01:01 AM
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You choose some weird hills to die on, girl 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 11:22 PM
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Turns out we're both wrong. And its not even new! Whoops. Definitions are weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 11:21 PM
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I mean if you want to sink to their level, that's your deal. I just find it more hilarious when I'm overly nice and they don't know how to reply. Getting worked up just fuels trp fire. Haha
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 11:19 PM
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I just realized I phrased my other comment poorly. Derp. I meant that there was such a large amount of complaining in the comments that wasn't contributing to anything that the mods decided to take a break this weekend. I don't think anyone's going and running to the mods...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 11:14 PM
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People were getting pretty dang salty here. I'm kind of glad they're removing fds content till Sunday. Seeing the same people screech about inequality every time I opened an OP wasn't very enjoyable.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 11:08 PM
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Why are you so angry? Jeeze. Calm down. Maybe you need a chill pill (get it? Instead of a red or blue pill? Hahahahaha!!! Okay I'll walk myself out now...) N count has been a part of trp for a long time. You literally are calling names left and right in your other comments. Learn to not take the word slut so personally. Take the high road with these guys. It's not hard... kill them with kindness.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 10:58 PM
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Actually, I have a feeling thats why they're removing everything FDS related for the weekend. Shit was getting way too negative. Everyone kind of needed a cooling off period while the mods try to figure out a fix. I doubt its going to get banned.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 10:39 PM
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Um this is a debate sub ABOUT The Red Pill (and Blue Pill). Why would we ban them?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 10:35 PM
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Really hope you don't think I'm trying to be rude or anything, but as a counselor, wouldn't you know the difference from emotional labour and emotional work...? Emotional work is what most moms are having to do at home. Emotional labour is a term coined by sociology for fufilling the social requirements of a job. Or is it just not accepted as that in your field? Honestly curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 10:29 PM
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it's not socially acceptable to tell people to be quiet Ugh. I feel that. Thankfully I've got mine under control for the most part, but I hate big family events like Thanksgiving and christmas because they are so LOUD. I've just had to start making myself go to a dark quiet room when I get overwhelmed from the noise and just sit for 20 minutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 10:09 PM
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What emotional labor is: Managing the emotions of other people and making them feel good about themselves and their current situation at the expense of your own well-being. I mean if you're going to be that pretentious about the definition, you could just look it up instead of getting it wrong. Sociologist Arlie Hochschild provides the first definition of emotional labor, which is displaying certain emotions to meet the requirements of a job. So if we really want to get technical, mostly everyon…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 10:02 PM
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I've not once seen it be used in the context of being emotional of caring about a friend Really, because that's how I typically define it... I just don't often complain about it. Housework is definitely not emotionally draining to me. Sometimes physically draining, or mentally draining if its a huge mess that requires organization. But I don't think I could ever say it emotionally drained me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 09:27 PM
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That's kind of a strange statement. Just because I decide, "oh you know what, I'm gonna call this a job now!" doesn't mean I'll get monetarily compensated for it. Who exactly is supposed to be paying me? Besides that, labour is only tied to a wage when it's confined to its economic definition. I'm hoping the majority of us aren't seriously affixing economics to relationships..
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 09:20 PM
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The word labour is historically tied to economics, and has been defined as "work exchanged for a salary or wage" in economics since the industrial revolution. Not that I don't agree with you. I find it slightly annoying that its so tied to the economic definition when the first listed dictionary definitions mention nothing about money or getting paid. But its just one of those silly english language nuances.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 09:11 PM
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That is fair. Except the methodology page doesn't validates any clame you have made. Its really not, if you actually would look at the reports and see what constitutes as rape or as sexual assault. They break it down quite beautifully. Not sure why you are hung up on 2008... is there something special about that year? I mean they have even more recent data... Still never sourced that, and is this a 2008 statistic again? Seems kind of a weird hang up if it is. If it isn't, why are you talking abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 08:38 AM
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Considering I have an SO, I think I'm doing okay... Most men I've dated or talked about their dating lives irl actually love the idea of a women not needing a man. It means they don't have to take care of her if they are dating, because she's an independent individual. I played the helpless dependent girl when I was younger. It sucked! Screw that, I want to be able to do and buy what I want, when I want with my own money. Being dependent on them also just leaves too big of a possibility of being…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 07:54 AM
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considering that would mean there are only about 500k prisoners in America... This report specifies its talking about all former state prisoners under active supervision. I read the report. Of course there aren't only 500,000 prisoners in the us. But you can't just pull a random number (90,000) out of nowhere. How did you get there? Where's your math? Or even another source. The source you linked simply does not have this number. The report says its estimated 49,000 former inmates have been sexu…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 07:43 AM
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Are we reading the same report? I'm seeing on page 8 (where you said to look) its estimated that 49,000 were sexually victimized. That's... a significantly smaller number than the 90,000 you're claiming. This is before even breaking down to different categories of what is considered rape. Not trying to say that rape only occurs with sexual intercourse, but you're cheapening the meaning of the word, which is a bit of a disservice to those that have been raped. Morever, the estimated 49,000 number…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 07:01 AM
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Oh definitely. The OP was just upset they couldn't blame women without being called sexist... Society does cause many problems. It does quite a few things for us too though, so its not like focusing anger on it is going to do me any good. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 06:23 AM
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Oh god. Don't even get me started on blame! I'm sure you saw the men's problems are man's fault, women's problems are societies post. What exactly were they trying to prove there...? Why are you feeling such a huge need to blame someone? You can figure out the cause to issues so you can start working on a solution without assigning blame... Needing to place blame just sounds like you believe some sort of justice or vengeance needs to be taken out on the party you deem at fault...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 05:51 AM
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I definitely agree. Honestly I'm getting tired of the "who's more oppressed" dispute here. Does it really matter? Wouldn't it be better to just lift eachother up instead of bickering over who has it worse? Ah well though. That's just wishful thinking on my part. I was excited to see some of the answers in this post from other women. Instead it feels like mainly men complaining that women are entitled or selfish.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 05:31 AM
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I feel like thats true of men too though; the groups you listed have roughly about the same inequalities for both men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 05:09 AM
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As an American woman, I've never really have felt oppressed. I've gotten frustrated when I was younger when I would apply for back of house or backroom (eg receiving or stocking) positions, but after the interview they always stuck me in some form of customer service or serving position since I'm small and female. Pizza hut wouldn't even let me be a driver because the manager wanted me in front. I've gotten stupid amounts of customer service experience now, but still a little salty I wasn't ever…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 04:33 AM
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There is so many ways that this could be bias. How was the poll conducted? How was the question phrased? What exactly does main breadwinner mean? If the women were self reporting, there's no way to be sure they were actually making more than their husbands. Not to mention out of the 49%, how many of these women are single and just living on their own? That doesn't mean they are earning more than men. The way the whole sentence is phrased, its unclear whether these women have children or not. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 01:20 AM
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Helllll nah, if I needed to take care of something, I'd get another pet. My man better be independent and able to take care of himself. I don't get into relationships to play mommy to someone, I'm looking for a partner that is capable of supporting me when I am down on my luck, and comfortable with me supporting them when they may end up down on their luck. We should both be helping each other out and building each other up. Nobody wants to continuously put effort into a relationship that they a…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 01:13 AM
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You should see the papers even if its one other person. Always get tested when entering into an LTR (I would say after every partner, but for some people that would be like a weekly ordeal...) I get tested every year. I trust my partner, but some STDs may not show symptoms or even test positive for years.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 11:42 PM
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I defended neither. I already stated I thought both are wrong. I'm not going to take the time to lay out the nuances of the whole discussion to explain to you why the op was being hypocritical in that particular instance, because I already have said that the conversation does nothing to fix the problem. Plus, I just really want to believe you have the critical thinking skills to figure it out on your own. You don't have to assign blame when finding out the cause to a situation. Assigning blame i…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 11:10 PM
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Same. Hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 09:42 PM
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This made me laugh. Thanks for the smile, today!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 08:55 PM
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I can read, but thank you for your concern. Your entire post is about blame. My point was that its trivial. Why are we concentrating on blame instead of solutions?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 07:01 PM
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I agree. Sadly that's not always the case though. Ah well, c'est la vie.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 06:59 PM
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Not really, you chose a subset of males and then tried to apply their argument to them. Of course you can make an argument look bad when you shift the target group. I honestly think both of you are in the wrong here. But that doesn't really matter. Why are you so concerned on who is to blame? Focusing on blame seems like you want some sort of justice taken. That really wouldn't do any good. Instead of asking "who do I blame for the increasing male homelessness issue?", why not ask "WHY are these…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 06:57 PM
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Absolutely not. Its just a fact that you can become bitter from being permanently disabled. You don't have to stay bitter or lash out at the ones closest to you though. My dad had a life changing accident happen, and he was a very bitter man because of it. I understand why he was such a grouch since I have to deal with debilitating pain, but I try not to take out my frustration from it on others, since I saw how negatively it effected our entire family when he would continuously lash out at us. …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 06:23 PM
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Funny you would accuse them of putting words in your mouth, after doing the exact same thing ("homeless men have power?")
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 06:13 PM
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I don't follow FDS, so I wouldn't know. From my understanding, that is a pretty young movement. I would expect unuseful information until it stabilizes. Honestly though, anyone who follows any of these strategies religiously are incapable of thinking for themselves. Take what you need and move on. You need to be able to adapt to whatever the situation you are personally in. FDS would be awful for me, because I have dominate traits that makes me want submissive men (what most trpers would conside…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 05:55 PM
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Thats fair. I've never looked at what the requirements they have listed. Although if you view trp as a tool box, and you only use what is needed from it in your own life to improve, I'm not sure why you wouldn't think the same is true of the FDS. Not to say that you have said this before, but I've seen it regularly said by trpers.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 05:14 PM
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No, there is a reason I phrased it the way I did. If a woman is only griefing you/giving you negativity, you aren't going to stay with her. Both men and women can become permanently disabled. Both are capable of becoming bitter from the experience. No one wants to be around someone who is a constant source of negativity. Its draining. I would expect a guy to leave me if I'm not giving him any emotional support, and if I'm refusing to correct my behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 05:04 PM
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You're assuming the woman is demanding expensive dates. Normally, this isn't the case. The original commenter even mentioned that she outearns her partners. What makes you think she would demand expensive dates that the man pays for if this is the case? Dates don't have to be expensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 04:51 PM
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It was poorly phrased, I feel. If you're already with him in a committed LTR and he becomes permanently disabled, most women aren't just going to leave him, at least simply from the fact he has no earning potential. Becoming permanently disabled can lead to many people becoming overly bitter, which will cause your SO to leave if they're only receiving negativity from you. Leeching would imply that you are still capable to earn, but choose not to. Personally, its not even whether or not you're ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 04:44 PM
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Except there is a need to regularly make this descriptive statement so that we can keep our mindsets in reality. "The modern man and woman are both inherently disposable". Now we can say "I want a man/woman" as a normative statement. However, remembering that men and women are inherently disposable, we cannot make the statement "I DESERVE a man/woman". How can you deserve something if you are inherently disposable/not needed? One can make themselves indisposable or valuable by bettering their sk…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 08:34 AM
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"The modern man is disposable" is a descriptive statement made with no positive or negative qualifiers. That is to say, they inherently have no value (in my opinion, the modern woman inherently has no value either). They're replaceable. One must make themselves valuable by bettering their skills or traits. For example, you can sex with any woman, but they are just as replaceable as the next unless they have qualities you deem valuable. Likewise, a woman can date or have sex with a man, but unles…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 08:18 AM
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Positive statement is an accept term in the social and economic sciences. Its a statement that is fact-based, with no value-judgements such as positive or negative. Of course after you establish your positive statement, a normative statement will help you know what needs to be done to problem solve. But if we just talk in normative statements, we lose sight as to what is reality. I'm not really seeing how their statement is contradictory on many levels though. Would you care to shed some light o…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 07:16 AM
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I thought about your second question a bit, even though I've never looked for a sub that is what would be considered more "blue shifted". I would think a good place to go talk about dating or sexual strategies not related to the red pill would be the relationship sub or possibly a feminist sub, since a lot of what is considered blue pilled here could be viewed as feminist. There is a blue pill sub, but personally I feel like it still steongly talks about the red pill more than just dating or sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 11:47 PM
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inHABednt. I looked at this and thought "what an odd questoon!" Made me smile and then I got busy trying to get done what I needed to for tbe day. Sorry it took a while to reply!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 11:41 PM
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Not necessarily. Its just if you're opposite of the red pill, you are considered blue pilled here. There are many very adamant blue pillers here. Not everyone agrees with the red pill. But the discussion here is whether or not the red pill is correct, and defending your position or downright opposing your opposite view. I'm honestly not sure if there is another debate sub similar that isn't centered on the red pill/ doesn't even consider the red pill. I've never looked, just because I love how h…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 05:35 PM
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I think I may be misunderstanding what you are asking, so would you mind clarifying before I answer? Are you asking if you oppose the red pill, then you are seen as bp? Or are you asking if you debate here, you automatically oppose anything that is bp?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 05:09 PM
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The only problem with this is that this particular debate forum is centralized around the red pill. If you're debating here, you're expected to understand the base premise that we have already agreed upon as the center of our debates. Nobody here is going to want stop and explain the basics when thats not what its supposed to be about. Not to say trying to explain the basics isn't a good thing to do. It can even help yourself have a better understanding. I personally don't like to past specific …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 04:56 PM
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That woman already had her own issues before she did that in my opinion, so I have a hard time taking her seriously. Like you should've realized that before doing your stupid experiment? But thats rude, so I'm going to try to not get into that whole thing. We'll just have to agree to disagree then, which is fine. Have a good day, sir!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 04:16 PM
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Yes, the purple pill debate is used to defend or challenge eachother's views, which is why I enjoy lurking here. Sometimes it can be nice to see a healthy exchange of ideas and arguments. Sometimes people here get hung up on their own views, which is fine too. Its hard to try to be open to new ideas all the time. When I see myself doing this, I try to take a break. I had no idea what the red pill was. I don't even remember how I stumbled across this forum, but the first time I had heard of the r…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 04:11 PM
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If the people around you are not reaching out to help you when help is needed, change your social enviroment. This is what society in general is about. In a village, you help out your fellow villager to help further the entire village. This seems like a personal hang up. If you live in a negative environment, of course everyone is going to be hostile to you. Healthy social circles lift you up. I see this constantly at the car shop my boyfriend works out, which is ONLY male employees. I spend tim…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 04:01 PM
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Men talking about how they apply the red pill to their life mostly. I'm not going to say anything negative about it, since apparently people are out in force this week to try to start an argument, even over my personal opinion. (This isn't directed at you in any way either, its just been the norm to the replies that I've been getting. I have no problem debating. An argument targetting myself or my character that has nothing to do with the topic here doesnt really advance the narrative though...)…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 03:29 PM
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That is fair, and I do appreciate you taking the time to think and clarify what you said. With that said, women are bitches to their friends, we are no strangers to that. I'd probably be considered a bigger asshole than most men here because I love communicating with sarcasm to my social group. I've even been told that I'm overly mean by people I didn't realize were not comfortable with that way of communicating. Both men and women can be assholes. Both men and women treat the majority of strang…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 03:15 PM
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I'm not sure why you are telling me this. I'm not trying to pick a fight with you. If you already understood the term (which you said you did in another comment) why did you ask? I was trying to be helpful and give you a definition. Are you trying to pick a fight with me? Because I never told you that you made any crude generalizations. I have noticed others here doing the same, which is why I had made the comment about hamstering. If you took the comment personally, then that seems to be your p…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 03:04 PM
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Indifference is not rude or cold. If you have read any part of this comment thread you replied to, you would see the common theme is men seem to defend being rude, being an asshole, or belittling (yes, words used throughout this whole thread) to women as "well thats how we treat other men". If I treat you with indifference, I treat you neither good or bad. Either you decided to comment on a thread without bothering to read it, or you're choosing to be willfully ignorant of what is actually being…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 02:52 PM
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Since its an official red pill term, mods don't see ot as an insult. Honestly first reading I got pretty offended by it, but like most redpill terms I find here, I've started using it here and irl, usually in sarcasm because I find them hilarous.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 11:48 PM
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Bahahaha yeah that was kind of my point. But they use it to try to say any reasoning from a woman is irrational, usually.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 11:45 PM
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Uh. No. Thats what you're interested in. That doesn't make it where the cut off is. I've seen plenty of men state the age as high as 30 on here, the supposed age where women tend to hit the wall. Regardless, the only people wanting this actively are younger than 18. So I guess you aren't talking about the correct democratic then, huh? One example does not equal what the vast majority of average women want.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 10:05 PM
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All three were completely different examples. Quit being willfully obtuse. That isn't even what you were originally referring to. Lashing out in and of itself because you got rejected isn't acceptable behavior. End of story.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 09:52 PM
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If you don't frequent here often, I'd suggest checking out the common terms and acronyms in the about section. It helped me out a lot when I first learned of this sub as well as the red pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 09:48 PM
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Ita a red pill term meaning you're trying to irrationally justify your double standards, bad decisions, or shitty behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 09:46 PM
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Not appreciating getting used for anything, not just sex, isn't spoiled. Do you appreciate the thought of getting used just as a form of income? No? Then stop calling us entitled and spoiled. I don't want to be seen just as a means for sex, and I definitely don't want a boyfriend that I use for an atm. This isn't how healthy people think. Stop trying to create interactions that only takes into consideration the benefits of one person. I care about my boyfriend's well being, not his fucking money…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 06:43 PM
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There's a completely difference from being an asshole to your friend and being an asshole to a girl who just rejected you. "You fucking bitch" is rude, unnecessary, and belittling. When she rejects you. "Haha, you're a bitch" to my best friend is a completely different context, and you know it. Similarly, being rude by default to someone you don't even know, SIMPLY because you find them unattractive, is generally not acceptable behavior, espcially if the interaction with them isn't even in a rom…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 06:32 PM
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Oh for sure. I have noticed the people most likely to shout "YOU'RE HAMSTERING!!" Are actually the ones themselves hamstering...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 06:20 PM
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It totally isn't, I agree, but that seems to be who you were replying to seem to believe. That EVERYONE IS OUT TO GET THEM. That men treat other men rudely or hostily. Which is what I was getting at. Sorry, I should've made myself more clear. I agree with you, I was just expanding onto what you had said. It seems like they think women grow up in this world of puppies and rainbows and are never pointed out their flaws. Morever, the vast majority of people simply do not care and treat you with ind…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 06:14 PM
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Thats how men who need to belittle someone to feel better about themselves treat other men. That is definitely not how normal, healthy men treat other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 06:08 PM
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Do they not think women insult their female friends? This is so ridiculous to me. My best friend and I regularly insult eachother, but its jokingly, and because we recognize what we are insulting is also true about us. Its just us going, "hahaha, yeah we both have that problem/bad trait". I have no problem recognizing that I have shortcomings, but I don't blame someone else for having them/noticing them... they ARE shortcomings, and when I can I actively try to overcome them. I'm not going to ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 06:05 PM
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You literally did take longer to get it. Its not condescending to acknowledge that, its REALITY. But I'm seeing you just want to argue and needlessly pick apart my wording, and I'm just not feeling that this morning. Have a good day, man!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 05:10 PM
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You aren't special for realizing something. Sorry, nobody is going to give you a cookie for being able to know how to basic human. Not patting you on the head is not even close to the same thing as "I can mistreat someone if they think I look hot". One is actively trying to hurt someone, the other is refusing to praise someone more than is deserved for basic comprehension. You still have some growing to do if you can't see the difference. But again, that's fine! We all learn at different paces, …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 05:07 PM
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Like I said, that's fine! You do you. I respect that. Just be honest that you aren't looking for an LTR with the girls your sleeping with, and don't knock other people who still want an LTR. They're in a different point in their lives than you are, and honestly belittling does nothing for you, so why comment...?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 04:57 PM
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Lmfaooo you aren't gonna get into any LTRs thinking that way, but if you just wanna fuck and spin plates with girls who have low self esteem, you do you, boo. I ain't judging.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 04:42 PM
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I'd only argue that trp men need the trp. Men outside of the trp are still successful in relationships, and hardly every man is red pilled. But otherwise, yes, I agree full heartedly.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 04:21 PM
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This is really only a fantasy of younger people. You'll eventually decide that you want monogamy or polygamy. Wanting multiple exclusive boyfriends is still a fantasy. Sure, you may want multiple boyfriends, but eventually you'll become mature enough to relize thats not a true relationship, and only trying to get into a relationship to benefit you and not your partner is just asking for disaster. Its selfish, and I'd rather have a give and take in a relationship because its more real and genuine…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 04:18 PM
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This is so true. If you needed trp to realize this, then thats cool, I guess? I'm glad you finally got it. Just because you've come to this relization through trp doesn't make trp completely true though. Many men have figured this out without the help of the trp. You ain't special for finally getting something that many have already understood, and people that don't subscribe to trp aren't inherently wrong. They just reached the same conclusion without it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 04:03 PM
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You should dump someone if they're a terrible lay. You aren't compatible sexually. Doing so doesn't mean that you can't wait till the other person agrees that they are willing to commit before having sex though. You can decide to not see one after a ons because they are bad at sex just as easily as you can dump a new SO because the sex wasn't up to your standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 03:44 PM
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Dude, the anime industry has some fucking WEIRD fantasies about dating and sex. Its mainly because Japan effectively banned porn for decades. Those poor people are so sexually repressed. Using anime to try to measure what mainstream people want is not a good indicator. I'm not saying what some anime portrays is inherently bad, but its a far cry from what an avergae person is looking for, and you need to understand why it has turned into what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 03:40 PM
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It's more of a fantasy than something that is regulsrly going on... When I'm horny, sure I'll watch porn involving a girl getting banged by a bunch of different dudes. I've literally never been in a threesome or orgy of just guys. In fact I've been in exactly one threesome, and although the experience was interesting, its not something I want in reality....
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 03:33 PM
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I really don't enter dating casually though. I'm just fine with accepting when someone doesnt reciprocate feelings. I have pined of people when I was younger, sure, but being mature enough to realize just because I'm interested in someone doesn't mean they'll be interested in me, so I should turn my attention elsewhere instead of focusing and developing feelings that obviously aren't mutual. Love doesn't work that way. Love at first site doesn't exist. I love my boyfriend, but it its not the typ…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 03:22 PM
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I ain't falling for "the one that was under my nose the whole time!" Usually its both of us are single at the same time, causing us to talk more, leading to a mutual agreement to try to date. Attraction in general isn't mutual. That has nothing to do with dating someone I've known a while. If I ask a friend if they're interested in trying to date/vise versa, and they deny me, its not going to end our friendship. If you say no, cool, you're not interested romantically, I'll look for romantic inte…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 07:57 AM
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I already know you're going to disagree, but the friendzone doesn't exist. If you're only my friend just to try to date me, then you shouldn't be my friend? Like wtf? Yeah, I tend to (now) only date people who I've known for a while, but that doesn't mean its the criteria. Its just a common factor. I've dated people who I was not previously friends with/had not known for a considerable amount of time. None of them ended up as LTRs. With that experience, my strategy when finding a new mate is to …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 06:56 AM
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Is this really the case? In my experience, I'm more likely to go on a date with someone who is willing to talk to me like any other person, not go on a date with a guy that chats me up (in the context of your other reply, as in tries to chat me up for the same amount of time a guy who is just trying to sleep with me). Every time I've decided to go on a date with a guy who approached me like this, it has never ended up as an LTR... all of my LTRs have been with men who I was already friends with/…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 05:54 AM
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The central truth of the Red Pill is that women have a dualistic sexual strategy. The Red Pill is all about female behavior. Those wily minxes are always up to no good. I'd argue its the central theory, but yes, it is true that is what the Red Pill is centered around. Also, I lol'd at "those wily minxes". Nice word play. With the alpha, she corrals her girlfriends for nights of hedonistic pleasuring of the alpha. That is her feral side. This is the guy that makes her wet with the sound of his vo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 05:12 AM
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Oh, my sweet summer child...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 04:24 AM
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Oh! See, I could agree with that, no problem! I just didnt think that was the point you were trying to make on your analogy. My bad. To me, it could be interpreted in many different ways rather than that claim. Although that could just be because I've studied entirely too much into management/career skills so I'm viewing it differently... haha
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 04:17 AM
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Hmm, I don't know, I feel like that's kind of faulty. I think I see the point you're trying to make, but its hard to understand what exactly you are trying to get across there. Are you saying that putting in the minimum effort won't get you a promotion, meaning won't get you into an LTR? Because that's true, but I feel like you're kind of veering away from the claim you made in your OP. Or maybe I just didn't understand your full claim, and latched on to only part of it...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 04:05 AM
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It doesn't exclude it, but if its the only thing you are developing, you are only going to attract girls who's only criteria is a masculine man. And if you aren't naturally masculine, you aren't going to be happy having to maintain the illusion just to keep your relationship. It's just going to feel like work. I'm not saying you don't have to put work into relationships, but usually the work you put into it is around building up eachother to strengthen your relationship, not putting in work just…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 03:33 AM
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This may have just been me, but I remember I had this realization when I was younger that you NEED to view your partner as a friend, not just "dating material" "the one" or whatever. Realizing I should be as comfortable around my boyfriend as my best friend was a game changer for me. Before, I was so worried about maintaining an image of what I thought he viewed as perfect girlfriend material. If I couldn't be friends with him, why the hell would I be okay with living with him or having sex with…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 03:02 AM
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Considering it was created in response to TRP, I don't know why people would expect anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 02:40 AM
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Really curious, how old are you? I'm just wondering because when I was younger, I could believe that with most of the guys I slept with, just because they were young along with not having much experience. But now that I'm older, sex doesn't automatically mean the guy is gonna cum, regardless of how much he is enjoying it. Sure, there's still times where my partner cums quicker than he meant to/I would've liked him to, but those are about equal to the amount of times he cums at what I or both of …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 02:09 AM
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Unless you can point us to some list, or create such a list in your post, I'm afraid you're just not going to get many replies. I'm not trying to be rude! Its just AWALT can be applied to more than just their behavior in a relationship. Plus, from what I understand, AWALT is supposed to be just a reminder to RP guys that "women are like that, you only have yourself to blame if you expected different behavior/response". Its not supposed to mean that literally ALL women are like that, you just sho…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 01:27 AM
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So we just aren't allowed to make new friends with the opposite sex while we're in a relationship? Yeah good luck with that. Not sure why you got so focused on a one on one coffee date with a new person either. Seems like a strange interaction to fixate on. Especially since if you are meeting with someone new to you, going out for coffee one on one is generally seen as an activity you do when you want to try to date/lay someone, not get to know them as a friend. Unless you discussed it with your…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 12:10 AM
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Why am I going to get pissed off at something that I view as "just a piece of paper"? It's trivial to me. I don't care about it. Why do I need to make him sign it? We live together. Our finances are already mixed. People that are important to me already know that we are exclusive. Why do I need that? It does nothing to further me or our relationship. Weddings are fucking expensive, I'm not about to waste money on that, espcially when I'm already just not into big events like that. And if we were…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 11:08 PM
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How? The title literally mentions childfree. She was stating what makes her relevent to this topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 11:01 PM
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I definitely don't. If I need a piece of legal paper to be sure he loves me or that he'll be exclusive to me, then I obviously don't trust him.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 10:55 PM
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I feel sorry for you if that's what you truly believe. I have some pretty serious mental health issues, and not once have I felt that someone was just trying to get laid when I've talked to them about it. Hell, I broke up with a guy (for numerous reasons, but it was mutual), and even months after the break up, and he already had gotten a new girlfriend, he would still check up on me regularly and even helped me get established with an organization that would create a treatment plan for my mental…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 09:41 PM
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Whoops! My bad, sorry. I took the why as "why the hell would you ever want to do that?!" And I was like "because it's fun...? Hahaha. You really should! CA would have some great places for hammock camping!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/19 04:32 AM
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You literally know the study. Its one of the most quoted study in this sub. The burden isn't on OP for you not to be able to look up a published well known study.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/19 04:30 AM
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Okay but why are you asking for a source when he literally posted in the OP?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/19 04:25 AM
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Who the hell is getting turned on by that?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/19 04:21 AM
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Some of us do just enjoy the outdoors. If I'm sleeping outside not in a tent, I sleep in a hammock. They make pretty freaking cool ones for camping. Mine has a mosquito net lining the top.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/19 04:15 AM
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Why are you talking about tinder? The study he's showing a picture and talking about is from 10 years ago and was through OKCupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/19 04:09 AM
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This sub's themes is about men and women's dating/sexual strategies. A very few percentage (I hope) are using these terms to describe someone outside of a romantic aspect.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/19 02:28 AM
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The hell is DVM/DVW?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/19 02:25 AM
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I will, thanks 😊 Have a good day!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 09:14 PM
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Considering my idea of commitment is different from what most red pilled men, I doubt I'll have a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 09:00 PM
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Huh. Interesting. I've never done any of that or have done sex work, and my n count is higher than 8.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 08:10 PM
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What do you consider a "hot girl job?"
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 08:03 PM
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Casual sex doesn't have to be with someone you barely know.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 07:52 PM
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I mean, some guys are that bad. Some women are that hypocritical as well. I don't know what to tell you. Not in her posted, but she mentioned it at least once in the comments. I take any story I read on this sub as hyperbolic.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 07:29 PM
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A person's worth is subjective, not objective. If you tie my worth to the number of sexual partners, that's fine. I do not tie my worth to that. I'd rather be with with someone I enjoy being around who doesn't care about my n count rather than some prude who's obsessed with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 07:10 PM
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If you want to believe that, that's fine. Don't have a relationship with high n count girls. I doubt any of us are going to lose any sleep over not dating you. There's plenty of men who don't view it as a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 07:01 PM
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I thought she was pretty clear she knew the scenario was exaggerated, and that was the point. To me it just read is "you sound as ridiculous as this obviously fake senario when you talk incessantly about a girl's n count" along with "you're a hypocrite to be furious over a high n count when you yourself have one". Thats the thing about stories though, I guess. We can interpret them how we want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 06:57 PM
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I had to laugh at this senario because this is sonething that happens regularly in my relationships. Perks of dating a bi chick, I guess? If my boyfriend tells me to look at dat ass, I'm gonna look. Hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 06:47 PM
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I was ready to dismiss you from your first comment, but this is a really well articulated response. Thank you for thorough explanation. With that said, I think its more of an issue with both partners needing to be more open and honest with each other, rather than just the women needing to be more sensitive. If you don't know what the woman you are pursuing finds attractive, just ask! I feel like an open dialogue could've avoided this whole scenario. And if she gets offended for you asking what s…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 06:43 PM
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Oh their are definitely delusional fictional stories from men on this subreddit. At least she fully admitted that her story was exaggerated. Honestly I thought it was hilarious and obviously meant to be taken as hyperbolic. She used extremes to highlight what she thought was ridiculous. Men seem to 100% believe many of the (extreme) senarios put up by men in here are the norm. If you want to have some warped view on a woman's n count, that's your problem. I'd rather you tell me up front so we ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 06:18 PM
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It's also hypocrital, delusional, and self-centered to want a girl with a low n count if you yourself are sleeping around. If you aren't comfortable dating someone because of their sexual past, then neither of you have any business dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 06:07 PM
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Sex is not a car. If you're viewing sex as something bought and paid for, you're going to have a bad time (in the relationship world).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 06:01 PM
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If a guy is going to react that volatile towards my previous sexual encounters, I'd rather next him anyway. Not my problem you can't handle the truth, I'll just find someone who can.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 05:53 PM
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HAHA. THE SNARK. I love it!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 05:42 PM
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This was such a refreshing conversation to read on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 05:36 PM
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I'd rather live with the consequences of telling the truth rather than live with the consequences of "faking" it... jeeze. If a man is so uncomfortable with me having a former sex life, then neither of us have any business being in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 05:30 PM
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OH. See I didn't undersrand why she was crying. Yes. Yes it is that bad for us sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 12:29 PM
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Meet better women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 12:12 PM
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Number of sexual partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 12:01 PM
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You can be honest and open about your sexuality and past relationships without asking "HOW MANY PEOPLE HAVE YOU SLEPT WITH???" Its the obsession over the number that's weird to me. I've never had a boyfriend ask/worry about it, and I've never worried about theirs either. If we indulged that information, it was just out of curiosity, not concern over whether the other had a low enough partner count for us to be comfortable with.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 11:53 AM
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You missed the meaning of that episode if you thought it was about n count. Obsessing over one previous partner has nothing to do with n count.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 11:49 AM
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I was just pointing out that the wage difference is roughly the same in America and the UK. Whether either one is compensated adequately is another story. Both nurses and a web developer require either an associate's or bachelor's degree. I'm assuming that's why the other person chose that career to compare. I don't know. I'm not them. I'm a CIS major, not a nurse. There's no way in hell I could be a nurse. The emotional energy needed is just too fucking draining for me. I do enjoy programming t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 08:34 PM
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Personally, I couldn't care less as long as they're honest about, or act somehow proud over their N count. To me that's such a weird thing to fret about. Why do I care what you did in the past? We are dating now. If they don't care about mine, I don't care about their's. Also, I lol'd at "girls have a special bond with their first partner". That shit was like, almost 15 years ago for me. I honestly never think about that guy, and honestly cringe at the thought of trying to reconnect with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 07:27 PM
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I meant you as a collective, not you personally. I figured you wouldn't already from your previous response. If you say so. I find it an easier defense mechanism. I don't go about my whole day ruminating on some guy being a jerk/rude to me. But I'm also not obligated to treat him with respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 06:13 PM
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Still more than 0%. That's all I'm saying. 25% isn't the majority, sure, but it still contributes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 06:05 PM
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https://www.bls.gov/cps/cpsaat11.htm Farming, Fishing, and forestry occupations list women as 24.3% of total employed 16% of supervisors in these fields are women. 57% of graders and sorters of agricultural products are women. 23.4% of miscellaneous agricultural workers are women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 05:44 PM
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https://www.bls.gov/cps/cpsaat11.htm Farming, Fishing, and forestry occupations list women as 24.3% of total employed Production, Transportation, and Material Moving Occupations list women at 23.1% of total employed, and within this category - Electrical, Electronics, and Electromechanical Assemblers list women at 49% of total employed (I was surprised by this number, tbh, that's why I added it). Not sure what professions you would count as "makes, maintains, and operates the machines", but the …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 05:19 PM
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Isn't the problem a lack of willint male teachers then? Why don't mean want to teach? I would think income is the biggest factor. Teachers in general are underpaid, male and female.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 04:52 PM
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http://eh.net/encyclopedia/women-workers-in-the-british-industrial-revolution/ 57 percent of factory workers were female, most of them under age 20 1787 to 1815, 66 percent of married women in working-class households had either a recorded occupation or positive earnings. For the period 1816-20 the rate fell to 49 percent, but in 1821-40 it recovered to 62 percent. https://www.striking-women.org/module/women-and-work/world-war-i-1914-1918 Women’s employment rates increased during WWI, from 23.6%…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 04:41 PM
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How am I trolling? Because you disagree witu what I'm saying? Why are you refusing to respond to what I'm actually saying, or answer the question that I asked? Women joined the workforce BECAUSE the quality of life improved, not the other way around. Your original comment. I disagree. Women joined the workforce because of the changes in the textile industry during the industrial revolution. They migrated from working from home by selling textiles to working in factories. Though this ties back in…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 04:21 PM
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And a web developer is quoted at $61/hr in the us. The pay is still double.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 03:29 PM
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Because both had a direct effect on labor participation? WW1: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/articles/1CyKfX4JlmbPdmGHHmFWRcS/how-life-for-women-changed-during-world-war-one Industrial Revolution: https://www.galbithink.org/fw.htm The industrial revolution caused both men and women to shift from working at home as a family unit to working in factories. It was a paradigm shift from what was currently considered the workforce. WW1 made it necessary for women to participate more in the workforce,…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 03:21 PM
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OH. I see what you're saying now. Sorry about that. I was referring to the first link with charts. I dismissed the second one because it says after what you quoted: nobody is sure why. I also was under the assumption that longer life expectancy doesn't necessarily mean that there is an improvement for overall quality of life, and that you were trying to prove that the industrial revolution caused life expectancy to increase. They seemed to increase at the same time, but the industrial revolution…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 03:07 PM
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I've read everything you have posted in this particular comment thread. I did respond to you in a different section of this comment thread, that diverges from what is being said here. Both had different talking points. I'm not really sure how you think that means I haven't read everything. I was just attempting to carry on two different discussions.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 02:53 PM
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The industrial revolution is generally defined as 1760-1840. Both of your links start in the 19th century. Most of the working class didn't see an increase to standard of living till the end or after the industrial revolution (or the first industrial revolution, at least). Women were already in the workforce by the time their quality of life started improving. They worked in factories because the introduction of factories essentially made making textiles at home unprofitable. https://webs.bcp.or…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 02:43 PM
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Do you have any resources to cite for that? I'm mainly seeing that at the beginning of the industrial revolution, women who used to spin and weave cloth at home for money had to move to working in a factory because they could no longer afford the evolving equipment to do so. Seems to have nothing to do with doubling the workforce or lowering salaries. Many women tended to leave the workforce when they got married/started a family, and their children often had to work to help supplement income. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 02:24 PM
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Where did you get that women were complaining from their comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 01:43 PM
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while growth of the economy's overall productive powers was unprecedented during the Industrial Revolution, living standards for the majority of the population did not grow meaningfully until the late 19th and 20th centuries, and that in many ways workers' living standards declined under early capitalism: for instance, studies have shown that real wages in Britain only increased 15% between the 1780s and 1850s, and that life expectancy in Britain did not begin to dramatically increase until the …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 01:38 PM
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Its a contradicting statement say that you're aware of your own ignorance. You're basically saying you're aware that you lack awareness. Also is the name calling really necessary?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 08:32 AM
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Dear lord I can't take you seriously with that grammar. Please learn to proofread. I can barely even understand what you're trying to convey.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 08:13 AM
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That's fair. Thanks for the reply!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 06:49 AM
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People stare. Not just men. I stare in public (though usually for different reasons than men. Usually I'm just making up backstories about people in my head, though occasionally I do stare because someone is visually appealing). Some women have a problem with it. Some men do too (literally just had a conversation with one of my male customers the other day about how he hates going out in public because of unsolicited attention). As long as you're not being socially inappropriate (such as, say, t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 06:19 AM
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They are looking at me. They are not actively degrading me as a person. I'm not sure what you're getting at.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 06:07 AM
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Objectifying a person and viewing someone as sexy are two completely different lines of thinking. You can view someone as sexy and still view them as a person. Objectifying is the act of degrading (a person) to the status of a mere object. I feel like OP phrased his stance incorrectly. Wanting only sex from a person is fine, its when you view them as only a means for sex and not a human being that it becomes a problem. Also, its not my obligation to lower my sex appeal just so someone does not v…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 05:51 AM
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Thats kind of a weird argument, especially after your argument in your post. Why would you get fired for using an employee for exactly what they were hired for? Also, how does one shame or reduce someone to only their "usefulness" or job? What are we defining as usefulness? They could be useful for several things, thus you wouldn't quite be reducing them to a singlular trait. Now I'm assuming you're trying to compare this to men getting fired over sexually objectifying a woman, and women not get…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 05:12 AM
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I mean, isn't socializing at its core just reacting to people and their behavior? This is a sub centered around dating/sexual success strategies, and those involve socialization. If someone is doing or saying something that you dislike or perceive as negative, a normal response would be to react negatively (i.e., "be a cold bitch") to show that you do not appreciate their behavior or are not willing to accept their advances.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 01:20 AM
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Man, I feel like I got a lot more out of magic the gathering than just exercising my critical thinking skills. I honestly expected video games on this list, although I also feel like you can develop some great skills gaming. That's just personal opinion though. I would like to think almost every activity someone does has some beneficial influence that can contribute to your overall well being (i.e., "Real world value"). It just depends on your ability to extrapolate what you learn from that acti…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 12:49 AM
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Why is it a bad teaching strategy? I remember us going up in groups to the whiteboard to try to solve problems in my programming class. It let us see different ways our classmates thought and and problem solved. I felt like it helped with critical thinking and reminded you to not get tunnel vision when trying to find a solution. I'm just curious what makes it bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 12:07 AM
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I just had to drop in and tell you I lol'd pretty hard at "this is a fight club". Too accurate of an analogy, though!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 11:49 PM
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This was... a very strange comment thread to follow. I really want to know where he got that you were a woman...
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 10:15 PM
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You mentioned a single hobby. A girl went on to list a plethora of hobbies and you said that they had real world value. I guess what I'm stuck on is that you seem to think guys are only interested in things that are only useful as hobbies, but in this exact same comment thread, people are saying what she listed were "masculine" hobbies. Which I understand you never stated. Its just puzzling. Are they masculine hobbies, so of course most girls can't be/are not into them, or are they not hobbies f…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 09:51 PM
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Sorry, I really couldn't resist the perfect opportunity to be snarky. No offense meant. I was just making myself giggle. I am curious why you're gatekeeping the term hobby to mean it has to not be a life skill. I have to gain nothing useful from my hobbies in order for them to be a hobby? Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 09:37 PM
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So men spend their time doing absolutely useless things. Got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 09:32 PM
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Why the would you not want to cohabitate? That's the only thing I can't wrap my head around. Everything else, sure, whatever. But I'd rather just go live with my best friend and fuck around rather than be stuck with one guy who couldn't even stand to live with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/19 07:33 AM
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Oh my god, thank you! I couldn't fogure out what it ment either.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/19 07:15 AM
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Yeahhh, probably going to deny any guy who tries to approach me like that, mainly because that's such a low effort remark.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/19 05:45 AM
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Okay, buddy. Whatever helps you sleep at night.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 08:29 PM
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I'm a white female, my ancestry is german and irish. I'm just not dumb enough to believe my genes are somehow superior because of my skin color.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 08:12 PM
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Hahahaha okay sorry I'm going to have to stop taking you seriously after reading "if you are white, your genes are not shit". Sorry to burst your bubble, white people don't have some mystical gene that maked them superior. Although I'm assuming this is just a troll post, considering it's purge week.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 08:04 PM
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How exactly are females who hit the wall mentally incels? From what I've studied, they usually have a pretty fufilling sexual life. Also, had to laugh at what you believe future leaders would allow. Maybe if they aren't in the western world, but no leader in modern society would try to implement laws to allow incels to effectly "control" older women. That would be political suicide to even suggest any law that would remotely resemble what you subscribe. Incels aren't owed anything. They are the …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 07:31 PM
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I have a theory that incels are a side effect from overpopulation. Our populations are already too much of a strain on the planet. By having part of the population not breed, it helps keep population in check. Now that sounds callous, which it is, but I'm viewing this as the human species as a whole, not individual feelings. Yes, it sucks to be lonely, and I honestly feel sorry for people who feel like they can't find human connection. We are wired to crave and seek out human connection, so bein…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 06:43 PM
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Why is breeding in an overpopulated world considered successful? I think its remarkably shallow to believe your highest success in life is to breed.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 04:42 PM
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While that's certainly true (I don't want kids, so I see no reason to have the government involved with my love life, unless me and my partner start making enough to take advantage of the tax credit, and even then we would just go to the court house. The cost of weddings is ridiculously hgh) there isn't much reason to not get married if you are planning on having kids with your current partner. (or at least I feel like some terpers would think that. Honestly though, I still don't find it advanta…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 12:08 AM
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You might want to add million after 76. Although I got quite a chuckle from imagining 76 people to 320 million people in 100 years. WHAT DID THEY DO, ONLY FUCK LIKE BUNNIES?! hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/19 11:32 PM
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Well I have spent about 3 days endlessly reading on redpill theory (and sexual activity for young adults along with pregancy statistics - but that is neither here or there, though I'm probably going to go back to this later to factcheck quite a few believed ideas present in this subreddit) and just want to say, first of all, sorry for jumping into this without a better understanding on the purple pill debate purpose is. I should've had a better grasp of the basic concepts for RP before replying …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/19 08:47 AM
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They also aren't disabled, they're just self-entitled.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 04:51 PM
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A) I have a boyfriend. No problems in the significant other department, I assure you. B) I'm 28, I have literally never had a potential partner tell me that "I'm too used up" to be wanted as a possible candidate. Anyone who has a problem with my sexual experience clearly has no business talking to me like I'm a possible marriage candidate. C) I do not want children. So that "simple baseline" is honestly hilarious. Not to mention, you kind of have to define what you would consider an "outstanding…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 03:51 PM
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Woah woah woah, hold up. You can't have a "baseline standard" that never changes. People change throughout their life, and your values and belieds will change along with it (which inevitably changes your "standard") I grew up in a Christian household. I remember when I was younger, I did the "christain" thing of listing out what traits you want in your future partner as a child and teenager. Almost none of them is what I would consider my ideal partner now. Almost none of them are what I would w…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 03:17 PM
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